The Realality Of The Situation FT. Drew Sidora

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Saying that you were having an emotional affair right with sim.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
While she was we meanly.

Speaker 3 (00:10):
And the reason I kind of love he believed it
because on Good Girl, Bad Bitch, you said I might
go lesbian and she Wouldn't you know a girl sit
in a message?

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Listen, I mean I might.

Speaker 3 (00:43):
What's up, Y'all's your girl lex p and it's your
girls and you are tuned in to another episode of
Poor Mind.

Speaker 2 (00:51):
Where a drunk mind speaks sober thought.

Speaker 4 (00:54):
We gotta guess, saday, we gotta guess sitay.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
Y'all, this is so exciting because this is somebody who
I have watched and we have all watched on TV
for years.

Speaker 2 (01:08):
Yeah, okay, we.

Speaker 4 (01:10):
Have singer, songwriter, producer, actress, reality TV star.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
But hold on, can I say this? I am a
fan of y'all. Really, I watch y'all in real life. No,
y'all be having me Like when I first wake up,
I'd be like, Okay, let me see what y'all talking about.
I feel like I'm your best friends in my head
because y'all be having me laughing. Y'all are such a vibe.
I just get y'all, you know what I mean? I

(01:41):
get y'all. So I was super excited to be here.

Speaker 3 (01:43):
You know what, I think it's so crazy when people
say that they watch us, especially people that like I'm
fans of, because I'm like, they don't know and they
don't you know what I'm saying that will be tapped
in no So thank.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
You having me the live and y'all congress on all
y'all success. Well, so, yes, and y'all are beautiful. By
the way, that's about were talking about.

Speaker 4 (02:03):
I said, I put on my Housewives confessional dress, show.

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Up and show out. You know what, I'm cosionals.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
It's definitely giving confessionals. It's very vibrant.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
Yeah, I want to d and y'all are matching.

Speaker 1 (02:15):
We are vibes energy, I feel it.

Speaker 3 (02:22):
So look we're getting along now somebody that means we
go be Look I grew up with I do. Okay,
So I want to start from the beginning, you know,
with your story.

Speaker 4 (02:34):
So you came out the womb acting, you acted.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
You were starting like your entertainment career at a very
young age.

Speaker 4 (02:41):
So was that something like your parents were like, oh
my child is so cute and she's so fun, let's
do it.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
Or was it like no, Mom, I want to do this. No.
It was definitely like girl, get out the mirror, making
yourself cry, taping yourself, over all the weddings and the
family reunions, over all the family memories. Why is she
on her dancing? Very much a creative from birth, Like
I was classically trained in piano by age three, Suzuki method.

(03:08):
A lot of people don't know that that's a fun
sat but.

Speaker 4 (03:13):
I know.

Speaker 2 (03:17):
Zuki is a classical, you know, piano method where you
learned by hearing notes.

Speaker 4 (03:25):
Okay, so you got that ear that a little bit.

Speaker 2 (03:29):
So that's kind of where it started. And my parents
were like, girl, go to college, go to medical school.
My dad was a doctor, so he was like, you're
taking over the family practice.

Speaker 4 (03:38):
What is this right?

Speaker 2 (03:39):
This was not the plan, but it was just innate.
It was like, no, this is my passion. I didn't
even know I was a kid, but I just love
to make people laugh, entertain evocalmotion. So that's how I
knew in school in real life.

Speaker 4 (03:53):
Because I was about to say that because you know, I'm.

Speaker 2 (03:58):
Not gonna lie.

Speaker 4 (03:58):
When they added you to the Housewives cast the first season,
I said, not Darwin.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
Sud Listen can we talk about this first, we need
to cancel. I think I saw somewhere on social media
is like, cancel the Juice of Door hate, right, we
need to cancel? Is okay? Okay, we do.

Speaker 1 (04:21):
I feel like you get a lot of unwarranted hate
from this show just because you were playing yourself.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
I think that first and foremost shout out to mar Brakakill.
It was definitely a show for the culture. I think
at that time it was pushing the envelope on the
things we never talked about or seen, you know, so
it was very real for people. So people were locked
in like, no, this is real life. We're at the
end of the day. Yes, I was doing my job.
I was playing a character, doing what my director told

(04:48):
me to do. But yes, playing Dreuicidora. People are like,
I don't like Juici Door. So the caveat is it's
my real name. There's no real beef. It's just Juicidora
in the But let's be clear. He lied to me,
and how many times as women has a man lied

(05:09):
to us?

Speaker 1 (05:11):
I felt shop I was like, he was wrong, he
was wrong because there was lying to you. Definitely, he
was trying to be a player and it just what
you told him that, ain't you see?

Speaker 2 (05:22):
That's all I'm asking for the understanding. Well, fun facts.

Speaker 1 (05:25):
I just finished my seventy five Hard Challenge and the
game is like my comfort shows. I was rewatching it
while I was doing seventy five apart when I would
be on my walking path and I was.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
Like, exactly, Drew Cerio, exactly, Curious. You get a different
understanding as you go through life. It was like a
little bit ahead of his time. There was. But I
will say in real life, like Tya and I are great,
y'allso have a friendship. We were friends since we were
eight years old. You know what, I'm gonna do something
for y'all. Gonna send' all the picture of us when

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we were eight years old. Yes, please, I'm y'all. Yes,
you can see that we've been friends for a long
time growing up. You know, in the industry. I used
to visit her on sister's sisters.

Speaker 4 (06:03):
That's what I was just about to ask.

Speaker 2 (06:05):
Yeah, all the time, Marcus. He we used to hang
out as like kid actors. Okay, so you was to
mix me. Yeah, that's what I'm like. I hated that
we had to have it, but I think it was
good for the culture.

Speaker 4 (06:17):
I think go ahead, go ahead.

Speaker 2 (06:18):
Why I was gonna say, I have a question, how
does that happen?

Speaker 1 (06:21):
Like when people get to play themselves on a TV
show or on the Seacon.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
Honestly, it's a blessing. Like I felt like you have
to be really big, you know, like a list to
play yourself. So when the idea came about, I was like, really,
I just thought that was amazing to showcase my music
and my real sides of me as an artist too.
But yeah, everything else that came with I was like,
I didn't know that part. But I think for me

(06:47):
becoming well known as people knowing my name, I think
all in all, it's done extremely well. For me.

Speaker 4 (06:53):
That's amazing because it's like Drew Sodora, that you.

Speaker 2 (06:57):
Get to play yourself on a TV show.

Speaker 3 (06:59):
I'm gonna tell you, I'm not gonna lie. I'm gonna
tell you when I forgave you. Okay, this is when
I forget I'm a music I'm a music head.

Speaker 2 (07:07):
Baby.

Speaker 4 (07:08):
When y'all did that TLC movie, I thought I was
looking at Tea balls And you.

Speaker 2 (07:15):
Know, I think.

Speaker 4 (07:15):
Sometimes people forget.

Speaker 3 (07:17):
You have to put some respect on them acting chops
because I think a lot of times it's hard to
do like a biopic, you know, because we especially to
somebody like a group like TLC. Sure that's close to
every little black girl, every little black girl. I mean,
we had our moms were cutting our hair and them
them bob with the long pieces with.

Speaker 2 (07:37):
My mama did that, oh you said, she said in.

Speaker 3 (07:41):
The little No, she had the piercing in her nail. Really, yes,
she did all of that. I mean a tourist queen.
My mom was a tourist and one creative.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
Yes.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
So I think like when everybody first when we first
heard the cast announcement, we was like, okay, I don't know,
you know, little Mama keep We were like we can
see the resemblance, you know, but we're like, can they
do it?

Speaker 2 (08:05):
And y'all executing? All three of y'all love when I
hear that.

Speaker 3 (08:10):
It was so I feel like there was an era
of movies coming out during that because what didn't wasn't
it around the time, Because it's not the excuse.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
About to say the Wheakney movie because that.

Speaker 4 (08:20):
Lifetime I'm talking about the New Addition.

Speaker 2 (08:22):
Movie was good. Great. Lifetime was doing some really great
biopics stories in that period. It was like they were
scooping up all the stories right. Yes, they did the
Allele one.

Speaker 1 (08:33):
I feel like, well that one because they couldn't use
any of the original music.

Speaker 2 (08:39):
I feel like it wasn't really giving what he should
you know what's going on. It was like we're in
the neighborhood, but we're not at all ours was special
because this was the official Kilsey story, like they were
on sets like, nah, I wouldn't do it like that
that Amy. So that was extra pressure because she's literally

(09:02):
telling me I'm not being her and I'm there to
be her. So it made us really have to focus
up up our game because I was pressure. How did
you prepare for that role? Honestly, it was kind of
crazy because growing up with my group of friends, we
taped ourselves, like I said, over many of family videos,
we taped ourselves being TLC and I was t ba's

(09:25):
and my girl was you know, Chilli and my other
girl was left Eye. So I felt like, oh, this
is meant to be. We're both Taurists, we're both from
the Midwest. I felt like I got her and I
vibed with her. So when I did the audition, I
went in like five times. I just was like, I
know this is for me. Getting on set. It was
very much like pressure because number one, I just had

(09:47):
my son, so I was a little overweight. When we
had our wardrobe fitting, I couldn't fit in none of
their clothes and we were wearing their real wardrobe.

Speaker 4 (09:54):
Oh my, I didn't know that, Yeah, the real costumes.

Speaker 2 (09:57):
Right. So when we had the wardrobe fitting Low Mama
fitting hers, Chili fitting hers, Kiki fifth in hers. They
was like, okay, well we'll make Drew, some other ones,
will make some bigger her. I was like, no, no, no, no, no,
I'm gonna lose weight. Yeah. I got a trainer. I
was training throughout that shoot, like at the hotel six
five am in the morning, whatever the call time was.
We got it in first on set, my trainer was

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giving me the jump rope in between scenes and after
we wrapped, I was in the gym. I was like,
I had a date to get my little cause you know,
tea boy said that little six eighth. I was sitting
on like a three four, But I fit in her.
You fit. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (10:37):
That shows the dedication because me all have been like,
well just send me a bigger.

Speaker 1 (10:40):
Size, right, you can make me a new one actually,
cause I gotta eat these wings.

Speaker 2 (10:46):
See, I like to eat. I'm a foodie on Chicago.
But like seeing the other girls, like I'm competitive.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
Here she got survived.

Speaker 2 (10:56):
I love y'all. It's like we're competitive. We come from
a sport. So I'm seeing everybody else getting they out.
I'm like, uh uh no, no, no, we're gonna do this.
We're gonna all be off, the three off. We're gonna
be a group. It's three of us. We're gonna do this.
And I did. Yes. So as an actress, you have
to challenge yourself to do all things, you know. I
had to get the moniker, the mannerisms and the body.

(11:17):
I mean, well, you looked amazing.

Speaker 1 (11:19):
Thank you, and you've just been asking for a long
time because I don't know. I mean, you know, I'm
a MILIENI Youles, I remember you on that so Raven
Oh yeah, that's like throwback. Yeah that was that was
working with Ravens. She was like, bring yourself to your character,
you know, so however your quirkiness do that.

Speaker 2 (11:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (11:41):
I was about to say, I was just about to say,
you have a very quirky personality. Yeah, because I want
to talk about the transition into reality TV, because you know,
we were introduced to you as an actress, a singer
and things like that, but I'm a real.

Speaker 4 (11:55):
Housewives stand okay, really going to get into it.

Speaker 3 (11:58):
I have watched I watched Beverly Hills, of course, I
watched Atlanta since season.

Speaker 4 (12:03):
One, I mean New York, Miami, I watched them all.

Speaker 3 (12:07):
Okay, so when you came on, I already knew who
you was, so I was kind of like, all right,
she made it up with the tea boys. But talk
about that transition because when you get into not only
reality TV, but Housewives is different because they're digging into
your entire life. I mean, if you shiit on yourself
in the second grade in your in your class.

Speaker 2 (12:27):
They gonna find out about it, they gonna know, they
gonna find a person that and bring them on.

Speaker 4 (12:35):
She really shipped on herself in class. Yeah, I mean so,
But talk about that because I will say this on
the show.

Speaker 3 (12:44):
You are open, but you're a tourist. You're very private.
You are very private. So it's like you be wanting
the audience to know what you want them to know.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
You know what I'm saying. Yeah, I feel like, well,
first for me, like to your point, doing these various roles,
I felt like people really didn't know me, that the
human being, the wife, the mother, the daughter, the sister,
the friend. So I felt like, let me come on here,
this is a very vulnerable time in my life. It
was Covid like, let's be real. It doesn't get any

(13:17):
more real in that. Let me be vulnerable in this
moment to show people the good, the bad, the ugly.
My life is not always perfect, and that was my
reason for joining the show, to show black love, family, god,
fearing people. That was the goal and the thought. However,
I ain't know. I didn't know coming on how the

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negativity would play out, you know, dealing with my marriage
like that wasn't planned. So I think for me it
was important to be an open book. But I feel
like in certain parts of your life you do have
to create a space of privacy for the sacredness of
what I consider to be, you know, something very special,
which is marriage. I don't feel like everything is for everybody,
but I felt like as much I can show to

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show people the real side of me, I was willing
to do. But at the same time really hold true
to certain things that are just private for family. But
then that didn't happen either, right, So I just felt like, well,
it's all out there now, so here we are. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (14:13):
So do you feel like you getting into reality TV
you didn't know anything about how.

Speaker 2 (14:17):
It works at all?

Speaker 1 (14:19):
Because I'm like, girl, I could have I could have
told you that I knew that it was probably yeah,
because I mean, when it comes to reality TV, sometimes
things are manipulated behind the scenes for shock value for viewership.
So it's like you have this idea in your mind
of what you want to portray, but production got a

(14:40):
whole different idea.

Speaker 2 (14:41):
Yes see, I didn't know because like, as an actress,
producers on set, those are your bosses. They're respected. You're like, okay, cool,
we're all here for a comm ago, we're a team.
On reality it's like those are the ones that are
like up the mix. Yeah. They So you learn because
you don't know what you don't know, and like my

(15:01):
reason for coming on here was different than you know,
their strategies and their reason So I learned obviously. But
I think for me to last and this is my
fourth season, it's just because I don't really get caught
up in all of that. I just remain true to
me and just show my life where the cameras catch me.
Y'all catch me and see me. So I get a

(15:22):
bad rap, people say, oh is she acting? Oh is
she lying? Let me clear this up right now. I
am not the girl that's over here producing story. Why
would I want to show my marriage falling apart and
show myself? If y'all remember my first scene was walking
on in the Achilles boot. It doesn't get more real
than that, it doesn't. I was not coming in my lubatons.

