Y'all, The Dating Pool Got Pee In It! Let’s Talk...

Ever been on a date where your companion talks about himself in the third person? Or how about an unexpected celebrity encounter? In this episode of the Pure Intentions Podcast, Chrissy A. and Sir Anthony share some of the most hilarious, awkward, and insightful dating experiences. From laugh-out-loud moments to deep reflections on relationship expectations, we explore how these experiences shape our approach to love and connection.

We dive into how social media, reality TV, and societal norms influence modern dating dynamics—tackling topics like age, body count taboos, and the pressure to conform. Whether you're looking for relationship advice or just need a good laugh, this episode is packed with valuable insights and entertainment.

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Key Takeaways:

• Awkward dating experiences offer valuable lessons in self-awareness and relationship readiness.
• Societal pressures influence how we perceive age, monogamy, and personal values in dating.
• Humor and authenticity are key to building meaningful connections and overcoming dating anxieties.
• Open conversations with friends can provide fresh perspectives and personal growth.

Episode Transcript

Sir Anthony (00:00):
We got the time out like what's the extent of what
we can talk about?

Chrissy A. (00:04):
What is your viewpoint of amazing?
Is this about a sexual date?
No, did you 50 Shades of Grey?
A bitch.

Sir Anthony (00:12):
No, okay.

Chrissy A. (00:13):
I'm not into that.

Sir Anthony (00:15):
Like to each their own, Like that whole the
whipping and all.
That's just not my thing.
That don't turn me on, oh shit.

Chrissy A. (00:33):
We're going to make an adjustment, since she likes
that, and I'm going to watchsome videos and learn.

Erica (00:37):
There are safe words you can create a safe word.

Chrissy A. (00:39):
It doesn't have to be dangerous.
There is like lightness to it.
That can happen, but you knowit can get a little exciting.
Welcome to the pure intentionspodcast, where real love, raw
emotions and intentionalrelationships come together.
Welcome back to the pureintentions podcast, where we
talk everything relationshipfrom an intentional point of

(01:01):
view.
I am your host, chissy A.

Sir Anthony (01:04):
I'm your co-host, sir Anthony.

Chrissy A. (01:07):
And we are going to go into some deep secrets and
stories.
Well, not necessarily secrets,but we're going to tell stories
about dating experiences, andyou know the good, the bad

(01:28):
experiences, and you know thegood the bad.
We're gonna call this episodehotels.
He came up with that, so I'llbe ready for this episode.
I'm not because I want us to beauthentic and you know just real
about our experiences withdating.
Like I do know that a lot ofpeople say the dating pool is

(01:52):
terrible, it got peeing in it,and you know.
So if you're looking at us, Ithink people just coming into
our lives might see it like oh,that's so cute, they found
somebody, they found theirperson.
But what happened before?
It was a us.
How did we get here?

(02:14):
And the things that we wentthrough to get to this moment
indeed so first question Ladiesfirst.

Sir Anthony (02:26):
We shall see.

Chrissy A. (02:27):
What was your absolute worst dating experience
that you can think about?

Sir Anthony (02:37):
Be a little bit more specific.

Chrissy A. (02:39):
Like the date that, when, the date that when.
Okay, so this is the date that.
Maybe when you saw them, it wascool, but when y'all started
talking and engaging and get toknow each other, maybe some
weird stuff happened, or maybethey were tripping or I don't
know.

(02:59):
Whatever you feel like was,because I got some stories.
But well, come on with me okay.
Well, I started off then, okay.
So I have a lot of worse datingexperience?
I don't think I have a worse.
I think just people are justterrible at times, um, but I

(03:23):
would say the one that, let'sjust say, irritated me the most
was I went on a date.
I think I was in my mid-20s.
I went on a date with this guy.
His name was I'm giving nameswell, I don't think that's his
real name oh, maybe I shouldn'tsay it, because people probably

(03:44):
know who he is.
Okay, hey, girl, I'll put his atin the comments.
Can you put a boop right there?

Erica (03:51):
okay, thank you.

Chrissy A. (03:54):
I dated this.
I went on a date with this guy.
We actually went to um, I lovejerk chicken.
A lot of my first dates wasjerk chicken y'all.
But we went on when Cermak onCermak, they opened up a, um,
jerk villa.
During this time this is whenjerk villa, like kinda, was

(04:17):
fresh and Cermak they tried tomake it so like a little club,
little scenery, like a pop inwith the bar and everything.
It was pretty dope and he tookme there.
Um, I did ride with him.
Typically I don't ride withpeople because I'm like I don't
want you to know where I live,because you might be crazy.

(04:38):
I think this was the experiencethat led me to not ride with
people on dates.
But we ended up going to JerkVilla.
We sat down, we was having adecent conversation and he kept
referring to himself.
I told you this, though he keptreferring to himself what is it

(04:59):
third person?
And it was just like yeah.
I asked him like what do youlike to do?
Well, likes to go out to eat alot.
And at first I laughed becauseI'm like he's just joking.
He's so funny, that's cute.
He funny, cute, he's attractive.

(05:20):
So this works.
But then he did it the entirenight.
I don't know, and now that I'mthinking about I don't know if
he did it, because I laughed atit the first time and he thought
like, okay, I made her laugh,let me continue it, but it was a
weird, it was weird as hell.
Yeah, it was weird.
It was definitely given nosecond date and we definitely

(05:44):
didn't go on no second date.
It's funny because I tell astory and when I every time I
tell it, I end up seeing himsomewhere.

