White knuckling your way through dumpster fires + stacked deadlines might *seem impressive* but underneath constantly second-guessing yourself, obsessively counting of how much you accomplished while beating yourself up — are hidden costs eating away at your efficiency (and overall ability to enjoy the life you’ve worked so hard to create). This episode names what you couldn’t explain...until now.
Resources Mentioned In Episode 255:
- The Impact & Intention Framework Ep. 171
- Finding Your Compelling Why’s Ep. 174
- Asking High Quality Questions Ep. 231
- Giving Yourself Validation Ep. 237
- Having Impeccable Boundaries 239
- Being A Curious Scientist Instead Of The Judge Ep. 208
- Using Your Mood Meter Ep. 254
- Understanding Your Person Account Ep. 252
- Measuring Your Person Account Ep.253
- Identifying Perfectionist Prediction Loops Ep. 250
- Popping Up In Perfectionistic Brain Ep. 249
- Deliberate Disruption The Calibration
Timestamps:
00:00–Striving for excellence in a dumpster fire while white knuckling
01:59-Definition of perfectionism
03:13–Uncomfy confession my overfunctioning
04:48–When powering through stops working
05:35–Fear uncertainty and doubt in disguise
06:40–Second guessing yourself despite the evidence
07:17– Are You Making This Huge Perfectionistic Mistake
08:31–Why overachievers get to disappointed in myself spirals
09:06–Over functioning feeds control issues BEST analogy
09:55–Beating yourself up When is enough enough
11:03–How I’m able to stop pushing through before burnout
12:05–Why perfectionist tendencies turn poisonous
13:45–The Clueless Mismatch Tool
14:20– Choosing what's familiar over what's functional
15:03–Disrupt overachiever autopilot with The Calibration
16:12–Tools to stop second guessing yourself
17:56–Perfectionism Podcast BTS
Quotes on Perfectionism:
"Most perfectionists conflate measuring with counting. You count how much you got done that day, you look at your to do list, all the check marks you count and you think that is measuring." –Courtney Love Gavin, Expert on Perfectionism Neuroscience
"You can't solve a problem when you continue to use methods that perpetuate it. And until you disrupt where those perfectionist tendencies are coming from, your brain will continue choosing what's familiar over what's functional." –Courtney Love Gavin, Expert on Perfectionism Neuroscience
Highly Credible Sources Cited in this Perfectionism Podcast:
- Anderson, E. C., R. Nicholas Carleton, Diefenbach, M., &
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