(15:45):
I came in my Achilles' boot limping on the show,
and I thought that was going to really showcase my
vulnerability and just connect with my fans. And looking back,
I feel like that's why I am still here, because
the people that know no, they see me, and so
I just continue to live in my truck.

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Speaker 4 (18:39):
The past season, when y'all started arguing about the exterminator,
I said, that shit real. Thank you, because if you
argued about an exterminator and this and that.

Speaker 3 (18:48):
Y'all just I can you could feel the tension. But
I do want to ask you that do you feel
like the cameras and Real Housewives, Like I know you
and Ralph probably had y'all's problems outside of that, but
do you feel like that kind of affected the marriage
as well of why y'all ended up being divorced?

Speaker 2 (19:07):
Good question. I don't feel like I can blame reality TV. Honestly,
I feel like it accelerates everything. So things that you
know you have issues in your relationships, you may not
deal with it that day. You may put on the
back burn and be like, you know what, let's just
have a good time. We'll talk about it later, or
I'm gonna let that slide. When the camera see it,

(19:27):
it's like you now have to talk about it, you
have to address it, and they're like, what are you
gonna do. You're gonna get in counseling. So now we're
in counseling, you know, because it holds you accountable.

Speaker 4 (19:37):
Yeah, yeah, that's it.

Speaker 3 (19:38):
I can't remember what season was, if it was last
season or a season before that, but y'all had like
did like a date night. Yeah that broke my heart
because I know how that feels when you're trying to
make something work and it still like ends up in
a fight.

Speaker 4 (19:53):
And it was like those were the moments though that I.

Speaker 3 (19:55):
Was like, this is like real, like you can see
it in your face, like you were real trying to
show up and still make things work. So I think
a lot of times when you see those moments like
these are still people and they're living out their lives
on TV.

Speaker 1 (20:10):
Absolutely, And that's why I was gonna ask you, like,
how are you mentally because that has to be a
lie to be going through such a public divorce in
front of millions of people, and I think sometimes people
can't separate the show from you as the person.

Speaker 2 (20:26):
Right, Yeah, I think that. I mean, it's hard. I'm
not gonna lie. It is very much, probably the most
challenging thing I've ever gone through in my life. Because
I grew up in a household where my parents were
married for sixty years until my dad passed away. So
I don't know divorce. I don't know anything else but
like marriage and forever. And that's why I got married,

(20:47):
Like this is my person forever. So I fought to
make this marriage work. I fought to keep my family.
And as you guys have seen, you know the challenges
that we dealt with. It was just certain things at
that time period. For instance, that dinner that's like, you
know how somebody can do all of these things for
you and your relationship, But you're like, but let's get

(21:08):
to the root of what matters. The emotional intelligent, the
emotional intelligence, the pain that you're not seeing or you're
ignoring for me that I really need you to hear
and understand. And that's what that moment was. And so
for dealing with that for so long. It was like
you reach a point where it's like how much can
I take? How much pain? How much infidelity? How many

(21:28):
times am I asking you to hear me? And I
want to forgive you, just apologize, you know, just try
to do better, and you're like ignoring that. You kind
of start to lose yourself. And that's what was happening.
And I feel like sometimes I wasn't able to show
up one hundred percent as me because I was dealing
with so much at home that I was trying to
preserve my marriage so much that I couldn't really be

(21:50):
the best friend, you know, the best daughter at that time.
And that's just me being one hundred percent honest today.

Speaker 1 (21:56):
But that's good, Like it's I think it's always good
when people can take accountability and realize, like in that moment,
I couldn't be the best friend, I couldn't be the
best darter because I'm dealing with my marriage, like my
life is in shamble, and y'all want me to show
up in your sister.

Speaker 2 (22:10):
I can't do that right right now? You know, right now?

Speaker 3 (22:13):
Now, let me ask you, this is Ralph asked still
in that basement, is he still in the basement downstairs.

Speaker 2 (22:20):
He's still down down It's it's a court order. But yeah,
that's how we're living. That's how we're living today. Oh
my god, is that hard? Like are you daddy? It's unimaginable, y'all?
Like am I So I have gone out on a
couple of but it's kind of like you can't, like

(22:44):
how does that even go? You can't even invite a
man back to the house if you won't and you can,
it doesn't go. That's the thing. It doesn't go. It
just happens. And then that's where it ends where its
tarts and it is. So is it still like awkward?

Speaker 3 (22:55):
Because I will say, like, there was a scene I know,
I keep bringing it up because I told you I'm
a watching it. It was the scene when y'all were
arguing about the Extererminador and you like walked in the
kitchen and you didn't know he was in there.

Speaker 4 (23:05):
You were like, oh my bad, no.

Speaker 2 (23:08):
Girl, this is my thank you. That's I was shocked
because it was like, normally I leave and then he'll
come up. But on this day, because the cameras was there,
he walking in, you know, creased out that button down hello, hello,
it was given up ready camera, yes, baby, yes, he

(23:29):
was cutting. Oh I know, because if you see you
see it, I'm like, this ain't normally you ain't never
been greased up, fresh haircut with Lina, with the Beijing, Chris,
I see it. The Beijing was.

Speaker 4 (23:45):
Fresh and having that white line when they first leave
the up.

Speaker 2 (23:52):
Early y'all thank you. So I'm like I was called up. Yeah.
I was like shooking because this ain't now would normally
go yeah, And I was like, okay, but this is
the thing. In the court order, there are things legitimately
that are his responsibility, and there are things that are
legitimately my responsibility. And if you notice, I'm like, I've

(24:12):
been covering the exterminator, but in the order, you're supposed
to take care of it. We got light bulbs that
are out, we got you know, repairs that need to
take place. He's to take care of those things. I
am to take care of the children one hundred percent.
By the way, I'm not getting child support. So therefore,
if I'm taking care of the kids and you're holding
me to what they need and I'm paying for everything,

(24:33):
then you need to take care of what you need
to take care of don't put that on my plate.
Right as small as it was, he is petty to
the point where he's like, you owe me twenty dollars,
you owe me ten dollars, so start dollars. So now
I'm gonna meet you where you're at. You're gonna take
care of these repairs, like the order says, but.

Speaker 4 (24:52):
Doesn't it kind of like.

Speaker 3 (24:56):
I want to use my words carefully because I know
we've all I mean, we've never been married, but we all.

Speaker 4 (25:00):
Men in long term relationships.

Speaker 3 (25:02):
I think the hardest thing is like for me watching
people go through a divorce or a breakup, it's like
when y'all become strangers or it's like we can't even
talk and talk, So how are you dealing with that?
Being like I have to talk to this man like
he's a stranger from the.

Speaker 2 (25:18):
Street, and y'all still in the same right exactly. And
then we record order to speak to an app. So
I talked about that a lot bit too. So now
we're communicating through an app that the judge watches and
views and can use this evidence. So he'll get in
there and snitch, you know, on things like that, whatever
it is. And he's very petty. So that's why I said, Okay,
you want to get in the app and you want

(25:39):
to snitch and try to plead your case and make
me look a certain way. So now we're gonna we're
gonna be equaling this if you're gonna hold me to
the fire and hold your feet to the fire. Because
I feel like as adults that did love each other,
that have children, we should be able to communicate and say, hey,
you know I'm doing this. We're partners, We're gonna figure
this out. When you have to let the judge and
the court decide, that's when it becomes unfortunate, like he

(26:01):
has to live in the basement. Now the kids are confused.
It's like we've allowed the court to decide everything. Yeah, yes,
I do have.

Speaker 3 (26:11):
I have one more question, now, why with everything that
we know with you know, you and Ralph's relationship, why
were you so afraid for the court documents to be
made public? Because it feels like we saw everything play out,
like what what was in them papers that you.

Speaker 2 (26:28):
Were so afraid? There is no deep dark secrets. Okay,
they work for me, right, Okay, So let's clear that
up right here now. Today it was nothing with me.
It was purely because let's be honest, I want Ralph
and I will go on record to say this right now,
to be the best not only for himself, but for
our kids. And so I always have that level of

(26:50):
respect for him, no matter what he says and does
to me. I protect my children at all costs. So I,
for the sake of the kids, did not want all
of our back and forth, all of our mess and
what he's done and how I feel and what he's
saying about me to come out in that way. That
was the fear for the kids. Okay, the court documents
are unsealed, so y'all can go look. I mean, go look,

(27:13):
y'all can see it's nothing dealing with.

Speaker 4 (27:15):
Me, okay.

Speaker 2 (27:16):
Because he was adamant on letting it out. He tried it. Yeah,
he keeps trying it.

Speaker 3 (27:21):
Because he I mean, he didn't say it, but he
was insinuating like, oh, she don't want y'all to see
what she was doing.

Speaker 2 (27:27):
Or go see, I'm gonna just say, look, the receipts
are available, Okay, go check for yourself. And I'm saying
it today because now, of course we filmed that last year,
but it's UnrealEd, and there's nothing that's come out you
know about me. It was purely me saying if we
can keep it sealed and protected for the sa sake
of our kids, which was a my attorney and I wanted,

(27:47):
and the judge did do him and his attorney wanted
it all out in the open for whether it's press
for a moment, you know, and I think that's what
it was, because anything you guys were in the press
was definitely from his side. Okay, all right, he get
into the press, Yeah he was, because if you notice
in the press it said Ralph Pittman filed for divorce
from me, but on record, I'm the petitioner.

Speaker 4 (28:08):
Why first?

Speaker 2 (28:10):
And that facts. Now, Now I do have a MISSI qush,
let's go girl shots my girl, my tourist. See hold on,
let me take it because I feel the energy, honey, Yes,
I feel like you know.

Speaker 1 (28:29):
Okay, we talk about your own Housewives, but your name
has been ringing bells on another reality show as recently
as well house I mean a Housewives, Basketball Wives.

Speaker 2 (28:43):
What is going on with that situation?

Speaker 1 (28:45):
Because they saying that you were having an emotional affair
right with Ty Young while she was weepingly.

Speaker 3 (29:00):
But the reason I kind of lost he believed it
because on Good Girl, Bad Bitch, you said I might
go lesbian and she wouldn't you know, sit in.

Speaker 2 (29:09):
A message Listen, I mean I might. I might. Okay,
I didn't say I did, but I said I might, right,
But I'm not. I'm very I'm very humble, y'all. I
am a humble, humble spirit. But I will say this,
being mentioned on Basketball Wives, I'm like, am I really
that girl?

Speaker 4 (29:27):
You are?

Speaker 2 (29:28):
Am I really that girl? Because let me tell you,
if people got to use my name to get a moment,
because let's be clear, she came out hot with that story.
That's how she got on that show. So if you
got to use me, you who used the woman that well,
the person that dropped the name. It was only one
that dropped my name. She came in like, okay, so

(29:48):
she used you to get on the show. Oh, she
used me to get on the show. She that's her moment.
So I say, you're welcome the name in the country
that they ain't never met.

Speaker 4 (30:01):
To what.

Speaker 2 (30:05):
You're well, welcome, I say, welcome.

Speaker 4 (30:08):
Now let it go.

Speaker 2 (30:09):
Now it's go time. Okay, I mean, this is the
moment she wanted. She tried to come on our show.
Did y'all see your in the background trying to?

Speaker 4 (30:14):
I did?

Speaker 3 (30:16):
Now I follow real housewives. I have a show called
Love lex Pp. I'll be talking about all y'all on there.
I've been real messy, now talk about all y'all. But
I did say that, and me is actually she used
to be in the podcast world as well. He used
to I'm interested to see like what was gonna stick
for her? So now that you're letting it, so that
was her her way in Okay, what's up y'all?

Speaker 2 (30:39):
As your girl LEXP And it's your girl draining the call.
And we have a very exciting announcement today.

Speaker 1 (30:44):
We have a brand new show dropping. Yes, we have
a brand new show dropping, y'all on. It's gonna air
on September second, and it's called Poor Chronicles. We're gonna
be doing so much stuff on there. We're gonna be
doing challenges. If you can't go to Bill and doche,
where the hell could you?

Speaker 2 (31:01):
If you can't go to Battle Note, what the hell
we're gonna be doing? Talk to me, chit chat with me.
We're gonna be feeling a little tea Oh my god,
Now you didn't God everything y'all been wanting to see.
We're gonna be doing it right here on Patreon. Yes,
y'all ask us for so much.

Speaker 3 (31:22):
Well, we've been to give it to y'all every single Monday,
and it's gonna be a time. Y'all know, Poor Minds
has grown into its own little entity.

Speaker 4 (31:31):
Well, we're gonna have a lot of fun still over
here at poor Chronicles.

Speaker 2 (31:36):
So make sure y'all tune in September.

Speaker 4 (31:38):
Second.

Speaker 2 (31:38):
It's going down. Thanks. Some of the girls, you know,
they want to get around to try to find their
moment right, and it's like, but I've been having moments
my whole life. I don't need to try. But I
think that people took a headline that was hot in
the press and there was like, Okay, I'm around this

(32:01):
person now. So because I'm affiliated with this person, this
is my you know, girlfriend or whatever, I'm gonna use
this tea to get on this show because it didn't
work on this show.

Speaker 4 (32:09):
But so is there t there? Do you and Tie
have any type of relationship?

Speaker 2 (32:13):
Y'all had three thousand meanings fifty hours. I want to
see a receipt that coody cat little. Now, I'm gonna
tell you this, Ty look Ty's a looker and lying.
If we didn't say. Now, I'm gonna say this on record. Okay,
hold off the press. I'm gonna be honest with you.
I met Tye. I'm gonna say there was some flirting. Okay,

(32:36):
I'm gonna stay Tie. That's my friend. I said it once,
I said it twice. I think she's been that's my friend.
She is cool, she has swagged, she's a good time
and honestly, transparently, vulnerably. I'll say that going through what
I was going through at that time, I'm telling you,
if a tree branch would have started talking to me,

(32:56):
I'm like, gosh, you know so, I'm not gonna lie
like it was great to have somebody to listen to me.
I mean we talked, Like she said, there was nothing
as far as like us seeing each other, nothing romantic.

Speaker 4 (33:08):
I said that.

Speaker 2 (33:10):
It was like, this is my friend. We're hanging out.
And now if she liked me, I'm not gonna deny that,
but I'll say that she is a good person. She
was listening to me, laughing at my jokes. I was like,
oh my gosh, you know, it made me happy and
it made me forget that at that time, it's what
I needed. And I believe Roth was intimidated because she
was around. It wasn't like it was a secret. She

(33:31):
was here.

Speaker 4 (33:31):
She was there.

