Celebrate the season with Peerless Etiquette Podcast as Mrs. Benjamin shares a joyful, story‑rich Christmas episode filled with warmth, family traditions, and timeless etiquette. From her annual soul‑food brunch at Aunt Lisha’s house—complete with shrimp and grits, salmon croquettes, pancakes, and chicken and waffles—to the beauty of an interfaith family gathering, this episode reminds us that unity and love define the holidays.
Listeners will discover practical holiday etiquette tips to fully enjoy Christmas with family and friends: arriving with gratitude, honoring traditions, offering help, being present, and leading with kindness. With a festive hot chocolate moment prepared by her daughters, Mrs. Benjamin sets the tone for a cheerful, uplifting celebration.
Perfect for those searching for:
• Christmas etiquette tips for family gatherings
• How to celebrate holidays with grace and presence
• Interfaith family traditions and unity
• Soul‑food brunch inspiration for Christmas morning
• Uplifting holiday reflections on gratitude and connection
End your holiday with a powerful reminder: family is defined not by sameness, but by love, presence, and intentional connection.
Episode Transcript
Before we begin, let's ease intothis moment together.
Take a breath, let your shoulders soften, and allow
yourself to arrive gently into this festive space.
Now you know I usually begin with a cup of tea, but today is
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special. Today is Christmas, and my
daughters have made me the sweetest little treat.
A warm hot chocolate with peppermint topped with heavy
whipped cream that's already melting into a soft, velvety
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squirrel. It's a welcomed bit of sweetness
for the day ahead with family, so if you can, grab something
warm and comforting too. Let this be our shared moment of
holiday joy. And now welcome to the Peerless
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Etiquette podcast. I am Missus Benjamin, your
confidential partner and intentional refinement.
And today, I'm wishing all of you who celebrate a very Merry
Christmas. Stay tuned for today's episode.
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Every step of dance, every word of jam, refine.
It's not a moment, it's a daily hell.
Kindness in your pocket, grace in your hand.
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As I recorded this, I'm actuallyon my way to see my family for
Christmas brunch at my Aunt Lisha's house.
Every year, without fail, she opens her home with the kind of
warmth that makes you feel wrapped in love before you even
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step through the door. And let me tell you, our
Christmas brunch is soulful. We're talking shrimp and grits,
Salomon croquettes, pancakes that Thai chicken and waffles,
and all the soul food breakfast favorites that make you close
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your eyes and a little. It's tradition, it's comfort,
it's culture, and above all else, it's family.
And what makes it even more beautiful is that we are an
interfaith family. We don't all celebrate the same
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holidays, but that has never stopped us from coming together
to honor the season, to honor each other, and to honor the
love that binds us. That, to me, is the true
etiquette of the holidays. Here are a few gentle etiquette
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reminders to help you move through this holiday with grace,
joy and presence #1 arrive with gratitude.
Whether you're hosting or visiting, let your presence be
warm, appreciative and open #2 honor the traditions of the home
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you enter. Every family has its own rhythm.
Lean into it with respect and curiosity #3 be mindful of
interfaith dynamics. Celebrate what you share, honor
what you don't. Unity doesn't require uniformity
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#4 offer help. Don't wait to be axed.
A simple what can I do is holiday etiquette at its finest
#5 put your phone away, give your family the gift of your
full attention. Number six, compliment the cook
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that soul food breakfast didn't make itself.
So I will be acknowledging the love and the labor that went
into it #7 lead with kindness. If tensions rise, let grace be
your guide. It's Christmas, choose peace.
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As we celebrate today, I want toleave you with this.
Family is not defined by sameness.
It is defined by connection, by showing up, by choosing love
even when life is complicated, by honoring the traditions that
shape us and embracing the ones we're creating.
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Whether your family is big or small, near or far, traditional
or beautifully blended, your presence, your kindness, and
your intention are the greatest gifts you can offer.
May today remind you that the heart of every holiday is the
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people we share it with. Merry Christmas, my peerless
family. When I am not inspiring,
coaching, motivating and teaching etiquette, I am
immersing myself in the beauty of music.
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These are the rhythms and expressions that remind us of
refinement in its purest form. You may have noticed that at the
beginning, the end, and throughout my episodes, I add
music created exclusively for peerless etiquette.
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I truly hope you enjoy it and appreciate it.
And until next time, stay peerless.
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Snow falls off like a whispered rare lights on the street, a
golden glare. The world feels still, hearts
lay bare, the shadows way warm inside, though the skies are
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great. Happy Holidays, May your heart
stay light, may your dreams. Take flight.
Through the longest night, HappyNew Year to let the joy of your
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wrap the world in love carry it on you.
Footsteps crunch on a frost kisslane laughter and go goes
through the window pane. The fire arms are familiar if
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rain breeze rise like the breathwe see.
Time rolls out. But.
It saves us free. Happy holidays please.
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