June 16, 2021 • 28 mins
This week I explain the question I get asked the most.....what is a pinup contest? What is it all about? After this episode your gonna want to sign up to the next one!
I also dive into the reason I have been away- I get a bit personal and I hope it motivates you all to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Love you all!
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Miss Pinup Miami (00:03):
Good day and welcome back to the pin podcast.
Well, I should say, I'm back. Ifirst off wanted to apologize
for the little hiatus that cameon inspecting and uninstall
unexpectedly. But I'm back. Andin case you haven't been here
(00:25):
before. My name is Pinup Miami.
And this is a pin podcast wherewe talk about modern topics with
vintage flair. And I try tobring you topics that have to do
with vintage modern life.
Because at the end of the day,I'm a modern girl that loves
vintage things. So I considermyself modern, with a vintage
(00:45):
flair. And I'm sure a lot of myvintage, fellow vintage lovers,
retro lovers, rockabilly, allfeel the same way that we don't
want to live in the past. Wewant to live in the now. And
before we get started, I want totalk about the sponsor for
today's video, which is pinnedmeetups.com. It is a website
(01:08):
where you can locally findpinups. Now, chapters are only
in Florida right now we have onein South Florida, Central
Florida, and in Tampa. And it'sall about creating meetups to
create events that we can't findus rockabilly vintage lovers,
anybody, you don't have to be anot you can be a novice, you
(01:29):
could be just interested in justshowing up in one event, because
you find it interesting. It'sopen to everyone. So make sure
to hit up a pen meetup, pinmeetups.com. And if you want to
start one in your hood, reachout to me just send me a DM a
question. Email, I'm an easy toeasy to contact. Now before we
(01:51):
also get started, I did want toapologize for the hiatus and I
wanted to explain to you guyswhy I haven't been posting any
podcast episodes, and it trulyfrom the bottom of my heart. I'm
truly sorry. And it's not evenSorry, it's sorry to you guys.
And sorry to myself, because theonly thing that has been keeping
(02:13):
me up in the last year has beenthe podcasts. And I'll tell you
why. I'm gonna be honest withyou guys, and be like and tell
you guys that last year, and I'msure a lot of you can agree that
last year was a very difficultyear for everyone. But mine was
difficult, in many ways, but oneway that I couldn't control was
(02:38):
I have a job. And it really tookthe stress. And I thought about
should I be talking about thison my podcast. But I wanted to
share my experience witheveryone because everyone might
be going through what I'm goingwith. And I hope it motivates
somebody, or you understandwhere I'm coming from. So I have
(03:01):
ever you've heard my podcast,you've heard me talk about the
pillow company that I work for.
And I'm very grateful becausethat's where I learned how to
sew. I have met incredibleladies as so there that I was
there for many, many years. Andin the last year, I don't know
if it was the owner. I had ascary moment. It all started
(03:23):
with one moment where now I lookback and I should have reacted
differently. But he came intothe office one day. And he like
was upset. And if you ask himwhy he was upset, it's so
ridiculous. But nonetheless, hecame in the office really angry
and slammed his head on my deskand it is a family owned.
(03:44):
Business and I was scared. I wasscared. I've never had that
scary feeling in my life. Youknow, if you know me, I try to
let things just go. I reallytried to let this go. But when I
told his wife that I didn't feelcomfortable, like I'm telling
you, I have never been scared. Ithought this man was gonna hit
(04:07):
me. And I've known him for somany years. But she just laughed
it off. And it made me feel evenworse that the next two days I
told him I was leaving. And Ijust had this like throw up, I
threw up. And they probablythought I was out on vacation or
made some stupid excuse, but itwas the worst feeling I've ever
(04:27):
felt. And, and just to pointout, he never apologized for
what he did to me, or how hemade me feel or even if I kind
of mentioned it, it's like hethrew it on the side. And then
there were other instances thatI felt like I was not being
appreciated as an employee. AndI know some of you out there
work for small businesses. AndI'm not saying that they're all
(04:48):
the same but at a certain point.
I believe I got disrespected andit just went on for too long
that the workplace becamehostile now Not only for me, but
for all the employees there,like I'm telling you, nobody
wants to work there. And it's sosad to see a company that the
owner himself had so muchambition when he started and
(05:09):
then turned into this bitter,stressful environment that
trickled down all the way downto the warehouse. Like, it was
so toxic. And I'll have to doand I believe it's because he
was in pain. And I tried to beunderstanding, but there's a
certain point when you got toget out and you're not being
respected as an employee, orthey abuse you, or when you've
(05:32):
worked there for many years, andyou ask for a raise, and they
just like, pity you with 10 centraise, I'm telling you, oh,
disrespectful. And I just fed itup because I was thinking not so
good family, you know? No, I'mtelling you took me a while to
realize, and it was actually myfriend, my friends that, you
(05:54):
know, they always told me that Ido so much that, that I'm worth
more and I'm telling you, if Ididn't have these, I didn't have
friends a couple years back. Andnow thanks to the pins meetups,
I have an incredible network offriends that motivate me and,
and you know, put me in my placewhen I have to, but they never
disrespect me. And I have to saythat I've been truly blessed
(06:16):
with the people I have found.
And even like, the support Ihave online has been immense. So
in the last couple of months, ifI've been looking for jobs, just
putting it out there notthinking that I'm going to leave
because, you know, once you getstuck in a place, and I think
that's what happened to me, weget so complacent with where
we're at that we're scared ofchange. And I believe that
(06:38):
that's what happened to me, Iwas scared of changing, I was
scared of doing something new.