Speaker 2 (33:32):
She was at my album released party and listening to
Sasion like she was hanging with you know, my friend group.
And so we had a great time. But I think now,
because it became a headline and everybody was putting it
on their story to try to get back on a
certain show, it was like, let me post this and
see if I get some traction. It didn't work, you know,
so much. So we were talking about this last year.

(33:53):
So I'm just like, I'm tired. Yeah, I'm talking about
like this the old news for me life. But I mean,
if we're gonna talk about it, let's talk about it.
But I haven't seen a receipt of any of this,
you know, three thousand minute situation. I don't I don't
know where that came from, but I think people did
the math, and the math wasn't mathing because well that's
still just not that much time to talk conversation.

Speaker 4 (34:17):
Six hundred minutes.

Speaker 2 (34:19):
That's a lot.

Speaker 3 (34:20):
But I would say you have you said anything to me?
Have you confronted her about anything? Are you just kind
of like I'm not giving you any more.

Speaker 2 (34:28):
I saw her last night and I was like, oh,
They was like, are you okay? I said, for what?
They was like because over there, I said, who where? Oh?

Speaker 4 (34:35):
Now that's a Now that's a talk me. And how
about to say she a little taller than me.

Speaker 2 (34:39):
That's a big laddy?

Speaker 4 (34:40):
Is it?

Speaker 2 (34:41):
Okay? She stayed seated, Okay, okay, now I'll just drop
this pull up. She stay where she needed to stay,
which was in a corner. Okay, yes, and so that's
where there was no beef there. You do not like,
I don't stop listen. If that's how you need to
get your bag and your moment, you know, if you
got it, somebody need to run me a chet. Though
it was a little odd, I was like, this is

(35:02):
a whole franchise exactly. I think I'm old something well appearing.
I mean, I'm like, I.

Speaker 4 (35:11):
Watched the first episode of Basketball Wives, so you know
that was like the preview for like the next episode.
I haven't watched that episode yet, but I just like.

Speaker 3 (35:20):
Where where did this come from? This is crazy because
I'm not even gonna lie. I didn't know if she,
you know, dated women and stuff like that. That was
a surprise to me as well too. But you know,
but speaking of storylines that people feel our a little
bit extra, and then we're gonna get into the topic.
I review Housewive episodes on My Love lexp channel, and

(35:41):
I have been I am so fed up with this
storyline with you and Dennis.

Speaker 4 (35:45):
I'm hired because.

Speaker 3 (35:47):
I'm not gonna lie. I'm like, I want to see
what's going on with her? Rap in the basement? What
raph doing in the basement? And we keep talking about
her and Dennis and Porsche. Where did this come from?

Speaker 2 (35:58):
Well, I think that we can all see she couldn't
talk about a lot of things, and so they brought
her back on and it was very highly anticipated to
deliver a certain story that she couldn't deliver. So it
was giving flop, it was given a fail, and she

(36:19):
had to pivot on something she could talk about. And
so yet again here I am to talk about this
made up, fetitious story that no one's believing.

Speaker 4 (36:29):
I mean, if you talked to Dennis, what's up? I mean,
you can tell when a woman has chemistry with an
you can tell when that little cooty cat get hot
around me.

Speaker 2 (36:40):
Can y'all tell the physique that I go for and
like a certain you like the honey, like the ralph
nipples is correct. I'm just saying no, but yeah, the interactions,
thank you, and it's me and it's me and it's

(37:01):
gonna be me, So I don't that's just not me. Yeah, Okay,
if that's your thing, that's your thing. But I'm like,
if y'all see my type, then y'all would know. And
at the end of the day, if you hear the album,
which I'm so excited about I'm proud of. Yeah, I
just saw that.

Speaker 3 (37:16):
To Tie, I said her album and I'm not saying oh, actually,
like I was surprised.

Speaker 4 (37:20):
I was like, her album is really good, Like it's good.
So I'm like, I know that wasn't that studio fucking
they was making music, not only time when people be
in the studio.

Speaker 2 (37:27):
Fucking wow, because Summer Walker in London on the track.

Speaker 4 (37:34):
With like a word Okay, you're right, you're right, You're
right when you but you felt it felt.

Speaker 3 (37:40):
If you watch the show, you can see like when
Drew talks to Dinners there's no chemistry there, there's no nothing.
It's no, it's no because you can't hide that when
you have chemistry with someone.

Speaker 1 (37:52):
I mean, but to me, that's housewives, Like how many
times did MEMI record with Peter?

Speaker 2 (37:58):
Like it's it's that been housewife along.

Speaker 1 (38:02):
It's like people's spouses with other people all the time.

Speaker 2 (38:06):
That's a great friend I come on to. But I
clear up.

Speaker 1 (38:13):
Is it's been a lot of situations where spouses have
recorded with other housewives Like who cares? She's not that
big of a deal to me unless you really have
receipts that you feel like it's something going on.

Speaker 2 (38:23):
And to me, I agree with you.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
It's obvious that nothing sexual romance sequels going on between.

Speaker 4 (38:28):
You and so that you that was like kind of
like a it was fabricated a little bit.

Speaker 2 (38:33):
For yes, because fortunately I had a conversation before the
season started and everything was cool. She was like, I
love the music. Orsus a fan of the music, you
know what I mean. So there was never any animosity
or like, girl, we need to talk. She was invited
to my birthday party by Dennist. She said, well, why

(38:54):
do you think you were invited? Aby would dennists be
inviting you to my birthday party if you were just yeah.
So when I was saying those things, I'm like, okay.
She pivoted from working with Dennis to filming with Dennis,
then to like the gold naked hair. It was like,
I don't even know what you're mad about. Now I'm confused.
But I really was like, my girls coming back. I'm
so excited. So when I saw her asking me as party,

(39:16):
that's why I was so taken aback, and I was
just like, I was flabergasted because I was like, I
want to She was mad. She said you are hot.
I said, oh, they's getting you are hot? I said.

Speaker 5 (39:38):
It.

Speaker 2 (39:41):
I felt like I got my acting bad.

Speaker 4 (39:47):
I will say I am a fan of Porsche.

Speaker 3 (39:49):
I love I always say I'm real biased when it
comes to her, but honestly, this storyline has shocked me.
It has really shocked me because I don't think she
realized how it didn't make her look good. I think
the point of it, like I understand what they were
trying to go for to make you look like you're
being sneaky, but it doesn't come off like that at all.

Speaker 4 (40:08):
It just comes off like why are we talking about
Oh my god, they was in Nashville. Girl, it had
been over and it's like.

Speaker 3 (40:19):
I found out that she recorded with Denni's child, and
it was just like, wow, why are we still talking
about this?

Speaker 2 (40:27):
Mitch may all be in the stool turning off in
the club. We all in the school.

Speaker 3 (40:32):
We all okay, okay, So we're gonna get into the
topics now, so because it's time to hear your opinion
on things.

Speaker 4 (40:38):
But first time, what are we drinking today?

Speaker 2 (40:40):
All right, so let me.

Speaker 6 (40:43):
Say in honor of our beautiful guest, missus Drew Sodora
from Chicago, by the way, love that we're gonna call
this one good girl, bad bitch. And she's cute too,
So this one has whatever spirit of choice you like.
We have some tonic Sarah by a black On brand
call eighteen twenty one. We have some of that so
mixy high biscuits syrup in there, and then we topped

(41:04):
it with a cactus rose sparkling water, so we're giving
flooral something light, something refreshing. And then I garnished it
with a full high biscuits flower that's been soaking in
rose syrup and a mint sprig right in the middle
of it, just to give it a beautiful color to
that garnish.

Speaker 2 (41:20):
So this one is the good Girl, Bad Bitch. Cheers.

Speaker 4 (41:23):
I love it.

Speaker 2 (41:24):
Cheers already. I see. I'm excited.

Speaker 3 (41:29):
I love when we have like good girl talk, good
episodes live.

Speaker 4 (41:34):
All right, Dre, you wanna go ahead? Go?

Speaker 1 (41:36):
Okay, So we're gonna do a little icebreaker scene or reality.
We're gonna read dramatic scenarios and ask was this from
TV or was it real life?

Speaker 2 (41:46):
Ooh yeah, So you gotta say, like, was this in
a movie?

Speaker 3 (41:49):
Its like a news article, like it really really happ right, Okay,
so you gotta let us know.

Speaker 4 (41:54):
Uh, okay, go ahead with scenario.

Speaker 2 (41:56):
Dre, you want to go first? Oh yeah, I go first?

Speaker 4 (41:58):
Okay? Is it seen a reality? He faked a heart
attack to stop his girl.

Speaker 3 (42:04):
From leaving him during an argument? Scene or reality? Do
you think that's in the movie or that happen in
real life?

Speaker 2 (42:12):
Say it one more time.

Speaker 3 (42:13):
He faked a heart attack to stop his girl from
leaving him during an argument.

Speaker 2 (42:20):
That's a scene.

Speaker 3 (42:21):
The scene The answer is, oh, lord, man really did
this to keep his girlfriend from walking out during a fight.

Speaker 4 (42:32):
He faked a heart attack to make her stay. I
was gonna say, y'all, don't think niggas be doing any
real life me actually too, really like.

Speaker 3 (42:41):
Yes, my boyfriend when I was like twenty twenty one,
he was like, I have a heart condition.

Speaker 4 (42:45):
I don't know how long I'm gonna make it.

Speaker 3 (42:47):
And I really was like believe in him, and I
like took him back and I started noticing it. Every
time we would get into it, he would be like,
and I was.

Speaker 2 (42:56):
Like, god, bitch, I don't give a fuck.

Speaker 4 (42:59):
It was the last time I said, I don't care
if he got that's what I was thinking.

Speaker 2 (43:05):
I was gonna say that that's why I said sing
because I know Standford. I was like, that's why that's
immediately doing it.

Speaker 3 (43:11):
But friends, and I was like, I don't care. At
this point, passed out, I'm gonna call then ambulance.

Speaker 2 (43:16):
And he was like, damn, yeah, that is not a
man you need, because I need a manly man, like
I gotta be your nurse. You know what I'm saying,
Like men don't usually want to even seem like the weakers,
But why are you just lay down honey breaking Oh
that is white. I don't like that.

Speaker 1 (43:33):
This this one he is funny. But I'm like y'all
gonna know she drove up a mountain to save her marriage.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
I know that one. Oh yeah, that was definitely a scene. Yes, hello, Yes,
Tyler Perris w hello, hello, Hello girl. I wanta drove
up out and save your marriage. I don't know if
I would have drove. She walked though, because they don't corporate.

Speaker 3 (44:02):
There well something that had no No, they had to
wait because something Remember she had to stay with the
police officer overnight in the cabin. Yeah, they couldn't go
to the next day. See me, I would have been
digging down the cop first night. Seoul waited a few months.

Speaker 4 (44:18):
It would have been mad after me because I would
have came back in that cabin smiling with my new boot.

Speaker 2 (44:23):
See you got it, because see I would have been
the girl fight I would because I have literally figuratively
I have driven them in. You was driving you in
that dinner table. You was driving.

Speaker 4 (44:34):
You was driving up that a good woman because I
ain't you know what, I'm a girl, bad bitch.

Speaker 2 (44:40):
Listen, I'm coming over to the your side God, because okay, okay.

Speaker 3 (44:48):
Scenario woman finds out husband's social Security number doesn't match
his marriage license, his job is a forklift driver for
a temp agency, and his family he doesn't exist.

Speaker 2 (45:03):
I don't know, it's crazy. I don't think.

Speaker 3 (45:05):
I say, when we're talking about woman finds out her
husband's Social Security number doesn't match what they have on
the marriage license. His job is a forklift driver for
a temp agency, and his family doesn't exist, so everything
she knows about him.

Speaker 2 (45:19):
Is a lot. I ain't never seen a movie like that. Dang, yeah,
that's that would be some really great screenwriting, because that's
I would say, real life, real life it is. That's diabolical.

Speaker 3 (45:31):
It's real life Tesla, the rest of Tesa story married
and they're coming out with a movie with that. They're
still working on that. It's still coming.

Speaker 2 (45:42):
That's why it was so major.

Speaker 3 (45:45):
No, it's not a Tyler Perry production. But she she's
still on TikTok and she's still very popular. So she
was saying they're still in production and stuff.

Speaker 2 (45:51):
She got really big.

Speaker 4 (45:53):
I mean, yeah huge. I mean she was on Tammering Hall,
she was on a lot.

Speaker 3 (45:59):
But I think that's amaz think about social media and
like sharing your stories, like you never know what was
the movie that first happened?

Speaker 4 (46:06):
What was the movie y'all with the stripper. What was
that movie called?

Speaker 2 (46:11):
I cannot remember.

Speaker 3 (46:12):
So it was a stripper who told a story of
how she met this random and the girl on Twitter
at Hooters.

Speaker 4 (46:17):
It was on Twitter, and I.

Speaker 3 (46:19):
Mean the thing was playing out online and they made
it into a movie and the movie was so good.

Speaker 4 (46:24):
It was so funny.

Speaker 2 (46:25):
Sola.

Speaker 4 (46:27):
Yeah, so the movie is called Sola. Yeah, the movie
is called Zola.

Speaker 3 (46:31):
Y'all have to watch. This came from a Twitter story.
So I'm excited to see the rest of Tessa movie.

Speaker 2 (46:37):
I am so.

Speaker 4 (46:38):
I think it's gonna be so good.

Speaker 2 (46:40):
Had everybody so locked in for months?

Speaker 4 (46:42):
Oh, I was literally driving in my car had it
playing on my Bluetooth choke ho.

Speaker 1 (46:47):
And then I think he started it started a trail
of other people because like so many other people started
to do that and they were having.

Speaker 2 (46:55):
Who the fuck is my baby daddy? But you know
who it is or you got an idea. But I
think now it's like following a trend. Now you don't
know what's real. I mean, I love it because typically
in movie screenwriting, it follows a formula, you know. But
I think now, like you said, with social media, they're
taking these risks. It's no formula. The lead characters dying people.

(47:18):
It's like diabolical, and we're not used to seeing that
technically and scripted. You know, would you do a biopic
of your life?

Speaker 4 (47:25):
Girl?

Speaker 2 (47:25):
I need to you do? I think I would.

Speaker 4 (47:28):
I mean, honestly, you could have a whole hour and
thirty minute movie about that man in that basement. Then
the Man in the Basement, you can have that for.

Speaker 2 (47:36):
Free, Jesus the man, and then you might have to
get a little roll because honestly, you have the skills
now because we're going to work. Okay, start the Man
in the Basement.

Speaker 4 (47:46):
Listen, and it's really that's all like a lifetime movie.

