27. Harnessing Humility in Our Lives

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Humility is that key ingredient to being open to what others have to share, contribute, and give to us. By being more humble, we often find ourselves more readily learning from others which in turn makes us better at being us.

In today’s episode, host Jason Ramsden talks about the power of humility, tips that you can use to become more humble in your life, and examines how humility can actually make us a better person.

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leading a more positive andintentional life. And this show
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please subscribe today. Now,let's get into today's episode
ello positivity pasty coach Jayhere with another edition of

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positivity on fire. Today we aretalking about harnessing
humility in our lives. Now in aprevious episode, we talked
about faith and confidence. Wetalked about having self
confidence, and self esteem, allfocus on self efficacy, that
doesn't mean that you can bebraggadocious you have to be

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humble and humility is a bigpart of that. start us off with
a quote by john Ruskin todaythat says I believe the first
test of a truly great person isin their humility. Anyway,
wondering to yourself whatexactly is humility, you may
have a rough sense of it. Butfor those of you who aren't
quite sure, humility is a modestor low view of one's own in

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portance, humbleness in essence.
So why today's topic? Well,right now, this episode drops on
June 26 2021. And my family ismost likely moving into our
brand new home in Massachusettsright now. And as I've mentioned
on shows before, that means I amgetting ready getting prepared

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to have a whole new life, awhole new career, and a whole
new way of doing things. Andwhile I have big goals, lofty
goals, around impact one mediaand where we can take my belief
in improving humanity, improvingpeople, and helping people see
the light around positivethinking positive mindset, it is

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not going to happen overnight,it is not going to be a game
changer right away. But it willbe successful. If I stay the
course I stay focused. And Iwork on being humble along the
way. And that's where humilitycomes in. So as I'm getting
ready to launch this company,first and foremost, humility has

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to be focused on takingresponsibility to know what my
limits are to be able to admitmy mistakes, to be able to
realize that I'm not going toalways have the answer, and to
be honest with myself around mythoughts and the feelings in
regard to making the best use ofmy life moving forward. And you

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may be saying yourself, Jay, youdon't come across as somebody
who's braggadocious you havebeen open and honest in your
work. You've been open andhonest in your journey, around
positivity and becoming a betterperson. The things that you
share make sense. They don'tsound like somebody who is
braggadocious way, right? I trynot to be there are certain

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circumstances where that comesto pass, and certainly has a lot
to do probably with a rivalrywith my brother and nephew.
Around the backyard wiffle balltournaments that we play. But
that's for fun. But in real lifeand my work life, in my
professional life, and indealing with others, I do
believe that being humble goes along way towards being

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successful. As you've come tolearn, I love to do my research.
I love to read articles online,I love to consume content that
helps me formulate thoughts andconcepts to give to you as you
work on your own positivityquest, your own improvement to
your mindset. And today, I founda great piece on humility, seven
ways to help you develop yourhumility. And the interesting

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about this article is that thisisn't just about applying this,
if you're in a leadership role.
That's not what this podcast isabout. It's not what my show is
about. A lot of it is applicableto leaders in being a good
leader, because you can't be agood leader unless you're
constantly working on yourself.
At least that's my own opinion.

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But what I like most about theseseven concepts is that they are
things that are reallyrelatively straightforward. You
can put them in practice rightaway, they have deeper meaning
that you can continue to work onin your life. And I think you
may find them helpful in yourjourney. So number one, give up

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trying to influence others. Thekey component here is you say
what you need to say you do whatyou need to do. And then you
really let go of whether or notpeople like it or they agree
with you. Or they do anythingdifferently because you have
said something or you need togive up trying to influence

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others. Now it doesn't mean thatyou're necessarily giving up
control over one thing, but theonly thing that you can control
is yourself trying to give upinfluence other real
demonstrates respect for others,allowing them to form their own
opinions, allowing them to runwith the topic allowing them the

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ability to take in theinformation that you've shared,
just like this show, digest itfor yourself and figure out how
it's applicable to your ownlife. I'm sharing for the sole
purpose of sharing what's on mymind, to make me a better
person, how you use it is up toyou, tip to be prepared to
concede, be prepared to say,Listen, I get it, we're gonna

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make a concession here, we canagree to disagree, but for the
purpose of moving thingsforward, I'm okay. I'm okay with
this idea. I'm okay with thischange. Because there are times
that it is important toacquiesce, it's important to
compromise. It is a way ofallowing others to feel
validated in the work thatthey're doing in the life that

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they're leading. But it's alsoimportant to make sure that you
stand true to your values thatyou stand stand true to your
principles, and that you don'tcompromise on those as a risk to
compromising your integrity. Soit's okay to proceed, except
when it really, really matters.
If it is something that mattersto you, deeply. From a

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conviction point of view, it'sokay not to concede, but there
are times when you must concedein order to move things forward.
Tip three, and I think this isjust part of being a human. Not
that everybody does it, but showa genuine interest in others,
allow other people to be thiskind of source of fascination, I

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consider myself to be a lifelongobservational list. I love
watching people. I lovelistening and watching for cues
and conversations. I am alifelong observational around
that. And I I love when I amable to understand what's

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happening with other people, Ireally want to go a little bit
deeper, I want to ask somepoignant questions, I want to
get an understanding about whothey are and what makes them
tick. And if you if you givethis a try yourself, you'll find
that people reciprocate as well.

