Political Choices, Identity as a Country, and Family Traditions

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What if the polarizing legacy of a single presidency could redefine the way we view leadership and unity? Join us as we dissect the controversial era of former President Donald Trump, exploring the powerful emotions and actions stirred within both his supporters and critics. We navigate through the complexities of political responsibility, the impact of freedom of speech, and the critical moments when black voter turnout altered the course of history, all while emphasizing the undeniable power of collective action in a functioning democracy.

Our conversation takes a spirited turn as we tackle the sensitive and ever-evolving topics of gender identity and reproductive rights. With candid anecdotes and humorous insights, we shine a light on the importance of safe sex, personal responsibility, and open communication in intimate relationships. We also delve into the emotional and often overlooked experiences faced by both partners in these relationships, advocating for mutual respect and understanding as the bedrock for nurturing healthy connections.

Celebrating family legacy and purpose, we share personal reflections and aspirations that honor cherished memories and envision future generations. From the heartfelt remembrance of beloved family figures to the comedic musings on personal legacy and funeral plans, this episode intertwines humor and sincerity to explore what it means to create a lasting impact. As we wrap up with a nod to the vibrant world of reality TV, we extend our gratitude to our listeners, inviting them to embrace authenticity and join us on this journey of introspection and appreciation.

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
this old ass, nigga Donald.
You said who now?
Nigga Donald?
I ain't even calling this niggaby his last nigga name.
Nigga Donald, don, you mean thepresident?
Yeah, president, if he make itthere, if he make it, they did

(00:24):
try to go for his life one time,right.
If you make it there, if hemake it there, they did try to
go for his life one time, right,they did try.
They say twice I don't believethat shit, man, nigga, I don't
believe it at all.
Can't catch a packet on this,exactly the one that Chick-fil-A
got.
You can open it all the way oryou can just squirt the shit out
.
That's what he had.
My man, I don't commend nothingthat nigga had.

(00:47):
Buyer taco sauce, taco bellyeah, diablo's up, I know that
shit when I see it.
Him and the sauce was the samecolor.
It had an orange U-tube.
Do you find yourself as apolitical person?
Nah, I just don't like that,nigga.
Yeah, I think that's by design,though.
I think the politics, the redand blue side, I think that

(01:11):
shit's by design.
Freedom speakers.
For some people, today is a dayto rejoice.
For some people, it's a daythat they're just dreading
moving forward, and it'sprobably because you were built
not to like the presidencycandidates.
Yeah, I seen some people notlike Kamala and do some cruel

(01:32):
shit.
Yeah, mispronouncing her nameIntentionally, intentionally,
they know her name Kamala.
Did I say it right?
Yes, kamala.
Okay, I want to make sure I sayit right.
You got to correct me becauseI'll be fucking next time.
We got your back.
But no, I don't consider myselfpolitical man.
I had a political economicdecisions class in the year 2008

(01:55):
, an election year that's whenObama was running and that was
probably the best time to havethat class, not just any
election year, but that electionyear in particular.
So I learned a lot.
I'm trying to teach my kidskind of how this shit go, you
know.
But last night I'm not worried,bro, I ain't worried.

(02:20):
I'm certainly not rejoicing.
I'm certainly kind of like ahman, the country wanted this
nigga again.
He already showed you what hewas and maybe you like that,
maybe you with that, maybe youwith you know a campaign of, of,
of hate.
A campaign of hate Because hethe type of motherfucker who

(02:40):
will throw the rock and hide hishand.
You know what I'm?
Motherfucker who will throw therock and hide his hand.
You know he say little slickshit to, to, to rile up his base
.
That's what he do because heknow the people who supports him
.
I don't I don't necessarilythink donald trump is racist
himself.
I don't think he's racisthimself, but he gonna rock with
the racism because he knowthat's gonna get him.

(03:02):
Him where he needs to go, he,as you mentioned, and I when he
want to go.
This is a coin turn by you, man.
You cannot choose your audience.
Yeah, I did say that.
So those people who rock withhim rock with him for a reason.
Yeah, they most definitely rockwith him for a reason.
They most definitely proven tohave his back.
But then he like he plays intothat shit, though.

(03:24):
Like he plays into that shit.
So you remember.
You know what was it 2016,?
Man Fucking they pushing theblack girl around at your rally
and shit Looking like they wantto fucking jump or worse, and he
championing shit.
Oh, 50 years ago it wouldn'thave been ugly, it would have

(03:45):
been pretty.
Like you're supposed to be thepresident, man.
Yeah, you're supposed to be thepresident.
I don't want my president to bean asshole.
Assholes are necessary in theworld.
I don't want my president to beone necessarily.
No, no, at least not againstpeople who live here.
Now, when you in them rooms andyou got to get some shit done,

(04:08):
you got to lay down the law, yougot to put that shit on the
table.
But we talking about a blackgirl who was at your rally for
whatever reason, to fuckingprotest against or what have you
and they pushing this womanaround and you you know what I'm
saying championing that shitLike man.
That shit is not okay.
That shit is not okay.
I agree that it's not okay, man.

(04:28):
I think that it's sad At thesame time.
You know they had the wholerally with people storming the
Capitol.
Yeah, yeah, it's a revolution,that shit.
We're going down to the Capitol, you rallying niggas out and
this is what happened.
People die because of what yousaid.
You gotta own your word.
You have freedom of speech, butyou don't just have freedom

(04:49):
from the actions behind yourwords.
You know what I'm saying.
You not just exempt from oh, Ididn't say that, it's not my
fault.
See, you throw the rock andhide your hand.
From January 6th Was that 2021?
You know what I'm saying?
On down the line, I don't likedude as a person.
He's not somebody who I wouldsay hey, I want that guy to run

(05:14):
the country I live in?
Nah, nah.
But people with that on top ofthe fact, man, he's already
shown you, he's already shownyou who he is as a leader and
you got people, whatever colorthey may be, people who say, you
know what?
Yeah, let's run that back.
Let's do that again.

(05:34):
Look at how the pandemic withit didn't have to go that way.
Canada didn't have millions ofpeople who died three times the
amount of people who died inCanada died in the United States
.
Word, there was shit in placethat under the Obama
administration, things were inplace in case of a global

(05:56):
pandemic, a global pandemichappens.
This is what you do.
One of the first things thatTrump did in his presidency was
hey, get rid of that shit, wedon't need it.
We don't need it, we don't needit.
2017, 2018, two years later,what happened?
Covid, coronavirus and all ofthe shit that was put in place

(06:17):
was fucking gone.
The trump presidency benefitedfrom the first two years.
See the country.
Just don't, don't go to shit intwo weeks.
You know I'm saying it takestime, but he benefited from
things that the obamaadministration had in place in
the first two years of hispresidency, that last two years.
That's when it's really like onyou.

(06:38):
Now what are you showing?
You don't just become president.
You know I'm saying january20th and then bang everything
you want right here today.
It takes some time and afterthat two years, look all of what
happened.
Oh, he get the, he get the, heget the bonus points because his
, his name was on the stimuluschecks.
There's been stimulus checksand and things like that put out

(06:59):
, but the president, personresponsible, is not looking to
get the, the direct credit.
I'm put my name on that shit,whether it come as a paper check
or go into your, your directdeposit, your shit.
Say, donald j trump, you knowI'm saying that's not the first
form of of, uh, of aid to go out, but he, the type of person who
wants credit, that's somethinglike that itself.

(07:21):
Is you having your name on theshit in which it didn't even
come from republicans, that thatstimulus came from democrats.
But you're the president andyou want your name on the checks
.
You want your name on a directdeposit.
You want the clout.
Yeah, you want the credit,clout chasing and it like it
wasn't you.
You know I'm saying so that manand and we outnumbered.
We outnumbered.
From what I heard last night andover the last month or so with

(07:46):
early voting, black people didtheir job.
Black people did their job.
Man Got out and voted.
You have black people who arenot necessarily concerned with
who you vote for.
You went out and voted.
You know some people don'tvalue that as much value.
You know.
We find ourselves in a placewhere we feel like our vote
don't matter fucking matters.
When you saw what happened in2008, when people went out and

(08:07):
drove people voting for thefirst time, I thought I was too
young to vote, but I'mresponsible for about 30 people
getting up, getting out thereand voting you know what I'm
saying.
And then, come 2012, make thatwas my first time voting went
out there, but president obamadidn't beat john mcc McCain by
no little bit as much time as itwas taking last night for those

(08:27):
states to turn blue or red man,obama ran through the East
Coast Virginia, maryland, dc,new York, ohio, pennsylvania.
Man, that shit was blue as aQuick Quick.
I don't even think John McCainhad 100 electoral votes.
I might be wrong, but I knowObama had over 300.