Sir Anthony (05:50):
Oh, I went to this cat.
Sir anthony does not want youin our presence period and
chrissy a approves and Chrissy.
A approves alright, so this isactually not too long before we

(06:11):
met.
I had met this young lady onthe beach and you just mean
bitches on the beaches.
B&b's bitches and beachesthat's your thing, huh.
That's what it is.
But met on the beach, wasdrinking wine that day, the next

(06:32):
day went out, and so to ouraudible listeners and if you're
listening, out of order, ofcourse, I just got out of
Engagement.
I'm free, I'm doing me, so I'mbeing being, I'm eating bitches
on the beach and this person,when we met, she was like you
look familiar, like this gal forinstagram, this famous gal for

(06:55):
instagram.
I'm like you know, you've seenmy instagram.

Chrissy A. (06:58):
I am not famous at all yes, so go follow him on
instagram, ladies.
No, but don't, no, no, don'tfucking follow my man.
I'm just talking about time out, don't follow my man Period.
Look, and now they finna all gofollow you.

Erica (07:19):
I check his.

Chrissy A. (07:20):
DMs.
No, I'm just playing.
I don't do that.

Erica (07:23):
Oh.

Chrissy A. (07:23):
Wait.

Sir Anthony (07:30):
Oh, it's E DMs.
No, I'm just playing, I don'tdo that.
Oh Wait, put on blast on theshow.
We filming live on the show andyou put on blast.
So tell us some of yourbusiness.
What's the worst date thatyou've had?
The worst date?
Yes, at Puttshack.

Chrissy A. (07:47):
At Putschack what?

Erica (07:48):
happened.
I was, um, I had a little onthis date with this guy.
It was our first date and hewas just super controlling and
like competitive and I'm like wesupposed to be getting to know
each other and you trying to run, trying to tell me what to and
you gotta do it this way, and itjust it just turned weird.

(08:08):
And then he asked to pick me upand I was like no, I'll just
drive.
And so it's like, towards theend we kind of had a
conversation about it and hejust got mad aggressive like we.
I talked to him like I was inhis car and he got mad.
I was like I'm gonna go.
And then I got in my car and hejust sped off I'm like car and
he was like I'm going to go.
I got in my car and he justsped off.
I'm like yeah.

Chrissy A. (08:29):
Oh, he was mad, mad.
I done had a couple of peoplespeed off on me before, but we
in the middle of filming you nowhave became a part of this
podcast.

Erica (08:43):
Okay, well, go ahead.

Chrissy A. (08:45):
I'm so sorry okay, y'all, that was lady e she was
on a previous podcast um lastweek what's the topic?

Sir Anthony (08:58):
it was about spinning the block, going back
and rekindling those old things.

Chrissy A. (09:02):
So that nigga that she talking about he has to spit
.
No, he has to spin the blockliterally.
He spit that motherfucker.
He was heated uh, oh that.

Sir Anthony (09:13):
Just that call made me think of an even worse date,
but let's continue this worsesir, it's crazy if that's a word
it's not, it's just worse.

Chrissy A. (09:22):
Yeah, it's bad and then better, worse.
It is weird, though, like whywe got.
Never mind, that's off topic.

Sir Anthony (09:30):
So listen, at the beach picked up so we went out
the next day she thought that Ilook like somebody and I guess
her mind got the buzz in thatnight Text in the middle of
night and I didn't get itbecause I'm on my face.
Sleep.
She wanted to talk.
Sleep she wanted to talk.
Why she wanted to talk?
Because she did herinvestigative duties and went
and found me on the gram with myex and when we got together for

(09:55):
the date she was real antsy andfidgety.
I'm like you, all right, wentto the wine spot to drink some
more.
I'm like what's going on?
Yeah, you lying because this isyou and this is your girl and
I'm like um, triggered muchlisten, I told you I'm just

(10:16):
recently out of something.
Yes, that was my ex and I'm onsome news.
So either and I said it asblunt as this, I'm sorry to say
it's a very asshole statement,it's direct though.
I said, listen, either we'regonna continue this date or, you
know, you can go on about yourday.
I'm gonna stay here, get todrinking it's other people in
here.
I'm gonna vibe and have a goodtime with whoever I meet, and

(10:39):
eventually she drunk some moreand I guess that loosened up and
she got to act together.

Chrissy A. (10:43):
But I would have loved.
I ain't gonna hold you.
My pride wouldn't have.
Let me sit that nigga.
It's other people in here.
All right, we're gonna go talkto one of them.
Bitches, she could have wentand did her own thing.

Sir Anthony (10:55):
I'm not twisting nobody on.

Chrissy A. (10:57):
I get that.
I'm just saying me and my pridewouldn't have, after you made
that statement, I wouldn't havebeen able to just sit there and
finish having drinks with youyeah.
Well, to each their own um, yeahthat ultimatum thing, right,

(11:19):
that you did like either yougonna be here or your ass gonna
leave.
That happened to me, right?
This is what a nigga said to meand I'm gonna say it because
it's my life.
So I had found out that thedude I was dating at the time

(11:43):
was cheating on me.
Out that the dude I was datingat the time was cheating on me
and he had in his mind that hedidn't want a monogamous
relationship.
But he never.
And that's okay.
Like, if you're non-monogamous,like you want the polygamy and
all of that, that's fine.
But you have to be forthcoming,because there are women out
there that would like that typeof life.
I'm not one of them.

(12:06):
Okay, I'm not one of them.
However, I found out he wascheating on me with somebody and
then it got to the point wherehe was just like you know what,
fuck it.
He got tired of lying, he gottired of doing that.
He was like either you gonnadeal with it or you not, or you

(12:30):
can gone about your business.
I was like I'm going to takegone about my business because
your dick ain't big enough andyou definitely ain't got enough
money for me to be dealing withthat shit.

Sir Anthony (12:44):
Oh, my God, I can tell you from a fella's
perspective, and the fellasthat's listening, that
definitely put the dagger in theheart with the twist to the ego
.

