Radical Accommodation: When People Pleasing Becomes Self-Erasure

Have you ever found yourself constantly rearranging your life to meet everyone else’s needs—while ignoring your own? In this episode, of Pint-Sized Therapy, we explore a term I’ve coined: Radical Accommodation. It goes beyond people pleasing—into a deeper, more compulsive pattern of self-neglect driven by fear of rejection, abandonment, and the need to belong.

We’ll look at how Radical Accommodation forms, how it shows up in relationships, and why it’s so hard to break. Drawing from clinical insight, personal observation, and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, we unpack the emotional cost of this behavior—like burnout, identity loss, and chronic anxiety.

You’ll also explore how family dynamics and past trauma shape this behavior, and walk away with actionable tools—cognitive, somatic, and relational—to start reclaiming your needs and sense of self.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to earn love by erasing yourself, this episode is for you.

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