Step Yo Game Up

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And can I say something, y'all.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
Oh, I understand when we see snow and we're not
used to seeing.

Speaker 1 (00:04):
It, but stop eating the snow.

Speaker 3 (00:07):
No please, I've seen somebody making a snow cone. I said, bitch,
be fucking for real, brou while she was putting syrup
on it and everything, and then.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
She was eating it. Y'all say that was disgusted.

Speaker 3 (00:19):
I know it's a piece of grass in there somewhere
worse than that little pine cone.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Lok, some some I don't know. These Atlanta streets are
not clean, baby, Why would you eat snow?

Speaker 4 (00:30):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (00:53):
What's up?

Speaker 4 (00:54):
Y'all's your girl, Alex p And it's your girl draining
the call.

Speaker 2 (00:58):
Now you are tuned in another episode.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
Of Poor Mind, where a drunk mind speaks sober thoughts.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
We ain't got no guests today. We ain't got no
guests today.

Speaker 1 (01:10):
So wait, it's the fourth week.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
So we've had three guest episodes back to back to
back for the new year.

Speaker 4 (01:16):
Right, No, I don't think so. No, we had super
then we had a.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
Solo oh okay, okay, then we had and then Janiese okay, okay,
So we are back for our second solo episode of
the year, So I want to do a quick check
out with everybody.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
Y'all leave comments.

Speaker 2 (01:37):
Have y'all been keeping up with your New Year's resolutions
so far? We are getting towards the end of January.
Have you been keeping up with yours? Absolutely good job.
I have been staying on track with all of my goals.
That's why I posted that meme the other day on Twitter.
I was like, it's only the first month of the year,
and I'm in my bag period. Y'all know what mean?
I'ta talk about these two ladies.

Speaker 3 (01:57):
That was like, yeah, okay, but no, for real though, y'all,
I've been staying on track with my goals cause one
thing about me, I'm pretty like discipline when I sent
my mind to things, So it's not hard for me
to like stay consistent and not veer off track. If
I'm telling myself every day, like this is the goal.

Speaker 2 (02:16):
Your allliner as sharp as fuck today?

Speaker 3 (02:18):
Thank you, oh my god, and thank you so much
for complimenting me on that, because it's actually the MU sample.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
That that giving Michael Maya thank you.

Speaker 3 (02:28):
Yeah, this is actually the MU sample that I'm coming
out with. So I'm coming out with this eyeliner really soon,
it'll probably be in mark.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
Okay, and it's real and I have a mara on too,
So okay, I'm feeling out.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
I'm gonna have to give me one thank you.

Speaker 4 (02:43):
Are you staying on track with your girls?

Speaker 2 (02:44):
I am okay, y'all. So I have a great update.
So y'all know I've been going to acting classes and
y'all know I'm big trash.

Speaker 1 (02:51):
Well I'm medium trash.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
Now, don't say that. I'm telling you. I went to
acting class the other day and he was like, you
have such a presence on camera. I said, we moving up.
So I feel like I'm getting better. I feel like
I'm getting more confident. That's good. So yeah, I've been
keeping up with that, and I have been really focused,
and I have been doing so much for like Love
LEXP and just I've still been ordering equipment, oh my god.

(03:15):
So obviously I'm filming Love LEXP at home and because
I wanted to give it more a chill vibe because
I feel like Poor Mind's obviously is a big production now,
which I'm grateful for, but I'm like, you know what,
I kind of wanted to take it back. But with
that being said, I forgot how hard it is to
shoot and produce your own things, because you know, we
haven't done that in so long. Yeah, so it's really

(03:37):
taking me back to the wine down Wednesday days when
I used to be and we used to be trying
to figure out how to connect this to that? Why
this sound like that? And I'm like, oh my god,
I cannot wait to get to the study on Wednesday
where I can just show up by no, I feel
you on that.

Speaker 3 (03:52):
Like, I haven't had no technical issues because you know,
I launched my YouTube channel too, so I haven't had
no technical issues as far as like filming, but oh
my gosh, he's over the laughing because oh my guy,
Like when I say I don't know what opposition was
against me, I don't know what opposition was against me.

(04:13):
But it literally took all day to be able to
send her a file, and we literally tried everything, and
I'm just like, yeah, I don't miss having to deal
with these type of clubs at all.

Speaker 4 (04:25):
It's so annoying.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
Oh my gosh, But I didn't give up. I was
really least.

Speaker 4 (04:29):
I think we're gonna figure it out, and we figured
it out.

Speaker 2 (04:32):
So yeah, I feel like it's been a good start
of the year. Yeah, of course we have some big
news that we can't drop yet.

Speaker 3 (04:41):
Yes, but I can. Like it's two big things for sure.
I'm super excited about it. I feel like we should
be able to announce it maybe in like the next
month or two.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
But yeah, it's really really big news.

Speaker 3 (04:56):
And I don't know, I just been trying to stay
on top of everything, like I've been doing good. My challenge, y'all.
I'm doing a seventy five day challenge. I'm not drinking
for seventy five days. I'm working out for seventy five
days straight, no days off.

Speaker 2 (05:09):
I'm kind of doing like I don't want to say I'm.

Speaker 3 (05:12):
Doing a diet because I don't really need to lose weight,
so I'm not doing a diet per se, but it's
just a personal goal of mine. I'm not eating meat,
so I'm only eating seafood.

Speaker 4 (05:22):
I'm sticking to.

Speaker 3 (05:23):
Like low cards and yeah, and then I have to
read a book every day, Hold up, every day, not
a whole book.

Speaker 4 (05:32):
Oh, I have to read like at least ten No,
I gotta.

Speaker 3 (05:39):
I'm gonna be listening to it on three times speed
like Ryan Dude podcast.

Speaker 2 (05:44):
But yes, y'all.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
So I'm doing my challenge and then I also start
Spinish classes next week.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
Oh, are you going to somebody in person?

Speaker 4 (05:52):
Yeah, I'm gonna be taking in person and online.

Speaker 2 (05:55):
Okay, I think I might do the little app or something,
just try to see what I can do, because that's
something I'm like. After going out of town. We went
out oftown, I was like, Okay, I have to learn Spanish. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
Yeah, that's why I'm I'm like, yeah, I'm not about
to keep procrastinating because when I was younger, when I
was in elementary school, I took Spanish for like three years,
and I feel like it's not that I was good
at it, but I feel like I could understand. Even now,
I still kind of understand when people be talking to me,
depending on what they're saying. But I want to get
to a point to where when I go out of town,
I can communicate fluently and I don't have to worry

(06:30):
about having a translator, because although we did have a
translator with us and we were going, you know, it's
still just annoying not being able to communicate four years
silf right. So that's a goal of mine. By the
end of the year, I plan on being semi fluent.
Maybe we'll do a little poor minds telling show and

(06:50):
and I'll read a poem in spinde.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
I'm taping, period.

Speaker 4 (06:56):
And we can have li In come because she just
started violin.

Speaker 2 (06:58):
Oh yes she did. I like that.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
I can't wait to do a whole little teleshow we
need to do it.

Speaker 2 (07:04):
Y'all gone to prepare everybody needs. We're doing a talk.
I don't waiting to dust off my tap shooting. Oh,
I'm gonna have my less hard on. Oh gyo you actually? Oh,
y'all could do a new agg I like that. I
love Okay, yay, they get year it is. They get

(07:25):
the calendar at selmixedy dot com. Right, okay, period period
but no peebacking off what you were just about to say.
But I feel like twenty twenty five is like a
good year. Like ye, my mental health space is better.
I just feel like, I don't know, I'm just excited
and like when I launched lovelexp'all, I have been so

(07:45):
nervous even recording it. I was nervous because I feel
like every time I've done this type of stuff, it's
always been like me and you and I'm talking to somebody.

Speaker 1 (07:52):
Like I literally did.

Speaker 2 (07:54):
One episode of Poor Mines by myself what was Wine
down Wednesday a long time ago because you were out
of town.

Speaker 1 (07:59):
But that was when the episodes were ten minutes long.

Speaker 2 (08:02):
So I'm not gonna lie. Like, sitting down for the
first time and recording it took me like five or
six takes. Just yes, girl, yes, because I'm so used
to just bouncing back with somebody, so when it's just
you and the camera, it's a lot more difficult than
it seems. So like props to like Wendy, because like

(08:23):
when Wendy does her show, you know, she sits there
for the first thirty minutes, it's just her and her
hot topics and she'd be having a ball. And once
I got into it, I was like, Okay, I'm a
little more comfortable. So the first episode I thought was okay,
but everybody loved it. Yeah, but I'm just excited because
i know I'm gonna get better and better as time
goes on.

Speaker 3 (08:41):
Yeah, Like I feel like, you know, as Tom Progresis,
you just get more comfortable and you get bitty.

Speaker 2 (08:47):
Yeah, Because I was like, oh, start over, and I'm
like on my phone recording the thing so I don't
have to keep getting up. But you just like that
in general too.

Speaker 3 (08:55):
Oh yeah, like me, I'd be like keep rolling in
she Yeah, I'm gonna be wanting to start off, but
I can see you starting over.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
Like five, I was like, I know the people across
on the seat that can see me in my little
high rides. I was like, what the fuck? I was like, fuck, fuck,
but I got it. I got it. Okay. But yeah,
I just want to shout out to everybody that subscribed.
We got thirty thousand views in the first forty eight hours. Okay,
So but yeah, y'all make sure y'all tune in Monday,

(09:24):
it'll be episode two. So what else is going on?

Speaker 1 (09:27):
What else is new before we get into these hot topics.

Speaker 3 (09:29):
I mean, that's really it that I feel like I've
talked about everything, Like, I have new products coming out
we muse really soon. We have a Valentine's Day seal
that is about to drop. I'm gonna have promo stuff
coming out for that really soon.

Speaker 2 (09:44):
I'm about to rack up on them jelly blushes, Yeah,
I have.

Speaker 3 (09:47):
It's gonna be a seal on the jelly blushes, the
red Matt Liquid lipsticks, literally everything on the site. But yeah,
I have that coming out really soon. Of course, like
I said, I launched my YouTube channel. Y'all know, I'm
gonna be doing.

