April 28, 2025 • 17 mins
Today marks a bittersweet and exciting moment: this is the final episode under the Permission to Love name. Starting next week, this podcast will officially become Personal Mastery with Jerry Henderson.
In this episode I reflect on the journey we've taken together — healing shame, cultivating self-love, and building lives aligned from the inside out.
I also shares why self-love remains the foundation of everything moving forward and why giving yourself permission to love yourself might be the bravest thing you ever do.
Join us as we celebrate how far we've come — and step boldly into what's next.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why the podcast name is changing (and why the mission isn't)
- The power of giving yourself permission to love yourself
- How shame keeps you stuck (and how self-love sets you free)
- Why personal mastery starts with radical self-acceptance
- A powerful affirmation you can say today to change your life
If you’ve ever struggled with feeling "not enough" — this episode is for you.
Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome and Major Announcement
01:39 – Why This Podcast Began
03:00 – What Personal Mastery Is About
04:25 – Gratitude for the Journey and Community
05:27 – Invitation to Share Your Story
06:40 – Revisiting the Power of Self-Love
08:12 – The Wiring of Unworthiness
09:04 – The Brave Step of Believing You Are Worthy
10:04 – Identity Work: Choosing a New Story
11:37 – Marianne Williamson's Our Greatest Fear
12:57 – Permission for Self-Expansion
13:58 – A Declaration of Self-Love
14:59 – Excitement for the Next Chapter
16:15 – How to Get Help and Stay Connected
16:53 – Closing Words and Final Invitation
I am grateful you are here,
Jerry
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Jerry Henderson (00:00):
Hello everybody and welcome to this episode of
the Permission to Love podcast.
I'm your host, jerry Henderson,and, as always, I am so
grateful that you're here Now.
Today's episode has me withmixed emotions, because it's a
celebration, but it's also atransition.
Why?
Because today is the lastepisode of this podcast under
(00:24):
the title Permission to Love.
As of next week, we'retransitioning to the new name,
personal Mastery with JerryHenderson, and if you're
interested in the why behindthat change, you can listen to
an episode that I did a fewweeks ago called Self-Love, the
Root From which Personal MasteryGrows.
(00:44):
It explains why we're makingthe transition and how we're
honoring the past as we moveinto the future of what this
podcast is about Now.
On that note, if you've not yethad a chance to subscribe to or
to follow this podcast, I wantto encourage you to do that,
because as of next week, it'sgoing to be under a different
(01:05):
name, as I just shared, which isalso going to present a
challenge for you if you go andtry to search for the Permission
to Love podcast.
So if you want to be sure thatyou're updated on when new
episodes come out under the namePersonal Mastery with Jerry
Henderson, take a moment and hitthat subscribe or follow button
.
Now, in today's episode, Ireally want to take time and
(01:26):
focus in on honoring the journeythat we've been on together for
these last two years, or almosttwo years together, under the
title of the Permission to Lovepodcast.
Now, as I've shared with youmany times, my reason for
starting this podcast wasbecause of my own story of
learning to heal, of learning tocome out of a story of shame
(01:50):
and the way that I felt aboutmyself and all of the challenges
that that created in my life,and how I learned to heal, how I
learned to overcome shame, howI learned to get rid of that
feeling that there's somethingwrong with me, and how to heal
my relationship with myself.
And that's a key part of thejourney that we've been on
together, very much in a spaceof healing, transformation and
(02:16):
development, and none of that'schanging.
As I've said before, that's allgoing to remain as we move into
the next chapter of thispodcast, and that's exactly what
it is.
I don't see the old ending.
I just see us turning the pageto a next chapter, and that next
chapter is even more so abouthow we can have a healthier
(02:39):
relationship with ourselves and,as a result of that, how we can
have a healthier relationshipwith other people and how we can
manifest a life that we aretruly worthy of.
Because shame and that feelingthat there's something wrong
with you will keep you trapped,it'll keep you limited, it'll
keep you from expanding.
But when you begin to seeyourself as the incredible
(03:02):
person that you are, as youbegin to see that you're not
broken you've never been broken,you've just been carrying a
story that is not yours and whenyou realize that and you begin
to anchor into your trueidentity, it changes everything.
