September 20, 2024 • 33 mins
What happens when your water breaks mid-squat at the gym? Bridget tells all in this heartwarming and hilarious episode of the Psychotic Py Podcast! Join us as she recounts the thrilling story of her son Theodore James’s timely arrival and the mad dash to the hospital that followed. From her pre-labor jogs and gym sessions to the chaotic yet comical moments leading up to Theo’s birth, Bridget shares her journey with humor and honesty. You'll also get a peek into the emotional rollercoaster of labor, the amazing support from her midwife and doula, and the amusing regret of indulging in a chicken thigh just before the intensity kicked in.
In the second half of our episode, we shift gears to explore the raw realities of new motherhood. Bridget opens up about the challenges of breastfeeding, from adapting to Theo’s demanding feeding schedule to coping with sore nipples and the transition to pumping. We also dive into the constant concerns that haunt new parents, including using tools like the Owlet Dream Sock to ensure Theo’s safety. With candid insights and relatable anecdotes, Bridget discusses the intense maternal instincts, the dynamics with family members, and the surprising quirks of genetics, such as eye and hair color variations. This episode is brimming with heartfelt moments, laughter, and valuable tips that every new and expecting parent will appreciate.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
hello and welcome back to psychotic py podcast.
We don't want to get canceled,as a bridget always opens up and
says, um, but sorry, we didtake a week off, as we did warn
everyone with bridget givingbirth and surprise she did.
We gave birth exactly on herdue date, which is like crazy
that she actually went on herdue date and did birth on her
due date, which is like crazythat she actually went on her
due date and did birth on herdue date.
(00:27):
And I'm going to let her do therest and fill you in on the
gender and the name.
So take it away, bridget.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
So, surprise, surprise, we had a baby boy.
His name is Theo littleTheodore James.
He's adorable.
So, basically, james, he'sadorable.
Um, so, basically, to talk youthrough, like what happened my
labor?
So, literally, we took Fridayoff that night.
Friday evening I went intolabor and baby was born on his
(00:54):
due date, saturday for 7th, at 2in the morning.
So it all happened so quicklybut like at the same time.
Not really, it's weird, allright.
So, um, I went to my appointmentwith a midwife on Tuesday and I
was like, yeah, like do youwant to examine me, cause I'm
(01:15):
coming up to 40 weeks soon, andlike I just want to know what
you think, cause I this is gross.
But like I self-examined myself, I have really long fingers,
yeah, I'm a doctor and I havereally long fingers.
Like I knew what I was lookingfor.
I was like, oh, I'm a face LikeI couldn't go much further
because my wrist was like at anawkward angle, but I was like,
oh, I'm like definitely a faceLike this feels good, I'm going
(01:36):
to go into labor soon.
So I went Tuesday morning.
The midwife's like yeah, I'llcheck you.
She was like you're fourcentimeters and I was like like
I feel nothing.
Like I went for a jog thatmorning with my mom, so I feel
absolutely fine, like I'm allright.
I'm shocked.
She was like yeah, like I'llprobably see you Saturday.
So funny, like I literally sawher Saturday.
So I, the rest of that week,like Ted and I went to the beach
(02:01):
, like I started taking iteasier at the gym, just because
he was like this baby's going tofall out.
I was like it's fine, I'm onlyfour centimeters, like relax.
So Friday comes, stillabsolutely no pain, no
contraction.
So I'm like I must still befour, maybe five.
Now you know, early labor cantake days, especially with your
first baby.
There's no time limit on it,whereas like active labor, once
(02:21):
you hit six centimeters, thereis a time limit on it.
Whereas like active labor, onceyou hit six centimeters there
is a time limit on it becausethey need to know like are you
progressing or not?
So at this stage it's like,yeah, just whenever you feel
contractions come in fridaynight, it's like 7 pm, ted's
like I'm going to the gym.
I'm like, yeah, okay, me too,I'll take it easy.
I'm squatting.
I was not really taking it easy, so I was squatting with like
maybe 10 pounds, like nothingheavy.
(02:42):
But I feel like a pop sensation.
And then warmth and like mywater broke, like in a movie,
like saturated my leggings and Iwas like, oh, okay, I think we
need to go now.
And I was like I'm stillfeeling no contractions.
So like I'm not good, we're notgoing to go to the hospital or
anything Like my water broke,it's fine, I'm group B strep
(03:03):
negative or anything like mywater broke, it's fine, I'm
group B, strep negative, no rushto go to the hospital.
Then I'm like I'm gonna take ashower, try to relax in the
shower, because it was nice,clear, like, or like everything
was normal.
It started to become bloodstained, which is kind of a sign
that you're dilating quickly,because if you dilate slowly,
your body has time to adjust andyou might not bleed, but if you
go kind of quick, like it will.
(03:24):
So, oh, it's bloody in here,still no contraction.
So I'm like I'll take a photo,like we'll show the doulas.
So Ted's like texting my doulas,like hey, we're just water
broke, um, just so you know likethings might happen.
Um, I mom's like you gotta eat.
So like I take my shower, Ifeel great.
I take a seat at the table, Ieat chicken.
I eat a chicken thigh, which Iso regretted.
(03:46):
Okay, because at that point, allof a sudden I was like oh, I'm
a bit uncomfortable and they'relike I knew this would happen.
Like because I do all the timelike women in labor vomit,
because they your body's justlike get it all out, like get
everything out.
So I was like I feel reallysick now, like I wish I didn't
eat that chicken thigh and she'slike you needed protein.
(04:08):
I'm like I really regret this,jerry, like this is a horrible
idea.
So all I can think about is thechicken thigh, like sitting
right up here.
So and Ted's like hey, we have acontraction timer that the
doula told us to get on ourphone.
And he's like asking me likehey, like when would you say a
woman should really come in?
(04:29):
And I'm like you know from myexperience, if they're getting
three to four contractions in 10minutes and they're consistent,
blah, blah.
He's like yeah, so like that'swhere you're at.
And I was like, but they're notlike really contract.
I was like like they, they'reuncomfortable, like they don't
hurt.
So I was like this could justbe like fake, like I feel deeply
(04:49):
uncomfortable, but I would notsay like I was in pain, like it
wasn't like my whole bodytightening and I was like, oh no
, we're fine.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
And he's like only you, at the end of your term,
would be like this.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
This is fake I'm not going to deliver.
I know I was like this could belike false labor.
Like my water broke and I waslike we're good and he's like.
You literally told me three tofour in 10 minutes Like that's
where you're, you're at and Icould tell you're becoming more
uncomfortable, like I'm tellingthe doulas we're going in.
Went into community medicalcenter, shout out in Tom's River
(05:20):
and they were like oh, is ityour first baby?
I'm like yeah, so they're kindof like fair enough, like you
get a bit skeptical when it'stheir first.
You're like okay, you'reprobably not in labor.
But they were like um, you'regiving a very convincing history
that your water broke.
I was like no, it definitelywas.
Like it was like a gush offluid.
I was like I'm for sure didn'tpiss myself.
Also, I know the smell.
(05:41):
I know that sounds gross, againlike through my own patients.
Like it has a very distinctsmell.
It doesn't smell bad, but ithas a smell.
So, like sure, my water went.
But one of the more like seniornurses was like she's giving a
very convincing history.
Like don't even triage her, Ithink you need to take her to a
labor room.
And I was like okay, and themidwife came in and she was like
so you're seven, like you'reseven centimeters dilated.
(06:03):
We're well on our way.
Good thing you came in.
And then she was like I don'teven need to examine you again,
like when you feel the urge topush your 10, and just let us
know and we'll come back in.
And that was that.
And so I did it withoutanything.
She was like well, have youthought about pain relief?
And I was like I'm ready atthis point.
And like I said, and I was likepretty at this point, and like
(06:24):
I said I was not in pain per se,it's uncomfortable.
So I was like I'm already hereat seven, like we're good.
And she was like okay, nothing.
And it, from my water breakingto baby coming out, was only
seven hours and only hadcontractions for about five and
a half hours.
Was not in the hospital long.
I was there for like five hourslike labor ward.
(06:46):
I wasn't there long for mom andbaby unit.
It was like super routine.
Like I was like how is thishappening?
Like everything was reallyforward.