Chrissy A. (12:52):
And the dick definitely wasn't big.
It's okay, like my short kingsneeded to.
However, like you not, finnasit here and talk to me like I'm
finna, be savage to a savage toanother savage, and you ain't
supporting me financially or youfalling short in other areas

(13:16):
literally and figuratively, huhlike, come on now, fuck out of
here.
And his feet was big.
That feet being big thing is alie.
This nigga was a size 14 andhis penis was 14 centimeters,
moving along okay, so of course,everything isn't all bad all

(13:38):
the time.
So we do have those people whowe have really good dates with,
and sometimes they just don't goanywhere, and that's okay too.
So, like what's one amazingdate that you had?
Like one date that you willalways remember?

Sir Anthony (13:56):
I don't know if this show or you are prepared
for that listen.
Wait, we got the time out, likewhat's the extent of what we
can talk about?

Chrissy A. (14:05):
what is your viewpoint of amazing?
Does it?
Does it?
Is this about a sexual date?
No, did you?
50 shades of gray, a bitch no,okay, I'm not into that like no
to each to own that.

Sir Anthony (14:17):
Like that whole the whipping and all.
That's just not my thing.
That don't turn me on.
Oh shit, do I?
We're gonna make an adjustment.

Chrissy A. (14:30):
Sis, she likes that and I'm going to watch some
videos and learn there are safewords you can create a safe word
.
It doesn't have to be dangerous.
There is like lightness to it.
That can happen.
But you know it can get alittle exciting.
I learned something today andI'm gonna do some research now

(14:57):
tell us about your amazing datethat you don't think we ready to
hear oh man, this is wild.

Sir Anthony (15:03):
So I have to structure it like this because I
don't want nobody googling,nothing um I'm finna be so, um,
I got to feel what it feels liketo be.
Um, what would you call atrophy guy?

(15:24):
Is it trophy?
Guy Ooh you got catered to Isthat?
Whatever the term is, y'all DMus, inbox us, whatever.
Go to the website PureIntentions.
We have something where you canemail us and get on the show.
We ask and answer.

Chrissy A. (15:39):
You ask, we answer you were the prize, I was the
prize, you was the prize.

Sir Anthony (15:47):
Ironically, this person was a famous person.
They are the prize.
So for it to be reversed we gointo.
We went to a strip club.
She likes strip clubs and soI've never heard this story,
y'all it was like a new, newstory for me as I'm like what's
the extent of what we can go toon this?
And then, if you all see, afterwe cut and my eye a little

(16:07):
puffy um nah, anything before meain't got nothing to do with me
so we went to the strip cluband every stripper stopped on
the pole, recognized her andlike, is that so-and-so?
Yeah.
So then we went to the littleVIP spot and we got a lap dance

(16:30):
and like everywhere we wentaround she paraded me like it
was.
I'm just not used to thatconcept.
I'm like I'm not a celebrity ornothing like that, but if I'm
going and I got on my arm, theneverybody looking at her and
then they looking at me like man, okay, fella, like for the
fellas, that's not jealous andthe ladies they looking like who
is that?
I've never experienced whereit's in reverse, where she

(16:51):
paraded me around and all of thestrippers bad was looking like
who is that?

Chrissy A. (16:57):
Yeah, yeah.

Sir Anthony (17:00):
It felt good.
It felt good, I must admit.

Chrissy A. (17:03):
So that was your amazing date.

Sir Anthony (17:06):
I guess you could say it was different because I
never had that experience before.

Chrissy A. (17:11):
I get that because I believe that an amazing date
would be something that youexperience that you haven't
experienced before, somethingthat is different, and that's
what makes it amazing.
Yeah, so that's what makes itamazing.
Yeah, so that's cool.
Well, y'all go ahead, make mefamous so I can carry him around
and I can be his amazing date.

Sir Anthony (17:33):
do that now you can go ahead, go get a couple
dollars, no, period.

Chrissy A. (17:37):
I'm for it yeah I don't mind it.
I heard, so when I run thisvideo back it gotta be some pea
valley shit, though we can't bepole cats in it yeah, no, I
don't like I ain't gonna knockthat, because then they might
see them.

Sir Anthony (17:52):
What's wrong with people?
Pole cats?

Chrissy A. (17:56):
they're not real strippers.
That's what's wrong with them.

Sir Anthony (18:00):
The fuck they're going to be Googling if they're
not from Chicago Like what'spole cats?

Chrissy A. (18:12):
I'm just not going to say I'm just going to leave
it where it is Because y'allgoing to cancel, cancel me.
So my amazing date.
You already heard about it.
I, I was.
I'm in a dark about stuff.

Sir Anthony (18:32):
this was done in dark.
Come to no, I'm just playing.

Chrissy A. (18:34):
But that's true, that's facts.
But my amazing date wasvalentine's day and y'all, my
birthday is the day beforeValentine's Day.
I'm a Valentine's Day Eve baby,so I've never really celebrated
Valentine's Day and I never hadanybody like ask me, would you
be my valentine?

(18:54):
Which, if y'all still in arelationship still ask your
woman to be your valentine,don't fall short of that.
Like we like romance, give itto us.
Anyways, this guy on facebookapparently I knew him before
then, but I really don'tremember ever meeting him before

(19:15):
then.
He said he he knew me, but hehad to because he was my
Facebook friend.
Anyways, he hit my inbox up andhe asked me to be his Valentine
.
It was a little convo beforethat, but it ended with him

(19:36):
saying would you like to be myValentine?
And I'm like sure, becausenobody's ever asked me.
So I'm like fuck it, let's doit.
And he came and got me from mybrother house because it was
after the date with the guyperson.
Yeah, anyways.

(19:57):
So he came and picked me upfrom my brother house.
I came downstairs he was likeOK, so this is what we're going
to do.
He first texted to me we'regoing to go to what's our wine
place called.

Sir Anthony (20:08):
Cooper's Hawk.

