Discover why being proud of yourself is a mission critical skill for all perfectionists and how to rewire your brain to see your value. Un-learn the misconceptions currently getting in the way of you being proud of you and how to exit the inadequacy cycle. Thinking I don't have anything to be proud of? I'm giving you 5 reasons that you can be proud of yourself + the tool I use everyday to be proud of myself NO MATTER HAT I have or haven't accomplished.
On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or turning down the volume on self-criticism, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00-Perfectionists + Valuing Yourself Beyond Achievements
01:52-Upgrading From "Being Successful to Be Proud Of You"
03:15-Why being proud is USEFUL SKILL for perfectionists
04:57-Living a life stuck in inadequacy
06:03-Fear of Losing Motivation if Proud Now
07:48-Finding something to be proud of: $3,000,000 challenge
08:31-Attaching productivity to proud aka POISON
09:50-Passive failing vs. active failing
11:17-Feeling proud without eradicating negative emotions
12:56-Shrinking the part of your brain that triggers stress
SOURCES REFERENCED In Ep. 237
- Fischer, J. (2012). Being Proud and Feeling Proud: Character, Emotion, and the Moral Psychology of Personal Ideals. The Journal of Value Inquiry, 46(2), 209–222. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10790-012-9337-x
- Neff, K. D. (2009). The Role of Self-Compassion in Development: A Healthier Way to Relate to Oneself. Human Development, 52(4), 211–214. https://doi.org/10.1159/000215071
- Nepon, T. (2024). Perfectionism, Self-Image Goals and Compassionate Goals in Health and Mental Health: A Longitudinal Analysis - Taryn Nepon, Gordon L. Flett, Paul L. Hewitt, 2024. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/07342829241239997
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