Speaker 2 (47:50):
I was gonna say that, and it really is given
lifetime because I mean, really truly, y'all have no idea
about what I've really gone through. Like I was married
for ten years. I was married for ten years, So
it wasn't like we got a reality and all of
a sudden, it was these issues. Think about like year one,
year two, year three, we were living in Chicago, we
lives in la It's a lot that happened that I

(48:12):
put up with in dealt with that, y'all would be
just like because.

Speaker 1 (48:15):
Okay, we were all thinking of the cover photo. No,
it'll be Drew in the front, and then it'll be
a man in the back with the wall picking to
the stairs like the people do under the stairs.

Speaker 3 (48:29):
Okay, I forgot because we're gonna move on to the topics.
But I forgot to ask you about this because this
was a big deal in one of the other seasons
whenever he disappeared.

Speaker 2 (48:37):
Oh girl, was that something that he used to do
a lot.

Speaker 4 (48:40):
Though, because you didn't seem shocked by it or.

Speaker 2 (48:42):
Moved right well, so he would like leave the house
and not tell anybody he was gone. He'd liked to
just come and go as he pleased, so coming in
at anytime of the night, four or five am, that
was normal. But that was the first time he ever
like left and cross state line right out telling us.
And this is like, I just had my achilles surgery.

(49:04):
My mom is here, and it's like the audacity to
do that with my mom here, because you know my mama,
she's like going to be all up in it, like
wait what. And so I was just like, dang, and
this was our first season, So I'm gonna tell you
all this we didn't know how like reality worked. So
during this season we had to get COVID tested. So

(49:25):
the producers called me and they're like, can you and
Ralph come get COVID tested? And I'm like yeah, I said,
let me, you know, get back with you about Ralph,
but I'm good. I called Ralph. He wasn't answering the
phone call him calling on calling, he's not answering. So
I told the producer, well, you're gonna need to call
him because I can't get him on the phone, just
to confirm him. And so the producer calls me back
like I talked to him, and he is out of

(49:49):
the state. And the rule then was if you come
back instaate, you have to quarantine for fourteen days. So
they were like, we're gonna have to put you on
ice because you guys can't film fucking up the money, right,
So that's how I essentially found out he was even
out of state. It wasn't from him ever telling me.
It was from a producer. So the first time, you know,
he comes back and they lined it up real good.

(50:09):
They had us film on the day that he came back.
So when he came back, it was like this the
first time we're talking and I'm seeing him. We tried.
We tried. If y'all remember it was our anniversary and
we were like popping champagne. He was cooking shrimp and grits.
We were having a good time because we were trying
to show like we love each other.

Speaker 4 (50:25):
Guys, that mountain. I was driving up the mountain, You
up that mountain.

Speaker 2 (50:30):
We gonna name this episode.

Speaker 4 (50:33):
The way I would have cut. I don't give a damn.

Speaker 2 (50:36):
Have you lost your mind? Yes, So it was like,
this is my first day. I'm not trying to let
everybody know how much of a shit show we are.
So we're just gonna like show because I do love you,
so it's not fake. But we love each other and
it's our anniversary. We're gonna celebrate all these years that
we done been through all of this shit, and we're
gonna we're gonna love on each other today. But when
we were at the dinner, it was like, but we

(50:59):
do need to address it was that energy. We didn't
have a great day, but now we need to just
have an adult conversation about where the f were you?
And that that was all I asked, was where were you?
And instead of him saying where he was. It became
this combative thing that you like, right yesterday wasn't Beijing

(51:20):
and nipples. I got it out for a real but
you watched the show, it will infuriate you, it really will.
And that was how we came on. And I'm thinking,
I'm so the reason why I started to cry was
because I was embarrassed because I've been in front of
cameras my whole life, so I feel very comfortable. But

(51:41):
my husband doing this, I'm like, why are you doing
this in front of all of America, you know, instead
of just showing the good side of you? Because he
does have a good side, y'all. I didn't marry him
for all with y'all don't seen there isn't you know.
But you know, like I say in my album, I
Did It to Me is about also thinking accountability because
because I didn't know this other side, but I didn't

(52:03):
know how bad, you know what I mean, Like you
get a taste of it. But when that side started
to come to the forefront and that's all you got
to see, it was really unfortunate.

Speaker 3 (52:11):
I just always pour into women when I can feel
your energy and I can see your energy you are
an amazing woman and what you.

Speaker 4 (52:19):
Have given to the world being on this reality show.

Speaker 3 (52:23):
And like I said, I'm a consumer, So sometimes even
as somebody who's on the cameras, I don't connect the
fact that you're a human and you're still going through things.
So when I tell you, like the energy that I'm
feeling from you right now, you're an amazing one. And
don't ever let a man who couldn't reach what you were,
you were at and your understanding and your forgiveness make

(52:46):
you feel like you're less stand because a lot of
times we are amazing women and a person who's not
there yet can't recognize that, and it'll make you feel
like I'm not doing enough.

Speaker 2 (52:57):
Yeah, make you lose Jose.

Speaker 3 (52:58):
But the beautiful thing about the reality TV you can
look on the beautiful side is that the receipts are there,
and we all witnessed you trying.

Speaker 4 (53:05):
We all witnessed that, you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (53:07):
So and even though we haven't been married, we've all
been there of trying to show somebody like I'm enough.

Speaker 4 (53:13):
Why is it not enough? But it's not that you're
not enough. They don't see it. They're not enough and
they don't want to rise to the occasion and do
the work.

Speaker 1 (53:21):
The worst head it's like, I'm willing, I'm actually willing
to work this out with you.

Speaker 2 (53:25):
You don't want to do the work, you don't want
to better y'all you're so let me tell you something
so deep because you're right on train right, And I
appreciate that because I felt it in my spirit and
I'm gonna try not to cry. But honestly, like I
can we get some s shoes.

Speaker 4 (53:48):
Taking time chat because we all have been here. Yeah,
it's okay, it's okay.

Speaker 2 (53:58):
Damn so much so that I.

Speaker 4 (54:05):
It's crazy, take your time. We got Tom Chap.

Speaker 2 (54:09):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 4 (54:09):
I didn't mean to know what I need because.

Speaker 2 (54:14):
Things that I've not said that I'm like, I gotta
get it out and speak on it. So y'all really
like understand because you said it. And a step further
is I actually wanted it to be my fault because

(54:35):
I was willing to do the work, and I said, Okay,
if it's my fault, then I can actually go and
work on me and excuse his behavior and work on
me and this will be better and this will work out.
So I wanted it to be me all like I
really did, because I knew like he wasn't gonna take ownership,

(54:57):
he wasn't willing to do the work. So it was
if it's my fault, let it be my f fault,
because I'll go do the work to make this work.
And you know when that just never happens. It's like
when you start to elevate, it's like you hold your
hand out, but after a while you can't keep pulling
that weight because the weight makes you break.

Speaker 4 (55:17):
Yeah, the weight makes you break. And we saw you,
you know, reach your breaking point.

Speaker 3 (55:23):
But I think that that's the good thing about it,
because you're still so young and beautiful and talented. It's
like this is that's the chapter that you went through,
you know what I mean, It's not it's not your
final destination. That's the beauty about life.

Speaker 1 (55:40):
Yeah, And I think a lot of women, especially women
who have been married, who have children, you have to realize,
like it's still men out there. It's gonna look at
you and be like, look, she's a great woman, she's
the prize.

Speaker 2 (55:52):
I want her. That doesn't stop you.

Speaker 1 (55:54):
I feel like it's so many women out there who
feel like, oh I've invested so much time into this man,
into this situation.

Speaker 2 (56:00):
What am I going to do after these.

Speaker 1 (56:01):
You still don't have a redeemtion story because he didn't
deserve you in the first place.

Speaker 2 (56:06):
Yeah, And I'm grateful, you know, for the time that
we had beautiful, beautiful kids, right, And so I think too,
you know, you do want to have that family. And
maybe it's because I grew up with that. So that's
all I know. But I think even what was so
incredible with this album was that I was able to,

(56:27):
even though I'm not all the way healed, where I
was in life at that point was like just trying
to get out the bed, you know what I mean.
So I've come from a place that y'all didn't get
to see at that time, but just getting out of
the bed and trying to just get myself on to
my day, you know, to get to a destination. And
I was so grateful. Why I said all those things

(56:48):
about Dennis was because my destination was the studio at
that time. A lot of times, if you don't have
anything going on and you don't have anything to do,
you just literally it's so easy just to sulk and
to stay in the bed and be stagnant. But the
music came at such a time where I was like,
I got people waiting for me. I got people supporting me,
believing in me, pushing me, encouraging me. I got to

(57:11):
get there. Yeah. Yeah, and that's what that's in my
life job.

Speaker 3 (57:16):
I think a lot of times we don't give ourselves
grace either. We feel like, oh my gosh, I have
to Sometimes you got to have those days where you
don't get out of bere Sometimes you have to have
those days where you can't show up. But I always
say this, even if, like today, I wake up and
I only improved half a percent, Hey, that's.

Speaker 2 (57:33):
Better than yes, okay, better than nothing. It's better than nothing.
I agree. Look if I got up and I went
to the bathroom and took a shower.

Speaker 4 (57:43):
Because I didn't take a shower yesterday, you know what
I'm saying.

Speaker 2 (57:46):
Absolutely, And because like I said.

Speaker 3 (57:49):
Like, I'm so glad to have this moment and really
talk to you and understand, because I think sometimes we
lose that because I'm just tuning in every week for
the tea.

Speaker 4 (57:59):
But we do forget. Like you said, y'all were married
for ten years. Yeah, there was so much before the
show that we didn't see for sure, you know what
I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (58:08):
So I even think me as a consumer, I needed
to hear this somehow, but I'd be like, dro come on, girl,
kick about.

Speaker 2 (58:14):
So this is this? You know, we filmed for what
you know, three four months, and you guys are getting
like five minutes of my life in every episode. You're
getting like five minutes, so you're not seeing all the
caveats and all of the minute details. And like I said,
the best that I can do is show up as myself.
But you know, storyline goes for if entertainment goes for
the negativity and drama, of course, But I think why

(58:37):
I came, you know, is to show that human side
that you may not always get every Sunday, Yeah, for sure.

Speaker 1 (58:44):
And I think even with us, like we're we don't
have kids yet, we're not married yet, so even sometimes
it's a struggle for us with things that we go through,
like getting up out to be hearing and on with
our life every day.

Speaker 4 (58:56):
So whut else to you?

Speaker 2 (58:59):
All of the mother you have to still be there
for the little people. I don't want to see them
to see me crying because and then I do know
my kids feel my energy, so not even just the tears,
but just the energy and making sure they're good. Which
there was a scene that just dropped that's coming on
next week where I have a conversation with my mom

(59:21):
because she notices that, you know, And that's like the
most heart wrenching thing as a parent. Mom, Like, you
want your kids to be good, even if I'm not.
I just want y'all to be good, And so to
know that they may be dealing with some things, it's
like that's why you try and fight so her to
keep the family together. But then it's like, at one point,
is it a detriment to them to see us like

(59:41):
this time?

Speaker 1 (59:43):
And then probably trying to figure out that balance of
like y'all going through this process and you being upset
with him but not letting them feel that or not
wanting them to feel different about.

Speaker 2 (59:52):
Right, because we did tell them, so people didn't get
a chance to understand this. But when he moved into
the base when we got the court order, we said, Okay,
Daddy's moving in the basement to give mommy more space
in the closet and he can focus more on his
work being down there, you know, And so they were excited.

(01:00:13):
They were like, surprise, mommy, look at what daddy did
for you. So even to that effect, you know, we've
tried to keep it as normal as possible, but also
in the court order, we're not to tell them right now. Unfortunately,
we talked about it on the show, but we thought
our divorce would be final by now, you know, or
we would have been able to share this with them.

(01:00:34):
So you know, we're just trying to manage the internet
access and do the best we can because following a
court order, you have to follow or you're in contempt,
you know, Like I tell people all the time, if
y'all are in a relationship or married going through a divorce,
try to mediate amongst each other. If y'all don't take
nothing else from me, oh my god, the amount of money,
you'll say, and the time, because we could have wrapped

(01:00:57):
this thing up, you know what I'm saying. But letting
the court have their way is not the way.

Speaker 4 (01:01:03):
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Speaker 2 (01:01:04):
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Speaker 3 (01:01:08):
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Speaker 2 (01:01:50):
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Speaker 4 (01:01:52):
We love to some more. A small business man.

Speaker 1 (01:01:54):
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Speaker 4 (01:02:02):
Imagine. Yeah, but I do.

Speaker 3 (01:02:04):
Because that brings us to our first topic, because we
wanted to talk about, like, do you feel like the
reality of reality TV? Like are y'all being set up
to feel though? Because like you said, the producers are
not y'all's friends. Typically they're there to, like, you know,
do a little one two. So do you feel like
they're setting y'all up for like the drama for the moments.

(01:02:26):
So do you feel like they're setting y'all up for
these moments to fight or they're not trying to be
helpful because you know, we see it's a lot of
negative reality TV out right now, if we're being honest,
Like I feel like one thing I do respect about
Housewives outside of portion when she drug Kenya at time,
they don't really they don't let y'all don't really get.

Speaker 4 (01:02:47):
To the point of throwing hands.

Speaker 2 (01:02:49):
Oh gosh, no, you know, y'all don't fight, you know
what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:02:51):
But reality TV, like they want to see people fighting,
they want to see the threat the drinks thrown. Like,
do y'all remember when Jennifer from Basketball Wives through that
drinking Eric her ex husband came and threw that drinking
her face, Like I mean, it.

Speaker 2 (01:03:06):
Was just like but drinking princess.

Speaker 3 (01:03:12):
But you have to realize, like moments like this is
like I hate to say, but it's kind of like abusive,
you know, like you know, see people hit on each other.
So do y'all feel like women are held to a
different standard than like the men are, because like if
a man has a moment, it's like, oh my gosh,
ha than a woman, it's like, oh, she's ghetto, she's trashy,
but they set y'all up for that.

Speaker 2 (01:03:31):
M Yeah, I think it's always different standards, Like with
women versus men, it's always going to be different. And
it's just men, you know, they release their emotions by
going to the gym and releasing some sort of physical
energy where women are internal Biblically, we were from the
inner So I think just naturally, you know, we react

(01:03:52):
very emotionally and that's fine. That's the difference in men
and women. So I think for women, we could use
our vocabulary, we can use our vernacular, we can go
toe to toe, and I think it's unfortunate when we
have to get to that point. I think when we
get to that point, we need to reevaluate our trauma level,
our response levels. So I mean, I'm not gonna lie.
My first season, I did lunch LaToya. Oh yeah, I'm

(01:04:15):
not gonna sit up here. I'm not saying nothing. I
ain't you know what I mean. Like she got me
to that much, she said, Carol, I think the security
like jumped on me. Yes, you do find yourself in
that situation where listen, I got a lot going on
at home, try me, and that's where we came to
happy to say, now we are really good friends, No are.

