January 2, 2024 • 20 mins
To wrap up 2023, we're taking a trip down memory lane to revisit some of the best moments from the podcast. We've had some truly memorable episodes this year, from heartwarming anecdotes to thought-provoking discussions. But that's not all we are covering! Tune in to hear some of the milestones that the podcast has reached!
In this episode, you will:
- Hear the highlights from some of the favorite episodes featured on the podcast, providing insights and wisdom on love, relationships, and personal growth.
We're also gearing up for more inspiring content in 2024. Our upcoming episodes will feature insightful guests and cover a broader range of relationship topics, catering not only to single women but also addressing the relationship issues encountered by married women. If you have guest suggestions or topics you'd like us to explore, please don't hesitate to share your ideas.
We can't wait for another year of engaging conversations and valuable insights with you. Thank you for being a part of the Position Podcast community and your support throughout the year.
Mentioned Resources
Episode 3: Real Talk Before the Ring: Positioned for Love Success Story with Faith
Episode 5: Real Talk Before the Ring: Marriage and Entrepreneurship with Pastor Amos
Episode 6: Spring Cleaning: Toxic Relationships
Episode 15: Positioned for Love Success Story: Naomi & Maurice
Episode 20: 7 Signs You May Need to Leave a Relationship
Episode 21: Awkward Questions You Need to Ask and Answer BEFORE You Get Engaged
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SPEAKER_03 (00:04):
Have you come to the point in your life where doing
that work, church, home, repeatjust isn't working for you
anymore, and you know there'sgotta be more to life than this,
then girl, you've come to theright place.
I'm Kimberly Knight, and this isthe Position Podcast.
As a certified coach,consultant, author, and speaker,
I've had the privilege ofhelping women to position
(00:24):
themselves for success in life,love, and business.
So if you're ready for somewisdom wrapped up in a little
bit of girlfriend, join me andother experts each week as we
give you the conversation,coaching, and keys you need to
take you to your next steps.
Hello and welcome to thePosition Podcast.
I am your host, Kimberly Knight,and today I am doing something a
(00:51):
little bit different.
You know, as we wrap up thisyear, I thought it would be
fitting that we revisit some ofthe best moments of the Position
Podcast.
But before we do, I would loveto share some of the highlights
from this year.
We were nominated for twoawards, and yes, it was a
privilege to be a nominated.
We also released our brand newwebsite.
(01:13):
You can find us atpositionnetwork.com.
You'll be able to catch up onall of not just the episodes,
but all the other things thatwe're doing.
Here's something that was reallyinteresting for us.
While the bulk of our listenersare from the US, we also had
listeners from across the globe: the UK, Jordan, North Macedonia, (01:29):
undefined
Brazil, Canada, Indonesia,Kenya, South Africa, India,
Russia, and even theNetherlands.
Oh, oh, and Bali.
unknown (01:43):
Bali.
SPEAKER_03 (01:44):
By the way, if you're listening in Bali, please
invite me.
I would love.
That is actually on my ultimateexperience list.
I would love to come.
So, yeah, invite me.
Okay.
All right.
So coming up next, we are goingto listen to some of the
highlights from our favoriteprograms.
(02:05):
Hands down, the funniest episodewe had was episode 15 with
Maurice and Naomi.
When this man talked aboutfalling in love with her
eyebrows and she was loving onhis squishy feet, I lost words.
Listen in.
Besides the eyebrows and heradventurous spirit, when did you
(02:26):
realize that you were in loveand she was the one?
SPEAKER_02 (02:29):
Well, um, when she's gonna say it, baby.
SPEAKER_04 (02:38):
I'm gonna say it.
So uh oh, we're getting ready toget some gossip, y'all.
SPEAKER_02 (02:42):
Oh my goodness, help him, Lord.
Help him, Jesus.
We all have insecurities aboutourselves, right?
But one insecurity about me ismy feet.
And so, and it's funny, guysfunny because she loves feet.
I said, Lord, it's like really.
I'm a toe person, I don't knowwhy.
So she said, let me see yourfeet.
(03:03):
I don't know, I'm just sayingsecurity about feet.
I, you know, whatever.
Guess it's it's an AfricanAmerican thing thing, whatever.
Um, so so and she would say, Letme see your feet.
I was so happy, uh I said, well,Lord, it looked, then it got to
the point.
I said, Lord, I don't know if Isaid in my mind or aloud.
I said, Lord, if she if shelikes my feet, then I know that
(03:27):
you know that I'll fall in lovewith this girl.
And I showed her and always thecutest thing ever.
My toes and and my bottom of myfeet and squishy and all that
stuff.
