Crafting a Joyful and Meaningful Parenting Experience

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Could the key to breaking generational trauma lie in a parent's healing journey? On this episode of "Parenting with a Purpose," join Donna Janel as we explore the transformative power of intentional parenting. Drawing from deeply personal reflections and the poignant film "Divorce in Black," we discuss how unhealed wounds in parents can affect children and perpetuate cycles of pain. As we reflect on our roles as guides and protectors, we stress the importance of parents embarking on their own paths to healing to foster more nurturing environments for their children.

We unravel the complexities of parenting with purpose and joy, especially in an unpredictable world. Personal stories of loss and resilience underscore the need to pour love and intention into our children's upbringing. With references to Tyler Perry's impactful storytelling, we illustrate how unaddressed parental issues can negatively influence young minds. By equipping parents with the right tools and resources, we inspire faith in their ability to navigate parenting challenges while maintaining joy and purpose.

Moving beyond traditional methods, we dive into practical strategies that can empower children for success. From setting firm yet loving boundaries to fostering emotional and financial literacy, we provide actionable advice for holistic child development. Emphasizing love as the cornerstone, we share how it builds self-confidence and fortifies the parent-child bond. Join us as we champion the shift from punitive to educational discipline, highlight the importance of early financial education, and advocate for nurturing children's unique interests and strengths. Let's redefine parenting with intention and purpose for a brighter future.

Parents are the Bows and Children are the Arrows they will land wherever we aim them eventually!

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (01:22):
cmpradionet, the people's station.
Thank you, bye.
Thank you, hey, everybody.

(02:17):
Welcome back to Panther with aPurpose podcast.
I am your host, the one andonly Donna Janelle, where I
strive to bring back theresponsibility, nobility and
beauty back into parenting.
Yes, I say beauty intoparenting.
We know it's a hard night lifeout here for parents and
parenting is very challenging.
However, there's some beauty init, right, as our children grow
, certain things and situationshappen.

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We see some rough stuff goingon, but then there's some beauty
.
Like sometimes you lay in yourbed and you just smile Wow, I
created these kids.
I don't know how often that is,but it does happen, right,
y'all you know so.
Uh, as you know, parents arethe bulls.
We are the bulls, y'all, andour children are arrows and they
will land wherever we send them, may not be today, may not be
tomorrow.
Listen, I'm telling you, Imight not even be the next five

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years.
Honestly, think about our life.
Did we land exactly the timethat our parents wanted us to
land, or the exact places thatone is or that wanted us to land
?
No, we did not.
Why?
Because everybody's theirunique individual and everybody
has their own journey, right,our job as parent is to make
sure that we give our kids thetools so that they can land that
, that they can land and besuccessful, right?

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So that's all.
That's what it's all about.
Parents, parents with a purpose,Right.
So tonight, y'all, I'm soexcited for tonight because
we're going to really be talkingabout some stuff tonight.
Yeah, I don't know, I watchedthe movie.
I want to, I want to get intoit a little bit.
Tonight we're going to betalking about parents with a
purpose, right.
I feel like we need to get backto the roots of it so we can
really understand what it is tobe a parent.

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And on purpose, in purpose andout of purpose, right, you know,
there's a purpose to everything.
Right, there's purpose toeverything under the sun.
And sometimes, you know, we livethis autopilot life where we
don't really kind of hone in onwhat the purpose is Like.
Why are we doing this?
Like, some of us, you know,became parents just because we
had sex, right, or yeah,basically, that's how you become

(04:03):
parents, right, Some of usbecame parents non-intentional,
like really, and some becameintentional.
But I think sometimes, um, whenwe don't think about or we're
not intentional on differentthings, that, um, we kind of
just live an autopilot life withit, and I think that sometimes
that's what happened inparenting, right, like we kind
of just do whatever we do tomake sure that our kids have

(04:24):
food, clothes and shelter, andalso we start parenting how our
parents would parent and parentout of fear, all types of things
.
So I want to get back to thebasics, like what is the purpose
in this?
Like there's a purpose toeverything, that's a purpose for
us being here and there's trulya purpose that God has given
our children, right.
So, but I want to, before I getinto the purpose, right, I
really want to talk about amovie right now.

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I don't normally talk aboutmovies on here, y'all right, but
I want to talk about a moviebecause I saw that, like I'm not
a big TV person, I, you know, Ijust read my um, my audible,
and it told me that, uh, this,within this last two months, I
read 17 titles, right.
400, 4,983 minutes, that's 82hours of reading, girl listening

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, right.
So being very intentional withwhat I put in my ears.
So I'm not a big movie person.
Like shows, episodes, every nowand then I might get into
something, but I don't know, Ispend most of my time writing
and reading or listening tosomething that's really going to
change the trajectory of mylife or really got me thinking,
because, honestly, a lot of thisTV, tv I watch, and I can
already predict what's about tohappen.
I don't like to sit there.
I'm not a good movie person.

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I sit with my kids and I'mwatching a movie.
I'm like trying to find lessonsin the movies.
What is god saying in themovies?
And then also I'm telling themwhat the movie was going on.
I'm not a great movie person,y'all, but I did watch um
divorce in black, right, I wantto talk about that for a little
bit.
You know, a lot of people aregetting on, you know, talking
about why we see um black peopleshown in such a negative way.

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There's such a negativeconnotation.
Can we see anything positive?
Right, but when I looked atthat movie, right when I was
watching the movie, you knowwhat I saw, though.
I saw pain.
I saw parenting all in there.
Parenting was all in there,y'all.
Like what I saw was the pain ofa mother pushing that pain on
her sons and therefore theirsons live in that pain.
It became like a generationalthing, like, if you've seen the

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movie, you know what I'm talkingabout.
If you haven't seen it really,just watch it and think of a
different perspective.
Think of it as no, not we gotanother black movie that all
this crazy stuff is happening.
This doesn't even think aboutas as a mom, right.
Think about as a perspective asa parent.
Think about his perspective asa child, right.

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So I'm looking at this movie andI see, like everybody's, like
the angry black mom, and I seewhatever hurt and pain that she
had going on.
See, this is why I tell y'allwe have to heal ourselves, heal
our wounds so that we don'tbleed on our children, right,
because this is clear evidencethat the mother did not heal
herself and she bled on herchildren.

