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March 28, 2025 16 mins

Feel like you're working hard but not seeing the progress you want? It's NOT YOU or your PERFECTIONISM – it's your Person Account™ . Discover my proprietary framework that’s changing the game for Perfectionist Solution’s clients, and will do the same for you. 

 

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

  • How ruminating + running a 10k impact you the exact same way
  • Why perfectionist brains work overtime + cost more to operate
  • How to tell if you’re operating in a constant state of depletion without realizing it
  • What Cortisol actually is (it's NOT a STRESS HORMONE)
  • The hidden reason therapy + personal development don't work

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

 

Resources Mentioned In Episode 252:


 

 

TIMESTAMPS:

0:53-Why You're Not Making Progress Despite Trying Harder
02:15-Allostasis: How Your Brain Allocates
05:07-The Hidden Reason Therapy Isn’t Working
06:30-Why Perfectionist Brains Cost More to Operate
07:25-Living in a Depleted State Without Realizing It
09:31-Stressed out: Eustress vs. Distress
10:29-Truth about Cortisol + Stress Response
12:35-The Slow Drip of Perfectionist Burnout
15:17-How to Tell if You’re Running on Empty

 

 

Citations/Sources:

  1. Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  2. Bobba-Alves, N., Juster, R.-P., & Picard, M. (2022). The energetic cost of allostasis and allostatic load. Psychoneuroendocrinology146, 105951. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2022.105951
  3. Dwyer, P. (2022). The Neurodiversity Approach(es): What Are They and What Do They Mean for Researchers? Human Development66(2), 73–92. https://doi.org/10.1159/000523723
  4. Ganzel, B. L., & Morris, P. A. (2011). Allostasis and the developing human brain: Explicit consideration of implicit models. Development and Psychopathology23(4), 955–974. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0954579411000447‌
  5. Guidi, J., Lucente, M., Sonino, N., & Fava, Giovanni A. (2020). Allostatic Load and Its Impact on Health: A Systematic Review. Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics90(1), 11–27. https://doi.org/10.1159/000510696
  6. Kleckner, I. R., Zhang, J., Touroutoglou, A., Chanes, L., Xia, C., Simmons, W. K., Quigley, K. S., Dickerson, B. C., & Feldman Barrett, L. (2017). Evidence for a large-scale brain system supporting allostasis and interoception in humans....
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