It just yeah.
What the heck?
SPEAKER_03 (03:43):
Tell me you.
SPEAKER_04 (03:44):
I'm telling you, I don't even know where to go with
after this.
So so so wait a minute.
SPEAKER_03 (03:50):
We've got eyebrows and feet, planes, and so y'all
just couldn't come in and have anormal interview, right?
Okay, yeah, right.
Come on, I'm here for it.
SPEAKER_04 (04:05):
So that just goes to show you, and you know, this is
something I always say there's alid for every pot.
Yes, there is.
Even if you got squishy feet,don't matter.
SPEAKER_03 (04:13):
There's a lid to every pot, there's somebody for
you.
That's right.
I have to tell you, one thing Ido is I try not to have
discussion before the interviewsbecause I want it to be fresh,
right?
I may have to change thatpolicy.
SPEAKER_04 (04:27):
Number one, it was the feet in the eyebrows for me,
and then number two, I think Iwon't change the policy because
how else would we have gottento?
You like it, I love it.
I'm just I'm not judging it, Idon't know what to do with it,
but okay.
I forgot about that.
SPEAKER_01 (04:47):
That's his invasive security, and I loved it.
SPEAKER_03 (04:51):
We loved each other's all about the squishy
feet, yeah.
Okay, so that's another point inthe program, right?
For the right one, it won't beoff-putting, even if your feet
are squishy.
That doesn't even make sense,even if your eyebrows are
fierce.
But these are the things that wehave insecurities about that
(05:11):
keep us from going intorelationship and feeling
confident, right?
These are the things thatactually hold us back.
And it seems ridiculous to younow on the other side of love
when you have someone whoaccepts you as you are, but it
didn't seem ridiculous to youbefore this.
No, so very, very, veryinteresting.
(05:33):
And when I tell you, that is notthe response I thought I was
going to get.
I'm giving you 10 points justfor the out-of-the-box stuff.
Oh my gosh.
Our next clip got the mostlistener feedback, and that was
episode six, the spring cleaningof toxic relationships episode.
(05:55):
When I tell you the emails, theshares, the comments, it was one
of those difficult episodes.
And one of those episodes Iwasn't sure if I wanted to do,
but I'm so glad I did.
And so many people reached outabout uh how they identified
with it or how helpful it wasand they were going to pass it
(06:15):
on.
And it wasn't just aboutromantic relationships, it was
about relationships in generalthat are toxic and how do you
break free?
Give a listen.
Understand that according tostatistics, it takes six to
eight attempts before someone isable to leave an abuser.
Six to eight attempts.
Understand that it is also themost dangerous time that you
(06:39):
will encounter during an abusiverelationship.
That time period when they havemade the decision to leave.
So it is not that easy.
So please let us be patient, letus be understanding, let us not
push people beyond their abilityto cope in that moment.
Give them the space, thesupport, and the latitude, not
(07:02):
only to make those decisions andto have that mindset shift, that
they're ready to leave thattoxicity and that abusive
relationship, but also that theyhave the support and the plan
that they need to do so and besafe.
So again, I am leaving thatcontact information for you to
reach out for professional levelhelp if you find yourself or
(07:24):
someone you love in an abusive,toxic relationship.
So our next episode received themost downloads.
And that was episode five withPastor Amos Johnson from the
Church for Entrepreneurs inAtlanta, Georgia.
We had a wonderful conversationabout entrepreneurship and
creatives and their marriages.
(07:44):
Oh my gosh.
And some of the things he said,I have to say, really surprised
me.
Take a listen.
I was doing this and that andwriting a book and raising
children and ministering andbuilding the business.
And then when I got married, Isaid, oh shoot, he's going to
(08:06):
require some attention.
And I think that there's thispull when you come into the
marriage relationship and you'recreative because there's also
this like false sense of guilt.
Like, am I doing enough for God?
Am I doing enough for thehusband?
And, you know, trying to balancethat.
How do you balance that in ahealthy way and make sure that
you're still honoring God,right?
Because he's still first.
SPEAKER_00 (08:28):
Yeah.
I think the first thing in termsof balancing is just a mind
shift around time.
Because most entrepreneurs, thefirst thing they'll say, if I
just had more time, I'll besuccessful.
And so they got to stop thinkingabout time as their catalyst for
success.
So what's going to make yousuccessful is the anointing that
God's placed on you, not thetime that you put into a thing.
(08:49):
And so the reason they neglecttheir spouses because they feel
like they got to put the timeinto it.
It's almost like time is pushingthem to spend long hours.
Time is pushing them, saying ifyou don't do enough right now,
you won't be successful.