Chrissy A. (20:09):
We're going to go to Cooper's Hawk and I know you
like to have fun and you likegames, so we're going to go to
this VR place.
This was during COVID, likewithin that timeframe, and they
had opened back up the VR placebut then they shut down again,
so those plans had got canceled.
But he never really told methat until he came and got me.

(20:29):
And as I'm getting in the car,he gets out the car, opens the
door for me, he hands me abouquet of flowers before he
opened the door and I'm like, oh, that's so sweet.
He was like this is for happyValentine's day and I take the
flowers.
They were so pretty, they hadglitter on it, everything.
Then he opens the door andthere's another bouquet of
flowers on the seat and he waslike oh and, happy birthday.

(20:51):
And I was like, okay, points,points, points.
I'm feeling it.
And we get in the car and he'sdriving.
He was like, oh, we're notgonna go to Cooper's Hawk.
And no, he said we're not gonnago to the VR place because
they're shut down.
So I'm thinking like, okay,well, we're gonna go to Cooper's

(21:12):
Hawk.
I've never been a Cooper's Hawkat this point.
Um, so we're driving and wegoing like in a hood and I'm
like I know damn well Cooper'sHawk ain't in a hood.
So I'm like texting my brother,like sharing my location, like
I think you need to pull up.
You know, I'm saying becausethis nigga taking me on artesian

(21:34):
, like I was confused, like thisnigga trying to set me up like
who he know, finna, sex trade me, you know I a whole bunch of
stuff going through my head andhe saw it and he felt it and he
was like I promise you I'm notkidnapping you.
He was like you just said thatit was your first valentine's
day, that you never experiencedvalentine's.
So I wanted to do somethingdifferent and my instinct was

(21:58):
like, just go with the flow.
But then my head was likeuh-uh-uh, bitch, he trying to
kill you, trying to murder yourun.
But I went with my littleinstinct and I was just like,
okay, I'm going to chill.
If he's trying to kill me,bitch is dead.
The best I can do is fight myway up out of it.
It is what it is.
But we're at his house and I'mlike I know this nigga didn't

(22:24):
just bring me to his house.
He opens the door and his housegoes up the stairs.
There's rose petals all on thefloor going up the stairs.
So I'm like, oh, this is cute.
And now I'm like my sister I'mrelaxing and shit, like, okay,
he's, he's being romantic, letme let him be romantic.
And we get up the stairs andsomeone else opened the door.
He has on his shelf, you know,I mean chef uniform and he's

(22:48):
there's jazz music playing inthe background and there's
balloons everywhere, there's atable that's candle lit and
there's rose petals on the floor.
And I'm just like, oh, this isthis is super cute and super
dope.
And we sat and he cooked.
The chef cooked for us a threecourse meal and it was really

(23:10):
good and we just talked theentire time.
We talked for like three and ahalf hours and nowhere in that
conversation was there anythingabout sex.
So that was my most amazingdate that I've ever been on
Kudos to him.

Sir Anthony (23:26):
Gotta give him kudos.
Yeah, he did that.
You credit where credit is due.

Chrissy A. (23:29):
He did that.

Sir Anthony (23:31):
But then he fumbled the ball.

Chrissy A. (23:33):
He did Big time.

Sir Anthony (23:36):
Eventually, your boy picked it up, and now I'm
going to the goal.

Chrissy A. (23:39):
Period Run baby.
Run Time for social mediadating.
Wait a minute.
Have you ever online dated?
No, You've never online dated.
No, Never downloaded an app.

Sir Anthony (23:53):
When I tried the apps, because I'm not doing it
for the app's purpose, so I hadzero traction.
What you mean I tried the oneone.
I tried hinge and their thingis the prompts.
I didn't care about thoseprompts, I just put in the.
I skipped most of them that Icould and put in the bear.

(24:15):
Listen, I was on something elsewe said this episode is called.
Hotels, right, if I were to tellthe truth, it was going to be a
bunch of lies on that app.
So tried a little bit.
It was dead.
You know what?
I forget the name of this.
I did try another app, but itwas during a pandemic.

(24:38):
This is the time when nobodycould come out, when it got
really strict before it openedup, and the women on there were
strange and desperate and I'mlike, um, I don't think I should
be in this place and deletedthe app yeah, I could see that
the niggas was strange anddesperate too, but most of the

(25:00):
niggas was desperate for vagina.
I can see that.

Chrissy A. (25:04):
Because you wasn't desperate for it, but you was on
there for some vagina too, yeah.

Sir Anthony (25:09):
The episode is called Hotels.

Chrissy A. (25:14):
Well, I definitely downloaded and utilized some
dating apps and there are someweird people on there, I think,
my favorite dating app, ifanybody, because I do believe
that you can find something on adating app.
I don't think that it's as badas a lot of people make it seem.

(25:35):
I know a couple of couples thatgot married had babies meeting
somebody off a dating app, so Iwould recommend Hinge.
You talked about it.
I would recommend Hinge becauseHinge is actually pretty dope.
That and Bumble they blocked me, that's beside the point.

(26:02):
Bumble and Hinge are reallydope apps.
Bumbleble I like bumble becauseyou can date women too.
Like friendships, like meetfriends.
I wouldn't personally.
I tried.
I wouldn't want to meet afriend on an app.
Um, do, I think it's possible,I do, I think you can, but it
didn't work out for me.
As far as the guys on the app,I think Hinge has more like

(26:28):
successful, good looking men onthere, but be careful because
they could possibly be one, justsome coochie.
So just try it out, beintentional.
Um, so just try it out, beintentional.
Maybe we'll do like a um thingabout questions that you can ask
on an app to make suresomebody's intentional, or
something like that.

Sir Anthony (26:49):
And that's you know .
Shameless plug.
We have the resources sectionon pure intentions three, 14.com
.
We actually have a list ofgreat hinge prompts.

