August 7, 2021 • 17 mins
How do you build happiness in your life? What are the basic tenets of positive psychology and how can you use them to make an impact on your life? Using PERMA (Positive Emotion, Engagement, Positive Relationships, Meaning, Accomplishment/Achievement) we can make permanent change in our lives.
In today’s episode, host Jason Ramsden dives into the basic tenets of positive psychology and shares self-coaching questions you can use when you run into limiting beliefs and road blocs with your emotions, in your relationships, and as you search for meaning in your life.
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Unknown (00:01):
Hi, I'm Jason Ramsden and I believe we can all work on
leading a more positive andintentional life. And this show
details my journey by sharing mylearning stories and
conversations with guests. Ifyou want to lead a more
intentional life, focus on beingthe best you possible. Please
subscribe today. Now, let's getinto today's episode. Yeah, low
positivity posse. This is Jay, Iam super excited to be back with
(00:24):
you. After taking the month ofJuly off in hiatus. So many
amazing things have gone on inmy life. And I can't wait to
tell you about it. We're goingto talk a little bit today about
building happiness in your life.
Before we get to that, here'swhat's new. So as you know, took
a hiatus because we were movingto Massachusetts, it's been a
great move or all settled inthings are going fantastic. And
(00:45):
loving the new area loving thelack of humidity here in the
northeast as compared comparedto North Carolina, certainly
missing lots of folks from backhome, but also meeting lots of
great new people as well. Onething I'm excited to share with
you is that during thetransition time, from the last
episode in June, until today, isthat I've formed a new company
(01:09):
called impact one media. Nowimpact one media was founded
based on my philosophy that ifyou impact one person, or you
impact 1 million people, thereis no difference. Impact is
impact. And that's huge for me,got a lot of great things coming
up in addition to this podcast,but now this podcast is brought
(01:29):
to you by impact one medium,that's an exciting new adventure
for me, the coaching arm of thatcalled the rosemary James group.
So if you're in need of any sortof leadership or mindset
coaching, life coaching, we'vegot that brand and hold on
coming out. Hopefully in timefor Christmas. We'll have a
merchandise arm as well. So I'mexcited to share that with you.
(01:52):
Lots of amazing things havehappened in this last 30 days.
And it's all has to do withbuilding happiness in your life.
So let's get into that rightnow. What are the blocks to
building happiness? Do you know?
Do you have any idea? I'm sureyou do. But it wasn't until I
went through my coaching programfrom the cabin student with
(02:15):
Valerie Burton. Some of you mayknow Valerie, also, my Coach Kim
dobro is part of that Lyfordkit. Lots of amazing people are
in that program, teachingcoaches how to be coaches. But
one of the things it's all basedupon positive psychology, and
one of the tenants of positivepsychology is perma. And what
perma is perma was somethingthat Dr. Martin Seligman came up
(02:38):
with. And it was in his bookflourish, a visionary new
understanding of happiness andwell being. And in the book,
what he talks about is like,here's the theory that holds
five elements to building a goodlife here. Okay, so here's your
happiness blocks for you. AndI'm excited about this, because
I think it speaks volumes, abouthow we can change our mindset,
(03:02):
how we can kind of get ourselvesmoving in the right direction
and getting ourselves back ontrack. For me, I was on a hiatus
for the month of June, I'm sorryfor the month of July. And I'm
coming back. I'm refreshed andrenewed. I'm happier than I've
ever been. Because there are newopportunities in front of me.
There's new opportunities that Inever could have imagined just
(03:24):
six months or a year ago. Sowhat's perma? perma is the P is
positive emotion. The E isengagement. The R is positive
relationships, the M is meaning,and the A is accomplishment, or
achievement. Now there's acouple of different ways that we
(03:45):
can think about what this means.
So from positive emotion, youcan also think about as positive
thinking, are you grateful forthe things in your life? Are you
optimistic? Do you have optimismin your life?