(08:48):
I believe he had around320-something electoral votes in
that first year.
You can't tell me voting don'tmatter, when we rocking the
shirts and when you bumping mypresident is black by Jeezy,
that shit matter.
Featuring Nas yeah, when wewent out there and we showed
like let's vote, let's do thisshit, black president, he a

(09:08):
great guy, he ain't got noearring.
You know what I'm saying.
Let's get out here and do thisshit and look at what happened.
That shit matters, yeah.
But you see, when we split,when we split and a lot of us
have been managed it don'tmatter.
They're going to have who theywant.
They're going to have.
Did they want to buy?
Maybe, maybe not.

(09:28):
It's a lot of conspiracy, shitthat I don't know about.
You know what I'm saying, butyou saw what happened in 2008.
And in 2012,.
Hey, maybe we ran our gas alittle bit.
We got a little sport.
We didn't go out there and doas much when he ran against mitt
romney, but when we were splitbetween trump and hillary,

(09:51):
hillary was getting the.
You know what the nigga herevotes.
Hang in here, bitch.
You got because she had hotsauce in her right, just like
she had the black vote, or justman, just because I don't like
him, I'm gonna give you mine,but you ain't shit either.
Bitch.
My president is playing isblack, you know, but you see
what happens.
So when black people we findourselves split between, first
of all, I'm going to vote forTrump, because it's a lot of

(10:12):
black people, men and women, alot of people who feel this
country is not ready for notjust a black female president,
but a female president period,the leader of the free world
being a woman.
A lot of people, men and women,got a huge problem with that.
So far, donald Trump has onlydefeated women for the

(10:37):
presidency.
He grabbed them by the pussy.
You're a fool, man.
Donald J Trump is a pussygrabber, yeah, but Hillary
Clinton, kamala Harris, itdidn't go that way when you ran
against Joe.
Trump is a woman beater now.
Yeah, woman beater.
That's what he is woman beater.
You put him in the election,heard it here first people Trump
is a woman like beater.

(10:58):
We not putting that out there?
Woman election beater, yeah,although electoral clearly was
grabbing pussies, however.
But I don't know, I'mdisappointed today.
You know what I'm saying Onthis post-election morning, but
at the end of the day, man, Iain't worried, though I ain't

(11:18):
worried, I'm disappointed, kindof like ah, man, this nigga
Again, this nigga again.
You know what I'm saying.
I'm disappointed in our countryas a whole but ultimately, I
know who's king.
I know who's king.
I ain't worried about no mansitting in the seat, me and mine
going to be okay.
You know what I'm saying.
Jesus is king man.

(11:39):
Jesus dot Christ.
Stop playing with me.
So I ain't worried.
I'm just more so disappointed,like, wow, this man, he showed,
he showed who he was, ran on acampaign of hate and and people
who just get riled up with withanger.
It was driven from anger andhate.

(11:59):
You know I'm saying forparticular people, for people
who weren't born in this country.
Is america not the land of thefree?
Is it not the melting potanymore?
You know how many different youknow I'm saying ethnicities of
people are responsible forbuilding this country.
I'm not talking about justblack people.
Yeah, they isolated in the vote.

(12:19):
We need the white vote, theblack, yeah, uh, we need the
oriental.
Whoever the fuck gonna go outand vote.
Like you said, it don't matterwho you voted for, but it's.
I guess I come from the placeof man.
You know how many people diefor your vote, for you to have
that ability to be able to goout and do it For sure.
Yeah, it's that.
That's what made me go out andbe like all right, I'm like, I'm

(12:40):
, it's that and it's and it'snot only that man, but it's just
the, the people who see it'sbeen, it's still happened.
I'm not saying, you know, policekillings have not happened
under the Biden administration.
That would be ridiculous for meto say but wasn't it?

(13:01):
Wasn't it better though?
Am I tripping?
That wasn't it?
Wasn't it better though?
Am I tripping?
That?
Wasn't that better?
Like safety, yeah, no, what Imean is it seemed like every
week under the trumpadministration, from from 2016
to 2020, it seemed like a hellof a lot of just police killings

(13:23):
.
You know what I'm sayingBecause they and I don't know
what it is in that white mindbut do you feel?
You see these people?
They feel empowered, they feelemboldened.
You know what I'm saying To dowhat they want.
I ain't talking about just thepolice, but to do what they want
to do, say what they want tosay.
I would say I had to sit hereand think, because I know that,
most definitely, murder happensquite often, and a lot of it

(13:45):
don't make it to the news, but Iwant to say we did have a lot
of national murders.
We had the one young I can'tremember what his name with the
young man went down there withthe assault rifle, killing
people and got bailed out ofjail.
Man, it's too many, it's toomany to name?
Yeah, so, but it's too many,it's too many to name yeah, so,
but you know, that's one of themthat I do believe in man and I

(14:07):
do think that I don't want tosound like I'm not a political
person For real.
I thought I wanted to be inpolitics but I really got to see
.
You know, it's a job still forpeople, still an appointment,
people still got agendas.
Honestly, man, like, just likewhat you said, and he was
quoting me.
Like you know, we may not viewourselves as political people,

(14:29):
but you almost have to be, youalmost have to be.
For example, how you feel aboutabortion, bro, I'm for it, I am
for making, I am for abortion,pro-choice, I'm pro-choice, yes,
pro-choice, me too, pro-choice,I'm pro-choice, yes, Pro-choice
, me too, okay, me too.
So and I'll say this I ampro-choice for it because that's

(14:51):
a firm decision that thatperson still has to make, still
has to live with.
Yeah, and I respect that personbeing like, hey, I'm not ready,
yeah, I'm not ready, thisisn't't you know.
You can, you can give me anyother reason, check this out,
and you don't have to give me areason.
You feel me?
Yeah, but I done been in thatclinic, nigga.
I done been in thatmotherfucking clinic.

(15:12):
Talk to him.
So, I done been in the clinic.
Um, some people be hysterical.
The girl real talk now, listenlike now.
When it comes to that, you knowthey speak about the extremes,
you know.
So you talk about.
You know the R word Incest Towhere you know Abortion is then

(15:35):
necessary.
But then you got, hey, she saidnothing to me, I did, and now
she need $400.
You know, yeah, it happened.
But I'm gonna make it personalwith my situation.
My wife and I we got fourchildren, four.
We're married, established home, we're good.

(15:57):
Do I want another baby in thatmotherfucker?
No, I do not.
Now, it's certain things thatwe need to do.
You know she's taking birthcontrol.
Now I need to get me a sniptuck, I'm going to get me one.
We're going to get matchingpersectomies.

(16:18):
Bro, you with me.
I got to do more research.
Come on, man, I like to paint,I like to paint.
I like to paint, I like topaint, I like to paint.
We gonna talk about it, man,but that's something that me and
Meekam are talking aboutbecause ultimately, I don't want
her having to take birthcontrol.
I would rather go ahead and getthe vasectomy, you know, but
we'll touch on that later.
But what people need tounderstand, because when people

(16:40):
hear People hear that, oh,they're pro-choice on the
permission.
Pro-choice means you know youcan keep the baby too.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Pro-choice means to me I'mpro-do you.
Yeah, pro-choice to me means Iain't in your shit.
Yeah, my pro-choice means mychoice for you don't fucking

(17:01):
matter.
Yeah, that's for you.
Baby, that's for you.
Pro-do you, that's for you.
So let's change our stand.
We're not pro-choice, we're notpro-life, we're pro-do you.
You have the freedom to makeyour own decision.
Okay, that's what that means.
Like, hey, you being able.
So I got sisters, okay, and thesisters outweigh the brothers

(17:22):
in the family.
Yeah, and I got aunts thatoutweigh the uncles in the
family, all right.
So I know how having the powerof them, or, at a time, just
having to deliver babies, havinga certain medical that they
didn't have, rights that theydidn't have, and it's like, hey,
man, they still kind of arguingagainst like their own being

(17:45):
and then even being subjected asas real women by people who
classify them as, like a ciswomen.
And I hear that from my wife oflike is bickering amongst just
women, of you're not a realwoman, you're a cis woman, or
you're not a real woman becauseyou didn't have the baby
vaginally.
Yeah, well, what it was?
They say they they used.
It's about to get sticky bro.