Because I really had all my, myblog going, my sewing going, my
more my events were on hold. ButI had everything going for me
that I really wanted to do afull time. So I was on the right
(06:58):
path and being in this job. ButI slowly realized, like my your
mental health could kill you.
And if you hear stories of otherpeople around you, and please
leave anything in the commentsif you're watching on YouTube,
or send me a DM with any storiesthat you have. Because I want to
know like, how did you get outof that rut and I know a few
people out there are goingthrough a rut and I have to say,
I by raw I mean, going throughan emotional time. And to be
(07:22):
honest, it feels like you'renever going to get out of there.
And I'm not out of the hole yet.
But I'm slowly crawling out. Andit feels like a whole weight has
been lifted. So I startedlooking for interviews, I had
one of my friends look over mymy, my resume, I couldn't do my
(07:44):
thing, you know full timebecause COVID events canceled.
You know, I brought everythingalone, I do my podcast I edit. I
edit my videos, I videotapemyself, I even do my own
photography for a lot of theposts on my Instagram. I'm a one
woman show. So that's the reasonwhy I've been delayed even
pentose at the zoo. So I feellike I'm really behind on
(08:06):
everything. Because again,mental health is important. And
I needed to take care of myself.
And it all boiled down to thisjob that I felt like was
scratching my soul away from me.
And I know that sounds dramatic.
But I'm telling you that I wouldgo home crying. And the only
thing that made me happy at theend of the day was this right
here, this podcast that I havegoing the support I've gotten
(08:28):
from all you people. And itmeans the world. So when I say
you guys mean the world, youguys mean the world. So I was
able to like apply to many jobs,I could tell you right now I
applied to 198 jobs. Okay. And Iknow that a lot of people are
hiring or they're starting toopen up and hiring but I wanted
(08:51):
to do something. I mean, I'vebeen the manager in warehouses
for the last couple of years,but I wanted to do something
that I'm good at that I'm sothat I that I know, which is
social media. So I felt like Inever thought I feel this way at
this age. But I felt like theadult that was trying to look
for a job that the only one ayoung people for you know, have
(09:14):
or felt like I was starting overbecause I've done social media.
I've done a lot of things forbrands for myself, but when you
put it on a resume that youworked on yourself, people start
getting skeptical, even though Ihave proof of everything, like
the skills I have the editing, Iknow how to use, you know, all
these things. So I found thatkind of hard, it was kind of
(09:36):
tough. And then when you haveinterviews that call you for a
second call, you start to thinkshoo, but then I'm gonna have to
leave this and sacrifice there.
And my god so emotional.
And then I found this job and Ihave to say I found this job at
this. It was another warehouse.
So I was kind of skeptical, andI applied for something I was
(09:58):
not quite But at this point Iwas applying to anything and
everything I could. Becausehonestly, after a couple months
and not getting the job I wastrying I was I mean, I did get
hired for a few jobs but Ideclined them either the
schedule or wasn't for me it waslike different things. You know,
when you go for a job, it's it'sa two way street, you have to
(10:20):
like it. And they have to likeyou, and it has to accommodate
your lifestyle and, and for me,I did have you know, you have
your own like, you're definitelyyes, your definite nose. So I
finally found the job that I wasnot qualified for. But honestly,
when I left that interview, Iwas so I felt something I don't
(10:41):
know if you I don't believe inlike, like things but I felt
something I even cried afterthat interview. I was just so
excited. to step out of thatroom. I felt like, I think I
cried because I felt hope. Likethese people loved my stuff.
Like the content I made forPinup Miami, the content I made
(11:04):
for Pensacola, Florida, mypodcast, like they loved it. So
I was able to, you know, showthem who I was, and genuinely
what I wanted for my future, theideas I had for my career and
how I could implement that intotheir business. And I think they
were impressed by that. BecauseTwo weeks later, I didn't hear
(11:24):
back from them. And I didn'twant to be like, hey, but two
weeks later, I'm the hiringhired me What took longer, it
was like a whole month longprocess, I thought I would never
get it. But I did. And I have tosay, I finally feel like that's
why I feel like I'm finallycrawling out. I know
financially, I've beenstruggling and switching jobs
(11:44):
cuz I did have to, you know,every change comes with it ups
and downs. But there was waymore ups and downs. So I am
officially a social mediamarketing specialist. And I will
be working on many brandscreating content. So hopefully
(12:06):
I'll learn some things. But Ialso get to implement everything
I have learned and taughtmyself. Because yes, they like
everything I've done. And I'mready to, to work with many,
many, many, many, many brands.
So I'm so excited. And I want tothank you all for if you're
(12:27):
listening. Thank you so much forlistening and coming back and
I'm back back on schedule, Ihave guests lined up, I'll be
doing a lot of solo things, Ireally want to communicate with
you guys more, talk more, justmore, more more. So yes, that is
what's been happening with me.
And I do apologize again, if youhave reached out to me and I
(12:48):
just been slow. It's just that Ihad to take care of my mental
health. So take care of yourmental health, I have to say it
does mess with everything inyour life. And when you're able
to take care of yourself, thenyou could take care of others.
