September 2, 2025 • 9 mins
Self-care isn't just crucial for mental health but forms the foundation for all personal relationships and achievement. Prioritizing your own wellbeing first enables you to show up better for others and pursue your life mission with greater focus and effectiveness.
• Taking care of yourself first is essential before attempting to help others
• Creating quiet moments allows your mind to connect ideas without constant external noise
• Getting up earlier can provide the time needed for self-care activities
• Psychological wellness is as important as physical wellness
• Consistency in self-care practices creates compound improvement over time
• Being just 1% better every day means being 100% better in 100 days
• Showing up even when you don't feel like it is part of being on a mission
Take a moment for yourself, make time for yourself, and have a mission. I'm Benjo, check me out. Peace.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Making time for yourself.
You know, in my last podcast Iwas talking about, towards the
very end, how making time foryourself is a whole different
topic and something that'sextremely important, not just
for your mental health, but alsofor your personal relationships
(00:20):
and the others around you andyour general focus.
You know what I mean.
Like if you're always focusingon everybody else, you're not
going to be anywhere near asgood compared to if you're happy
first.
And I think that's reallyimportant because on the last
episode I was talking about how,in life, you need to be
purposeful.
You need to have a mission inlife.
If you're a white belt, youkeep working every single day,
(00:43):
and as long as you keep workingevery day, at some point you'd
be a black belt.
For me, it's being aprofessional standup comedian
and having that purpose, havingthat mission.
On my way to doing it, and evenonce reaching there, I'm going
to have new goals once I'm there.
Right, and not getting into thelast episode too much.
But my point is is that do youever feel like you don't have
(01:07):
any time to do what you need foryour personal life, let alone
for your relationships, orsomething like that?
I feel like the best way to bea good friend or a good husband
or just anything in general thathas to do with your personal
relationships.
Right Is to work on yourselffirst, because nobody's going to
(01:29):
want to hang out with somebodythat's not happy, that's not
happy for themselves.
Right, you got to haveself-maintenance.
You got to care about yourself.
You got to take care ofyourself first, because you
really are the most important.
Every single myself is the mostimportant.
You, you're the most important.
Every single myself is the mostimportant.
You, you're the most important.
You got to take care ofyourself first before you start
to be with others, because ifyou're happy, you're going to.
(01:53):
If somebody is not doing well,hypothetically right, because
you're happy, you're in a placeyou could make them better.
Maybe happy isn't the best word, right, but if you're in a
place to where you'repsychologically good, right, and
your buddy is doing good toowell, you both can have a good
(02:14):
time.
Okay, and it's important to dothis because I mean, think about
how many minutes.
If you feel like you don't everhave enough time to do what you
need to do, I always say justget up earlier.
I'm getting up even 15 minutesearlier than I always do, right,
just so that I can stretch,because I told myself I don't
(02:35):
have enough time in a day tostretch, to meditate more, to do
what I want.
So I'm making time for myselfand you need to do that.
It's not a want, it's a need,okay.
And you've got to find a way tomake that happen.
It could be while you'reworking, it could be while
you're driving.
Turn off the radio and get somesilence.
But your mind and wind you knowdifferent things connect when
(02:59):
you don't have so much chattergoing on in the world, going on
in the universe.
Again, it could be the streetslight, the street lights buzzing
.
It could be the radio on peopletalking, the cars are honking
their horns.
You know what I mean.
There's so much noise out therein the universe, right.
(03:20):
But when you turn it down or ifyou turn it off, different
things happen.
Your ideas, your thoughts,everything starts to come
together, right.
But maybe you don't have thatluxury of being able to turn
something off.
You need to find time to beable to do something for
yourself.
(03:40):
It could be the gym, it couldbe stretching, it could be
meditating.
But self-care is the mostimportant care before anyone
else.
It's got to be you first.
It's got to be you first.
You know when you're at a placeevery single day, even if
(04:03):
you're not at 100% peace, if youtake a moment to dedicate to
yourself, to just take fourminutes out of your day while
you're driving and just listento the equivalent of one song or
more all the way to yourdestination, right, with no
(04:25):
radio, no music.