What about self awareness? Areyou curious about the world
around you? Are you in awe ofthings that happen? And do you
(04:07):
have hope for the future?
positive emotion engagement?
Let's talk about engagement fora second. Are you engaged in a
particular situation? Are youfocused on yourself? Right? So
just think about this for amoment when you when you lose a
sense of self when you lose yoursense of self. And we experience
(04:29):
a lack of confidence. If we getback engaged into a task or a
project or something that givesus joy. Then we concentrate on
that and we concentrated onintensely because we're in the
moment we're being present soengagement are so that was
positive relationships. We knowthis humans are social beings.
(04:55):
All of us are we like to beconnected to others. Now some
people are extroverted, likemyself. Some people are
introverted. Like my wife,there's ambiverts, who can are
introverts who can ramp up andbe extroverts, they need to kind
of ramp down and go back intointroversion, as well. We love
to be connected to one another.
So do you have strong socialconnections in your life that's
(05:15):
really linked to good physicaland mental health. It's
important protection againststressors in our life. So
positive relationships andsocial connectedness, am
meaning. Meaning comes fromsomething that's bigger than
ourselves, like, what's themeaning of your life? But more
importantly, what's your WHY? Sowe've talked about this on other
(05:35):
episodes of the show, SimonSinek, start with why but also
find your why I really encourageyou to go out there and find
your why like, whatis your purpose? What gives you
a sense of purpose? What's yourcalling in life? What is it that
you see yourself doing? Finally,we'll get into all these a
little bit more in depth.
(05:55):
Finally, five accomplishment orachievement.
Somastering a skill, that could be
anything, it could be learning anew recipe, it could only be
learning to juggle, goodlearning to sail, it could be
learning to read, it could bewhatever it is that you want to
achieve your life. If youachieve a goal, you have a goal
that you work towards. The goalitself is rewarding, not
(06:18):
necessarily outcome, but thefact that you reached a goal and
made it to the end. Now what Ireally like about the word
perma, it's the very first partof permanent. And so if you want
to make a permanent change inyour life, focused on happiness,
building happiness into yourlife, think about perma. And
what I'd like to do for a littlebit in this episode is just
(06:41):
share with you some tactics thatyou can self coach yourself on.
Alright, lots of people go tocoaches, because they're trying
to work through something ortrying to get over the hump, or
the hurdle or something that'sholding them back. There's
limiting beliefs in their life.
But you can also on a day to daybasis, Coach yourself, some
people use affirmations whenthey wake up in the morning,
(07:01):
other people put post it notesall around the house, to remind
them of things. There's alsolots of really good questions
that you can use in each ofthese categories. So under
number one, positive emotion P.
Yes, you have positive emotions,you also have negative emotions.
And we always say if you havenegative emotions, that's okay.
That's part of life as well. Youcan't be positive all the time.
(07:21):
Just don't stay down to alarm,get yourself back up. A great
question that you can askyourself, if you're having
negative emotions, to kind ofget yourself back towards the
positive is, what might be amore helpful way to look at this
situation. So rather thansaying, you know what, this
stinks, this sucks, this isn'tany good? Is there a different
(07:43):
way to reframe the question? Andthat fits right into being
optimistic? Now, you could alsoask yourself, what are you most
grateful for today? And say itthat way? What are you most
grateful for today? Look in themirror and say that to yourself?
Over and over again? What areyou grateful for today and why?
That's a reflection tool. It's agreat way to to emote positive
(08:05):
emotion. Another way to selfcoach yourself here, ask
yourself, what good Do you wantto come of this? Or what good?
Do you want to come from this?
And then finally, what are youtelling yourself in the heat of
the moment? is it helping you?
Or is it harming you? Great,great questions. Ask yourself to
(08:29):
emote some positive emotion? Howdo we get ourselves more
engaged? What are some ways thatwe can self coach ourselves
there? Ask yourself, what bringsyou joy? What is it about life?
What is it about the situationthat brings you joy and makes
you feel better? If you'refeeling down? Go to what brings
you joy? Another one? So ifyou're if you go off and do the
(08:52):
thing that you love so much?
