October 23, 2023 • 17 mins
One Announcement, Two Lists, and the Next Confidence Manner...
Imagine unlocking the treasure of good manners in your children and seeing them navigate the world with poise and confidence. This episode includes my favorite manners books and a character development chapter book.
Some programs mentioned in this episode include: AmericanHeritageGirls.org, TrailLifeUSA.com, Meals on Wheels, CYIA, and Teen Pact, Speech and Debate Leagues, STOA USA and NCFCA, designed for homeschooling parents keen on teaching speech, debate, and apologetic skills. We wrap up by discussing the art of maintaining attention, and teach your kids to be like a carrot, not like jello!
Some books I mentioned in this episode (they are not affiliate links):
The Berenstain Bears Forget Their Manners: Stan Berenstain, Jan Berenstain: 9780394873336 - Christianbook.com
Pinocchio's Quest, Grade 5: Robert Rogland: 9781932971118 - Christianbook.com
The Children's Book of Virtues: William J. Bennett: 9780684813530 - Christianbook.com
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val harrison (00:04):
THIS TRANSCRIPT WAS GENERATED AUTOMATICALLY AND
IS NOT EDITED.
Welcome to the PracticallySpeaking Mom podcast.
I'm Val Harrison, thePractically Speaking Mom.
I'm your fellow intentional momfriend, walking this parenting
path with you each week.
Being intentional isn't easy,but it sure is worth it.
Galatians 6-9 says let us notbecome weary in doing good, for
(00:25):
at the proper time we will reapa harvest if we do not give up.
So, my intentional parentfriend, let's get going with
more intentional right now.
Today I've got a bigannouncement.
I've got two lists for you thatI promised to give you last
time, and also we're going tolook at the next manner in a
(00:47):
lineup of manners on helping ourkids to develop confidence,
which also helps others developconfidence in them.
So let's get going.
First, I'm going to give you alist of manners books.
The first one is calledBerenstein Bears Forget their
Manners.
The second one is called AChild's Book of Manners from
(01:11):
Happy Day Books.
These first two are simple,short.
They're great for I would saythat they're great for
preschoolers, but honestly, youcan use them older than that too
.
It's how you use them.
What I liked to do was justlook at one specific page and
see that manner and then talkabout it, role play about it,
(01:32):
have them come up with scenariosof role playing, that specific
manner, not with teenagers.
By teenager years we are beyondrole playing.
And then there's two moremanners books I'm going to
recommend for the years that Iwould say younger, through
middle school, because some ofthe things in these next two
(01:53):
books are really short littlepoems about a particular manner
or their longer stories about aperson who had a different
behavior and how that resulted,what happened because they had
that behavior.
So the Children's Book ofVirtues by William J Bennett is
one of those books, and thenanother one is the Child's First
(02:18):
Steps to Virtue and that's byEmily Hunter, and all of these
will be in the show notes so youcan take a look at those there.
Now for my favorite.
This one is great forelementary through middle school
.
They will all love thisstoryline.
It is a chapter book, so youwill read one chapter at a time.
(02:40):
You wouldn't be able to read itall in one setting with your
kids.
But it's called Pinocchio'sQuest.
It's by an author with the lastname, rogland ROG L A N D.
It's published by ChristianLiberty Press.
Okay, this book is so one of myfavorites of all time because
Pinocchio makes a lot of baddecisions and gets into all
(03:03):
kinds of mischief and troubleand travels throughout the world
.
When I read it with my kids,we'd pull out a map and look at
these places in the world.
So it can be a great adventurefor your family, but also a
phenomenal source of discussionof whether to make decisions
impetuously or whether to thinkbefore we take action.
(03:27):
For example, there's lots andlots of opportunity for
discussion in there about how totreat others as well as how to
recognize when someone is takingadvantage of you.
There are people who takeadvantage of Pinocchio, and he
needs to learn how to handlethat.
What should he do about it?
And learn to recognize whenit's taking place.
(03:48):
So it's just a fabulous book forhaving discussion with our kids
, and I'm also going to mentionsomething else here Little House
on the Prairie.
I love that TV series.
Now there's a few episodes thatI don't love, but 90% of them
are a wonderful opportunity fordiscussion about different life
(04:10):
issues, about differentattitudes and approaches to
situations.
There's plenty of people inLittle House on the Prairie that
make the wrong decision andthen have the consequences to
deal with afterwards, and soit's just a fabulous way to
discuss these different goodbehavior, techniques, good often
(04:31):
, fruit to the spirit.