You're just driving.
That's a moment you're takingfor yourself.
You got to be able to separateyourself, even with others
around you as well.
If you have a moment to go tothe gym and all of a sudden you
stop going to the gym, you needto find a way to make that
happen again.
(04:48):
I've made it a goal recently,every single morning, to just
literally stretch and I feellike, by me taking like 10
minutes to stretch, I used tofeel like, well, I'm going to be
10 minutes later.
You ever have that feelingwhere you feel like you dedicate
your, your um, some minutes toyourself, but you're going to be
further behind.
(05:09):
Make minutes by getting upearlier.
You don't, you can.
It's possible to change yourschedule around, right, and
maybe you don't have to, but ifyou don't, if you don't have
those minutes, hours or whatever.
You got to start your morningearlier, go to bed earlier.
(05:32):
I feel like I always say thatnothing good, production wise,
happens after eight o'clock atnight.
All right, I don't like to tryto think of creative, creative
ideas.
I'd rather go to bed earlierand start up, uh, and get up
earlier, right?
Um, cause I feel like I'm mostcognitive, I feel like I I uh
can think better earlier in themorning, especially after I've
(05:55):
been up like 30 minutes orsomething like that, compared to
later at night.
You know, that's why I hateworking out at night.
But anyway, um, I just wantedto take a quick minute, without
speaking in circles andrepeating myself about how
important self-care is,self-maintenance, and not just
physically but likepsychologically too, because, um
(06:18):
, I know I've felt I don't liketo say overwhelmed, but I feel
like I've been losing a lot ofmy personal uh moments lately
and I'm trying to restore thoseand also add to them, and the
solution that I have come upwith is just getting up earlier,
(06:39):
right, and here I am, I'm doingmy podcast right now.
It's not even five o'clock inthe morning and I'm getting
things done, you know, and it'simportant because if you care
about something, you need tofind a way to do it, but not
just that.
If you care about others, youneed to look a way to do it.
But not just that.
If you care about others, youneed to look to yourself first.
(07:00):
If you really want to helpothers, help yourself first
right, because the only way thatyou can really be a good friend
or a good husband or a goodwife or whatever the
relationship is, is for you tobe healthy first physically,
(07:21):
psychologically, spiritually,every way you can imagine.
I mean even when it comes tolike going to church.
There is a period where I wasn'tlike going to church right, and
not 100%, but part of thatreason was is because I felt
(07:42):
like, oh, if I go to church,then you know I'm going to be
behind on this, I'm going to bebehind on that, and that's the
wrong answer.
That's the wrong answer, youknow, because I need that and I
want that more than a need.
You know there's some thingsthat you need to do, but you
might not want to do them.
That's all as important asdoing things you don't might not
(08:03):
want to do, but you need to dobecause it's important, like
exercising, like meditating, youknow, taking a moment for
yourself.
But if you want to, you'regoing to make sure that you do
it.
It's just added to that need.
Sometimes I don't want to dosomething, but I need to do it
(08:23):
to stay on track with mypersonal life, my personal goals
, with things that I'm workingon, and that's being that
constant professional being onthat mission right, that mission
in life right.
But when I want to, itamplifies that even more.
It's like skipping a day in thegym.
(08:46):
Don't ever skip a day in thegym.
There might be days in the gym,if that's your thing, that you
don't want to go, but you needto go so that you have that
consistency.
And that's part of what being aprofessional and really being
on a mission in life means.
It means showing up when youdon't feel like showing up and
being there okay, because afteryou leave you're always going to
feel better.
You're always going to feelbetter, uh, doing something on a
day that you didn't really wantto do but you got it
(09:08):
accomplished.
And in those days you want togo to the gym.
You're thankful, you went thelast time, you didn't miss a day
and you're that much better.
You know, it's like I've saidbefore, if you're one percent
better every single day.
In a hundred days you'll be abetter version of yourself.
You're a hundred percent better.