And you do such a better jobjust like when you're in the
(13:09):
airplane. And they tell you, youknow, when if the airbags
deplete my airbags, those thingsthat come out of the roof, if
they if they come down, makesure to put it on yourself first
and then to anybody else.
Because by the time you put iton somebody else, you might be
dead, so or out of oxygen andyou will be unconscious. So
(13:29):
think about it that way. So Iknow it sounds difficult to work
on yourself. And it sounds socliche. And if you have a job
that you're not happy with orthat you feel disrespected, it
doesn't hurt to look because Ithought hey, I'm gonna look
Whatever, let's see whathappens. And I think I got I
(13:52):
think I got really lucky. And Iwas able to find a place that
works for me and honestly, timeflies because it's what I like
is content creation. Itsmarketing, its social media. So
yes, yes. And to those close tome that know what's been going
on with my life. I just want togive an even those in the pen
(14:14):
meetups a big big big, big bigthank you to all of you, even
you listeners again, you guys. Iknow I'm being repetitive but I
just really want you all to knowthat I love you all and it means
so much to me the support thatyou've given me in the last year
even without you guys knowingand thank you. So for today's
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episode, I wanted to talk aboutsomething that that I feel like
made me who I am, which is pinupcontest. So
I get asked a lot what is apinup contest like when I go to
like this slide the last twoweekends I've actually traveled
that's why I've been all overthe place. I actually traveled
to host my first two pinupcontests. This instance I year
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and a half. So the last one Idid was the rockabilly cue in
immokalee in Florida. And thentwo weeks ago, I did Callahan
cruiser in Jacksonville. And Idid miss Inc, the Bay in Tampa.
So what is a pinup contest? apinup contest is imagine it is a
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contest, like a dress contestdoesn't mean a dress, it just
means I just mean a tire so andattire of vintage, retro
rockabilly style. That's what itis. So you get rated off my
contest, I make it super fair, Ihave practice from when I had no
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friends to when you have friendsand in contests, you know, okay,
I'm getting ahead of myselfhere. But a contest is basically
vintage, retro rockabillyattire. And the contest I host
are judged and crowd favorite.
So these two are different. Soyou either have a judged contest
with so you have judges, andthen they have a sheet. And or,
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you know, it could vary, whoeverhosted whoever puts it together.
But some of them might be adeliberation. So the judges
deliberate on whose first secondor third, or there's like a
score sheet, and in the scores,she has like hair, one through
five, makeup, one through fivetrusts one through five,
overall, one through five, it'sadded up, added up, and then the
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total number is tallied. Andthat's how I run my contest, I
find it extremely fair, cuzyou're judging per category, per
girl, and the girls name isnever on it, it's only per
number. So the judges are alwaysmore concentrated, and they
don't play favorites. I alsolike to pick judges that are in
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different worlds. So you have aphotographer, I like to always
have like a photographer, theprevious winner. I'm a model,
newspaper, magazine, those typeof categories. So that's what I
mean by different categories.
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And then I also have judges,judges, a crowd favorite. So I
love the judges, because in thejudges, you know, if you have no
friends, you don't have to worryabout the crowd cheering for
you. Because that would happento me. And I would get mad when
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I'm like, man, I tried reallyhard to look pretty. And it was
just a crowd favorite. So it'sonly like a favoritism thing. I
mean, that's how I felt. Butthen I've gone to shows that
nobody knows anybody. And youcould tell that from the crowd's
reaction that they just wentwith a girl that was genuinely
the best, or genuinely giving ananswer. So I like to provide a
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both when I host a contest,because I feel like it gives the
crowd a chance to interact withthe girls, and the judges away
to do their judging. And in noway do I influence anything, I
just organize everythingtogether. So while the judges
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deliberate, I always have like,the crowd favorite. And I always
ask somebody from the audienceto come up. And then the people
from I pick somebody from theaudience, usually the most
enthusiastic person because Iknow that they'll be up for the
job. So for example, this lastweekend in Tampa, it was like a
young kid, he really wanted tobe a part of the show. So I
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first had him come up to helpthe girls up the stage because I
forgot to ask somebody to helpthe girls up the stage. You
know, US ladies were some of theladies there had really high
heels. I was impressed.
There was a lady there. They hadlike these really high stripper
heels. And she had a gown and Iwas amazed. I was amazed. And
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she looked amazing. So I hadthis, this young boy helped him
up the stage. And then at theend I surprised him with Do you
mind helping me with the crowdfavorite? And he was like, Oh,
yeah, so it really does, like,bring everything together. So I
had a hell always have somebodyfrom the crowd because I don't
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want people saying Jennifer'srigged. Jennifer's ears suck,
you know, so not that it's everhappens, but I like to always
take precaution. So so the crowdfavorite is usually the loudest
cheer, and I like to do likethree rounds. So be like, Huh,
let's see who was the loudestwe'll bring it up. Do it again.
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And it really helps for thejudges to deliberate because
some of the contests like I'vehad up to 35 girls in these
contests, because I don't likerejecting anyone, because it's
always like, I try there's somecontests that I have to like pre
eliminate the girls. But most ofthem, they're at a car show.
It's about being fun. Sowouldn't you want as many girls
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as possible on stage, justsaying, and plus the prettiest
crowd? So, uh, yeah. So. So fromthere, we just go lower and
lower until we get like thegrand prize. I'm going like
this, if you're watching onYouTube, make sure to like and
subscribe. But that's because Iput my hand over their head, and
I'm like, hey, hey, hey. Andit's so much fun. And I love it.
