What if revenge is not a moral failure, but a biological addiction?
In this gripping episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with Yale psychiatrist James Kimmel Jr., author of The Science of Revenge, to unravel one of the most dangerous and misunderstood forces shaping our lives, our politics, our relationships, and our inner worlds.
This episode continues our acclaimed series The Irreplaceables, which explores the human qualities no machine can replicate. Yesterday’s episode with Don Martin explored loneliness, the crisis between us. Today, we explore revenge, the crisis within us. James explains why the pull toward retaliation can feel intoxicating, righteous, and impossible to resist.
Through neuroscience, evolutionary psychology, and Kimmel’s own harrowing personal story, we examine how grievance hijacks the brain, why revenge activates the same dopamine pathways as cocaine and gambling, and why forgiveness is not moral niceness but a neurobiological reset.
If you have ever held a grudge, fantasized about getting even, or wondered why our culture feels increasingly reactive and enraged, this conversation is essential.
Get the full episode show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/the-science-of-revenge-james-kimmel-jr/
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In this episode, you will learn:
- Why revenge produces the same dopamine surge as addictive substances
- Why unresolved grievance becomes a compulsive loop
- The childhood trauma that shaped James’s life mission
- How the brain mistakes retaliation for relief and reward
- How political polarization and online conflict are fueled by biological craving
- Why forgiveness quiets the pain circuitry and restores clarity
- How to choose healing over the temporary high of revenge
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