(01:04:37):
She is literally like my village right now, Like my
kids were with her on Easter, Oh my god, and
her kids come over and spend the night and vice versa.
So yeah, you know what I'm saying. So it's great
when as girl women we can turn that thing around,
but you know, sometimes it just goes down like that.

Speaker 1 (01:04:54):
Do you do you feel like you have been fairly
portrayed on the show that you and do you feel
like it's ever been like they've ever portrayed you to
be more dramatic than the situation really was.

Speaker 2 (01:05:07):
Oh yeah, yeah. You know, like I said, they're catching
a lot of film and you know, we gotta tell
a story and you gotta edit it down. So I
feel like, yeah, you don't always get the true one
hundred percent essence of everything, and so it can be perceived.
But I feel like, honestly, people that see me see me,

(01:05:28):
and after four years, I think people kind of know me.
They'd be like, Okay, Drew crazy, Okay, Drew, shut up,
you talk too much like they know me, and I'm like, Okay,
I know my own quirk, and I think now the
fans are getting a chance to see the good and
the band and the ugly. And I said, that's why
I signed up. I'm not perfect. You know, you guys
are definitely gonna see me make mistakes and apologize and
be you know, but I'm dealing with a lot of life.

(01:05:50):
I think on the show, a lot of people talk
about what they're dealing with, but y'all actually in my
story see it.

Speaker 3 (01:05:56):
And I will say, like the Nashville scene when y'all
are at the dinner table and you were trying to
be open and then like Porscha kind of like shut
it down, and you were like, all right, I'm gone. Yeah,
cause one thing about you, you're gonna walk out the
room and be like I'm done.

Speaker 2 (01:06:09):
I'm not what is it? What else?

Speaker 4 (01:06:11):
Like I'm removing myself from the situation. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:06:13):
I think that was the smartest thing to do. And
I noticed a lot you do that this season.

Speaker 2 (01:06:19):
You're like, hey, protect my peace.

Speaker 3 (01:06:21):
Yes, you have been protecting your piece this season, and
I think that's important for people to notice, Like, you know,
you're like, hey, I came to Nashville. Now, I will say,
I know Angela invited you, But I do wish why
you didn't call Porsche and just be like, hey, Angela
invited me.

Speaker 4 (01:06:39):
I just want to make sure it's okay that I come.

Speaker 2 (01:06:42):
You did you did? Let me say, okay, I was blocked. Okay,
Like it's to certain things that I'm like, oh, I
just want y'all to know, you know, the girl blocked me.
I was blocked. Okay, Hey, she blocked me on social
media and she blocked me in real life. Oh so
they're her messages that I guess she didn't see. There

(01:07:04):
were things that I didn't want to do that I
didn't feel like I should be a certain places.

Speaker 4 (01:07:09):
But production, of course they gotta do the But is
it me?

Speaker 2 (01:07:13):
It feels like y'all for making her show up? But
is it neither?

Speaker 1 (01:07:17):
Just feels like if y'all are already having an issue
and y'all already not getting along, why do you need
to ask her?

Speaker 2 (01:07:23):
Can you go somewhere?

Speaker 3 (01:07:25):
Well, it was for her birthday. They went to Nashville
for her birthday, and Angela and Drew our friends, and
it was like, well, I want Drew to come so
y'all can work everything out.

Speaker 2 (01:07:36):
Sounds good, fine, but still why does she need to
take sports to.

Speaker 3 (01:07:40):
Be like, Hey, I'm coming to Nashville and I just
want to make sure it's cool because this is your
birthday trip.

Speaker 2 (01:07:47):
Well, I'm not gonna say I text her. I'm not
gonna say that I did that, but there were messages
that I was sending to her that I was blocked. Okay.
So for that reason, it was just like okay, and
and y'all saw me try to go and have a
conversation as a gro woman, yes, a few times, and
it's like, at a certain point, girl, we're not gonna
talk about it because as girlfriends as y'all are, like,

(01:08:11):
hold my feet to the fire, you know, get me together.
If I did something wrong, tell me I did you wrong,
Let's talk about it. So I feel like maybe we
weren't the friends that I thought we were, because a
real one would have like called me and said something,
especially when we were talking and having multiple conversations and
texting and everything was all good. So I just felt like,
in this instance, okay, I'm gonna just go along, you

(01:08:33):
know what I mean at this point, But at a
certain point, because y'all saw me go to court the
day before, it was a lot going on in my
personal life that I was like, you know what, I've tried.
I've tried, I've tried. I asked everybody, do y'all have
a problem with me? Because I'm the type of girl
that's like, y'all can do all this cute stuff and
confessionals and y'all can say all this in your little
scenes that I'm not there and y'all bringing my name up,

(01:08:53):
but now I'm here, tell me to my face. And
because no one did say what you're saying is stand
doing And the fact that nobody did, I was like, okay,
was that only thing then? Because I know you guys
have been talking amongst each other, but if we're not
gonna have a real conversation, I kind of tend to
lean into like real girls that's like I just you know.

Speaker 4 (01:09:12):
What I mean.

Speaker 3 (01:09:13):
And everybody keeps being like, well this her baby daddy,
and City is like, well, because if anybody did.

Speaker 4 (01:09:18):
This with Leon, first of all, it's Leon, I get it.

Speaker 2 (01:09:21):
Well, what's wrong what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:09:24):
No, I'm agreeing because if anybody is outside with Leon
and Leon is my baby daddy, I'm gonna be mad too.

Speaker 4 (01:09:30):
I'm protecting Leon. That's what I'm saying.

Speaker 1 (01:09:32):
You would be mad if you not, if you mind
a baby daddy not together no more, you will be
mad at somebody outside.

Speaker 4 (01:09:37):
Daddy is Leon, That's what I'm saying. Leon, Your baby
daddy is did it. There's no shade to Didnis. But
we love this guynis but you and it's about work. Honestly,
Drew did not do nothing wrong.

Speaker 2 (01:09:54):
So let me say this so much so I played
the love interest to Leon in a player. So I
was like Cynthia, like I have literally like worked with
your baby daddy and even man Yetta, and I know,
like I've done music with Neo, and I did a
movie with Tie. Okay, I just did another movie with Tie,

(01:10:15):
you know. I mean, I'm a professional. I'm the girl
that works and I'm not judging nobody how they get
their money. But I'm just the girly that has been
working my whole life. And that's how I take care
of myself. So if you had a bag, all right,
you know, And I'm the sister like I'm the friend.
I'm not the friend that you can't trust a girl.
You are the friend trust you know what?

Speaker 3 (01:10:37):
Because Okay, now, like I said y'all know I love
Porsia down, but you know, and it's what's a little
funny in the light because I get it though, But
you have to realize a lot of times people project,
so when you've done something to somebody that may not
be you know, with the falling situation with Simon, sometimes you.

Speaker 2 (01:10:57):
Feel like everybody else trying to do that to you.
Look they not like us. We don't get like that.
But I'm not her. Yeah, you know so I.

Speaker 3 (01:11:07):
I love Porscha. You know, I love Porsche like I
am a Porsche staying. So it has been a hard wash.

Speaker 2 (01:11:13):
I'm sure it has been. Bro it has because I
love her down and let me tell you, Porscha has
been my girl. Yes, like I'm telling you we were
talking now, but she was living her best African princess life.
We ain't hear from her. Okay, she was not with
the girls. I'm not that is a mood red copper

(01:11:33):
rock in that hole. But you should still hit your
girls up though you shouldn't just go in. But at
the same time, I was like, girl, Olivia, life, were
happy for you, but don't come back on the bullshit.
That's all I'm saying is like, come back and catch
up with us and see what's been going on. Because
if I'm reaching out and I'm reaching out, I'm reaching
out and you're too busy for me, then you can't

(01:11:53):
possibly have a problem. But like I said, the timing
of when our conversation happened is the timing of it.
But I was like, no, we're gonna have this conversation
like and we did. And that was the point that
I was making. We had a conversation. There was no
issue or the record. I want to put it out there.
She was good, which good, and so that's why I

(01:12:14):
still got like, I love Portche that was my friend.
But you also have to see where people are at
and let them be there and leave them there.

Speaker 4 (01:12:22):
Where shall's relationship at today.

Speaker 2 (01:12:25):
Non existent, there is no relationship, you know. I think
she showed me a couple of times who she is,
and she has showed the world who she is, and
I think we're seeing that also with her. Listen, if
you treat your childhood best friend the way you treating her,
what I expect, reconcile portion needs to again, like all

(01:12:50):
of us, you need to work on yourself. You need
to apologize for some things. And you need to learn
how to be a friend. And it's just very simple
and really like, I hate to see what's happening with
her and Shmiah because let's face that they were friends
in childhood, so I can't really expect her to do
right by me if she's not doing right by a
good friend.

Speaker 3 (01:13:11):
So on my channel love XP, I've been watching. I
review every single episode. I literally break down episode and
episode one. When she showed up late, I said, watch
what's gonna happen. I don't know what's gonna happen. I
can sense it. I don't know what it is about me.
I have, like I think, because I grew up on
reality TV and mess I have a sixth sense when

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it comes.

Speaker 2 (01:13:34):
To where shit goes. Yeah, I peeped it. I said,
watch what they do.

Speaker 4 (01:13:38):
I said, something is gonna happen between Shami and Porsche.

Speaker 1 (01:13:41):
But the thing is, like, I hate when people say
watch what they do, though, because sometimes production do be
being messy. No, that's why when I'm a production That's
what I'm saying. Sometimes production do be being messy, but
they can only sometimes work with what they gave.

Speaker 2 (01:13:56):
And I feel like in that specific situation, like if
it had been my friend. You knew when the party
was and you know how you land the traffic keys
And I'm not showing up the party. I'm not trying
to get I mean trouble.

Speaker 1 (01:14:10):
But the thing gets fifteen minutes, twenty minutes cool, I
can understand that's traffic time.

Speaker 2 (01:14:14):
Yeah, fifteen to twenty minutes cool.

Speaker 4 (01:14:17):
Two hours, Yeah, that's a lot.

Speaker 2 (01:14:19):
And then we're having a moment.

Speaker 1 (01:14:22):
The cameras are out, everybody's paying at tensh like this
is the highlight of the.

Speaker 2 (01:14:26):
Party, this one. You want to walk up to me
and hug me. I not right now.

Speaker 3 (01:14:31):
So what are some like because we talk about red
flags and relationship, what are like red flags and French?

Speaker 2 (01:14:36):
That's one because you're making a moment about you about me.

Speaker 4 (01:14:40):
Yeah I agree with that.

Speaker 2 (01:14:42):
Yeah, I mean and Shmia did talk about that you Angela,
and I like the many instances that she felt like
por she didn't show up as a friend. I feel like,
you know, as a girl code like like I said before,
tell me when I'm wrong, like call me out, hold
me to the fire, because we gotta both be great
out in this world. And I'm counting on you to
help me to you know, stay on point. I feel like,

(01:15:06):
you know, noticing your girl's worth and letting her get
the light, letting her shine, because when you shine, I shine.
It just can't always be me. Yep, Like we all
got to be bad together. So I kind of have
seen that over the years because as we're seeing Shamia's life,
we're like, wait a minute, and let me install a

(01:15:28):
little ac at an airport.

Speaker 3 (01:15:31):
But but I'm glad that you said that because I
think that's important in friendship as well. Since we are
talking about that, I think that we have watched Shamiah
be a supporting character for Porsche.

Speaker 2 (01:15:45):
For all these years.

Speaker 3 (01:15:47):
So now when it was like kind of Porsche's turn,
because I felt like in the first like half of
the season, well, I would say the first few episodes
maybe like episode one through like six or seven, Shamia
was like the lead, you know what I'm saying, Like
Shamilah was the person you know that they were. She
was kind of connecting all the friends. All the moments
were at her house. So I felt like that was
a good moment for Portia to be like, you know what,

(01:16:09):
let me support her.

Speaker 4 (01:16:11):
You know.

Speaker 2 (01:16:11):
Yeah, I think that it didn't play that way. And
that's why I say the reality that y'all see is real,
because even with Shemiah coming out so strongly, I think
true character starts to settle in and really let you
see as I refer to her as a lab dog.
Oh you know, it is what it is. Love Shemiah.

(01:16:34):
She's talented all of those things. She really is that girl.
But I want her to see she's that girl. So,
like I said, I'm really being a friend ofsh Shmia
by saying, girl, you being a lab dog right now,
Like I need you to stand on something that you
believe in. And I think she's just gotten used to
being in that shadow and it's time for her to
step out.

Speaker 3 (01:16:52):
When I tell you, Shamia has been so entertaining and
I've loved her breakout thought.

Speaker 4 (01:16:56):
I have never I'm not gonna lie to you.

Speaker 3 (01:16:58):
I never paid attention to Shmia, like if I'm being honest,
but I was like, when they gave her a peach,
I'm like, why are they now giving her a peach?

Speaker 4 (01:17:06):
And we have been waiting for the return of Housewives
for so.

Speaker 3 (01:17:09):
Long, so I'm like, oh lord, but when I love
Shamia down, I have been entertained.

Speaker 4 (01:17:14):
I said, honey and that man love her down.

Speaker 2 (01:17:18):
I love you to.

Speaker 3 (01:17:19):
They show like her journey with her children and trying
to do a Syria. I'm like, that's the stuff that
we need to see in reality TV. We need to
see what black women go through, you know, even in
your divorce or being a wife and holding it down
but still having your own career, like Shmiah has job.

Speaker 1 (01:17:35):
And that's what I was gonna say. In no shape,
we need to see house why. You know when you
got on the show, you was a house white.

Speaker 4 (01:17:43):
Yeah. Yeah, Like I feel like we're kind of missing
no the house what everybody this season is a wife
or this season?

Speaker 2 (01:17:51):
Yeah, but I feel like for a while because.

Speaker 3 (01:17:53):
Kelly is divorced, so she's the housewife, Angela is married,
Porstia's divorce twice. Uh No, I was just saying she
has been, Drew was going through a divorce. Who else
we got?

Speaker 2 (01:18:05):
But I'm just saying, Brit Yeah, me and y'all known
Brit sound like that, y'all don so.

Speaker 4 (01:18:16):
Like, how do y'all feel watching that and hearing that?

