March 28, 2025 • 16 mins
You can't control every event in your journey, but you can control how you respond. And control goes beyond the physical aspect to include a mental dimension too.
Sometimes when things happen to us in pickleball, we tend to externalize them by blaming external factors. The idea is, you can control how you react to those events to dictate the pace and outcome of the game.
Just like holding the reins of a wagon; it's up to you to steer it in the right direction. This mindset is crucial for maintaining perspective and not letting setbacks derail your progress.
Here are some practical steps to help you cultivate control;
- Don't let in your mind: Whether it's the outcome of a game or external opinions, choose what you let into your mind. This decision shapes your mental landscape.
- Constructive Processing: If scores do enter your mind, treat them as data points. They don't define you; they're just numbers.
- Retrospective Adjustment: If a reaction occurs, apply perspective retrospectively. Recognize negative emotions and consciously steer yourself back to a balanced mindset.
Reflecting on my journey from tennis to pickleball, I've had my share of struggles with frustration and self-criticism. Listen to the full episode as I share with you how confronting my mental approach has transformed my interaction with sports and life in general.
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(00:05):
Hello and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,the podcast dedicated to
your pickle improvement.
I hope you're having a great week.
This week, we are in themidst of our spring boot camp.
It's a lot of fun.
It's always fun to figure outbetter ways to deliver the content that's
actually going to help pickleball players.
And that's what we're going to do in thisboot camp, is we're going to provide some
(00:28):
help with control controllingshot trajectory primarily so that players
can enjoy a better play experience.
In this process, it gotme thinking about control.
Here we're going, during the boot camp, Ishould say, we're going to go
(00:49):
deep into control of a shot.
And that's important, knowing how tocontrol a shot, knowing how to control the
action as much as you can when you'replaying, where you exercise
control during games.
But then I started thinking bigger pictureabout this concept of control and agency,
and that's what I want tocover in today's podcast.
(01:10):
It's the concept of control and agency asit pertains to your overall journey
as a pickleball player, butalso just as a human being.
I'm going to share with you during ourconversation today, I'll share with you
about my own journey, about my own journeyas a pickleball player now, as an athlete.
I used to play tennis before thisand what my journey has been inside this
(01:36):
sphere, inside the mental sphere.
And then, and I'm going to leave you witha quote, really good quote that a friend
of mine sent me that Ithink will really help you.
It's actually a quote that had to do withgolf, but I think it really applies to...
It will nicely tie everything up.
As we move into the podcast,if you happen to be hearing this podcast
(01:57):
right when it drops and you'reinterested in the pickleball system.
The course is open now.
If you know, our courses only open usuallytwo times, sometimes three times,
usually two times per year.
So if you've been thinking about it, thisis a great time to get involved with that.
Sometimes it gets a little confusingout there because we have a boot camp.
(02:19):
And then the boot camp, the idea of theboot camp, or part of the idea of the boot
camp is to allow players to come in fromthe outside, who haven't studied this
before, and they get to see what it'sall about and a taster, if you will.
And so then if they like that, thenthey're given an opportunity to join the
pickleball all system, if they so choose.
But the pickleball all system is ourbig course that we have every year.
(02:43):
So if that's something ofinterest, you check that out.
All right, let me diveinto this idea of control.
And it's something that we've been doingthis podcast for a few years now, and
we've covered a ton of subjects,a ton of areas about the game.
But I'm not sure that we have an episodespecifically on this topic, because
(03:04):
I guess for me, when I was doing thepodcast, it always seemed implicit, right?
That baked in, that we...
Of course, we have agency, right?
Of course, we have control over our livesand we can decide what
we want to do with it.
But I don't think that we really applythat a lot of times in this area.
And let me give you the way that I'mthinking about it, the
way I'm framing it out.
(03:26):
So obviously, you're listening tothis podcast, Who picked the podcast?
You did.I appreciate that, and that's great.
But fantastic.
But it's your decision, your control, youragency to pick this podcast
to listen to right now.
The last time you went out to eat,hopefully you picked something
on the menu that you wanted.So you pick these things.