Speaker 4 (09:59):
Like beauty products, beauty halls.

Speaker 3 (10:03):
Clothing halls, all of that stuff. Blogs, literally everything. It's
just kind of like, you know, coming into my world,
me showing y'all a little bit more about me, the
more personal side. So in my YouTube channel is doing
really really well as well. What else have I been
working on in my challenge? I mean that's really it.
Life kind of boring right now for me, just because

(10:24):
you know, I'm not drinking and stuff, so I be
in the house.

Speaker 4 (10:27):
That's the way. Yeah, chilling my challenge, staying focused.

Speaker 3 (10:33):
It is safe in there, like and I feel so good,
Like I feel like when I don't drink, this is
probably gonna I don't know, Like I don't want to
say this is gonna be my last year drinking. But
I think I'm about to become like a wine Rose
girl because I just when I don't drink for a
decent amount of time, I really like how I feel.

(10:54):
And then when I start back drinking, I be like, yeah,
this why I don't like, you don't miss it your brain.
It's more clear you don't have the brain fog like
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (11:04):
I feel like even on our strip, we barely drink.

Speaker 3 (11:07):
Yeah, we didn't really drink that much because I mean,
I really wanted to start on the first of the year,
but then we had to do the troop and then
I knew we had to drink for certain stuff that
we were doing for that.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
But yeah, that's really okay. So speaking of drinks, cause
I'm I got my little drunk. I don't know about y'all,
but I ain't set. I'm going seven. I'm going hard
for seventy five days, all right, okay, seventy five hard?
For real? What are we drinking?

Speaker 4 (11:37):
So in light of this being our new year, this
is the golden glow because everybody's glowing today. We got
our challenges, we got our goals, we're focused.

Speaker 2 (11:46):
This is the golden glow.

Speaker 4 (11:48):
Lex does have the cocktail version. Drea and I have
the mocktail version, but in both we have some pineapple mango.
We have some mohito syrup, so that has like a
little bit of mint flavor to it. We also have
a little bit of passion fruit, and then we topped
it off with a sparkling water just to kind of
give it a little bit of that fizz and that carbonation,
but also just blending and making it less sweet, and

(12:09):
then just a splash of lime juice on top. As
a garnish. We have some mangoes and some blueberry, so
a little bit of fruit. It's been cold here, so
I've been trying to channel some tropical vines. Okay, So
that is the golden glow, y'all.

Speaker 2 (12:23):
Cheerly, She's delicious and you did because, y'all. Ever since
I was a little girl, I've loved being on camera,
entertaining myself and everybody around me by sharing my thoughts
and opinions on anything pop culture. For the past few years,

(12:45):
I've heard your requests. But now it's finally time to deliver. Okay, y'all,
let's get into the teeth with love lex pea.

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You don't know where y'all live at. It has been
a violent winter in Atlanta.

Speaker 4 (14:37):
It's done snow and tachery oh weeks of snow.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
Yes, like so snow.

Speaker 3 (14:43):
We missed the first week and I thought we was
in the clear. Then we came back, it snowed again,
and then they was trying to say it was gonna
snow again on Friday.

Speaker 4 (14:51):
Thank god it didn't. But yeah, this snow ain't no joke.

Speaker 3 (14:55):
I don't think it has snowed in Atlanta since like
twenty eighteen.

Speaker 2 (15:00):
This is crazy. Yeah, it was twenty eighteen because I
was like the first like I remember, I had just
moved in my place. Yeah, and can I say something y'all. Oh,
I understand when we see snow and we're not used
to seeing it.

Speaker 1 (15:12):
But stop eating the snow.

Speaker 2 (15:15):
No please.

Speaker 3 (15:16):
I've seen somebody making a snow cone. I said, bitch,
be fucking for real, bruh. While she was putting syrup
on it and everything, and then she was eating it, y'all,
I was disgusted.

Speaker 5 (15:27):
I know.

Speaker 3 (15:27):
It's a piece of grassy now somewhere worse than that
little pine con well.

Speaker 2 (15:32):
Something something, I don't know. These Atlanta streets are not clean, baby,
Why would you eat snow?

Speaker 4 (15:37):
Yes, counterpart, they were telling me to add some like
cream milk, yeah, making it like cream.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
Yes, girl, I've seen it on TikTok. What child, stop
getting it. It's not sen well, I mean, if that's
your thing. It's still certain parts of Belanta. They still
got a little snowlft on the ground. That dude, that
snow was last thing.

Speaker 5 (16:01):
All.

Speaker 2 (16:01):
Yeah, it really is, literally, I swear, y'all. I've seen
somebody that I follow. I saw somebody that.

Speaker 3 (16:07):
I follow the other day they had literally posted they
still had like a good little space of snow in
the backyard.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
But it's like sixty five degrees today.

Speaker 1 (16:16):
That's crazy.

Speaker 2 (16:17):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (16:17):
Well, I will say these two when the sun is
not out like it rained the other day, and so
from my apartment I can see like the buildings obviously
on top of the buildings.

Speaker 2 (16:27):
That are lower than you.

Speaker 3 (16:28):
Yeah, so it had rained the other day and then
the next day the sun didn't come out, and like
it was ice on the roof.

Speaker 4 (16:36):
I mean, you know that's your thing. Go ahead, go
up there with a.

Speaker 1 (16:39):
Cubs, make a little snow cone.

Speaker 2 (16:40):
Don't do that. But anyway, Okay, let's get to these topics,
cause I'm so ready to talk about this, I've been
dying to talk about this. So we're gonna talk for
the first topic about the TikTok band. Yeah, I think
everybody pretty much knows what happened. TikTok got band. Everybody
on the app was losing their minds. Half of the
peace people were crying. Half the people were like, good,

(17:02):
y'all need to go get a job. Why are you
depending on the app for money? Anyway? Then lo and behold,
twelve hours later, the app is still here. It's gotten extension.
They're still trying to figure out what they're gonna do
with it. But yeah, that's what's going on. First, before
we get into the topic, let me say, y'all, please
do not fall for that little stunt that they pulled

(17:23):
talking about Donald Trump saved the day and save the app.
He the reason why I was about to get canced exactly.

Speaker 4 (17:29):
I think people be forgetting what to heal going on.

Speaker 2 (17:31):
Exactly, so just don't fall for that. But anyways, what
do you think about the TikTok band and how people
were like crying and then also how people were.

Speaker 1 (17:40):
Laughing about it.

Speaker 2 (17:43):
I was more on the side of laughing. No, see right, well.

Speaker 3 (17:47):
No I am, because it's just like crying when you
don't know what's gonna happen. Yet it's crazy to me,
Like I feel like, once you know what's going to happen,
like once you know your fate, like say you're a
TikToker and you have three million followers and they show
primary source to income, once you knew for sure that

(18:07):
the shit was gonna be over, like maybe a week later,
two weeks later, a month later, and now it's really
affecting your income, then I could see having their reaction.
But it's like it was just hearsay, like we wasn't
really sure and I knew that the shit was not
gonna get canceled because at the end of the day,
if Trump's if a lot of Trump's policies is all

(18:27):
about making America great again and people making more money
and people having income. It's so many people on TikTok
that are making millions of dollars. Why would he cancel
something like that that's generating that type of income for America.
I just knew it probably wasn't going to happen, and
I think people were very much overreacting. I think to

(18:48):
cry over an app in general is literally insane and
it shows how ridiculous our generation is, in my opinion,
because why are you crying over a app? I tweeted
about this, I said, I feel like we're living in
a real life episode of Black mus because what is
wrong with y'all? Like, it's a app, and I get

(19:09):
that people make money from it, but just like any
other time, if something get canceled, something else is gonna
pop off right afterwards. Yeah, and that's the truth. It
happened with Vine, it happens all the time. It happened
with Black Planning, happened with my Space. Well, what I'm
and from what I and what I think is I

(19:30):
think Black Planning in my Space might still be around,
But the point that I'm making is that it doesn't
have as many users as it once. Everybody kind of
started migrating over the Facebook and all of that type
of stuff. So it's always gonna be something else that
ends up coming out, and like we would have figured
it out as a community, we would have been Okay.

(19:50):
I just think sitting online crying period is crazy, but
sitting online crying over TikTok is insane.

Speaker 2 (19:56):
And people was mad. They was responding to my tweet.

Speaker 3 (20:00):
He has said, well, I'm sure you will feel the
same way about YouTube. I said, yeah, but you wouldn't
see me online crying about it.

Speaker 2 (20:05):
But you also, if you two got shut down right now,
you also have a backup. Oh.

Speaker 3 (20:10):
When I said thing too, I said, but I also
have like five of the streams of ink Yeah, outside
of YouTube.

Speaker 2 (20:14):
Right and I think for me too, I mean light flicks.
But yeah, and I will say this too, y'all have
to prepare for a randy day. Honestly, if shits shut
down right now, I'm good for about a good seven
eight month s it's seven eight months. I can figure
something out. When I tell you, I'm so. My lifestyle
is so different now, and I understand how it is

(20:37):
having a presence on social media making your money online.
These apps aren't necessarily guaranteed as we've seen. But what
I will say is like, you gotta prepare for a backup.
I though, Blueberry, I think that it's so crazy though,
on the other side, because I'm a play devil's advocate
to your point, which is a very good point. But
on the other side, y'all that were sitting there clapping

(20:58):
and laughing at people, y'all would be the same people.
If your boss walked into your cubicle right now and
fired you.

Speaker 1 (21:04):
You would be crying as well.

Speaker 2 (21:06):
I don't think we should ever clap for anybody losing
out on income, our people, online influencers. I do think
a lot of influencers need to go to financing classes
or get a financial advisor. I had to do that
myself because in my first two years i'm making money,
I was wilin. I was one hundred percent wild, and
now I really know what to do with my money,
so I can prepare for things like that. So I

(21:28):
do think a lot of these influencers that have extra
income coming in or they're all of a sudden making
forty fifty thousand dollars a month, Yes, they need to
be taught about their money, but it's not your place
to sit up there and laugh, because if your company
shut down, you would be.

Speaker 1 (21:41):
In the same predicament.