I tried to snooze in betweencontractions, like Ted said,
like I was like swaying and likerolling my eyes back and I'm
like oxytocin is a hell of adrug man, like if you lean into
it, you could really like ridethat wave and just feel a bit
(07:08):
loopy and out of it.
Yeah, I, I did.
I wanted this to happen becausea lot of people like have
diarrhea when they're in laborbecause, like you just want to
clear everything out.
Luckily, I did do that.
So I went like three times andI just kept being like mom, I
need to poop.
And they were like you mightlike have a baby, like don't,
and I was like no, I definitelyneed to poop.
Um, and I pooped, the chickenthigh came right back up and I
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told Jerry in the moment I saidthis is the only thing I regret
is eating this effing chickenthigh, because I hate puking,
like I hate you know nobody'slike oh, I love to puke.
It's such a gross feeling and Iwas just like looking at my
like partially digested chicken,like regret this, this is your
fault.
It was amazing.
So it was her in the labor room,ted and our amazing doula Holly
(07:54):
, and I was just getting likemassaged on all angles, like I
didn't know where one person'shands ended and another's began.
It felt great and all of asudden it's so weird.
It is just like how theydescribe.
All of a sudden, you're like Ineed to take a big poop, and
they were like that means you'refully dilated, hold on, don't
poop.
And the midwife came in and waslike yeah, so you're ready to
(08:15):
push?
If you feel the need to push,just go for it.
And again, because mycontractions weren't painful,
were just like discomfort, itwas hard to tell.
I'd be like, oh, I think thisis one.
Oh, okay, I feel like I couldpush, sure, um, like it was
weird, I don't know.
Um, I will say, though, thatlike uncomfortable and you're so
(08:36):
tired because it is like I knowlike for a first time, labor
like seven hours is very quick,but that is a long time.
Seven hours is very quick, butthat is a long time, objectively
.
So in pain and discomfort, thatlong, like you get really worn
out.
And I could totally see whypeople are like eff, it give me
the epidural, because if minewas any longer, I would have
been like I'm just so tired,like I can't do it anymore.
(08:58):
But because my labor was somehowvery quick, like well, fuck it.
Like we're already here, likeyou may as well keep going.
Yeah, it was the like I thissounds weird again but like it
was the labor of my dreams.
Like I didn't want any painrelief.
I wanted to know I could do itand I did it and it was worth it
, obviously like I'm obsessedwith this kid that I just met
nine days ago.
(09:19):
I'm like staring at him all thetime like hey, buddy you up?
Yeah, they sleep all the timeright now, so you're just like
something they like fart a lotlift their legs up.
(09:46):
That born seven pounds 13 ouncesand now he's seven pounds 15
and a half.
He just got weighed today.
So, um, everything was amazing.
Our little holly was amazing.
She helped out so much.
Shout out to oh, mama's doulas.
Um, like she walked in,commanded the room and was like
can we turn these lights down?
(10:06):
And then, like, had like a dimlight going with, like you know,
like the stars on the, you knowone of those like light
machines and that calmed me downso much that like that set the
tone in the room and she wouldsuggest different positions.
Like I said, she was likemassaging, like very intensely,
like helped a lot.
Else was I going to say, oh,like very intensely, like helped
(10:26):
a lot.
Else.
Was I gonna say, oh, becauselike dim, and she made it a
peaceful environment.
Um, I was able to sleep inbetween contractions, like I
would just be like okay, restingtime, and it was really good.
I had some nasty tears.
It's fine.
I had two, they're not horrible.
I had two second degree tears.
That kind of like went bothways and it sounds like
connected.
You know, maybe it's fine.
My perineum is healing.
I finally feel a little bitbetter.
(10:47):
Took like a good week, though,to actually like yeah, yeah, um,
that's okay, all worth it.
I will say, like, immediatelyafter he, like the second, he
was born, you know, like theygive you like what an hour or
something on labor ward Marissa,and then they take you to the
postpartum.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah, I mean, mine was a little different with
C-section, so I had to wait twohours minimum in the recovery
room and I couldn't even hold mykid because he was in the NICU.
But with Evelyn, because shewas in a NICU, baby John was
able to bring her to therecovery room.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Yeah, yeah there for like a little bit.
They make sure like your bloodpressure's okay, like I have.
I always have low bloodpressure, so in pregnancy it's
like very low, so they had tolike help me stand and stuff.
And then they're like okay,she's good to go and they take
you to like postpartum a littlebit of graham crackers and
everything.
Uh, to the postpartum like room, jerry was still with us and
stuff and I was like psychojerry for doing this three times
(11:43):
like like it's, like it'sreally traumatic, it's traumatic
like you know wait can I quoteyou because you're so funny
bridget after labor and I askedher how she was and how her
experience was.
She said it's like getting intoa car accident while sitting in
a split position and then beingasked to care for a child like
(12:07):
that's what it feels, like thatthey're just like, oh, all the
trauma right there, like it'sreally, it's, it's very intense,
um, and you don't.
When you're in, when you'repushing the baby out, like
there's so much oxytocin andadrenaline that you're just like
this hurts, okay, but whatever.
But then afterwards you reallyfeel it and you're like, oh fuck
, like it's horrible, like notactually insane.
(12:30):
The next day they're doingphotos of my son and I'm already
like let's have more, like youjust love them so much.
You're like, oh, my god, shouldwe have like a ton of kids?
Like, and like my, my vagina'slike throbbing, like bitch.
No, we.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
We have to let her get to the terrible twos, you
guys before she says thisstatement again.
We want so many more.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I know I we're so lucky.
Right now he's just like one ofthose sleeping newborns, but
like wow, yeah he's great.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
She got an easy baby on breast milk.
He like wakes up once a night.
I'm like what oh?
Speaker 2 (13:09):
he wakes up once.
Okay, so actually we increasedhis feed to 90.
Now, maurice, he, I don't knowwhy, but all of a sudden 90 and
he, like wake, still just wakesup once.
I slept right through afterthat.
I was like, well, I guess I'llpump like I'm up now.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah yeah, well, let's explain to the listeners
your breastfeeding journey andpumping okay.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
So I I have like very small boobs and super, super
tiny n nipples.
So I was like we're not goingto be good at this, like I'll
try whatever this kid has such apowerful suck he is was somehow
so for the full 36 hours wewere in the hospital.
It was just like him directlynursing on me, cause obviously I
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didn't like bring my pump tothe hospital and I was like,
well, I may as well try God thesuck on this kid.
Holy shit, I was in agony andhe would go for like 35 minutes.
Oh, I did it because I love himand he needed to eat something.
We did that.
But now that I the second I gothome and like had the pump in my
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hands, I was like that's it,like we are getting this kid off
my boob because the pump on itsfull power is less powerful
than theo suck like I don't knowwhat sort of monster I gave
birth to, but like you can seehim with a pacifier.
He does this like awful thingwhere, like he opens his mouth
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really wide.
He's like, ah, like that was mynipple once and he does that to
a pass by, like open mouth,like like as if someone's like
spraying beer on him and he's ata frat party.
I'm like what the fuck is wrongwith you, kid?
once he latches on, there's nohope for you remember okay, so
(15:00):
marissa was, I was pumping onone boob and he was nursing on
the other.
This was like day two of hislife, because I was like I'm
gonna pump at the same time andI'll be a bottle ahead of him
and then I can get him off myboob and um, oh my god.
Honestly, my memory is so badnow, where was I going with this
now?
Speaker 1 (15:16):
it's okay.
So, um, she did that.
She did exactly what she said,but then, when it was time to
unlatch him, this kid refused.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
That was going with it.
Yes, Marissa, yeah, she waslike how do you get him to stop?
And I was like I just wait forhim to burp and then I like
quickly escape a nipple becauseI'm so scared of him.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
We tried to tickle him.
We tried to blow on his facelightly.
This kid would not release he'slike and my fear.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
You know how, like, when you're feeding a kid and
you pull back, they suck harder,so you know they're still
hungry.
So like if I pulled away, hewas just like taking a nipple.
So I was like there's actuallylike no escape, like no, no, no,
oh, my god.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
So bring a new appreciation for breastfeeding
mothers.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Wow, actually, women who persevere and nurse, purely
nurse.
I'm very impressed by you guysbecause immediately my nipples
were bleeding.