So if they can break that myththat time is a reason for
success, and go back to theconcept that no, the reason for
(09:10):
success is God's anointing onyou, it makes it easier for them
to actually do that balance.
Because now when you're withyour spouse, you're not worried
that your business is fallingapart because you're not quote
unquote putting the time intoit.
And so there's a relaxation thatcomes in realizing that it's God
that makes you successful, notthe time.
And you get that revelation, itmakes it easier to balance.
(09:32):
You still have to work at itbecause you're gonna have that
pool.
You'll be on social media andeverybody's talking about
success requires no sleep or allkind of hustle culture we got in
the entrepreneurship space.
But there's a lot of successful,especially men, who they've
gained the whole world in somesense, but they lost their
marriage in the process.
And they've basically elevatedtheir entrepreneurial success
(09:55):
over their marital success, andGod wants both of them to rise
at the same time.
It's not one or the other, Hewants both to work.
So we have to trust in God thatthis is important in terms of
our marriage.
And when we don't do that, webasically say we know better
than God.
SPEAKER_03 (10:10):
Coming up next is our most popular guest.
That was in episode three, whichwas Faith's testimony.
Now, Faith was one of theparticipants in my position for
love group, and she not onlyfound love, she got engaged and
married within the last year.
(10:31):
So she has some tips for yousingle ladies who are looking
for love.
Let's hear what Faith has tosay.
SPEAKER_01 (10:36):
You know, that is one of the things that I prayed
for.
I prayed for a prayer partner,and I'll be honest, like, I
haven't at that point, that waslike a really big faith step for
me to pray about because at thattime it was like just getting
out of COVID, like, good lucktrying to find somebody to
marry, good luck trying to findsomebody on the same sidewalk as
(10:59):
you.
I was like, I want to findsomebody that I can pray with,
you know, and really intercedewith.
And I haven't really experiencedthat before.
But I was like, by faith, I'mgonna put this down on my prayer
list and I'm gonna pray overthis.
And this man loves to pray, andhe goes in, like he intercedes,
(11:20):
prays, goes in to the pointwhere I'm like, we'll be praying
over our food.
I'm like, okay, honey, amen.
But the food's getting cold.
Can we intercede all this?
SPEAKER_04 (11:30):
Be careful what you pray for.
You just might get it.
Wait, I have to back up a minutebecause you just gave me another
memory.
I forgot about this until youjust said that.
You said I put this on my prayerlist.
Do you remember the list?
SPEAKER_01 (11:43):
Oh my gosh.
So and the revisions of thelist?
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (11:47):
Oh my gosh.
I was like, faith, honey, afterthe sixth page, I am all for
being deliberate about, youknow, finding the right man and
and you know, him having certainqualities.
But baby, the sixth page, we'reon the sixth page now.
I'm gonna need you to bring itin.
We're gonna land this plane.
(12:08):
Yeah, we're gonna, we're gonnaland this plane because you're
out of control.
SPEAKER_01 (12:12):
I had so much stuff on there.
I think persistence in a man isattractive.
So I think that, you know, thetemptation might come back
around again and again, but aslong as you're keeping yourself
in Christ, no matter who comesyour way, if they're not
correct, you can just say no,thank you gracefully and just
keep it moving and just trustthat God has better for you.
(12:35):
And just trust that no matterhow dry of a desert it might
look like, it might not looklike anybody is around right
now.
If that is the case, you know,take that time to work on
yourself, but still also takethe wisdom that you'll learn
from being in this group andjust say, okay, what can I do as
(12:57):
I'm working on myself?
What can I also do to beproactive?
You know, you don't want to likehide yourself either.
You don't want to beinaccessible to somebody if they
do come across your way.
You also want to make yourselfavailable in a way that that
makes you visible to a potentialmate.
But definitely make sure that,you know, in your heart of
(13:19):
hearts, if you really feel likeyou're still struggling between
choosing God versus choosing arelationship, definitely do that
work on the inside and say, youknow what, Lord, this man has to
love you as much as I want tolove you, as much as I want to
put you first.
And just trust that God willdeliver that.
Don't settle for somebody thatis not there.
(13:40):
Don't settle for somebody thatwould only go to church if you
go to church or or only pray ifyou pray, or somebody that
doesn't acknowledge God forthemselves.
They're only kind of just doingit because they're with you.
So yeah, don't settle for that.
And I would say don't make asix-page list.
But I'll say this the more youdo the internal work, the
(14:02):
shorter your list will bebecause you'll have the right
priorities on your list.
And it won't be so long, butthose things will be very
important.