What does it feel like toexperience that? In the moment?
What do you need to savor today?
Is it that walk alone? Is itreaching out to a friend? Is it
going for ice cream? Whatever itis, what is it that you're
engaged in that brings you joyand allows you to savor the
(09:12):
moment? Remember, this is allpart of self care as well. But
engagement is important part ofthe perma, permanent process to
building happiness in your life.
positive relationships, how weall need those, especially now,
in this day and age, we see alot going on in the world.
positive relationships are a wayto be connected to each other.
(09:32):
But if you're struggling withhaving positive relationships in
your life, what are somequestions that you can self
coach you're on? So here's one,what areas do you need more
social support in connection?
And how can you obtain it? Howconnected Do you feel to your
community? Do you get involved?
Do you know your neighbors? Areyou out and about? Is there
(09:54):
anything that you feelparticularly good about being
connected and living in thecommunity that you're Having it?
And finally, in what ways couldyou enhance?
or improve your most valuablerelationships? We all have
people who are champions in ourlife? How can you improve those
relationships? Now, everybodysays, focus on your strengths,
(10:14):
and hire for your weaknesses,but you're not going to hire to
have somebody when you have abad relationship with somebody.
But if you have a fantasticrelationship, whether that's
with your spouse, or with apartner, or with a good friend,
whoever it may be, how do youmake it even better? What could
you do to make it better, one ofthe things I like to do is to
reach out to people via text andjust let them know I'm thinking
(10:36):
about them. And then sometimeson Saturday is just calling them
out of the blue to check in. Andyou wouldn't believe the
connectedness that that bringsyou back to, especially if you
haven't spoken to that person ina while. So positive
relationships, let's go outthere and make those happen.
Heading on to the M for meaning.
Some ways to self coach yourselfhere is ask yourself, How am I
(10:59):
giving to others? What am Idoing in my life? to give back a
couple of episodes ago here, wetalked about kindness,
unexpected kindness, I reallybelieve that unexpected kindness
can heal. just random small actsof kindness can help. So how are
you bringing meaning to yourlife? Is it buying coffee for
(11:22):
somebody in a coffee shop thatyou don't know? Is it letting
somebody go in front of you inline? How are you bringing
meaning into your life, youcould volunteer for a cause? You
can think about belonging tosomething bigger than yourself,
what is the meaning in yourlife? And how are you making the
connections to make it happen.
(11:44):
And finally, back to aaccomplishments and
achievements. If you knowanything about me, you know that
I really believe that you can'tachieve anything in life, or
accomplish things in lifewithout setting goals. If you're
struggling to findaccomplishment in your life, or
to make achievements or makeforward progress, set some goals
(12:04):
for yourself. But then askyourself, What is your most
important personal goal rightnow? What could that be? Is it
getting out in the morning toexercise? Is it being
reconnected to people youhaven't spoken to in a while
volunteering, whatever it maybe? What is your goal? And how
are you going to reach it? And Ithink another powerful question
(12:26):
here to ask yourself, if you'regetting into the realm of self
coaching, is, why is that goalso meaningful to you? Remember,
oftentimes, goals that we setare connected to values that we
have. Anytime you set your goal,say you say to yourself, what is
the value in it for me? And I'mnot saying hey, it's got to be a
(12:49):
gain for yourself that you haveto win? Or accomplish? because
other people will see you do it?
No? What are you value?
What are your goals to getthere? And how do you make it
happen? And this kind of goesback to what is your life
purpose? And I think a betterway to think of this is not
necessarily saying what is yourlife purpose, but saying, How
(13:12):
are other people's lives better?
Because you came across them inyour life? Because you're part
of their life? Have you everasked anybody that question?
Have you ever asked anyone? Howis your life different? Because
we're friends? What is it aboutour friendship that you value?