Immediately I was like right,so this hurts.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Listen, you know it's hard if she was like yeah, I
did unmedicated birth, but Iain't breastfeeding this kid on
the nip anymore.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I know.
I was like where is my pain?
Tolerance, like where does itlie?
Like vaginally great Nipples?
No, I was like I can't do it, Ican't do it.
It was like toe curl and everytime he'd start I'd be like I
feel you so yeah I have newnipple balm now I've got these
new like sewn pads that likekeep your nipples moist all day.
(16:47):
It's great.
I'm a new woman now.
The pump is great.
Um, I do that every three tofour hours, whenever I can fit
it in, because I'm I know I needto do it more, but she thought
she was gonna have.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
You thought you were gonna have so much time bonding
with your baby on your time off.
Now, look you're on a machine'stime.
Oh my god, I know.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
It's so like groundhog day.
Like he wakes up, you feed him,you clean him, he goes down.
I pump in between.
Same thing over and over andover five times a day.
Like same thing every day.
I try to like right now I'msneaking in an iced coffee
because I just pumped, so I'mlike, oh, let's have like
caffeine and then it'll be gone.
Next next pump session, likeyou're constantly like doing
(17:25):
math in your head, tracking whenhe ate, tracking when I pumped.
I'm like life is this if you goout of the house, you have like
a three-hour window toaccomplish.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
It gets bigger when the baby gets bigger.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
But yeah, yeah, it's stressful so we went apple
picking yesterday with marissa'skids, theo husbands and gaga
that's jerry and I had to likepack all this milk.
I pumped in the car on the wayhome.
It was a 30 minute journey home.
I was like perfect, pump on theway and, um, the woman was like
, oh, like, so they, they werechecking our bags.
(17:59):
You're not allowed to bringbags.
And my mom was like she hasfresh breast milk in there, like
she needs this bags, it'srefrigerated.
And I was like I'm really sorry.
Like this kid's a week old, Ineed this.
And she's like what are yougoing to feed him?
In the middle of the orchardand we were like yeah, possibly,
like that's very likely,because he eats every two to
three hours.
Like I don't know what to tellyou, like I need to have it in
case.
Wait, she said that to youbecause she was like oh, like,
(18:23):
we don't have enough staff tocheck everyone's bags, like we
don't know what people arebringing in.
And jerry was like please, likeyou could search her bag.
There's no weapons, there'snothing dangerous, it's
literally refrigerated breastmilk and the bottle.
And I she was like he's a weekold, like he has to eat, and she
was like I mean, are you gonnafeed him in the middle of the
orchard?
Speaker 1 (18:40):
and I was like yeah, was it a teenager or someone
that's not a mom?
Speaker 2 (18:45):
because who says that she was like.
Oh, I'd say she looked like shewas about 50.
She's the manager they broughtthe manager and then she said
okay, I'll let you buy, but nexttime, like you can't bring a
diaper bag like this and I waslike I'm so sorry, it's my bad,
but I need this breast milk.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Because I mean, like I get it, I get rules are rules,
but I feel like there needs tobe some exceptions, because the
baby needs to eat.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
She was like you can bring like the pouch of milk
through and I was like, but thenit might go bad, like it was
really hot.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
It was hot days like in the 80s.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I was like I mean I don't want to like leave it
sitting out when I packed arefrigerated bag.
I mean I bought this diaper bagsolely because it has a
changing station and arefrigerator pack in it like
that's you know, that's why Ibought the diaper bag.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
So I was like um a yikes geez well, I'm glad she
let it through, so thank youthank you but yeah, so Bridget's
just really acclimating to newmom life with a newborn and
being a breastfeeding mom and itis a lot.
It can be overwhelming at times.
(19:51):
Um, a conversation that you andI just had, actually I feel
like a day or two ago, wasBridget has, uh, I don't know if
she's always been, uh, you know, telling you guys and upfront
on the show, but if not, she'ssomeone who doesn't really have
anxiety, she doesn't stressabout things, she's very on the
go in the moment, adventurous,not a planner really, unless
maybe it involves like hercareer and stuff that really you
(20:12):
know, like in school obviouslyshe planned out things because
you had to, but in her personallife not really.
So she was obviously had Theoand turned to me and was like I
just I can't stop freaking out,like I feel like I have anxiety
thinking about him and you knowif there's something going on
wrong or if he's okay.
And she asked me you know if itever goes away, and thinking
maybe it's just some postpartumstuff going on and I'm like,
(20:34):
okay, two things here.
Yes, it's probably moreheightened because you're,
you're obviously it's stillearly on in postpartum.
You know, postpartum anxiety isa thing, but two, no, like it
might not be as heightened, butat least from my experience, my
oldest is five now.
That's why on, I think, oneepisode I definitely said it
feels like when you have kidsyour heart is always living
(20:55):
outside your body, because forme, I'm always going to worry,
I'm not going to not worry andthere's just so much in the
world that you worry aboutharming your child that you're
just.
You just can't stop thinkingabout.
You're always thinking about itand I feel like I'm not there
yet, but I feel like even ifthey're teenagers, I'd still
worry, because if they're goingto go out somewhere with their
(21:15):
friends, I'm going to wait upall night freaking out.
Are they drinking?
Are they freaking out?
Are they drinking?
Are they drinking and driving?
Did they lie and go somewhereelse?
You know who?
What company do they hang outwith?
Are they good kids?
I just don't think it's evergonna go away.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
I'm sorry yeah, great , sorry.
Yeah, I wouldn't say I'm likegoing crazy and like full-on.
You know, mercer, you've seenme, but like who?
Definitely, I definitelyslightly obsessed with, like are
they okay?
And at this early in his lifeit's more just like is he eating
(21:49):
enough?
Is he pooing enough, likestupid stuff, like?
that is he sleeping enough?
And jerry put him on his bellyfor four hours did not tell me,
by the way, okay, so he's a weekold and she puts him on his
belly, which is fine if you'rewatching your child him like
just sleeping for four hoursunsupervised.
So I went to go get him and Isaw he was on his belly and I
(22:11):
was like mom, like what thefrick?
Like that's a sid's risk.
Saw he was on his belly and Iwas like mom, like what the
frick?
Like that's a SIDS risk.
Like he's only a week and he'sreally good with head control
for his age.
He's good with tummy time.
Like we make sure we do itevery day, a couple times a day.
But I was like what she's likehe's fine and I'm like I was
like mom, what like he couldhave suffocated.
And obviously to her she's likeI've done this three times,
(22:33):
like it's fine.
But to me I'm like I, I don'tknow I'm I was so pissed to her
in that moment obviously, yes,valid reasons.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
But I will say the one thing you didn't tell the
viewers is she didn't completelyleave him unsupervised.
She knew you had the owlet sock, which she has an app for, so
it does have breathing andheartbeat, so it's not like she
just left him and didn't thinkabout it.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
Her art, her uh phone on her app would alert her yeah
, so we do have the outlet dreamsock so it tells you like
baby's pulse, um roomtemperature, room humidity, um
their oxygen saturations.
So now, whenever I put him ondown for tummy time I make sure
he's obviously supervised likeon the camera.
Uh, and we have the dream sockon down for tummy time, I make
(23:14):
sure he's obviously supervised,like on the camera and we have
the dream sock on and I justbasically watch and make sure
he's not like smothering himself, because you just never know,
he is really young still to evenbe like doing naps on his belly
.
But as long as they'resupervised it's okay.
Yeah, but yeah, I wouldn't Imean like you, just just you
didn't, I didn't know and I justwent in and saw him on his
(23:35):
belly and I was like I'm likewhat are you doing?
Speaker 1 (23:41):
rage kicking in.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
I was like fuck like oh, but you just like can't stop
thinking about their well-being.
Another thing is like only Idon't know two days old and ted
and I were like it feels like welike what was life before him
so weird?
Speaker 1 (24:01):
yep, you really.
Then the older and the longeryou're with them, the more you
can't remember really your pastself without them.
Like you, you remember theactivities you were doing at
that time, but for some reasonyour mind thinks your kids were
like always there, like it'sweird.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
You're like that's weird because you definitely
were not with me when I was inhigh school, but okay, it just
feels like you've known them,for it's like I really know you
kid what you passed to get intomy crew.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
You just showed up and we all accepted you.