Speaker 2 (21:42):
At the end of the day, we are living in
times that are very fucking frightening for all of them
because none of us are Jeff Bezos, baby, and we're
all like, you know what I'm saying, it's very scary.
If the whole internet shut down, a lot of people
would be fucked up. So I just think that we
just need to give people grace. But I also think
I agree.

Speaker 1 (22:01):
With you on that note. Getting on the internet and
crying is nuts.

Speaker 4 (22:05):
I think about anything about anything.

Speaker 3 (22:08):
I like, holding a camera up while you're crying will
forever be insane to me. Yeah, cause to me, you
ain't really that sad, because I don't know when I
be crying, I'd be sliding down the wall. I ain't
got time. I ain't got time to be holding a
camera right in the middle of a breakdown.

Speaker 2 (22:26):
And like everybody was like deleted off their phone then
you couldn't download the back and they was mad about that.
I still can't, right, I don't. I think I don't know.
I'm not sure because I kept it on my phone.
I did so I was coming on the plane, I'm like,
TikTok working again. We were sitting right next to each
other and playing like it's working again. We were like
I knew it.

Speaker 3 (22:42):
But we also also weren't panicking. And then, like I said,
that was something else that somebody had said in the comments.
I think it was like, you would be sad if
YouTube got canceled or whatever. What if you was making
thousands of dollars from TikTok every month. I do, But
I still wasn't panicking from it, and I'm not going
to because at the end of the day, we were
just gonna find something else.

Speaker 2 (23:01):
We had built, what a following.

Speaker 4 (23:03):
Of almost four hundred thousand subscribe I mean followers on TikTok.

Speaker 2 (23:06):
We were just gonna go to another app and build
it again. Like I'm not, We're not afraid of starting over. Yeah,
let me tell you right now, if you two got
shut down, somebody finna pick up poor month. Yeah.

Speaker 5 (23:17):
The world needs us.

Speaker 2 (23:20):
And that's how I feel. You can't take away from
me what you didn't give to me, you know what
I'm saying, Like nobody, no ceo at YouTube, no ceo
at Facebook, TikTok, Like I feel like when you really
believe in yourself and your power. And I always use
her for an example because I love her. Oh I
should have got her new last name, Jackie. I know
she has a new last name, but she got married.

(23:40):
Jackie has moved from app to app, two apps. She
don't give a.

Speaker 3 (23:45):
Damn, cause you shouldn't if you believe in yourself and
you notice you're putting out quality content and you know
you they girl, you're just gonna build the followers anywhere
won the new app. And I can understand being sad
and crying if it's really affixing your financial situation. But
it was people who was really upset in crying that
TikTok was getting canceled just because of the entertainment purposes.

Speaker 2 (24:07):
And they're like, oh.

Speaker 1 (24:09):
I met friends.

Speaker 2 (24:09):
If you have real friends and community, they go make
an Instagram or a Facebook, like you can keep in
contact with people. I get it because I made friends
from the internet. But I just I do. I'm not
being judging, but I do feel like crying over an
app is a little extreme. It's a little extreme for me.

Speaker 3 (24:26):
It's a lot extremes, So yeah, and I am being
jud So that's the thing that eats me like all
the other stuff that's going on rather on the internet
and cry over an app than like really voice your
opinion or like voice the political things that's going on.

Speaker 4 (24:44):
That's crazy to me. And then everybody started.

Speaker 2 (24:46):
Read yeah the other app red note, and I'm like,
why do y'all always try to do that?

Speaker 1 (24:51):
Try to make it?

Speaker 2 (24:52):
I think one thing about these apps is you have
to let an app organically come about. So when they
were doing like the everybody thought everybody was about to
boycott Twitter and stuff, So like I made poor Minds
of Blue Scott say, I'm gonna make this just in case.
But I mean, I really don't care because I'm gonna
still be using Twitter. I'm just doing it just in
case x X. I'm sorry X, but again, who cares.

(25:17):
I just always make another app for us because I'm like, okay,
just in case we have to move over here, because y'all,
I feel like we have a tribe over here and
we poor career rides deep like yeah, and it's just
not that serious to me. Okay, if Twitter shut down,
I'm gonna do it again. And I get it.

Speaker 3 (25:31):
You know, everybody doesn't have that community backing them or are
supporting them, so I can understand.

Speaker 2 (25:36):
That as well.

Speaker 4 (25:37):
But like again, y'all, it's social media. Yeah, it's social media.

Speaker 3 (25:43):
And sometimes it really makes me nervous to think about
how a lot of people would cut up if something
ever really happened to all of these apps, like.

Speaker 2 (25:51):
What y'all gonna do? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (25:53):
Yeah, yeah, And I feel like, if anything, people like
us really should he should have been panicking for real,
because we be making money from the eppis and stuff.
But it's just like, but I like to wait though
and see, Like, once I know what's going on.

Speaker 2 (26:09):
Then I can react.

Speaker 3 (26:11):
Then I can start having the feelings and emotions and
be trying to figure out, Okay, what am I.

Speaker 2 (26:14):
Gonna do next?

Speaker 3 (26:15):
But when shit is up in the air and we
don't know what's about to happen a year, just let
shit play out, because I had a very strong feeling
that it was gonna play out that way, and indeed,
and y'all was asking a plumb fool on line for
no goddamn reason.

Speaker 2 (26:31):
Then when the app gets back up, you're trying to
archive them videos what we saw you crashing out. I
say that it's not bubbling frog in your throat we
seen it all wild times. We live again. Okay, all right,
so let's let us know how y'all feel about the

(26:52):
talking man. I know y'all probably gonna get on our
ass in these comments, but they probably is.

Speaker 3 (26:56):
But oh goddamn will we ain't about to read it
that way.

Speaker 4 (27:02):
I liked he said my neck was sat in my back.
We would work on you not reading the.

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Speaker 4 (27:45):
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Speaker 3 (29:28):
Yes, let's get into these second topics. So for the
second topic, I wanted to talk about being a will
traveled woman, but not probably in the sense that people
are thinking about as far as just being somebody who
has traveled a lot and seen a lot. But I
want to talk about it from the perspective of like
men wanting to date you if you're a will traveled woman.

(29:51):
I saw a post a few weeks ago where this
guy was basically saying that like he likes today younger women,
he doesn't really like today women that are older because
he feels like with a younger woman, she he's gonna
give her a lot of her first so she's gonna
experience a lot of her first with him. She hasn't
really did much, she hasn't really traveled much. He doesn't

(30:14):
really know much about life yet, She's not jaded yet
by dating other men and things of that nature. So
he prefers today women that are younger, because women who
are older, we are jad, we are more travel so
nothing impresses us. We be like, oh, I've seen it already,
or you need to do more. And he feels like

(30:35):
it's nothing that he can give or bring to the
relationship of value for a woman that's around his age
or older.

Speaker 2 (30:43):
And I think he was like in his thirties. So
I have two things to say about that. First thing,
I dated somebody like that. I don't know if y'all
remember when we used to do our character's football bab
I literally had football Bay tell me.

Speaker 1 (30:54):
He was like it is He told me straight up.

Speaker 2 (30:57):
He was like, it's very hard dating you because, like
I've taken you to Miami and you were just I
could tell like you were having fun, but you just
weren't impressed. He was like, I feel like, for me
to do something for you that just makes me be
a guy that sticks around in your life forever, or
somebody that's memorable, I'm gonna have to take you to
gree or to Paris or something like that. And I'm like, yeah,

(31:17):
that is true. I'm not impressed by you taking me
to Miami. I'm not I'm not gonna lie. But I
say all that to say to my second point. That
just goes to show the type of man you are,
because you not that nigga like you thought. Because it
don't matter where we at. We could be in Utah,
Arizona if you that nigga, Oh, we're finna have a
time because you and me, Baby, I have been on

(31:39):
a trip with a guy and it's somewhere that I
have been thirty times, but I talk about the time
that I went with him because we had that much fun.
I have been to Miami a million times, but I
can count the times that I remember I had a
memorable experience. It's not about where you are, it's about
the person that you're with. So any man that is
intimidated by a well traveled woman is not the man

(32:00):
for me. Because Baby, that passport is stamp. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (32:03):
Same, Like, why would you not want to date me
because I've been placed that you haven't been places that
you're not taking me for the first time. The way
I look at it is like you said, Okay, so
what I've been here before? Take me a rob it's
gonna be a different experience because this time I'm with you.

Speaker 2 (32:18):
Right exactly, and that's how I feel you and.

Speaker 4 (32:21):
People be acting like, Okay, so what you've been to Greece.

Speaker 3 (32:24):
Okay, if you've been to Greece, you ain't win every
goddamn wearing grease.

Speaker 2 (32:28):
You ain't half the time.

Speaker 4 (32:29):
It's six days, so we could go back and do
shit that I didn't do the first time.

Speaker 1 (32:35):
I'm just not intimidated now.

Speaker 2 (32:36):
To me, I want a god that actually, like, if
we're on a day and you like tell me that
you don't like to travel, it's a difference between you
not liking the travel yeh, and you haven't traveled. I'd
rather date somebody who hasn't traveled than somebody who doesn't
like to or doesn't want to or doesn't want to,
because I enjoy traveling. So if that's more of a

(32:57):
red flag to me, and it's not a red flag
to everybody, because I think men that don't like to travel,
you can find women who don't like to travel, and
y'all can be together. But I think a man who
is well traveled and cultured, when he meets a woman
that's well traveled, that doesn't intimidate him because he's like, oh,
I've been here before. Have you been here before? Oh?
We should go together because there's things I didn't do

(33:17):
when you are real travelers. No, Like that's why you
said that, like that you didn't do everything. Yeah, I've
been in Atlanta, you two thy seventeen. I still haven't
done everything.

Speaker 1 (33:27):
Here, bitch.

Speaker 3 (33:27):
And I lived in Houston for twenty five years and
I didn't do everything there, literally, like it's no way, right,
it's literally no way because new things are always popping up.

Speaker 2 (33:37):
You can't do everything anyway.

Speaker 4 (33:39):
So to me, there's just like a bullshit ass excuse.

Speaker 2 (33:43):
And if a.

