January 13, 2025 • 16 mins
In honor of Delta Sigma Theta's Founder’s Day, look back with us on the care of Zetty’s phenomenal line sisters from Hampton University! See how they all rallied to find out what happened to their ‘Kitty Boo’ and to make sure they sent her the love and care from their hearts.
If you don't know, both J Smiles and Zetty are proud members of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated, founded on January 13, 1913!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Our sorority members that belong to our church.
There was one time, y'all, theyheard from our priest that my
mom was in the hospital.
The next text I get is whatroom is your mom in?
I say why?
Because we on our way withdinner.
(00:21):
Wait y'all, zeddy was in theICU.
What you mean dinner?
Yes, they showed up with a panof chicken.
They didn't go get no carry out.
There was no drive through thissoror and her baby daughter.
(00:42):
They came with a pan of chickenand two sides and a gallon of
sweet tea.
Ok, I said I don't know if youcan do all that.
She said I brought enoughplates for them too.
Jay, what nursing staff gonnasay if they can get in on it?
None of them.
(01:02):
Parenting up caregivingadventures with comedian J
Smiles is the intense journey ofunexpectedly being fully
responsible for my mama.
For over a decade I've beenchipping away at the unknown,
advocating for her and pushingAlzheimer's awareness on anyone
and anything with a heartbeat.
(01:23):
Spoiler alert this shit isheavy.
That's why I started doingcomedy.
So be ready for the jokes.
Caregiver newbies, ogs andvillage members just willing to
prop up a caregiver.
You are in the right place.
Hi, this is Zeddy.
(01:45):
I hope you enjoy my daughter'spodcast.
Is that okay?
Today's supporter shout-out isfrom Instagram A to the F Quote,
not the sound effects.
(02:06):
Squinty face emoji Celebratethose caregiving wins.
Soror.
Here's a toast to you and theBMs Another squinty face emoji.
Thank you, listen.
A BM is like winning thelottery around here.
(02:27):
If you want to be a recipientof the supporter shout out,
please review and like on ApplePodcasts that's the one that
counts the most or you canabsolutely go to IG or YouTube.
Thank you in advance.
(02:49):
Today's episode Sisterhood MeetsSocial Media Delta's search for
Zeddy.
Hey, what's up?
Parented Up family.
Guess what?
Have you ever wanted to connectwith other caregivers?
You want to see more behind thescenes footage?
Want to know what me and Zeddyare doing?
I know you do All things.
(03:12):
Jsmiles are finally ready foryou, even when I go live.
Do it now with us on Patreon.
Join us in the Patreoncommunity.
Catch everything we're doing.
Visit patreoncom.
(03:32):
Forward.
Slash JSmilesStudios with an S.
I got to tell y'all I hategetting unknown people in my DMs
, on my voicemail, in my email.
I feel like it's almost likeyou're attacking me.
(03:54):
I know I shouldn't feel thatway, but it's the truth.
However, this one time thankgoodness this one time.
Thank goodness, 18, 25, 30million of the same folks just
kept badgering the shit out ofme on my Facebook Messenger, to
(04:17):
the point where it was boggingdown my email.
Y'all know how Facebook is.
Facebook will send you an alertover and over and over again.
It forced me to go look and seewhat the hell is happening in
my messenger Because I refusedto put the messenger app on my
(04:39):
phone.
I wasn't going to do it, so I'mlike I ain't about to let
Zuckerberg know where I'm goingand be all up in my phone and
know what I'm thinking about andwho's sending me pictures of
the you know what kind.
I don't know what happens withthese apps when they actually on
your phone.
Y'all, why was it my mama'scollege friends?
(05:02):
My mama's college friends?
It was my mama's collegefriends.
These ladies, who weresomewhere between 25 and 30
years older than me, havefigured out my name on Facebook,
which does not match my mama'sname.
I did not mention my mama.
My mama was not on my profileat all.
(05:26):
Nothing about her school,nothing about her having
Alzheimer's, not her hometown,her high school, nothing.
How the hell did these ladiesfind me?
How did they know it was me andwhy did they care?
I'm going to tell you they areline sisters.
(05:52):
You know anything about that?
Have you heard about that?
That divine nine?
These are my mama's linesisters, the ones I had never
met.