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And therefore, when you look atthe relationship in that
marriage, it was a hurt youngman.
It was a little boy in him, youknow.
It got into like, if you justsaw, like just, I mean the same
way she told him to take her sonout of the casket and just roll
out of the church, it was justlike I was appalled, y'all, but
I saw like she was so angry whenshe started taking her clothes

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off at the church.
I was like what is going on,but she didn't want.
This is a mother who didn'twant to hand out, she didn't
want help.
Um, she felt, like it looks tome like she wanted to be an
island and then, so that shecould blame everybody else or
why her life was the way it was,and the, the pain and the hurt
and the anger that she wasdealing with, she really just

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kind of um bled all over herkids, man, and we talk about
like, first of all, it is verydifficult for a mom just to
raise a son.
I'm out here, you know singlemoms out there.
Kudos to every single mom.
Single mom is not being a flex.
It is something that we dobecause we won't let the
situation of whatever happenedor how it happened with, you

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know, the ex-husband or the babydad or whatever we're not going
to let that be an excuse to howwe raise our children, right.
So we take this single mom andwe take it, you know, as a badge
of honor and we do what we gotto do.
It's not a flex, it is anecessity, right?
It is a choice that we make andto make sure that our children
are going to be successful.
Particularly, it's verydifficult as a single mom to

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raise young men, though, and Ican say that by experience.
My son is now 16, and his dadleft my ex-husband probably I
guess, about he's 16, soprobably about 13, 14 years ago.
So I've been really raising himNow.
He does spend every otherweekend with his dad, but his
dad is not active in his life,and you know how we are as moms.

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We we very active in ourchildren's life, so, but I know
how hard it is to raise boys,and it's very difficult to raise
boys when you're not healed.
Uh, raise boys or even girls,that just parenting in general.
But I just seen so much angerand pain in this mom, like she's

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raising these young black boys,right, and whatever happened in
her life or whatever situationis, um, she was just so angry
and unhealed and you know thathurt people, hurt people, heal
people, help heal other people.
And this situation she was hurtand as you got deep into the
movie you can see how much angerthat she had in her and how

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that, how she poured that out onher kids, like she bled on her
kids with that because thosekids, you know they were grown
adults, right, I'm not going tocall them kids.
But her children adult childrenwas so scared of her to the
point where she's showing offand going off in a funeral
because she's upset and she'stelling them to take the dead
body out of the casket and they,like, they was like, nah, we

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don't want to do that.
They, they was like nah, wedon't want to do that, we don't
want to do that.
And because of her anger youcould tell she did some stuff to
them boys, because they werescared to death in the house of
the lord.
They were scared to death andthey took that, they carried
that dead body out of there.
Their brother, and you just see, like I just was, like tears
began to flow out my eyesbecause I was like that is a lot

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of pain, that's a lot of painand, truth be told, that is
what's happening in a lot of ourhouseholds today.
It's that type of pain that,the pain that we don't really
address and we don't really talkabout.
We just, you know, oh, we giveexcuses because she's a single
mom, so she had to do this onher own.
So I understand why herchildren are what they are.

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No time out for that.
No, we're still responsible tomaking sure that our kids are
successful period um.
So, as the story told, though,you can see the young man that's
um, married to um I was justmaking good right Um, how he had
so much hurt and pain in himthat he was drinking, he was

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doing all types of crazy stuffand he was treating her bad.
Now the movie it didn't showhow bad he was really treating
her.
The letter was talking abouthow bad he was treating her, but
then, when they get to the rootof it, he had to kill his
father.
He killed his own dad.
So imagine you you know walkingthrough life and you had to,

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whatever situation it is, endedup having to kill your own
father for the safetiness ofyour family.
And then you still.
Now you're a man and you'remarried and you're trying to be
a man, but you never learned howto really be a man because of
the person that was supposed toteach you to be a man you had to
kill.
That's a little scary right,and it doesn't help that the mom

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had so much anger that she justkept being like mean and nasty
and hurt.
So I said all that to say isthat we really, really, really
got to get healed y'all.
We really, really got to gethealed because our children
become who we are, right, unless, like our children become like

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the bad part of us, right, theunhealed part of us, and it's
not a pretty thing.
And that movie opened my eyes somuch of just how much anger can
happen and what's going on withsome of our children today.
You know, when I talk to a lotof parents, I hear how they're
talking to their kids.
I hear how their children areresponding.
I see you know one parent whenthey talk to their child, I see

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the child shrink up, look likethey saw a ghost or something,
cause you know, something'sgoing on in the household
because of the anger I said.
All I have to say is like it'sreally important in this day and
age.
I don't know if y'all see howchaotic the world is and how
dark and sinister the world isand how the society has an
agenda and they're trying to putit on our children, put it on

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our households.
I don't know if you guys cansee that, but we really need to
wake up and see what's going onin the world.
Now I'm not going to get intoall the political things of
Project 2025 and all that stuff.
I'm not going to get into it,but what I do know is that we,
as parents, we have to stand upfor our kids and we have to
stand up for our kids and wehave to stand up for parenting,

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like God has given our childrento us as a gift, right?
So it's our job and ourresponsibility to make sure that
we take care of that gift well,that we value that gift, that
we love and we nurture that giftright, so that that gift can be
a gift to the world, can havesome type of kingdom impact in
this world, not just living onautopilot or just this
generational stuff Like wealways talk about, like
generational curses or, um, badstuff transferring from

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generation to generation.
Like I really want to have aconversation Like, can we talk
about good stuff passing, likegenerational success, know, uh,
inheritance?
Can we talk about those things?
Can we start to become, uh, sowell-rounded that our kids you
know proud to say that I'm fromthis family, or I've learned
this from my parents, or Ilearned this from my great

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grandparents, or my sisters andmy brothers?
Like can we change thetrajectory of which way it's
going?
Because right now there's a lotof stuff going on.
You know, and I don't know ifyou guys seen like people are
dying left and right at a veryearly age, um, and I think it's
imperative and it's like a senseof urgency for us to pour into
our children, um, because wedon't know how long we're going

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to be here.
For Right Um, my sister died at36.
Right Um, that's very young.
Her husband died at 36 as well.
That's very young.
I don't think that she thoughtthat she was going to die and
have her children.
I mean, her youngest child wassix years old when she passed
away.
The oldest was 19.
So, and there was five of them,right, so she didn't expect

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that.
So we don't know what'shappening in the world whenever
God is going to take us home.
So it's so important for us toreally value life and give it
our all.
Man, I feel like we just likewe gotta give it our all.
We can't just be thinking andletting the world just take over
us or run us and we just livethis autopilot life, right?