So, anyway, I gotta hop off, doother things.
(09:31):
Um, but I appreciate youlistening.
If something that I said takesyou to that next level, I'm
really happy and glad for that.
But really hear what I'm saying, listen, do it, apply it.
All right, take a moment foryourself, make time for yourself
and have a mission.
I'm Benjo, well done, check meout.
(09:52):
Peace.
Making time for yourself.
You know, in my last podcast Iwas talking about, towards the
very end, how making time foryourself is a whole different
topic and something that'sextremely important, not just
for your mental health, but alsofor your personal relationships
(00:20):
and the others around you andyour general focus.
You know what I mean.
Like if you're always focusingon everybody else, you're not
going to be anywhere near asgood compared to if you're happy
first.
And I think that's reallyimportant because on the last
episode I was talking about how,in life, you need to be
purposeful.
You need to have a mission inlife.
If you're a white belt, youkeep working every single day,
(00:43):
and as long as you keep workingevery day, at some point you'd
be a black belt.
For me, it's being aprofessional standup comedian
and having that purpose, havingthat mission.
On my way to doing it, and evenonce reaching there, I'm going
to have new goals once I'm there.
Right, and not getting into thelast episode too much.
But my point is is that do youever feel like you don't have
(01:07):
any time to do what you need foryour personal life, let alone
for your relationships, orsomething like that?
I feel like the best way to bea good friend or a good husband
or just anything in general thathas to do with your personal
relationships.
Right Is to work on yourselffirst, because nobody's going to
(01:29):
want to hang out with somebodythat's not happy, that's not
happy for themselves.
Right, you got to haveself-maintenance.
You got to care about yourself.
You got to take care ofyourself first, because you
really are the most important.
Every single myself is the mostimportant.
You, you're the most important.
Every single myself is the mostimportant.
You, you're the most important.
You got to take care ofyourself first before you start
to be with others, because ifyou're happy, you're going to.
(01:53):
If somebody is not doing well,hypothetically right, because
you're happy, you're in a placeyou could make them better.
Maybe happy isn't the best word, right, but if you're in a
place to where you'repsychologically good, right, and
your buddy is doing good toowell, you both can have a good
(02:14):
time.
Okay, and it's important to dothis because I mean, think about
how many minutes.
If you feel like you don't everhave enough time to do what you
need to do, I always say justget up earlier.
I'm getting up even 15 minutesearlier than I always do, right,
just so that I can stretch,because I told myself I don't
(02:35):
have enough time in a day tostretch, to meditate more, to do
what I want.
So I'm making time for myselfand you need to do that.
It's not a want, it's a need,okay.
And you've got to find a way tomake that happen.
It could be while you'reworking, it could be while
you're driving.
Turn off the radio and get somesilence.
But your mind and wind you knowdifferent things connect when
(02:59):
you don't have so much chattergoing on in the world, going on
in the universe.
Again, it could be the streetslight, the street lights buzzing
.
It could be the radio on peopletalking, the cars are honking
their horns.
You know what I mean.
There's so much noise out therein the universe, right.
(03:20):
But when you turn it down or ifyou turn it off, different
things happen.
Your ideas, your thoughts,everything starts to come
together, right.
But maybe you don't have thatluxury of being able to turn
something off.
You need to find time to beable to do something for
yourself.
(03:40):
It could be the gym, it couldbe stretching, it could be
meditating.
But self-care is the mostimportant care before anyone
else.
It's got to be you first.
It's got to be you first.
You know when you're at a placeevery single day, even if
(04:03):
you're not at 100% peace, if youtake a moment to dedicate to
yourself, to just take fourminutes out of your day while
you're driving and just listento the equivalent of one song or
more all the way to yourdestination, right, with no
(04:25):
radio, no music.
You're just driving.
That's a moment you're takingfor yourself.
You got to be able to separateyourself, even with others
around you as well.
If you have a moment to go tothe gym and all of a sudden you
stop going to the gym, you needto find a way to make that
happen again.