(03:47):
But what happens is sometimes when thingshappen to us in pickleball,
we sometimes externalize those things.
It's like we lackcontrol over our process.
Sometimes it's bad partners, unluckysituation, bad call, whatever,
things like that.
Our mental journey can also feel sometimeslike it's outside of our control, outside
(04:13):
of our agency, because it's just too big.
It's like too much stuffgoing on out there.
But the reality is that atthe end of the day, we can decide
how we navigate thisprocess, how we navigate the...
(04:36):
Not just situations, because for instance,going back to, let's say you're upset when
you lose and ask you why you're upset,instead of going to something else,
you can just put perspective on it.You can say, You know what?
The perspective here really is,I can feel a little bit upset, that's
fine, but let me grab the reins.
Before this wagon starts going down thepath like the horses lose control in this
(05:01):
going crazy, let me grab the reins of it alittle bit because I can apply a
perspective to it because I havecontrol over this situation.
And if you want to go deep on it ora little bit broader than this.
The Buddhist talk about it, the Stoakstalk about it, things like that.
But basically, the idea is thatI can't control events.
(05:28):
I can't control all events.
Things will happen, good, somegood, some bad, some whatever.
But I can't control what?
How I react to those events.
I can control how Iallow those events to come into my mind
and how I then react to those events.
(05:50):
For example, you could make the decisionnot to let certain things into your mind.
That is your decision, whether it comesinto your mind or doesn't
come into your mind.You have control over that.
And once they come into your mind, thenyou can assign certain values to them.
And then third tier, I guess, would beyou could also deal with it once
you've already had a reaction.So let's work that through a second.
(06:12):
So let's talk aboutwinning and losing in pickleball, since
that's the focus that we have in thispodcast, the podcast for your
pickleball mind, as we say.
When you think about thewin and loss, the first thing you
can do is not let it in your mind.
What I mean by that is it's justnot something that you consider.
(06:36):
If you think about it, there's a lot ofthings in life that you don't
consider in your decision making.
But there's other things you decide to.
You decide to let intoyour decision making.
Soin this case, you just say, okay, winning
(06:58):
and losing, the scores don't matter to me.
And obviously it takessome time to work on that.
But once you work on it, then eventuallyit just becomes where you
don't even hear the score anymore.
You're just like, is itmy server or your server?
First server, second server,are you guys serving?
Whatever.Score doesn't matter to me.
So that's number one.
Number two is the scoreis led into my mind.
How do I deal with it?
And then maybe it's just a data point.
(07:21):
It's just, okay, the numbers I have in mymind, their numbers, they're not
going to make or break me.
They're not going to change mylife significantly, so I'm good.
That's another way of dealing with it.
Now you've led it into your ecosystem,but you're constructively dealing with
the information, with the datathat you led into your mind.
(07:43):
Another way, and Let me just, before Imove on to the next one, let me just tell
you what you're trying to avoid is you'retrying to avoid it
basically hijacking your mind, hijackingyour processes, making your day not
good, things like that, feeling upset.
That's what you're trying toavoid with this second stage.
(08:03):
Obviously, if you do the first one, whichis the wins and losses don't even come
into your mind, then you won't have anadverse reaction because
it's not even in there.
Second one is, let's see if wecan avoid an adverse reaction.
The third one is,you've had an adverse reaction, meaning
you've allowed the winsand losses into your mind.
They've affected you negatively now.
(08:24):
You don't feel good, you're upset,whatever it is, whatever
the negative feeling is.
But now you're able navigate that andget out of that sooner rather than later.
Meaning you're able to then apply theperspective a little bit,
perspective prospectively, right?
Or I'm sorry, retrospectively.
So you're able to apply the perspectiveretrospectively and say, Okay,
(08:45):
I recognize what's happening.
I'm getting down on myself.
They say you start asking yourselfquestions like, why
did we lose that last match?I'm not playing well today.
Or you start beatingyourself up a little bit.