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So the divorce in black, like,really was a wake-up call.
I'm telling you, I'mencouraging you guys to see it,
don't see it.
The fact that, oh, tyler Perrygot another movie.
It's so much negativeconnotation.
No, look from a parentingperspective, right, of how we
need to heal, because this isthe result of an unhealed parent
.
This is the result of a parentwhose wounds are so deep and so

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wide and and just continue tobleed, bleed, bleed and they, uh
, now it's on our children.
I mean, anytime that a parentcan watch your children beat up
a pastor or reverend or likejust just just no honor, right.
Anytime that we can let see ourkids do that, a parent watch

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that.
You know that there are somedeep rooted problems.
I mean they beat the crap outof this pastor, right, put them
in the hospital, almost die, andin order to do that, that means
that you, you, you got somepain that you, you really
releasing, right.
So I wanted to just get intothat a little bit about, um,
just being intentional in ourparenting, right.

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So tonight we're going to talkabout I kind of want to talk
about, like I'm going to do abrief description of kind of
some things I wrote down aboutparenting and our purpose, right
, first of all, parenting with apurpose is parenting with joy,
right, when I think aboutparenting with a purpose, I
think about the joy in it, right, even though there is

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heartaches and pains and trialsand tribulations, ups, downs,
ins and outs.
It's happened.
Life be life, right.
But there's still joy in it andI think it's how you look at
things.
Like you know how you perceivethings, because you can either
perceive a glass half empty orhalf full, right, you know that
old saying like it's really,what do you perceive and what do
you believe.

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So I think, like with parenting, if we start to believe that
there is really joy in parenting, even in the hardness of it,
there's really a lot of joybecause, remember, like there's
a different.
I'm not saying that parentingyou always going to be happy,
because happy is like an emotionthat comes and goes.
Happy is what's happening.
Right, oh, you got good gradestoday, so I'm happy.

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Um, oh, you didn't do thedishes, so now I'm sad or I'm
frustrated.
Like I'm not talking aboutthose emotions, I'm talking
about the deep wood of joy wherenothing can shake it, like it's
in, it's the center, right,it's the joy.
So parenting it is very, um,it's joyful, like it is a lot of
joy in it, even in the pain,right, um.

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So like parenting with a purpose, like my aim and my goal is
really to encourage parents um,that there isn't.
There's joy in parenting.
Uh, given proper planting andresources, we can really do it
successfully, right, if we haveto.
Anybody know that if you havethe proper tools to do something
, you're going to be successfulin it.
If you have the proper toolsand you learn how to use those

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tools, you're going to besuccessful, right, because
you've learned how to apply it.
That's like when you study atschool, right?
You study and then you take thetest.
You've applied the tools thatyou use to study.
Right, and then you'll see theend results.
And that's the same thing inparenting.
You know learning how to dothis thing the right way, and

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there is no one way intoparenting.
It is just the right way.
Like, how can I help my childrenbecome successful, right, how
can I make them better, not makethem worse?
Like, not cause any problemswhere they're really?
You know, a lot of these kidsalready commit suicide.

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Like, I don't want to be theperson to cause my kids to want
to take their life because I'mnot parenting correctly, right,
I don't want to be the cause ofthat.
So what can we do?
Like we got to as parents, youknow, setting standards and
boundaries and maximizing ourpotential purpose, like parental
purpose, like how do wemaximize our parental purpose?

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Our job is, you know, toempower our children, create a
well-balanced children, you know, spiritually, mentally,
socially, emotionally,financially, educationally,
economically, like every area ofour children's life, just like

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our life, we need to be able topour into them so that they can
be the best that they can be.
You know, there's no more justthe basics food, clothes and
shelter.
I mean we need to attend totheir mental needs, their, their
emotional needs, theirspiritual needs, um, their
social needs, like really honingin on every area of our

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children and really beingintentional in our parents.
All right, we talked last weekabout being intentional and how
important it is because, again,man, I don't know if you guys
notice, like if you ever livedthe autopilot life, like I've
done that, where I wasn'tintentional in living and just
everything was happening, I'mjust here for the day.
You know, oh, it is what it isand it ain't what it ain't and

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all that hung on just a negativeconnotation about life like it
is.
You kind of just take the hands, that's dealt with and you,
just you, it is what it is rightnot being intentional, really
understanding that we can setthe narrative of our life and we
can help set the narrative ofour children's life right.
Parenting, like I said, it's ajourney of learning, exploring,

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growing, loving, crying, crying,crying, laughing, having fun,
teaching, caring, makingmemories, being silly, having
joy, fears, caring, makingmemories, being silly, having
joy, fears, dealing with thefears, hard work, happy tears,
faith and trust Like that's allinclusive in parenting, like
it's all these things thathappen as parenting right, and I

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believe a healthy parent willlay golden eggs.
So we really need to beintentional in our parent, and I
have wrote down some thingsthat I call the 10 parent
responsibilities right, and it'sbasically kind of just giving
us a little guide and you cantake this and run with it and

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recreate it and do whatever youwant to do, whatever makes you
and your children's lifesuccessful, but really just
being intentional.
Number one that I wrote, though,is you got to give your child
love, right.
How do we become intentional inour parents on how do we raise

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successful children right?
How do we make sure or assurethat our kids have everything in
their toolbox to be successfulright?
In order for that, we're theones that's filling up their
toolbox while they're growing up, because we're helping them
grow and develop.
And the younger years are themost vital years in our
children's life, because thebrain is growing rapidly and

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kids are sponges.
So, as you pour in it um Ithink it was charles a swindell
says that um, about pouring intoour children's memory bank
right, pouring into them,because that stuff will be
stored in their memory brainbank and then they'll be able to
carry that throughout theirlife.
I mean, there are certainthings that I definitely carry