You just showed up and we allaccepted you.
Adorable, by the way, he.
He does heavily like ted.
I feel like her husband, but alittle bit, and I'm pretty sure
he's gonna have baby blue eyes,which is so cute or the eyes are
still blue.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Um, I know your newborn eyes change, but we're
holding out for some sort ofblue, maybe even just like a
hazel, minor brown, and ted'sare a gorgeous light blue.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
So I'm like maybe if we could just some fun in there
yeah, also, genetics are wildpeople, because I I have deep,
dark brown shit eyes.
My husband is green and I havea hazel eyeed child and a blue
eyed baby, and then my mom, whois literally brown.
We all have brown, so me,bridget Brown, our brother
(25:20):
Michael Brown, and yet it seemslike my mom's grandchildren are
all going to either be hazel andblue eyed, which I find
hilarious.
I know it is so funny, right,she's like my kids are brown,
but my grandchildren are blueyes, it is really weird.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
This has like dark hair, but I wouldn't say it's as
well.
Mine was probably about thatdark when I was born it's a
light.
Yeah, it's like teddy bear brownwhich is funny because I call
her husband teddy yeah, shedoesn't like that, I do it
called teddy bear.
Yeah, interesting, like when hecame, oh, also, he's like a big
(25:57):
forehead.
So when he was coming out theywere like, oh, he has no hair.
And then all of a sudden hecame out more and they're like,
oh no, he has a lot of hair, hehas a lot of you leave my nephew
alone they're like we see thehair now and he has like blonde
eyebrows and eyelashes, so itlooks like he has no eyelashes
or eyebrows, just like gone.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yes, he's so funny, they'll grow in, though.
I've seen him Evelyn was, Ifeel like like that.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
He's adorable, though .
We're obsessed with him.
Every day, it's like he has anew face.
You're like who are you now?
What's that Like?
We're obsessed with him.
Every day, it's like he has anew face.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
You're like who are you now?
What's that?
Like they just changed so much.
Yeah, yeah, but otherwise he'sa great baby.
I mean they go places with them.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
He sleeps, such a fricking sleeper, my God Good.
But you know, like you just puthim in a seat and he's like
asleep already.
We're just like do somethingcute, I know, yeah.
Yeah, you're like come on, kid.
Um, I say that.
But like in a month when he'sawake, more I'm gonna be like
(27:00):
sure.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
While we were waiting for them to get discharged from
the hospital, my mom called meand was like have evelyn and
jack like make their own cardsfor for theo, you know, to
welcome him back.
That'll be really nice.
And I'm like, okay, we'll seehow this goes.
Evelyn is all about it, as Ithought she would be.
Now jack gets halfway throughhis construction and is like he
gets really aggravated.
(27:21):
Mom, I'm busy.
I have to dust and vacuumbefore theo gets here.
I have so much work to do.
Proceeds to put on a baggyt-shirt, my mom's heels and
starts literally vacuuming anddusting.
So it was adorable, but like,who made you.
I know he's actually like adream kid because he cleans
(27:41):
constantly today I got him alldressed in his uniform and he
refused to come eat hisbreakfast until he vacuumed the
carpet area of the living room,because he couldn't go to school
with a messy house, becausewhat if a friend wants to come
over?
Speaker 2 (27:55):
cute.
You're like baby boy.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
It's a monday, your friend ain't coming over like
you got hockey tonight, boy, itain't happening sweet though
he's like, this place is a messokay, but just let me put this
out for the viewers.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
It's not my doing, it's my own kids mess and their
toys, so you know what he shouldclean it yeah, the thing about
jack is like he'll eat lunch,make a mess like all kids do,
and I'll just be like, all right, go vacuum.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
And he's like, yeah, okay treat it like as if you
said let's go eat and go to thepark.
Like eat and vacuum is his park.
He freaking loves it he does.
Now, evelyn, when you tell herto do anything, even if you
bribe her and you're politeabout it, she goes.
He thinks not.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Peace is out.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
She is cute, though.
Yeah, well, that's God gave herthat face for a reason, because
she's going to try to get awaywith a lot.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Oh yeah, she loves Theo.
She always asks can I touch hislittle hand, can I touch his
little knee, can I touch hislittle elbow?
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Yes, well, she's also obsessed with Ted, because we
were at a beer festival recentlyand she insisted on holding
Ted's hand but she was alreadyholding mine, which then made us
look like a family, and poorBridget with her newborn, a
single mom.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Also she said she liked Uncle Ted better than me.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
She ranked everyone at the table and I was like
third, yeah, for sure, for sure.
You know what it's the blue eyetribe.
That's why you don't have babyblues.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Wow, you have not known him as well.
Ted's been around.
She knows him as long as sheknows me, but like we're related
by blood bitch.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I don't know.
She looks oddly.
Looks oddly like him, though ifyou guys are in public, they'd
think that that was his and notyours.
For sure I think, yeah, they're.
They have a lot of similaritiesthe pale skin, the lighter brown
hair, the rat more round faceyeah, yeah so, but I just yeah,
so that we just wanted to updateyou We'll give you a quick
(29:53):
little five minute what Jerrykind of did with her birth story
, since you've obviously heardmine, you've heard Bridget's and
let's compare Jerry's.
So take it away, bridget, sinceI know you probably remember
majority of it.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Okay, so anything is Jerry's.
Jerry also had completelyunmedicated all three labors
With Marissa.
She's like, oh, she was inchurch doing a funeral, I
believe.
She felt like she was goinginto labor so that all day she
was like in early labor justletting it ride out, whatever,
carrying on with her day.
Night she woke up and was like,oh, I think things are kicking
(30:24):
off up our dad early but hetakes 45 minutes to get ready,
still does to this day shower,blow dries hair, you know the
whole nine his teeth in themiddle of the night to go to the
hospital with his wife who's inlabor.
So she woke him up early so hecould get ready for 45 minutes
and then drive her to thehospital in perfect time.
(30:44):
And then, uh, she deliveredmarissa, unmedicated, with
forceps, and I'm like, ow, uh,had a big tear.
So she doesn't knowspecifically because she's not
like in healthcare, but it'seither like a 3C or a fourth
degree tear because she tore.
Like she says, I tore all theway in my asshole.
Oh, jerry, she does say thatthe other two were easier, just
(31:07):
because they're not the first.
So Michael and I were notforceps, didn't need forceps for
us.
She said they were much quicker.
Michael, I'm pretty sure, wasquick because we were old enough
to kind of like remember herbeing pregnant and everything.
And one day she was there andthe next day we were getting
picked up by dad at school,taking us to the hospital to
meet Michael and I was like,wait a second, it was also her
(31:28):
smallest baby so none of us weresmall.
We were all over seven pounds,by the way, but he was the
smallest at like seven, five orsomething.
I was 7, 14.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Mercer was 7, 12 yeah , but you know she had done it
before, so her area knew whatwas going on so she, she was
like they get better.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
And I'm like, because mine was kind of quick, the
nurse after Theo was born waslike um, for your next baby,
like come in early because youmight like have a an accidental
home birth if you don't yeah, bemindful of that for sure yeah,
but I was like things onblessings, like I didn't want
this to drag out because I wouldhave given up.
(32:08):
I would have been like I can'tdo it anymore so that's good.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
So that's kind of our check-in.
Obviously it's a little touchand go as school has started up
and my kids are in a bunch ofthings and Bridget's learning
her new mom life.
We are going to try to doweekly when we can.
I believe this is episode eight, right, bridget Episode eight
of season two.
Yeah, Right, so we do about.
Obviously you guys know we doabout 10 a season, so we should
(32:33):
get the next two out, hopefullyon time, if not like a week
delayed at most.
Um, but I will say, afterepisode 10 we are probably going
to take a nice break because weonly have bridget and ted and
theo with us for so long andthey leave us right before
christmas.
So I really would like to bepresent with my family.
But in the new year, when theyare finally settled back in the
UK and Bridget's up for it,we'll get back to season three
(32:56):
and update you on that.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Absolutely.
Marissa said, yeah, we'll tryto do it weekly for the next two
, it'll be okay.
Just yeah, september's hecticfor parents.
Marissa's like getting backinto her school routine and her
son decided to do hockey andcross country at five years old.
How adorable that they evenoffer cross country.