And that is what we're going tocontinue to focus in on and
we're going to expand it evenmore, because here's what
(03:25):
personal mastery is about.
It is not about perfection.
It is about continuing to grow,to become the highest version
of ourself.
It is about creating a lifethat feels as good on the inside
as it looks on the outside sideas it looks on the outside, and
(03:49):
also creating a life on theoutside that begins to align
with what's happening with us onthe inside.
And that is absolutely possiblefor you, and that's why I
started this podcast to get thatmessage out there, to get that
message across to people whofelt the way that I felt for so
many years and learned that theycould heal, they could
transform.
So, whatever's going on in yourlife right now, I wanna let you
(04:10):
know I believe in you.
Change is possible.
You can transform yourrelationship with yourself.
You can learn to develop theskill because that's exactly
what it is the skill of personalmastery.
Now, with all that in mind, Iwanna take a moment and I wanna
say thank you.
Thank you to each and every oneof you who's been listening to
(04:33):
this podcast, or if you've justdiscovered this podcast.
I want to say thank you forbeing here, thank you for
investing in yourself, thank youfor showing up for yourself,
thank you for being a part ofthis community, because that's
exactly what it is.
We've been building a communitytogether, a community where
we're learning to give ourselvesthe permission to love
ourselves, to give ourselves thepermission to love ourselves,
(04:54):
to give ourselves the permissionto have healthy relationships,
the permission to allowourselves to rewrite our story.
You know, since this podcastlaunched in May of 2023, we have
reached literally tens ofthousands of people with this
message about how to have ahealthier relationship with
(05:15):
yourself.
Podcast has been heard in over126 countries and listeners from
5,475 cities have tuned intothis podcast.
So, wherever you're listening tothis podcast from, I want to
say thank you, and I once againwant to say I'm proud of you for
showing up and for doing thework, and over these last two
(05:39):
years, so many of you havereached out to me and so many of
you become clients of mine thatI coach as well.
It's been an amazing,incredible process to hear your
stories, to learn from youwhat's been working, how you've
been showing up for yourself andthe skills that you've been
putting in place that have beena part of your transformation.
(06:01):
So thank you, thank you forsharing those things with me,
thank you for contacting me andif you haven't yet, I want to
encourage you to do that.
I want to invite you to emailme.
My email is jerry atjerryhendersonorg.
Come straight to me, nobodyelse is going to see it, and I
want to invite you to share someof the things that have been
impactful for you, what's beenmeaningful for you as a part of
(06:25):
this journey of the Permissionto Love podcast, and I'd also
love to hear what topics you'dlike to hear about as a part of
the Personal Mastery podcast andif you have guests that you'd
like to hear about as a part ofthe Personal Mastery Podcast,
and if you have guests thatyou'd like to see on the show,
include that in your email aswell.
As we make this transition, Iwant to take a moment and just
once again to talk to you aboutself-love, how powerful it is
(06:49):
when you give yourself thepermission to love yourself.
Now I know for many of you,that feels like a really big
leap.
The language of self-love might, in and of itself, feel
uncomfortable for you, andthere's a reason for that, and
there's a reason why it was thatway for me, and it's because
for so many years, we've livedwith a feeling that self-love is
(07:09):
wrong, self-love is selfish orit's narcissism or whatever.
The story is that we've put onthe words, the concept, the
belief about self-love.
But the truth is, self-loveshould be absolutely normal.
It should be something thatwill often engage in behaviors,
(07:36):
under the banner of self-love,that are harmful to other people
, that neglect other people orthey neglect their own
responsibilities, and we'vetalked about that in other
episodes.
But I want to bring you back toa very simple truth you are
worthy of love and you areworthy of your own love, and I
know that things like trauma orother painful life experiences
(07:57):
have tried to convince us thatwe're not worthy of love, let
alone our own love.
And I know it can beuncomfortable to choose to love
yourself.
At the nervous system level itcan feel very uncomfortable and
I want to let you know that'sprogramming.
It's how we got wired.
It's how we got wired becauseof culture.
It's how we got wired.
It's how we got wired becauseof culture.
It's how we got wired becauseof experiences.
(08:17):
And it's how we got wired inorder to stay safe.