And also don't be afraid to likesay if you have a type, you
know, don't limit God, like juststep outside of your type and
(14:23):
just see, you know, just if hehas the right internal qualities
that you're looking for, butmaybe he's, I don't know, like a
different race, or maybe he hasa different job than you would
see yourself with, or whatever.
Just see what happens, you know.
You might be surprised.
SPEAKER_03 (14:39):
How did you get so wise?
Oh my gosh.
That was really good advice.
Thank you for sharing that witheveryone.
That was really, really good.
I'm so proud of you.
SPEAKER_01 (14:49):
Thank you.
Thank you.
SPEAKER_03 (14:50):
Yeah, you've come a long way from that six pages, I
tell you.
The next clip is our mostthought-provoking episode,
episode 20.
And that is the seven signs hemay be the air quotes, the one.
Take a listen.
So here's a second sign that youmay need to leave the
relationship.
You don't trust him.
(15:12):
Listen, I recently had adiscussion with someone that
left me scratching my head.
So maybe y'all can help me makesense out of this because I just
don't get it.
So she is in a sexualrelationship with this man and
they have been so for a longtime, but she doesn't trust him
(15:33):
with her purse.
Huh?
Make that make sense for mebecause I don't get it.
If you don't trust him enough tohold your purse, why would you
trust him enough to have sex?
I'm not even getting into thesin of it.
I'm not talking about that rightnow.
That's another show.
What I am talking about rightnow is if you don't trust him
(15:54):
with your money, if you don'ttrust him with your credit
cards, I'm not even talkingabout you're in the store and
you're giving it to him to use.
I'm talking about it's in yourpurse and you can't let him hold
your purse because you're afraidthat he's going to mishandle it,
but you can have sex with him.
Make that make sense for me.
I'll wait.
See, y'all couldn't make senseof that either, because that
(16:15):
doesn't make sense.
Oh, goodness gracious, Lord, Igot so much work to do.
But trust is a powerful tool,right?
Trust is very important becausetrust tells you this person is
not safe.
So if they're not safe for yourpurse, they're not safe for your
body, they're not safe for yourlife.
And understanding that sex, itis not just physical, it's
(16:37):
emotional, it's spiritual.
There's a coming together of notonly bodies, but spirits and
souls.
So if you can't trust him withyour purse, how do you trust him
with your spirit and your soul?
Ma'am?
Okay.
In any case, just overall sexualrelationship notwithstanding, if
you feel like you can't trusthim or something in you is still
(16:58):
going, I don't know, it may betime to walk away.
Last but certainly not least, mymost provocative episode was
episode 21.
Awkward questions to ask andanswer before you get engaged.
Now, listen.
Now, this is definitely one ofthose headphone wearing
(17:19):
episodes.
So if you have children, ifyou're in public, if you're at
work, you definitely need to putthe headphones on today because
we are going to take a deep diveinto some adult stuff today.
Oh, yes, this is for matureaudiences only.
So let's dive in on the deepside of the pool.
Let's talk about sex.
When I say talk about sex, Idon't mean sitting there and
(17:42):
fantasizing with each other.
You're not married yet.
There's no sense of temptingy'all to sin.
There's no sense of doing thisin a dark room or anywhere where
this is just going to lead youdown a path to falling into
sexual temptation.
I am talking about having thediscussions about practical
issues, practical issues aroundsex, the kinds of things that
(18:04):
trip us up, because it's not thehot, steamy, romantic
candlelight dinners that trippeople up.
It's the discussions they didn'thave before those romantic
candlelight dinners that tripthem up.
As a matter of fact, if you wantto get to that stuff, if you
want to get to the hot, steamystuff, it's much more hot and
steamy when you've talked aboutthese practicalities and gotten
them out of the way.
So let's do that now.
(18:24):
You want to ask and answer arethere sexual proclivities or
curiosities that you still wantto explore or have explored?
And if you still want to explorethem, do you want to explore
them with me or with someoneelse?
So you need to know this.
Don't assume that just becausethere is still curiosities, that
that means they want to explorethem with you.
(18:44):
And you need to pay attention towhat those curiosities are.
Are you interested in thosethings?
Are you willing to explore thosethings?
Do those things scare you orrepulse you?
You need to know.
You need to know.
You don't want to get to yourhoneymoon and find these things
out.
Okay.
So you've had a chance to hearsome of our favorite clips and
(19:05):
favorite moments on the podcast.
And I know you want to knowwhat's next.
So without further ado, thiscoming year, we're going to
continue to bring you new showsevery single week.
And we have some moreinspirational and interesting
guests lined up.