Plus, we're doing swim lessonswith him every Saturday morning,
(33:19):
so it's he's involved.
Speaker 1 (33:23):
It's a lot.
I'm back to school night parentteacher conferences.
That's just for one kid I got awhole nother to worry about.
So thank you so much forlistening and obviously,
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hello and welcome back to psychotic py podcast.
We don't want to get canceled,as a bridget always opens up and
says, um, but sorry, we didtake a week off, as we did warn
everyone with bridget givingbirth and surprise she did.
We gave birth exactly on herdue date, which is like crazy
that she actually went on herdue date and did birth on her
due date, which is like crazythat she actually went on her
due date and did birth on herdue date.
(00:27):
And I'm going to let her do therest and fill you in on the
gender and the name.
So take it away, bridget.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
So, surprise, surprise, we had a baby boy.
His name is Theo littleTheodore James.
He's adorable.
So, basically, james, he'sadorable.
Um, so, basically, to talk youthrough, like what happened my
labor?
So, literally, we took Fridayoff that night.
Friday evening I went intolabor and baby was born on his
(00:54):
due date, saturday for 7th, at 2in the morning.
So it all happened so quicklybut like at the same time.
Not really, it's weird, allright.
So, um, I went to my appointmentwith a midwife on Tuesday and I
was like, yeah, like do youwant to examine me, cause I'm
(01:15):
coming up to 40 weeks soon, andlike I just want to know what
you think, cause I this is gross.
But like I self-examined myself, I have really long fingers,
yeah, I'm a doctor and I havereally long fingers.
Like I knew what I was lookingfor.
I was like, oh, I'm a face LikeI couldn't go much further
because my wrist was like at anawkward angle, but I was like,
oh, I'm like definitely a faceLike this feels good, I'm going
(01:36):
to go into labor soon.
So I went Tuesday morning.
The midwife's like yeah, I'llcheck you.
She was like you're fourcentimeters and I was like like
I feel nothing.
Like I went for a jog thatmorning with my mom, so I feel
absolutely fine, like I'm allright.
I'm shocked.
She was like yeah, like I'llprobably see you Saturday.
So funny, like I literally sawher Saturday.
So I, the rest of that week,like Ted and I went to the beach
(02:01):
, like I started taking iteasier at the gym, just because
he was like this baby's going tofall out.
I was like it's fine, I'm onlyfour centimeters, like relax.
So Friday comes, stillabsolutely no pain, no
contraction.
So I'm like I must still befour, maybe five.
Now you know, early labor cantake days, especially with your
first baby.
There's no time limit on it,whereas like active labor, once
(02:21):
you hit six centimeters, thereis a time limit on it.
Whereas like active labor, onceyou hit six centimeters there
is a time limit on it becausethey need to know like are you
progressing or not?
So at this stage it's like,yeah, just whenever you feel
contractions come in fridaynight, it's like 7 pm, ted's
like I'm going to the gym.
I'm like, yeah, okay, me too,I'll take it easy.
I'm squatting.
I was not really taking it easy, so I was squatting with like
maybe 10 pounds, like nothingheavy.
(02:42):
But I feel like a pop sensation.
And then warmth and like mywater broke, like in a movie,
like saturated my leggings and Iwas like, oh, okay, I think we
need to go now.
And I was like I'm stillfeeling no contractions.
So like I'm not good, we're notgoing to go to the hospital or
anything Like my water broke,it's fine, I'm group B strep
(03:03):
negative or anything like mywater broke, it's fine, I'm
group B, strep negative, no rushto go to the hospital.
Then I'm like I'm gonna take ashower, try to relax in the
shower, because it was nice,clear, like, or like everything
was normal.
It started to become bloodstained, which is kind of a sign
that you're dilating quickly,because if you dilate slowly,
your body has time to adjust andyou might not bleed, but if you
go kind of quick, like it will.
(03:24):
So, oh, it's bloody in here,still no contraction.
So I'm like I'll take a photo,like we'll show the doulas.
So Ted's like texting my doulas,like hey, we're just water
broke, um, just so you know likethings might happen.
Um, I mom's like you gotta eat.
So like I take my shower, Ifeel great.
I take a seat at the table, Ieat chicken.
I eat a chicken thigh, which Iso regretted.
(03:46):
Okay, because at that point, allof a sudden I was like oh, I'm
a bit uncomfortable and they'relike I knew this would happen.
Like because I do all the timelike women in labor vomit,
because they your body's justlike get it all out, like get
everything out.
So I was like I feel reallysick now, like I wish I didn't
eat that chicken thigh and she'slike you needed protein.
(04:08):
I'm like I really regret this,jerry, like this is a horrible
idea.
So all I can think about is thechicken thigh, like sitting
right up here.
So and Ted's like hey, we have acontraction timer that the
doula told us to get on ourphone.
And he's like asking me likehey, like when would you say a
woman should really come in?
(04:29):
And I'm like you know from myexperience, if they're getting
three to four contractions in 10minutes and they're consistent,
blah, blah.
He's like yeah, so like that'swhere you're at.
And I was like, but they're notlike really contract.
I was like like they, they'reuncomfortable, like they don't
hurt.
So I was like this could justbe like fake, like I feel deeply
(04:49):
uncomfortable, but I would notsay like I was in pain, like it
wasn't like my whole bodytightening and I was like, oh no
, we're fine.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
And he's like only you, at the end of your term,
would be like this.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
This is fake I'm not going to deliver.
I know I was like this could belike false labor.
Like my water broke and I waslike we're good and he's like.
You literally told me three tofour in 10 minutes Like that's
where you're, you're at and Icould tell you're becoming more
uncomfortable, like I'm tellingthe doulas we're going in.
Went into community medicalcenter, shout out in Tom's River
(05:20):
and they were like oh, is ityour first baby?
I'm like yeah, so they're kindof like fair enough, like you
get a bit skeptical when it'stheir first.
You're like okay, you'reprobably not in labor.
But they were like um, you'regiving a very convincing history
that your water broke.
I was like no, it definitelywas.
Like it was like a gush offluid.
I was like I'm for sure didn'tpiss myself.
Also, I know the smell.
(05:41):
I know that sounds gross, againlike through my own patients.
Like it has a very distinctsmell.
It doesn't smell bad, but ithas a smell.
So, like sure, my water went.
But one of the more like seniornurses was like she's giving a
very convincing history.
Like don't even triage her, Ithink you need to take her to a
labor room.
And I was like okay, and themidwife came in and she was like
so you're seven, like you'reseven centimeters dilated.
(06:03):
We're well on our way.
Good thing you came in.
And then she was like I don'teven need to examine you again,
like when you feel the urge topush your 10, and just let us
know and we'll come back in.
And that was that.
And so I did it withoutanything.
She was like well, have youthought about pain relief?
And I was like I'm ready atthis point.
And like I said, and I was likepretty at this point, and like
(06:24):
I said I was not in pain per se,it's uncomfortable.
So I was like I'm already hereat seven, like we're good.
And she was like okay, nothing.
And it, from my water breakingto baby coming out, was only
seven hours and only hadcontractions for about five and
a half hours.
Was not in the hospital long.
I was there for like five hourslike labor ward.
(06:46):
I wasn't there long for mom andbaby unit.
It was like super routine.
Like I was like how is thishappening?
Like everything was reallyforward.
I tried to snooze in betweencontractions, like Ted said,
like I was like swaying and likerolling my eyes back and I'm
like oxytocin is a hell of adrug man, like if you lean into
it, you could really like ridethat wave and just feel a bit
(07:08):
loopy and out of it.
Yeah, I, I did.
I wanted this to happen becausea lot of people like have
diarrhea when they're in laborbecause, like you just want to
clear everything out.
Luckily, I did do that.
So I went like three times andI just kept being like mom, I
need to poop.
And they were like you mightlike have a baby, like don't,
and I was like no, I definitelyneed to poop.
Um, and I pooped, the chickenthigh came right back up and I
(07:32):
told Jerry in the moment I saidthis is the only thing I regret
is eating this effing chickenthigh, because I hate puking,
like I hate you know nobody'slike oh, I love to puke.
It's such a gross feeling and Iwas just like looking at my
like partially digested chicken,like regret this, this is your
fault.
It was amazing.