Somewhere along the line, youmade the decision that you're
not worthy of love, that there'ssomething wrong with you.
Somewhere along the line, youdecided that hating yourself or
loathing yourself or notaccepting yourself or rejecting
yourself was more comfortable,more safe than believing that
you could love yourself.
(08:38):
Because when we believe thatwe're worthy of love, when we
start to love ourselves, it doeschange everything.
We stop tolerating certainbehaviors from other people.
We stop tolerating ourcircumstances the same way that
we used to tolerate them.
We stop letting people talk tous to tolerate them.
We stop letting people talk tous in certain ways.
We stop letting people takeadvantage of us, we stop
(08:59):
lowering our worth, we stopchoosing or staying in
relationships that are toxic.
And so the brave step of sayingthat you're worthy of love and
the brave step of practicingself-love begins to open your
eyes.
You begin to see in your lifewhere you're tolerating things
that are not aligned with thatbelief, and so it can be a very
(09:21):
scary decision to give yourselfpermission to believe that
you're worthy of your own loveand to start treating yourself
like you're worthy of love.
Because when you're faced withthat truth, you do start to make
different decisions and youroutward world starts to change.
And it's more comfortable formany people to stay in the
(09:45):
narrative, to stay in the story,to stay in the toxic
relationship, to stay in what'sunhealthy, than to cross the
line to say I'm worthy of more.
Because when you do believethat you're worthy of more and
you start to treat yourself likeyou're worthy of more, your
nervous system starts to change.
As I said before, what you seebegins to change, what you
(10:08):
accept begins to change, and sofor many people, it's a safer
decision to believe that they'renot worthy of good things, that
they're not worthy of love,they're not worthy of their own
love, because the choice tobelieve something different is
going to cost us our oldidentity.
You know, I see this a lot incoaching, where people get stuck
(10:29):
in a certain identity and it'sscary for them to move past that
identity into something new.
Because it means change, itmeans letting go of the familiar
, it means letting go of the oldstories and creating new
stories.
And actually what it is.
It's about choosing to believethe story that's actually true
about you, instead of the liethat you're not worthy of love.
(10:53):
And making that choice is bravework.
And giving yourself thepermission to love yourself is
identity work.
It's saying that I believe I'mworthy of a beautiful life.
I believe I'm worthy oftreating myself with respect,
with kindness, with compassion.
It's saying I don't have tobelieve the old story anymore,
that doesn't serve me any longer.
(11:14):
It means I can choose a newstory.
And once again, that is scaryto the nervous system, that's
scary to the brain because it'sgoing to require change.
It's stepping through thethreshold of who you really want
to be.
It's crossing over into a lifethat feels as good on the inside
(11:35):
as it looks on the outside.
You know, there's this beautifulquote that I love, that I'm
going to share with you rightnow, and it's by Marianne
Williamson, and she says thisthat our deepest fear is not
that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we arepowerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not ourdarkness, that frightens us.
(11:58):
We ask ourselves who am I to be?
Brilliant, gorgeous, talented,fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does notserve the world.
Your playing small does notserve the world.
There is nothing enlightenedabout shrinking so that other
(12:18):
people won't feel insecurearound you.
We're all meant to shine, aschildren do.
We were born to make manifestthe glory of God that is within
us.
It's not just in some of us,it's in everyone.
And as we let our light shine,we unconsciously give other
(12:41):
people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from ourown fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.
What a beautiful truth.
And the decision to loveyourself, to be kind to yourself
, to be compassionate toyourself, is to confront and
(13:04):
overcome that fear of who youtruly are Powerful beyond
measure, that you are light, andthat you are light and that you
are worthy of love, becauseplaying small is simply an
attempt to try to keep yourselfsafe and giving yourself
permission to love yourself ismaking the choice for
(13:24):
self-expansion.
It's seeing who youauthentically are and aligning
yourself with the truth of thatis who you are and then choosing
to live that way.
So can I encourage you today,as a part of this episode, to
face the truth about yourself,that you're not broken.
There isn't anything wrong withyou.
(13:46):
You are worthy of love.
You've always been worthy oflove and, most importantly,
you've been worthy of your ownlove.
Most importantly, you've beenworthy of your own love.
It just hasn't felt safe for youto give yourself the permission
to love yourself.