What is it about ourconnectedness that is different
(13:34):
than other friends that youhave. And don't ask it from a
point of view that you're tryingto like dig in here, you do want
to dig in, but you want to knowthe value that you bring to
somebody else. So and ask onceyou find your purpose in life,
once you know your why, ask yourfriends, if your purpose and
(13:55):
your why is why they're friendswith you. Does that make sense?
It should because peoplegravitate to you for the exact
same reason that you havepurpose and meaning in life.
connectedness is all aboutsurrounding yourselves with
people who make you better, andwith people who understand why
(14:17):
it is that you exist and whatyou bring to this world. Now I
know I threw a ton at you. Inthis session today. I threw at
you perma, which again ispositive emotion, engagement,
positive relationship, meaningand achievement or
(14:37):
accomplishment. perma is thepermanent way that you can build
happiness in your life. What I'dlike for you to do today is
focus on one of these areas.
Doesn't matter what it is. Itcould be the positive emotion it
could be meaning it could beabout looking for more positive
relationships in your life. Itcould be about engaging In the
(15:00):
things that you're doing, or itcould be setting goals and
trying to accomplish something,no matter what it is, do me a
favor and pick one. Pick one ofthese topics. And I'd love to
connect with you on what it isthat you're doing. So shoot me
an email over to Jason atpositivity on fire.com. And let
me know what you're working on.
I can tell you right now myself,I'm working on em, meaning the
(15:23):
reason that I founded impact onemedia, it's the reason that I'm
here on this podcast everySaturday, bringing you the best
positive mindset content that Ican, sharing with how I'm
struggling with things, sharinghow I'm improving my life, in
the hopes that I can bringmeaning to your life as well.
(15:43):
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building, meaning in my life,you want to stay connected more
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(16:06):
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Recaps of podcast episodes youmay have missed. It's just a
(16:30):
really good way to stayconnected with myself and what
I'm doing. And I look forward toconnecting you because I really,
truly believe that if I canimpact one person or if I can
impact 1 million people there isno difference. And you being
part of this journey with memeans the world to me. The fact
that you give up time listeningto this show is such an
(16:54):
incredible return to me. It's agift that I cannot even express.
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Hi, I'm Jason Ramsden and I believe we can all work on
leading a more positive andintentional life. And this show
details my journey by sharing mylearning stories and
conversations with guests. Ifyou want to lead a more
intentional life, focus on beingthe best you possible. Please
subscribe today. Now, let's getinto today's episode. Yeah, low
positivity posse. This is Jay, Iam super excited to be back with
(00:24):
you. After taking the month ofJuly off in hiatus. So many
amazing things have gone on inmy life. And I can't wait to
tell you about it. We're goingto talk a little bit today about
building happiness in your life.
Before we get to that, here'swhat's new. So as you know, took
a hiatus because we were movingto Massachusetts, it's been a
great move or all settled inthings are going fantastic. And
(00:45):
loving the new area loving thelack of humidity here in the
northeast as compared comparedto North Carolina, certainly
missing lots of folks from backhome, but also meeting lots of
great new people as well. Onething I'm excited to share with
you is that during thetransition time, from the last
episode in June, until today, isthat I've formed a new company
(01:09):
called impact one media. Nowimpact one media was founded
based on my philosophy that ifyou impact one person, or you
impact 1 million people, thereis no difference. Impact is
impact. And that's huge for me,got a lot of great things coming
up in addition to this podcast,but now this podcast is brought
(01:29):
to you by impact one medium,that's an exciting new adventure
for me, the coaching arm of thatcalled the rosemary James group.
So if you're in need of any sortof leadership or mindset
coaching, life coaching, we'vegot that brand and hold on
coming out. Hopefully in timefor Christmas. We'll have a
merchandise arm as well. So I'mexcited to share that with you.
(01:52):
Lots of amazing things havehappened in this last 30 days.
And it's all has to do withbuilding happiness in your life.
So let's get into that rightnow. What are the blocks to
building happiness? Do you know?