Speaker 4 (33:43):
Nigga is intimidated by me, that's not the one for me,
no way.

Speaker 2 (33:48):
Yeah. But I keep over there men like that who like,
oh I want to date a younger woman because she's
not jaded, she hasn't been you. One is giving a
little grooming, and two it's just giving that you are
bottom of the barrel and you cannot step up to
the plate because and I'm not even saying it's an
age thing, because you can find some young women who

(34:11):
are well traveled. They have expensive tapes, they have things
like that. But you won't even date that younger woman
because she knows of herself and she knows who she is.
A lot of women are blessed with that that they
find that in their twenties. Some women don't find that
to their thirties. Hell, some women don't find that to
their forties, and some of them don't bond it at all.
You're right, But a man who cannot date or be

(34:32):
with the woman who knows herself and knows what she
wants out of life, it gives that you're okay with
the bare minimum and you cannot rise to the occasion
of that.

Speaker 4 (34:40):
Yeah, and you want somebody who's gonna be okay with
that too.

Speaker 2 (34:44):
Yeah, you want somebody to be okay with you taking
them to Buckhead to eat for every single day. I'm
not okay with that. Like I like to be outside,
I like to do things, And I'm not saying every
trip has to be a grease Like I said, Miami
was one of the most romantic vacations I've been on.
I'm so serious and I love a Miami trip. I

(35:05):
went to d C last year. I had a ball
because I did something I never did, like traveling domestically,
traveling anywhere with your partner.

Speaker 1 (35:15):
It's about the experience.

Speaker 2 (35:17):
So a real man or a woman is not gonna
be intimidated by that passport. Then yeah, I agree.

Speaker 4 (35:24):
I just think that's like some bullshit, Like if you
just wanted that younger women just say.

Speaker 1 (35:29):
Just say you can't handle by mama.

Speaker 3 (35:31):
Yeah, but stop with all the excuses, Like I just
feel like it sounds crazy.

Speaker 2 (35:38):
So, speaking of traveling and doing a lot of nice things,
you had a tweet the other day about luxury. Fine,
let me look up. Let me look it up so
I don't miss quote your chap. I don't want to
miss quote your ass because people do that all the time. Okay,
so uh.

Speaker 1 (36:00):
Let me see, let me see.

Speaker 2 (36:00):
Okay, you had a tweet about bare minimum living just
never excites you. You want luxury living, okay, and which
is okay, that's fine. So I wanted to define what
is luxury.

Speaker 3 (36:16):
I think it's I think the definition varies from person
to person. It's whatever you consider it to be luxurious.
You know what I mean, what I consider to be
luxurious isn't necessarily what another person deems luxuries. So I
think that that's a question that each person has to
ask himselves when I say bare minimum. I'm just not
interested in like doing the same things every day, Like

(36:39):
I want to live a life full of adventure spontaneity.
I don't want my life to be mundane where I'm
doing the same thing waking up.

Speaker 1 (36:47):
Spontani and mundane. I'm trying to remember all.

Speaker 3 (36:49):
The way I'm weak, but no, seriously, like I don't
want to do the same thing every day, Which is
another reason why I think even with like career choice,
I never really knew what I wanted to do when
I was younger, but I knew I wanted to do
something that gave me freedom. I didn't want to see
in a cubicle every single day.

Speaker 4 (37:09):
And there's not nothing wrong with that. That just wasn't
for me.

Speaker 3 (37:11):
I tried it, and I feel like I could speak
on it because it's something that I actually tried, and
then I realized this ain't gonna work for me, you
know what I mean. It ain't even that, it's just
like having to be at work, having to be at
work from like, Okay, so the job that I had
when I first graduated from college, I had to be

(37:34):
at work at I think seven am every day. So
I used to have to wake up at five o'clock.
And mind you, I lived in Katie, which and I
worked downtown. So if you yeah, so if you from
Texas or you from Houston, and y'all know how far
of a drive that is, especially in the morning with
morning traffic. So i'm and actually I'm lying. I used

(37:56):
to have to wake up at like four thirty, so
they start to wake up at four.

Speaker 2 (37:59):
My god, yeah, I was just going to slap you know.
That was when I would yah.

Speaker 3 (38:03):
Yeah, So I used to have to wake up at
four point thirty to be the work at seven, and
then when I would get to work, I would get
off I think at like four o'clock and then I
would have to drive home, being traffic for another hour
and a half just to get back home. And doing
that every single day, then I only get like what
thirty forty hours of vacation a year Like that just
wasn't for me. So I always knew I wanted to

(38:26):
do something that gave me and allotted me the freedom
to wake up when I wanted to and not have
to be in work at the same place every day.
So to me, that's luxury, Like the fact that I
get to wake up and do what the fuck I
want every day.

Speaker 4 (38:40):
That's luxury to me, I mean.

Speaker 3 (38:42):
And then also when it comes to dating, I want
to be with somebody who is thoughtful, who is caring,
who's naturally generous, who just gonna do stuff because that's
what they want to do. I don't have to ask
you to do Like I feel like some women are
okay with dating me and where they don't mind asking
them to do it or dropping hints for the men

(39:03):
to do stuff.

Speaker 2 (39:04):
I don't really want to be the girl.

Speaker 3 (39:06):
I want to be with somebody who just giddy, you
know what I mean. Like that's luxury to me, Like
dating somebody that I don't gotta ask, he just gonna
do it, he gonna pull up, he gonna do it,
he gonna make the effort.

Speaker 2 (39:20):
I get. Of course, if we.

Speaker 3 (39:21):
Being technical, like I feel like I like nice things
and ain't nothing wrong with that.

Speaker 2 (39:26):
Yeah, I'm tired of y'all making people feel bad because
they like a chanel a men. Yeah you know what
I'm saying. I mean, nothing is wrong with it.

Speaker 3 (39:36):
If you I think you should be able to maintain
it though, if it's something you requiring.

Speaker 2 (39:41):
Yeah, yeah, no I do I do agree with that,
but what I'm saying is, either way, just let people.
I made a TikTok post about this last night. I
hate when people call other people weird or try to
cancel them. Yeah, they have different views of life than you.
So I used to be the girl that like, oh,
I want Louis bag. I wanted this bag. I wanted

(40:01):
that bad because that's how I felt like a man
showed me that he cared about me. Now, as I
grew up and I started making money, like I've realized, like,
the more money you make to me, the more money
I make, I realized, like somebody having money and just
spending on you that's not enough, Like that doesn't mean
somebody cares about you necessarily. And then I realized what

(40:23):
I really was looking for in relationships. So I say
all that to say it though, but just because the
next person feels like, Okay, this man bought me x
y Z.

Speaker 1 (40:30):
That means he cares for me. That's her belief.

Speaker 2 (40:33):
She's not weird for believing that. That's just what she prefers.
That's her love language.

Speaker 3 (40:37):
I mean, she not weird for believing that. Maybe a
little naive though, but completely.

Speaker 2 (40:42):
I mean that a man could be a man that
doesn't have a lot, and he's like doing what he
can to get her a Chanelle or to get her
a Louis bag. You know what I'm saying. So he
dumb and she naive. You never know that situation because
maybe he's saved up, or maybe if you save up
to buy your girl of Chanelle, you don't need to

(41:02):
be buying me.

Speaker 3 (41:03):
Boll Okay, I'll say it like this, not I'm just
being real, like I hear what you're saying. I think
they both need to reevaluate the relationship if that's the case,
because as the men, why are you saving up to
buy her these? And as the woman, if you know
your man don't have money like that, why are you
asking I'm not saying.

Speaker 2 (41:22):
That it's something like regular, but like if it's like
a little birthday gift or something he saved it for
a one time gift, that's what I mean, not something
that he's doing all the time. All I'm saying is,
no matter what it is, if that's how she likes
to be loved and that's how this man is wanting
to show that he loves her. Some people are like that. Now,
if it's a rich man who spends money like that

(41:43):
all the time on women.

Speaker 1 (41:45):
That's not the man I'm talking about.

Speaker 2 (41:46):
Because a lot of times young girls will get that confused,
like oh he cares about me, not knowing that he
does that for every woman, you know. That's what I'm saying.
Every situation varies for me as a thirty five year
old woman. Now I've realized to me, when a man
shows up for me and it can't no amount of
money by that. If a man is there and he's

(42:07):
showing like how proud he is of me, and he's
giving me things like I'm a roses girl down like
one thing about my man. He gonna pop up with
some roses at my house, like he is gonna pop
whether he picking him up at public's, are he calling
and getting me the whole? He gonna show up with
some flowers because he knows that's how I like to
be loved. So I think that's a thing in love fish.

(42:28):
We're talking about luxury now. Luxury and love to me
is a man showing up in your love language. Now
how he thinks that you need to be loved. He's
loving you how you want to be loved. No I
one hundred.

Speaker 3 (42:39):
Percent agree with that because I feel like, even with me,
like my love language, I don't want to date no
man who because I feel like I'm only gonna date
a guy who is more successful, right right, So if
you already more successful than me, and you done figure
it out and you don't connect it the diets and
you know what I'm trying to do, why would you
not want to pour into me and help me as

(43:00):
far as giving me the information yep or whatever it is,
the resources whatever to help me get my business or
my ideas to where I want to give you to
So like that's a turnaro for me.

Speaker 2 (43:10):
I like me and they help you with that type
of studs And that's luxury because a lot of people
don't have that knowledge. Yeah, So I think it's a
lot of simple things that are luxury. Like it's a
luxury that you have access to a man like that
that you can tap into his brain like that, Like
that's a luxury, you know what I'm saying, a lot
of people don't have access to people like that. And

(43:31):
I know this is kind of getting off topic, but
I was having a conversation with Killer today and she
was showing me so she does like, well, she was
just basically telling me that somebody that she knows got
a four hundred thousand dollars paycheck for two weeks and
doing what he's He's selling software. Okay, so he made

(43:52):
four hundred thousand dollars in two weeks. And she was like,
you know, I'm sending it to people in my life,
and she was like all the women I sent it to,
they were very much so like like how.

Speaker 1 (44:00):
Can I get that or I can do that.