And can you do this with meright now?
Can you say these words outloud I give myself the
(14:07):
permission to love myself.
I am worthy of my own love andI want you to hold on to those
words.
I want you to know that thosewords are true about you.
They're not just true foreverybody else.
We can give that grace andcompassion to other people all
day long, but when we seeourselves and we look at
(14:27):
ourselves in the mirror, givingourselves that permission feels
scary, it feels awkward, itfeels uncomfortable.
Why?
Because, once again, it's notbecause our greatest fear is
that we are inadequate.
Our greatest fear is that weare powerful beyond measure.
Our greatest fear is that weare actually worthy of love and
(14:50):
when we make that choice to sayyes to that, life begins to
unfold in such a different way,in a beautiful way.
And that is my desire for you.
That's always been my desire asa part of this podcast that you
would understand just howwonderful you are, just how
amazing you are, just how worthyof love and good things you are
(15:12):
.
And that's part of why we'remaking this transition and this
expansion into personal mastery,all rooted and grounded in
self-love, all rooted andgrounded of knowing the
worthiness that we inherentlyhave and then expanding upon
that, how we can grow even more,how we can build a life that
(15:33):
feels as good on the inside asit looks on the outside, where
we can have true fulfillment,true happiness, true alignment,
where we can truly enjoy ourlives.
That we're not just achieving,we're not just going from one
thing to the next, but we'rebecoming the highest and the
best version of ourselves.
So I don't know about you, butI am really excited to go into
(15:55):
this next chapter.
I'm really excited for you tocome on this journey with me.
I'm excited to hear the topicsthat you're interested in,
learning more about, the gueststhat you'd like to see as a part
of this next chapter of thepodcast, and I'm excited about
what's going to happen in thiscommunity as a part of this
transition.
And before I end this episode, Iwant to remind you that if you
(16:18):
need help on your journey ofhaving a healthier relationship
with yourself, of learning howto create a life that feels as
good on the inside as it lookson the outside, reach out to me
and set up a free strategy.
Call to learn more about theone-on-one coaching services
that I offer.
You can find a link to do thatin the show notes of this
episode, or you can simply go tomy website at jerryhendersonorg
(16:41):
.
Now, if this episode has had animpact on you, I want to
encourage you to do something.
I want to invite you to shareit with somebody else, because
if it's making a difference inyour life, it'll make a
difference in their life as well.
Well, thank you once again forbeing here, and next week, the
first episode under the titlePersonal Mastery with Jerry
(17:01):
Henderson is going to bereleased.
I'm so excited.
I can't wait for you to hear it, and I can't wait to hear your
feedback about that firstepisode.
So, remember, hit that followor subscribe button.
So when that new episode comesout next week under the title
Personal Mastery with JerryHenderson, it'll be seamless,
flawless for you.
It'll just show up, you'll getyour notification and you can
(17:21):
dive right into that firstepisode around personal mastery.
Well, that's it for today'sepisode, and I want to remind
you, as I always do, that youare worthy of your own love.
Hello everybody and welcome to this episode of
the Permission to Love podcast.
I'm your host, jerry Henderson,and, as always, I am so
grateful that you're here Now.
Today's episode has me withmixed emotions, because it's a
celebration, but it's also atransition.
Why?
Because today is the lastepisode of this podcast under
(00:24):
the title Permission to Love.
As of next week, we'retransitioning to the new name,
personal Mastery with JerryHenderson, and if you're
interested in the why behindthat change, you can listen to
an episode that I did a fewweeks ago called Self-Love, the
Root From which Personal MasteryGrows.
(00:44):
It explains why we're makingthe transition and how we're
honoring the past as we moveinto the future of what this
podcast is about Now.
On that note, if you've not yethad a chance to subscribe to or
to follow this podcast, I wantto encourage you to do that,
because as of next week, it'sgoing to be under a different
(01:05):
name, as I just shared, which isalso going to present a
challenge for you if you go andtry to search for the Permission
to Love podcast.
So if you want to be sure thatyou're updated on when new
episodes come out under the namePersonal Mastery with Jerry
Henderson, take a moment and hitthat subscribe or follow button
.