By the way, if you would like tobe a guest or propose a guest,
(19:26):
the link is in the show notes,please.
We'd love to hear from you.
Also, I heard you.
We spent a lot of time workingon relationships, especially the
relationship issues that areencountered by single women.
The married ladies have spokenand we have heard.
(19:47):
Ladies, we will be includingmore relationship advice for
married women as well.
So stay tuned and share withyour friends.
All right, that's a wrap.
I hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode.
Be sure to subscribe to the showwherever you're listening so you
never miss one.
I would love it if you wouldshare the podcast with your
(20:07):
friends, post about it onFacebook and Instagram, or leave
a review.
That way you can help me tobring you more great content and
expert guests.
Until next week, be blessed.
Have you come to the point in your life where doing
that work, church, home, repeatjust isn't working for you
anymore, and you know there'sgotta be more to life than this,
then girl, you've come to theright place.
I'm Kimberly Knight, and this isthe Position Podcast.
As a certified coach,consultant, author, and speaker,
I've had the privilege ofhelping women to position
(00:24):
themselves for success in life,love, and business.
So if you're ready for somewisdom wrapped up in a little
bit of girlfriend, join me andother experts each week as we
give you the conversation,coaching, and keys you need to
take you to your next steps.
Hello and welcome to thePosition Podcast.
I am your host, Kimberly Knight,and today I am doing something a
(00:51):
little bit different.
You know, as we wrap up thisyear, I thought it would be
fitting that we revisit some ofthe best moments of the Position
Podcast.
But before we do, I would loveto share some of the highlights
from this year.
We were nominated for twoawards, and yes, it was a
privilege to be a nominated.
We also released our brand newwebsite.
(01:13):
You can find us atpositionnetwork.com.
You'll be able to catch up onall of not just the episodes,
but all the other things thatwe're doing.
Here's something that was reallyinteresting for us.
While the bulk of our listenersare from the US, we also had
listeners from across the globe: the UK, Jordan, North Macedonia, (01:29):
undefined
Brazil, Canada, Indonesia,Kenya, South Africa, India,
Russia, and even theNetherlands.
Oh, oh, and Bali.
unknown (01:43):
Bali.
SPEAKER_03 (01:44):
By the way, if you're listening in Bali, please
invite me.
I would love.
That is actually on my ultimateexperience list.
I would love to come.
So, yeah, invite me.
Okay.
All right.
So coming up next, we are goingto listen to some of the
highlights from our favoriteprograms.
(02:05):
Hands down, the funniest episodewe had was episode 15 with
Maurice and Naomi.
When this man talked aboutfalling in love with her
eyebrows and she was loving onhis squishy feet, I lost words.
Listen in.
Besides the eyebrows and heradventurous spirit, when did you
(02:26):
realize that you were in loveand she was the one?
SPEAKER_02 (02:29):
Well, um, when she's gonna say it, baby.
SPEAKER_04 (02:38):
I'm gonna say it.
So uh oh, we're getting ready toget some gossip, y'all.
SPEAKER_02 (02:42):
Oh my goodness, help him, Lord.
Help him, Jesus.
We all have insecurities aboutourselves, right?
But one insecurity about me ismy feet.
And so, and it's funny, guysfunny because she loves feet.
I said, Lord, it's like really.
I'm a toe person, I don't knowwhy.
So she said, let me see yourfeet.
(03:03):
I don't know, I'm just sayingsecurity about feet.
I, you know, whatever.
Guess it's it's an AfricanAmerican thing thing, whatever.
Um, so so and she would say, Letme see your feet.
I was so happy, uh I said, well,Lord, it looked, then it got to
the point.
I said, Lord, I don't know if Isaid in my mind or aloud.
I said, Lord, if she if shelikes my feet, then I know that
(03:27):
you know that I'll fall in lovewith this girl.
And I showed her and always thecutest thing ever.
My toes and and my bottom of myfeet and squishy and all that
stuff.
It just yeah.
What the heck?
SPEAKER_03 (03:43):
Tell me you.
SPEAKER_04 (03:44):
I'm telling you, I don't even know where to go with
after this.
So so so wait a minute.
SPEAKER_03 (03:50):
We've got eyebrows and feet, planes, and so y'all
just couldn't come in and have anormal interview, right?
Okay, yeah, right.
Come on, I'm here for it.
SPEAKER_04 (04:05):
So that just goes to show you, and you know, this is
something I always say there's alid for every pot.
Yes, there is.
Even if you got squishy feet,don't matter.
SPEAKER_03 (04:13):
There's a lid to every pot, there's somebody for
you.
That's right.