Do you know what the fruit tothe spirit are?
Love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness, gentleness,
faithfulness and self-controlare the different fruits of the
spirit mentioned in scripturethat our hearts develop with the
help of the Holy Spirit in ourheart, and that's one thing to
definitely mention here Wheneverwe're talking about character
(04:54):
issues with kids, we really wantto help them learn how to
partner with God in the processof maturing their heart.
That's what you're doing yourentire lifetime.
You are wanting to partner withGod in the process of growing
your heart.
We're still working on so manythings as adults, and our kids
(05:16):
are really no different.
The list in front of them ofwhat they should work on next is
different than your list, butit is the same human condition
and we want to help them learnhow to go through life growing,
and we grow best when we'repartnered with God in that
process.
So I just kind of think thatfall and winter was made for cup
(05:41):
of tea and bull's soup andLittle House on the Prairie.
So watch it with your kiddos.
Something we're watching it onright now is free with ads, so
at our house we just mute adsand sometimes we have to do more
than that.
Okay now, I also told you thatthere was going to be a big
announcement today, which I willgive next.
(06:03):
So the big announcement is Ihave been telling you that I've
been praying about how am Igoing to accomplish both getting
this book finished that I'vebeen working on my fifth book,
which is your love becomes theirstrength, answering the six
questions of your child's heartat every age.
I have been talking to you guysabout that book for two years
(06:27):
and it is so time to get it out.
But I don't have enough time toget it finished because I spend
so much time on the podcast andthe chores just life in general
is big.
So God has finally given mesome clarity on how to do this,
and that is I am going to bemoving to shorter episodes.
(06:48):
They're going to be very shortones when it's just me, and then
they'll be regular length whenI have someone on the podcast
with me.
I will still take a breakthrough the holidays, but other
than that, I'm going to keep theepisodes really short until I'm
finished with the book, andthis is going to help me to have
(07:09):
time to get that done.
Okay, let's move to the nextlist.
So I told you I'd give you alist of organizations that are
great for helping our kids haveopportunities to develop healthy
self-confidence, communicationopportunities and leadership
skill development.
(07:30):
So I mentioned last time inepisode 203, american Heritage
Girls, and the counterpart tothat is Trail Life for Boys.
They are both fantasticorganizations that I highly
recommend, so check those out.
There'll be links to all ofthese on show notes.
(07:51):
Now I asked this question in ourgroup, intentional Mom Strong
Family.
If you're not a part of thatFacebook group, I hope you'll
join in the discussions.
So I asked on there what aresome groups that people
recommend that moms on thererecommend for growing leadership
skills and communication skillsand self-confidence in our kids
(08:11):
?
And Debbie Smith, one of ourfaithful listeners and
contributors in the IntentionalMom Strong Family Facebook group
.
She had some great ideas.
She mentioned meals on wheelsand that, if you're not familiar
with that company, it's great.
So you pick a day of the weekand you deliver lunches for them
(08:31):
.
Well, I shouldn't say lunches.
You're delivering meals,because it could be a freezer
meal in the wintertime, like ifthe weather's going to be bad,
they might have you delivermultiple for the freezer, but
most of the time you'redelivering fresh meals to have
that week, and this is anopportunity for you to go to the
front door, allow your kids tosmile at someone that that is
(08:54):
newer to them.
Then, after they are used tosmiling at someone, they can
learn to greet them and sayhello, and then pretty soon it
can be Hi, how are you today?
And they can learn toexperience the joy of blessing
somebody else.
So meals on wheels helps shutins.
It could be mostly elderly, butdisabled also.
(09:17):
Okay.
Then another confidence boosterthat Debbie recommended was CYIA
, christian Youth in Actionthrough Child Evangelism
Fellowship.
So check that out.
And then she mentioned one thatI also participated in, which
is teen packed, and I've talkedabout that one before the
(09:37):
podcast.
So I don't want to jump intotime about that really, but
that's just one week a year andit happens at your state capital
and teaches your kids a lot ofgreat citizen skills as well as
communication skills.
And it is specifically forteenagers although they have a
one day thing at the end of theweek that is for the younger
(10:00):
siblings of the teenagers.
Okay, and I'm going to mentiontwo more organizations really
quick for you about leadershipand communication skills, and
these two organizations happento be homeschool specific.
As you may know, I homeschool.
I graduated six of our kidsfrom our homeschool so far, with
one more to go.
(10:21):
She's a freshman.