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Um, so if you're in the contest,usually what happens, and I can
only speak for my contest. Iknow, I've been in a couple of
contests myself. So if you enterthe contest that's at least
hosted by Pinup Miami, you willhave, you will have a question.
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But I do give you a chance topick out your question before
hand when you register with me.
And I let you pick from tworandom questions and let you
keep the one you want. So I liketo give opportunities because
first of all, we're there tohave fun. And if I take away
that fun and make it superserious, you're just not going
to want to participate. So I letyou guys pick from a question.
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You pick one, then you keep ityou pick your number, again,
randomly, you pick your number.
So you have your number random,you have your question random,
you get to keep your question.
And you keep your question allthe way until you go on stage.
And then when you're on stagebefore the contest, I like to
take a group picture becauseit's so nice to see like a bunch
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of girls all dressed together.
And then when we go on stage inorder, I like to call you out by
name first, so you guys couldget a little twirl or walk on
stage, get those little jittersout of the way, and then go down
the line asking the questions toall you ladies. And I have found
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that that really relaxeseveryone. It makes you have fun.
And the number one thing Well,two things that I love the most
from hosting panel. Three thingsI love the most from hosting
pinup contest is number one. Ohmy gosh, I love seeing
everyone's different styles.
Like you could have therockabilly tattoo girl the
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sailor, the classic true vintagerockabilly, you know, there's so
many different styles that glamthe Marilyn Monroe it took, it's
like I love I love it all. Ilove it. And it's all together
on stage. Second is I have seenso many friendships being
developed from these contests,that it ain't even funny. I just
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I just love it. I think it'sincredible. Because you know,
when people hear contest herecompetition, like, I feel like
panel contest is a differenttype of thing. It's about
finding people in your sameniche. And I mean, in your own
community, think about thepeople you hang out with, if
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you're listening to thispodcast. If you're listening to
this podcast, I'm sure a handfulof people around you do not live
the vintage style or practice itor even enjoy. So it's hard to
find people like minded. I knowa lot of people that their best
friends don't like it, but theycome to the meetups because they
get to, you know, do what theylove. They go do contests, it's
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about just being able to bearound others that love what you
love. And the first timeWell, after college, I went to a
meetup event and I met othergirls, but it wasn't until I
truly entered a panel contestthat I met other people that I
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bonded with. So yes, pin themcontest friendships. Heck, I'm
an example. And I know otherother ladies, you know, let me
know if you met each other. Atone of my contests like, I've
heard stories of people tellingme that what I call we made to
Pinup, Miami is a contest downin Fulani Ville. And so just let
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me know I love hearing thosestories. And I truly appreciate
it because it leads me to mythird thing of why I love pinup
contest is I guess, which goeswith the second one is bringing
people together. Not only on thestage, but on the audience. I
could give a perfect example.
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There's a contestant calledBrandi. She was a really early
guest on my show. She's fromSouth Florida. She's come to my
meetups. Her name is Brandybravado. And she I mean I feel
like like she finally found alike a community of girls that
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love what she loves. And shebrings her family to so Like
incorporates like family thelove that she has. You also
bring out your crew to comecheer you on your family, your
friends, and they could see whatit's about. Because if I would
explain to my parents, forexample, I know I've talked
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about them a few times on thepodcast. They're an example like
they don't understand therockabilly lifestyle, including
my sister.
Unknown (25:27):
Excuse me.
Miss Pinup Miami (25:33):
But um, they don't understand it. But they
finally after many years cameout, it's, I'm happy they came
out to this event, but they cameout to the rockabilly prom, the
Spring Fling, and get ready,because next year, it's gonna be
go to spring fling, dance.com.
But, um, you're gonna have theSpring Fling dance, and they
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finally understood what it was.
That's more. Like, it's if youdon't know what the Spring Fling
is. I've talked about it a fewtimes, I believe it's a, like a
1950s prom name. It's gonna it'sat a train, the Gold Coast trade
museum. So you're right inbetween all these vintage
trains. And it is such a funnight. I'm hoping this next year
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because it's, it's gonna beValentine's Day weekend. So next
year, we're gonna have bandsmusic, food drink, and a hell of
a good time. So yes, if you haveany other questions about the
pinup contest, if you're nervousand being in one, do you want me
to make a series on you know,prepping for a contest, what
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judges are looking for? What youshould prepare for? How to
answer a question. Should I makeit a series on my YouTube
channel? Hmm. I perhaps I might,I might just let me know. But
next week, we are going to go alittle more about social media
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copywriting, with our Dallas, alocal here in South Florida. So
make sure you come back andcheck it out. And check out the
pin podcast on Instagram to findout about future contests. Now
contest, future guests. If youdo want to find about future
contest or events that I'mhosting, make sure to check out
(27:24):
Miss Pinup Miami comm and signup for the newsletter, you'll
get to be the first to know ofevery event that comes out first
episode, YouTube videos that areup so yeah, you you, you don't
want to miss out on that. Sothank you all for tuning in. I
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know I had a really long intro,but I just wanted to tell you
guys why I've been missing out.
And I am so happy that I finallysee the light at the end of the
tunnel. And if you're goingthrough a rough time, just
remember you got this andthere's a will there's a way and
what's the saying this too shallpass. Keep that in mind. Thank
you and stay lovely.