Now, in today's episode, Ireally want to take time and
(01:26):
focus in on honoring the journeythat we've been on together for
these last two years, or almosttwo years together, under the
title of the Permission to Lovepodcast.
Now, as I've shared with youmany times, my reason for
starting this podcast wasbecause of my own story of
learning to heal, of learning tocome out of a story of shame
(01:50):
and the way that I felt aboutmyself and all of the challenges
that that created in my life,and how I learned to heal, how I
learned to overcome shame, howI learned to get rid of that
feeling that there's somethingwrong with me, and how to heal
my relationship with myself.
And that's a key part of thejourney that we've been on
together, very much in a spaceof healing, transformation and
(02:16):
development, and none of that'schanging.
As I've said before, that's allgoing to remain as we move into
the next chapter of thispodcast, and that's exactly what
it is.
I don't see the old ending.
I just see us turning the pageto a next chapter, and that next
chapter is even more so abouthow we can have a healthier
(02:39):
relationship with ourselves and,as a result of that, how we can
have a healthier relationshipwith other people and how we can
manifest a life that we aretruly worthy of.
Because shame and that feelingthat there's something wrong
with you will keep you trapped,it'll keep you limited, it'll
keep you from expanding.
But when you begin to seeyourself as the incredible
(03:02):
person that you are, as youbegin to see that you're not
broken you've never been broken,you've just been carrying a
story that is not yours and whenyou realize that and you begin
to anchor into your trueidentity, it changes everything.
And that is what we're going tocontinue to focus in on and
we're going to expand it evenmore, because here's what
(03:25):
personal mastery is about.
It is not about perfection.
It is about continuing to grow,to become the highest version
of ourself.
It is about creating a lifethat feels as good on the inside
as it looks on the outside sideas it looks on the outside, and
(03:49):
also creating a life on theoutside that begins to align
with what's happening with us onthe inside.
And that is absolutely possiblefor you, and that's why I
started this podcast to get thatmessage out there, to get that
message across to people whofelt the way that I felt for so
many years and learned that theycould heal, they could
transform.
So, whatever's going on in yourlife right now, I wanna let you
(04:10):
know I believe in you.
Change is possible.
You can transform yourrelationship with yourself.
You can learn to develop theskill because that's exactly
what it is the skill of personalmastery.
Now, with all that in mind, Iwanna take a moment and I wanna
say thank you.
Thank you to each and every oneof you who's been listening to
(04:33):
this podcast, or if you've justdiscovered this podcast.
I want to say thank you forbeing here, thank you for
investing in yourself, thank youfor showing up for yourself,
thank you for being a part ofthis community, because that's
exactly what it is.
We've been building a communitytogether, a community where
we're learning to give ourselvesthe permission to love
ourselves, to give ourselves thepermission to love ourselves,
(04:54):
to give ourselves the permissionto have healthy relationships,
the permission to allowourselves to rewrite our story.
You know, since this podcastlaunched in May of 2023, we have
reached literally tens ofthousands of people with this
message about how to have ahealthier relationship with
(05:15):
yourself.
Podcast has been heard in over126 countries and listeners from
5,475 cities have tuned intothis podcast.
So, wherever you're listening tothis podcast from, I want to
say thank you, and I once againwant to say I'm proud of you for
showing up and for doing thework, and over these last two
(05:39):
years, so many of you havereached out to me and so many of
you become clients of mine thatI coach as well.
It's been an amazing,incredible process to hear your
stories, to learn from youwhat's been working, how you've
been showing up for yourself andthe skills that you've been
putting in place that have beena part of your transformation.
(06:01):
So thank you, thank you forsharing those things with me,
thank you for contacting me andif you haven't yet, I want to
encourage you to do that.
I want to invite you to emailme.
My email is jerry atjerryhendersonorg.
Come straight to me, nobodyelse is going to see it, and I
want to invite you to share someof the things that have been
impactful for you, what's beenmeaningful for you as a part of
(06:25):
this journey of the Permissionto Love podcast, and I'd also
love to hear what topics you'dlike to hear about as a part of
the Personal Mastery podcast andif you have guests that you'd
like to hear about as a part ofthe Personal Mastery Podcast,
and if you have guests thatyou'd like to see on the show,
include that in your email aswell.