So it was her in the labor room,ted and our amazing doula Holly
(07:54):
, and I was just getting likemassaged on all angles, like I
didn't know where one person'shands ended and another's began.
It felt great and all of asudden it's so weird.
It is just like how theydescribe.
All of a sudden, you're like Ineed to take a big poop, and
they were like that means you'refully dilated, hold on, don't
poop.
And the midwife came in and waslike yeah, so you're ready to
(08:15):
push?
If you feel the need to push,just go for it.
And again, because mycontractions weren't painful,
were just like discomfort, itwas hard to tell.
I'd be like, oh, I think thisis one.
Oh, okay, I feel like I couldpush, sure, um, like it was
weird, I don't know.
Um, I will say, though, thatlike uncomfortable and you're so
(08:36):
tired because it is like I knowlike for a first time, labor
like seven hours is very quick,but that is a long time.
Seven hours is very quick, butthat is a long time, objectively
.
So in pain and discomfort, thatlong, like you get really worn
out.
And I could totally see whypeople are like eff, it give me
the epidural, because if minewas any longer, I would have
been like I'm just so tired,like I can't do it anymore.
(08:58):
But because my labor was somehowvery quick, like well, fuck it.
Like we're already here, likeyou may as well keep going.
Yeah, it was the like I thissounds weird again but like it
was the labor of my dreams.
Like I didn't want any painrelief.
I wanted to know I could do itand I did it and it was worth it
, obviously like I'm obsessedwith this kid that I just met
nine days ago.
(09:19):
I'm like staring at him all thetime like hey, buddy you up?
Yeah, they sleep all the timeright now, so you're just like
something they like fart a lotlift their legs up.
(09:46):
That born seven pounds 13 ouncesand now he's seven pounds 15
and a half.
He just got weighed today.
So, um, everything was amazing.
Our little holly was amazing.
She helped out so much.
Shout out to oh, mama's doulas.
Um, like she walked in,commanded the room and was like
can we turn these lights down?
(10:06):
And then, like, had like a dimlight going with, like you know,
like the stars on the, you knowone of those like light
machines and that calmed me downso much that like that set the
tone in the room and she wouldsuggest different positions.
Like I said, she was likemassaging, like very intensely,
like helped a lot.
Else was I going to say, oh,like very intensely, like helped
(10:26):
a lot.
Else.
Was I gonna say, oh, becauselike dim, and she made it a
peaceful environment.
Um, I was able to sleep inbetween contractions, like I
would just be like okay, restingtime, and it was really good.
I had some nasty tears.
It's fine.
I had two, they're not horrible.
I had two second degree tears.
That kind of like went bothways and it sounds like
connected.
You know, maybe it's fine.
My perineum is healing.
I finally feel a little bitbetter.
(10:47):
Took like a good week, though,to actually like yeah, yeah, um,
that's okay, all worth it.
I will say, like, immediatelyafter he, like the second, he
was born, you know, like theygive you like what an hour or
something on labor ward Marissa,and then they take you to the
postpartum.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Yeah, I mean, mine was a little different with
C-section, so I had to wait twohours minimum in the recovery
room and I couldn't even hold mykid because he was in the NICU.
But with Evelyn, because shewas in a NICU, baby John was
able to bring her to therecovery room.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Yeah, yeah there for like a little bit.
They make sure like your bloodpressure's okay, like I have.
I always have low bloodpressure, so in pregnancy it's
like very low, so they had tolike help me stand and stuff.
And then they're like okay,she's good to go and they take
you to like postpartum a littlebit of graham crackers and
everything.
Uh, to the postpartum like room, jerry was still with us and
stuff and I was like psychojerry for doing this three times
(11:43):
like like it's, like it'sreally traumatic, it's traumatic
like you know wait can I quoteyou because you're so funny
bridget after labor and I askedher how she was and how her
experience was.
She said it's like getting intoa car accident while sitting in
a split position and then beingasked to care for a child like
(12:07):
that's what it feels, like thatthey're just like, oh, all the
trauma right there, like it'sreally, it's, it's very intense,
um, and you don't.
When you're in, when you'repushing the baby out, like
there's so much oxytocin andadrenaline that you're just like
this hurts, okay, but whatever.
But then afterwards you reallyfeel it and you're like, oh fuck
, like it's horrible, like notactually insane.
(12:30):
The next day they're doingphotos of my son and I'm already
like let's have more, like youjust love them so much.
You're like, oh, my god, shouldwe have like a ton of kids?
Like, and like my, my vagina'slike throbbing, like bitch.
No, we.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
We have to let her get to the terrible twos, you
guys before she says thisstatement again.
We want so many more.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
I know I we're so lucky.
Right now he's just like one ofthose sleeping newborns, but
like wow, yeah he's great.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
She got an easy baby on breast milk.
He like wakes up once a night.
I'm like what oh?
Speaker 2 (13:09):
he wakes up once.
Okay, so actually we increasedhis feed to 90.
Now, maurice, he, I don't knowwhy, but all of a sudden 90 and
he, like wake, still just wakesup once.
I slept right through afterthat.
I was like, well, I guess I'llpump like I'm up now.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
Yeah yeah, well, let's explain to the listeners
your breastfeeding journey andpumping okay.
Speaker 2 (13:33):
So I I have like very small boobs and super, super
tiny n nipples.
So I was like we're not goingto be good at this, like I'll
try whatever this kid has such apowerful suck he is was somehow
so for the full 36 hours wewere in the hospital.
It was just like him directlynursing on me, cause obviously I
(13:55):
didn't like bring my pump tothe hospital and I was like,
well, I may as well try God thesuck on this kid.
Holy shit, I was in agony andhe would go for like 35 minutes.
Oh, I did it because I love himand he needed to eat something.
We did that.
But now that I the second I gothome and like had the pump in my
(14:17):
hands, I was like that's it,like we are getting this kid off
my boob because the pump on itsfull power is less powerful
than theo suck like I don't knowwhat sort of monster I gave
birth to, but like you can seehim with a pacifier.
He does this like awful thingwhere, like he opens his mouth
(14:38):
really wide.
He's like, ah, like that was mynipple once and he does that to
a pass by, like open mouth,like like as if someone's like
spraying beer on him and he's ata frat party.
I'm like what the fuck is wrongwith you, kid?
once he latches on, there's nohope for you remember okay, so
(15:00):
marissa was, I was pumping onone boob and he was nursing on
the other.
This was like day two of hislife, because I was like I'm
gonna pump at the same time andI'll be a bottle ahead of him
and then I can get him off myboob and um, oh my god.
Honestly, my memory is so badnow, where was I going with this
now?
Speaker 1 (15:16):
it's okay.
So, um, she did that.
She did exactly what she said,but then, when it was time to
unlatch him, this kid refused.
Speaker 2 (15:24):
That was going with it.
Yes, Marissa, yeah, she waslike how do you get him to stop?
And I was like I just wait forhim to burp and then I like
quickly escape a nipple becauseI'm so scared of him.
Speaker 1 (15:34):
We tried to tickle him.
We tried to blow on his facelightly.
This kid would not release he'slike and my fear.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
You know how, like, when you're feeding a kid and
you pull back, they suck harder,so you know they're still
hungry.
So like if I pulled away, hewas just like taking a nipple.
So I was like there's actuallylike no escape, like no, no, no,
oh, my god.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
So bring a new appreciation for breastfeeding
mothers.
Speaker 2 (16:10):
Wow, actually, women who persevere and nurse, purely
nurse.
I'm very impressed by you guysbecause immediately my nipples
were bleeding.
Immediately I was like right,so this hurts.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
Listen, you know it's hard if she was like yeah, I
did unmedicated birth, but Iain't breastfeeding this kid on
the nip anymore.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
I know.
I was like where is my pain?
Tolerance, like where does itlie?
Like vaginally great Nipples?
No, I was like I can't do it, Ican't do it.
It was like toe curl and everytime he'd start I'd be like I
feel you so yeah I have newnipple balm now I've got these
new like sewn pads that likekeep your nipples moist all day.
(16:47):
It's great.
I'm a new woman now.
The pump is great.
Um, I do that every three tofour hours, whenever I can fit
it in, because I'm I know I needto do it more, but she thought
she was gonna have.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
You thought you were gonna have so much time bonding
with your baby on your time off.