Like, I knew one of them sinceI was born, but that wasn't the
ones that was trying to find me.
They heard that my mama hadAlzheimer's and they wanted to
(06:16):
talk to me themselves.
Y'all, I got into my littleFacebook messenger.
They are giving me adissertation, half of it they
getting in my ass but not makingsure that they knew in advance,
and the other half they tryingto find out what is your address
(06:38):
, because we got to send carepackages.
I need you to know.
I got family members andneighbors that they send care
packages.
That's what these ladies wantedto do.
They had not seen or heard frommy mama in decades because she
had been sick.
But they're going to chase medown on social media.
(07:01):
I know everybody don't likesocial media and everybody is
not all for how much people cantrack you?
How much people can track you?
But I got to tell you theselittle old ladies, these silver
foxes, decided that their linesister, my mom, like myself
(07:22):
Delta, sigma, theta, sororityIncorporated.
My mom plays at Hampton got myIota chapter in 1968.
I don't know, this had to be.
At least this was more than 50years later.
They tracked me down, made meanswer.
Do you know how many emailsthey had to or not actually
(07:44):
emails, how much they had toblow up my messenger for
Facebook to then clog the hellout of my email?
And I have since come to form arelationship with them all and
they now have me on their linegroup, me group text.
So I know when somebody husbanddie, when somebody get another
(08:11):
great grandchild and they tellme, hey, baby, you make sure
that you tell our kitty babythat was my mama's affectionate
name online that we thinkingabout her and we love her.
Now, for all of you who want tosay oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, that,
that, that Delta, that AKA Sigma, gamma, rho, qs, omegas, oh, qs
(08:32):
and Omegas, that AKA sigma,gamma, rho, qs, omegas, oh, qs
and omegas, that's the samething For those of us who are
part of African-American, black,greek organizations.
There's so many people who wantto say it's a cult or it's
anti-religious, anti-religious,or what are y'all doing?
Or why the amount of supportthat I have received as a
(09:00):
caregiver is unparalleled frompeople in the D9.
I'm not saying that only D9members have given me and my mom
love.
Members have given me and mymom love.
I'm just saying that thosepeople who are part of those
organizations, without failingthey actually worried the shit
(09:23):
out of me to support me, oursorority members that belong to
our church.
There was one time y'all theyheard from our priest that my
mom was in the hospital.
The next text I get is whatroom is your mom in?
(09:43):
I say why?
Because we on our way withdinner.
Wait y'all with dinner, waity'all.
Zeddy was in the ICU, what youmean?
Dinner?
Yes, they showed up with a panof chicken.
They didn't go get no carry out.
(10:04):
There was no drive through thissoror and her baby daughter.
They came with a pan of chickenand two sides and a gallon of
sweet tea.
Okay, I said I don't know ifyou can do all that.
She said I brought enoughplates for them too.
Jay, what nursing staff gonnasay if they can get in on it?
(10:27):
None of them.
We were at a fancy, fancyhospital in Atlanta, atlanta.
And what did they say?
Thank y'all.
Me and the staff were up in theICU grooving on this food.
Now, that particular soror, sheain't go to school with my mama,
she ain't go to school with me.
I didn't even tell my mom wasin the hospital.
(10:48):
She found out from the priest.
I ain't putting, I ain't sayingnothing about the other people,
the parishioners that might nothave come by the hospital.
That ain't the point.
What I am trying to.
Let y'all know that there's acommon thread that goes through
that thing.
(11:09):
If you happen to be a member ofone of those organizations where
you extend yourself in a veryloving manner, in a way that
goes way beyond what'sreasonable, we bust our butts
for each other the minute we wefound out, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,
(11:36):
in addition to X, y and Z.
Oh, you a soror and you are introuble, or somebody in your
family is in trouble, or youfalling on hard times, just like
that, just like that, just likethat.
So you know, there's a lot ofpeople that don't understand.
It's not for you to understand,okay, I also don't understand
why anybody voted for DonaldTrump ever for anything.
(11:58):
But that's your business.
But on this time, which is near, and it is unfathomable how I
could not point out and bringattention to the tremendous
(12:19):
support that happens over andover again, and even fraternity
members dad was an alpha.
It changes how these menimmediately say oh okay, well,
your dad is deceased.