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throughout my life that Ilearned as a child good, better
and different.
But taking those good memoriesand being able to use them, what
I call, flip them and use themin different areas of your life,
right, all right.
So I say, give, give um yourchild love.
Your number one job as a parentis to give your child love, like

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children need love so that theyknow what it feels like and
what it looks like, so they canbuild self-confidence,
self-esteem, self-value andself-love.
Uh, love should be the primarysource of bond between a parent
and a child.
If anything fails at parent, ifyou fail at anything else that

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parenting entails, this is theone saving grace that could keep
you from being a total disasteras a parent.
Let me talk about that.
If you mess up with anythingelse in your life like listen,
y'all know I'll be snapping outsometimes y'all stuff.
But anything else in your lifelike listen, y'all know I'll be
snapping out sometimes, y'all.
If you, if you got it wrong oneday you snapped out for the
wrong reason, if anything, thatchild know that you still love

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them.
Like, love is the saving graceto everything.
Right, you love me so much thatI forgive you.
Right, because because love itbursts out forgiveness, right?
So if there's anything you messup in your parents and you
don't get it right, that day,you, you just be cutting up, you
dealing with your own issuesand, um, you upset at your kid.

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The same and grace is love,though, because out of love
bursts forgiveness.
So that's that has to be thefoundational thing, because when
our children know that we lovethem, they love themselves.
They have this confidence andstuff.
And saying I'm telling you theone, let me tell y'all that one
that test my inner gangster.
I talk about her all the timeout of the four.
Test my inner gangster, but letme tell you that's a confident

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young lady.
She's 16 now and you know Iused to call her small but
fierce because she's thesmallest one out of the batch
and she's the youngest one.
But let me tell you somethingas much as she tested my inner
gangster, she confident, she gotsome.
She ain't got no problem, shegot some self-love going on and,
uh, she, she got some greatself-esteem and some

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self-confidence.
Yo, because this girl walkingaround this world, bold, like it
ain't no joke, like sometimesI'll be in a house, like yo fall
back a little bit, but reallyunderstanding, like this is who
she is, her personality, andthat's what she's grown to be
just confident and that's whatwe want our kids to be confident
, right.
Sometimes it's a littlechallenging because they'd be
like a little too confident whenthey're trying to have

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conversation with you.
It causes some conflict.
That's why me and her I'mtelling you she touched my inner
inner gangster, but it's alllove and um, I'm learning even
now of how to value herconfidence, how to value who she
is as a person and heruniqueness and not looking at as
a weakness certain things thatwe look at people and we look at

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things that at certainweaknesses, but just, it may be
a weakness for us, but not aweakness for them.
That's a strength for them,right and um.
So we um sometimes walk aroundwith this strength and weakness
meter, right, uh like, and it'sreally judging people and not
accepting people for who theyare and really devaluing what
they bring to the table.
So I'm learning how to reallyvalue her and and her, um, her

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ability to test my innergangster, y'all.
I, um, I'm looking at it as as aplus and not a negative,
something that's really, um,that's really honorable though,
like, because when I look at her, like she, she got it together
like this, this stuff, thisstuff, that love thing is on her
y'all.
So, um, that's what happenswhen we, when we, love our
children, they know that theylove, they begin to have it deep

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rooted inside and nothing canshake them Kids, they forgive
our shortcomings and ourmistakes and stuff, but as long
as they know that we love them,that's why they're able to
forgive us, right.
So that's number one Give yourchild love, right, um, if you

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don't know how to love, I Isuggest you seek um a circle
that that generally love you, orseek out some type of
counseling, because, um, if youlack love, your children gonna
lack love and then it's become agenerational thing, and that's
one of the things that we don'twant to pass on.
We want to pass love on, right,um, the other thing I have here
is make your child a good andmoral person.
Now, in a climate we live in,the craziness that's going on,

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everything is accepted, right,everything is accepted.
But as a parent, we got to havelike, such a good moral, ethic
and integrity and and just beinga wholesome, good person that
we teach our children to be thatway.
Because in a world where peopleare doing whatever they want,

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whatever they want, however theywant, we have to teach our
children that's not the way.
So if we teach them, um, justto be good, um, whether it's, um
like, just teach them moral, uh, moral principles, I think when
we don't teach them how to begood people, we do a disservice

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to them in the world.
It is important teaching themhow to think critically, how to
love, how to honor people, howto respect people, how to value
people, how to appreciate people, how to not judge but hopefully
, be a person where things flow.

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Having good substance, strongmorals really will help you, not
help our children not look likesociety has dressed them,
honestly, right.
Other thing, number three I toldyou I got ten of them y'all.
Number three is protect yourchild.
Like when we, when I talk aboutparenting with a purpose, these

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are some tools that I believethat, um, that will help us help
our children become successfuland help us be successful in
parenting, right?
Um, these are just some thingsthat I, over the years, that I
wrote down um that, and there'sa lot of words behind some of
these topics, but I'm justgiving you, you know, a synopsis
of a little summary of some ofthe things that dive into it.
Um, and then, like I said, youcan take that and do whatever

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you want with it, add to it,subtract from it and just um,
just just.
Really, I suggest that you umkind of think about some of
these things, because we reallygot to um parent, to a way where
we close and give our childrentools that the world can't dress
them, period.
So, protect your child, right.
So what does that mean?