Do you have any idea? I'm sureyou do. But it wasn't until I
went through my coaching programfrom the cabin student with
(02:15):
Valerie Burton. Some of you mayknow Valerie, also, my Coach Kim
dobro is part of that Lyfordkit. Lots of amazing people are
in that program, teachingcoaches how to be coaches. But
one of the things it's all basedupon positive psychology, and
one of the tenants of positivepsychology is perma. And what
perma is perma was somethingthat Dr. Martin Seligman came up
(02:38):
with. And it was in his bookflourish, a visionary new
understanding of happiness andwell being. And in the book,
what he talks about is like,here's the theory that holds
five elements to building a goodlife here. Okay, so here's your
happiness blocks for you. AndI'm excited about this, because
I think it speaks volumes, abouthow we can change our mindset,
(03:02):
how we can kind of get ourselvesmoving in the right direction
and getting ourselves back ontrack. For me, I was on a hiatus
for the month of June, I'm sorryfor the month of July. And I'm
coming back. I'm refreshed andrenewed. I'm happier than I've
ever been. Because there are newopportunities in front of me.
There's new opportunities that Inever could have imagined just
(03:24):
six months or a year ago. Sowhat's perma? perma is the P is
positive emotion. The E isengagement. The R is positive
relationships, the M is meaning,and the A is accomplishment, or
achievement. Now there's acouple of different ways that we
(03:45):
can think about what this means.
So from positive emotion, youcan also think about as positive
thinking, are you grateful forthe things in your life? Are you
optimistic? Do you have optimismin your life?
What about self awareness? Areyou curious about the world
around you? Are you in awe ofthings that happen? And do you
(04:07):
have hope for the future?
positive emotion engagement?
Let's talk about engagement fora second. Are you engaged in a
particular situation? Are youfocused on yourself? Right? So
just think about this for amoment when you when you lose a
sense of self when you lose yoursense of self. And we experience
(04:29):
a lack of confidence. If we getback engaged into a task or a
project or something that givesus joy. Then we concentrate on
that and we concentrated onintensely because we're in the
moment we're being present soengagement are so that was
positive relationships. We knowthis humans are social beings.
(04:55):
All of us are we like to beconnected to others. Now some
people are extroverted, likemyself. Some people are
introverted. Like my wife,there's ambiverts, who can are
introverts who can ramp up andbe extroverts, they need to kind
of ramp down and go back intointroversion, as well. We love
to be connected to one another.
So do you have strong socialconnections in your life that's
(05:15):
really linked to good physicaland mental health. It's
important protection againststressors in our life. So
positive relationships andsocial connectedness, am
meaning. Meaning comes fromsomething that's bigger than
ourselves, like, what's themeaning of your life? But more
importantly, what's your WHY? Sowe've talked about this on other
(05:35):
episodes of the show, SimonSinek, start with why but also
find your why I really encourageyou to go out there and find
your why like, whatis your purpose? What gives you
a sense of purpose? What's yourcalling in life? What is it that
you see yourself doing? Finally,we'll get into all these a
little bit more in depth.
(05:55):
Finally, five accomplishment orachievement.
Somastering a skill, that could be
anything, it could be learning anew recipe, it could only be
learning to juggle, goodlearning to sail, it could be
learning to read, it could bewhatever it is that you want to
achieve your life. If youachieve a goal, you have a goal
that you work towards. The goalitself is rewarding, not
(06:18):
necessarily outcome, but thefact that you reached a goal and
made it to the end. Now what Ireally like about the word
perma, it's the very first partof permanent. And so if you want
to make a permanent change inyour life, focused on happiness,
building happiness into yourlife, think about perma. And
what I'd like to do for a littlebit in this episode is just
(06:41):
share with you some tactics thatyou can self coach yourself on.
Alright, lots of people go tocoaches, because they're trying
to work through something ortrying to get over the hump, or
the hurdle or something that'sholding them back. There's
limiting beliefs in their life.