You're able to, again, grab the reins ofthe of the wagon, of the horse's reins,
and say, whoa, whoa, whoa, let's relaxhere a second, and then apply perspective
retrospectively to help you unwindthat situation as quickly as possible.
(09:08):
Those are three different ways that youcan exercise control over your processes.
And then bigger picture,it's exercising control over your
journey, over your journey asin the mental side of the game.
And that includeslistening to this podcast.
Kudos to you for listening to the podcast.
We continue to try and reach additionalplayers, and we do our best to do that.
(09:33):
And so we know that it resonates with someplayers, and other players don't have
time for this, and I respect that.
But kudos to you for taking a few minutesfrom your day and assigning
it to this process.
I would suggest you, depending on whereyou're at in your journey, maybe you
need to devote a little more time.
(09:53):
Think about it.
It's your decision at the endof the day, but think about it.
Is that something thatyou would benefit from?
Whether it's picking up book.
I think I've mentioned this before,but I'm going to mention it again.
The book that got me started on this wholepath was now my friend and mentor, Dr.
Peter Scales, Coach Pete's Book, Mentaland Emotional Training for Tennis,
(10:18):
Compete, Learn, Honor.You can forget the tennis part.
It's the same principles.
But Compete, Learn, Honor really is a keyfoundation to my thinking on this journey.
That's a really good book.
And there's other good books, TheInner Game of Tennis by Tim Galway.
There's The Art of Learning by JoshWhets, Whetskin, I think it is.
All those books are on...If you go to betterpickleball.
(10:40):
Com under resources, there'sa series of books there.
You're welcome to use thoselinks I got the books.
But anyway, so that's a way tocontinue going deeper in your journey.
And the question for you at the end ofthe day is, how important is this to you?
When I say this, I meanyour mental journey.
How important is it for you to continueto grow in the mental side of things.
(11:03):
And remember that when you grow inpickleball, on the mental side of
pickleball, what you're learningextends well beyond pickleball.
It extends well beyond just the courtand the games that you're playing.
Those principles that you learn and youwork on, or you're going to take off the
court and be able to workon off the court as well.
(11:24):
So exercise your agency.
And let me pivot now the storyI promised you about my journey.
That's what happened to me.
I came from tennis.
I played tennis since I can remember,since I could walk almost, and pivoted to
pickleball in 2015 to 16, that time frame.
(11:46):
But I've always played somelevel of competitive sport.
Took some gaps here and there inadulthood and when life happened stuff.
But I did not have a positivemental relationship with sport.
When I was younger, Iused to break rackets.
When I played pickleball,I chucked paddles.
(12:08):
I did all the things, right?
And got upset at myself, got downafter losses, the normal, the gamut.
If it's happening to you, it'shappening to me, probably.
And so about four years ago, and Iactually, to be honest with you, I cannot
really remember theimpetus for it anymore.
Maybe I got to go to my old podcastto see how it That's how it started.
(12:30):
But I know that I wasexposed to Coach Pete's book.
I started reading it.I started thinking it.
Perhaps it was coaching, probably,now that I think about it.
Becoming a coach later in lifemade me think about these things in a
different light, becauseI'm trying to help players, and I'm seeing
them players struggle, and so I'm thinkingabout it, and then I start
(12:52):
thinking about it for myself.
And so anyway, I've been on this journeyfor, seriously, about four,
four and a half years.
I can tell you that my approach tolife has changed given this approach.
And obviously, my pickleballis much more relaxed now.
I still compete.I go out there, I battle.
I still get upset at myself if Idon't clear the net, for instance.
(13:17):
If you're a system student, you know thatone of our tenets is, Don't hit the net.
I'll lose rallies.Losing rallies is fine.
That's part of the deal.
But I don't want to hit the netbecause I have control over that.
But that's another We'llget a conversation.
But anyway, my overall interaction withthe sport has improved
significantly over the years.
(13:38):
And so what I would suggest you is there'sreally no reason it can't be the
same for you if you so choose.
If you choose toexercise your control and your agency over
the entire process ofyour mental training.
This is that athletic pillar that we talkabout inside the pickleball system and
inside all of our coaching, the threepillars of pickleball, the
(13:59):
athletic pillar, Body and mind.