Speaker 2 (44:03):
My first reaction was like, oh, yeah, that's feasible, because
I was like my goal in life, like I know,
when I get to the point to where I'm like, okay,
I'm doing something, I'm gonna be making a million dollars
a month, I already set that, like that's my next
goal for myself because I know it's realistic because I'm
around people who make a million dollars a month, you know.
But she was like when I sent it to certain
other people, they were like, I mean, I mean we're

(44:25):
used to seeing that we're living in a country where
it's like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos and stuff, and
she's like, this man is not Jeff Bezos. And Elon Musk,
But it's possible. But I say all that to say,
when you are in close range and in the vicinity
of people who are millionaires, you realize, okay, I can
get there too.

Speaker 1 (44:44):
But when you're not, you don't see that.

Speaker 2 (44:47):
The average person makes fifty thousand dollars a year, so
they don't have that luxury of even having the audacity
to dream about that stuff. So, getting back to the
luxury topic, that's what I mean. When you're in post
proximity to people to where they are really trying to
put you in a position to win, they are really
making moves to help you get in a position to win.

(45:08):
That's a luxury in itself, cause some people don't even
have the luxury of having the audacity to even think
about being a millionaire.

Speaker 4 (45:15):
Creed shout out to Mimi.

Speaker 1 (45:17):
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (45:18):
So that's I mean. But that's a real point though,
that's a real point. I mean, even having friends like
me and you both not millionaires, but we always trying
to this is a money play.

Speaker 1 (45:28):
Oh we need to do this.

Speaker 2 (45:29):
Even having people that think alike as you as a luxury.

Speaker 1 (45:33):
I literally, me and Killa was on the phone.

Speaker 2 (45:35):
Yesterday talking about stocks and shit, like cause that's what
me and my friends talk about, Like how are we
doing these money plays? I know it sounds so like
lame and boring whatever, but I'm telling you, when you
are surrounded by people who have the same goals as
you and they're not trying to be like, do you
really think that's gonna happen? Like anytime Drea Killer, my

(45:56):
sister Lauren, any of my friends tell me something that
they want to do, I'm always like, well, how we
gonna get there, how we're gonna make it happy. You
gotta realize there's people out here who tell people their dreams.
They be like, girl, be for real, be the fuck
for real.

Speaker 3 (46:11):
Yeah, but see, I just think people gotta cut them
type of people off. And I know that people that
watch this show, they've been watching for a long time,
they probably be like dream always. I'm just cut the
people off for real, though, cut their ass off, because
you don't need that type of energy around you. I
feel like people be definitely projecting and they're just always
trying to tell other people what they can do because

(46:32):
they don't see them being able to attain that for
themselves and that's fine that you don't see that being
something that you can attain, But don't tell me what
I can't do. Now, it's a difference between telling somebody
what they can't do and being realistic with.

Speaker 2 (46:47):
Your friends or like letting them know.

Speaker 3 (46:49):
I mean, that's cute that you're saying you want to
do that, but like, what do you do every day?

Speaker 2 (46:54):
How you gonna get there?

Speaker 3 (46:55):
Cause I think it's a lot of people who got
millionaire dreams and they be like, Oh, I'm gonna make
be making this amount of money every month, or I'm
gonna be making these amount of money in the next
few years, but they do nothing now that to get
to the goal. They just be feeling like, Oh, I'm
just gonna stay prayed up and I know my blessing's
gonna come.

Speaker 4 (47:14):
No, you do gotta work. You need to pray, and
you need to put the work in.

Speaker 3 (47:18):
And I think a lot of people don't be putting
the work in, and people around them don't be honest
with them about that either, cause it's like you could
get there. But I think people really don't understand how
much work it takes to even make six figures on
your own. As an entrepreneur, let alone millions of dollars.
It takes a lot of work.

Speaker 2 (47:39):
And one thing about me too, I'm more leaning on
that end. But I also just like, not everybody has
the same opportunities and this and that. But and that's fine.

Speaker 3 (47:51):
But if you say that's what you want, like if
you like I want to be a millionaire, but you're
not putting the work in make it make sense.

Speaker 2 (47:59):
I agree with you because I hate people who make excuses.

Speaker 1 (48:03):
Though that's one thing I don't. I just this is
all on me.

Speaker 2 (48:07):
I'm just no, I get that because shit do be hard.
And I'm not talking about people who are like extremely
less fortunate that have I'm not taught. I'm talking about
people who like do well for themselves and they want
more and they're just like, well, I'm tired when I
get off.

Speaker 1 (48:20):
Girl, you gotta do more. You just have to if
you are.

Speaker 2 (48:24):
A lot of the opportunity and like it, like people
like us in this space, I cannot whine if I'm
like Drea, I haven't made a million dollars yet. The
only reason I have it because it's my fault. And
that's the honest of a got true. I don't have
nobody to blame. So like when people that are like
making good money and they're in good position and they're
complaining about where they are, girl, you gotta work harder.

(48:44):
It's no like, I don't like when people do that,
Like it's not fair. I'm trying. Everything is on me. Well,
it was a point where everything was on me and
I made it happen. We all gotta scratch all way
out and figure it out, y'all.

Speaker 3 (48:59):
It ain't eat And I think people expect stuff to
be easy, and that's why most people have a problem
with consistency. Yeah, because as soon as shit get rough
and it ain't what you thought it was gonna be,
or it's harder than you thought, now you like, well,
I don't know, do I really want to do this?
Or you half asked you you're not giving you show all.
So so well, getting back, we.

Speaker 4 (49:20):
Were talking about looks, we're talking about luxury.

Speaker 2 (49:23):
So yeah, so what is luxury to you?

Speaker 4 (49:25):
That's what is a luxurious life When you are I
just said, I feel like whatever I want to do,
like me being able to do whatever I want, buy
whatever I want.

Speaker 3 (49:34):
And I feel like I've said these before on poor minds,
just me being able to do whatever the hell I want,
that's luxurious to me. Like if I wake up today
and I'm like, you know what, I want to go
to the car dealership in barb rosroys cool and I
just got it, and I could just pay five hundred
thousand dollars cash for it if that's what I want
to do, And then I'm not bleink twice because obviously

(49:56):
we all know paying cash for a car and driving
it off the light is dumb is hell. But I
think that when people I think that when you get
that level of money, like it really don't matter, you
know what I mean. So I feel like when I
can do what I want, when I can wake up
every day and do exactly what I want, because I
definitely can do what.

Speaker 2 (50:15):
I want to an extent. Yeah, we got a little
we got some livings.

Speaker 3 (50:19):
Now, yes, I can do what I want to an extent.
But when I can literally wake up every day in
the world is mine, the world is my oyster, and
I could just do whatever I want, That's when I
feel like I'm gonna be living in luxuries, Like.

Speaker 2 (50:32):
Okay, that's fair. I like that.

Speaker 1 (50:34):
I think I'm the same way.

Speaker 2 (50:35):
I'm like Luxury to me is just being free, debt free,
fuck Nigga free, bad friend free, bad energy free, Like
I feel like the way I have curated my life
in these past few months, Like I've been doing a lot,
a lot of self work of picking my battles and

(51:00):
putting my energy in myself and waking up and choosing
to have a good day. Like you know, I'd be
going through my little bouts, and my last little depress
about I went through was so bad. I was like,
I'm not doing this to myself. No, I'm not doing
it no more. I'm not doing it no more. So
luxury to me is just having that mind capacity to

(51:21):
even do that, to even make that decision.

Speaker 1 (51:23):
You know what I'm saying, So I agree with you.

Speaker 2 (51:25):
Like, luxury to me is just living a life that
you are proud of. Like when once you reach a
point in your life where your wake up and you
don't want to be nobody else and you're like, I'm
happy to be me and my skin. Like there was
moments in time I used to about like, man, she's
so lucky. I wonder how it feels to be her.
You know, when we were little, we'd be like, oh,

(51:46):
I want to be like beyond s And that's nothing
wrong with that cause you're little, But when you grow up,
it's like you be like, man, look how she living.
She's so lucky. I wish oh, I wish I had
the thing. I wish I had the nigga she had.
I wish I had the job that she had. You know,
like I, I used to be that and looking at
other people and be wanting what they had so bad.
But like every single day now since I've made this change,

(52:07):
like I'm living in luxury. Right now, I wake up
everyone and like, bruh, this shit lids Like I.

Speaker 1 (52:15):
Would not want to be anybody else.

Speaker 2 (52:16):
My personality, everything about me is unique and I love that.
So I feel like luxury is literally what you make it.
So when somebody says I want I have this type
of lifestyle and I want this and that, why are
you offended by that? Why are you That's luxury to them,
And that's the life that this person chooses for themselves
what another person wants, and they look at as luxury

(52:38):
should not affect the way you feel about yourself. And
if it does affect the way you feel about yourself,
you're not living in luxury yet booth.

Speaker 3 (52:45):
Yeah, I mean, and also if you say that that's
what you want, rise to the occasion, set the standard
for yourself. And when you set that standard for yourself,
also stop accepting bare minimum from people around you.

Speaker 4 (52:57):
Make these nigas rise to the occasion. Make your friends
rise to the occasion.

Speaker 3 (53:00):
Stop letting people treat y'all any kind of way and
handle y'all any kind of way too, because that ain't luxuries.

Speaker 1 (53:07):
What's the funny said?

Speaker 2 (53:09):
Well, load of it will not kind of black, So
what's luxury to Utah?

Speaker 4 (53:18):
I agree with exactly what you said, like just being
comfortable with who you are, being free. I was just
thinking about I did a vision board even this past weekend,
and just like accepting that gratitude of where you are.
I used to want to be famous. I love, love,
love love being low key. I know a lot of
people know me, but like, come on, I like being

(53:39):
more low key though, Like, yeah, I enjoy my freedom.
I'm doing exactly what I love to do. I have
the ability to curate, host events, inspire, lead, I have
a team, you know, Like just being comfortable in that space,
but knowing that there's still room to grow and elevate.
I think that's just being comfortable in your skin.

Speaker 2 (53:57):
Man.

Speaker 3 (53:57):
I love that beautiful And you said and you made
a really good point too.

Speaker 2 (54:01):
Gratitude.