I didn't know your dad was abrother.
Okay, well, what do you need?
And all of a sudden, men whoare involved with car
(12:42):
dealerships are trying to helpme figure out whatever to get my
maintenance done.
It is a level of camaraderie andfamilial ties that's immediate,
immediate, immediate.
So many people will say, ohyeah, yeah, yeah, oh, I'm cool
(13:04):
with her because she went to myhigh school or we're from the
same hometown or we're from thesame state.
You move from Alabama and youlive in California and you find
out what you from AlabamaImagine.
Imagine when you can connectWith someone else that looks
(13:25):
like you and you know they chosethis community you were part of
.
I didn't choose to be fromAlabama, but I did choose to be
a Delta, and so did Zetty and sodid her line sisters, and there
is a level of value add inthere that this is immediate.
(13:48):
So to my mama's line sisters,thank you for tracking me down
and not letting me ignore all ofthose Facebook messages and now
, because of them, I actually golook at Facebook messages from
time to time because you neverknow what blessing is in the
(14:09):
dark night and drama that couldbe.
The Facebook messages like Idon't want the crazy men that
are in there, but I scroll rightby them Because it could be an
elderly woman that's trying tosend you a care package.
You just never know.
Love is really everywhere.
(14:30):
The snuggle ups.
Number one Check your DMs everyso often.
When that little red highlightcircle over to the upper right
corner on your app starts to getto the triple digits, just take
(14:54):
a look.
It may be worth it.
Yeah, you don't know who thehell it is, but it doesn't mean
it won't change your life in avery positive, progressive
manner.
Number two to my divine ninebrothers and sisters, thank you.
(15:15):
Thank you for the heavy lifting,thank you for standing in the
gap, even when many societymembers might not understand who
we are or what we're doing.
Thank you for just toeing theline and making it happen.
You don't get paid either.
We actually paid to be membersof this, these organizations,
(15:38):
and all we do is serve thecommunity and each other.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Number three If your LO has acollege friend, maybe an
elementary school friend thatyou think can impart some wisdom
(16:03):
or some joy to their currentlife.
Maybe you can use social mediato find that friend or find
classmates that could be usefulas you're being a caregiver.
It goes both ways.
(16:25):
Technology is here, it ain'tgoing nowhere.
We might as well milk it, socute.
Our sorority members that belong to our church.
There was one time, y'all, theyheard from our priest that my
mom was in the hospital.
The next text I get is whatroom is your mom in?
I say why?
Because we on our way withdinner.
(00:21):
Wait y'all, zeddy was in theICU.
What you mean dinner?
Yes, they showed up with a panof chicken.
They didn't go get no carry out.
There was no drive through thissoror and her baby daughter.
(00:42):
They came with a pan of chickenand two sides and a gallon of
sweet tea.
Ok, I said I don't know if youcan do all that.
She said I brought enoughplates for them too.
Jay, what nursing staff gonnasay if they can get in on it?
None of them.
(01:02):
Parenting up caregivingadventures with comedian J
Smiles is the intense journey ofunexpectedly being fully
responsible for my mama.
For over a decade I've beenchipping away at the unknown,
advocating for her and pushingAlzheimer's awareness on anyone
and anything with a heartbeat.
(01:23):
Spoiler alert this shit isheavy.
That's why I started doingcomedy.
So be ready for the jokes.
Caregiver newbies, ogs andvillage members just willing to
prop up a caregiver.
You are in the right place.
Hi, this is Zeddy.
(01:45):
I hope you enjoy my daughter'spodcast.
Is that okay?
Today's supporter shout-out isfrom Instagram A to the F Quote,
not the sound effects.
(02:06):
Squinty face emoji Celebratethose caregiving wins.
Soror.
Here's a toast to you and theBMs Another squinty face emoji.
Thank you, listen.
A BM is like winning thelottery around here.
(02:27):
If you want to be a recipientof the supporter shout out,
please review and like on ApplePodcasts that's the one that
counts the most or you canabsolutely go to IG or YouTube.
Thank you in advance.
(02:49):
Today's episode Sisterhood MeetsSocial Media Delta's search for
Zeddy.
Hey, what's up?
Parented Up family.
Guess what?
Have you ever wanted to connectwith other caregivers?