So I've still got three and ahalf years left of homeschooling
and I'll finish up at about 30years that I'll have
homeschooled by the time we'redone.
But I want to mention twoorganizations that are specific
to homeschoolers what is calledstowa USA, s T O A USA dot org.
(10:41):
Both of these, by the way, areChristian speech and debate
leagues.
The other one is called NCFCA.
One aspect of theseorganizations is actually
teaching your kids apologeticskills, that is, learning about
your faith and learning how tocommunicate about your faith,
understanding why you believe,what you believe, and so it is
(11:05):
really good at teaching kids howto articulate their thoughts
about their beliefs.
Okay, now I've told you that Iwould finish up today with a
manner.
So last time I talked to youguys about learning to say
someone's name and waiting untilyou have their attention before
(11:26):
you continue talking.
That that is a manner you wantto teach your kids, you know.
So you could say Emma, and thenyou wait for Emma to say yes,
mom.
So that interaction is sohelpful in getting someone's
full attention.
It's something you want yourkids to learn that manner not
just in saying yes, mom, butalso in expecting other people's
(11:49):
full attention.
And what this does is it canphase a level of confidence
which, in turn, causes otherpeople to have more confidence
in you or in your child.
Well, today I want to talk toyou about the next step of that.
So I want to talk about fullattention.
Last time we talked about themanner of saying someone's name
(12:12):
and waiting for their fullattention.
But what?
What does full attention looklike?
Full attention while someone istalking to you, it's, of course
, being involved, mentally,listening.
So I'm listening with my ears,I'm listening with my mind, I'm
listening with my body, which isfocused, turned towards the
person.
I don't have my eyes up at thesky, down at the floor, looking
(12:34):
all around.
I'm not shaking my leg ordrumming my fingers on the table
, because all of those thingsare what I would call static.
You know, if you ever listen toa radio station and you hear
this fuzzy noise that makes ithard to hear, that static, and
that static is a distractionfrom the message, and so
(12:56):
anything that we're doing thatis a distraction from the
message of the person who'stalking to us.
I'll call that static.
We don't want to have static.
It's not kind because itdistracts from the message.
It also says I don't value youand I don't value your message
and we don't want to send thatmessage.
(13:17):
So we want to honor their timeand their message by not
producing static and so we givefull attention by our mind and
our ears being engaged in whatthey're saying and the rest of
our body not being any static.
So this is something that youcan help your kids learn and,
(13:42):
again, you can just do thisthrough a little, once or twice
or three times a week, a littlemanners practice time and do
some role playing with that.
Now I also encourage especiallywhen they're old enough to
understand the which what I'mtalking about today is a little
bit older of a man or toddlers,have a harder time with this,
and I don't expect toddlers tostand like a carrot all the time
(14:06):
.
That's what I say.
Are you going to stand likecarrot?
You're going to stand likeJello.
You know Jello is like slumpedover and loosey, goosey arms and
all that.
But when I'm presenting amessage, I want to stand like a
carrot shoulders back, chin up,looking intently at my audience,
and this conveys that I haveself confidence in me and in my
(14:28):
message and therefore they canalso have confidence in me and
my message, because I do.
And so that's standing like acarrot versus standing like
Jello.
But I don't expect toddlers tostand like a carrot and, you
know, chin up, shoulders backall the time.
You know that kind of thing.
I mean.
Not, I don't expect that ofkids all the time ever, but when
(14:51):
they have a message they'retrying to get across, it is
helpful to do these things, andthey will never start doing
these things when it's importantmessages if they're not in the
habit of doing it sometime right.
So that's where practice comesin.
And anyway, I just wanted toexplain that some of the things
that I'm talking about in thismanner are a little bit older
(15:13):
than toddlers.
But this is the last thing Iwant to add to this manner, and
that is that we want to givesome.
Not, there are nonverbal thingswe don't want to do that
produce static, but there's alsosome nonverbal things we can do
that reinforces their messageand says, yes, we're on board,
and it turns us into littlecheerleaders about their message
(15:35):
, and that is a smiling andnodding our head.
Yes, like yes, I'm listening.
Oh yeah, that makes sense.
You know those nonverbal cuesof smiling and occasionally
nodding.
Let the speaker know I'm payingattention.
You've got my full attention.
I am on board with what you'resaying.
(15:56):
Hopefully that's another littlemanner that you can share with
your kids today.
And, oh my goodness, I tookmuch longer than five minutes in
doing today's podcast.