Speaker 3 (54:02):
Gratitude is so important because the thing is, if you
don't have gratitude for where you are currently, how you
expect God to keep blessening.

Speaker 1 (54:10):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (54:11):
Oh, and people do not be grateful. It's crazy because
when we went on our little two week trip, it
was one of the mornings I woke up.

Speaker 1 (54:18):
I'm not even gonna lie to you.

Speaker 2 (54:19):
I sat in the bed and I prayed and I cried,
and I didn't ask God for nothing. I was just
so thankful because I'm like, is this really my life? Bro? Like,
like this is crazy?

Speaker 4 (54:31):
Hell, I feel like I feel like that every day.

Speaker 2 (54:33):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (54:34):
And I talk to God every day and I just
be like, thank you, thank you God, love these opportunities,
thank you for help little things too, because I don't
people forget to be grateful for little things like the
fact that you was able to get up at the
bed is a blessing. The fact that you open your
eyes is a blessing. The fact that you have a
roof over your head is a blessing. You know what,
I mean you have to be grateful for the small

(54:56):
things as well, not just you know the opportunity right.
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so now it's time to get into the be bow
a bow.

Speaker 1 (57:21):
Do you want to introduce it?

Speaker 2 (57:23):
Oh? Sure?

Speaker 3 (57:25):
What are three sex myths that you grew up believing
as a child.

Speaker 2 (57:30):
Okay, I want to start this off a little. I
think that it's crazy because I think it's it's it's
still a thing that people believe to this day, because
this is more so like opinion. Maybe not myth, but
this is like an opinion type thing. I think it's
crazy that people swear up and down like sexist taboo

(57:52):
and it should not be talked about. Because we had
a club that just went viral with us with Janie
and we were talking about you know, like giving a
head or whatever, and everybody was laughing in the comments
in XYZ. But it was one lady who made a
comment like this is so embarrassing to women around the
world or something she said, and I went to her
pa whole log off. I went to her page and

(58:12):
she was like a motivational speaker. I don't know who
she was motivating because she didn't have that many people
following up. Anyways, I say all that to say, because
I think it's so crazy that adults, to keep the
world spinning, we must pro create. Sex is like eating food.
It's a part of life. It's human nature. Huay, it's

(58:37):
a human nature. You. I say all that, why is
sex so taboo to talk about?

Speaker 5 (58:43):
Like?

Speaker 2 (58:44):
Why is it so like oh, you know, like I'm
not saying that everybody wants to be open and talking
about it. But when people are open and talking about it,
why do people get so shamed for that? So I
think we need to stop doing it.

Speaker 4 (58:55):
And so that's something that you believed in as a.

Speaker 2 (58:57):
Key, I guess because growing up it was like, oh,
you know, parents that can't kiss in front of the kids,
or you can't you oh everything, don't talk to your
child about sex and this and that. My mom was
very open.

Speaker 4 (59:10):
I don't know, I'm like my parents used to be geasy.

Speaker 2 (59:12):
Yeah, but I mean some people are like that. But
some people are very conservative, extremely conservative, Like you have
a lot of people like that. Yeah, And I just
don't believe in that. I think you should talk to
your kids about real life. I saw a lady who
actually like bought a house and on her garage there's
like a whole top floor and she built her daughter

(59:32):
an apartment. But I mean that's a little off topic,
but she was just like, I'm going to show my
child how to take care of a household.

Speaker 1 (59:39):
Now she still goes in there and cleans up because the.

Speaker 2 (59:42):
House is it's connected to the house, but she has
a whole setup like as an apartment. And I think
that's important because in school we need to start learning
things that are gonna teach us about life. We need
to when we have sex education, we need to be
learning about more than how to put a condom on
a banana. There real conversations about how you know, men

(01:00:03):
view sex a little different than women view sex. These
are conversations we need to have in sex ed. And
it's okay to talk about sex. It's okay to about
talk about sucking dick. If I'm in a relationship, I'm
sucking my man dick. The fun Why are we acting like,
oh my god, girl?

Speaker 3 (01:00:18):
You know, you know ain't some coaching before Now everybody
ain't a coach, but they need to always wish you
to you okay and me and me and me, you said, girl,
I know because we l G B t Q I
a friendly bet.

Speaker 2 (01:00:34):
We are the same time. God' well, I'm saying, if
we're somebody's talking about eating coaching, don't be trying to
make them feel bad about it. Hell yeah, that's let's
stop making sex awkward and taboo conversations.

Speaker 4 (01:00:53):
That's all okay.

Speaker 3 (01:00:55):
So yes, So for me, I would say, I thought
you could get pregnant at any time when I was
a kid. Yeah, I thought you could get pregnant at
any time of the months. Obviously, as I got older,
I found out you can only get pregnant when you're ovulating.

Speaker 2 (01:01:17):
Yeah, you can only.

Speaker 3 (01:01:18):
Get pregnant when you're ovulating, y'all, which is like one
week out of the money.

Speaker 2 (01:01:23):
So that is a myth.

Speaker 4 (01:01:24):
You cannot get pregnant all throughout the money.

Speaker 2 (01:01:27):
It's hard. But I used to think that it's loky
kind of hard to get pregnant loki easy, like, especially
as you trying if it's only one week off the month,
and if you fucking the life, like you know what
I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:01:41):
But I feel like if you're fucking a lot in
that week, then all is a pregnant girl on my timeline,
they definitely get pregnant. I don't think these girls got
no problem getting pregnant.

Speaker 1 (01:02:00):
Okay, I'm trying to think.

Speaker 2 (01:02:03):
I don't know. I don't think I hadn't. I don't.
I can't think of anymore.

Speaker 3 (01:02:07):
You don't have two more mets that you thought was
like that you found out weren't real once she having AIX.

Speaker 2 (01:02:13):
Now to kind of add on to that, when I
was really little, I really remember this. I think I
may have said this on the show. When I was little.
I remember the guy my mom was with at the
time his brother had gotten married. I specifically remember sitting
in the kitchen with my sister. I was probably maybe
like five or six, and I was like, oh my gosh,

(01:02:34):
I hope they wished for a baby. So I used
to think that you had to wish for a baby,
Like I didn't know nothing about six, So I used
to think, like when couples got married, they used to
just oh, I wish I had a baby, because I
don't know how babies came. Yeah, like a s I
was like, Oh, I hope they wished for a baby,
So that was something I definitely I just thought they
wished for babies. I for sure did that makes sense.

Speaker 3 (01:02:57):
Yeah, I feel like I definitely thought you you get
pregnant from kissy.

Speaker 2 (01:03:01):
Oh that's a good one.

Speaker 3 (01:03:03):
Yeah I did. I used to think that too in
elementary school because I'm not trying to keep pregnant, Like
I definitely used to think that, and then I'm trying
to think, what's another one.

Speaker 2 (01:03:19):
Okay, I have one, I have one. I used to
think like, I don't. I won't say it's a myth.
I just think it's something stupid and silly. But I
used to think, like if you had like a hickey,
like you were a whore. Like girls that had hickey's,
Oh my god, you were a nasty slut. You let

(01:03:41):
somebody kiss your neck? What a whole It was like
wearing the scarlet letter A. Well.

Speaker 4 (01:03:46):
Living in Houston, it was always a lot of people he.

Speaker 2 (01:03:49):
Yes, Like if you had a hickey in Orange, Texas, really,
if you had a hickey, it was like, oh my god.

Speaker 3 (01:03:58):
They I went to school with all the Latinos and
they used to they used to stay with a hickey.

Speaker 4 (01:04:05):
They used to they with ay. I used to be like, y'all,
miss they used to be getting.

Speaker 2 (01:04:12):
Down like a Hoover vacuum.

Speaker 3 (01:04:14):
Yes, And they didn't have no shame neither. Like when
I used to have Hickey's. I used to like try
to go up with a little makeup a scarf so.

Speaker 2 (01:04:23):
You know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (01:04:25):
It would be pretty obvious though, because while you wearing
a scarf at eighty degree with but I would try
to cover it up with something and they just be
in class, mes me.

Speaker 2 (01:04:35):
Watch what what? What? What?

Speaker 4 (01:04:44):
They laughing?

Speaker 3 (01:04:44):
Because okay, so it was funny because when I was
in school, when I was in school, when I was
in high school, it would only be the Latino because
no classmates. They never used to care what to teacher
name because they just used to say mes me, I swear.

Speaker 4 (01:05:09):
They did.

Speaker 2 (01:05:10):
They never it didn't matter.

Speaker 4 (01:05:11):
From what class to what class.

Speaker 6 (01:05:13):
We went to.

Speaker 2 (01:05:13):
It was this one boy.

Speaker 3 (01:05:14):
I was in like three periods with him, and every
teacher missed mess.

Speaker 2 (01:05:18):
He never would say their last name. Oh so just
why would you do that?

Speaker 3 (01:05:25):
Because I was thinking about him specifically because I took
three periods with him and he stayed with heiky, Oh
my god, and your girlfriend will be waiting outside the
classmen with his books I mean boos.

Speaker 2 (01:05:37):
For them to walk to the nickname you go to?
He did, he did, Oh you are trash? Okay, we
go Okay, you got anymore.

Speaker 1 (01:05:50):
I think that was it for me.

Speaker 2 (01:05:51):
That was it for me. Let me try to think. No,
I don't think I have anymore. So if y'all have
any tex marriage, tey, you got any you have one side?

Speaker 4 (01:05:57):
The only one I can think of is that the
bigger the better. Now, definitely want a good size, But
I used to think it needed to be twelve inches
two feet long.

Speaker 2 (01:06:06):
Now I don't want all that.

Speaker 4 (01:06:07):
Oh I got like a little boyfriend's size, A nice
seven eight you know, okay, of nice little size. But
I think I needed a big horse.

Speaker 2 (01:06:16):
When I was younger. I mean, a child is high
school too, because you're still a child. A sixteen year
old as a child, yeaheah. So you know we're just
talking about all ages zero to seventeen. Yes, I prepare myself.
I used to be on that pass like, oh okay,
when girl, you don't even remember, you don't even remember

(01:06:39):
when you had a past? I like that when that's crazy.
What's up, y'alls? Your girl XP and it's your girls
rereading a call. And one thing about us. We love
a good hygiene routine. So we are going to tell
y'all all about good wipes.