Chrissy A. (26:59):
Oh, we do.

Sir Anthony (27:00):
We have that already.

Chrissy A. (27:01):
See, this guy, this guy I don't, I don't know, he
writes the articles.
He's very good at it too.
They're really good articles.

Sir Anthony (27:12):
They're really good reads and while we edit, we
talked about the new deck thatjust came out.
So here is our you and me to usdeck.
Go and check it out now.
This one is cool because it'sfun games that couples can play
and everyone is a cool activitythat you can do, some that you

(27:32):
can just do without anythingelse, like pan pad or going
anywhere, and then some requiresyou to actually go.
Um, so we have that.
We have a bunch of other decksout, so just kind of showing a
few of them off.
Um, which one is this?
This is the beyond dating deck.
We're gonna do an episode onthis.

Chrissy A. (27:52):
You want to describe it just very briefly um, it's
just basically like we have thethe intention starters deck,
that's when you just first startdating someone, and then the
beyond dating deck is the onewhere you're actually in the
commitment stage, like you'retrying to see if it's time to

(28:13):
actually commit.

Sir Anthony (28:14):
So now we're moving from dating to actually
starting a relationship and thatthey have good questions for
that yep, and to talk about thereignite deck, um well, there's
a whole episode about that, ifyou're listening on the podcast
before this one you can go aheadand look up uh, spinning the

(28:37):
block, reignite, whatever thosekeywords and look at that
episode.
And we talk about going backwith somebody that you've been
with.
We have the cards that weintroduced to that.
And then you mentioned about onHinge, where you can find
friends.
So we have for the ladies thesister circle deck and how you
can get intentional questions to, as you say date your friends.

(28:59):
And learn, not in a romanticway, but how to get closer and
have intentional relationshipswith them.

Chrissy A. (29:06):
Y'all that tripped him up when I said it's a deck
where you can date your friends.
He's like date your friends.
But I do believe that as muchas we take dating men and women
or whatever, whatever you'reinto as much as we take that
serious, we should protectourselves and our friendships

(29:29):
too, because these are thepeople that, more than likely,
when you are going through yourtoughest times, these are the
people that you run to and youtalk to when you don't have
nobody else to talk to, like,let's be honest, like everybody
can't go to their family members, because if you tell unsurely,
unsurely gonna tell cousin Peteand everybody in the family
gonna know.
You know and you need tounderstand friendships and help

(29:53):
what people value, what theylike, and if we were in this
scenario, how would you react toit?
Or have you ever been in thistype of scenario and how did
that make you feel?
You know, like I really dobelieve it's a good thing to
date your friend, so I created awhole deck for it and you can
find that atpureintentions314.com okay,

(30:16):
enough with the promo, back backto to.

Sir Anthony (30:21):
that's what pays the bills, so we have to have
that.

Chrissy A. (30:23):
We have to throw our infomercials in there, ok, so,
aside from the dating apps andall of that, I did want to talk
about the questions that peopletypically ask when dating.
Have you ever asked a girl forher body count ever in your life
?

Sir Anthony (30:43):
No.

Chrissy A. (30:43):
You've never asked.

Sir Anthony (30:45):
It's certain things you don't ask women.
Are you never asked Some women?
You don't know that age, thingslike that Not even as a kid no,
oh, that's so good.

Erica (30:56):
I like that.

Sir Anthony (30:56):
It's certain things that fellas.
You know you don't ask thatquestion if you don't want that
second date okay, go back to thequestions.
You don't ask a woman age,depending on if you're post 30.
Don't ask, don't even guess it.
You know what I do.
I play a game and I reverse iton me.
How old do you think I am?

(31:17):
Remember me doing that?
Yeah, and.

Chrissy A. (31:20):
But you know what?
I'm a little iffy about thatbecause I feel like a lot of us
have a problem with the agething.
A lot of women have a problemwith telling age.
But I don't see, I think thataging is a beautiful thing.
It's so many people that aredying so young To know that you
have successfully lived a fulllife, to know that you're aging

(31:45):
in, aging beautifully, like finewine, like it's like why would
you not want to disclose howlong you've been here?
Like it's not a question thatthey asking you how much in your
bank account right now.
It's literally like let's,what's your age, how old are you
, you know?
And then some people just havetheir preferences of what age

(32:06):
group they want to date.
So I think that's a typicalquestion and no matter how old
you get, you shouldn't shy awayfrom answering it.
But that's just my opinion.
It's just my opinion.
Teach his own, don't beat me up.

Sir Anthony (32:20):
They gonna blame the comments.

Chrissy A. (32:22):
It's just my opinion , Like I just don't.
I never really understood whywomen do not like telling their
age.

Sir Anthony (32:30):
Yeah, I'm gonna say some risky stuff here.
I think the ones that don'tlook older, the ones that look
older than their age, they havean insecurity about that and
then that's going to cause oropen that can of worms.

Chrissy A. (32:45):
Well, you still look old, it don't?

Sir Anthony (32:47):
matter.
But the ones that are inreverse, that look way younger
than what their physical age is,those are the ones that don't
mind telling.

Chrissy A. (32:56):
But I've actually seen women that look great that
don't like that question too.

Sir Anthony (33:03):
I don't know.
I don't have experience in that, so I don't even ask it.

Chrissy A. (33:06):
I don't want that smoke you like, just right, just
avoid it at all, all completely.
But if you are a woman outthere that is that type of woman
who's afraid to tell her age, II mean, I kind of want to know
why, like, maybe inbox us.
Everything that we get inboxed,everything that you message us,

(33:26):
is done in secrecy.
I just want to know why.
What is it about the agequestion that gets you so antsy
and makes you not want to answerit or makes you feel like it's
very disrespectful?