(18:08):
The term cis woman is for whatwe would just call a woman, just
a natural born woman.
But with the transgender, them,you know, want to make
everything, put it, put thingsin a box.
In my opinion, um, they callnaturally born women cis women.
To understand, you know?

(18:28):
Now, I don't, I don't know, youknow what transgender women
even call themselves?
Do they call themselves transwomen or are they calling
themselves just women?
But then the real women are ciswomen.
Why?
I gotta have an extra goddamnprefix on my shit, for sure, for
sure, and I was born this way.
You know, I like the women thatare women that came from that

(18:54):
old-fashioned vagina cat.
Yeah, yeah, that one.
Her mama gave her that one.
Okay, that one, that woman.
And there's no disrespect to theLGBT community?
Yeah, no, disrespect community.
We got family and friends thatare a part of it, that we love
and we care for and protect atthe same time.
Sometimes it is, you know, wewant to be correct, but it is
like, hey, man, this shit, it,it, this just seem like it's
still developing.

(19:15):
Yeah for sure, man, and youcan't like, go to like over,
correct everything.
Sometimes it get to a point towhere even with, you know, with
women being allies to the lgbtcommunity, even got to speak and
say, hey, well, hold up, holdup.
Uh, my fellow, my fellow transwomen, chill the fuck out.
Now you're asking for too much.
You know, I'm saying you'retaking too much.
Yeah, like, we love you, weappreciate you, you're, you're,

(19:37):
you're welcome.
Okay, but come in here and sitthe fuck down, stop making all
that noise, stop jumping on mygoddamn couch, right?
So I'll say this, man, as thisquote is coming to me um, I do
not believe in boxes, but I dobelieve in boundaries.
Okay, I do believe inboundaries.
I believe like, hey, don't putme in no box of x, y, z, I'm

(19:59):
with that, but I do believe inboundaries of like, hey, you,
you have your respect, but thereare borders of like, hey, man,
I don't want to do this, I don'twant to do that, respect that
or this bothers me.
So remember we live in a verydifferent time than when we were
growing up.
When we were growing up, bro,you would say faggot, as just

(20:22):
you know.
You're talking shit amongstyour boys or you're trying to
humiliate each other and play,you know, jokingly, but you
ain't really know like youinsulting somebody for real.
You know what I'm saying.
So I'm we still learning and betrying to grow from being
immature you know what I'msaying, but it's still
developing.
You know what I'm saying.
So, taking it back for a secondman of like I said I got women

(20:42):
in our family, I got aunts andsisters and stuff like that, and
I've seen them in their lifeand their relationship, having
to make decisions as well onjust birth control of condoms,
to plan b to you know all thedifferent options out there.
So to be for them to be able tohave the option or choice, it's
like, okay, I want to vote onbehalf of that, knowing the

(21:05):
history at the same time and Idone been in the world and
seeing how just permission tospeak freely, absolutely.
I just been in the world to seeand be a part of pussies being
mismanaged.
Okay, so you, you, you, youjust having fun for one night,
yeah, and and it's like, hey,somehow you didn't forgot.

(21:26):
Yeah, you missed your incomeand then now you sick or
whatever.
Woo, woo, woo, sending that outlate and you need a couple.
When I went about $320 plus tax,$320.
Like $400.
Yeah, so I remember going.
I remember going one time, bro,and it wasn't even for us, from

(21:47):
Smorshen, it was going to get aplan B and as a man, I couldn't
go in there and just get theplan B and some might not know
where it's at.
It's over on Shaker, rememberthis was before that came out.
I always had to put my dick outon the counter to show this is
authentic, it's from my dad, youknow what I'm saying.
Like, hey, this is authentic,it's from my dad, you know what
I'm saying.
But I went in there to get itand they wouldn't let me just

(22:10):
get it as a man, because it'slike Hunter and Wade, we don't
know if we're like forcing heror going against her will.
Can you like call her orsomething?
Call the young lady, Call Chris, the way.
I like Chris, just act like you.
She was very cooperative.
So it was like hey, you know,didn't want to talk to you, got

(22:31):
to listen to this recording, youknow just the motivation.
And me just sitting in the lobby, bro, that shit make you change
your goddamn mind, it do.
He's just sitting there like weagree, bitch, if I got here?
You fucking agree.
I ain't even know.
We agree, bitch, if I got here,right, you fucking agree.
All right, let's round up thismoney, bitch, right.
But just having that choice, itwas like, hey, yeah, man for

(22:54):
sure I'm going to go get it.
They made me call her.
She talked to them.
They ended up giving it to me,but they gave me a stank face
like you convinced her Shut up,just one of them.
But this is before.
They sold Plan B's at DollarGeneral and shit.
You know what I'm saying.
You better take two of them.
Make sure you get all that upout of there.

(23:14):
Did you know?
Plan B's do not work if you areovulating?
Word, word, my nigga.
You got to read the fine print.
Well, hold tight though.
Word, my nigga.
You got to read the fine print.
Well, hold tight, though, holdtight.
Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
So plan Bs do not work if youare ovulating.
However, the time where youreally want to take a plan B is

(23:41):
if you just got bussed and youare in fact ovulating.
If you got cream pied yeah,cream pied up in that zone Right
While you're ovulating.
That's probably when you youknow hey, look, man, I'm I lost
once.
I lost one time I miscalculated, it was December 4th.

(24:02):
I thought we was good.
Yeah, I thought we was good.
Yeah, I thought we was good.
You know we wasn't.
You know the ovulation period,but it's, you know, it's a
window, and freedom speakerscorrect me if I'm you know I
don't, I don't have a vagina,okay.
However, there's a window, uh,you know, between cycles where a
woman is extremely likely toget pregnant and that's when you

(24:28):
probably really want to, reallywant to take that plan B.
So what is this?
I'm not sure We'll have to.
Freedom speakers, women, mostdefinitely women who are women
and they got that thing theymama gave them them.
Women or trans.
I'm willing to have aconversation and have somebody
come on here and really inviteus into that world and so we can

(24:51):
have some understanding.
But most definitely women first.
I want to hear from women.
You can DM us at permission,that number two underscore,
speak freely podcast, to be ableto become a guest onto the show
, please, and give us your viewsof these different things.
You know, we two men with dicksand balls just talking about
different things, but we wouldlove to have a woman's point of

(25:14):
these different things.
You know, we, we two men withdicks and balls just talking
about different things, but wewould love to have a, a woman's
point of view on things you feelme like.
I would love to be able to havethat woman in here and be able
to say, from her mind and notspeaking on all women, but just
whoever I rock with her, whoidentify with her, but I would
love that.
And if you would love to be onthe show, please, please, please
, please, reach out to us man.
So to us man.
Thank you so much.
I'm glad you said that, becausewe're hearing men speaking for
women right now and I don't wantto be a hypocrite, because we

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got men in office speaking forwomen too, and that's the
problem.
Yeah, understood, and this iswhy I'm like hey, I'm down for
the women to be able to speak upand have that platform and say
what they want to say.
Man, I'm, I am for that.
Um.
So when it comes to those thingsthat be on that's on the ballot

(25:57):
of abortion, hey man, I don'teven really feel like that's
something that men should be umtoo heavily a part of.
Yeah, however, oh, the baby tome is just as much his as it is
hers.
I think one of the things thatis swept up under the rug

(26:19):
sometimes is that, um, theemotion that the father has for
the child and every right thathe should, that should naturally
come with the birth of thechild.
Yeah, if the woman says I'mpregnant to that man and he like
, hey, I don't want it, itshould be a healthy discussion
for them to be able to resolvepregnancy, come to a resolution
on pregnancy decisions andoptions.

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Um, but if she chooses to goagainst that and say I want the
child, I do believe it's fairfor that man to be like, hey,
I'll still provide, but you kindof really going against my will
.
You almost crippling me orhandicapping me if I'm saying I
don't want it but you like yeah,because when the tables is
turned and she says she wants itand he doesn't, it's kind of

(27:03):
like she overrides everything.
It becomes a nature thing,whether it's my body, it's this
and that it was this, it's that.
It was like bitch, I was justin you too, and I'm with that.
But at the end of the day, weeverybody men, women we got to
be more responsible with sex.
There's a lot of reckless sexgoing on.
You know what I'm saying?