Now, look you're on a machine'stime.
Oh my god, I know.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
It's so like groundhog day.
Like he wakes up, you feed him,you clean him, he goes down.
I pump in between.
Same thing over and over andover five times a day.
Like same thing every day.
I try to like right now I'msneaking in an iced coffee
because I just pumped, so I'mlike, oh, let's have like
caffeine and then it'll be gone.
Next next pump session, likeyou're constantly like doing
(17:25):
math in your head, tracking whenhe ate, tracking when I pumped.
I'm like life is this if you goout of the house, you have like
a three-hour window toaccomplish.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
It gets bigger when the baby gets bigger.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
But yeah, yeah, it's stressful so we went apple
picking yesterday with marissa'skids, theo husbands and gaga
that's jerry and I had to likepack all this milk.
I pumped in the car on the wayhome.
It was a 30 minute journey home.
I was like perfect, pump on theway and, um, the woman was like
, oh, like, so they, they werechecking our bags.
(17:59):
You're not allowed to bringbags.
And my mom was like she hasfresh breast milk in there, like
she needs this bags, it'srefrigerated.
And I was like I'm really sorry.
Like this kid's a week old, Ineed this.
And she's like what are yougoing to feed him?
In the middle of the orchardand we were like yeah, possibly,
like that's very likely,because he eats every two to
three hours.
Like I don't know what to tellyou, like I need to have it in
case.
Wait, she said that to youbecause she was like oh, like,
(18:23):
we don't have enough staff tocheck everyone's bags, like we
don't know what people arebringing in.
And jerry was like please, likeyou could search her bag.
There's no weapons, there'snothing dangerous, it's
literally refrigerated breastmilk and the bottle.
And I she was like he's a weekold, like he has to eat, and she
was like I mean, are you gonnafeed him in the middle of the
orchard?
Speaker 1 (18:40):
and I was like yeah, was it a teenager or someone
that's not a mom?
Speaker 2 (18:45):
because who says that she was like.
Oh, I'd say she looked like shewas about 50.
She's the manager they broughtthe manager and then she said
okay, I'll let you buy, but nexttime, like you can't bring a
diaper bag like this and I waslike I'm so sorry, it's my bad,
but I need this breast milk.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
Because I mean, like I get it, I get rules are rules,
but I feel like there needs tobe some exceptions, because the
baby needs to eat.
Speaker 2 (19:09):
She was like you can bring like the pouch of milk
through and I was like, but thenit might go bad, like it was
really hot.
Speaker 1 (19:16):
It was hot days like in the 80s.
Speaker 2 (19:22):
I was like I mean I don't want to like leave it
sitting out when I packed arefrigerated bag.
I mean I bought this diaper bagsolely because it has a
changing station and arefrigerator pack in it like
that's you know, that's why Ibought the diaper bag.
Speaker 1 (19:30):
So I was like um a yikes geez well, I'm glad she
let it through, so thank youthank you but yeah, so Bridget's
just really acclimating to newmom life with a newborn and
being a breastfeeding mom and itis a lot.
It can be overwhelming at times.
(19:51):
Um, a conversation that you andI just had, actually I feel
like a day or two ago, wasBridget has, uh, I don't know if
she's always been, uh, you know, telling you guys and upfront
on the show, but if not, she'ssomeone who doesn't really have
anxiety, she doesn't stressabout things, she's very on the
go in the moment, adventurous,not a planner really, unless
maybe it involves like hercareer and stuff that really you
(20:12):
know, like in school obviouslyshe planned out things because
you had to, but in her personallife not really.
So she was obviously had Theoand turned to me and was like I
just I can't stop freaking out,like I feel like I have anxiety
thinking about him and you knowif there's something going on
wrong or if he's okay.
And she asked me you know if itever goes away, and thinking
maybe it's just some postpartumstuff going on and I'm like,
(20:34):
okay, two things here.
Yes, it's probably moreheightened because you're,
you're obviously it's stillearly on in postpartum.
You know, postpartum anxiety isa thing, but two, no, like it
might not be as heightened, butat least from my experience, my
oldest is five now.
That's why on, I think, oneepisode I definitely said it
feels like when you have kidsyour heart is always living
(20:55):
outside your body, because forme, I'm always going to worry,
I'm not going to not worry andthere's just so much in the
world that you worry aboutharming your child that you're
just.
You just can't stop thinkingabout.
You're always thinking about itand I feel like I'm not there
yet, but I feel like even ifthey're teenagers, I'd still
worry, because if they're goingto go out somewhere with their
(21:15):
friends, I'm going to wait upall night freaking out.
Are they drinking?
Are they freaking out?
Are they drinking?
Are they drinking and driving?
Did they lie and go somewhereelse?
You know who?
What company do they hang outwith?
Are they good kids?
I just don't think it's evergonna go away.
Speaker 2 (21:28):
I'm sorry yeah, great , sorry.
Yeah, I wouldn't say I'm likegoing crazy and like full-on.
You know, mercer, you've seenme, but like who?
Definitely, I definitelyslightly obsessed with, like are
they okay?
And at this early in his lifeit's more just like is he eating
(21:49):
enough?
Is he pooing enough, likestupid stuff, like?
that is he sleeping enough?
And jerry put him on his bellyfor four hours did not tell me,
by the way, okay, so he's a weekold and she puts him on his
belly, which is fine if you'rewatching your child him like
just sleeping for four hoursunsupervised.
So I went to go get him and Isaw he was on his belly and I
(22:11):
was like mom, like what thefrick?
Like that's a sid's risk.
Saw he was on his belly and Iwas like mom, like what the
frick?
Like that's a SIDS risk.
Like he's only a week and he'sreally good with head control
for his age.
He's good with tummy time.
Like we make sure we do itevery day, a couple times a day.
But I was like what she's likehe's fine and I'm like I was
like mom, what like he couldhave suffocated.
And obviously to her she's likeI've done this three times,
(22:33):
like it's fine.
But to me I'm like I, I don'tknow I'm I was so pissed to her
in that moment obviously, yes,valid reasons.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
But I will say the one thing you didn't tell the
viewers is she didn't completelyleave him unsupervised.
She knew you had the owlet sock, which she has an app for, so
it does have breathing andheartbeat, so it's not like she
just left him and didn't thinkabout it.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
Her art, her uh phone on her app would alert her yeah
, so we do have the outlet dreamsock so it tells you like
baby's pulse, um roomtemperature, room humidity, um
their oxygen saturations.
So now, whenever I put him ondown for tummy time I make sure
he's obviously supervised likeon the camera.
Uh, and we have the dream sockon down for tummy time, I make
(23:14):
sure he's obviously supervised,like on the camera and we have
the dream sock on and I justbasically watch and make sure
he's not like smothering himself, because you just never know,
he is really young still to evenbe like doing naps on his belly
.
But as long as they'resupervised it's okay.
Yeah, but yeah, I wouldn't Imean like you, just just you
didn't, I didn't know and I justwent in and saw him on his
(23:35):
belly and I was like I'm likewhat are you doing?
Speaker 1 (23:41):
rage kicking in.
Speaker 2 (23:43):
I was like fuck like oh, but you just like can't stop
thinking about their well-being.
Another thing is like only Idon't know two days old and ted
and I were like it feels like welike what was life before him
so weird?
Speaker 1 (24:01):
yep, you really.
Then the older and the longeryou're with them, the more you
can't remember really your pastself without them.
Like you, you remember theactivities you were doing at
that time, but for some reasonyour mind thinks your kids were
like always there, like it'sweird.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
You're like that's weird because you definitely
were not with me when I was inhigh school, but okay, it just
feels like you've known them,for it's like I really know you
kid what you passed to get intomy crew.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
You just showed up and we all accepted you.
You just showed up and we allaccepted you.
Adorable, by the way, he.
He does heavily like ted.
I feel like her husband, but alittle bit, and I'm pretty sure
he's gonna have baby blue eyes,which is so cute or the eyes are
still blue.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Um, I know your newborn eyes change, but we're
holding out for some sort ofblue, maybe even just like a
hazel, minor brown, and ted'sare a gorgeous light blue.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
So I'm like maybe if we could just some fun in there
yeah, also, genetics are wildpeople, because I I have deep,
dark brown shit eyes.