(04:48):
I've made it a goal recently,every single morning, to just
literally stretch and I feellike, by me taking like 10
minutes to stretch, I used tofeel like, well, I'm going to be
10 minutes later.
You ever have that feelingwhere you feel like you dedicate
your, your um, some minutes toyourself, but you're going to be
further behind.
(05:09):
Make minutes by getting upearlier.
You don't, you can.
It's possible to change yourschedule around, right, and
maybe you don't have to, but ifyou don't, if you don't have
those minutes, hours or whatever.
You got to start your morningearlier, go to bed earlier.
(05:32):
I feel like I always say thatnothing good, production wise,
happens after eight o'clock atnight.
All right, I don't like to tryto think of creative, creative
ideas.
I'd rather go to bed earlierand start up, uh, and get up
earlier, right?
Um, cause I feel like I'm mostcognitive, I feel like I I uh
can think better earlier in themorning, especially after I've
(05:55):
been up like 30 minutes orsomething like that, compared to
later at night.
You know, that's why I hateworking out at night.
But anyway, um, I just wantedto take a quick minute, without
speaking in circles andrepeating myself about how
important self-care is,self-maintenance, and not just
physically but likepsychologically too, because, um
(06:18):
, I know I've felt I don't liketo say overwhelmed, but I feel
like I've been losing a lot ofmy personal uh moments lately
and I'm trying to restore thoseand also add to them, and the
solution that I have come upwith is just getting up earlier,
(06:39):
right, and here I am, I'm doingmy podcast right now.
It's not even five o'clock inthe morning and I'm getting
things done, you know, and it'simportant because if you care
about something, you need tofind a way to do it, but not
just that.
If you care about others, youneed to look a way to do it.
But not just that.
If you care about others, youneed to look to yourself first.
(07:00):
If you really want to helpothers, help yourself first
right, because the only way thatyou can really be a good friend
or a good husband or a goodwife or whatever the
relationship is, is for you tobe healthy first physically,
(07:21):
psychologically, spiritually,every way you can imagine.
I mean even when it comes tolike going to church.
There is a period where I wasn'tlike going to church right, and
not 100%, but part of thatreason was is because I felt
(07:42):
like, oh, if I go to church,then you know I'm going to be
behind on this, I'm going to bebehind on that, and that's the
wrong answer.
That's the wrong answer, youknow, because I need that and I
want that more than a need.
You know there's some thingsthat you need to do, but you
might not want to do them.
That's all as important asdoing things you don't might not
(08:03):
want to do, but you need to dobecause it's important, like
exercising, like meditating, youknow, taking a moment for
yourself.
But if you want to, you'regoing to make sure that you do
it.
It's just added to that need.
Sometimes I don't want to dosomething, but I need to do it
(08:23):
to stay on track with mypersonal life, my personal goals
, with things that I'm workingon, and that's being that
constant professional being onthat mission right, that mission
in life right.
But when I want to, itamplifies that even more.
It's like skipping a day in thegym.
(08:46):
Don't ever skip a day in thegym.
There might be days in the gym,if that's your thing, that you
don't want to go, but you needto go so that you have that
consistency.
And that's part of what being aprofessional and really being
on a mission in life means.
It means showing up when youdon't feel like showing up and
being there okay, because afteryou leave you're always going to
feel better.
You're always going to feelbetter, uh, doing something on a
day that you didn't really wantto do but you got it
(09:08):
accomplished.
And in those days you want togo to the gym.
You're thankful, you went thelast time, you didn't miss a day
and you're that much better.
You know, it's like I've saidbefore, if you're one percent
better every single day.
In a hundred days you'll be abetter version of yourself.
You're a hundred percent better.
So, anyway, I gotta hop off, doother things.
(09:31):
Um, but I appreciate youlistening.
If something that I said takesyou to that next level, I'm
really happy and glad for that.
But really hear what I'm saying, listen, do it, apply it.
All right, take a moment foryourself, make time for yourself
and have a mission.
I'm Benjo, well done, check meout.
(09:52):
Peace.
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