In fact, I have teed upfor next week's podcast.
I'm going to be talking about the otherhalf of that because I think sometimes we
overlooked that when we'refocused solely on the mind.
Super important, the mind.
We can't forget the body, and I'm goingto tee it up in next week's episode.
All right, before we sign off,I'm going to read you this.
My friend David, who'sactually on a similar journey.
(14:20):
He's been working on hismental side of the pickleball, and I can
tell you thatI've seen a great improvement in him, and
I think he feels a great improvementimprovement in terms of how he feels after
a session, regardless of the results.
So this is about golf, but justreplace golf with pickleball.
I'm going to read it the way it is, butyou can replace golf with pickleball
on it, and it works great.
(14:41):
And thanks, David, for sharing this.
So no one cares the The title of it isNo One Cares What Your Score Was, Ever.
Love it.
I had the most miserable roundI played in years yesterday.
Dropped three straight into the water onmy 90-yard approach on the third hole.
Had a 10 on two separate holeson my way to a I didn't get mad.
(15:02):
I enjoyed the day with my playing partnersbecause I realized that no one, not my
wife, not my playing partners, not my bestfriends, no one cares about my golf score.
I could shoot a 72 or a 120, and my lifewill not change an Iota in either case.
Get out there, enjoy the game, savorthe great drives and flushed iron shots.
(15:25):
Let the mistakes roll off your back.
Have fun because if you're not, you'respending a lot of money in mental
language for no reason at all.
And that's a fantastic way of framing it.
I assume it's a...
I don't know if it's a man or a woman.
It's that player exercisingtheir control, their agency over their
process and how they Whether it'sa 72 or 120, I'm going to be fine.
(15:48):
No one else cares about it, so I'mnot putting that pressure on myself.
Just a really positive way of doing it.
So maybe take that quote with you nexttime you're out there on the courts.
That's this week's podcast.I hope you enjoyed it.
As always, if you enjoyed it,consider rating and reviewing it.
We haven't seen a review in a while onApple, so if you have any on Apple, it'd
be nice, if you don't mind jumpingin there and sharing a review.
(16:10):
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I read on a prior podcast, I read a reviewof someone who was like, why is this guy?
What does it say?Like, why?
Hot air nonsense or something like that?Whatever.
I mean, whatever you feel like.So put a review on there.
We appreciate it.And as always, share it with your friends.
Remember, if you enjoy this podcast, andif it helps you out, it's probably
going to help them out, too.
I hope you have a great week, and I willsee you next week for talking
(16:33):
about the other half of that.
Until then.
Hello and welcome to Pickleball Therapy,the podcast dedicated to
your pickle improvement.
I hope you're having a great week.
This week, we are in themidst of our spring boot camp.
It's a lot of fun.
It's always fun to figure outbetter ways to deliver the content that's
actually going to help pickleball players.
And that's what we're going to do in thisboot camp, is we're going to provide some
(00:28):
help with control controllingshot trajectory primarily so that players
can enjoy a better play experience.
In this process, it gotme thinking about control.
Here we're going, during the boot camp, Ishould say, we're going to go
(00:49):
deep into control of a shot.
And that's important, knowing how tocontrol a shot, knowing how to control the
action as much as you can when you'replaying, where you exercise
control during games.
But then I started thinking bigger pictureabout this concept of control and agency,
and that's what I want tocover in today's podcast.
(01:10):
It's the concept of control and agency asit pertains to your overall journey
as a pickleball player, butalso just as a human being.
I'm going to share with you during ourconversation today, I'll share with you
about my own journey, about my own journeyas a pickleball player now, as an athlete.
I used to play tennis before thisand what my journey has been inside this
(01:36):
sphere, inside the mental sphere.
And then, and I'm going to leave you witha quote, really good quote that a friend
of mine sent me that Ithink will really help you.
It's actually a quote that had to do withgolf, but I think it really applies to...
It will nicely tie everything up.
