The Peace & Prosperity Podcast is a bi-weekly conversation with Jason Phillips, LCSW, licensed therapist and confidence expert in Raleigh, NC, discussing all things related to self-love and self-confidence, and how we can improve ourselves personally and professionally.
Can high achievers maintain success without sacrificing mental health? On the Peace and Prosperity Podcast, we explore the hidden pressures of overworking, anxiety, and perfectionism that lead to burnout. Discover actionable strategies to manage stress, achieve work-life balance, and prioritize self-care. You're not alone in navigating high-functioning anxiety, and this episode offers practical tips and professional guidance to help. Like, share, and subscribe—join us on this journey toward peace and prosperity!
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Episode Transcript
All right, y'all, Welcome to another episode of
the Peace and Prosperity Podcast.
We're back Super excited.
It's been a minute.
Well, we're going to get intoone of the favorite, most common
topics, which is anxiety, andwe're going to talk about where
that anxiety is coming from andwhy you are having a hard time
managing your anxiety.
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So I see this a lot, especiallyin my high achievers, and when I
say high achievers, these arethe people you want to perform,
you want to be great, you wantto show up and deliver really
nothing but excellence.
If you identify with being ahigh achiever, you're probably
someone who one does not like tofail, does not like to tell
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people no.
So you end up stretchingyourself a little bit too much
because you know one, it'sworked before.
But you also don't want to letpeople down.
But there are some downsides tothat.
I guess in the beginning itfeels great and at the end of
the day, even if you areoverstretched, you feel like,
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well, I got it done, but at whatcost?
So let's look at one some of themistakes that you're making to
manage your anxiety.
The first mistake is you'reoverworking.
You're pushing, pushing,pushing and pushing yourself to
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the limit.
But here's the thing nobody'sgoing to tell you to ease up,
especially if they benefit fromyou overworking, For example.
You're at the job, you findyourself staying late, taking
calls on a weekend, not takingyour lunch break and essentially
, your work life balance isterrible.
It's non-existent.
You want to slow down and lookat how this is so ineffective to
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you, being a healthy versionfor yourself and for your family
.
So that's one reason it's notworking because you continue to
overwork.
So that's one reason it's notworking because you continue to
overwork.
Another thing that happens whenyou are you're trying to manage
your anxiety is you get caughtup in the perfectionism, like
the little details.
You want everything to be justright Now y'all.
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I can speak to this from apersonal level and professional
level because I've been there.
I've had people tell me look,hey, jason, this is enough, this
is done, this is good.
And then sometimes I'm like, no, I need X, y, a, b, c, d.
And they're like, no, no, no,just chill, relax, you're good.
You may not have somebodyencouraging you or coaching you
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in that manner, and that's whyyou're tapping into the podcast,
because you're going to hearfrom me where I'm telling you
give yourself a break, giveyourself much more grace.
So overworking and perfectionismis not helping your anxiety.
If anything, it's probablypushing your anxiety more,
because you're setting yourselfup to operate at a standard or a
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level that is not sustainable.
Yes, it's worked in the past.
Yes, you've gotten greatresults, but what was the cost?
And I'm not talking about thefinancial cost.
What was the mental cost?
Like?
What toil did it take?
Or toll did it take on yourbody, on your mindset, on your
family, because you're puttingso much effort into everything
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or everything else, and you'reneglecting the things that seem
to be so important to you.
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Now back to the episode.
So you probably are, jason.
You talk to me.
So what do I do about this?
Yes, I know I'm overworking.
Yes, I know I I'm striving forperfectionism, but what do I do
about it?
The first thing I want you todo is ask yourself where is this
external pressure coming from?
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Who is telling you that youhave to be perfect, you have to
have it all together and youcan't take a break?
Was this something that wastold to you, like growing up?
Is this something that's new,with the boss you have or the
team that you're working on?
Or is this something, innately,that you feel like you have to
do?
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It's not anybody else, but it'syou telling yourself if I don't
perform or if I don'toverextend, then I'm not good
enough, if I don't overwork,then I'm not worthy.
What does that dialogue looklike?
What does that self-talk looklike?
And in order to really getcrystal clear on what that looks
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like, one you got to slow downand really take inventory of the
thoughts that you're having.
Often, when I'm doing a sessionwith somebody, we're going to
look at what is the languagethat you're telling yourself
Like, what conversations are youhaving?
And we are often like we getsurprised, like, oh, I didn't
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realize how much I'm putting onme.
All this time I've been blamingmy boss, I've been blaming my
spouse, I've been puttingpressure and saying that it's my
clients that I work with or thepeople that I serve, but really
it's been you.
But we gotta get to the root ofwhere's that pressure coming
from.
Did something happen in yourlife?
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And ever since that situationor experience happened, you're
like never again.
I'm not going to feel like thisagain.
So let me do the most, like theabsolute most that I can do to
always be great or always beperfect.
Hey, as you hear, as I'm sayingright now, always is not
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sustainable.
Perfection is not a sustainablegoal.
Yes, you want to still operatein a stance of excellence, you
want to push yourself, but therehas to be some limits and check
and balance.
So if you find yourself againnot taking breaks, not taking
vacation, not taking days off,you find yourself you can't
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sleep at night because you'reworried about the next day.
These are some of theindicators that you are
overworking, you're operatingout of that perfectionism or
perfectionistic mindset andyou're not giving yourself grace
.
So, again, as we wrap up, I wantto give you some tips.
One ask yourself where's thepressure coming from?
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Some tips One ask yourselfwhere's the pressure coming from
?
Who is telling you that youhave to overextend and push
yourself without having any goodboundaries?
Secondly, I want you to slowdown and identify what are the
messages that you're tellingyourself, and this is where you
probably have to get off somepen and paper.
You're going to probably haveto allocate some time just for
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you.
If you have your therapysession, great.
If you don't, I'm going toadvocate for you or promote you
getting one, but take some timeto just journal, sit back and
get in touch with your thoughts,like what are the thoughts that
are running through your mind?
How do you feel about you?
How is that coming out in theinteractions you're having with
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people, in the interactionsyou're having at work?
Are you not able to show up foryour family because you're so
focused on being perfect?
And then, lastly, as you'regiving yourself that grace, I
want you to take some time outand relax, do something fun, do
something enjoyable withoutfeeling guilty.
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I know you like wait, jason.
That's a lot, but I'm trustingthat if you're listening to
these messages, you can go back.
It's going to take some time,but follow the steps to take
some of that pressure off of youand just be you.
All right, y'all.
Thank you all for tuning in.
Make sure you send this messageout to a friend or, if you have
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not already subscribed to thepodcast, because you are
probably somebody who is puttingso much on you.
You don't feel like you cantake a break.
You're feeling the pressure,but it does not always have to
be that way.
As always, y'all be blessedPeace.
That way, as always, y'all beblessed Peace.
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Thank you all for listening toanother episode of the Peace and
Prosperity Podcast.
Again, if you are feeling like,hey, I'm experiencing high
functioning anxiety, don't beatyourself up about it.
It is okay.
We all experience anxiety fromtime to time and I gave you a
couple of things that you can doon your own.
But don't hesitate to reach outto a professional to better
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manage what you're going through.
Ok, and lastly, make sure ifyou have not like share,
subscribe to the podcast andsend this out to a friend.
And if you want to hear certainepisodes or have certain
conversations, let me know.
You can shoot me a DM or justleave a review and I will
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definitely follow up.
All right, y'all be blessedPeace.
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