Sir Anthony (33:42):
and be honest, we have a section on our website.
So if you don't want to dm whichhas your personal
identification, which you go onthe website.
There's a whole section.
It's called dear pure intention.
You can do it anonymously andsubmit your, submit the response
to this, be honest, and then wecan understand why.
And if you want us to talkabout it on the show, let us

(34:03):
know.
In that same communique and ofcourse we don't have your
information, we can just talkabout and say here's we heard
from some women and here's thevalid reasons why and it could.

Chrissy A. (34:11):
It could be a very valid reason, like, I think, how
we say it's two sides to astory and then there's the truth
.
Um, it could be a very validreason why someone doesn't want
to disclose their age.

Sir Anthony (34:27):
And I feel like, if , if that's what you want to do,
that's what you want to do, Ijust honestly just want to know
why yeah, but fellas, if youwant a tip on how to do it,
especially if you look young,suave and debonair, you know you
reverse it on yourself, getthem to guess your age and most
often what happens is that openup and she'll tell her age as a

(34:47):
conversation piece.
So I don't even make it abouther age, it's about my age, and
if you look older than what youare, I don't know how to help
you there.
Brother, like, stop all thatdrinking and smoking.

Chrissy A. (34:57):
You know what I'm saying yeah and let your hair go
, like just let it go, it's okay.
It's okay.
Like rip that head because yourline of being all the way back
here, it's fucking ridiculous,just just let it go I'm about
four, five years away from that.

Sir Anthony (35:16):
So stop, I'm feeling a little triggered, but
no, we we like.

Chrissy A. (35:19):
We like bald men too .
We like a nice bald man with abeard.
What's up?

Sir Anthony (35:31):
Well, I'm gonna go back to this episode where I
said if I cut my hair?

Chrissy A. (35:42):
I mean you did say about the beard, but then when I
said the hair you, you was likeno, no, you don't purposely cut
your hair.
You have nice hair.
You don't cut your hair, butwhen it's time to let it go, rip
it, yeah, and let it go, I'mgonna.
If you try to hold on to itlonger than it wants to be held
on to, it's like a bad.
Y'all have a bad relationshipwith your hair.

Sir Anthony (36:00):
What if I get dreads and then my dreads?

Erica (36:02):
on hell no.

Chrissy A. (36:04):
I have ball dress and it's on the back of my head
while you sleep.

Sir Anthony (36:07):
But I'm wearing a hat all the time, dope pets all
the time to cover my ball dream.

Chrissy A. (36:12):
No cuz what if we go to a spot named like no hats?
We can't go and then you gottatake.

Sir Anthony (36:18):
We can't go.
We going all the way home.

Erica (36:20):
I don't know this nigga.

Sir Anthony (36:23):
Nah, I'm fucking around, I be like yeah.
I'm not going to wear no balddreads.

Chrissy A. (36:30):
So I do want to like double back, because we kind of
got off on body counts soyou've never asked anybody for
their body count before.
Has anybody ever asked you howmany women you slept with?

Sir Anthony (36:43):
Yes, but I'm not telling the truth.

Chrissy A. (36:46):
You're not going to tell the truth.
No, how many women you sleptwith?
Never mind, never mind.

Erica (36:52):
Never mind.

Chrissy A. (36:52):
I don't know it's that many, it's three.
Nigga, I know you're lying,lying how you know I'm lying you
weren't there shooting with mewhen I was in the gym.
I'm one, your ex before me wasone, your ex-wife was one, and

(37:18):
then you talked about, on thisepisode, the girl.

Sir Anthony (37:22):
I didn't say we slept together on this.

Chrissy A. (37:24):
I know you slept with her, though why you ratting
me out?

Sir Anthony (37:26):
so like if the fans come red flag y'all hitting,
she telling it on the show,ain't nobody even ask you that.

Chrissy A. (37:35):
Well, it's my business to tell, because that
belongs to me hello four okay,okay.
So we're gonna multiply that by50 we got jokes.

Sir Anthony (37:57):
Huh, I'm gonna get you back.

Chrissy A. (38:01):
Well, I've definitely been asked my body
count.
And you told Well then, yeah,because it wasn't that many.

Sir Anthony (38:10):
Was it crickets after that?
Oh, my bad, I wasn't listening.
You said you told because itwasn't that many then, and
that's cool with the guy.
Did he believe it?

Chrissy A. (38:20):
He got mad.

Sir Anthony (38:23):
You know what, what I don't know why I'm shocked
because my maturity now is likeback then, like shit, anything
over two for a guy that's whatit was it's like but you've been
out here running a hotel.

Chrissy A. (38:36):
It was a guy.

Sir Anthony (38:37):
I lost my virginity with you said he made number
two and that was too much saidhe made number two and that was
too much.

Chrissy A. (38:42):
No, he made number three.

Sir Anthony (38:44):
And that was too much.

Chrissy A. (38:45):
Yeah, because he wanted to be number one.
I guess that's the only thing Ican think of.
I don't understand that, like Iknow a lot of people do this
thing where they're just like,well, I need to know so I can
know what I get into, what I'mgetting into.
But they ask after they alreadyhad sex with you nigga, you got

(39:11):
into it already, ain't noturning back.
You can't unfuck me, uh-uh, I'mfinna.

Sir Anthony (39:19):
unfuck you because you got too many bodies well, uh
, everybody, the guys, they knowthe rule to that.

Chrissy A. (39:27):
Whatever the woman tell you, multiply times 10 and
add three and whatever the mantells you, divide that by six,
because it's that blind youprobably a virgin look, look,
look.

Sir Anthony (39:39):
I'm putting that clip out because that make us
look good.
You said divide by six.

Chrissy A. (39:44):
That nigga probably lying.

Sir Anthony (39:46):
You ain't hear what you saying.

Chrissy A. (39:47):
That don't make y'all look good.
You ain't hear what you sayingno, I'm saying y'all lie about
y'all penis Meaning.
A lot of men out here say, oh,fuck this girl.