But you can also on a day to daybasis, Coach yourself, some
people use affirmations whenthey wake up in the morning,
(07:01):
other people put post it notesall around the house, to remind
them of things. There's alsolots of really good questions
that you can use in each ofthese categories. So under
number one, positive emotion P.
Yes, you have positive emotions,you also have negative emotions.
And we always say if you havenegative emotions, that's okay.
That's part of life as well. Youcan't be positive all the time.
(07:21):
Just don't stay down to alarm,get yourself back up. A great
question that you can askyourself, if you're having
negative emotions, to kind ofget yourself back towards the
positive is, what might be amore helpful way to look at this
situation. So rather thansaying, you know what, this
stinks, this sucks, this isn'tany good? Is there a different
(07:43):
way to reframe the question? Andthat fits right into being
optimistic? Now, you could alsoask yourself, what are you most
grateful for today? And say itthat way? What are you most
grateful for today? Look in themirror and say that to yourself?
Over and over again? What areyou grateful for today and why?
That's a reflection tool. It's agreat way to to emote positive
(08:05):
emotion. Another way to selfcoach yourself here, ask
yourself, what good Do you wantto come of this? Or what good?
Do you want to come from this?
And then finally, what are youtelling yourself in the heat of
the moment? is it helping you?
Or is it harming you? Great,great questions. Ask yourself to
(08:29):
emote some positive emotion? Howdo we get ourselves more
engaged? What are some ways thatwe can self coach ourselves
there? Ask yourself, what bringsyou joy? What is it about life?
What is it about the situationthat brings you joy and makes
you feel better? If you'refeeling down? Go to what brings
you joy? Another one? So ifyou're if you go off and do the
(08:52):
thing that you love so much?
What does it feel like toexperience that? In the moment?
What do you need to savor today?
Is it that walk alone? Is itreaching out to a friend? Is it
going for ice cream? Whatever itis, what is it that you're
engaged in that brings you joyand allows you to savor the
(09:12):
moment? Remember, this is allpart of self care as well. But
engagement is important part ofthe perma, permanent process to
building happiness in your life.
positive relationships, how weall need those, especially now,
in this day and age, we see alot going on in the world.
positive relationships are a wayto be connected to each other.
(09:32):
But if you're struggling withhaving positive relationships in
your life, what are somequestions that you can self
coach you're on? So here's one,what areas do you need more
social support in connection?
And how can you obtain it? Howconnected Do you feel to your
community? Do you get involved?
Do you know your neighbors? Areyou out and about? Is there
(09:54):
anything that you feelparticularly good about being
connected and living in thecommunity that you're Having it?
And finally, in what ways couldyou enhance?
or improve your most valuablerelationships? We all have
people who are champions in ourlife? How can you improve those
relationships? Now, everybodysays, focus on your strengths,
(10:14):
and hire for your weaknesses,but you're not going to hire to
have somebody when you have abad relationship with somebody.
But if you have a fantasticrelationship, whether that's
with your spouse, or with apartner, or with a good friend,
whoever it may be, how do youmake it even better? What could
you do to make it better, one ofthe things I like to do is to
reach out to people via text andjust let them know I'm thinking
(10:36):
about them. And then sometimeson Saturday is just calling them
out of the blue to check in. Andyou wouldn't believe the
connectedness that that bringsyou back to, especially if you
haven't spoken to that person ina while. So positive
relationships, let's go outthere and make those happen.
Heading on to the M for meaning.
Some ways to self coach yourselfhere is ask yourself, How am I
(10:59):
giving to others? What am Idoing in my life? to give back a
couple of episodes ago here, wetalked about kindness,
unexpected kindness, I reallybelieve that unexpected kindness
can heal. just random small actsof kindness can help. So how are
you bringing meaning to yourlife? Is it buying coffee for
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somebody in a coffee shop thatyou don't know? Is it letting
somebody go in front of you inline? How are you bringing
meaning into your life, youcould volunteer for a cause? You
can think about belonging tosomething bigger than yourself,
what is the meaning in yourlife? And how are you making the
connections to make it happen.