As we move into the podcast,if you happen to be hearing this podcast
(01:57):
right when it drops and you'reinterested in the pickleball system.
The course is open now.
If you know, our courses only open usuallytwo times, sometimes three times,
usually two times per year.
So if you've been thinking about it, thisis a great time to get involved with that.
Sometimes it gets a little confusingout there because we have a boot camp.
(02:19):
And then the boot camp, the idea of theboot camp, or part of the idea of the boot
camp is to allow players to come in fromthe outside, who haven't studied this
before, and they get to see what it'sall about and a taster, if you will.
And so then if they like that, thenthey're given an opportunity to join the
pickleball all system, if they so choose.
But the pickleball all system is ourbig course that we have every year.
(02:43):
So if that's something ofinterest, you check that out.
All right, let me diveinto this idea of control.
And it's something that we've been doingthis podcast for a few years now, and
we've covered a ton of subjects,a ton of areas about the game.
But I'm not sure that we have an episodespecifically on this topic, because
(03:04):
I guess for me, when I was doing thepodcast, it always seemed implicit, right?
That baked in, that we...
Of course, we have agency, right?
Of course, we have control over our livesand we can decide what
we want to do with it.
But I don't think that we really applythat a lot of times in this area.
And let me give you the way that I'mthinking about it, the
way I'm framing it out.
(03:26):
So obviously, you're listening tothis podcast, Who picked the podcast?
You did.I appreciate that, and that's great.
But fantastic.
But it's your decision, your control, youragency to pick this podcast
to listen to right now.
The last time you went out to eat,hopefully you picked something
on the menu that you wanted.So you pick these things.
(03:47):
But what happens is sometimes when thingshappen to us in pickleball,
we sometimes externalize those things.
It's like we lackcontrol over our process.
Sometimes it's bad partners, unluckysituation, bad call, whatever,
things like that.
Our mental journey can also feel sometimeslike it's outside of our control, outside
(04:13):
of our agency, because it's just too big.
It's like too much stuffgoing on out there.
But the reality is that atthe end of the day, we can decide
how we navigate thisprocess, how we navigate the...
(04:36):
Not just situations, because for instance,going back to, let's say you're upset when
you lose and ask you why you're upset,instead of going to something else,
you can just put perspective on it.You can say, You know what?
The perspective here really is,I can feel a little bit upset, that's
fine, but let me grab the reins.
Before this wagon starts going down thepath like the horses lose control in this
(05:01):
going crazy, let me grab the reins of it alittle bit because I can apply a
perspective to it because I havecontrol over this situation.
And if you want to go deep on it ora little bit broader than this.
The Buddhist talk about it, the Stoakstalk about it, things like that.
But basically, the idea is thatI can't control events.
(05:28):
I can't control all events.
Things will happen, good, somegood, some bad, some whatever.
But I can't control what?
How I react to those events.
I can control how Iallow those events to come into my mind
and how I then react to those events.
(05:50):
For example, you could make the decisionnot to let certain things into your mind.
That is your decision, whether it comesinto your mind or doesn't
come into your mind.You have control over that.
And once they come into your mind, thenyou can assign certain values to them.
And then third tier, I guess, would beyou could also deal with it once
you've already had a reaction.So let's work that through a second.
(06:12):
So let's talk aboutwinning and losing in pickleball, since
that's the focus that we have in thispodcast, the podcast for your
pickleball mind, as we say.
When you think about thewin and loss, the first thing you
can do is not let it in your mind.
What I mean by that is it's justnot something that you consider.
(06:36):
If you think about it, there's a lot ofthings in life that you don't
consider in your decision making.
But there's other things you decide to.
You decide to let intoyour decision making.
Soin this case, you just say, okay, winning
(06:58):
and losing, the scores don't matter to me.
And obviously it takessome time to work on that.
But once you work on it, then eventuallyit just becomes where you
don't even hear the score anymore.
You're just like, is itmy server or your server?
First server, second server,are you guys serving?
Whatever.Score doesn't matter to me.
So that's number one.
Number two is the scoreis led into my mind.
How do I deal with it?