Sir Anthony (39:55):
I fuck that girl, and and ain't fucked nobody.
See, I'm not listening.

Chrissy A. (39:59):
No, you're not.

Sir Anthony (40:00):
So they upping the count that they don't have.

Chrissy A. (40:03):
Yeah.

Sir Anthony (40:05):
I'm going to roll with that.

Chrissy A. (40:08):
If he tell you his body count, times that
motherfucker by a hundred, shelying, she lying.
Well, he shouldn't be talkingto y'all about his body count
anyways, Moving along.
So do you think that?
Just to end this conversation,do you even think that body

(40:31):
counts matter in a relationship?

Sir Anthony (40:37):
They do if who you're dating is running a hotel
and so it's like an indicationto the guys like damn, is she
for the streets?
Am I the one trying to turn thehole into a housewife because a
caged lion gonna have to roar?
So she might be a little tamenow, but if that's in her nature
the whole round, she's gonna dothat on you.

(40:58):
I think that's what the deeperquestion that the guys are
trying to get to is like man, ifI come pull up, did the homie
smash her because she grew up inthis neighborhood?
Like man, do I run that risk ofbeing?
I think it's getting to thatthat I just discussed and then
the avoiding the embarrassmentof it, like if she got around.

(41:21):
That's the real issue that guysdon't want to be open and talk
about.
Yeah, so that's what matters.
And then all of that taps intoemasculating his ego.

Chrissy A. (41:32):
But then it's just like I think that a lot of us go
through a whole phase, like awhole era, and it's not that you
are necessarily a whole.
Some women, especially womenthat didn't grow up with a
father figure, women that didn'tgrow up with any male figures,

(41:58):
you know like in your life toshow you.
Or if you did grow up with onethat didn't even teach you, you
know like in your life to showyou.
Or if you did grow up with onethat didn't even teach you you
know what I'm saying how torespect yourself.
Or even growing up with a womanthat didn't even understand how
to teach you to properlyrespect your body.
You know, and it's like you gothrough this stage of trying to

(42:20):
figure out life and find thatperson.
I'm just telling you themindset of how I thought I'm
going to be real with youbecause we've been authentic.
When I was young, I wasn't.
I didn't care about the sexpart, like sex was something
that I felt like I had to dobecause if somebody made me

(42:41):
their boyfriend and this was themisconception.
This is why we do, as parents,need to have these conversations
with our kids.
This is why we need to havethese conversations with our
nieces.
This is why we need to havethese conversations with our
nieces, our you know what I'msaying Our family members,
because my perception of arelationship was make him happy
and it will eventually make mehappy, like I will get the love

(43:09):
that I need if I please him.
So I was literally a peoplepleaser and I was a man pleaser,
a boy pleaser, because I wasyoung and it was like you make
me your girlfriend and let'sjust say we spend time together
and you start like wanting tofeel me or you want to like I
feel like I'm supposed to dothat because I'm your girlfriend

(43:31):
, like that was my perception onwhat it was to be a girlfriend.
Didn't know no better Hotels,and it's like, if you don't know
, you're going to do what youthink is the way to go.

(43:54):
And the people that wereteaching me were the people that
were using me.
You know what I mean.
And now this relationshipdoesn't work out.
So now I got a new boyfriendand this boyfriend is different
because he's promising me things, he's telling me he's going to
be here for me, and I don't knowwhat that looks like exactly,
because I never had it.
So I'm believing him and I'mtrusting that he's going to do

(44:15):
right by me, especially if Itell him all the times that
niggas did me wrong and I don'twant to go through that again,
not knowing that he's utilizingthat to get what he want out of
me.
So then you go through theseperiods and over and over again
until you one day wake up andsay what am I doing?
What's going on?

(44:35):
I don't even want to do thislike each time that I had sex.
I didn't start enjoying sexuntil I became 30.
Yeah, it's crazy, like sex wasfor other people.
It was.
It wasn't for me.
I did have an experience in my20s.

(44:55):
I'm not gonna lie.
I had an experience.
We ain't gonna, we ain't gonnaget that transparent, but I had
an experience in my 20s that Idid enjoy.
But I'm talking about like asfar as like relationship goals
and actually feeling my body theway that I wanted to feel it,
and doing it strictly because Iwanted to do it you know what I

(45:19):
mean and not because somebodyelse.
So I would definitely advisethat all these adults out here
listening to us have thoseconversations with the children
in your life.
People are kids, are not tooyoung to know these things.
We have people that are havingsex at 10, 11, 12 years old.

(45:41):
So don't think my baby is tooyoung for this, because you
don't know who is actuallyteaching your baby what out in
these streets at school.
Even so, have thoseconversations.
Teach your child how to respecttheir body and what it means to
be respectful to your body, andthat waiting is actually a good

(46:02):
thing and not to do somethingunless you want it for you not
to keep somebody.
You know what I mean.
So well said, who child?
There's some transparency.
So, with that being said,sometimes people go through them
whole periods.
We go through whole stages.
It doesn't make us a whole.

(46:22):
It doesn't mean that we're notmarriage material.
It just means that sometimespeople take a longer process to
get to know who they really are.

Sir Anthony (46:31):
Yeah, yeah and if you are a hoe, don't masquerade
as if you're a housewife yeahstay on that side of the fence.
Stop trying to trick thesebrothers.
Hang on to that holes areliterally tricks.

Chrissy A. (46:49):
So how they gonna stop tricking if they're ho?

Sir Anthony (46:53):
my fellas, learn how to look through the wholism,
look past the tricks and getwhat you need and get out.

Chrissy A. (47:04):
Some women are made for fun, some women you settle
down with that's true, but Ithink that a lot of men take the
women that are made to settledown with and put them as fun
and wipe up the holes.
They got it backwards.
Y'all got it wrong.