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And finally, back to aaccomplishments and
achievements. If you knowanything about me, you know that
I really believe that you can'tachieve anything in life, or
accomplish things in lifewithout setting goals. If you're
struggling to findaccomplishment in your life, or
to make achievements or makeforward progress, set some goals
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for yourself. But then askyourself, What is your most
important personal goal rightnow? What could that be? Is it
getting out in the morning toexercise? Is it being
reconnected to people youhaven't spoken to in a while
volunteering, whatever it maybe? What is your goal? And how
are you going to reach it? And Ithink another powerful question
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here to ask yourself, if you'regetting into the realm of self
coaching, is, why is that goalso meaningful to you? Remember,
oftentimes, goals that we setare connected to values that we
have. Anytime you set your goal,say you say to yourself, what is
the value in it for me? And I'mnot saying hey, it's got to be a
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gain for yourself that you haveto win? Or accomplish? because
other people will see you do it?
No? What are you value?
What are your goals to getthere? And how do you make it
happen? And this kind of goesback to what is your life
purpose? And I think a betterway to think of this is not
necessarily saying what is yourlife purpose, but saying, How
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are other people's lives better?
Because you came across them inyour life? Because you're part
of their life? Have you everasked anybody that question?
Have you ever asked anyone? Howis your life different? Because
we're friends? What is it aboutour friendship that you value?
What is it about ourconnectedness that is different
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than other friends that youhave. And don't ask it from a
point of view that you're tryingto like dig in here, you do want
to dig in, but you want to knowthe value that you bring to
somebody else. So and ask onceyou find your purpose in life,
once you know your why, ask yourfriends, if your purpose and
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your why is why they're friendswith you. Does that make sense?
It should because peoplegravitate to you for the exact
same reason that you havepurpose and meaning in life.
connectedness is all aboutsurrounding yourselves with
people who make you better, andwith people who understand why
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it is that you exist and whatyou bring to this world. Now I
know I threw a ton at you. Inthis session today. I threw at
you perma, which again ispositive emotion, engagement,
positive relationship, meaningand achievement or
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accomplishment. perma is thepermanent way that you can build
happiness in your life. What I'dlike for you to do today is
focus on one of these areas.
Doesn't matter what it is. Itcould be the positive emotion it
could be meaning it could beabout looking for more positive
relationships in your life. Itcould be about engaging In the
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things that you're doing, or itcould be setting goals and
trying to accomplish something,no matter what it is, do me a
favor and pick one. Pick one ofthese topics. And I'd love to
connect with you on what it isthat you're doing. So shoot me
an email over to Jason atpositivity on fire.com. And let
me know what you're working on.
I can tell you right now myself,I'm working on em, meaning the
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reason that I founded impact onemedia, it's the reason that I'm
here on this podcast everySaturday, bringing you the best
positive mindset content that Ican, sharing with how I'm
struggling with things, sharinghow I'm improving my life, in
the hopes that I can bringmeaning to your life as well.
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Now, if you want to keep up withwhat I'm doing, in how I'm
building, meaning in my life,you want to stay connected more
regularly. Subscribe to ouremail newsletter, head over to
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trying to accomplish in thisworld. It'll allow you to have a
little bit more insight intowhat I do. I share a weekly
newsletter that goes out onSaturday mornings, full of
positivity, affirmations,challenges, opportunities,
Recaps of podcast episodes youmay have missed. It's just a
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really good way to stayconnected with myself and what
I'm doing. And I look forward toconnecting you because I really,
truly believe that if I canimpact one person or if I can
impact 1 million people there isno difference. And you being
part of this journey with memeans the world to me. The fact
that you give up time listeningto this show is such an
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incredible return to me. It's agift that I cannot even express.
So thank you. Thank you so muchfor being here. And as always,
please remember, be well behappy, be you and until next
time, may your quest forpositivity begin today. For more
on my positivity quest follow meat underscore j y Ramsden on
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