I was supposed to keep it short.
This was supposed to be my dayone of practicing short podcasts
.
I did not succeed, but I am sothankful to be doing life with
(16:18):
all of you.
We're going to wrap it up herefor today.
Next time, Val will share stepsfor helping your child overcome
negative habits, particularlythe habit of always running late
.
I don't know if it's an issuewith any of your kids, but it
has been an issue at our houseover the years.
Well, intentional parents, itis always Val's prayer that you
have received encouragement,inspiration and some practical
(16:41):
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Welcome to the PracticallySpeaking Mom podcast.
I'm Val Harrison, thePractically Speaking Mom.
I'm your fellow intentional momfriend, walking this parenting
path with you each week.
Being intentional isn't easy,but it sure is worth it.
Galatians 6-9 says let us notbecome weary in doing good, for
(00:25):
at the proper time we will reapa harvest if we do not give up.
So, my intentional parentfriend, let's get going with
more intentional right now.
Today I've got a bigannouncement.
I've got two lists for you thatI promised to give you last
time, and also we're going tolook at the next manner in a
(00:47):
lineup of manners on helping ourkids to develop confidence,
which also helps others developconfidence in them.
So let's get going.
First, I'm going to give you alist of manners books.
The first one is calledBerenstein Bears Forget their
Manners.
The second one is called AChild's Book of Manners from
(01:11):
Happy Day Books.
These first two are simple,short.
They're great for I would saythat they're great for
preschoolers, but honestly, youcan use them older than that too
.
It's how you use them.
What I liked to do was justlook at one specific page and
see that manner and then talkabout it, role play about it,
(01:32):
have them come up with scenariosof role playing, that specific
manner, not with teenagers.
By teenager years we are beyondrole playing.
And then there's two moremanners books I'm going to
recommend for the years that Iwould say younger, through
middle school, because some ofthe things in these next two
(01:53):
books are really short littlepoems about a particular manner
or their longer stories about aperson who had a different
behavior and how that resulted,what happened because they had
that behavior.
So the Children's Book ofVirtues by William J Bennett is
one of those books, and thenanother one is the Child's First
(02:18):
Steps to Virtue and that's byEmily Hunter, and all of these
will be in the show notes so youcan take a look at those there.
Now for my favorite.
This one is great forelementary through middle school
.
They will all love thisstoryline.
It is a chapter book, so youwill read one chapter at a time.
(02:40):
You wouldn't be able to read itall in one setting with your
kids.
But it's called Pinocchio'sQuest.
It's by an author with the lastname, rogland ROG L A N D.
It's published by ChristianLiberty Press.
Okay, this book is so one of myfavorites of all time because
Pinocchio makes a lot of baddecisions and gets into all
(03:03):
kinds of mischief and troubleand travels throughout the world
.
When I read it with my kids,we'd pull out a map and look at
these places in the world.
So it can be a great adventurefor your family, but also a
phenomenal source of discussionof whether to make decisions
impetuously or whether to thinkbefore we take action.
(03:27):
For example, there's lots andlots of opportunity for
discussion in there about how totreat others as well as how to
recognize when someone is takingadvantage of you.
There are people who takeadvantage of Pinocchio, and he
needs to learn how to handlethat.
What should he do about it?
And learn to recognize whenit's taking place.
(03:48):
So it's just a fabulous book forhaving discussion with our kids
, and I'm also going to mentionsomething else here Little House
on the Prairie.
I love that TV series.
Now there's a few episodes thatI don't love, but 90% of them
are a wonderful opportunity fordiscussion about different life
(04:10):
issues, about differentattitudes and approaches to
situations.
There's plenty of people inLittle House on the Prairie that
make the wrong decision andthen have the consequences to
deal with afterwards, and soit's just a fabulous way to
discuss these different goodbehavior, techniques, good often
(04:31):
, fruit to the spirit.
Do you know what the fruit tothe spirit are?
Love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness, gentleness,
faithfulness and self-controlare the different fruits of the
spirit mentioned in scripturethat our hearts develop with the
help of the Holy Spirit in ourheart, and that's one thing to
definitely mention here Wheneverwe're talking about character
(04:54):
issues with kids, we really wantto help them learn how to
partner with God in the processof maturing their heart.
That's what you're doing yourentire lifetime.
You are wanting to partner withGod in the process of growing
your heart.
We're still working on so manythings as adults, and our kids
(05:16):
are really no different.