Speaker 2 (01:18:18):
I just want to know from you because I've been
listening to it four a year. I mean I've been
listening to it for a year. But how do y'all
feel about it? Because it's new for y'all's ears.

Speaker 3 (01:18:25):
I what, Okay, I'll say this, and you know I'm
trying because one thing about it.

Speaker 4 (01:18:32):
I'll give everybody a fair chance.

Speaker 3 (01:18:34):
So whenever when the new girls came in, Kelly, Angela
and Britt, I was like, okay, let me give him
a fair Angela is that girl?

Speaker 2 (01:18:44):
Oh? She shot down.

Speaker 3 (01:18:47):
That that was the addition we needed. Kelly does a
good job. She asks her a little, you know her one.
It was something that Kelly did that I didn't like recently,
and I can't think of it.

Speaker 4 (01:18:57):
I'm gonna think of anything she said.

Speaker 2 (01:19:00):
She kept me.

Speaker 4 (01:19:00):
It was like a couple of months show and a
little and it's like, hold on, Kelly, hold on.

Speaker 2 (01:19:06):
But I do like her little too. I watch you
know she wanted a camera time. Yeah, that's a little
thirsty with It was like she.

Speaker 3 (01:19:13):
Threw something that Angela that Britt was trying to serve
to Angela and it was like, you didn't need to
speak up in that moment.

Speaker 2 (01:19:18):
I mean even in the situation where she brought up
Porsche and he just.

Speaker 4 (01:19:22):
Wasn't Why did you sleep without her.

Speaker 2 (01:19:24):
Why did you shut up?

Speaker 4 (01:19:26):
Because I seen a picture of your husband, that ex
husband looking like a.

Speaker 2 (01:19:32):
We sent it. But I do like.

Speaker 4 (01:19:37):
About Britt. I don't know what it is.

Speaker 3 (01:19:39):
I've been trying every episode. Y'all know, if y'all watch
Love XP, I'll be on her every episode.

Speaker 2 (01:19:44):
I I can't get with that. I can't get with it.

Speaker 4 (01:19:49):
For me, it's it's a hard lesson because your angela
because what I.

Speaker 2 (01:19:55):
Said was this written act, miss is sending right, You're
like ten for ten right now in my book.

Speaker 4 (01:20:02):
I'm telling you, I'm gonna get you an agent.

Speaker 2 (01:20:03):
I'm help me out because I'm living for all of these.

Speaker 4 (01:20:07):
Kenya was one hundred percent wrong for that.

Speaker 2 (01:20:09):
I don't agree that she did that at all. However,
it's not like whatever the legal claims were. Ye like
me right. If it lives on the internet, then it's
it's it is a little different, but I will say
it was just focused on the wrong thing. And he
is out. They talk about.

Speaker 4 (01:20:26):
Insurance scams, that's the tea we all sucked Dick before.

Speaker 3 (01:20:31):
I don't care about brit sucking Dick. I want to
see the insurance tea. And I think if Kenya would
have focused on that.

Speaker 4 (01:20:39):
That would have been a moment. That would have been
a moment. That's some hot tea. Because you want to
talking about my insurance company I have with my sisters.

Speaker 2 (01:20:47):
And you want to do that, I want to talk
about that. Yeah, we should have talked about that.

Speaker 4 (01:20:52):
I mean, dick sucking is dick sucking? Baby?

Speaker 2 (01:20:53):
Well?

Speaker 4 (01:20:54):
We all to put a little ball in the mouth now,
you know, but I'm trying it nearly did.

Speaker 2 (01:21:00):
My thing is stand on it so angry. If there's
something that we all Yeah, that was the that was
the thing we all have had to answer to something.
You got to know what coming on shows like Housewives,
it's going you're gonna come home. Absolutely.

Speaker 4 (01:21:16):
Let me ask you this when y'all went to the
brunch that day the brunch and brit said something and
it wasn't funny, but you kept saying you are so funny.
Were you being sarcastic?

Speaker 2 (01:21:25):
Of course?

Speaker 4 (01:21:26):
Get me because I was like because I was like, Dree,
it wasn't that funny.

Speaker 2 (01:21:31):
Why did you laugh? It was funny to me because
she was actually saying one of Kenny King Okay iconic lines.

Speaker 4 (01:21:36):
You were like you were funny.

Speaker 2 (01:21:38):
I was like, wow, because I'm like, now you want
to be her? Oh got like, girl, you you're trying
to get a moment her iconic line because.

Speaker 4 (01:21:46):
You were saying you're so funny, but you weren't laughing,
So I'm like, was it really funny?

Speaker 2 (01:21:50):
Is she really laughing? The obsession? It was obsession, okay,
like you wanted this girl gone, but now you're using
because she used her iconic and taglines like a couple
of roll or s whirl on and I didn't send
for years. Yeah. At the Peace Brunch, it was just like,
you're so mad about this girl that obviously you live for.
So it's comical to me, yes, okay, that that energy

(01:22:13):
is coming because it's giving obsession.

Speaker 4 (01:22:14):
Okay yes. Because the way it was edited, I'm like,
I couldn't tell whose side you was on.

Speaker 2 (01:22:19):
No, No, I ride from a girl, but I was like,
my energy the whole time was like who are you?

Speaker 4 (01:22:24):
So?

Speaker 2 (01:22:25):
Now are you Kenya? Like that's what I was like,
Oh you're a Kenya fan.

Speaker 3 (01:22:30):
Yay, because I'm not gonna lie that moment at Angela's dinner,
what are you talking about? Kenya was really paying her
in dust and she was like, I'll go to the
car and whatever.

Speaker 2 (01:22:42):
She said, get block, gonna get that? Peace said, hold
on fifty, can we talk about that? Because what they
say she need to be on Loving hip hop franchise?

Speaker 4 (01:22:54):
Because what are you talking about? I'll go get my
gun and pistol whip you what Kenya do? Was there
anything that was edited out? Because I was so confused
in that moment?

Speaker 2 (01:23:05):
Girl, let me tell you, we were all confused. Okay,
Like I will give it to Kenya. In that moment,
she was doing a great job playing dust. Okay, I'm
sorry paying us doing a great job paying dust because
she just wasn't giving her energy. And I think that
was what riled written up so much, is that she
couldn't get the energy she was looking for. So she

(01:23:28):
went to a new level, which was like the threats
of a weapon. And we were like, you know, like
that's something in my four years I've never experienced, I've
never seen, I've never heard. So I was like, girl,
we fight with our words, not with like literal do
we gotta have like X ray machines when we come
to work? Yeah, like you gotta check purses and bags
like that is a new low. So I just felt

(01:23:50):
like that was where it started. For Kenya, she didn't
feel protected because you go to anybody's job and they
threaten you with a weapon. You can't even get on
airplane airport. Yeah you can play those games. Yeah, you're
on the no fly list.

Speaker 4 (01:24:05):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:24:06):
So for you to say it so casually and open
and calm me and like this is your norm, it did,
you know, caution people? And I think for Kenya she
just didn't feel protected.

Speaker 4 (01:24:16):
Yeah, you know, I think they did kind of like
brush it under the rug, I will say, because do
I think that britt would really do that.

Speaker 5 (01:24:24):
No.

Speaker 4 (01:24:24):
But at the same time, you can't just say things
and have But.

Speaker 2 (01:24:28):
Then Portia had her back d N D D What
when when they have a situations? Yeah, didn't she get
in her card? Ken you got yeah, That's what I'm saying. Yeah,
and then she didn't have a back lad.

Speaker 3 (01:24:41):
Well yeah, well, I will say, like I said in
that moment of Kenya opening up her salon and you're saying,
this is for your daughters, and then you hold up
a picture of a woman giving fillatio or allegedly allegedly.

Speaker 4 (01:24:55):
And I told you I an't love lex p who
who the dick belonged to?

Speaker 2 (01:25:00):
But the thing is, you didn't hear who it was.
I was there, but I'm trying to see if you
know I was there. Oh, everybody said that. Everybody was
You saw my lips, I think, so, oh, we know him.

Speaker 4 (01:25:17):
I know. That's why I didn't. So when my editor
cut a clip from the show, I said, I'm not
posting this on my page.

Speaker 3 (01:25:24):
It's still on the episode. But I was like, I'm
not posting on the page because he followed me. You
do follow But yes, that's what they said, allegedly because
I said she been outside, she's.

Speaker 2 (01:25:33):
Been in Atlanta for a long SI. She was like,
I was a video vixy.

Speaker 4 (01:25:38):
I did this.

Speaker 2 (01:25:38):
I did that. She was like moving around. But everybody
that was there saw the poster boards obviously, were they
really that bad?

Speaker 4 (01:25:48):
Like what was on the poster board?

Speaker 2 (01:25:49):
If you can say, it was interesting because I was like,
is this a I Okay, For a while, I was like,
I think this might be AI because the face was different.
It was a different face, so like, I don't know
when these pictures were taken, but I didn't know what
to think because I'm like, maybe these are just I
was hoping it was Ai, and we don't know, and
I don't know if we'll ever know, but I just
feel like, you know, this was her moment, and it

(01:26:11):
was a huge moment that she should have taken for
herself because that's how you just should have been, you
know what I mean, take your moment. She is the
Kenya more. Okay, So I just was disappointed in how
my girl handled it. But I will say I think
that women need to get together and iron out their
issues amongst each other, and so I wish there was

(01:26:33):
that opportunity for them to hash it out. I don't
think it's good for us to come on this platform
and run and try to sue people and call in
and taping for help. I have been through so much
and accused of so much and drug through the mud
that I myself, by myself, had to stand on and
stand you know, up to to clear my name and

(01:26:53):
fight through which I could say, when you do it,
it's so healthy because like I'm now cordial and on
the other side, I said, Toya charae, it's like we
have to as women go through things. And I just
hate that Kenya didn't get that opportunity to, you know,
deal with britt and they hopefully maybe resolve.

Speaker 3 (01:27:10):
It or just be like me and Porsche, we just coexist.
No exists, right, but you and Kingy are still friends.

Speaker 2 (01:27:15):
That's my girl.

Speaker 3 (01:27:16):
Can you confirm or deny? Is it true that Meanlee
is the one that sent her that tea? Because that's
what they're saying that Meinglee was the one that gave
her that tea about Bride.

Speaker 2 (01:27:25):
I don't know that. I don't know that because I
always said I wished Kenya would have like called me
and told me this was what she was gonna do,
because I would have been like, no, no, no, But
she didn't tell anybody where she got that tea from. No,
and that she was even gonna do this, you know
what I mean? Like we talk and I'm like, girl,
you didn't even tell me, like this was about to

(01:27:47):
go down because me was a nine that.

Speaker 3 (01:27:49):
But Britt was saying like you were the one that
gave her this tease, like they was going back and
forth on INSTAGRAMO.

Speaker 2 (01:27:56):
You know, you know you be hearing everything I didn't.
I did not hear that. I did not know that
to be true. Yeah, she told me. What Kenny has
told me is that she found it online.

Speaker 4 (01:28:07):
Okay, so she just did some research. Yeah, I found
it and she.

Speaker 2 (01:28:10):
Had a Did she say she had a private as Yeah? So,
but the private private investigator on Real House Girls, the
resource these og they play a little different games.

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Speaker 2 (01:29:08):
What we got this week? Drail. Okay, So, with you.

Speaker 1 (01:29:11):
Being a seasoned actress, does acting experience ever spilled over
into your big room life?

Speaker 2 (01:29:20):
That's the topic.

Speaker 1 (01:29:21):
M M.

Speaker 2 (01:29:26):
I'm not gonna say that it doesn't happen in Hollywood
because a lot of things go down. We're seeing it
right in Hollywood. I've never ever taken my on set
love interests or into my real life.

Speaker 4 (01:29:41):
It's just because that's what happened on the game though,
Like y'all shot the video.

Speaker 2 (01:29:45):
Yeah, well that was all seen that happened in real life.
Never never ever. First of all, it looks way sexier
than what it really is. Like when you're on set
and you do these scenes, these boys be really petty.
Like I remember Pooch used to purposefully like eat all
the onions and everything. That was like always God give

(01:30:07):
it to him because I gotta go do a kiss
and see with you. And he was like, oh my god.
It used to be so mad that I would have like, gum,
like don't play with me. It was more of that
because you gotta imagine we're all friends, we're having ball,
we're happy to have a job living it. It's not
at all like romantic. Once they had that music and
they slow it down, it becomes a different view. I

(01:30:29):
still remember that that was my real song. Yeah I
love that, y'all.

Speaker 4 (01:30:47):
Okay, But what are some like movie rolls or like
like like cause you know, we like to role play,
especially because you were in a relation, you were married
for a long time. So have there been ever been
like a care in a movie or something you'd be like, ooh,
I would like to play this or I would want
my partner to like play this, because I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 2 (01:31:06):
Ghost from Power.

Speaker 4 (01:31:08):
I would love to have a little scene where like
me and my man just acting like we jogging. Remember
when him and Angie was jogging and you know they
was just chasing each other.

Speaker 3 (01:31:17):
I would love to just like have a moment and
pretend like my man goes you know what I mean,
bring it to the bedroom.

Speaker 2 (01:31:24):
I think that sometimes you see somebody that's.

Speaker 4 (01:31:27):
Like like an actor or an actress, and you'd be like, Oh.

Speaker 3 (01:31:30):
Let's act this out. Have you ell ever watched a movie.
I've been like, Oh, let's play this in the bedroom.
Not driving up the mountain though I know, not driving
up the mountain.

Speaker 2 (01:31:42):
I don't know. I think the only one for me,
which I kind of like Loki had that experience, would
be Usher. Ooh you did. That's a good one. That's
it for me because like everybody else is like been
a friend of mine, like struggle together, like you slept
on my couch. Yeah, we were struggling together. So it's different.

(01:32:04):
But I feel like Usher he was my childhood crush
and like I just always loved him so much, so
I'm not gonna lie. When I went to his concert,
I was like I'm getting these cherries. Oh my god,
I did not get the cherries. I was front roll.

Speaker 3 (01:32:21):
Ticket and I was with my homegirl. He got me
front row tickets, and I was like there.

Speaker 2 (01:32:27):
He never came over like that. My god. I wanted
them cherries so bad. So I was like in the pit, Yeah,
that's it, gets in the pit.

Speaker 4 (01:32:36):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:32:36):
And then we found out like he doesn't go to
the pit. He doesn't go to the pit to do
the chair. I was like, hey, but it was a
moment in the show where he was like singing and
he was like, y'all know this song and I was like,
with my friend, we were really loud and we started
singing and he pointed to us like, okay, they rock them.
So we started having a moment. And I think that's
the moment, at least for me on my head.