Speaker 4 (01:06:59):
Absolutely y'all know, no, toilet paper is not enough.

Speaker 3 (01:07:02):
After you do what you need to do, you also
need to wipe with a wipe as well.

Speaker 2 (01:07:06):
And that's why I love these. They are hyper allergenic.

Speaker 3 (01:07:09):
They also are made with plant based fibers, and they
come in so many different scens like Shake, Hoco, Lavender, Theater,
botanical blizz.

Speaker 2 (01:07:17):
They smell amazing. Yeah, so wap yourself good and clean.
It's available at Target, Kroger, wherever you do your grocery shopping,
or if you're an online girly, they're available at Amazon. Period.
If you want to upgrade your restroom ritual, you can
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(01:07:39):
and look for the bright, Aqua, Rose, and Emerald packages.
They're also available on Amazon if you're more of an
online shopper. All right, item of the week.

Speaker 3 (01:08:11):
I guess my item of the week is mused because
I don't have an item of the week for this week,
So yeah, it's gonna be mus beauty.

Speaker 2 (01:08:16):
I don't know. We have a new lip.

Speaker 3 (01:08:18):
Plumper that I have been using every single day, Like, yes,
it's that good.

Speaker 4 (01:08:22):
No, I'm not being biased. It's so bomb.

Speaker 3 (01:08:25):
I have it on right now, the lip plumper and
then also the jelly blushes. I actually have those on two.
I have on Pain I Love, Thank You. I have
on Peach Ballini right now. But all of the products
are amazing, So make sure you go to mus Beauty
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your Matt Liquid lipsticks, your blushes, and we are about

(01:08:49):
to have a Valentine's Stay seal, so stay tuned.

Speaker 2 (01:08:53):
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(01:09:13):
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(01:09:35):
up with some good bundles. All right, so now it's
time to get into the bout.

Speaker 4 (01:09:41):
Hey bow bow bow.

Speaker 2 (01:09:48):
All right. Bop of the week, now, y'all know my
bop of the week, I'm a little tipsy, now, y'all.
My bop of the week is usually like an ndie
art is something that's.

Speaker 1 (01:09:59):
Like, you know, a little low key, but I have.

Speaker 2 (01:10:01):
I am making a mainstream artist my bop of the
week this week.

Speaker 1 (01:10:05):
Because I am.

Speaker 2 (01:10:06):
So disgusted not at him, but at y'all for reacting
to a hit. It's about to be summertime. It's time
to shape that ass. My bop of the week it's
Bruno Mars featuring Sexy, Red, Fat, Juicy and Wag. Because
people have been up in arms Bruno.

Speaker 1 (01:10:24):
You so nasty.

Speaker 2 (01:10:25):
Bruno been nasty, y'all know, short niggas is freaks. Yeah,
Why are y'all surprised Bruno been talking that shit on
these train They really have.

Speaker 4 (01:10:34):
I don't understand why people surprise and I.

Speaker 2 (01:10:36):
Just feel like y'all not no real fans of music.
Because seventies and eighties them niggas was nasty. In the
nineties two, they've been nasty. What what he said, slop
on my knob like corn on a car. He did, like,
come on, well, since when are y'all like the moral
police owned? Oh my god, I can't believe he said,

(01:10:56):
pussy bro That's why I know, y'all shit dry.

Speaker 1 (01:11:00):
You ain't got that fat juice.

Speaker 2 (01:11:01):
Excuse that the drive girls is mad. Somebody said it's
giving parched skim and dry skim skim because it's not
fat now, somebody they said that to me because I
was saying, like, if you don't like the song, like
you lame. He was like, yeah, it's giving parched skim

(01:11:23):
and dry. I am weak, but yeah, shut out. I
love it.

Speaker 4 (01:11:26):
I like it too. I think it's a good song.

Speaker 2 (01:11:28):
It's a cute song for the club. Y'all gotta think
about it. This is a song that's gonna be played
in the club. It's a song that can be played
girls night, y'all getting dressed, y'all getting ready to go
have fun. It's a fun song. You're not supposed to
like just listen to it on the way to church,
Like the fuck. Y'all have to realize certain songs are
for certain settings. Okay, Bruno's club song is for the club,

(01:11:50):
it's for getting ready, it's for pregames, and it's a
good song.

Speaker 1 (01:11:54):
Bruno, don't let them think you doing wrong. Shout out
to sixty.

Speaker 4 (01:11:59):
Shout out to sixty red period.

Speaker 1 (01:12:02):
So what's your bob?

Speaker 4 (01:12:03):
Mine is thirty for thirty by Sis. Okay like this,
but I love Ciss. I'm a huge Sizzle fan.

Speaker 2 (01:12:11):
Okay, keep going because I got something to say why,
I wasn't gonna say anything else. I just really long recently,
so yesterday.

Speaker 4 (01:12:17):
You know me, I'll don't be getting no end depth.

Speaker 2 (01:12:21):
I saw the KICKI Palmer movie with Sissy yesterday. I'm
gonna review that on love LEXP Monday, so make sure
y'all tune in so you know what I liked about
the movie, because obviously Sisa is a baddie, not that Sissy.
You and Sissa look like y'all, don't. I just say
all that to say, like I was like I could
see Drea in an acting role like this, really yes,

(01:12:41):
because I feel like I didn't have any like expectations
of Sissa and her acting because I've never seen her
act before. Of course, he key killed it per usual.
I'm gonna give a more in depth view, but I
say it all that to say, I was like, I
could see you doing like a little cutesy fun role
like that.

Speaker 3 (01:12:55):
Well I always say that. I feel like that's the
only words I would do. Yeah, Like, it has to
be something where I don't have to step out too
far outside of myself I feel like to play the
role because I mean, like, I don't know, I just
feel like I'm not passionate enough about acting to do something. Yeah, Like, no,
I'm definitely not a real thesbying so so said though,

(01:13:22):
So with that being said, I know, damn. But yeah,
so I just feel like it was definitely need to
be a role that I feel like it's kind of
like close to me where I can still keep my
same acting and like and everything.

Speaker 2 (01:13:36):
I felt like it was given like Sizza but of
course she's acting, but it wasn't like too far off
of like who she who she is?

Speaker 3 (01:13:45):
It was cute, It was real cute. But yeah, you
have to go watch that movie. I haven't watched it yet.

Speaker 1 (01:13:48):
Y'all tune in.

Speaker 2 (01:13:49):
And I went by myself because I like had to
go like really early in the day because I was
trying to make I had went to the gym and
then I had bought tickets, so I had to rush.
So I went by myself, and like everybody in theater,
like they went with I was like, oh, by myself.
But it was super cute. So y'all go see it.
Make sure y'all see it before Monday when lovelex Pa
drops and it's time to get into our favorite segments

(01:14:13):
of the week.

Speaker 3 (01:14:13):
Yes, y'all, it's time to get into our favorite segment
of the week. So you know, if you have any
questions or testimonials, you can always send them to ask
core Minds at gmail dot com. This's a sk p
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Speaker 4 (01:14:30):
And don't be seeing no paragraphs. It's the beginning of
the year.

Speaker 3 (01:14:33):
I feel like I need to do a PSA.

Speaker 2 (01:14:37):
Yeah, I think I need to shout out some verbs.

Speaker 3 (01:14:40):
Shout out to verbs I need to do. They're like
who they probably like, both of them people they probably like.
But p s A, y'all please, this is a whole
essay one paragraph and we love helping y'all with y'all questions.
You know, we love answering y'all questions. Give me y'all advice.

(01:15:03):
But I feel like, you know you could have still
put all of these.

Speaker 2 (01:15:08):
In one period.

Speaker 4 (01:15:09):
Yeah, Am and sister, So let's read it.

Speaker 3 (01:15:13):
I've been dealing with my bed slash husband for fourteen years.
When we met, I was fourteen and I'm now twenty seven.
We have two kids together and have been married for
seven years now. This is where it gets Missy. My
baby daddy has been choosing another woman over me for
the past seven years, even though we are married. Okay,

(01:15:33):
I live back home with our kids and take care
of them by myself while he lives with these other
women in Florida. He's been there for about a year now.
It's been a lot of back and forth. Mind you,
we're not together anymore, but he expects me to sit
around and wait for him to figure out what he
and her are going to do with their relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:15:52):
I'm just not we you.

Speaker 3 (01:15:53):
I've told him multiple times that I'm no longer waiting
on him because he constantly puts her before us. Me
and the He recently came into town went through my
phone and found out I've been dealing with someone else.
He flipped out, got mad at me, and we got
into a fight. He's never put his hands on me before,
but he did that day. He felt like I should

(01:16:14):
have told him about the other person, but I feel
like I didn't owe him that because he lives with
another woman in a different state. Why should I have
to tell him I had sex with someone else. Now
he says he can't trust he can't trust me and
wants a divorce. But mentally I had already checked out,
so it didn't hurt when he said that.

Speaker 2 (01:16:32):
Me and him are very close. We grew up together.

Speaker 3 (01:16:34):
He's like my best friend, so he expected me to
be open and honest with him because that's how he
is with me, even though I don't agree with his actions.

Speaker 4 (01:16:41):
So tell me, am I wrong in any situation?

Speaker 2 (01:16:45):
First of all, who gives a fuck if he trusts you?
Y'all be giving these men too much. He moved to
another state, he lives with another girl. That divorce should
have been.

Speaker 1 (01:16:55):
Final a year ago.

Speaker 2 (01:16:57):
I don't even know why you're still communicating with him
out side of y'all kids.

Speaker 1 (01:17:01):
At this point, you.

Speaker 2 (01:17:02):
Don't owe him nothing. Why is he even in the
vicinity to reach your phone? You should be Let me
tell you something. I always I never tell my friends
to leave they men always let them go back until
they get disgusted. How you're not disgusted yet.

Speaker 1 (01:17:15):
I have no idea that that man.

Speaker 2 (01:17:17):
You should press up what's it called a restraining order?
Because he put his hands on you. It's only gonna
go downhill from there. It ain't gonna get better. Yeah,
he's showing you who he is. He don't want you,
but he don't want nobody else to have you, and
we know how them end up.