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Ultimately, babies can be bornfrom that.
It's unhealthy, it causesunhealthy upbringing.
Daddy wasn't there, mommywasn't there, that type of shit.
So we as a people, all people,we got to be more responsible
with sex, because it startsthere For sure.
It starts there.
If you're going to have sex,protect yourself.
Get a plan B when you don'tneed one.
That way you got one when youneed one.

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Yeah, the pull out method don'talways work.
Not always, they don't alwayswork.
You can make a little bit up inthere.
Don't let her ride too good,yeah, yeah.
Or throw it back.
Throw her off that.
Hey, get the fuck off me.
What's wrong with you?
Mhm, mhm, keep doing that.
Like you love me, you betterstop.
And if you in love, sometimesyou gotta stop.

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Them like hey, man, we alreadymarried.
We already married.
Hey, that's the fact.
Because I'm telling you, man,you doing it like, hey, I'm
telling you, don't worry aboutit, don't worry about it, yeah,
man.
So I say that, just so.
I do believe that men should beable to have a voice when it
comes to their children.
I believe that we have beenmuted a long time on that.
Fathers do actually care,fathers are around, fathers

(28:27):
social media makes thatavailable for us to see how
fathers are really involved andhow some aren't.
Um, and that fathers don't haveemotions when it comes to their
children, like fathers don'thave, uh, separation anxiety if
not seeing their children.
Fathers don't have postpartumdepression after the babies are
born or things of that nature,or still having to provide in

(28:48):
their roles.
You know what I'm saying.
So I just speak freely fromthat of having to kind of almost
fight, of like I give a fucktoo.
Yeah, yeah, man, it's like you,not by your goddamn self,
motherfucker.
It gets so ridiculous, man,because, man, you know we get
silenced.
You know what I'm saying.
We get told to shut up andsometimes we tell ourselves that

(29:12):
thing because it's.
You know, I'm a man, I gottajust with this.
Just what I'm trying to do iswhat I gotta deal with.
You know what it really takesfor us to speak up for one
another and for women tounderstand, man, that men, we
gotta go through this with you.
You know I'm saying, whether itbe a, a miscarriage happening or
an abortion, even if he say hedidn't want that baby, he's

(29:33):
still connected to you because apart of a part of him was
inside you for whatever periodof time.
You know I'm saying and it mayseem like that's something that
can just go away, but you'regonna be forever connected to
that person.
Y'all shared a child with a.
That child's life didn't lastas long as maybe it was supposed
to, you know, but y'all wentthrough that together.

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You know what I'm saying and Iguess I guess it depends on the
man as well.
You know what I mean Because,let's say, y'all in a
relationship and y'all decide tomake that choice, to terminate
the pregnancy.
He love you, he care about you.
He's definitely going throughthat.
Now, if you just got bussed downon Friday night and you didn't
even know his real name, hisname was T From the F.

(30:19):
It could have been TerrenceTerrell Terminator.
You don't know who the fuckthis nigga was, you know.
Sure, it's less of a connection.
However, you know we got to beresponsible with sex, I agree, I
agree, man, what would?
How would you promote safe sex?
Stop just fucking yo.
I always been a picky nigga.

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I ain't just fucking anything.
That's real.
I always been that way.
But it's a lot of that going on, man.
First night, one night standsand all that shit.
You know what I'm saying.
You don't believe.
In one night stands he said no,if we're being responsible, no,
you don't think.
Hold on.
So time means responsibility.
It's definitely a part of it.

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So you wouldn't get no pussyfirst night.
If you got a rubber, I'd beconcerned.
It's like a mudflag, notconcerned like a mother fucker,
I'd be concerned like a motherfucker.
Okay, let's paint this.
I'm a fun type nigga.
I understand.
I understand, maybe at a time,but not now, not now.

(31:21):
This is why I'm asking whattime we talking.
If I met her tonight, or I knewher four weeks, hey, man, if
she trying.
Nah, we had this discussing aswell.
Man, hoes are important and Idon't mean hoes disrespectfully.
Hoes should be valued.
Hoes are fun, hoes are neededin the world and in some cases,

(31:42):
hoes keep relationships together.
Yeah, cause she convinced youthat you can't stay there.
You got to go back home.
This is true as well.
But you got to be responsiblewith the hoes.
You can't be shooting the hoesclub up.
Fellas, you know what I'm saying.
Wrap it up.
You know what I mean.
Hoes, you can't be.
If you know you ain't on thepill, if you know you ain't got

(32:02):
the depo shot, don't know.
And I and I gotta go backbecause I don't want to take.
How about be responsible withsex?
Why y'all gotta fuck today?
Because we horny again.
You'll see.
But see now like, and I and Iunderstand, don't feel into
manage.

(32:23):
This is true and I dounderstand you can't.
Just you get some head, getsome head from where 69 I can't
from, can't get pregnant fromhead.
You good, hey, that it's a blowjob.
Nostalgia moment, real quick.
People, don't get in troublewith your nostalgia, go ahead.
No, I mean, I remember when mymother growing up used to always

(32:44):
say to us like a spit, don'tmake babies.
Oh shit, spit don't make babies.
So you better tell that girlput her mouth on the spit, don't
make no babies.
And I had to sit back and belike man.
Did you tell them?
My sister's?
The same shit.
Tell the nigga, eat the box,tell him, just spit on it.
But just, uh, vague information, just suck it.

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That's it like's that it comesfrom different angles, but I
will say, when it comes to thoselike to sex, because that's an
important part of life, remember, we marry men and then say it
on the show Like hey man, youknow we can put a zero on that
number at the end of that time.
How many times we having sexper month?

(33:25):
You know what I'm saying.
Nigga, put a zero on there.
You know what I'm saying nigga,put a zero on there.
You know I'm saying nigga, likenigga put, nigga could put a
zero on there and be like hey,you know you can get that little
ass up, let me get.
Let me get a little, a littlebit more what you saying.
You sitting around on thatcoochie all day, get that shit.
You ain't doing that.
You with that coochie gonnaserve you no justice, just
warming that motherfucker up.
Let me out.

(33:46):
Can I have it please, please,you ain't doing shit with me.
Get that shit the fuck up.
And I say that as, like hey man, I look at sex from a very
tribal ritual standpoint.
More than just a hump and bump,it's a meme going around on
social media where they got thelady like all they want to do is
do this to you.

(34:06):
Yeah, they just want to do that, yeah, and she, she got a good
rhythm smacking, yeah.
But I understand the teachingsthat come in out of the, the um
trust that comes with that, likeexercising the trust in that,
or the exercise and thevulnerability that comes with
that, like, bitch you about tosee me naked, probably on soft

(34:29):
and hard Little chub too.
Yeah, you gonna see, I gottawalk to the bathroom naked.
Like this nigga got hips.
You know what I'm saying, hegonna, but just, he got booty
hair.
Yeah, he was like this nigga.
He got some pimples on his ass.
But this is with one another.

(34:50):
And then still, because youadded a layer, now, right, you
added a layer and then still beable to see how can you manage
yourself with this person,mm-hmm, and if you and if you so
I'll tell you this if, when Iknow I'm handling business right
at home with wifey, for sureshe becomes extra domestic
towards me, okay, towards me,okay, all right.
So if I'm handling businessright on the couple times I

(35:11):
might get blessed with my nest,that she'll become extremely
domestic.
She already a cook and do stufflike that, but she'll do
certain things special for me.
So I'm a huge tea person.
How people are so overhead overheels for their coffee, I'm the
same way about my tea and I gota particular way.
I like my tea.
When I see her giving a damnabout the details of my tea,

(35:35):
especially within like the last48, 18, 48 hours of getting
smack right, and I get to seethis hey, you know, I got your
tea ready.
I know you like this particulartea.
I got some, some lemons, I thinkfresh lemons.
I actually grew them for you,yeah, and rinsed them off, diced
them up the way that you like.
I made them in quarters, I putthem in there with your two ice

(35:55):
cubes.
I even rinsed the ice cubes offso they're really icy, they're
fresh ice for you.
I put them in there and I gotthis set up for you.
I got your Reese's Cups for you.
Later I got two, threedifferent things that I thought
for you for for dinner andthat's you gonna let him do this
shit.
That's just gloating to me.
But as I told you, bro, I hadto learn and it's just freedom.

