Post Trauma Secrets & Decluttering

In this episode, Valerie and JM share Barbara’s powerful empty-nest decluttering story and the trauma-informed steps they used to help her move forward. From creating memory boxes to reframing guilt as growth, this episode is a compassionate guide for parents transitioning into a new chapter. Learn how to release what no longer serves you and make room for peace, purpose, and possibility.

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In this episode, Valerie and JM introduce the DO Well® Method—a four-part, science-backed approach to healing through decluttering. You’ll learn how stress, mindset, time, and space are connected—and why lasting change comes from addressing all four. With real-life transformation stories and practical insights, this trauma-informed method helps you clear more than just your home. It’s a path to emotional clarity, resilience, and su...

In this episode, JM and Valerie share the ultimate 2025 decluttering checklist—from kitchen drawers to digital overload to forgotten sentimental items. You’ll hear real-life stories of people who reclaimed their homes and their clarity by letting go of what no longer serves them. With tips for home, tech, finances, and lifestyle, this episode gives you everything you need to simplify your space—and your mind—starting today.

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In this episode, JM and Valerie explore the connection between clutter and attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Through real-life examples and a quick self-assessment quiz, you’ll learn how your emotional patterns show up in your space—and how to work with them instead of against them. Whether you hold on tightly or keep everything at arm’s length, this episode offers insights to help you create a space t...

In this episode, Valerie and JM get honest about the emotional layers that make decluttering feel overwhelming—even when your home looks “clean.” They unpack the neuroscience of why clutter is so triggering, share their personal story of burnout, and challenge the polished perfection of most organizing content. With insights on trauma, identity, and the reality of ongoing healing, this episode reframes decluttering as a journey of ...

In this episode, Valerie and JM walk through Leslie’s 20-year journey of caregiving, grief, and emotional attachment—and how the trauma-informed DO Well Method helped her reclaim space, freedom, and joy. You’ll learn how clutter often holds meaning, why slow and compassionate support matters, and how decluttering can restore not just your home, but your life. 

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In this episode, JM shares compassionate, trauma-informed strategies to support someone who’s struggling with clutter. You’ll learn why clutter often represents safety or survival, how to communicate with empathy, and why consent is non-negotiable. From asking the right questions to celebrating small wins, this guide offers powerful tools to help your loved one reclaim their space—without losing their dignity or trust.

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In this episode, JM unpacks how emotional attachments to objects can impact communication, especially when trauma or grief is involved. You’ll learn why some people hold on, how to approach decluttering as a household, and strategies like community vs. personal zones, shared goals, and weekly resets. Designed for couples and families, this episode offers a path to declutter with compassion, restore connection, and create a home tha...

In this episode, JM shares the surprising story of a small drill bit with a big emotional impact—lost during a well-meaning garage clean-out. Together, JM and Valerie unpack the hidden cost of letting go too quickly and offer three mindful tips to prevent regret: use a Maybe Box, ask if an item carries a story, and slow down before tossing unique pieces. Whether you're clearing space or facing emotional decisions, this episode...

In this episode, Valerie and JM unpack the hidden emotional weight behind guilt, nostalgia, and identity that keeps clutter in your life. Learn the psychology behind why letting go is hard—and the mindset shifts that make it easier. This episode covers simple, practical steps to declutter without guilt, from the One-Year Rule to photo-based memory keeping. If you're holding onto things out of obligation, this conversation will...

In this episode, Valerie shares the emotional story of losing her beloved blanket—and how that moment shaped her view on sentimental clutter. Together with JM, they walk through four powerful strategies to help you declutter keepsakes without regret: from memory boxes to meaningful goodbyes. If you're holding onto items from the past but craving a lighter, more peaceful home, this episode offers practical tools to help you rel...

In this episode, Valerie and JM open up about the mistakes they wish they had avoided—from rushing the process and tossing sentimental items, to decluttering without a system or support. You’ll learn how to slow down, reduce regret, and use simple strategies like the 4-Box Method and One-Touch Rule. Whether you're starting fresh or resetting after overwhelm, this conversation offers clarity, confidence, and community-driven en...

In this episode, JM and Valerie uncover the hidden link between trauma, narcissistic abuse, and chronic clutter. Through the story of Abby and insights into trauma attachment, you'll learn why letting go feels so hard—and how to start healing your space and your mind. With science-backed tools and compassionate guidance, discover practical steps to declutter safely and reclaim your peace, one item at a time.

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In this episode, Valerie and JM reveal the three key areas silently fueling daily overwhelm and share simple, actionable tips to reclaim your space. From taming countertop chaos to transforming your bedroom into a calming retreat, this is your step-by-step guide to a more peaceful, organized home.

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• How clutter increases stress, anxiety, and cortisol levels
• Top 3 clutter zones to tackle first: living room, kitc...

In this inspiring episode, Valerie and JM take on the challenge of fully decluttering a messy bedroom—and uncover more than just extra space. Through simple strategies like sorting, letting go of sentimental items, and rethinking what truly matters, they reveal how clearing physical clutter leads to emotional clarity. Watch the full transformation and learn how to reclaim peace, focus, and energy—starting with your own space.

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In this episode, JM and Valerie share easy-to-follow tidying rituals to feel more at ease in their homes. From the 5-Minute Rule to themed cleaning days and the one-item declutter strategy, these habits are gentle, effective, and built for any energy level. Learn how a little daily effort can lead to a big boost in comfort, safety, and peace of mind.

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• Easy daily tidying habits to reduce clut...

In this episode, JM and Valerie guide you through 10 specific items you can let go of right now to reduce stress and create a calmer, more focused home environment. From worn-out clothes to expired products and emotional clutter, discover how small changes can lead to big mental and emotional relief. Whether you're starting fresh or feeling stuck, these simple decluttering tips will help you reclaim your space—and your peace.

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In this episode, JM and Valerie reveal the hidden weight behind stress and anxiety—our attachment to expectations. Learn how clinging to ideal outcomes, perfectionism, and control can silently sabotage your peace. Through real-life stories and simple mindset shifts, they show how letting go of these attachments can lead to greater emotional freedom, clarity, and joy in the present moment.

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In this episode, JM and Valerie break down the science and simplicity behind intention setting—a powerful tool to overcome mental overload. You’ll discover how to reduce stress, improve productivity, and gain clarity by starting each day with a focused mindset. With real-life tips and examples, this is your guide to feeling more in control, present, and peaceful—all without adding more to your to-do list.

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