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That when you show genuineinterest in others, this kind of
broadens your horizons as well,and allows you to see things a
little bit differently, whichultimately feeds into being a
more humble person. Next tip, beaware without being judgmental,
please, we talked about this inEpisode Six, where we talked

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about who's judging you reallybe aware about being judgmental,
typically, you're judgmental ofothers, when you see something
that you don't like in yourself,when you aren't judgmental of
others, it allows you to buildawareness and allows you to
build understanding, it providesyou with the ability to be open

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to new information to gainperhaps a broader perspective
about life about others. So ifyou can focus on not being
judgment on learning fromothers, that also is a great way
to add some humbleness into yourlife. Next tip, and this is for
the people out there who seethings in shades of black and

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white and don't allow themselvesto see Shades of Grey. But it's
okay to accept ambiguity andparadox. Life doesn't always
have to be predictable, it canbe unpredictable, there is a
polarity there. And when thingsin your life don't go as
planned, and we know thishappens with regularity. when

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things don't go as planned. It'sokay to embrace what is
unfolding without a complaint.
Without a worry. It is okay foryou to say I'm going to learn
from what's happening in my liferight now. And it's okay to
accept that it's okay to acceptthe ambiguity of a life that is
not planned. Next, ask for help.

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I'm big believer in askingothers for help when you need
it. No one has unlimitedresources. No one has unlimited
amount of expertise in any onearea. There's just it's not
possible to build up that typeof reservoir. It's okay to ask

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for help. It is not a sign ofweakness. It's okay to admit
that you've reached your limits.
And it's okay to ask for somesaving grace to move forward.
And finally, acceptimperfections in yourself and in
others, which really boils downto life is heavy enough to add a
little light heartedness to yourday, stop worrying about being

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perfect. Stop worrying aboutyour reputation. Stop worrying
about whether or not you'reaccepted or not accepted by
others. I think there is nothinggreater than accepting your
imperfections. I do want to beclear, though, after sharing
some of these tips and tricksfrom some of my research, is
that having humility, and beinghumble, has nothing to do with a

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lack of confidence has nothingto do with being weak. It has
nothing to do with beingselfish. I believe that
humbleness is a form of quietself confidence. And the quiet
confidence comes from allowingyour actions, allowing the

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results of your life, allowingyour ability to show others what
it means to be vulnerable, whatit means to be kind, what it
means to be patient, what itmeans to be gracious, the action
speaks for themselves. And youdon't have to let people know
that those are areas that you'reworking on your life that you're

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proving that you're seeingyourself meeting your goals
around being a better human. Andwhen you start to do that,
you'll find that people areattracted to you, they want to
be around you, they want tolearn from you. They want to get
to know you, they want to haveconversations with you. And
ultimately people who are humblepeople who have a high sense of

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humility, end up being the typeof people who get to be
respected. They are often verykind, they tend to do a good job
of leading people. They areselfless in the act of others,
and they typically don't stressout much. And humility can be
the glue that binds everythingelse together. It can be the

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foundation of making your lifegreat. Think about it for a
minute. If you make your lifemore about others than about
yourself, I believe you canleave this life a better place
than when you found it. As weprepare to close out today's

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show, I will leave you with oneother thought one other quote
that comes from Ezra TaftBenson. with pride. There are
many curses. with humility,there comes many blessings. And
if there's one thing that I wishfor all of you who are listening

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to this show, who are regularlisteners who are loyal
listeners, who may just bepopping in from time to time, is
that I wish for you manyblessings in your life I wish
for the best. I hope that youfind yourself on this positivity
quest. Like I'm on thispositivity quest, I hope that
you will find it in yourself toshare with others, what you're

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trying to do, how you're tryingto become a better human, for
yourself and for others. And Ihope that someday perhaps you'll
also reach out and let me knowdrop me an email at Jason at
positivity on fire.com. Fill mein, let me know how your
positivity quest is going. Andjust remember, as I close out
every show, I want to say thankyou for your time and listening.

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Thank you for spending a portionof your day with me. Whether you
are out there, mowing the lawn,doing the groceries, doing the
laundry, taking a walk, whateverit may be, the time that you
give me. Every episode is a giftand I appreciate it sincerely
and always remember, be well behappy, be you and until next

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