(36:16):
Speakers to men.
I know we are very, very, uh,sexually motivated, okay.
So this is why hoes win.
Sometimes they look at it.
Your wife should still be yourhoe.
She should not like, take thatout.
Like, don't you dare try tohave a quality of your fucking
self now, bitch you marriedmotherfucker.
You supposed to be the biggesthoe ever.
Throw that ass back now, don'tyou like?

(36:38):
I said don't.
Why the fuck is she sitting onthe ass all goddamn day,
motherfucker, you don't serve,give it to me.
So an old hoe Told me this backin the day.
She's like this, my cock.
Okay, you feel blessed To bethat.
I let you in and she had to beold Cause she called her shit a
cock.
Yeah, that's wild, that's crazy.
You know what I'm saying.
So she want one of them airs.
But she like hey, this is mineand I, I gatekeep, who comes in

(37:01):
and now you can have some youcan visit.
But goes and comes with me,young man, okay, and I would
just yes, man, you are.
Nothing truer was ever saidabout the power of your pussy of
like, hey, this I control whovisit, I know who I'm probably
pregnant to fuck by.

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Remember that's great pussymanagement.
I think that fell off somewhereby niggas getting really good
with talking shit to bitchesbecause they like to be ear
fucked, they like to be saidgood shit too, and they just
have fun for a little while, andsometimes fun can be mismanaged
.
Okay, it can be mismanaged.
So this is where the freeclinic.

(37:42):
Come in, the smorgasbord clinic.
Come in, go get yourself yourshots, get yourself cleaned up,
but keep in mind you can't stopsex, but you have to be
responsible, and I'm a hugeresponsible person on that.
Like fellas, don't eatunqualified box, not at all okay

(38:02):
if if she eating seafood boilsand you don't see no water in
the house, and I mean qualitywater, high, high ph, like some
some puree, some intentionalwater.
She got, yeah, she got theessential joints.
She got the, not just thenestle your life, yeah, don't
get no goddamn nasty as dearpart.
Some great value, regular shit,the sonny don't get.

(38:23):
Which great value is actuallypretty good great value.
You said which one great value?
The walmart brand brand water.
I mean, it tastes good.
I don't have a vagina to manage, so I'm good.
Yeah, however, but as men,because we talk a lot about the
genie, you know you have a woman, come in and finish that
another day.
But for men, your sexual healthtoo.
Bruh Water, vegetables Ain't nowoman trying?

(38:46):
You want her to swallow yourshit?
Pineapple juice, but, nigga,your shit tastes saltier than
the motherfucker from whichshe's stating yeah, chipotle,
like nigga, you got too muchprotein in your diet.
Nigga, food, food, food.
Drink you some water, nigga,work out.
Yeah, walk the block.
Get you to do some pushups.
Keep your shit right.
As you get older, nigga, youmight find your shit not being

(39:09):
like it was, your erection notbeing like it was when you was a
teenager and your dick just gothard because the wind blew.
Now, as a grown man, you moremental.
When you young, remember, youwould just fuck because the
pussy dangling it's there.
Now, as a grown man with shitand bills and commitments, you
like I ain't even got the mentalspace to fuck today.

(39:32):
And this extra pussy you tryingto throw?
Nah, you don't attract me.
You ain't even got a vehicle,baby, you fucking with value now
.
So, men, I gotta come get you.
Nah, I'm good.
We can't meet nowhere.
Nah, I'm okay, it's too muchwork.
You gotta fuck with value, man.

(39:53):
You gotta that man if you arelooking to get top-notch women
to your scope, okay, so what'swhat works for you?
If it's she got some skills andshe got some abilities and she
got some talents for show, ifshe look good to you, she got
the aesthetic to you, she got astyle to you, she hold herself

(40:13):
in a way, she got to come.
Whatever it is, make sure thatshit work for you and it's
quality man, so that before yougo ahead and you eating box or
you stroking or you feel like,hey, man, I'm gonna go ahead and
drop one off, you didn'tprocess that this person has
some qualities that I can fuckwith, I can work with, I can
manage, and not just we got thesexual chemistry, because that

(40:34):
shit can wear off.
Yeah, that shit can wear off.
And if you try to build afoundation on sex because this
is why we got to be responsiblefor sex, okay, you hit off with
Shorty first night and it's good, it's the bomb.
Damn, she was doing this andthat to.
To the brother you said, ohgirl, he was hitting all my
spots.
You go ahead and try to build afoundation on sex.

(40:54):
That shit is not solid, it isnot gonna last, but it's a
really good substitute.
It's a really good substitute.
You get to, she get to work inthat she get to shift the gears
On your shit, nigga, she get to.
Just, it's nice if you'retrying to, if you're trying to
build a tent, yeah.
So I'll say this.

(41:15):
I say that because we alwayspromote as men Jokingly Like to
our wives or women or the womenwe date or whatever that if we
were to probably Get a littlebit more sex, we would be a
little bit more sex, we would bea little bit more nicer, we'd
be a little bit more motivated.
The kids would be happier.
For sure they have a betterfather in their life.
Real shit, man, I'm so much ofa better dad after I done got

(41:38):
some men Like hey, son, you needhelp with your own.
It's okay, you didn't do sogood on your spelling test, huh,
hey, we'll get them next time.
Champ, let's have some icecream with sprinkles.
Let me be two weeks out the gameBoy.
Didn't we rehearse you boys?
And that's just how it go.
Say, be two weeks out the game,two weeks out the game.

(41:59):
Kids watch out.
That's 14 days.
Look out for your children,ladies, do it for the kids.
If not for him, do it for thechildren.
Yeah, man, so we promote.
Hey, this is why hoes bewinning, and maybe hoes can give
wives some advice.
You know what I'm saying.
Hey look, baby, don't everforget the husband, don't forget
the man.

(42:19):
Fuck him regularly.
You know what I'm saying.
Make sure he right, don't makeit a job.
Make it, you know.
Make, enjoy it if it'senjoyable.
If it's if it's enjoyable, ifit's not, you might want to
speak up and say something likehey, baby, a little bit to the
left, a little bit to the right,a little bit more, drink you
some water, drink, uh, take yousome vitamins or something.
Amen.
So I'll say this, one of thethings that do help me, excuse

(42:43):
me, in the morning, making sureI keep my just my shit right on
some men's health.
For a second, mental health andsexual health.
As I mentioned earlier, man, I'ma huge tea person, so I like to
drink my tea raw no honey, nosugar, no nothing.
I just like to drink it raw.
However, I do enjoy the naturalbenefits of what what raw honey

(43:06):
can do for you.
You know I what I'm saying?
The antioxidants for your body,indigestion, all of the good
stuff, and you ain't got to killnothing for it to be made.
So I'll ask Nessa, becauseshe's going to be making my tea
for me in the mornings.
Hey, can you just go ahead andput a little bit of honey in
there for me and I drink it likethat, man, I don't add no

(43:30):
domino sugar, no, save a lot ofsugar, no, all these sugar, no,
no, nothing.
I'll add.
No, nothing, none of that.
But drinking that tea was likeanother herb for me, man.
It gives me like some mentalclarity.
Um, I can feel, you know, myenergy be good.
You know, I got the, uh, thatextra little kick.
Sometimes the tea got thecaffeine in there.
So this, this you mentioned awhile ago, you had five things

(43:55):
that every man should have, fivethings a quality man should
have.
You want to recap your listreal quick, if you remember?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, man, realquick.
Five things that most Two bags,glasses, a do-rag, uh, some
black efforts I was going to saysome white forces, that's great
, beat it again.
But on the basics, man, one,have you and this is no
particular order, I can'tremember exactly a particular

(44:16):
order, just give a few if youcan.
One have yourself a tool bag.
Two have yourself means ofreliable transportation.
Three have you some money, akasome hustle something about
yourself.
You can get to the bag in somekind of way to get things moving
.
The number four is a big one,is a game changer, of giving you
, like a, a place to live thatshows a heavy level of

(44:39):
responsibility, uh, and you canrecruit women to come and lay up
in your spot, you know, safelyright.
And then the last one would be,you know, having some style,
some personality, some Eitheryou being able to dress, you
funny, you got a good sense ofhumor, you smart, you
intellectual, you know, you deep.
You know what I'm saying.
You read a lot.
It was something that Show someintellect, absolutely, man.