You want to see more behind thescenes footage?
Want to know what me and Zeddyare doing?
I know you do All things.
(03:12):
Jsmiles are finally ready foryou, even when I go live.
Do it now with us on Patreon.
Join us in the Patreoncommunity.
Catch everything we're doing.
Visit patreoncom.
(03:32):
Forward.
Slash JSmilesStudios with an S.
I got to tell y'all I hategetting unknown people in my DMs
, on my voicemail, in my email.
I feel like it's almost likeyou're attacking me.
(03:54):
I know I shouldn't feel thatway, but it's the truth.
However, this one time thankgoodness this one time.
Thank goodness, 18, 25, 30million of the same folks just
kept badgering the shit out ofme on my Facebook Messenger, to
(04:17):
the point where it was boggingdown my email.
Y'all know how Facebook is.
Facebook will send you an alertover and over and over again.
It forced me to go look and seewhat the hell is happening in
my messenger Because I refusedto put the messenger app on my
(04:39):
phone.
I wasn't going to do it, so I'mlike I ain't about to let
Zuckerberg know where I'm goingand be all up in my phone and
know what I'm thinking about andwho's sending me pictures of
the you know what kind.
I don't know what happens withthese apps when they actually on
your phone.
Y'all, why was it my mama'scollege friends?
(05:02):
My mama's college friends?
It was my mama's collegefriends.
These ladies, who weresomewhere between 25 and 30
years older than me, havefigured out my name on Facebook,
which does not match my mama'sname.
I did not mention my mama.
My mama was not on my profileat all.
(05:26):
Nothing about her school,nothing about her having
Alzheimer's, not her hometown,her high school, nothing.
How the hell did these ladiesfind me?
How did they know it was me andwhy did they care?
I'm going to tell you they areline sisters.
(05:52):
You know anything about that?
Have you heard about that?
That divine nine?
These are my mama's linesisters, the ones I had never
met.
Like, I knew one of them sinceI was born, but that wasn't the
ones that was trying to find me.
They heard that my mama hadAlzheimer's and they wanted to
(06:16):
talk to me themselves.
Y'all, I got into my littleFacebook messenger.
They are giving me adissertation, half of it they
getting in my ass but not makingsure that they knew in advance,
and the other half they tryingto find out what is your address
(06:38):
, because we got to send carepackages.
I need you to know.
I got family members andneighbors that they send care
packages.
That's what these ladies wantedto do.
They had not seen or heard frommy mama in decades because she
had been sick.
But they're going to chase medown on social media.
(07:01):
I know everybody don't likesocial media and everybody is
not all for how much people cantrack you?
How much people can track you?
But I got to tell you theselittle old ladies, these silver
foxes, decided that their linesister, my mom, like myself
(07:22):
Delta, sigma, theta, sororityIncorporated.
My mom plays at Hampton got myIota chapter in 1968.
I don't know, this had to be.
At least this was more than 50years later.
They tracked me down, made meanswer.
Do you know how many emailsthey had to or not actually
(07:44):
emails, how much they had toblow up my messenger for
Facebook to then clog the hellout of my email?
And I have since come to form arelationship with them all and
they now have me on their linegroup, me group text.
So I know when somebody husbanddie, when somebody get another
(08:11):
great grandchild and they tellme, hey, baby, you make sure
that you tell our kitty babythat was my mama's affectionate
name online that we thinkingabout her and we love her.
Now, for all of you who want tosay oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, that,
that, that Delta, that AKA Sigma, gamma, rho, qs, omegas, oh, qs
(08:32):
and Omegas, that AKA sigma,gamma, rho, qs, omegas, oh, qs
and omegas, that's the samething For those of us who are
part of African-American, black,greek organizations.
There's so many people who wantto say it's a cult or it's
anti-religious, anti-religious,or what are y'all doing?
Or why the amount of supportthat I have received as a
(09:00):
caregiver is unparalleled frompeople in the D9.
I'm not saying that only D9members have given me and my mom
love.
Members have given me and mymom love.
I'm just saying that thosepeople who are part of those
organizations, without failingthey actually worried the shit
(09:23):
out of me to support me, oursorority members that belong to
our church.
There was one time y'all theyheard from our priest that my
mom was in the hospital.