Good day and welcome back to the pin podcast.
Well, I should say, I'm back. Ifirst off wanted to apologize
for the little hiatus that cameon inspecting and uninstall
unexpectedly. But I'm back. Andin case you haven't been here
(00:25):
before. My name is Pinup Miami.
And this is a pin podcast wherewe talk about modern topics with
vintage flair. And I try tobring you topics that have to do
with vintage modern life.
Because at the end of the day,I'm a modern girl that loves
vintage things. So I considermyself modern, with a vintage
(00:45):
flair. And I'm sure a lot of myvintage, fellow vintage lovers,
retro lovers, rockabilly, allfeel the same way that we don't
want to live in the past. Wewant to live in the now. And
before we get started, I want totalk about the sponsor for
today's video, which is pinnedmeetups.com. It is a website
(01:08):
where you can locally findpinups. Now, chapters are only
in Florida right now we have onein South Florida, Central
Florida, and in Tampa. And it'sall about creating meetups to
create events that we can't findus rockabilly vintage lovers,
anybody, you don't have to be anot you can be a novice, you
(01:29):
could be just interested in justshowing up in one event, because
you find it interesting. It'sopen to everyone. So make sure
to hit up a pen meetup, pinmeetups.com. And if you want to
start one in your hood, reachout to me just send me a DM a
question. Email, I'm an easy toeasy to contact. Now before we
(01:51):
also get started, I did want toapologize for the hiatus and I
wanted to explain to you guyswhy I haven't been posting any
podcast episodes, and it trulyfrom the bottom of my heart. I'm
truly sorry. And it's not evenSorry, it's sorry to you guys.
And sorry to myself, because theonly thing that has been keeping
(02:13):
me up in the last year has beenthe podcasts. And I'll tell you
why. I'm gonna be honest withyou guys, and be like and tell
you guys that last year, and I'msure a lot of you can agree that
last year was a very difficultyear for everyone. But mine was
difficult, in many ways, but oneway that I couldn't control was
(02:38):
I have a job. And it really tookthe stress. And I thought about
should I be talking about thison my podcast. But I wanted to
share my experience witheveryone because everyone might
be going through what I'm goingwith. And I hope it motivates
somebody, or you understandwhere I'm coming from. So I have
(03:01):
ever you've heard my podcast,you've heard me talk about the
pillow company that I work for.
And I'm very grateful becausethat's where I learned how to
sew. I have met incredibleladies as so there that I was
there for many, many years. Andin the last year, I don't know
if it was the owner. I had ascary moment. It all started
(03:23):
with one moment where now I lookback and I should have reacted
differently. But he came intothe office one day. And he like
was upset. And if you ask himwhy he was upset, it's so
ridiculous. But nonetheless, hecame in the office really angry
and slammed his head on my deskand it is a family owned.
(03:44):
Business and I was scared. I wasscared. I've never had that
scary feeling in my life. Youknow, if you know me, I try to
let things just go. I reallytried to let this go. But when I
told his wife that I didn't feelcomfortable, like I'm telling
you, I have never been scared. Ithought this man was gonna hit
(04:07):
me. And I've known him for somany years. But she just laughed
it off. And it made me feel evenworse that the next two days I
told him I was leaving. And Ijust had this like throw up, I
threw up. And they probablythought I was out on vacation or
made some stupid excuse, but itwas the worst feeling I've ever
(04:27):
felt. And, and just to pointout, he never apologized for
what he did to me, or how hemade me feel or even if I kind
of mentioned it, it's like hethrew it on the side. And then
there were other instances thatI felt like I was not being
appreciated as an employee. AndI know some of you out there
work for small businesses. AndI'm not saying that they're all
(04:48):
the same but at a certain point.
I believe I got disrespected andit just went on for too long
that the workplace becamehostile now Not only for me, but
for all the employees there,like I'm telling you, nobody
wants to work there. And it's sosad to see a company that the
owner himself had so muchambition when he started and
(05:09):
then turned into this bitter,stressful environment that
trickled down all the way downto the warehouse. Like, it was
so toxic. And I'll have to doand I believe it's because he
was in pain. And I tried to beunderstanding, but there's a
certain point when you got toget out and you're not being
respected as an employee, orthey abuse you, or when you've
(05:32):
worked there for many years, andyou ask for a raise, and they
just like, pity you with 10 centraise, I'm telling you, oh,
disrespectful. And I just fed itup because I was thinking not so
good family, you know? No, I'mtelling you took me a while to
realize, and it was actually myfriend, my friends that, you
(05:54):
know, they always told me that Ido so much that, that I'm worth
more and I'm telling you, if Ididn't have these, I didn't have
friends a couple years back. Andnow thanks to the pins meetups,
I have an incredible network offriends that motivate me and,
and you know, put me in my placewhen I have to, but they never
disrespect me. And I have to saythat I've been truly blessed
(06:16):
with the people I have found.
And even like, the support Ihave online has been immense. So
in the last couple of months, ifI've been looking for jobs, just
putting it out there notthinking that I'm going to leave
because, you know, once you getstuck in a place, and I think
that's what happened to me, weget so complacent with where
we're at that we're scared ofchange. And I believe that
(06:38):
that's what happened to me, Iwas scared of changing, I was
scared of doing something new.
Because I really had all my, myblog going, my sewing going, my
more my events were on hold. ButI had everything going for me
that I really wanted to do afull time. So I was on the right
(06:58):
path and being in this job. ButI slowly realized, like my your
mental health could kill you.