(45:00):
So just those five things, man,I feel like, and those are just
the basics, man.
Those just get you in the door,get you started.
Yeah, but the reason why I askedyou to recap that and, by the
way, I famously went into awhole women don't want him, but
we already talked about that.
I stand on that.
Can you curate real quick,perhaps, five things that make

(45:26):
up a quality woman, just fromyour perspective?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
What are five things that youwould like to see that a woman
has For me, man, I like, if Ican go, five things and it's
just.
You know that's a good-assquestion, man.
So five things for me.
That gets me, and I'm going toask you this too.
So keep your thoughts.
So keep your thoughts, takenotes and it's off the riff.

(45:50):
For me, probably the number onething that I would need from her
man is like a level ofcooperation, like, hey, baby, we
a team, but I'm in charge, youare in charge on things that are
, you know, she more powerfulthan me.
But let's communicate, whichwould be number two.
Okay, communication is numbertwo.
She got to be able toeffectively communicate with me

(46:12):
in any manner.
She can write a note, she candraw me a picture, she can be
really good with her words, shecan text it, she can be vivid
with it and not have to be open.
So being cooperative is one,communicating is two.
So being cooperative is one,communicating is two.
Number three I need her to besensual.
Be a girl, be a motherfuckinggirl.

(46:35):
Be a girl, okay, be a girl.
Play in makeup, do your hairStretch, be flexible, shave your
booty hole if you can reach it,you know.
But like self-care, warm towelon your shit.
But be a girl, polish polishingnails.
Be a girl, be a fucking girl,all right, and then four would

(46:56):
be I need her to becomplimentary.
You know she doesn't have to beinvolved in everything I do
physically, but if she justcheering for me, yeah, that's a
heavy thing, like.
That's a heavy, heavy thing oflike hey, you, you speaking that
life into me and I'm that manthat I need, that I thrive off

(47:18):
of, off off that, those words ofaffirmation, that powerful
thing.
Then the last one would be,which probably should be the
first one to be honest with you,is respect.
Respect, which probably shouldbe the first one to be honest
with you, is respect.
Respect like respect, probablybefore all of those that I think
all of those are filtered intorespect, yeah, but respect is
probably the biggest submissionthat this part.

(47:39):
Anybody for sure man, and Ithink a lot of women really
don't even understand why wefeel that way.
You know I'm saying these daysI was like a lot of women just
have a desire to go against.
You know I'm saying what days Ifeel like a lot of women just
have a desire to go against.
You know I'm saying what a niggareally got to say.
Like I ain't trying to tell you, I'm just a mcgrath, I'm like I
ain't trying to, I ain't tryingto tell you nothing that's
gonna put us in harm's way, putyou in danger, put us in the

(48:00):
fucked up position.
But when I'm saying something,I'm trying to get you to say,
hey, baby, this, this what wegonna do, we gonna move this way
, you know, saying we're notgonna do that this month, but
next month we'll start that.
You know what I mean.
Whatever the case may be.
And then just the need to havesome sort of rebuttal you know
how sexy to be just for you togo.
Okay, I like that plan.

(48:24):
You know what I'm saying,especially if I made it make
sense.
Yeah, yeah, now, if I'm justtelling you some straight
bullshit and you don't, hey, yousure, and that's the man who
ain't got, you know what I'msaying?
The intellect.
You probably shouldn't be withthat guy.
By the way.
However, yeah, that respect man, oh my God, that's invaluable.
So I'll say this If you noticedin the, in the five things that

(48:57):
I wrote down, that I mean thatI didn't write them, I said them
.
Yeah, I probably won't remember,I'm gonna listen back, yeah,
but if you notice, I didn't evenmention love.
Most, most men, okay, freedomspeakers and I'm speaking, you
know, specifically, specificallyto the women my bad are driven.
Most men are driven by othervalues and other admirations in
life, besides pussy beingdriving him after a while,

(49:21):
material things, that doesn'tdrive him after a while.
But you respecting that person,you being cooperative with that
man, you having a sense ofhuman personality, like on your
own, you really like hey, Iguess you can say like I, and I

(49:43):
believe this with my whole heartman, I feel like most women
ride heavier for the nigga thatthey like than the nigga they
love, like being on both sidesof it.
If, like hey man, she, thismotherfucker, did everything
when, when we was liking on eachother.
But once we fell in love, oncelove came into play, it was, you
know, that love got divided upa little bit, which is

(50:04):
understandable.
But that kind of, like I said,puts you on the back burner of
hey man.
Know, I am equipped to handlethings and do things, but I
still need you, I still want tomake sure you know I've got this
, that.
And the third, regardless ofwhat is going on throughout my
day, I purposely still make timefor you, yeah, in the morning,
noon, night, yeah, just becauseI'm a fly-ass type nigga like

(50:26):
that.
That is like I purposely makethe time.
I ain't telling you I'm toobusy.
Yeah, I'm making that.
You know what I'm saying.
So respect that.
So, yeah, I think for any man,like love is likely won't be in
that top five, it's there,you'll find it in the top ten,
but for most men love is notgoing to be in that top five

(50:47):
list.
You know I'm saying respect isfirst.
You know I'm saying like,respect my purpose.
So if you want to kind of gointo my, because I like your
list, you know I put I pull alot from your list and just,
real quickly, I just I justwrote down um, a couple of
things, but, um, respecting aman's purposes and understanding
.

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I may not be home with you allthe time.
There may be times where youfeel like you know you don't
have much of my direct help withthe kids and stuff like that
and it is hard.
But understand for a man it'slike our job, we outside,
getting what needs to be done,done you know what I mean A

(51:29):
place that you don't have to go.
Yeah, for sure, For sure.
So understanding a man'spurpose and understanding is
like hey, baby, this is what Ido.
This is what I do and I need toknow that you got my back.
See, while I'm doing this, youain't got to worry about outside
, I got this and I know I gotyou here and I ain't got to

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worry about my kids taking careof because I know they got you.
That's balance, that'scomplimentary.
You know I'm saying um, and forwomen, I do understand how
that's not home.
They miss that.
You know I'm saying but gottarespect a man's purpose.
You know I'm saying and valuethat, yeah, because I don't
think that you would most womenwould, and I say more women than

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none, I don't think wouldoverall respect a man who didn't
get up and go outside.
Yeah, you know, he didn't goout there and get about a
sweater, his brow and figuresomething out.
You know, if this was in the1800s or early 1900s, as my son
and them would say, hey, youwould have to go out there and
hunt If you didn't have thegrocery stores, it was like, hey

(52:34):
, did you have a man that canactually go out there and hunt
and guarantee we was going toeat every night?
Yeah, that's a skill, that's athis, that's a that.
It's no different in acivilized world now of, hey, can
he go and hold down 10-, 12hour, 8 hour job?
Can he go be productive thereand show how great he is there,
that he climbing the ladder,that, hey, that he making moves.
He got not just power at thejob but he got power at home.

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He got power in the world.
For sure, man, he making thingsmove for the family.
You know what I'm saying.
And if a man being in hispurpose is a problem for you as
a woman, ah, that's a, that's a,that's a big fault.
You're gonna have a hard timebeing happy in that marriage
slash relationship.
A man gots to be in his purposeif he gotta worry about making

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sure you're happy, becausefamously, you know, will smith
said that's not my job to makesure you happy, that's your job.
Like, like you told Jada, I'lltell you what.
Show me that you can be happyby yourself.
Just to show me that it'sfucking possible, because I've
been trying to do everything tomake you happy and nothing seems

(53:42):
to work.
So it's your turn.
You make you happy.
I'll be over here.
Let me know when you get there.
You know, that's a bold ass,realistic statement, because you
cannot make somebody else happy, yeah, and you can get lost in

(54:05):
who.
You are trying to fill somebodyelse up yeah, you can get so
lost and they think that it onlyhappens to to women that, oh, I
lost who I was.
I was just trying to be therefor tyrone, yeah, and it's like
lose yourself.
It's very easy to.
When you're trying to please,yeah.

(54:26):
When you're trying to connect,when you're trying to be the
difference, you know most niggas, I ain't like that nigga, I
don't do that shit.
But it can possibly happen.
And even on the flip side, man,you could tell her like, hey,
man, you know, this happened tome whatever woo, woo, woo.
And then, nigga, you findyourself in the same predicament
because, nigga, you almost gavethis person ammunition to place

(54:47):
you in that same role.
Yeah for sure, in that samerole.
Yeah, for sure.
So it, it is gentle, it is hey,you got to be dealing with
quality and dealing with aperson enough to feel like, hey,
I want to.
I want to share my words withyou.
Yeah, okay, more than just yourlife, man, but meaning.
There's two things that I feellike people need to survive for

(55:10):
sure is nutrition a food or somesubstance of some sort of
course and words, if it's poetry, if it's music, if it's just
conversation, if it's just ababy crying, he sound just like
a baby, little baby, little,baby Jesus in the manger.
But you need those, man.

