In Episode 270, Mark & Steve respond to a submission and questions by a betrayed Partner. When a partner admits to a porn or sex addiction but fails to take meaningful steps toward recovery, the betrayed partner is left in a painful cycle of hope and disappointment. While honesty is an essential first step, it is meaningless without action, and waiting for change that never comes can be emotionally exhausting. Many betrayed partners find themselves questioning whether they are expecting too much, but true recovery requires more than words—it demands consistent effort, emotional vulnerability, and a willingness to grow. Without this, the relationship remains stagnant, causing frustration and deep wounds of mistrust.
A significant challenge in this situation is distinguishing between a lack of willingness and a lack of ability. If a partner wants to change but does not know how, they can be guided toward growth through therapy, support groups, and self-development. However, if they are simply unwilling, no amount of pressure or encouragement will create lasting change. Betrayed partners often wait in limbo, hoping for progress, only to find themselves stuck in a pattern of broken promises. This waiting can become an unbearable burden, leading to emotional detachment and self-doubt.
Ultimately, each betrayed partner must decide how long they are willing to wait. Boundaries must be set, not as a means of controlling the addict, but to protect one’s own emotional well-being. If a partner refuses to take accountability and do the work, then it may be necessary to walk away in order to preserve self-worth and personal growth. Recovery and healing are possible, but they require mutual effort. By recognizing the difference between empty words and genuine change, betrayed partners can reclaim their agency and move forward toward a healthier, more fulfilling future.
For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to: My Partner FINALLY Admitted His Porn Addiction, but He Won't Do Recovery Work or Open Up. What Can I Do?!
Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.com
Find out more about Steve Moore at: Ascension Counseling
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