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That means don't let anyphysical or psychological harm
come to our children.
We always talk about when weprotect our children protect
them from physical, likesomething we don't want nothing
bad to happen to our children.
Like physically, like don't hitmy kid, don't harm my kid,
whatever.
But we don't think about thepsychological harm to our
children, right?
So protecting our childrenmeans physically and

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psychologically away from harm.
You know meaning that we'reprotecting them from people who
don't mean no good to them,right?
Negative words that arespeaking to our children, even
for ourselves.
Sometimes we got to protect ourkids from ourselves because when
we're at a certain level wherewe're upset or we're really mad
or pissed off, really sometimesparents say anything to their

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kids and you got to take a pausefor the cause and walk away
because you don't need to bespewing that on our kids, right?
So protect your children fromyourself, right on our kids.
Right?
So protect your children fromyourself.
Right, but like, really like asparents, like we will, if we

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see danger, we will throwourselves in front of a car so
our kid don't get hit, right,but we will allow everything
from the world to get to ourkids, like social media, music,
movies, all these things.
Right, that's really doingpsychological damage to our
children.
Right, we will throw ourselvesin front of a car, but we won't
throw ourselves in front of a TVor we won't shut down that

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social media site or we won't dostuff to their phone, like
there are so many apps whereyou're paying a phone bill,
you're able to block certainthings for your kids to see.
Now, if they're going to see it, they're going to have to work
very hard to sneak and see it.
But not on my watch, right, aslong as I know that I'm
protecting in front of thingsand I'm not saying that we have
to isolate our kids because theystill have to live in this

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world.
Right, but protect them byteaching them how this stuff
works.
Right, but it blows my mindSometimes.
It's like we always think aboutphysical protection, but that's
psychological.
You know kids are committingsuicide at an alarming rate and
that it's all psychological.
You know, low self-esteem, notfeeling like they're wanted,

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being abandoned and rejection,all these emotional feelings
that they can't handle or don'tknow how to handle because
they're young and they and theyhaven't had any resources or any
tools to help them.
How to deal with emotions?
Right, Because, honestly, thisis a new age where we're talking
about emotions and stuff,because for for a long time,
nobody talked about emotions.
Everything was kept inside,right, but this is a new age.

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We need to open up and beexposed so that we can be able
to best deal with it, right?
So what I'm saying is that,like we had to really think
about how protecting ourchildren mean.
What does it really mean toprotect our children Right From
harm so I'm saying physical andpsychological harm, right?
So protect our children by anymeans necessary, protect our

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children from negative people.
Like you got to watch who youlet speak to your children, you
know, or what they say aboutyour children.
Man, I don't let my listen whenI, when I talk about my kids
like princesses, prince, youknow, I'm always saying prince,
princesses, my royal crew,everybody knows when they they

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be like how your royal crewdoing, because that's how I
address them.
So other people address my kidsthat way How's princess Donny,
how's prince Josh, how'sprincess Faith, how's princess
Lizzie, how's your royal crew,even down to the dog y'all,
princess Lovey, like how areeverybody, how's everybody doing
?
And they address them becausethe way I address them, so

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protecting them from peoplespeaking negative over their
life or speaking something intothem, that's just not really
them.
Like you know, one of the thingsthat I talk about is like stop
calling kids bad.
We need to protect them fromthat word like kids aren't bad.
They may be misguided, they mayget in some stuff, but like bad
, like God didn't make anythingbad.
So why are we even calling ourkids bad?

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Now, they may have somebehaviors that's unsettling.
I'm not going to front like whobehaviors are unsettling, but
to actually say you're bad.
That means that when Godcreated you he didn't like what
he created.
It was a bad thing.
And last time I checked, theword says that everything he
made was good and he saw it andhe said it was very good.

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So everything and everycreation is good.
So stop calling your kids bad.
They do some stuff, some thingslike we could.
We need to tweak their behavior.
But again we got to understandthat's part of growth and
development too.
They're going to test thewaters they don don't know, like
they just came in as well.
They came in the world notknowing anything.
That's why it's called growthand development.

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Right, we're constantly growingand developing into the person
we need to become.
So we need to give our kids somegrace and stop calling them bad
, because if a kid has that badall the time, they're to be like
, yeah, I'm bad.
I'm bad next thing, you knowthey're bullying.
Next thing, you know they'redoing all this type of stuff, or
they just thinking about theirstuff in such a bad way.
I'm so bad I don't even knowwhy I'm here in this world,

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right?
No, your kids are good, period.
They're good thing, right.
So we just have to tweak how weaddress them or or deal with
their unsettling behavior,because they do have some
behaviors.
That's a little out there,y'all I'm not gonna front.
So it's a certain way to handlethat, so that we don't crush
their spirit, right, we don'tput any negative into them, and

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I'm not saying that.
You know we have to be perfectparents, but I feel like, in
order for us to, in order forour kids to be successful, we as
parents have to say what we'regoing to do, what we're going to
accept.
As for me and my house, this iswhat I'm going to do, right?
So that's protect your children, all right.
The next one is educate yourchild.

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Now.
Parents are the first teachersperiod.
I don't care how you slice it,parents are the first teachers
period.
I don't care how you slice it.
Parents are the first teacher.
Your child is in your house, oreven, if it's a foster parent,
if it's a biological parent,adoptive parent.
It doesn't matter if you'reresponsible or raising a child,
you're a parent period.
So if, uh, parents are thefirst teachers, like we teach

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them, say hi, uh, say bye, saymy, say my mom, say that that's
teaching right.
We're teaching them what's good, what's not so good, what's
dangerous, what's happy, like,by everything that we do we
really teach them how to respondto life, right.
So educate.
Educate them on emotions earlyon them, on um, academics, right

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.
Um, don't wait until your kidgo to preschool and then say, oh
, I need you to teach them a, band c.
No, we're teaching from thebeginning.
I remember when my sister waspregnant, right, and um, and
she's now, I guess, grace tony,probably about 17 months now.
I remember when my sister waspregnant, like I was talking to
her belly and she used to belike Donna man, why you keep

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doing that?
I would talk to her and I wouldtell her who she was.
I didn't even know if it was agirl or a boy, but I was
speaking so much life into herbelly that when I tell you this
girl came out.
I think she must have heardeverything I said, cause she's
something else y'all, she'ssomething else.
She bold, she confident, she'sstrong, she's fierce.
Um, she's a piece of work, butjust teaching them.

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I was, um, telling her who shewas and then also singing the
ABCs to her, uh, speaking wordsof encouragement.
It's like um just doingwhatever I can to while I have
that time, um sitting theretalking to my sister belly.
So don't wait until our childrenget to the school system to

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feel like the school's supposedto educate our kids.
Uh, that's, that's a note andmatter of fact.
How is that working?
Let's look at the world.
How is that working?
A lot of stuff, um, one of thethings that I was doing with my
kids at a young, early age,because they wasn't teaching
these things in school.
Just about history, you know, Iknow.
I remember growing up in schoolI thought that our history

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began with slavery.
Right, I thought black historybegan with slavery, not true.
By doing research and thingslike that, knowing that where we
actually came from.
So even teaching our childrenthe royalty of it, the um, the
uniqueness in um, who they are,and so that they can accept who
they are before they even go outto the world.