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Those words can change.
It fills you up, man, and itnourishes your soul.
You go to church sometime toget that, that, that word.
You go to the mosque sometimeto get that man.
You might even go just talk toan og and just get that word.
Man, but you, you, you needthat, you need that man.
So just switch it up real quick, man.
Um, you went to church recently.

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Yeah, yeah, I did.
You went to a service recently.
How you feel, bro?
I feel like one.
The service was a verybeautiful service, a very
beautiful home going.
I'm very thankful and blessedto be in attendance, to be able
to see someone who meant so muchas a pillar to the family, to

(56:18):
the community, to the church,just somebody who is held that
high in regard in their home,going like, how could I ever
forget this?
Yeah, how can I ever forget abeautiful ceremony?
So it made me at the same timefeel like, hey, bro, I need to
open up my church.
Ever forget this.
Yeah, how can I ever forget?
Like a beautiful ceremony.
So it made me at the same timefeel like, hey bro, I need to
open up my church.
I don't know, go ahead and doit.

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Yeah, man, but on the preachingside, man did a wonderful job.
I needed those words to befilled up.
Shout out to Bishop Marble JStreet, jefferson Street,
baptist Church, nashville,tennessee, nashville, baby.
But I enjoyed it, man.
And you were in attendance, man, you actually Von Baby.
If you didn't know, von Babyhad a solo at the church.

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That's what they called me manFirst saying that.
Man.
So you know.
Last episode, man, we spokeabout Granny passing away.
Maddie Lockridge, m-a-t-t-i-e.
Ai Spelt my granny name wrong.
I'm sorry.
We're going to get Sonny fromMatty.
Okay, matty Lockridge.
Her service was this pastMonday, man, definitely a

(57:24):
beautiful service, man.
She had quite the home going.
I'm honored man.
First of all, thank you forbeing in attendance.
Man, that was definitely asurprise.
You and vanessa, you know Iturned around just to see, uh, I
packed the house.
You know I'm saying, and theny'all sitting with maybe four
rows behind me, I'm like, ohshit, what's going on, man?

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That was definite man.
I thank y'all so much, so muchfor showing up for granny man.
That meant, that meant a lot.
I felt like Alfred on Batman 3.
The Dark Knight Rises Shout outto Christopher Nolan he
produced those and directedthose.
But at the end where he tellshim one day I want to see you

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just over there for yourself.
Every year I take a vacation.
I tried to just keep mycomposure when I seen you turn
around and I'm like hey, caughteyes real quick and was just
like hey, bro, I'm here.
Yeah, the support man, just thesupport.
Like hey, I, I have to do nowork, I have to move no tables,
I had to get no speeches andnormally I'm the center in

(58:28):
certain situations.
So it's like, bro, I'm just.
It feels good to be a guest andbe complimentary, yeah, to
what's going on.
Thank you so much for beingthere, bro.
Thank you for even making usaware.
Yeah, you know I'm saying andeven sharing with us here at
permission to speak freelypodcast, how raw you feel about
this person, how you connectwith her, how, just in this

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freedom speakers, during thisbeautiful, beautiful ceremony,
man, you just kind of youcouldn't count how many times
they said the powell name, howmany times they gave thanks to
the entire family, yeah, and ifyou can share with the people
how you actually connect togranny, um, so granny is my.
I'm not, and this is issomething I meant to say.

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I'm not a biological GrandchildOf Maddie Locker, but you go
and tell that to granny and seeif she gonna fix you up real
quick.
Yeah, for sure you know whatI'm saying, but they used to
call it back, they'd hem you up,yeah, and she just might say

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that's my baby, that's my baby,my brother, my sister.
You know I'm saying granny'sbaby.
You know I'm saying, um, sothat is my, my.
I'm gonna just break it all theway down.
Granny is my mother's brothers,so my uncle's wife's mother.

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Now let me go a little bitdeeper, because we're sharing
stories.
You know, post her passing.
Granny knew me before I knew me.
Granny knew my mother before mymother knew herself.
Granny has always been around.

(01:00:17):
My mother, when she was born,had three grown adult brothers,
okay, who, I believe.
Maybe even one of them weremarried before my mother was
born, and my mother has a niecewho's actually older than her.
So my uncles were establishedgrown men with a baby sister,

(01:00:39):
okay, infant, yeah.
So my uncle's mother-in-law,granny, has always known my
family Lived in the sameprojects.
At one point in time Granny andmy grandmother lived in the same
building.
Grandma on the time, uh, grannyand my grandmother lived in the
same building grandma on thefirst floor, granny on the
second floor.
We'd be at, uh, grandma housefor dinner, at granny house for
dessert.
You know I'm saying um, butgranny, always, we was her, we

(01:01:04):
was her grandbabies, we was hergrandbabies, my brother lamar,
my sister lenita.
You know, banana pudding willnever be the same, will never be
the same, will never be thesame.
And Aaron had talked about thatat the service.
I had asked.
I said, hey, who retired Grannyfrom making the banana pudding?
They said, man, one time it hadtasted like mothballs.

(01:01:24):
It tasted like mothballs.
I was like, yeah, granny can'tmake the banana pudding, no more
, you know.
But yeah, granny made a firebanana pudding.
I ain't even like bananapudding.
I eat granny's dog For sure, Ieat granny's.
I love banana pudding.
Now, you know, and now theholidays coming up, man,

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somebody got to come with it onthis banana pudding.
Yeah, come with it, because I'mcomparing you to granny's
Banana pudding is probablyalmost as significant to the
black family, as like the macand cheese, yes, as the yams,
it's on the, it's on the.
As far as desserts, becausethey're in two different arenas,
you know you got dessert, youknow, but the banana pudding is

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just as important as the yamsand mac and cheese and greens,
it's got to be busting theGerman chocolate cake.
It's up there, it's up there.
Somebody can, let's, say thechicken wasn't too good.
Hey, you still got the turkeyand the ham.
Yeah, for sure, you know, whenthe chicken was a little dry,
you just let it soak up in thegreen juice.
Hey, do that For people whodon't mind they food touching,

(01:02:32):
like my, like my shit, you know.
But uh, I'm honored man, becausemy aunt, my aunts, allowed me,
asked me and allowed me to be onprogram at grand man.
That meant so much to me, man,that meant so, that meant the
world to me, to be able to go upthere and just speak.
You know what I mean, man.

(01:02:54):
I I really can't explain that,man, because I was actually
gonna ask my auntie, aline,before she had asked me.
Like you gonna be on programfor us.
I was gonna wait till you gotthe phone.
Hey, you mind if I say someremarks and she asked me I'm
like, yes, yes, absolutely know,but granny loved all of her
children, all of hergrandchildren, great

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grandchildren, great greatgrandchildren.
Everybody man just having afamily as large as are being
blessed to have a family aslarge as ours.
And I'm pretty sure all of my,my siblings and cousins have a
story, or even just a memory,from when granny looked out for
you in some sort of way.

(01:03:37):
Rather, it was something youneeded as an adult or just
something you wanted as a child,you know, like myself, just
wanting a cookie or a piece ofcake, you know I'm saying or you
actually needing some advicefrom granny when you get into
your older years.
That's what she meant to us,you know, and just like I said

(01:03:57):
at the service man, we are andforever will be granny's baby.
We love you, granny, we'regoing to miss you and we'll see
you when we get there.
Amen, as once again, bro,beautiful man.
Amen, as once again, bro,beautiful man.

(01:04:19):
Um, the impact she left.
Do you feel inspired by thatimpact?
Yes, definitely, um, becausethat's what you want, right?
You know, that's where you winif you blessed to live that long
and leaving a legacy like that.
How old was she 94, 94 yearsold, blessed to live 94.

