# 290 Teens and Boundaries

Moms, have you ever struggled to set clear boundaries with your teen, only to be met with resistance or anger? Do you wonder how to create a space where both you and your teen feel empowered, respected, and connected? In this episode, host Colleen O'Grady dives deep into the complex but essential topic of setting boundaries with teens, featuring expert therapist Juliane Taylor Shore. They explore the emotional and psychological work required to establish boundaries that stick—boundaries that not only help teens navigate tough situations but also encourage them to trust and respect themselves and others. Julianne discusses the importance of separating feelings from actions, especially when teens are lashing out. Moms are encouraged to understand the difference between a direct request and venting, and how to maintain their own emotional integrity even when things get heated. Through real-life examples, Julianne explains the four key types of boundaries—external, psychological, containing, and physical—and how each one plays a role in creating healthy family dynamics. Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC, SEP, is a therapist, author, and teacher who is creating spaces where people can move into more self-compassion, self-trust, empowerment, and integrity. She regularly teaches and speaks to people from all around the world and translates new understandings in neurobiology into practices that can support brain change. She is the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected and Empowered. She lives in Austin, Texas with her husband, Adam, their daughter, Stella, and their rescue pointer mix, Layla. Three key takeaways from the episode include: First, setting effective boundaries is more about how we respond to our teens than controlling their behavior; it's about building trust and living into your values. Second, maintaining your own emotional well-being during difficult moments is crucial, which is why practicing self-compassion and learning to pause before reacting is essential. Finally, boundary work is often accompanied by grief as it highlights the painful but necessary process of growth—for both you and your teen. Recognizing and embracing this emotional work is a critical part of parenting through the teenage years. Find out more at https://www.julianetaylorshore.com/ Follow Juliane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/julianetaylorshore/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices