Healing, Honesty, and Boundaries: Shellie R. Warren on Creativity, Self-Worth, and Sacred Space

Guest Name: Shellie R. Warren

Read articles by Shellie at https://www.xonecole.com/u/shellie-r-warren

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Summary:

In this heartfelt episode of Poddin’ My Noggin, C.K. Simms welcomes Shellie R. Warren—writer, speaker, and doula—for a deep dive into personal transformation, the sacrifices we make for self-acceptance, and the layered beauty of human relationships. Together, they unpack the emotional truths of parenting, identity, creativity, sexuality, and the healing journey through divorce.

Shellie reflects on her path to becoming a doula as both a personal calling and a means of birthing healing—literally and metaphorically. From discussing why quality friendships matter more than quantity, to the essential role of open conversations around sex and pleasure, this episode is a powerful exploration of adulting, accountability, forgiveness, and the courage to set boundaries. Listeners will walk away feeling seen, inspired, and reminded that they are a blessing to those around them.

Takeaways:

- Self-acceptance is a journey that often requires sacrifices.

- Understanding one's identity can lead to profound personal growth.

- Parents may struggle to accept the unique traits of their children.

- Healthy relationships require mutual respect and understanding.

- Quality friendships are more valuable than quantity.

- Becoming a doula can be a healing experience for both the doula and the clients.

- Creativity can be seen as a form of birthing new ideas and projects.

- Open communication about sex is essential for healthy relationships.

- Sexual education should encompass all aspects of sexual health and pleasure.

- Divorce can be an opportunity for personal growth and reflection. Compassion is more important than being non-judgmental.

- Accountability is essential in relationships.

- Marriage should be valued and approached seriously.

- Divorce rates increase with each subsequent marriage.

- Self-reflection is crucial before entering a new relationship.

- Forgiveness requires acknowledgment and a willingness to change.

- Setting boundaries is necessary for personal peace.

- Sacrificing something good can lead to something greater.

- Adulthood involves overcoming childhood traumas.

- You are a blessing to those around you.

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

03:06 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Sacrifice

07:55 Parenting and the Challenges of Raising Unique Children

10:50 Romanticizing Family and Relationships

12:58 Improvement vs. Change in Relationships

14:55 The Value of Quality Friendships

18:29 Becoming a Doula and Birthing Creative Ideas

28:38 Exploring Sex and Divorce

31:18 Exploring Sexual Memory and Orgasm

34:16 The Role of Churches in Sexual Education

37:37 Understanding Andropause and Aging

42:38 Navigating Divorce and Reconciliation

50:45 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Relationships

57:30 Navigating Forgiveness and Boundaries

01:00:45 The Impact of Family Dynamics

01:02:39 Personal Growth Through Adversity

01:06:00 The Role of Social Media in Relationships

01:11:02 Embracing Conversations and Learning from Others