(01:04:42):
You know how much the world haschanged in 94 years.
I'm thankful that she didn'thave to sit there and see this
be elected again.
She got out right on time.
Got out hey, granny, got on upout of here.
I'm thankful that she didn'thave to see that.
You know what I mean, cause shealready lived through the one

(01:05:02):
once.
Yeah, I'm thankful.
I'll tell you what my, mygrandma, my mother's mother,
passed away under the Obamaadministration, never didn't
have, didn't have to see, didn'thave to see a Trump presidency.
You know what I mean.
And she loved.
I remember my grandmother man.
She had a picture, an 8x10, apicture of the Obama family

(01:05:23):
sitting on the coffee table,right where she could see it
when she's sitting in her chair,right.
So somebody who lived in thesame building wanted that same
picture.
My Uncle Lawrence goes hey, ma,I'm going to.
So somebody who lived in thesame building wanted that same
picture.
My uncle lawrence goes hey, ma,I'm gonna take this, I'm gonna
get you another one, I'm gonnaget this.
I think it was sister turning.
I'm gonna get this sister turn.
I'm bringing up.
My grandma, who was the sweetestlady in the world said uh-uh,

(01:05:44):
you ain't take.
Uh, no, no, my picture.
Stand right there, go get herone.
You ain't taking mine and yougonna bring me another one.
Uh-uh, no, she wasn't havingthat.
She was proud, amen.
Shout out to Granny.
Shout out to Granny One moretime For sure.
Much love and respect to Granny, to the Lockridge family, to

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the Powell family, from here,from us, here, at Permission to
Speak Freely Podcast.
Hey, man you.
We talked about legacy beforeman, and we got a chance to see
somebody's legacy be spoken ofin their passing man, and so I
got a question man, if you coulddirect your own funeral, man, I

(01:06:31):
knew you was going with it howwould you like to see your shit
from the audience?
I know right, and that'ssomething I was just thinking
about that this morning, becauseI replayed the service again.
It was on YouTube.
Man, I don't know, bro, I ain'tgoing to act like.
I wish I could be there.
Maybe I'll fake my day.

(01:06:52):
You will in a way, but like areyou, though?
Do you get a chance to let mesee how they put on for me?
Who's singing?
Okay, they, ah.
Like, do you get to be there orare you making your way Like no
, you don't get to see, you know.
But like I want it to be, I wantit to be similar to grannies,

(01:07:14):
similar to grandma, similar tobig heads, just full of love and
family.
Man, I want, I want, man, Iwant all my kids to be able to
have a lot of kids, back tobeing responsible.
You know what I'm saying.
But I want my kids, I want allof them, to have a lot of kids.
Like, minimum, I need three outof each of y'all, that's 12.
That's 12 grandkids, all right,and then for them to have kids.

(01:07:36):
Like I want that man.
I'm weird, bro.
I can't wait to have grandkids.
No, but I'm in the same boat.
It's a lot for us to put on.
Kj and Kyro to be out here.
Fucking you know what I'msaying Sounds so ridiculous have
a bunch of kids because I wantto be a pop pop, I want to be
Pop Parkin.
So bad, yeah, man.

(01:07:57):
But I want to be able to beblessed, to live that long that
I get to see because I got laidnigga how all this shit turns
out.
I'm just getting some booty.
He Just getting some booty.
He said I done built a wholearmy because your mama was horny
.
We ain't had no playing beesback in our day, nigga, it was

(01:08:19):
pull and pray.
That's real man, pull and prayman.
But to answer your question,man, I just got to conceive.
Man, I do not know.
I know the songs I want sung.
You know what I mean, one ofthem being I'll just put it out
there now, man, for all we know,by Donny Hathaway or somebody.

(01:08:39):
Just do that for me, you knowwhat I'm saying.
Like that song and definitelycelebrate my life.
Man, y'all know it's going tobe sad, y'all going to miss me.
I hope I can become a completea-hole, you know.
But man, just just man, I dothink about that often, not only

(01:09:02):
this morning.
I think about that often.
Like man, y'all better put onfor me my funeral.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, and we talkabout that.
Man, death is a part of life.
I want people to wear black,white and accents of green to
represent life.
Yeah, accents of green, notlike lime green, like a green

(01:09:22):
tie, green, look, you know whatI'm saying.
Ladies with green scarves, youcan pull out your green hat,
your light, you know your darkergreen, not like lime green.
Yeah, yeah, you know yourdarker green, not like lime
green.
Yeah, yeah, you know, but I'mgoing to just put it out there
now.
I hope my wife take notes.
You know my kids.
I joke around.
I joke around with deathbecause I got a unique
relationship with it.

(01:09:43):
But as I become more relevantto it I'm like oh yeah, I ain't
more of a sneak up on your wholeass.
You can get anybody.
Yeah for sure that I used tojust want just to be cremated
and put me on a, put me on amantelpiece somewhere.

(01:10:04):
But now and I get to see likedifferent people, homegoers and
the celebrations that are withit man, I'm nigga, I'm trying to
get a tune like Jesus.
Why, like, I want a nice-asstune.
When you pull up to the gravesite, like that's that nigga
right there, like you can't missmy shit.
So you want to get a mausoleum,if that's what they call them.
Yeah, they got a mausoleum.

(01:10:25):
I wasn't looking up the nametoo much, I just was like that,
look, fly, they got them at thebox and they slide your ass out.
No, no, I won't.
When you drive through the wholemotherfucking through the,
through the, yeah, it's like abunch of different.
No, look, I got a tomb bymyself like Jesus.
Oh, this is not even one of themillion dollar plot.
I'll be doing all right by then, hopefully.
Yeah, your back, y'all, butit's one of them, man, I I joke

(01:10:51):
about it, but I would love to belike hey, man, if I, if we can
keep continuously making animpact on the world the way that
we are, I would love to have amonument even in my death like
that, to become like to bevisited.
You can come and visit my shit.
Hey, this man if you, if youscan this bar on the front of
his tomb door, it play all thesongs or like, or like a message

(01:11:13):
just for you.
Yeah, but it's doing what youdo.
I, I would love to live on likethat.
I think that plays into thelegacy of yeah, you can keep me
on a mantelpiece, but you know,only motherfuckers who probably
really knew me or can go there.
You know I'm saying it can goin the house, but if I do get a
lot of land or I do, I am in thecemetery Somewhere and I got

(01:11:34):
the.
I got a 12 by 12 tomb In thatbitch you can go in there and
see me.
You know what I'm saying.
You can go in there and justhave a seat On the bench Next to
my, my tomb and shit.
Yeah, hey, bro, I feel likethat.
That's a joke, but that'ssomething serious.
And y'all hearing it here onPermission to Speak Freely
podcast.

(01:11:54):
We are hearing the highestchief, ali, wants to be in a
tomb.
Hey, say people can come in andkick it.
I'm going to let them know Comewith me.
I'm going to let them know Comerelax, come do some yoga in
that bitch.
You know.
Come talk to me, man.
You know, come, hang out.
I'm undecided on if I want to dothe cremated thing.

(01:12:15):
I think I'm going to put meback in the earth.
I'm undecided, but I think youknow.
I know I was just there, soit's fresh.
Retire me to the earth, youknow, that's where I'm at.
Freedom Speakers, if you couldchoose your director of your
funeral, who would it be?
Would you?
Are you going to call, uh,what's, what's?

(01:12:38):
Phaedra?
Phaedra Park?
Ain't she a mortician From, uh,the Real Housewives of Atlanta?
I don't know.
I think Phaedra when I looked.
I used to watch that show a lotwith Nessa man.
I think that Fajal Parks kickedoff for a minute.
I think she went over to theReal Doctors, something like
that, married to Medicine, whichI love.
That show, I like that.

(01:12:58):
I like that show.
Shout out to Dr Heavenly.
If I could choose a style, awife, just a raw personality,
you can For sure.
But on TV I would be DrHeavenly and her husband, mr Dr
Heavenly.
They're both doctors.
I would be their dynamic.
That's kind of Nessa and Idynamic a little bit.

(01:13:21):
But on the reverse, nessa ismore like the husband and calm
and cool decision making.
And I'm Dr Heavenly.
I be wild as fuck at the mouthsometimes I be just saying shit.
I do it, man, just wilding man.
I do wild as fuck at the mouth.
Sometimes I be just saying shit, just wilding man.
Hey, freedom Speakers, man, weappreciate it.
Thanks for listening, thanksfor just giving us your ear for

(01:13:41):
a little bit while we at ourbest, while we at our worst,
while we going through our times.
Man, we definitely appreciateit.
Chief, you got anything youwant to close with.
Might not be the best person toclose with, but I'm going to
pull my Russell Simmons.
Thank you all.
God bless and good night.
Permission to speak freely.