And if you hear stories of otherpeople around you, and please
leave anything in the commentsif you're watching on YouTube,
or send me a DM with any storiesthat you have. Because I want to
know like, how did you get outof that rut and I know a few
people out there are goingthrough a rut and I have to say,
I by raw I mean, going throughan emotional time. And to be
(07:22):
honest, it feels like you'renever going to get out of there.
And I'm not out of the hole yet.
But I'm slowly crawling out. Andit feels like a whole weight has
been lifted. So I startedlooking for interviews, I had
one of my friends look over mymy, my resume, I couldn't do my
(07:44):
thing, you know full timebecause COVID events canceled.
You know, I brought everythingalone, I do my podcast I edit. I
edit my videos, I videotapemyself, I even do my own
photography for a lot of theposts on my Instagram. I'm a one
woman show. So that's the reasonwhy I've been delayed even
pentose at the zoo. So I feellike I'm really behind on
(08:06):
everything. Because again,mental health is important. And
I needed to take care of myself.
And it all boiled down to thisjob that I felt like was
scratching my soul away from me.
And I know that sounds dramatic.
But I'm telling you that I wouldgo home crying. And the only
thing that made me happy at theend of the day was this right
here, this podcast that I havegoing the support I've gotten
(08:28):
from all you people. And itmeans the world. So when I say
you guys mean the world, youguys mean the world. So I was
able to like apply to many jobs,I could tell you right now I
applied to 198 jobs. Okay. And Iknow that a lot of people are
hiring or they're starting toopen up and hiring but I wanted
(08:51):
to do something. I mean, I'vebeen the manager in warehouses
for the last couple of years,but I wanted to do something
that I'm good at that I'm sothat I that I know, which is
social media. So I felt like Inever thought I feel this way at
this age. But I felt like theadult that was trying to look
for a job that the only one ayoung people for you know, have
(09:14):
or felt like I was starting overbecause I've done social media.
I've done a lot of things forbrands for myself, but when you
put it on a resume that youworked on yourself, people start
getting skeptical, even though Ihave proof of everything, like
the skills I have the editing, Iknow how to use, you know, all
these things. So I found thatkind of hard, it was kind of
(09:36):
tough. And then when you haveinterviews that call you for a
second call, you start to thinkshoo, but then I'm gonna have to
leave this and sacrifice there.
And my god so emotional.
And then I found this job and Ihave to say I found this job at
this. It was another warehouse.
So I was kind of skeptical, andI applied for something I was
(09:58):
not quite But at this point Iwas applying to anything and
everything I could. Becausehonestly, after a couple months
and not getting the job I wastrying I was I mean, I did get
hired for a few jobs but Ideclined them either the
schedule or wasn't for me it waslike different things. You know,
when you go for a job, it's it'sa two way street, you have to
(10:20):
like it. And they have to likeyou, and it has to accommodate
your lifestyle and, and for me,I did have you know, you have
your own like, you're definitelyyes, your definite nose. So I
finally found the job that I wasnot qualified for. But honestly,
when I left that interview, Iwas so I felt something I don't
(10:41):
know if you I don't believe inlike, like things but I felt
something I even cried afterthat interview. I was just so
excited. to step out of thatroom. I felt like, I think I
cried because I felt hope. Likethese people loved my stuff.
Like the content I made forPinup Miami, the content I made
(11:04):
for Pensacola, Florida, mypodcast, like they loved it. So
I was able to, you know, showthem who I was, and genuinely
what I wanted for my future, theideas I had for my career and
how I could implement that intotheir business. And I think they
were impressed by that. BecauseTwo weeks later, I didn't hear
(11:24):
back from them. And I didn'twant to be like, hey, but two
weeks later, I'm the hiringhired me What took longer, it
was like a whole month longprocess, I thought I would never
get it. But I did. And I have tosay, I finally feel like that's
why I feel like I'm finallycrawling out. I know
financially, I've beenstruggling and switching jobs
(11:44):
cuz I did have to, you know,every change comes with it ups
and downs. But there was waymore ups and downs. So I am
officially a social mediamarketing specialist. And I will
be working on many brandscreating content. So hopefully
(12:06):
I'll learn some things. But Ialso get to implement everything
I have learned and taughtmyself. Because yes, they like
everything I've done. And I'mready to, to work with many,
many, many, many, many brands.
So I'm so excited. And I want tothank you all for if you're
(12:27):
listening. Thank you so much forlistening and coming back and
I'm back back on schedule, Ihave guests lined up, I'll be
doing a lot of solo things, Ireally want to communicate with
you guys more, talk more, justmore, more more. So yes, that is
what's been happening with me.
And I do apologize again, if youhave reached out to me and I
(12:48):
just been slow. It's just that Ihad to take care of my mental
health. So take care of yourmental health, I have to say it
does mess with everything inyour life. And when you're able
to take care of yourself, thenyou could take care of others.
And you do such a better jobjust like when you're in the
(13:09):
airplane. And they tell you, youknow, when if the airbags
deplete my airbags, those thingsthat come out of the roof, if
they if they come down, makesure to put it on yourself first
and then to anybody else.