The list in front of them ofwhat they should work on next is
different than your list, butit is the same human condition
and we want to help them learnhow to go through life growing,
and we grow best when we'repartnered with God in that
process.
So I just kind of think thatfall and winter was made for cup
(05:41):
of tea and bull's soup andLittle House on the Prairie.
So watch it with your kiddos.
Something we're watching it onright now is free with ads, so
at our house we just mute adsand sometimes we have to do more
than that.
Okay now, I also told you thatthere was going to be a big
announcement today, which I willgive next.
(06:03):
So the big announcement is Ihave been telling you that I've
been praying about how am Igoing to accomplish both getting
this book finished that I'vebeen working on my fifth book,
which is your love becomes theirstrength, answering the six
questions of your child's heartat every age.
I have been talking to you guysabout that book for two years
(06:27):
and it is so time to get it out.
But I don't have enough time toget it finished because I spend
so much time on the podcast andthe chores just life in general
is big.
So God has finally given mesome clarity on how to do this,
and that is I am going to bemoving to shorter episodes.
(06:48):
They're going to be very shortones when it's just me, and then
they'll be regular length whenI have someone on the podcast
with me.
I will still take a breakthrough the holidays, but other
than that, I'm going to keep theepisodes really short until I'm
finished with the book, andthis is going to help me to have
(07:09):
time to get that done.
Okay, let's move to the nextlist.
So I told you I'd give you alist of organizations that are
great for helping our kids haveopportunities to develop healthy
self-confidence, communicationopportunities and leadership
skill development.
(07:30):
So I mentioned last time inepisode 203, american Heritage
Girls, and the counterpart tothat is Trail Life for Boys.
They are both fantasticorganizations that I highly
recommend, so check those out.
There'll be links to all ofthese on show notes.
(07:51):
Now I asked this question in ourgroup, intentional Mom Strong
Family.
If you're not a part of thatFacebook group, I hope you'll
join in the discussions.
So I asked on there what aresome groups that people
recommend that moms on thererecommend for growing leadership
skills and communication skillsand self-confidence in our kids
(08:11):
?
And Debbie Smith, one of ourfaithful listeners and
contributors in the IntentionalMom Strong Family Facebook group
.
She had some great ideas.
She mentioned meals on wheelsand that, if you're not familiar
with that company, it's great.
So you pick a day of the weekand you deliver lunches for them
(08:31):
.
Well, I shouldn't say lunches.
You're delivering meals,because it could be a freezer
meal in the wintertime, like ifthe weather's going to be bad,
they might have you delivermultiple for the freezer, but
most of the time you'redelivering fresh meals to have
that week, and this is anopportunity for you to go to the
front door, allow your kids tosmile at someone that that is
(08:54):
newer to them.
Then, after they are used tosmiling at someone, they can
learn to greet them and sayhello, and then pretty soon it
can be Hi, how are you today?
And they can learn toexperience the joy of blessing
somebody else.
So meals on wheels helps shutins.
It could be mostly elderly, butdisabled also.
(09:17):
Okay.
Then another confidence boosterthat Debbie recommended was CYIA
, christian Youth in Actionthrough Child Evangelism
Fellowship.
So check that out.
And then she mentioned one thatI also participated in, which
is teen packed, and I've talkedabout that one before the
(09:37):
podcast.
So I don't want to jump intotime about that really, but
that's just one week a year andit happens at your state capital
and teaches your kids a lot ofgreat citizen skills as well as
communication skills.
And it is specifically forteenagers although they have a
one day thing at the end of theweek that is for the younger
(10:00):
siblings of the teenagers.
Okay, and I'm going to mentiontwo more organizations really
quick for you about leadershipand communication skills, and
these two organizations happento be homeschool specific.
As you may know, I homeschool.
I graduated six of our kidsfrom our homeschool so far, with
one more to go.
(10:21):
She's a freshman.
So I've still got three and ahalf years left of homeschooling
and I'll finish up at about 30years that I'll have
homeschooled by the time we'redone.
But I want to mention twoorganizations that are specific
to homeschoolers what is calledstowa USA, s T O A USA dot org.
(10:41):
Both of these, by the way, areChristian speech and debate
leagues.
The other one is called NCFCA.
One aspect of theseorganizations is actually
teaching your kids apologeticskills, that is, learning about
your faith and learning how tocommunicate about your faith,
understanding why you believe,what you believe, and so it is
(11:05):
really good at teaching kids howto articulate their thoughts
about their beliefs.
Okay, now I've told you that Iwould finish up today with a
manner.