As we make this transition, Iwant to take a moment and just
once again to talk to you aboutself-love, how powerful it is
(06:49):
when you give yourself thepermission to love yourself.
Now I know for many of you,that feels like a really big
leap.
The language of self-love might, in and of itself, feel
uncomfortable for you, andthere's a reason for that, and
there's a reason why it was thatway for me, and it's because
for so many years, we've livedwith a feeling that self-love is
(07:09):
wrong, self-love is selfish orit's narcissism or whatever.
The story is that we've put onthe words, the concept, the
belief about self-love.
But the truth is, self-loveshould be absolutely normal.
It should be something thatwill often engage in behaviors,
(07:36):
under the banner of self-love,that are harmful to other people
, that neglect other people orthey neglect their own
responsibilities, and we'vetalked about that in other
episodes.
But I want to bring you back toa very simple truth you are
worthy of love and you areworthy of your own love, and I
know that things like trauma orother painful life experiences
(07:57):
have tried to convince us thatwe're not worthy of love, let
alone our own love.
And I know it can beuncomfortable to choose to love
yourself.
At the nervous system level itcan feel very uncomfortable and
I want to let you know that'sprogramming.
It's how we got wired.
It's how we got wired becauseof culture.
It's how we got wired.
It's how we got wired becauseof culture.
It's how we got wired becauseof experiences.
(08:17):
And it's how we got wired inorder to stay safe.
Somewhere along the line, youmade the decision that you're
not worthy of love, that there'ssomething wrong with you.
Somewhere along the line, youdecided that hating yourself or
loathing yourself or notaccepting yourself or rejecting
yourself was more comfortable,more safe than believing that
you could love yourself.
(08:38):
Because when we believe thatwe're worthy of love, when we
start to love ourselves, it doeschange everything.
We stop tolerating certainbehaviors from other people.
We stop tolerating ourcircumstances the same way that
we used to tolerate them.
We stop letting people talk tous to tolerate them.
We stop letting people talk tous in certain ways.
We stop letting people takeadvantage of us, we stop
(08:59):
lowering our worth, we stopchoosing or staying in
relationships that are toxic.
And so the brave step of sayingthat you're worthy of love and
the brave step of practicingself-love begins to open your
eyes.
You begin to see in your lifewhere you're tolerating things
that are not aligned with thatbelief, and so it can be a very
(09:21):
scary decision to give yourselfpermission to believe that
you're worthy of your own loveand to start treating yourself
like you're worthy of love.
Because when you're faced withthat truth, you do start to make
different decisions and youroutward world starts to change.
And it's more comfortable formany people to stay in the
(09:45):
narrative, to stay in the story,to stay in the toxic
relationship, to stay in what'sunhealthy, than to cross the
line to say I'm worthy of more.
Because when you do believethat you're worthy of more and
you start to treat yourself likeyou're worthy of more, your
nervous system starts to change.
As I said before, what you seebegins to change, what you
(10:08):
accept begins to change, and sofor many people, it's a safer
decision to believe that they'renot worthy of good things, that
they're not worthy of love,they're not worthy of their own
love, because the choice tobelieve something different is
going to cost us our oldidentity.
You know, I see this a lot incoaching, where people get stuck
(10:29):
in a certain identity and it'sscary for them to move past that
identity into something new.
Because it means change, itmeans letting go of the familiar
, it means letting go of the oldstories and creating new
stories.
And actually what it is.
It's about choosing to believethe story that's actually true
about you, instead of the liethat you're not worthy of love.
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And making that choice is bravework.
And giving yourself thepermission to love yourself is
identity work.
It's saying that I believe I'mworthy of a beautiful life.
I believe I'm worthy oftreating myself with respect,
with kindness, with compassion.
It's saying I don't have tobelieve the old story anymore,
that doesn't serve me any longer.
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It means I can choose a newstory.
And once again, that is scaryto the nervous system, that's
scary to the brain because it'sgoing to require change.
It's stepping through thethreshold of who you really want
to be.
It's crossing over into a lifethat feels as good on the inside
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as it looks on the outside.
You know, there's this beautifulquote that I love, that I'm
going to share with you rightnow, and it's by Marianne
Williamson, and she says thisthat our deepest fear is not
that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we arepowerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not ourdarkness, that frightens us.