Speaker 4 (01:32:57):
I was like we.

Speaker 2 (01:33:00):
Connected. And when he came to that pit, I was like,
he's like me he I don't know if he was,
but I was like and I was literally in the
pit running around trying to get So I definitely would
like love to do a movie with him and my
husband or my baby, Like you know, he's chasing me
like that. I would live for that. That would probably
be one person I would these lines. But yeah, she said,

(01:33:23):
So that's why.

Speaker 3 (01:33:24):
Hollywood ain't ready for me, because they're gonna be like, okay,
we have a scene coordinator, bitch, I don't need you
move away.

Speaker 2 (01:33:34):
What about you?

Speaker 1 (01:33:35):
So a scene or like a person either or either? Okay,
So for me, probably Uncle.

Speaker 2 (01:33:41):
Al Roy and Sugar on Friday.

Speaker 1 (01:33:46):
I what.

Speaker 2 (01:33:51):
Nasty time. I love that movie so bad right on
what and I love I just can't wait to be
like like forty five and real nasty with my nigg
you look you thirty four are real nasty. But but
they was old though they was like, you know, forty
five fifty. I can't wait to be fit and just
not give a fuck. It had a felln when my

(01:34:14):
men come home and had a wheel ready. Then we
got a little chamboo a lot the candy period dungeons.

Speaker 4 (01:34:23):
I thought that's funny because I think sex should be fun.

Speaker 1 (01:34:27):
Yes, I do think it should be fun. And like,
I don't know, I love that movie. I love that scene.
I just feel like it's so fun and it just
makes me excited to get older because I feel like
the older you get, I'm sure we can all attest
toies being in our thirties, Like the older that you get,
the more sexually what is he, the less inhibitions you have. Yeah,

(01:34:48):
it comes to having six like you just see that's
the thing.

Speaker 2 (01:34:51):
Yeah, with a husband, because I was getting that point
around like whatever you say, you know, you don't have
any like you're not guarded, You're just like so free.
So it's for me, it's that person that'll get you there,
you know what I mean.

Speaker 4 (01:35:06):
I don't think it naturally just comes to as you
get older, you're just more okay with establishing boundaries, letting
me known, Okay, I don't like these, you need to
do this, and then just even probably fantasies and things
that you have in your mind that you don't really
want to let nobody know.

Speaker 1 (01:35:23):
You become more comfortable with you as you get older.
I feel like I'm freaking out always till I.

Speaker 4 (01:35:30):
Of all the roles I thought you were gonna say,
I would not have just said down.

Speaker 2 (01:35:36):
I don't know you remind him was sure good?

Speaker 3 (01:35:38):
They always say that, Okay, Like his name they always
people always say our mom, I didn't see that. Yeah,
what's the girl's name on the upshaws? Not the daughter's friend.
It's the daughter's friend. So people always send me messages

(01:35:59):
and they say, Kim needs to play my mother.

Speaker 2 (01:36:03):
She's the grandma.

Speaker 3 (01:36:04):
I'm the mom and this little girl, no, it's her friend.
She's she's like dark skin.

Speaker 2 (01:36:11):
She's really pretty chea rosannie Zias. Let me look up
her name.

Speaker 3 (01:36:16):
Let me see what is I said the upshaws. She
used to be on Disney I think.

Speaker 4 (01:36:22):
Let me see.

Speaker 2 (01:36:26):
Daria John's this little girl.

Speaker 4 (01:36:28):
They always say that this little girl looked like me.

Speaker 2 (01:36:30):
Oh my god, I see it. They always say.

Speaker 3 (01:36:33):
So they'd be like, oh, she should play your daughter,
and then she should be the grandmother.

Speaker 2 (01:36:36):
I could see that because y'all are like unfiltered.

Speaker 4 (01:36:39):
Yeah, every time every time they cast herself, she's.

Speaker 2 (01:36:45):
Like the goofy. That's the whole show right there. Write it.
You know what I'm saying. Okay, who did you think
I was? I thought you were gonna say something like
really freaky, like is that the name? Isn't it called
something that people are like widgond of chains and like right.

Speaker 3 (01:37:03):
Yes, I'm not going to say something like fifty shades
of gray or something like you would like to do
like oh you go up to your CEO man's building there.

Speaker 2 (01:37:11):
Before act like you're applying for a job before never mind,
she had to go all the way there.

Speaker 4 (01:37:17):
She done different things that like before.

Speaker 2 (01:37:18):
That's why I'm like, wait till I'm fifty, I'm not
to be sugar. And my man would be Uncle el
Rod would be yours. Oh I'm shooting my shot.

Speaker 4 (01:37:28):
Michael B. Jordan's Oh.

Speaker 2 (01:37:33):
That centers, Yeah, he could be smoking stacks. Okay.

Speaker 1 (01:37:40):
What they had a meme that said, this is what
I talk about when I say I want a pair
of Jordan's smoking.

Speaker 2 (01:37:48):
No. Wow, he looked so good in center.

Speaker 4 (01:37:52):
Honestly, they would have been mad at me because I'm.

Speaker 2 (01:37:54):
Like, can I get bit? I want to get this
gonna be trying to give him some coochie from the top.

Speaker 4 (01:38:00):
They couldn't even get through the first forgot me. So
shout out to Michael B.

Speaker 2 (01:38:05):
Jordan's in any Yes, big mood, the big mood.

Speaker 3 (01:38:11):
Okay, So now it's time to get into the bop
a bow so bap of the week. It is the
songs that we've been jaminous. Okay, you know what I'm saying.
So of course I have to talk about your song.
I did it to me because I listened to your

(01:38:32):
album and honestly, I'm glad that you brought it up
earlier because that song stuck out to me because I
think again, we talked about it a little bit earlier.
But sometimes it's like, as women, you know, and when
a man does us wrong the first time, you know,
you're like, you don't know you Oh my gosh, I've
been bamboozled. But it's like, sometimes you have to take

(01:38:52):
accountability because if you keep forgiving somebody over and over again,
at what point do you realize, Hey, I'm breaking my
own heart, you know. So I'm glad that that was
like the title track of the album, cause I think
a lot of women can relate to that like you did.
I was like, damn, I feel that because like, honestly,
like I'm in the forgiving stage of my relationship right now. Okay,

(01:39:13):
so I'm like, honestly, if something happens again, that made
me feel good though, because I know I can walk
away with my head up and you know what I
forgave him, but this this time, this was my fault.

Speaker 4 (01:39:23):
I can take that and I can move on, and
it'll be easier just to move on because I know
what I everything.

Speaker 2 (01:39:29):
I know what I'm doing.

Speaker 4 (01:39:30):
So that's my Boba the week, juicidor.

Speaker 2 (01:39:33):
Yeah, I live day.

Speaker 4 (01:39:35):
No.

Speaker 2 (01:39:35):
I love to hear that. I can never hear that
enough because that song is so real. You really have
to know where to draw the line and be like,
I cannot keep pointing the finger. I gotta do some
work on me, you know, and get to a place
where I'm my best version of myself, so you know,
I can say all the things that you know happened
to me and what this person did, but at one point,

(01:39:57):
am I going to make sure I'm my best self
for the next person? Yes, for me and period exactly,
you know. So that was why I was like, women,
we need to take accountability because you know, we get
with our girls and they were like, you're a queen.
You didn't deserve he didn't deserve you. You didn't deserve that,
and then you live in that you get comfortable, and
I'm like, nope, cause I got to make sure that

(01:40:18):
I get to my hundred percent. And so that song
is like really deep for me because it's hard to
look at the heir and be like, girl, you is
like that like it was your fault and you was flawed,
you know what I mean, it's hard to take ownership.
But we all do play a role in the fallout
of everything in life, Like we have a part that
we play, and I think that we need to be
honest with each other. That's why I like my friends.

(01:40:39):
We keep it soa buck with each other, like no, friend,
you were wrong and we may get mad at each
other and not talk for some time, but then we
always come back together strong and that ever, it's like
you was right, and so that's what you have to
be for yourself first. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:40:52):
Absolutely, I love the account Like I said, the accountability
part is like that resonating because I'm like, you know what,
if this doesn't work out this time, I can just
blame myself and not to be mad at anybody else
and I can move on.

Speaker 2 (01:41:03):
Yeah you know so woo me want shame on you twice.

Speaker 5 (01:41:07):
Shame on men is fun in a basement, Like, hey,
I'm having to be on the upper level having you
on the upper level because I can't imagine what gonna
play this this week, what you've been jamming.

Speaker 2 (01:41:24):
My Actually, I am very much vibing with Coco Jones. Okay,
I mean I'm listening to my album because I'm a
rehearsals I'm preparing for But what's the song my favorite song?
The Coco Jones record on Site.

Speaker 3 (01:41:37):
Oh yeah, oh my god. That I was good from
starting no skips. I made that my bop of the
week the other week I made the whole album. I
just like I said, people say R and B is dead.

Speaker 2 (01:41:49):
It is a love and will look but on Site
that's my vibe.

Speaker 1 (01:41:55):
Yeah, okay, co Jones love her, love her Mine is
burning Blue by my riot the Scientists.

Speaker 2 (01:42:02):
Oh yep, I love me some. Mariah her Pin is
crazy very much. Yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:42:10):
I think it's so weird how it's like, how did
you know I'm going through this? It's like she knows
what to put out at the right time.

Speaker 2 (01:42:16):
I'm always you.

Speaker 3 (01:42:18):
Know, who would do a good joint to her in
Summer Walker. That would be such an amazing tour, and.

Speaker 2 (01:42:25):
Summer is about to go on to it right now? Right? Yeah?
I think so, I thought, Maria. Yeah, y'all link up.
I would definitely my ticket.

Speaker 3 (01:42:32):
Yeah, that's a good song. I just put that on
my own. I posted a video on i G last night.

Speaker 1 (01:42:37):
I mean, it's been going crazy for like the past
few weeks. Keep I think it came out like at
the end of April. Oh yeah, it's been everywhere.

Speaker 2 (01:42:45):
And the video is fire too. Let's bring back creative video.
You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:42:50):
The video was really really cute. She was hitting the
Sierra dance moves and she's a stunner. So I was
like ten out of ten for the videos.

Speaker 2 (01:42:59):
Let's bring back good We need visuals, guys, we.

Speaker 4 (01:43:01):
Do need visuals. Okay, do you give good advice?

Speaker 2 (01:43:06):
I would think so, you know what I mean, because
my friends come to me for yeah, the advice all
the time.

Speaker 3 (01:43:12):
Well, look, I know I'm taking your advice when you
said we can handle it outside the court, you know,
if I get married or I gotta go through it
the please, I'm taking that limb. So now we're gonna
do our favorite segment of the show. It's called pour
your Heart Out. So people write in ask us advice,
and we give our best advice. So if you want
your question and some of the show, make sure you
email us at ask poor Minds at gmail dot com.

(01:43:33):
If you're a Patrenon member, put that in the headline
and you can skip the line. Okay, So Drea, you
gonna go first.

Speaker 2 (01:43:40):
Okay, High ladies, love you too.

Speaker 1 (01:43:43):
From the growth of the channel radiance, y'all exude and
comedy that is brought every Friday by by dropping new episodes.
So I'm watching the new episode with Queen Naja and
topic number one was do you heal in public or
in private? And I'll say heal in privy For reference,
I married my high school and I'm currently on the
other side of healing and grieving that divorce, which occurred

(01:44:04):
in twenty twenty three. Being with someone from my teenage
years to mid thirties is a long time to devote
to just one person. Yes, I tried healing in public
with drinking and suppressing my feelings by going out partying,
but it didn't hit the same as doing the actual work.
I will say that it's best to heal in private
so that you'll heal the root of the issue to

(01:44:24):
ensure you don't bleed onto the next guy who never
cuts you. With therapy, fasting, journaling, exercise, and getting to
know myself outside of wife, I'm regaining my confidence and
getting back to feeling like me. Lex Any pointers on
dusting yourself off and trying again as a certified love girl, Drea,

(01:44:44):
any advice on saying consistent in the gym after you
see progress? Keep up the great work, ladies. If Poor
Mind's ever has a dating event, I'd be interested. The
divorce was traumatic, but now I'm triumphant and ready to mingle.

Speaker 4 (01:44:59):
So we'll go to you first, Yes, because you know.

Speaker 2 (01:45:02):
Because I feel like you could give her some good
since you're.

Speaker 3 (01:45:05):
Going through a divorce and healing publicly versus private, like
the things you're doing in private that you probably don't
talk about.

Speaker 2 (01:45:12):
Yeah, I mean I feel like for me and I
was just talking to one of my girlfriends last night
because I'm a person that kind of retreats to self
and goes into my shell, whereas my friends were like
showing up to my house and like calling me and
wanting to be there for me. And at that time,
I was like, I just need to be with self

(01:45:34):
because you have to quiet the noise. Yeah, so I'm
not somebody that you'll see run of social media or
run to tell everything you know, because the noises will
get you in trouble. So you have to sit with
self and really hear like your voice, because your journey
is your journey you can look at the next person,
well she did this and that worked for her, or
she went that way. But like, we're all different, and

(01:45:55):
so I have to be clear on like what God
is telling me. And that only comes with sitting with
self and being and quiet. And like I said, you
guys didn't see me not being able to get out
of the bed. But during that time, there were things
that I did that I had to do by myself
when my kids were away. Turn off my phone and
just deal with me, look in the mirror, you know,

(01:46:16):
and have that real conversation, like I said, because your
friends will be like and even social media now like
you'll get thousands of like saying, girl, you was right,
and so you feel justified.

Speaker 4 (01:46:26):
But is that right?

Speaker 2 (01:46:28):
You know? Because even with my girlfriends, they were like, well,
you don't need him, you don't need him, but then
we all gonna be single, crying together, or then y'all
get in a relationship. And now I do uneless, left
my man and y'all now all happily ever after. So
it just really shows you that you have to live
your life on your path because everyone has their own
individuality and there's no one like you but you. Everyone

(01:46:50):
else is taken. So I've really had to sit down
and be honest with me. And I think that it's
important what you go through it though, to share your testimony,
you know what I mean, like to let other people know,
like listen, I did this, don't do this, you know,
and people be able to see you shining and glow up.
I think that is a blessing. So yeah, I do.

(01:47:11):
You're not gonna see me running social media like to
try to grow up in front of y'all. It's too
much pressure. But if you are on reality TV and
you do happen to see it, you know, then I
feel like I just hope that people take it as
a lesson and inspiration.