The next text I get is whatroom is your mom in?
(09:43):
I say why?
Because we on our way withdinner.
Wait y'all with dinner, waity'all.
Zeddy was in the ICU, what youmean?
Dinner?
Yes, they showed up with a panof chicken.
They didn't go get no carry out.
(10:04):
There was no drive through thissoror and her baby daughter.
They came with a pan of chickenand two sides and a gallon of
sweet tea.
Okay, I said I don't know ifyou can do all that.
She said I brought enoughplates for them too.
Jay, what nursing staff gonnasay if they can get in on it?
(10:27):
None of them.
We were at a fancy, fancyhospital in Atlanta, atlanta.
And what did they say?
Thank y'all.
Me and the staff were up in theICU grooving on this food.
Now, that particular soror, sheain't go to school with my mama,
she ain't go to school with me.
I didn't even tell my mom wasin the hospital.
(10:48):
She found out from the priest.
I ain't putting, I ain't sayingnothing about the other people,
the parishioners that might nothave come by the hospital.
That ain't the point.
What I am trying to.
Let y'all know that there's acommon thread that goes through
that thing.
(11:09):
If you happen to be a member ofone of those organizations where
you extend yourself in a veryloving manner, in a way that
goes way beyond what'sreasonable, we bust our butts
for each other the minute we wefound out, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,
(11:36):
in addition to X, y and Z.
Oh, you a soror and you are introuble, or somebody in your
family is in trouble, or youfalling on hard times, just like
that, just like that, just likethat.
So you know, there's a lot ofpeople that don't understand.
It's not for you to understand,okay, I also don't understand
why anybody voted for DonaldTrump ever for anything.
(11:58):
But that's your business.
But on this time, which is near, and it is unfathomable how I
could not point out and bringattention to the tremendous
(12:19):
support that happens over andover again, and even fraternity
members dad was an alpha.
It changes how these menimmediately say oh okay, well,
your dad is deceased.
I didn't know your dad was abrother.
Okay, well, what do you need?
And all of a sudden, men whoare involved with car
(12:42):
dealerships are trying to helpme figure out whatever to get my
maintenance done.
It is a level of camaraderie andfamilial ties that's immediate,
immediate, immediate.
So many people will say, ohyeah, yeah, yeah, oh, I'm cool
(13:04):
with her because she went to myhigh school or we're from the
same hometown or we're from thesame state.
You move from Alabama and youlive in California and you find
out what you from AlabamaImagine.
Imagine when you can connectWith someone else that looks
(13:25):
like you and you know they chosethis community you were part of
.
I didn't choose to be fromAlabama, but I did choose to be
a Delta, and so did Zetty and sodid her line sisters, and there
is a level of value add inthere that this is immediate.
(13:48):
So to my mama's line sisters,thank you for tracking me down
and not letting me ignore all ofthose Facebook messages and now
, because of them, I actually golook at Facebook messages from
time to time because you neverknow what blessing is in the
(14:09):
dark night and drama that couldbe.
The Facebook messages like Idon't want the crazy men that
are in there, but I scroll rightby them Because it could be an
elderly woman that's trying tosend you a care package.
You just never know.
Love is really everywhere.
(14:30):
The snuggle ups.
Number one Check your DMs everyso often.
When that little red highlightcircle over to the upper right
corner on your app starts to getto the triple digits, just take
(14:54):
a look.
It may be worth it.
Yeah, you don't know who thehell it is, but it doesn't mean
it won't change your life in avery positive, progressive
manner.
Number two to my divine ninebrothers and sisters, thank you.
(15:15):
Thank you for the heavy lifting,thank you for standing in the
gap, even when many societymembers might not understand who
we are or what we're doing.
Thank you for just toeing theline and making it happen.
You don't get paid either.
We actually paid to be membersof this, these organizations,
(15:38):
and all we do is serve thecommunity and each other.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Number three If your LO has acollege friend, maybe an
elementary school friend thatyou think can impart some wisdom
(16:03):
or some joy to their currentlife.
Maybe you can use social mediato find that friend or find
classmates that could be usefulas you're being a caregiver.
It goes both ways.
(16:25):
Technology is here, it ain'tgoing nowhere.
We might as well milk it, socute.
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