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They can know who they are.
So just educating them on that,um, educating them and, like I
said, academics, um, because youdon't want, uh, your children
to be behind the eight ball orjust trusting that these schools
are just going to teach ourkids everything they know.
No, no, no, that's my job as aparent.
I know it seems like it's a lotthat we have to do as a parent,
but it's.

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We really do have another humanbeing that we brought in the
world that we're responsible for.
We are responsible, right, um.
So educate our children um,teaching them um how to like
giving them knowledge, but thenteaching them how to apply it so
that they can have the wisdomand understand that, uh, how to
do certain things, um.

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So education, right, um.
Here's the one that y'all knowthat um is a sore subject with
me disciplining our children.
So that's the number five wetalk about that.
You know, on the show I'm notum.
Corporal punishment is not my,not my thing.
Uh, yelling and screaming atour kids is not my thing, um,

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but as I've grown, in these 25years of parenting, have I
yelled and screamed at my kids?
Absolutely, absolutely does ithurt me to do it sometimes?
Sometimes it don't, um, but Iknow when Does it hurt me to do
it Sometimes.
Sometimes it don't, but I knowwhen I I don't.
I haven't, like I didn't beat mychildren, but I do remember my
oldest.
She was writing.

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I think she was like five orsix.
She was writing on the bathroomwall and I told her stop
writing on the bathroom wall.
She was writing different wordsor whatever, I don't know.
Maybe she was trying toremember the words, whatever, I
don't know.
But I remember telling herdon't write in the bathroom wall
.
And then I remember her doingit like three or four times,
right, and after I told her notto, and um, I remember smacking

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her and that was like it wasdevastating to her and it was
devastating to me.
And then not only did I smackher, she cried, she was shocked,
right.
Another thing I took her booksaway from her and she was an
avid like.
She loved to read, like readingwas her thing, right.
I took her books from her andyou would have thought that me
taking her books was the worst.
The smack itself wasn't eventhat bad, y'all.

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Me taking her books away likeshe screamed for bloody murder,
that she could not read for anight.
She could not read for a nightand I'm telling you that would
hurt me more is the fact thatthe way she was crying as if
somebody was killing her becauseshe could not read for a night.
So when we talk about discipline, there's different ways that we
get disciplined in our children, where we don't have to cause

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them physical harm right, butdiscipline is necessary.
I don't want you to get thismisconstrued.
Discipline is necessary becausewe don't want any waiver
children.
We don't want any children outhere not understand what
authority is andresponsibilities and right
things to do.
Right, we need to discipline.

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So, but discipline in a way ofeducation, not in a way of
necessary punishment.
I know that might sound crazy,like why are we not punishing
our kids?
Because, like, honestly,punishment doesn't equal success
, like it doesn't equal achanged life or understanding of

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why I did a certain thing.
It's that punishment is likeI'm not going to do it again
because I don't like thatpunishment that I received,
right.
But I'm talking aboutdisciplining them in a way that
it becomes education, so thatmorally and ethically and deep
down rooted in their heart, theydon't want to do a particular
thing, not just because I saiddon't do it, but I'm teaching

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you why you shouldn't do it Likewe really.
You know, back in the day, kidsaren't supposed to ask why or
what's going on, but we reallyshould teach them and be open
about the why Because I don'tknow about you is, if I know why
I'm doing something nine timesout of 10, it's going to yield
better results If I know why I'mdoing it.
If I'm just doing it to do it,I'm just doing it to save face

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or whatever, but if I know thereason behind something nine
times out of 10 is going to comeout better Right.
So we really need to teach ourchildren a why and it's not
everything is a why.
I mean you don't have to ask meeverything, but really being
intentional of how we'reteaching our children right and
how we're disciplining them.
And it's so important becausewe really, in this world where

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children are being disrespectfulto adults or either other
children or even their ownparents, it's important to teach
them how to respect people andhonor people, and part of that
is through discipline, though,because even my, even sometimes

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my kids I'll be like who youtalking to, who?
I ain't one of your littlefriends, and that's not to say
that your friends a little.
That's just saying that theconversation that you have with
your friends you can't have withme.
Like, I'll put some respect,I'll be walking around the house
, put some respect on my name,right?
Um, and it's only really asthey got older, y'all teenagers,
when they were younger I ain'thad none of these issues, but

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now they'm just 16 to 18, I'mlike yo, put some respect on my
name, like don't, don't talk tome, like don't, don't talk to me
like that.
Or when they start talking tome, like out of pocket, like
with this, uh bro, yo bro, Igive them the blank stare like
then, oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry,I'm sorry.
Yeah, you better be sorrybecause don't talk to me, I

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ain't your bro, I ain't even amale.
Stop talking to me like that.
Another thing so we at numbersix y'all I know that was a lot
already, but help plan for yourchild, right.
So help your child plan for thefuture.
Basically, just like we have tobe intentional with our own

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life, I think we really need tobe intentional of helping our
children plan for the future.
I went to this conference.
It was called Life Search,right, and it was about having a
kingdom impact, and they talkedabout work, wealth, wisdom and
worship, right, and one of thethings that I've learned from
that is that how we really needto set our children up to be

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successful, right, teaching themabout finances, investments, um
, whether it's stock or, uh,real estate or whatever it is.
Teaching them at an early ageto how to be successful, like
you don't have to wait tillyou're like 65, 70 and, by the
time, this stuff done, probably80, retire.
Like you can set your childrenup now, at such a early age, so

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that they can start thinkingabout finances, um, they can
start thinking about investmentsand things like that, because
we don't want our children tohave to work until they like 90,
right?
Um, but really helping themplan their future.
If your child wants to go tocollege, or if your child wants,
like mine, the marines, right.
Um, if your child wants to justdo a vocational school, if your
child wants to start a business, like, help your child plan and

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start at an early age, ageappropriate, right.
What do you want to be with yourgirl?
Will you see yourself in fiveyears?
What do you want?
You know, really having theseengaging conversations with our
children so that we can helpplan for their future, like, if
you want to go to college andyou're not getting good grades?
Now, okay, we need to get atutor.
So we need to in order for youto get to your goal right.