Speaker 1 (01:17:34):
Them situations end up.

Speaker 4 (01:17:36):
Okay, Yeah, I agree with that. Cease.

Speaker 2 (01:17:38):
You gotta let that go.

Speaker 3 (01:17:40):
I feel like any communication just solely needs to be
about y'all children at this point, because he's made his decision. Like,
it's not no trying to figure out what him and
the girl gonna do. I feel like when he chose
to be with her over you, he had made the decision.
Even if him and her breakup, I wouldn't even want
him no more because you didn't. I was never your
first choice. So I think that you just need to

(01:18:02):
wash your hands of that situation.

Speaker 4 (01:18:03):
Be safe.

Speaker 3 (01:18:04):
Because if you put your hands his hands on you once,
he'll do it again. So just be safe, girl, But
don't talk to him unless it's about y'all. Child, I
wouldn't even be considering the possibility of a relationship with him.
It don't matter that y'all grew up together, that y'all
know each other. Sometimes them be the worst people, then
be the ones that burn you the worst, the ones

(01:18:25):
you been knowing the longeast, So that does not matter.
You got to let their history go and find you
a bitter and well first hell, but then also find
you a bitter, healthier situation for you and your kids.

Speaker 2 (01:18:39):
And I will say this, it's different. I don't. I
don't believe it's spending the block no more I used to,
But I'll say this, it's a difference between you and
a person breaking up for whatever reason and y'all going
out in life and maybe finding each other together again. Ladies,
if a man leaves you and he immediately starts talking

(01:18:59):
to some or he leaves you for another person, he
is choosing somebody over you and you're literally like, hey,
I know you got this going on, but can we
work it out? And he's still like no, Yeah, he's
choosing somebody over you. Absolutely, you should never want that
man back again, because if it's not her, it's gonna
be somebody else he chooses over you again.

Speaker 1 (01:19:20):
He don't want you.

Speaker 2 (01:19:21):
And that has nothing to say about you as a woman.
Stop internalizing who you are as a person because of
what this man says. You're not You not a bad person,
You're just not that person for him.

Speaker 1 (01:19:33):
Let these niggas go chill.

Speaker 2 (01:19:36):
Whoo. I was talking to my old selk. That was
just me talking about old step chair. All right, Hi,
I guess she wants her name to be said. She
lifting enough. Hi. I'm Kiora. I'm a nineteen year old
college but I'm keeping my fetem. I'm a nineteen year

(01:19:56):
old college student trying to figure out life while also
trying to have have a bit of fun. I just
got out of a year long relationship, and I wanted
to know how Drea specifically moves on when changes needing
in life facts, because bitch, I don't move on. Our
relationship consisted of miscommunication, line controlling behavior, and misunderstandings. There

(01:20:16):
were great moments and soul ties we shared with each other,
but it ended because I can't stand going through relationship
problems at such a young age. I'm still trying to
work on myself, my career, and my future. Plus I
want to be free. I need to focus on my
back and get shit done. Your girl needs some advice, please.
I love the podcast What You Got for a Drew Well.

Speaker 3 (01:20:39):
I feel like she already on the right track, Like
it seems like she already has her head on right
to be a nineteen year old, you know what I mean, Like,
you know what you want. You know that that relationship
was getting toxic, so you got the hellone and that's
what you should have did, because yeah, because you nineteen.
You're nineteen years old. You literally have your whole life

(01:21:00):
ahead of you. You still in college, you're a college student.
You need to be focusing on school because girls taking
from somebody who flunk like two classes day first year
of college just because they was playing around. Stay focused
so you don't have to retake them classes.

Speaker 2 (01:21:14):
Don't be letting their boy distract you.

Speaker 3 (01:21:15):
And it's gonna be plenty more where they came from.
You're gonna be glad you let that situation go. Dudes,
I was dating when I was nineteen. I don't even
know what they doing right now, like I have no clue,
we have no communication.

Speaker 4 (01:21:29):
I feel like you did the right thing.

Speaker 3 (01:21:30):
And with any relationship, any breakup, it's always hard initially,
but like when time starts going by, it gets easier
and easier with time, and then eventually you gonna end
up meeting somebody else that you like. Just stay focused
on your goal, Stay focused on school, Stay focused on
getting your money, because then she said she.

Speaker 4 (01:21:47):
Have a job too. I think she did.

Speaker 3 (01:21:50):
But stay focused on school, stay focused on Giddio your back.
It's always plenty of time to worry about these men
later on in life because they ain't never a shortage
of dom.

Speaker 4 (01:22:01):
So, yeah, you did the right thing. Sis, I'm very
proud of you.

Speaker 2 (01:22:04):
And we always say your type at nineteen is not
the same type as twenty five, and it's not the
same type at thirty. Girl, the type of man you
like in six years is gonna change, so don't worry
about this.

Speaker 3 (01:22:15):
And I feel like if niggas is toxic at nineteen,
they gonna be toxic for real at thirty, because why
are you toxic at nineteen you ain't even been through anything.

Speaker 2 (01:22:22):
Gig Sul they just be crazy.

Speaker 3 (01:22:25):
Like I understand when me and you older and then
they be a little jaded or they be a little
you know, extreme stuff because it's like life. Don't beat
your ass. Yeah, but at nineteen, you ain't really been through.
He isn't he trying to be at war with you?
Let him go, girl, Let him go?

Speaker 5 (01:22:42):
All right?

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Speaker 4 (01:22:58):
Yes, I drop video every Sunday, every Sunday.

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Minds on Fridays, drawing the Call with three E's on Sundays,
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Speaker 3 (01:23:10):
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Chronicles on Monday.

Speaker 2 (01:23:13):
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Speaker 3 (01:23:15):
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y'all so much, so much stuff, and then you can
sit at home and watch the stuff greasing your lips
up with some blades from used beauty period.

Speaker 1 (01:23:35):
You know what I'm saying. We're giving y'all everything that
we need.

Speaker 4 (01:23:38):
To give and drinking a little drink that time, oh hello.

Speaker 1 (01:23:41):
And looking at the calendar to see what.

Speaker 2 (01:23:43):
Day it is.

Speaker 4 (01:23:44):
Well, you gonna make it, but she created it.

Speaker 2 (01:23:47):
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We hope y'all enjoyed this episode. Make sure y'all subscribe
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(01:24:09):
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(01:24:30):
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and the poor Minds page on both. So we only
have one Instagram, one Twitter, one TikTok and it's p oh,
you are underscore in my nds all.

Speaker 4 (01:24:48):
Right, And we got a hell a fake Facebook page.

Speaker 1 (01:24:51):
On the Facebook page.

Speaker 2 (01:24:53):
Our Facebook.

Speaker 3 (01:24:54):
The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the
least amount of follow us. So if you're on Facebook,
one that's our got the least amount of father, but
one that's.

Speaker 4 (01:25:02):
Not us got like two hundred and fifty thousand.

Speaker 2 (01:25:05):
Like if you actually look at the content, because the
capture is like whoever it is, don't speak English, because
their captains are like bumba clade? Should men? Should men
pay bill? Should men pay bill? Yes?

Speaker 6 (01:25:16):
No?

Speaker 2 (01:25:18):
Check answer below block block po po poyo. Like that's
literally what the captions. I'm like, what that DG is?
Bumba claude, bumba claude.

Speaker 6 (01:25:29):
Baby without you, baby, So if you need me, if
you want me to put it on you, because I
love yeah, and don't you forget hey, whenever you need me,
if you want me to put it on you, come on.

(01:25:52):
Would I be without you?

Speaker 2 (01:25:58):
Yo? Whatever you with? Else you babyaby with that?

Speaker 6 (01:26:08):
Whatever you without my baby? The thought of lone my
break man you. I don't want to go crazy, but everything.

Speaker 2 (01:26:16):
Needs a lady girl.

Speaker 6 (01:26:18):
I feel like you and I would be mourning together, inseparable.
We choose paying over pleasure. For that, Sh'll forever be
part of me, my body and soul.

Speaker 2 (01:26:27):
Ain't no I in weed. Baby you cry, I wipe.

Speaker 3 (01:26:30):
Your tears when you scale who's telling you it's nothing
to feel?

Speaker 2 (01:26:33):
Girl.

Speaker 3 (01:26:33):
I'll always be there when you need a shoulder, the
lean out, never hesitate, knowing you could call on your
soulmate and vice versa. That's why I be the first
to see Jacobs and frost your rece up now your
own man. I know you're tired of being lowlss So
baby girl, put it on me, don't you.

Speaker 6 (01:26:54):
I know you're telling be loneless, you the whole man?

Speaker 2 (01:27:00):
What without you?

Speaker 6 (01:27:02):
I only think about you. I know you ted to
be lonely, Baby girl, put it on me, yo.

Speaker 3 (01:27:10):
I appreciate the rocks and gifts that you caught me
back and the house in the hill when you dropped
like eighty. You wanna down payment thinking, damn ain't life crazy?
And I'd be send for my honey. Y'all be twice
the lady, What would I do without the nights that
you kept me warm when it's cold? World had a
girl caught in the storm. And I accept when you
riff because you caught in the wrong. And I recept
when you because your love is strong. And when you

(01:27:31):
hit the block, I watched for ten and four And
when my pops.

Speaker 4 (01:27:34):
Will sleep, you snuck in the back door at you.

Speaker 2 (01:27:37):
Boy. We've been down since junior high. When life get hot,
does July?

Speaker 3 (01:27:40):
It's the world against you and I we ball in,
tied together and never hard from the heart. Knew that
it would last forever when you told me you would never.

Speaker 2 (01:27:48):
Leave me long less it on me?

Speaker 4 (01:27:53):
Itout you or what you're saying this show I did
someone a homemade whoa?

Speaker 6 (01:28:01):
I'll be without you?

Speaker 2 (01:28:03):
Without you? What's just hanging this true? You say to
be a lonely it's the one to hold me, hold
meie ho me okay, you ain't that versa? I know,
I mean, whoall laughing? Look at you? What just hang

(01:28:27):
in this shrue and me? It's the one to hold me?
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