My husband is green and I havea hazel eyeed child and a blue
eyed baby, and then my mom, whois literally brown.
We all have brown, so me,bridget Brown, our brother
(25:20):
Michael Brown, and yet it seemslike my mom's grandchildren are
all going to either be hazel andblue eyed, which I find
hilarious.
I know it is so funny, right,she's like my kids are brown,
but my grandchildren are blueyes, it is really weird.
Speaker 2 (25:36):
This has like dark hair, but I wouldn't say it's as
well.
Mine was probably about thatdark when I was born it's a
light.
Yeah, it's like teddy bear brownwhich is funny because I call
her husband teddy yeah, shedoesn't like that, I do it
called teddy bear.
Yeah, interesting, like when hecame, oh, also, he's like a big
(25:57):
forehead.
So when he was coming out theywere like, oh, he has no hair.
And then all of a sudden hecame out more and they're like,
oh no, he has a lot of hair, hehas a lot of you leave my nephew
alone they're like we see thehair now and he has like blonde
eyebrows and eyelashes, so itlooks like he has no eyelashes
or eyebrows, just like gone.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Yes, he's so funny, they'll grow in, though.
I've seen him Evelyn was, Ifeel like like that.
Speaker 2 (26:26):
He's adorable, though .
We're obsessed with him.
Every day, it's like he has anew face.
You're like who are you now?
What's that Like?
We're obsessed with him.
Every day, it's like he has anew face.
Speaker 1 (26:35):
You're like who are you now?
What's that?
Like they just changed so much.
Yeah, yeah, but otherwise he'sa great baby.
I mean they go places with them.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
He sleeps, such a fricking sleeper, my God Good.
But you know, like you just puthim in a seat and he's like
asleep already.
We're just like do somethingcute, I know, yeah.
Yeah, you're like come on, kid.
Um, I say that.
But like in a month when he'sawake, more I'm gonna be like
(27:00):
sure.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
While we were waiting for them to get discharged from
the hospital, my mom called meand was like have evelyn and
jack like make their own cardsfor for theo, you know, to
welcome him back.
That'll be really nice.
And I'm like, okay, we'll seehow this goes.
Evelyn is all about it, as Ithought she would be.
Now jack gets halfway throughhis construction and is like he
gets really aggravated.
(27:21):
Mom, I'm busy.
I have to dust and vacuumbefore theo gets here.
I have so much work to do.
Proceeds to put on a baggyt-shirt, my mom's heels and
starts literally vacuuming anddusting.
So it was adorable, but like,who made you.
I know he's actually like adream kid because he cleans
(27:41):
constantly today I got him alldressed in his uniform and he
refused to come eat hisbreakfast until he vacuumed the
carpet area of the living room,because he couldn't go to school
with a messy house, becausewhat if a friend wants to come
over?
Speaker 2 (27:55):
cute.
You're like baby boy.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
It's a monday, your friend ain't coming over like
you got hockey tonight, boy, itain't happening sweet though
he's like, this place is a messokay, but just let me put this
out for the viewers.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
It's not my doing, it's my own kids mess and their
toys, so you know what he shouldclean it yeah, the thing about
jack is like he'll eat lunch,make a mess like all kids do,
and I'll just be like, all right, go vacuum.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
And he's like, yeah, okay treat it like as if you
said let's go eat and go to thepark.
Like eat and vacuum is his park.
He freaking loves it he does.
Now, evelyn, when you tell herto do anything, even if you
bribe her and you're politeabout it, she goes.
He thinks not.
Speaker 2 (28:37):
Peace is out.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
She is cute, though.
Yeah, well, that's God gave herthat face for a reason, because
she's going to try to get awaywith a lot.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Oh yeah, she loves Theo.
She always asks can I touch hislittle hand, can I touch his
little knee, can I touch hislittle elbow?
Speaker 1 (28:56):
Yes, well, she's also obsessed with Ted, because we
were at a beer festival recentlyand she insisted on holding
Ted's hand but she was alreadyholding mine, which then made us
look like a family, and poorBridget with her newborn, a
single mom.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Also she said she liked Uncle Ted better than me.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
She ranked everyone at the table and I was like
third, yeah, for sure, for sure.
You know what it's the blue eyetribe.
That's why you don't have babyblues.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Wow, you have not known him as well.
Ted's been around.
She knows him as long as sheknows me, but like we're related
by blood bitch.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
I don't know.
She looks oddly.
Looks oddly like him, though ifyou guys are in public, they'd
think that that was his and notyours.
For sure I think, yeah, they're.
They have a lot of similaritiesthe pale skin, the lighter brown
hair, the rat more round faceyeah, yeah so, but I just yeah,
so that we just wanted to updateyou We'll give you a quick
(29:53):
little five minute what Jerrykind of did with her birth story
, since you've obviously heardmine, you've heard Bridget's and
let's compare Jerry's.
So take it away, bridget, sinceI know you probably remember
majority of it.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Okay, so anything is Jerry's.
Jerry also had completelyunmedicated all three labors
With Marissa.
She's like, oh, she was inchurch doing a funeral, I
believe.
She felt like she was goinginto labor so that all day she
was like in early labor justletting it ride out, whatever,
carrying on with her day.
Night she woke up and was like,oh, I think things are kicking
(30:24):
off up our dad early but hetakes 45 minutes to get ready,
still does to this day shower,blow dries hair, you know the
whole nine his teeth in themiddle of the night to go to the
hospital with his wife who's inlabor.
So she woke him up early so hecould get ready for 45 minutes
and then drive her to thehospital in perfect time.
(30:44):
And then, uh, she deliveredmarissa, unmedicated, with
forceps, and I'm like, ow, uh,had a big tear.
So she doesn't knowspecifically because she's not
like in healthcare, but it'seither like a 3C or a fourth
degree tear because she tore.
Like she says, I tore all theway in my asshole.
Oh, jerry, she does say thatthe other two were easier, just
(31:07):
because they're not the first.
So Michael and I were notforceps, didn't need forceps for
us.
She said they were much quicker.
Michael, I'm pretty sure, wasquick because we were old enough
to kind of like remember herbeing pregnant and everything.
And one day she was there andthe next day we were getting
picked up by dad at school,taking us to the hospital to
meet Michael and I was like,wait a second, it was also her
(31:28):
smallest baby so none of us weresmall.
We were all over seven pounds,by the way, but he was the
smallest at like seven, five orsomething.
I was 7, 14.
Speaker 1 (31:37):
Mercer was 7, 12 yeah , but you know she had done it
before, so her area knew whatwas going on so she, she was
like they get better.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
And I'm like, because mine was kind of quick, the
nurse after Theo was born waslike um, for your next baby,
like come in early because youmight like have a an accidental
home birth if you don't yeah, bemindful of that for sure yeah,
but I was like things onblessings, like I didn't want
this to drag out because I wouldhave given up.
(32:08):
I would have been like I can'tdo it anymore so that's good.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
So that's kind of our check-in.
Obviously it's a little touchand go as school has started up
and my kids are in a bunch ofthings and Bridget's learning
her new mom life.
We are going to try to doweekly when we can.
I believe this is episode eight, right, bridget Episode eight
of season two.
Yeah, Right, so we do about.
Obviously you guys know we doabout 10 a season, so we should
(32:33):
get the next two out, hopefullyon time, if not like a week
delayed at most.
Um, but I will say, afterepisode 10 we are probably going
to take a nice break because weonly have bridget and ted and
theo with us for so long andthey leave us right before
christmas.
So I really would like to bepresent with my family.
But in the new year, when theyare finally settled back in the
UK and Bridget's up for it,we'll get back to season three
(32:56):
and update you on that.
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Absolutely.
Marissa said, yeah, we'll tryto do it weekly for the next two
, it'll be okay.
Just yeah, september's hecticfor parents.
Marissa's like getting backinto her school routine and her
son decided to do hockey andcross country at five years old.
How adorable that they evenoffer cross country.
Plus, we're doing swim lessonswith him every Saturday morning,
(33:19):
so it's he's involved.
Speaker 1 (33:23):
It's a lot.
I'm back to school night parentteacher conferences.
That's just for one kid I got awhole nother to worry about.
So thank you so much forlistening and obviously,
congratulations to the new melin edition.
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