I have to tell you, one thing Ido is I try not to have
discussion before the interviewsbecause I want it to be fresh,
right?
I may have to change thatpolicy.
SPEAKER_04 (04:27):
Number one, it was the feet in the eyebrows for me,
and then number two, I think Iwon't change the policy because
how else would we have gottento?
You like it, I love it.
I'm just I'm not judging it, Idon't know what to do with it,
but okay.
I forgot about that.
SPEAKER_01 (04:47):
That's his invasive security, and I loved it.
SPEAKER_03 (04:51):
We loved each other's all about the squishy
feet, yeah.
Okay, so that's another point inthe program, right?
For the right one, it won't beoff-putting, even if your feet
are squishy.
That doesn't even make sense,even if your eyebrows are
fierce.
But these are the things that wehave insecurities about that
(05:11):
keep us from going intorelationship and feeling
confident, right?
These are the things thatactually hold us back.
And it seems ridiculous to younow on the other side of love
when you have someone whoaccepts you as you are, but it
didn't seem ridiculous to youbefore this.
No, so very, very, veryinteresting.
(05:33):
And when I tell you, that is notthe response I thought I was
going to get.
I'm giving you 10 points justfor the out-of-the-box stuff.
Oh my gosh.
Our next clip got the mostlistener feedback, and that was
episode six, the spring cleaningof toxic relationships episode.
(05:55):
When I tell you the emails, theshares, the comments, it was one
of those difficult episodes.
And one of those episodes Iwasn't sure if I wanted to do,
but I'm so glad I did.
And so many people reached outabout uh how they identified
with it or how helpful it wasand they were going to pass it
(06:15):
on.
And it wasn't just aboutromantic relationships, it was
about relationships in generalthat are toxic and how do you
break free?
Give a listen.
Understand that according tostatistics, it takes six to
eight attempts before someone isable to leave an abuser.
Six to eight attempts.
Understand that it is also themost dangerous time that you
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will encounter during an abusiverelationship.
That time period when they havemade the decision to leave.
So it is not that easy.
So please let us be patient, letus be understanding, let us not
push people beyond their abilityto cope in that moment.
Give them the space, thesupport, and the latitude, not
(07:02):
only to make those decisions andto have that mindset shift, that
they're ready to leave thattoxicity and that abusive
relationship, but also that theyhave the support and the plan
that they need to do so and besafe.
So again, I am leaving thatcontact information for you to
reach out for professional levelhelp if you find yourself or
(07:24):
someone you love in an abusive,toxic relationship.
So our next episode received themost downloads.
And that was episode five withPastor Amos Johnson from the
Church for Entrepreneurs inAtlanta, Georgia.
We had a wonderful conversationabout entrepreneurship and
creatives and their marriages.
(07:44):
Oh my gosh.
And some of the things he said,I have to say, really surprised
me.
Take a listen.
I was doing this and that andwriting a book and raising
children and ministering andbuilding the business.
And then when I got married, Isaid, oh shoot, he's going to
(08:06):
require some attention.
And I think that there's thispull when you come into the
marriage relationship and you'recreative because there's also
this like false sense of guilt.
Like, am I doing enough for God?
Am I doing enough for thehusband?
And, you know, trying to balancethat.
How do you balance that in ahealthy way and make sure that
you're still honoring God,right?
Because he's still first.
SPEAKER_00 (08:28):
Yeah.
I think the first thing in termsof balancing is just a mind
shift around time.
Because most entrepreneurs, thefirst thing they'll say, if I
just had more time, I'll besuccessful.
And so they got to stop thinkingabout time as their catalyst for
success.
So what's going to make yousuccessful is the anointing that
God's placed on you, not thetime that you put into a thing.
(08:49):
And so the reason they neglecttheir spouses because they feel
like they got to put the timeinto it.
It's almost like time is pushingthem to spend long hours.
Time is pushing them, saying ifyou don't do enough right now,
you won't be successful.
So if they can break that myththat time is a reason for
success, and go back to theconcept that no, the reason for
(09:10):
success is God's anointing onyou, it makes it easier for them
to actually do that balance.
Because now when you're withyour spouse, you're not worried
that your business is fallingapart because you're not quote
unquote putting the time intoit.
And so there's a relaxation thatcomes in realizing that it's God
that makes you successful, notthe time.
And you get that revelation, itmakes it easier to balance.
(09:32):
You still have to work at itbecause you're gonna have that
pool.
You'll be on social media andeverybody's talking about
success requires no sleep or allkind of hustle culture we got in
the entrepreneurship space.
But there's a lot of successful,especially men, who they've
gained the whole world in somesense, but they lost their
marriage in the process.