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We ask ourselves who am I to be?
Brilliant, gorgeous, talented,fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does notserve the world.
Your playing small does notserve the world.
There is nothing enlightenedabout shrinking so that other
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people won't feel insecurearound you.
We're all meant to shine, aschildren do.
We were born to make manifestthe glory of God that is within
us.
It's not just in some of us,it's in everyone.
And as we let our light shine,we unconsciously give other
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people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from ourown fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.
What a beautiful truth.
And the decision to loveyourself, to be kind to yourself
, to be compassionate toyourself, is to confront and
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overcome that fear of who youtruly are Powerful beyond
measure, that you are light, andthat you are light and that you
are worthy of love, becauseplaying small is simply an
attempt to try to keep yourselfsafe and giving yourself
permission to love yourself ismaking the choice for
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self-expansion.
It's seeing who youauthentically are and aligning
yourself with the truth of thatis who you are and then choosing
to live that way.
So can I encourage you today,as a part of this episode, to
face the truth about yourself,that you're not broken.
There isn't anything wrong withyou.
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You are worthy of love.
You've always been worthy oflove and, most importantly,
you've been worthy of your ownlove.
Most importantly, you've beenworthy of your own love.
It just hasn't felt safe for youto give yourself the permission
to love yourself.
And can you do this with meright now?
Can you say these words outloud I give myself the
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permission to love myself.
I am worthy of my own love andI want you to hold on to those
words.
I want you to know that thosewords are true about you.
They're not just true foreverybody else.
We can give that grace andcompassion to other people all
day long, but when we seeourselves and we look at
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ourselves in the mirror, givingourselves that permission feels
scary, it feels awkward, itfeels uncomfortable.
Why?
Because, once again, it's notbecause our greatest fear is
that we are inadequate.
Our greatest fear is that weare powerful beyond measure.
Our greatest fear is that weare actually worthy of love and
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when we make that choice to sayyes to that, life begins to
unfold in such a different way,in a beautiful way.
And that is my desire for you.
That's always been my desire asa part of this podcast that you
would understand just howwonderful you are, just how
amazing you are, just how worthyof love and good things you are
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.
And that's part of why we'remaking this transition and this
expansion into personal mastery,all rooted and grounded in
self-love, all rooted andgrounded of knowing the
worthiness that we inherentlyhave and then expanding upon
that, how we can grow even more,how we can build a life that
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feels as good on the inside asit looks on the outside, where
we can have true fulfillment,true happiness, true alignment,
where we can truly enjoy ourlives.
That we're not just achieving,we're not just going from one
thing to the next, but we'rebecoming the highest and the
best version of ourselves.
So I don't know about you, butI am really excited to go into
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this next chapter.
I'm really excited for you tocome on this journey with me.
I'm excited to hear the topicsthat you're interested in,
learning more about, the gueststhat you'd like to see as a part
of this next chapter of thepodcast, and I'm excited about
what's going to happen in thiscommunity as a part of this
transition.
And before I end this episode, Iwant to remind you that if you
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need help on your journey ofhaving a healthier relationship
with yourself, of learning howto create a life that feels as
good on the inside as it lookson the outside, reach out to me
and set up a free strategy.
Call to learn more about theone-on-one coaching services
that I offer.
You can find a link to do thatin the show notes of this
episode, or you can simply go tomy website at jerryhendersonorg
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.
Now, if this episode has had animpact on you, I want to
encourage you to do something.
I want to invite you to shareit with somebody else, because
if it's making a difference inyour life, it'll make a
difference in their life as well.
Well, thank you once again forbeing here, and next week, the
first episode under the titlePersonal Mastery with Jerry
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Henderson is going to bereleased.
I'm so excited.
I can't wait for you to hear it, and I can't wait to hear your
feedback about that firstepisode.
So, remember, hit that followor subscribe button.
So when that new episode comesout next week under the title
Personal Mastery with JerryHenderson, it'll be seamless,
flawless for you.
It'll just show up, you'll getyour notification and you can
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dive right into that firstepisode around personal mastery.
Well, that's it for today'sepisode, and I want to remind
you, as I always do, that youare worthy of your own love.
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