And then maybe it's just a data point.
(07:21):
It's just, okay, the numbers I have in mymind, their numbers, they're not
going to make or break me.
They're not going to change mylife significantly, so I'm good.
That's another way of dealing with it.
Now you've led it into your ecosystem,but you're constructively dealing with
the information, with the datathat you led into your mind.
(07:43):
Another way, and Let me just, before Imove on to the next one, let me just tell
you what you're trying to avoid is you'retrying to avoid it
basically hijacking your mind, hijackingyour processes, making your day not
good, things like that, feeling upset.
That's what you're trying toavoid with this second stage.
(08:03):
Obviously, if you do the first one, whichis the wins and losses don't even come
into your mind, then you won't have anadverse reaction because
it's not even in there.
Second one is, let's see if wecan avoid an adverse reaction.
The third one is,you've had an adverse reaction, meaning
you've allowed the winsand losses into your mind.
They've affected you negatively now.
(08:24):
You don't feel good, you're upset,whatever it is, whatever
the negative feeling is.
But now you're able navigate that andget out of that sooner rather than later.
Meaning you're able to then apply theperspective a little bit,
perspective prospectively, right?
Or I'm sorry, retrospectively.
So you're able to apply the perspectiveretrospectively and say, Okay,
(08:45):
I recognize what's happening.
I'm getting down on myself.
They say you start asking yourselfquestions like, why
did we lose that last match?I'm not playing well today.
Or you start beatingyourself up a little bit.
You're able to, again, grab the reins ofthe of the wagon, of the horse's reins,
and say, whoa, whoa, whoa, let's relaxhere a second, and then apply perspective
retrospectively to help you unwindthat situation as quickly as possible.
(09:08):
Those are three different ways that youcan exercise control over your processes.
And then bigger picture,it's exercising control over your
journey, over your journey asin the mental side of the game.
And that includeslistening to this podcast.
Kudos to you for listening to the podcast.
We continue to try and reach additionalplayers, and we do our best to do that.
(09:33):
And so we know that it resonates with someplayers, and other players don't have
time for this, and I respect that.
But kudos to you for taking a few minutesfrom your day and assigning
it to this process.
I would suggest you, depending on whereyou're at in your journey, maybe you
need to devote a little more time.
(09:53):
Think about it.
It's your decision at the endof the day, but think about it.
Is that something thatyou would benefit from?
Whether it's picking up book.
I think I've mentioned this before,but I'm going to mention it again.
The book that got me started on this wholepath was now my friend and mentor, Dr.
Peter Scales, Coach Pete's Book, Mentaland Emotional Training for Tennis,
(10:18):
Compete, Learn, Honor.You can forget the tennis part.
It's the same principles.
But Compete, Learn, Honor really is a keyfoundation to my thinking on this journey.
That's a really good book.
And there's other good books, TheInner Game of Tennis by Tim Galway.
There's The Art of Learning by JoshWhets, Whetskin, I think it is.
All those books are on...If you go to betterpickleball.
(10:40):
Com under resources, there'sa series of books there.
You're welcome to use thoselinks I got the books.
But anyway, so that's a way tocontinue going deeper in your journey.
And the question for you at the end ofthe day is, how important is this to you?
When I say this, I meanyour mental journey.
How important is it for you to continueto grow in the mental side of things.
(11:03):
And remember that when you grow inpickleball, on the mental side of
pickleball, what you're learningextends well beyond pickleball.
It extends well beyond just the courtand the games that you're playing.
Those principles that you learn and youwork on, or you're going to take off the
court and be able to workon off the court as well.
(11:24):
So exercise your agency.
And let me pivot now the storyI promised you about my journey.
That's what happened to me.
I came from tennis.
I played tennis since I can remember,since I could walk almost, and pivoted to
pickleball in 2015 to 16, that time frame.
(11:46):
But I've always played somelevel of competitive sport.
Took some gaps here and there inadulthood and when life happened stuff.
But I did not have a positivemental relationship with sport.
When I was younger, Iused to break rackets.
When I played pickleball,I chucked paddles.