And they've basically elevatedtheir entrepreneurial success
(09:55):
over their marital success, andGod wants both of them to rise
at the same time.
It's not one or the other, Hewants both to work.
So we have to trust in God thatthis is important in terms of
our marriage.
And when we don't do that, webasically say we know better
than God.
SPEAKER_03 (10:10):
Coming up next is our most popular guest.
That was in episode three, whichwas Faith's testimony.
Now, Faith was one of theparticipants in my position for
love group, and she not onlyfound love, she got engaged and
married within the last year.
(10:31):
So she has some tips for yousingle ladies who are looking
for love.
Let's hear what Faith has tosay.
SPEAKER_01 (10:36):
You know, that is one of the things that I prayed
for.
I prayed for a prayer partner,and I'll be honest, like, I
haven't at that point, that waslike a really big faith step for
me to pray about because at thattime it was like just getting
out of COVID, like, good lucktrying to find somebody to
marry, good luck trying to findsomebody on the same sidewalk as
(10:59):
you.
I was like, I want to findsomebody that I can pray with,
you know, and really intercedewith.
And I haven't really experiencedthat before.
But I was like, by faith, I'mgonna put this down on my prayer
list and I'm gonna pray overthis.
And this man loves to pray, andhe goes in, like he intercedes,
(11:20):
prays, goes in to the pointwhere I'm like, we'll be praying
over our food.
I'm like, okay, honey, amen.
But the food's getting cold.
Can we intercede all this?
SPEAKER_04 (11:30):
Be careful what you pray for.
You just might get it.
Wait, I have to back up a minutebecause you just gave me another
memory.
I forgot about this until youjust said that.
You said I put this on my prayerlist.
Do you remember the list?
SPEAKER_01 (11:43):
Oh my gosh.
So and the revisions of thelist?
Yeah.
SPEAKER_03 (11:47):
Oh my gosh.
I was like, faith, honey, afterthe sixth page, I am all for
being deliberate about, youknow, finding the right man and
and you know, him having certainqualities.
But baby, the sixth page, we'reon the sixth page now.
I'm gonna need you to bring itin.
We're gonna land this plane.
(12:08):
Yeah, we're gonna, we're gonnaland this plane because you're
out of control.
SPEAKER_01 (12:12):
I had so much stuff on there.
I think persistence in a man isattractive.
So I think that, you know, thetemptation might come back
around again and again, but aslong as you're keeping yourself
in Christ, no matter who comesyour way, if they're not
correct, you can just say no,thank you gracefully and just
keep it moving and just trustthat God has better for you.
(12:35):
And just trust that no matterhow dry of a desert it might
look like, it might not looklike anybody is around right
now.
If that is the case, you know,take that time to work on
yourself, but still also takethe wisdom that you'll learn
from being in this group andjust say, okay, what can I do as
(12:57):
I'm working on myself?
What can I also do to beproactive?
You know, you don't want to likehide yourself either.
You don't want to beinaccessible to somebody if they
do come across your way.
You also want to make yourselfavailable in a way that that
makes you visible to a potentialmate.
But definitely make sure that,you know, in your heart of
(13:19):
hearts, if you really feel likeyou're still struggling between
choosing God versus choosing arelationship, definitely do that
work on the inside and say, youknow what, Lord, this man has to
love you as much as I want tolove you, as much as I want to
put you first.
And just trust that God willdeliver that.
Don't settle for somebody thatis not there.
(13:40):
Don't settle for somebody thatwould only go to church if you
go to church or or only pray ifyou pray, or somebody that
doesn't acknowledge God forthemselves.
They're only kind of just doingit because they're with you.
So yeah, don't settle for that.
And I would say don't make asix-page list.
But I'll say this the more youdo the internal work, the
(14:02):
shorter your list will bebecause you'll have the right
priorities on your list.
And it won't be so long, butthose things will be very
important.
And also don't be afraid to likesay if you have a type, you
know, don't limit God, like juststep outside of your type and
(14:23):
just see, you know, just if hehas the right internal qualities
that you're looking for, butmaybe he's, I don't know, like a
different race, or maybe he hasa different job than you would
see yourself with, or whatever.
Just see what happens, you know.
You might be surprised.
SPEAKER_03 (14:39):
How did you get so wise?
Oh my gosh.
That was really good advice.
Thank you for sharing that witheveryone.
That was really, really good.
I'm so proud of you.
SPEAKER_01 (14:49):
Thank you.
Thank you.
SPEAKER_03 (14:50):
Yeah, you've come a long way from that six pages, I
tell you.
The next clip is our mostthought-provoking episode,
episode 20.