Because by the time you put iton somebody else, you might be
dead, so or out of oxygen andyou will be unconscious. So
(13:29):
think about it that way. So Iknow it sounds difficult to work
on yourself. And it sounds socliche. And if you have a job
that you're not happy with orthat you feel disrespected, it
doesn't hurt to look because Ithought hey, I'm gonna look
Whatever, let's see whathappens. And I think I got I
(13:52):
think I got really lucky. And Iwas able to find a place that
works for me and honestly, timeflies because it's what I like
is content creation. Itsmarketing, its social media. So
yes, yes. And to those close tome that know what's been going
on with my life. I just want togive an even those in the pen
(14:14):
meetups a big big big, big bigthank you to all of you, even
you listeners again, you guys. Iknow I'm being repetitive but I
just really want you all to knowthat I love you all and it means
so much to me the support thatyou've given me in the last year
even without you guys knowingand thank you. So for today's
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episode, I wanted to talk aboutsomething that that I feel like
made me who I am, which is pinupcontest. So
I get asked a lot what is apinup contest like when I go to
like this slide the last twoweekends I've actually traveled
that's why I've been all overthe place. I actually traveled
to host my first two pinupcontests. This instance I year
(15:00):
and a half. So the last one Idid was the rockabilly cue in
immokalee in Florida. And thentwo weeks ago, I did Callahan
cruiser in Jacksonville. And Idid miss Inc, the Bay in Tampa.
So what is a pinup contest? apinup contest is imagine it is a
(15:21):
contest, like a dress contestdoesn't mean a dress, it just
means I just mean a tire so andattire of vintage, retro
rockabilly style. That's what itis. So you get rated off my
contest, I make it super fair, Ihave practice from when I had no
(15:42):
friends to when you have friendsand in contests, you know, okay,
I'm getting ahead of myselfhere. But a contest is basically
vintage, retro rockabillyattire. And the contest I host
are judged and crowd favorite.
So these two are different. Soyou either have a judged contest
with so you have judges, andthen they have a sheet. And or,
(16:07):
you know, it could vary, whoeverhosted whoever puts it together.
But some of them might be adeliberation. So the judges
deliberate on whose first secondor third, or there's like a
score sheet, and in the scores,she has like hair, one through
five, makeup, one through fivetrusts one through five,
overall, one through five, it'sadded up, added up, and then the
(16:30):
total number is tallied. Andthat's how I run my contest, I
find it extremely fair, cuzyou're judging per category, per
girl, and the girls name isnever on it, it's only per
number. So the judges are alwaysmore concentrated, and they
don't play favorites. I alsolike to pick judges that are in
(16:50):
different worlds. So you have aphotographer, I like to always
have like a photographer, theprevious winner. I'm a model,
newspaper, magazine, those typeof categories. So that's what I
mean by different categories.
(17:10):
And then I also have judges,judges, a crowd favorite. So I
love the judges, because in thejudges, you know, if you have no
friends, you don't have to worryabout the crowd cheering for
you. Because that would happento me. And I would get mad when
(17:30):
I'm like, man, I tried reallyhard to look pretty. And it was
just a crowd favorite. So it'sonly like a favoritism thing. I
mean, that's how I felt. Butthen I've gone to shows that
nobody knows anybody. And youcould tell that from the crowd's
reaction that they just wentwith a girl that was genuinely
the best, or genuinely giving ananswer. So I like to provide a
(17:57):
both when I host a contest,because I feel like it gives the
crowd a chance to interact withthe girls, and the judges away
to do their judging. And in noway do I influence anything, I
just organize everythingtogether. So while the judges
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deliberate, I always have like,the crowd favorite. And I always
ask somebody from the audienceto come up. And then the people
from I pick somebody from theaudience, usually the most
enthusiastic person because Iknow that they'll be up for the
job. So for example, this lastweekend in Tampa, it was like a
young kid, he really wanted tobe a part of the show. So I
(18:40):
first had him come up to helpthe girls up the stage because I
forgot to ask somebody to helpthe girls up the stage. You
know, US ladies were some of theladies there had really high
heels. I was impressed.
There was a lady there. They hadlike these really high stripper
heels. And she had a gown and Iwas amazed. I was amazed. And
(19:01):
she looked amazing. So I hadthis, this young boy helped him
up the stage. And then at theend I surprised him with Do you
mind helping me with the crowdfavorite? And he was like, Oh,
yeah, so it really does, like,bring everything together. So I
had a hell always have somebodyfrom the crowd because I don't
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want people saying Jennifer'srigged. Jennifer's ears suck,
you know, so not that it's everhappens, but I like to always
take precaution. So so the crowdfavorite is usually the loudest
cheer, and I like to do likethree rounds. So be like, Huh,
let's see who was the loudestwe'll bring it up. Do it again.
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And it really helps for thejudges to deliberate because
some of the contests like I'vehad up to 35 girls in these
contests, because I don't likerejecting anyone, because it's
always like, I try there's somecontests that I have to like pre
eliminate the girls. But most ofthem, they're at a car show.
It's about being fun. Sowouldn't you want as many girls
(20:05):
as possible on stage, justsaying, and plus the prettiest
crowd? So, uh, yeah. So. So fromthere, we just go lower and
lower until we get like thegrand prize. I'm going like
this, if you're watching onYouTube, make sure to like and
subscribe. But that's because Iput my hand over their head, and
I'm like, hey, hey, hey. Andit's so much fun. And I love it.