(12:08):
I did all the things, right?
And got upset at myself, got downafter losses, the normal, the gamut.
If it's happening to you, it'shappening to me, probably.
And so about four years ago, and Iactually, to be honest with you, I cannot
really remember theimpetus for it anymore.
Maybe I got to go to my old podcastto see how it That's how it started.
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But I know that I wasexposed to Coach Pete's book.
I started reading it.I started thinking it.
Perhaps it was coaching, probably,now that I think about it.
Becoming a coach later in lifemade me think about these things in a
different light, becauseI'm trying to help players, and I'm seeing
them players struggle, and so I'm thinkingabout it, and then I start
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thinking about it for myself.
And so anyway, I've been on this journeyfor, seriously, about four,
four and a half years.
I can tell you that my approach tolife has changed given this approach.
And obviously, my pickleballis much more relaxed now.
I still compete.I go out there, I battle.
I still get upset at myself if Idon't clear the net, for instance.
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If you're a system student, you know thatone of our tenets is, Don't hit the net.
I'll lose rallies.Losing rallies is fine.
That's part of the deal.
But I don't want to hit the netbecause I have control over that.
But that's another We'llget a conversation.
But anyway, my overall interaction withthe sport has improved
significantly over the years.
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And so what I would suggest you is there'sreally no reason it can't be the
same for you if you so choose.
If you choose toexercise your control and your agency over
the entire process ofyour mental training.
This is that athletic pillar that we talkabout inside the pickleball system and
inside all of our coaching, the threepillars of pickleball, the
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athletic pillar, Body and mind.
In fact, I have teed upfor next week's podcast.
I'm going to be talking about the otherhalf of that because I think sometimes we
overlooked that when we'refocused solely on the mind.
Super important, the mind.
We can't forget the body, and I'm goingto tee it up in next week's episode.
All right, before we sign off,I'm going to read you this.
My friend David, who'sactually on a similar journey.
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He's been working on hismental side of the pickleball, and I can
tell you thatI've seen a great improvement in him, and
I think he feels a great improvementimprovement in terms of how he feels after
a session, regardless of the results.
So this is about golf, but justreplace golf with pickleball.
I'm going to read it the way it is, butyou can replace golf with pickleball
on it, and it works great.
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And thanks, David, for sharing this.
So no one cares the The title of it isNo One Cares What Your Score Was, Ever.
Love it.
I had the most miserable roundI played in years yesterday.
Dropped three straight into the water onmy 90-yard approach on the third hole.
Had a 10 on two separate holeson my way to a I didn't get mad.
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I enjoyed the day with my playing partnersbecause I realized that no one, not my
wife, not my playing partners, not my bestfriends, no one cares about my golf score.
I could shoot a 72 or a 120, and my lifewill not change an Iota in either case.
Get out there, enjoy the game, savorthe great drives and flushed iron shots.
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Let the mistakes roll off your back.
Have fun because if you're not, you'respending a lot of money in mental
language for no reason at all.
And that's a fantastic way of framing it.
I assume it's a...
I don't know if it's a man or a woman.
It's that player exercisingtheir control, their agency over their
process and how they Whether it'sa 72 or 120, I'm going to be fine.
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No one else cares about it, so I'mnot putting that pressure on myself.
Just a really positive way of doing it.
So maybe take that quote with you nexttime you're out there on the courts.
That's this week's podcast.I hope you enjoyed it.
As always, if you enjoyed it,consider rating and reviewing it.
We haven't seen a review in a while onApple, so if you have any on Apple, it'd
be nice, if you don't mind jumpingin there and sharing a review.
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And you can review whatever you want.
I read on a prior podcast, I read a reviewof someone who was like, why is this guy?
What does it say?Like, why?
Hot air nonsense or something like that?Whatever.
I mean, whatever you feel like.So put a review on there.
We appreciate it.And as always, share it with your friends.
Remember, if you enjoy this podcast, andif it helps you out, it's probably
going to help them out, too.
I hope you have a great week, and I willsee you next week for talking
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about the other half of that.
Until then.
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