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Ever sent a message that started with “hey” and then got silence?

This episode breaks down why first messages matter so much in dating and kink spaces, and how a few careless words can quietly kill connection before it starts. We talk about the common mistakes people make, why they happen, and what actually gets conversations moving.

If you’ve ever wondered why messages go unanswered, or you want your next DM to land better, this one...

For some people, impact play has a surprising effect on the nervous system, shifting the body out of constant alert and into something calmer and more present. This episode explores why that happens, how intentional sensation can change the way anxiety shows up in the body, and what makes the difference between something that soothes and something that overwhelms.

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Finding a good Dominant isn’t about rushing into a dynamic or ignoring red flags because you want to submit. In this episode, we talk about why self-understanding matters, how desire can cloud judgment, and what core qualities actually make someone a safe, ethical Dominant.

We discuss meeting people in the kink community, recognizing predators, using negotiation as a compatibility test, and why it’s okay if finding the right Dominan...

This week, Dara and Rara are swapping notes from the road.

From packed classrooms to late-night conversations, they talk about the conferences they attended, the classes they taught, and the moments that stuck with them long after the events ended. It’s part behind-the-scenes, part honest reflection on what teaching and learning in kink actually looks like, and part “wow, I didn’t expect that about myself.”

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We’re talking about the things no one told us when we first joined the kink scene. The good, the complicated, and the stuff you usually only learn the hard way. From community and safety to frenzy, vetting, identity, and self-advocacy, this episode breaks down what we wish we had known so you can move through kink with more confidence and a lot less guesswork.

Whether you’re brand new or realizing you learned some things sideways, t...

This episode is our annual reality check. We’re looking back at last year’s New Year’s resolutions, being honest about what stuck, what didn’t, and what we maybe wildly overestimated. Some goals turned into real growth. Others turned into lessons. And yes, there was a little humble pie involved.

Then we talk about how we’re approaching the year ahead. Not with pressure or perfection, but with intention, flexibility, and a better und...

Can a power exchange really work if you’ve never met in person? Short answer: yes. Longer answer? It depends on how it’s built.

In this episode, we break down what online Dominant/submissive relationships actually look like, why people choose them, and what makes them healthy or harmful. We talk honestly about the benefits, the challenges, and the risks that don’t always get discussed until something goes wrong.

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So many people try to label actions as Dominant or submissive based on how they look from the outside. But in real D/s dynamics, it isn’t the act that defines the role. It’s the intention and the power behind it. In this episode, we break down why the same behavior can mean something completely different depending on who’s driving it, and how understanding the why behind your play can build stronger, more confident dynamics.

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We’re diving back into the madhouse that is Reddit advice, where strangers ask wild kink questions and we do our best not to spit out our drinks while answering them. Expect giggles, good-hearted roast sessions, and the occasional “bless their heart” as we break down what’s actually good advice…and what belongs in the digital dumpster.

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It’s our annual Thanksgiving episode, and this year we’re taking a moment to slow down, reflect, and talk about what we’re truly grateful for. From the growth of our Pink Kink community to the personal lessons, connections, laughter, awkward moments, and meaningful conversations that shaped our year, we’re sharing it all. This one feels especially real and heartfelt, and we hope you’ll feel seen in it too.

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Kink can do more than turn you on. It can help you calm your mind, process emotions, and feel grounded again. In this episode, we talk about how kink becomes a coping tool, why it works, and the difference between healing and avoiding.

We cover both pain and non-pain ways kink helps with stress, connection, and emotional release, plus a few signs to watch for if play starts replacing real support.

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Feeling safe in a dungeon isn’t as simple as having rules on the wall. In this episode, we dig into what really shapes safety in kink spaces, from strong leadership and active dungeon monitors to the messy reality of consent culture and human behavior. We also share stories from our patrons about the dungeons that made them feel protected, the ones that failed them, and how personal history, identity, and community culture all play...

We’re back with another round of Niche Kinks and this time we pulled inspiration straight from our episode on America’s Top Fetishes. These were the kinks people kept asking about, the ones we didn’t have time to unpack, and the ones that genuinely surprised us.

Come hang out with us while we explore the weird, wonderful corners of kink and talk about why the niche stuff is usually the most interesting.

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Inspired by the chaos at Sinners & Stardust, this episode takes a hard look at what happens when fantasy goes too far. From groping and flashing to tracking and harassment, we’re breaking down why fictional kinks never excuse real-world violations — and why consent still matters, even at cons.

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“Submissive training” gets tossed around a lot in kink—but when Dominants use it as a control tactic or sales pitch, it stops being education and starts being manipulation. In this episode, Rara and Dara break down why Dominant-led training can be harmful, how predators exploit new subs who just want to “get it right,” and why coaching is teaching—so those offering it need to own that role responsibly.

They also share healthier, col...

Not all kink happens in public spaces—and that’s perfectly valid. While dungeons, play parties, and community events are one way to experience BDSM, many kinksters explore power exchange, sensation play, and ritual entirely in private. In this episode, we unpack the stigma that sometimes surrounds at-home kink and explore why public visibility isn’t the only way to be “real” in this lifestyle. Whether you're private by choice, ...

Romance novels make kink look so easy—instant trust, flawless scenes, and zero talk about limits or lube. But real life doesn’t come with an editor. In this episode, we break down what’s fantasy versus reality and explain how to take what you read and bring it to life safely.

We’ll talk about scene negotiation, bratty play, punishments, aftercare, and all the practical things your favorite books tend to skip. Learn how to turn t...

Our birthday bash was one for the books! In this episode, we’re spilling all the details from our birthday scenes—what we set out to do, how we challenged ourselves, and the goals we crushed along the way. Expect plenty of laughter, some surprising moments, and maybe a few outrageous confessions. Because nothing says “happy birthday” like celebrating with a little (okay, a lot of) kink.

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We’re joined by Alicia M. Walker and Arielle Kuperberg, authors of Bound by BDSM: Unexpected Lessons for Building a Happier Life. Their groundbreaking book dives into the ways BDSM can teach us about trust, communication, vulnerability, and joy — lessons that extend far beyond the dungeon.

We talk with Alicia and Arielle about what inspired their research, the surprising truths they uncovered, and why mainstream conversations about ...