(20:30):
Um, so if you're in the contest,usually what happens, and I can
only speak for my contest. Iknow, I've been in a couple of
contests myself. So if you enterthe contest that's at least
hosted by Pinup Miami, you willhave, you will have a question.
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But I do give you a chance topick out your question before
hand when you register with me.
And I let you pick from tworandom questions and let you
keep the one you want. So I liketo give opportunities because
first of all, we're there tohave fun. And if I take away
that fun and make it superserious, you're just not going
to want to participate. So I letyou guys pick from a question.
(21:16):
You pick one, then you keep ityou pick your number, again,
randomly, you pick your number.
So you have your number random,you have your question random,
you get to keep your question.
And you keep your question allthe way until you go on stage.
And then when you're on stagebefore the contest, I like to
take a group picture becauseit's so nice to see like a bunch
(21:37):
of girls all dressed together.
And then when we go on stage inorder, I like to call you out by
name first, so you guys couldget a little twirl or walk on
stage, get those little jittersout of the way, and then go down
the line asking the questions toall you ladies. And I have found
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that that really relaxeseveryone. It makes you have fun.
And the number one thing Well,two things that I love the most
from hosting panel. Three thingsI love the most from hosting
pinup contest is number one. Ohmy gosh, I love seeing
everyone's different styles.
Like you could have therockabilly tattoo girl the
(22:18):
sailor, the classic true vintagerockabilly, you know, there's so
many different styles that glamthe Marilyn Monroe it took, it's
like I love I love it all. Ilove it. And it's all together
on stage. Second is I have seenso many friendships being
developed from these contests,that it ain't even funny. I just
(22:41):
I just love it. I think it'sincredible. Because you know,
when people hear contest herecompetition, like, I feel like
panel contest is a differenttype of thing. It's about
finding people in your sameniche. And I mean, in your own
community, think about thepeople you hang out with, if
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you're listening to thispodcast. If you're listening to
this podcast, I'm sure a handfulof people around you do not live
the vintage style or practice itor even enjoy. So it's hard to
find people like minded. I knowa lot of people that their best
friends don't like it, but theycome to the meetups because they
get to, you know, do what theylove. They go do contests, it's
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about just being able to bearound others that love what you
love. And the first timeWell, after college, I went to a
meetup event and I met othergirls, but it wasn't until I
truly entered a panel contestthat I met other people that I
(23:48):
bonded with. So yes, pin themcontest friendships. Heck, I'm
an example. And I know otherother ladies, you know, let me
know if you met each other. Atone of my contests like, I've
heard stories of people tellingme that what I call we made to
Pinup, Miami is a contest downin Fulani Ville. And so just let
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me know I love hearing thosestories. And I truly appreciate
it because it leads me to mythird thing of why I love pinup
contest is I guess, which goeswith the second one is bringing
people together. Not only on thestage, but on the audience. I
could give a perfect example.
(24:32):
There's a contestant calledBrandi. She was a really early
guest on my show. She's fromSouth Florida. She's come to my
meetups. Her name is Brandybravado. And she I mean I feel
like like she finally found alike a community of girls that
(24:54):
love what she loves. And shebrings her family to so Like
incorporates like family thelove that she has. You also
bring out your crew to comecheer you on your family, your
friends, and they could see whatit's about. Because if I would
explain to my parents, forexample, I know I've talked
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about them a few times on thepodcast. They're an example like
they don't understand therockabilly lifestyle, including
my sister.
Unknown (25:27):
Excuse me.
Miss Pinup Miami (25:33):
But um, they don't understand it. But they
finally after many years cameout, it's, I'm happy they came
out to this event, but they cameout to the rockabilly prom, the
Spring Fling, and get ready,because next year, it's gonna be
go to spring fling, dance.com.
But, um, you're gonna have theSpring Fling dance, and they
(25:55):
finally understood what it was.
That's more. Like, it's if youdon't know what the Spring Fling
is. I've talked about it a fewtimes, I believe it's a, like a
1950s prom name. It's gonna it'sat a train, the Gold Coast trade
museum. So you're right inbetween all these vintage
trains. And it is such a funnight. I'm hoping this next year
(26:18):
because it's, it's gonna beValentine's Day weekend. So next
year, we're gonna have bandsmusic, food drink, and a hell of
a good time. So yes, if you haveany other questions about the
pinup contest, if you're nervousand being in one, do you want me
to make a series on you know,prepping for a contest, what
(26:42):
judges are looking for? What youshould prepare for? How to
answer a question. Should I makeit a series on my YouTube
channel? Hmm. I perhaps I might,I might just let me know. But
next week, we are going to go alittle more about social media
(27:02):
copywriting, with our Dallas, alocal here in South Florida. So
make sure you come back andcheck it out. And check out the
pin podcast on Instagram to findout about future contests. Now
contest, future guests. If youdo want to find about future
contest or events that I'mhosting, make sure to check out
(27:24):
Miss Pinup Miami comm and signup for the newsletter, you'll
get to be the first to know ofevery event that comes out first
episode, YouTube videos that areup so yeah, you you, you don't
want to miss out on that. Sothank you all for tuning in. I
(27:45):
know I had a really long intro,but I just wanted to tell you
guys why I've been missing out.
And I am so happy that I finallysee the light at the end of the
tunnel. And if you're goingthrough a rough time, just
remember you got this andthere's a will there's a way and
what's the saying this too shallpass. Keep that in mind. Thank
you and stay lovely.
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