Can We Just Be Friends? Navigating Platonic Relationships in Polyamory

• Hosts: Kat and Doc
• Website: polypathwayspodcast.transistor.fm
• YouTube: @polypathwayspodcast
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Kat and Doc explore the perception of polyamory as a cult, challenge the notion that polyamorous individuals are trying to "convert" others, and how to form friendships in a complex relationship spectrum. They discuss how society's shift away from community building and toward hyper-individualism has influenced these misconceptions, referencing books like "Soul Boom" by Rainn Wilson and "Together" by Vivek Murthy to examine the broader context of America's loneliness epidemic.

The hosts delve into how being openly polyamorous can impact friendships and social circles, sharing personal experiences of both acceptance and rejection. They address common misconceptions, such as the assumption that polyamorous people want to date all their friends or that exposure to polyamory will "convert" monogamous individuals. The discussion emphasizes that polyamory is more about relationship orientation than choice, similar to sexual orientation.

The episode concludes by examining how polyamory's emphasis on clear communication can influence friendship dynamics and relationship transitions including escalations and de-escalations. Kat & Doc discuss the concept of "poly for the moment" and the importance of maintaining boundaries with friends who may view polyamory as an opportunity for infidelity, temporary exploration, or long awaited connection. They also preview their next episode about dating while polyamorous, which will cover topics like managing special days with multiple partners and dating app navigation.

Resources Mentioned (affiliate links):

• "Soul Boom" by Rainn Wilson | Amazon | Bookshop.org
• "Together" by Vivek Murthy  | Amazon | Bookshop.org
• Money with Katie podcast
• Remodeled Love's Nuclear Fusion (and their podcast)

Questions We Answer:

• Is polyamory really a cult, or is monogamy more cult-like in its social pressure and expectations?
• How do you maintain friendships when friends assume you want to date them after coming out as polyamorous?
• Why do polyamorous people seem to talk about polyamory so much - is it about converting others or something else?
• How do you handle friends who see your polyamory as an opportunity for infidelity or temporary exploration?
• Can you de-escalate from a romantic relationship back to friendship in polyamory?
• What happens to your social circle when your friends' partners are uncomfortable with your relationship style?
• How do polyamorous people actually decide who they want to date versus maintain as friends?
• Why might your old flames suddenly reappear when they learn you're polyamorous, and how should you handle it?
• What role does enhanced communication play in maintaining boundaries and friendships while polyamorous?