So last time I talked to youguys about learning to say
someone's name and waiting untilyou have their attention before
(11:26):
you continue talking.
That that is a manner you wantto teach your kids, you know.
So you could say Emma, and thenyou wait for Emma to say yes,
mom.
So that interaction is sohelpful in getting someone's
full attention.
It's something you want yourkids to learn that manner not
just in saying yes, mom, butalso in expecting other people's
(11:49):
full attention.
And what this does is it canphase a level of confidence
which, in turn, causes otherpeople to have more confidence
in you or in your child.
Well, today I want to talk toyou about the next step of that.
So I want to talk about fullattention.
Last time we talked about themanner of saying someone's name
(12:12):
and waiting for their fullattention.
But what?
What does full attention looklike?
Full attention while someone istalking to you, it's, of course
, being involved, mentally,listening.
So I'm listening with my ears,I'm listening with my mind, I'm
listening with my body, which isfocused, turned towards the
person.
I don't have my eyes up at thesky, down at the floor, looking
(12:34):
all around.
I'm not shaking my leg ordrumming my fingers on the table
, because all of those thingsare what I would call static.
You know, if you ever listen toa radio station and you hear
this fuzzy noise that makes ithard to hear, that static, and
that static is a distractionfrom the message, and so
(12:56):
anything that we're doing thatis a distraction from the
message of the person who'stalking to us.
I'll call that static.
We don't want to have static.
It's not kind because itdistracts from the message.
It also says I don't value youand I don't value your message
and we don't want to send thatmessage.
(13:17):
So we want to honor their timeand their message by not
producing static and so we givefull attention by our mind and
our ears being engaged in whatthey're saying and the rest of
our body not being any static.
So this is something that youcan help your kids learn and,
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again, you can just do thisthrough a little, once or twice
or three times a week, a littlemanners practice time and do
some role playing with that.
Now I also encourage especiallywhen they're old enough to
understand the which what I'mtalking about today is a little
bit older of a man or toddlers,have a harder time with this,
and I don't expect toddlers tostand like a carrot all the time
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.
That's what I say.
Are you going to stand likecarrot?
You're going to stand likeJello.
You know Jello is like slumpedover and loosey, goosey arms and
all that.
But when I'm presenting amessage, I want to stand like a
carrot shoulders back, chin up,looking intently at my audience,
and this conveys that I haveself confidence in me and in my
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message and therefore they canalso have confidence in me and
my message, because I do.
And so that's standing like acarrot versus standing like
Jello.
But I don't expect toddlers tostand like a carrot and, you
know, chin up, shoulders backall the time.
You know that kind of thing.
I mean.
Not, I don't expect that ofkids all the time ever, but when
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they have a message they'retrying to get across, it is
helpful to do these things, andthey will never start doing
these things when it's importantmessages if they're not in the
habit of doing it sometime right.
So that's where practice comesin.
And anyway, I just wanted toexplain that some of the things
that I'm talking about in thismanner are a little bit older
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than toddlers.
But this is the last thing Iwant to add to this manner, and
that is that we want to givesome.
Not, there are nonverbal thingswe don't want to do that
produce static, but there's alsosome nonverbal things we can do
that reinforces their messageand says, yes, we're on board,
and it turns us into littlecheerleaders about their message
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, and that is a smiling andnodding our head.
Yes, like yes, I'm listening.
Oh yeah, that makes sense.
You know those nonverbal cuesof smiling and occasionally
nodding.
Let the speaker know I'm payingattention.
You've got my full attention.
I am on board with what you'resaying.
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Hopefully that's another littlemanner that you can share with
your kids today.
And, oh my goodness, I tookmuch longer than five minutes in
doing today's podcast.
I was supposed to keep it short.
This was supposed to be my dayone of practicing short podcasts
.
I did not succeed, but I am sothankful to be doing life with
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all of you.
We're going to wrap it up herefor today.
Next time, Val will share stepsfor helping your child overcome
negative habits, particularlythe habit of always running late
.
I don't know if it's an issuewith any of your kids, but it
has been an issue at our houseover the years.
Well, intentional parents, itis always Val's prayer that you
have received encouragement,inspiration and some practical
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wisdom from these episodes.
Don't forget to subscribe inwhatever podcast platform you
use to listen to the PracticallySpeaking Mom podcast.
Then you could click share andsend it to a friend.
You can always learn more aboutthis ministry or find Val's
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Then join Val right here againnext time on the Practically
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