And that is the seven signs hemay be the air quotes, the one.
Take a listen.
So here's a second sign that youmay need to leave the
relationship.
You don't trust him.
(15:12):
Listen, I recently had adiscussion with someone that
left me scratching my head.
So maybe y'all can help me makesense out of this because I just
don't get it.
So she is in a sexualrelationship with this man and
they have been so for a longtime, but she doesn't trust him
(15:33):
with her purse.
Huh?
Make that make sense for mebecause I don't get it.
If you don't trust him enough tohold your purse, why would you
trust him enough to have sex?
I'm not even getting into thesin of it.
I'm not talking about that rightnow.
That's another show.
What I am talking about rightnow is if you don't trust him
(15:54):
with your money, if you don'ttrust him with your credit
cards, I'm not even talkingabout you're in the store and
you're giving it to him to use.
I'm talking about it's in yourpurse and you can't let him hold
your purse because you're afraidthat he's going to mishandle it,
but you can have sex with him.
Make that make sense for me.
I'll wait.
See, y'all couldn't make senseof that either, because that
(16:15):
doesn't make sense.
Oh, goodness gracious, Lord, Igot so much work to do.
But trust is a powerful tool,right?
Trust is very important becausetrust tells you this person is
not safe.
So if they're not safe for yourpurse, they're not safe for your
body, they're not safe for yourlife.
And understanding that sex, itis not just physical, it's
(16:37):
emotional, it's spiritual.
There's a coming together of notonly bodies, but spirits and
souls.
So if you can't trust him withyour purse, how do you trust him
with your spirit and your soul?
Ma'am?
Okay.
In any case, just overall sexualrelationship notwithstanding, if
you feel like you can't trusthim or something in you is still
(16:58):
going, I don't know, it may betime to walk away.
Last but certainly not least, mymost provocative episode was
episode 21.
Awkward questions to ask andanswer before you get engaged.
Now, listen.
Now, this is definitely one ofthose headphone wearing
(17:19):
episodes.
So if you have children, ifyou're in public, if you're at
work, you definitely need to putthe headphones on today because
we are going to take a deep diveinto some adult stuff today.
Oh, yes, this is for matureaudiences only.
So let's dive in on the deepside of the pool.
Let's talk about sex.
When I say talk about sex, Idon't mean sitting there and
(17:42):
fantasizing with each other.
You're not married yet.
There's no sense of temptingy'all to sin.
There's no sense of doing thisin a dark room or anywhere where
this is just going to lead youdown a path to falling into
sexual temptation.
I am talking about having thediscussions about practical
issues, practical issues aroundsex, the kinds of things that
(18:04):
trip us up, because it's not thehot, steamy, romantic
candlelight dinners that trippeople up.
It's the discussions they didn'thave before those romantic
candlelight dinners that tripthem up.
As a matter of fact, if you wantto get to that stuff, if you
want to get to the hot, steamystuff, it's much more hot and
steamy when you've talked aboutthese practicalities and gotten
them out of the way.
So let's do that now.
(18:24):
You want to ask and answer arethere sexual proclivities or
curiosities that you still wantto explore or have explored?
And if you still want to explorethem, do you want to explore
them with me or with someoneelse?
So you need to know this.
Don't assume that just becausethere is still curiosities, that
that means they want to explorethem with you.
(18:44):
And you need to pay attention towhat those curiosities are.
Are you interested in thosethings?
Are you willing to explore thosethings?
Do those things scare you orrepulse you?
You need to know.
You need to know.
You don't want to get to yourhoneymoon and find these things
out.
Okay.
So you've had a chance to hearsome of our favorite clips and
(19:05):
favorite moments on the podcast.
And I know you want to knowwhat's next.
So without further ado, thiscoming year, we're going to
continue to bring you new showsevery single week.
And we have some moreinspirational and interesting
guests lined up.
By the way, if you would like tobe a guest or propose a guest,
(19:26):
the link is in the show notes,please.
We'd love to hear from you.
Also, I heard you.
We spent a lot of time workingon relationships, especially the
relationship issues that areencountered by single women.
The married ladies have spokenand we have heard.
(19:47):
Ladies, we will be includingmore relationship advice for
married women as well.
So stay tuned and share withyour friends.
All right, that's a wrap.
I hope you enjoyed this week'sepisode.
Be sure to subscribe to the showwherever you're listening so you
never miss one.
I would love it if you wouldshare the podcast with your
(20:07):
friends, post about it onFacebook and Instagram, or leave
a review.
That way you can help me tobring you more great content and
expert guests.
Until next week, be blessed.
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