Pocketful of Mojo

Ever notice how some people seem to get stronger the harder you try to please them? That’s not a personality clash—it’s a power dynamic. We dig into why “poison people” are drawn to emotionally fluent, caring humans and how their control thrives on explanations, real-time reactions, and the need to be liked. The shift isn’t about becoming tougher or louder; it’s about becoming anchored and unavailable for the game.

We unpa...

Ever feel like your life checks every box yet somehow feels dimmed at the edges? Steph, the Mojo Maven, takes us straight to the heart of that gap between performing and belonging—to ourselves. We unpack how early praise for being “easygoing” or warnings about being “too sensitive” taught us to override instincts, choose logic over truth, and outsource our choices to the algorithm. The result isn’t a broken self; it’s a quiet habit...

Ever notice how “easygoing” can become a cloak that lets you disappear from your own life? That was my story. I said yes fast, kept the peace, and called it kindness—until my body threw a red flag I couldn’t ignore. From the outside, I looked like a success: constant promotions, city moves, a reputation for reliability. On the inside, I was exhausted, disconnected, and measuring my worth by a company’s scoreboard.

I take y...

If your throat tightens when you ask for what you want, this conversation is your reset. We start by grounding with a mantra that reframes needs as information, not interruptions, then move into a practical framework for clear, kind boundaries that don’t require a ten-paragraph defense. The goal isn’t to become rigid; it’s to stop abandoning yourself and start speaking with steady honesty.

We break down the three rules of ...

Ever felt that small tug in your chest that whispers, “I miss me”? This kickoff to Season Three leans into the tender grief that surfaces when you stop shrinking to fit other people’s comfort. We talk candidly about the invisible costs of people pleasing—energy leaks, stalled creativity, dulled desire, performative joy—and why naming them becomes the most compassionate first step toward alignment.

I share real moments from...

Holidays can pull us back into old roles before the eggnog hits the glass: the planner, the peacekeeper, the one who “makes it nice.” We’re done with that script. I walk you through a compassionate, practical approach to reclaiming your season without becoming rigid or combative, starting with a simple truth: your capacity is information, not a character flaw.

We explore how awareness widens your choices, turning guilt fro...

If you’ve been feeling like your identity packed a bag and slipped out the back door, this conversation offers a gentler truth: you’re not lost—you’re layered. We talk about how people pleasing, stacked roles, and cultural noise dim your inner signal, and how a few honest steps can move you from low battery mode to full brightness. Instead of promising reinvention, we build a path to reunion with the self you’ve been all along.

Celebration isn’t extra; it’s essential. We unpack why so many of us learned to shrink our joy—thanks to stay-humble conditioning, perfectionist rules, and a lingering pandemic hangover—and how that habit quietly steals motivation, confidence, and connection. If you’ve ever skipped your own wins, mumbled through a birthday, or dreaded New Year’s because of the pressure to perform, this conversation hands you the tools to rewrite yo...

Ever felt your mouth say yes while your gut screams no? We’re digging into why confrontation feels like danger to your nervous system, how people-pleasing sneaks in through well-meaning “niceness,” and the simple shifts that turn boundary-setting into an act of self-respect. With plain language and a little humor, we unpack the brain science behind fear, show you how the amygdala hijack works, and explain why your prefrontal cortex...

Let's play a little game of "WHAT IF?"

What if your nervous system isn’t scared of compliments because you’re ungrateful, but because it learned that safety lives in overgiving? In this episode we get real about why receiving feels awkward for people pleasers and breaks down how to flip the script with warmth, humour, and brain-savvy tools you can use today.

Cuz why wait for good things to happen? We want it NOW! 
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Ever felt like you’re standing in a hallway between who you were and who you’re becoming? That’s the messy middle—and it’s where real change happens. We get honest about why transformation feels scary, why your brain clings to familiar patterns, and how to move from people pleasing and performance to alignment, peace, and personal power.

We start by decoding the science: the brain rewards predictability, not happiness. Tha...

We unpack why waiting to be chosen keeps us small and how choosing ourselves rewires beliefs, focuses the brain, and attracts aligned opportunities. Steph shares a personal story of grief, self-promotion, and practical tools to define, claim, and live your worth.

• approval loops and how beliefs form
• dangers of outsourcing power and validation
• letting go of apologies, fear and old stories
• defining clear d...

We trace how tiny moments of self-abandonment scatter your spark, then map a science-backed path to call it home. Quiet power replaces people pleasing through five practical steps, somatic anchors, and small choices that rebuild trust in yourself.

• micro moments that teach the brain to shrink
• rejection and shame as felt threats not facts
• survival mode turning into self-abandonment
• the kitchen floor clari...

Ever order the sushi to keep the peace when all you wanted was the burger? That tiny moment says everything about approval addiction—how our brains chase praise like a survival resource and how that chase slowly shrinks our lives. We unpack why the dopamine loop makes people-pleasing feel like oxygen, then show how to break it with simple, believable steps that rebuild confidence from the inside out.

We start with clear, r...

A simple question can shake an entire life: 

What do I really want? 

Not what looks impressive, not what keeps the peace—what actually lights you up. We dive into why that question triggers the body’s alarm bells, how self‑silencing gets wired in, and what it takes to reclaim autonomy without blowing everything up. 

From the lens of neuroscience and self‑determination theory, we unpack why familiar patterns feel safe, why uncertainty ...

What happens when the name tags come off? 

We dive straight into the sticky truth: roles like “busy mom,” “rock star employee,” or “supportive spouse” can earn praise and belonging, but they can also erase the person underneath. 

With humour, candour, and a little sass, we unpack how people-pleasing and external validation rent your worth—and how to take it back without burning your past to the ground.

We explore why labels ...

Stop chasing the polished reveal and step into the part no one posts: the messy middle. We go straight at the awkward, foggy, sometimes tear-streaked stretch between “before” and “after,” and show why it’s the most creative, honest stage of becoming. Steph shares a raw closet moment—when a wardrobe full of other people’s expectations sparked a rebellion in the form of a bright orange top—and connects it to a bigger truth: those unc...

Imagine waking up each morning with $1,000 worth of energy to spend. By noon, you're broke—and somehow, none of it went toward what truly matters to you. Sound familiar?

In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the concept of your "energy budget" and how recovering people pleasers unconsciously bankrupt themselves by saying yes to everyone else's priorities. I'll show you exactly how hustle c...

When did "busy" become your brand? That exhausted, overwhelmed state we wear like a badge of honor isn't the flex we think it is. In this eye-opening episode, we unpack the uncomfortable truth about our addiction to busyness and why it might be the cheapest status symbol you're carrying.

Busy isn't who you are—it's just what you're doing. As people-pleasers, we've mistaken productivi...