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What do I need for you?
What do I need as a parent togive you?
What tools do you need to besuccessful?
So, if you have theseconversations with our children,
they will be able to share withus.
Like you know the one, the 16year old.
She wants to be a chef.
She cooks.
I let her cook in the house.
Now, what do you need to cookLike she cooks these gourmet

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meals.
Everything like helping ourchildren plan for their future.
Give them the tools.
My niece right now, like weknow this, like she's 17 months,
but we noticed that she likesto do some gymnastics like stand
on her head.
She she's learned how tobalance on a bike, just standing
there, like no hesitation ornothing.
So we know that there's thingsthat our children are doing

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early in life that if we justreally hone into and we really,
we can help plan for the future.
So, whatever it is your kidslike to do, like, really start
looking at that and investingand help them plan for their
future, like so that we can um,so they can be successful.
That's part of parenting,that's part of our
responsibility.
Our job is to make sure ourkids are successful, right, so
just giving them the tools,right?

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Um, they want to playbasketball?
Put a basketball in their handearly.
Put baseball there, whatever itis.
If they want to be a doctor orexpose them every time they go
to the doctors, have them talkto the doctor.
If they want to be a nurse,have them talk to the nurse.
Like, whatever it is that yourchild wants to do, that you
start seeing and it may changewhen they get older.
It may change and it may notchange.

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But I think just exposing themand planning for their future is
is a good thing.
So many times we don't reallyplan for our children's future.
I think sometimes we just kindof own this autopilot life, like
we, we plan for ourselves.
Well, sometimes we don't evenplan for ourselves, honestly, um
but um, planning for ourchildren.
I think this parenting thingsometimes it's just an autopilot

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life, all right.
So the next thing is help ourkids explore.
So that's kind of the samething about planning for our
children, like help our kids toexplore, so that's kind of the
same thing about planning forour children.
I help our kids explore, likeexplain different things on
different travel with your kids.
Like my goal ever since my kidswould take them to every state
in the United States so thatthey can see every state and
what's important in that stateand the value Right, so that

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they can be well versed and wellknowledge of each state.
And it wasn't just, oh, I needyou to go sightsee this, that
and the other.
No, I need you to go learn,right.
So have our kids explore.
I know I remember growing up,right, our parents, let us play
with dirt in the backyard.
God, if a big kid played withdirt.
Now, like we all trying toclean them up, sanitize them and

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all that.
Let them kids play in that dirt.
Let them kids explore.
I remember being young, yo, wewas digging for China.
I remember we used to dig, dig,dig.
Oh, we're going to go to China,we're going to dig a hole down
there in China.
But just exploring, like lettingour kids explore the world,
different foods, like differentcultures, different activities.

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Like I mean my daughter, Iwanted her to play basketball.
You know I was a basketballplayer, so that's a high, my
daughter.
When I was coaching basketballshe wanted to sit on the bench.
The whole time I was soconfused why is the coach
daughter sitting on the bench?
She didn't like it.
You know what she wanted to do?
Soccer.
I ain't playing no soccer, butI wanted her to play ball,

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because that's just what I did.
But she wanted to play soccer.
So I had to release, let go andlet her play soccer.
So let our kids exploredifferent things, try new things
, take them out of the country,take them around the world, let
them try different food, letthem try different activities,
just so that they be well-versed, well-rounded.
Because a lot of times I know,growing up, like we didn't
travel, like we didn't goanywhere.

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I mean, I remember going to NewJersey because my family was
over there, but other states andstuff like that we didn't visit
, we didn't travel.
So I think it's reallyimportant to allow our kids to
travel.
And parents of those toddlers,let them kids play in that dirt,
stop cleaning them up.
Let them play in that dirt, letthem explore, let them feel the
texture of it, let them let thekids be okay, like I said, the

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17 months she's standing on topof a bike right now Let her be
making sure that she, you knowyou're there if they fall.
But we got to let our kids beright.
Um, all right, number eight.
We almost done y'all, numbereight.
Uh, pass along your strengths toyour child.
I said that earlier, right, Isaid um, a lot of times we pass

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along weaknesses, right, or, um,the the parts of us that are
not so great, like a stankattitude, or like I said, in the
movie Divorce in Black, thatwoman passed that anger down to
her kids.
Right, she was so angry forlife that she passed down to her
kids.
Like what if we pass down love,joy, peace, self-esteem, all
those things to pass down to ourkids, all those things to pass

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down to our kids and just givingthem a special or unique look
at life, because life be outhere, life and there are so many
things that so dark upon ourchildren that we don't want to
pass like that dark stuff on ourshortcomings.
Like, if we got a stankattitude, if we always getting
smart with somebody or cursingsomebody out, don't pass that

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down to your kids.
Don't pass cursing people outto your kids.
This is not, that's a no Badhabits, like we're not really
trying to pass bad behaviorsdown.
We're trying to pass goodbehaviors.
So it's important for us toidentify our own weaknesses and
overcome those deficiencies sothat we help our children not

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become those things that we areshortcomings right.
So we really got to identifyour own weaknesses and
deficiencies so that we canbetter parent.
If you're an alcoholic, right,or if you you drink alcohol, I'm
not going to say you'realcoholic, but if you drink

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alcohol, even if your childrensee that, make sure they know
the potential dangers of it,right, um, that they understand
and know, listen and I know wetalked about do as I say, not as
I do.
But in this case you're goingto do what you do, but at least
tell your children the dangersof it right, the dangers of

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alcohol, the dangers of drugsand the outcome and stuff Like.
For me, when I see something,everything is a teachable moment
for me.
So when I see something that'slike a person that's on drugs or
a person that's alcohol andthey behave in a particular way,
an unpleasing way, I tell mychildren this is why you don't
do these things, because ittakes over your mind.