Speaker 3 (01:47:24):
Right is I like this and then take some lessons
from that. I think for me, being that I'm a
lover girl and I love love. I love falling in love.
What I had to realize was I had to get
confidence within myself. And I say that being that if
I have this, wonder every time I get in another relationship,
they get better and better because I'm learning more about myself.
Like my last situation I was in before the situation

(01:47:46):
i'm in now, like I was like, this is great,
because in that situation, I was coming out of a
long term situation and.

Speaker 2 (01:47:52):
They just get better. I have more fun every time.

Speaker 4 (01:47:56):
And so but I think that came from I don't
let these men break me.

Speaker 3 (01:48:00):
These they're inexperience and I'm gonna come across the man
that's gonna be mine forever.

Speaker 4 (01:48:05):
But until then, I'm not gonna be like, oh my gosh,
I'm never gonna love again.

Speaker 3 (01:48:08):
And no, God made me this way. He made me
somebody who was just supposed to love and be in love.
And now I do practice discernment. I don't give that
to everyone. But if the relationship that I'm in right
now doesn't work out, I'm not gonna be broken or
feel like I'm never gonna love again, because I know
I'm an amazing woman and God made me for somebody

(01:48:30):
who's gonna see that. So if it's the man i'm with, now, hey,
let's do it. And if it's not, hey, let's move on.
But that came with learning the confidence in myself and
who I am. I love that and not letting people
make me feel like I'm less than.

Speaker 2 (01:48:44):
You know that.

Speaker 4 (01:48:45):
So that's what helps me.

Speaker 2 (01:48:47):
That's why I told you I see the energy I
felt that you gave too, talking about it gets better
and better.

Speaker 4 (01:48:53):
God.

Speaker 2 (01:48:54):
Ites it does. What about your so for me?

Speaker 1 (01:48:58):
Okay, So she was asking me about I'm staying consistent
in the gym once you see the results. For me,
the results is the reason to stay consistent. It's like
once I noticed my body transforming, once I noticed how
I feel the difference in my energy, my body, how
I look in my clothes, everything like, for me, that's
a reason to stay consistent. Also for me personally, the

(01:49:19):
gym is therapy. Like when I don't get to go
to the gym, I literally don't feel like myself, Like
I feel like a part of my day is missaying,
Like I didn't get to make it to the gym
this morning because I just had a lot going on.
I wanted to work out before I came to record,
I didn't have time, and I'm just like, damn, I
gotta find the time at some point today to work out.
I think consistency. I always say this, like you're not

(01:49:42):
always going to have the motivation to do things. But
that's where discipline comes in. Okay, And you have to
think about the person that you want to be ten
years five years from now, ten years from now, twenty
years from now, And for me, that should be the
motivation to make you go to the gym, or the
discipline that you build that makes you be like, Okay,
even when I don't feel like doing this, I'm still

(01:50:03):
gonna do it because I'm thinking of the version of
me at forty years old years old. And if you
don't start building those habits right now, it gets harder
as you get older, because honestly, the younger you are,
the more energy you have. If you don't start utilizing
it right now, the older you get, girl, it's gonna
be harder. You already said you in your thirties, So
that's what I would say. I would just say, you know,

(01:50:24):
just think about the person you want to be in
ten years, five years, other person you even want to
be in your next relationship, because you might run into
a man who really into the gym, and that's gonna
be a turn on to him. The fact that like
you already have the discipline, he don't have to push
you to go. You know, that's something that I feel
like y'all could bond over.

Speaker 3 (01:50:42):
I agree, Okay, all right, all right, hey Alex Pete
Drea and Poor Mine's Crew.

Speaker 4 (01:50:49):
I have a one year old son and I'm no
longer with his father.

Speaker 3 (01:50:52):
I applied for child support when my son was three
months old, and we still haven't come to an agreement
in court.

Speaker 4 (01:50:57):
The father is playing games and not submitting.

Speaker 2 (01:50:59):
His pay stubs.

Speaker 4 (01:51:00):
Oh, so the court can't calculate the support.

Speaker 3 (01:51:03):
Obviously, It's frustrating because I know he's working under the
table and can help with something.

Speaker 4 (01:51:08):
But my current boyfriend is fed up. He's sick of
me coming home.

Speaker 3 (01:51:11):
From court upset, as he says, fucking up his pussy
for the next week.

Speaker 2 (01:51:17):
Okay, my boyfriend has helped me with the.

Speaker 3 (01:51:19):
Bills and anything the baby and I need without me
even asking, because he sees I'm struggling. He's asked me
to let the child support go and cut off communication
with my son's father because he will provide and he
doesn't seem like he's stressed and he doesn't like seeing
me stressed out. But I don't feel like it's his
problem since he's just my boyfriend. I think he needs

(01:51:40):
to stay out of it. I'm not fighting for me,
it's for my son. I know neither one of you
have kids, but what would you do. I'm trying to
hold my son's father accountable, but my current boyfriend says
I'm hindering our relationship by not allowing him to step up.
He feels like I'm begging another man for money. But
regardless of whether my boyfriend and I would work out
long run, I still need to secure another source of

(01:52:02):
income from his father.

Speaker 4 (01:52:04):
Thank you in advance. Love y'all, Well, we'll.

Speaker 2 (01:52:06):
Let you answer this. Because you have.

Speaker 4 (01:52:10):
Girl, you are blessed to have another man want to
step up.

Speaker 2 (01:52:15):
That is rare, and it is beautiful to have a
man want of love on your child that's not his own.
You need to really evaluate what you have in your life,
like there are so many men that, as you are experiencing,
you know, don't want to take care of their own

(01:52:35):
And so I think you need to focus on that
positive because honestly, whatever you put out, you'll attract that.
So if you're fighting a fight, you're gonna just receive
a fight. But if you start to lean into building
what could possibly sound like a family with this man,
and you allow it, give it the opportunity, you might
be blown away, right, And so you don't want to

(01:52:56):
live with regret, like, ah, well I should have you know,
could have? Would you gotta take that leap of faith, honey,
and like allow that man to be not only the
financial provider, but the example in the child's life. And
you always can go to court, you know what I mean, Like,
trust me, I got the best court. Ain't going nowhere nowhere. Yeah,

(01:53:18):
Like cord Is is a it's a lot to eternalize
and deal with. So you gotta see the blessing you
have your life.

Speaker 3 (01:53:25):
And I don't believe in fighting for a man to
be a father. Why should I have to argue you
down to be a father and be present. Let a
man do what he gonna do, you know what I'm saying.
And I think, like you said, it's a blessing. Look,
I don't look. My sister probably be tired of me
talking about her business. But my sister is in a
relationship with her second child's father. They've been together for
years at this point, and you know, she's lucky to

(01:53:48):
have her first baby. Daddy of course is there, but
she had a man who came in and stepped up.
So now you know, my first nephew is blessed. He
gets two active fathers because he stepped up and he
is an amazing because they have She has a second
child too with him, so it's like he is an
amazing stepfather and amazing father like and that's rare. I

(01:54:08):
have a lot of friends and family members who have kids.
When I tell my sister, I'm like, you are so lucky,
Like he is amazing. So the fact that you have
a man that wants to step up because like you said,
me and don't even want to be there for their own.

Speaker 2 (01:54:20):
Own kids, let alone when it's not there.

Speaker 3 (01:54:23):
So I know you said it's not his business, but
if y'all in the house together and he around, embrace it.

Speaker 2 (01:54:27):
I'm also gonna give her kudos because a lot of
women will say, oh, you're not gonna take care of
my kid and expect because the man loves you right now,
you got to love my child, so I commend her
even so, I just feel like they got to whoever
you are, I feel like y'all are perfect. Shout out
Shout out to you, yes, because for you being sensitive
and like this is not your you know, responsibility, you know,

(01:54:48):
I think that should make the man he probably feels
like he wants to even do more, you know, because
you're not demanding anything. So I think you guys just
need to have a real conversation and let each other
just be yeah, be in love and be happy and
provide for each other. And who knows, y'all cauld like
have the biggest wealth and the biggest blessings and that
he gonna have to sit with his karma, right, and

(01:55:09):
he's gonna have to be able.

Speaker 3 (01:55:10):
But I always think it's so crazy when you date
somebody with the child, because how can you not love
their child?

Speaker 4 (01:55:14):
It's an extension of them.

Speaker 3 (01:55:16):
So it's like that just shows you how his character is,
because you do see that a lot when people get.

Speaker 4 (01:55:20):
In a relationships. They're like, oh, that ain't my child.
It's like, how can you do that?

Speaker 2 (01:55:25):
Like I don't understand.

Speaker 3 (01:55:26):
I don't understand that either. It's so like i'd be like,
I love that, Like you know what I'm saying. So
I think it's so crazy when so you have a
good one, you have a girl, You have a good
one girl. So, because I will say on the part
when he said fucking up his pussy for the week,
she put laughing emojis, So obviously he was saying in
a joking way, because I know how to listen yet.

Speaker 2 (01:55:45):
Leave him, girl, But I feel like I could tell.
I could tell by the context of the letter he
was playing. Yeah, he was just joking. He was joking.
Oh yes, y'all.

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Speaker 3 (01:56:13):
Yes and shout out to Rich look care for the
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mean obviously Real Housewives of Atlanta's still on TV right
now today every.

Speaker 2 (01:56:27):
Time into it all. I'm so excited because we're in
sweet sixteen, so it's a definite celebration season. Definitely look
out for me on my new TV show, Mind Your
Business on Bounce with Columbus Short. Love that because it
makes you laugh. We love to laugh. We need to laugh.
And then I have a new movie coming in theaters.

(01:56:48):
I haven't been in theaters in a minute. J'all excited.
It's coming out in September this year called Run starring myself, Ericamena,
Marcus Houston, Jordan's Erica Pinkett all star cast act in
Alien movie. I was doing like stunt work and come

(01:57:08):
on n Alien as girls died. She was getting busy
in this really really like excited to be able to
get back in my acting bag. And then the album,
of course, y'all, I did it to me. We're almost
gold Oh my god, that okay, almost Golden Stream a

(01:57:29):
few thousand away, y'all going on tour. And then of
course lips by Sodora. I have my official cherry gloss
okay from my cherry experience. All of y'all can have
the cherries. Yes, the cherries. I have some for y'all.
I'm gonna definitely give y'all. But if you didn't, you
can get my cheery lip. You know what I mean.

(01:57:50):
I know about it. So I got you.

Speaker 4 (01:57:53):
And look, if you need some background vocals when you
go to the studio, I got.

Speaker 2 (01:57:59):
If you heard it, look okay, I got have you
going on tour next? You need a background singer. You
could be in the back, you could be in the background. Honey,
I got Drew. Whatever, you gonna be there.

Speaker 4 (01:58:11):
Though you gonna be there, I'm gonna be there. I'm
gonna be on even if you don't. I'm gonna be
front row.

Speaker 2 (01:58:16):
I need you guys to be that. I was gonna say,
y'all need to come to Bravo Khan. Oh okay, so
I'm going to personally invite please give me a we
gonna you need to be there because when you said
but like we all fan out, because when I see
like Kathy Hillton, oh my god, if I say I
might pass away, you're gonna see all the celebrities are there.

Speaker 4 (01:58:38):
Okay, Vegas. Oh that ain't nothing.

Speaker 2 (01:58:41):
I love that. You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3 (01:58:44):
We're there, we outside, Oh, we're there, and we're gonna
do We're gonna do some poor Minds episodes.

Speaker 2 (01:58:50):
Girl.

Speaker 4 (01:58:51):
Yes, all right, Drew, and I'm gonna say Drew with.

Speaker 2 (01:58:53):
My ticket listen, Danny. Okay, okay, Drew.

Speaker 4 (01:58:57):
Honestly, I'm not gonna lie. I heard a lot of.

Speaker 2 (01:59:00):
Fun, really fun this one. Really. I love y'all. Hold
you in real life.

Speaker 4 (01:59:05):
Yes, that's said, because look, I'll be talking about all
y'all on my show.

Speaker 2 (01:59:10):
But not not bad ship. I'd be like, I love
me some, Drew, but but you know what being here is,
sitting here with you. We got to clear it up.
We got to clear I got all.

Speaker 4 (01:59:19):
The answers that I needed, so honestly, bar real quick,
go ahead.

Speaker 1 (01:59:23):
Always say Lacks has really really nice hands. You have
a beautiful hand.

Speaker 2 (01:59:27):
Drea is a hand first. She loves to look because
I hate my hands. They like you do, have ourselves hands. Honey, Yes,
it looks nice.

Speaker 3 (01:59:38):
Are use tretton and retinall or retting all on my hands?
Okay at night? Oh yeah, we got to take care.
Dre loves people here.

Speaker 4 (01:59:45):
She'll be looking like, oh my god, that's yes, they are.

Speaker 2 (01:59:50):
You are so silly. Well, thank you, miss Drew Soa. Y'all.

Speaker 3 (01:59:54):
Make sure y'all go check out her new album Movies
coming out soon and Real Housewives of Atlanta on Bravo.

Speaker 4 (01:59:59):
Every We'll see y'all next week.

Speaker 3 (02:00:01):
Y'all, y'all, make sure y'all share the content, like subscribe,
follow all that good stuff. And let me say this
before we close out, y'all, there is one Twitter account
that is connected to poor Minds.

Speaker 2 (02:00:14):
It's p O.

Speaker 3 (02:00:14):
You are underscore in my nds, y'all are tagging the
wrong poor Minds page. If you see at poor minds
with no underscore, that is at fake page.

Speaker 4 (02:00:24):
Do not follow that page.

Speaker 3 (02:00:25):
Okay, they block me Andrea and the poor Minds page
on both. So we only have one Instagram, one Twitter,
one TikTok.

Speaker 2 (02:00:36):
It is p o.

Speaker 4 (02:00:37):
You are underscore in my.

Speaker 1 (02:00:38):
Nds, all right, and we got a hell of fake
Facebook page on the Facebook page.

Speaker 2 (02:00:43):
It's our face.

Speaker 1 (02:00:45):
The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the
least amount of follow So if you're on Facebook, one
that's ours, y'all the least amount of file, but one that's.

Speaker 2 (02:00:53):
Not us got like two hundred.

Speaker 3 (02:00:55):
And fifty to make if you actually look at the content,
because the caption.

Speaker 4 (02:00:59):
Is like whoever it is, don't speak English. Because their captains.

Speaker 2 (02:01:02):
Are like bumba claude should men? Should men pay bill?
Should men pay bill? Yes?

Speaker 4 (02:01:08):
No check answer below block block pull off, Like that's literally.

Speaker 2 (02:01:15):
With the captions. I'm like, what that DC is? Bumba
clademba claude. H

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