46. From Anxious to Secure Attachment Style | Is your relationship part of the "problem"? Practical tools and mindset shifts to finally feel secure.

Are you actually in a secure relationship—or just trying to heal in the wrong environment?

If you’ve ever wondered “Is it me, or is it this relationship?”—this video is for you. We’re exploring anxious attachment, emotional spiraling, and the real reason why healing can feel like a never-ending project when your connection isn’t safe.

Whether you're deep in self-work, constantly overthinking your partner’s behavior, or trying to practice secure attachment in a relationship that might not be built for it, this is a grounded and honest conversation about how to tell the difference—and what to do next.

In this episode, I share:

• How to tell if you’re in a relationship that supports secure attachment

• What it looks like when your nervous system feels safe

• The mindset shifts that helped me stop spiraling from relationship anxiety

• Tools for self-regulation, co-regulation, and actually feeling different (not just knowing better)

If you’ve been doing all the inner work and still feel insecure, jealous, or unsettled, you’re not broken—and you’re not alone.

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