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You have no control.
So using those as teachablemoments, but really explaining
the dangers of drugs and alcohol.
If you're a parent that have lowself-esteem, make sure that you
improve yourself in this area.
Parent that have lowself-esteem, make sure that you
improve yourself in this area.
If you got low self-esteem, youhave to build yourself up
because it will fall on yourchildren.
It will literally become ablanket for them.

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Right the curtain closed.
It's going.
You're going to close them withthem, because if you fail to
deal with your self-esteem andour children growing up in this
type of world, the world isgoing to chew them up and spit
them out.
So it's important for you tohave high self-esteem.
Like love yourself and reallythink about how important you

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are, right.
Also, like make sure that webecome a role model of positive
self-image, self-esteem, pride.
That way our children aspire tobe.
Like in this area.
Oh, my mom, you know, wasstrong in this area.
I saw her like take a whoopingand keep on ticking.

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Like you know, being positiveabout even negative situations.
Like we want our children to bestrong in those areas.
So our weakness, we want togive them strength.
So teaching them even whythings are a certain way.
Like I'm very open with my kids.
Like if I'm having a momentwhen they were younger, I used

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to be like I'm overstimulated.
What does that mean?
That means there's a lot goingon right now and everything and
every cell, every nerve isfiring in my brain.
Right now I'm overstimulated.
Right, and they even say it tothis point.
It's that 16-year-old that testmy end of game set.
Ma, I'm overstimulated, I'm inthe game set, mom, I'm

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overstimulated, I'moverstimulated.
So then I got to respect thatright.
And then the last one save moneyfor your kids' education.
Again, we don't know what ourkids want to be right?
So, having that conversationwhen I talk about planning for
your kids' future, save money,invest money for their education
.
Or say, your child, they don'twant to go to college, but they
want to start a business.
Well, you could use that moneythat you were saving for college
to help them start a business,help them take some business

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classes, like not necessarilyhave to get a degree, right, but
giving them the tools.
Ma, I don't want to go tocollege, I don't want to do all
that.
Listen, 12 years of school wasenough for me and I really don't
feel like I learned with that.
Okay, what do you want to do?
I want to start a clothing line.
I want to start a perfumecompany.
I want to do this.
I want to do that.
Okay, here's some money that wecan.

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You can go into this ventureNow.
We're going to get you somebusiness classes because you,
you want to run your ownbusiness, right.
So we're going to do somebusiness classes.
I'm going to connect you withsome people who have their own
businesses, like um or uh,connect you Like.
I saw on the internet the otherday that this young lady, her
son, decided he was a straight-Astudent, 4.0 honor roll right

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in high school.
When he was in school hedecided not there were so many
colleges coming after him.
He decided he didn't want to goto college.
He wanted to start his business.
He wanted a business in exoticcars, right.
So what his mom did was sheencouraged him, got him prepared
to go to an exotic car dealerand present himself and say
listen, this is what I want todo in my future.

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Do you mind if I come and learnunder you?
You know the job, whatever jobyou give me, but this is my goal
.
This is what I want to do.
I want to learn how to do this.
And he got the job.
Y'all, he got a job fresh outof high school in an exotic car
business Like what Billiondollar business.
He got the job and he's goingto be able to learn and glean

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from these people, right?
So, again, not every kid want togo to college.
They tired of college.
I mean, they tired of school.
Okay, I get it.
They want to start their ownbusiness.
Why do they have to wait tillthey get out of college to start
their business?
No, give them the tools now.
So it's not a waste of time,it's not a waste of money.
Use that money to fund theirbusiness period and then get
them exposed to people who theywant to become, not necessarily

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to duplicate who they are, butreally getting them around,
people that can pour into themso they can help bring their
dream to fruition.
So there you have it, y'all.
I mean again, number one wasgive your child love.
Right, that's the basic thingis, when all else fails, love is

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always there.
Make sure your child is a good,moral person.
Protect your child again,physically and psychologically
right from physical andpsychological harm.
Educate your child, disciplineyour child.
I know some of y'all are goingto call me about this because
y'all know my takes ondiscipline.
Help plan for your child, helpyour child explore, pass along

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your strengths to your child.
Where you have weakness, givethem strength.
Right, save money for yourchild's education or whatever
they want to do in their life.
So that's our job as parents.
Right, when I talk about being aparent with a purpose and
really not living an autopilotlife, but understanding that
every situation, every, everychild, there's a purpose in

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every child's life, and God justdidn't just give us kids just
to give it to us, like he.
Really there was a purpose forhim allowing us to be their
parents.
Right, there's a clear purpose.
We just got to get tounderstand what the purpose is.
But these are some tools thatwe can use to help fulfill and
make sure our kids aresuccessful, right, so I.
So I encourage you to againwatch the Worst in the Black

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from a parenting perspective,right?
Not the fact that Tyler Perrythen did another movie, this,
that another and it's a negativeconnotation behind it.
And while we keep seeing thesame narrative, I want you to
look at it from a parentingperspective.
Right Again, how hurt this momwas and how she bled over her
children, right, and then herchildren got married and did the

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same thing.
So I want you to look at that.
That's your assignment.
Watch Divorce and the New Blackfrom a parenting perspective.
Right Again, we just need to.
I just believe that God hasgiven us our children to make
sure that he knew that we canmake them successful.
He knew that we're going to dowhatever it takes to make sure
that our kids have a futureright.

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So, as a parent again, whateverarea that you're not so strong
in, start to get some help inthat area so that we don't
transfer those shortcomings orthose mistakes or those negative
things around our children.
So there you have it parentingwith a purpose.
Why are we parenting with apurpose and what do we need to

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do in order to parent with apurpose?
You got the 10 tools that Isent you.
You could take them, dowhatever you want with them,
tweak them, however, but justmake sure that we're giving our
kids love, like again, if wedon't do anything else, that
love will cover stuff right.
So, again, thank you for joiningParenting with a Purpose.
I am your host, donna Janelle.
I look forward to seeing you inanother week.

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Stay humble, stay faithful andtrust your ability in parenting,
though that's what I want toleave with you.
Make sure that you start toreally believe that you could be
the best parent that you couldbe and that you're the best
parent for the job.
So start investing in yourselfand your parents and and just
know that you're it like you lityou the parent.

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Thank you for joining parentswith a purpose.