(47:25):
How they getting it wrong?

Sir Anthony (47:28):
because of bbls and tdls and liposuction and all
that.
You can't tell the good onesfrom the bad.
No more these mommy makeovers.
Some of them is cold war.
You want that like?
Have fun with it.
Yeah, have fun with it.
Yeah, but there are some, some,some, uh mom makeovers that are

(47:51):
good women, and now you gotyour double bubble.
So to you, sister.
I salute you.

Chrissy A. (47:58):
I ain't got no mom makeover, I just got a fat ass.
Do you think social media makesdating worse or better?

Sir Anthony (48:08):
Overall, I think it makes it worse because there
are some unrealisticexpectations with dating.
This.
What we're talking aboutintentionality most the masses
probably don't want to hear this, because it really first starts
with you as the individual tofigure out what you want.

(48:29):
And if it doesn't work, you canit, it's okay to move around
and when it does, to lock in.
So social media doesn't showyou this.
They'll show you the goals,which is good as far as being
inspirational, but it doesn'ttell you, show you the hard work
that go most times.
Now there are some accountsthat are sharing you know the

(48:51):
trials and tribulations and thenshow those happy moments.
But when you see that this girlgot a room full of flowers and
balloons and this and that andthe couple looks so good, you
don't know what comes with that.

Erica (49:04):
Yeah.

Sir Anthony (49:05):
The turmoil, the bad times, the ups and downs to
get to that point.
So it shows an unrealisticexpectation and thinking that
everything is supposed to bepeaches and cream, when it's not
.

Chrissy A. (49:18):
Yeah, I think that it could be good and a bad thing
, because, even in thatexplanation that you gave, I
think that a lot of people wantthose flowers everywhere in
those balloons because they seeit and they've never seen it
before and what do we know untilwe actually experience it?

(49:40):
And it's like you being theperson that I'm dating or the
person that I'm with and I tellyou like, oh, babe, I would love
this.
It gives you a moment toconnect with me on a different
level and it's possibly possiblysomething that you've never
experienced neither, and it'sjust like, oh, I'm doing
something for somebody, I mustreally care about her.

(50:00):
So I think there's a good sideto that thought process too.
It just depends on how thepeople on the other side of this
camera perceive or perceivethings.
Because, baby, outside of theexpectations, because there is
social media where we see thebad parts of relationships.
Let's call it, um, reality TV.

(50:24):
Now, you don't think reality TVis real?

Erica (50:29):
right To a certain extent Right, okay, right okay.

Chrissy A. (50:33):
However, these people are living like.
I do feel like that they theydon't script it, but they put
people in positions to wherethey can get more ratings.
That's what I believe makesreality tv a little fake.
Um, because if it wasn't for it, they probably would never bump
into these people or even talkto these people or have

(50:55):
conversations with them.
Because I don't fuck with you.
Why am I talking to you?
Why am I sitting at the table?
What you have in lunch?
You know what I mean, but Ithink what people do is they
judge at social media, judgeseverybody relationship when they
see something going bad in arelationship.
You don't watch love and hip hop, but I will bring this up the

(51:19):
whole Rashida and Kirk thing.
It just grinds my gears.
Seeing all the comments thatpeople make about this woman
wanting to stick with herhusband, through the cheating,
through the bullshit, throughthe lies, through all of that,
like it baffles me, becauseeverybody has a breaking point.

(51:41):
If she has not reached herbreaking point, why does it
matter so much to y'all?
Like?
This is a man that they builtempires with.
They literally have acres ofland and buildings together.
You know what I'm saying?
Like it's a financial thing andwe can sit here and act like
money doesn't matter, but itdoes.

(52:02):
They have children together.
You know what I'm saying and Iget the whole.
Don't stay together in amiserable home because of the
kids.
But I only think that they getmiserable because their, their
stuff is on tv.
I feel like Rashida wouldn'teven go that hard if all of us

(52:23):
wasn't judging her and herrelationship like I think that
she would just be like shit, hegot hoes, fuck it.
Just stop.
Just stop getting them bitches,pregnant nigga.
Like that's all I care about.
Like if you gonna fuck somebody, fuck them, but don't bring
that shit home.
And a lot of people don'tunderstand that concept because

(52:45):
they think like oh, I'm in arelationship, it's supposed to
be monogamy and you're supposedto be stay faithful to me, no
matter what.
But in reality some niggascheat like some niggas cheat and
the count on men versus womenit's more women in this world
than men.
So I want Rashida to stay withher cheating husband because I

(53:07):
want a faithful man.
I want the Rashida's of theworld to stay with their
cheating husbands and allow themtheir peace in cheating, like
she's trying to let that mancheat in peace and y'all making
her have to say something and dosomething about it.
Like that woman is beautiful,she know what she doing, she
absolutely know what the fuckshe doing and I don't see no

(53:31):
shame in it.
Let that man cheat in peace.
She tried, but y'all said hecommented like leave her the
fuck alone, flame our commentsthat's my truth, like that's my
opinion of it, like I honestlybelieve that she did.
She did know her.
We are women.

(53:52):
We know when our man startscheating, like we just know.
We just know, we just do.
God put that in us to know.
And it's like she didn't needy'all.
She didn't need BET VH1.
What's on BET?
It sound like BET.
She ain't need that to tell herthat her husband was cheating

(54:14):
on her.
She probably already had afeeling about it, but I feel
like the pressure of socialmedia and all the comments, the
negative comments is making herfeel like she has to say
something.
She has to now address thesituation overly and the tears I
feel like are real, but I thinkit's tears of nigga.

(54:35):
Why did you do it to the pointwhere now everybody has
something to talk about?

Sir Anthony (54:40):
yeah, I understand that logic let that.

Chrissy A. (54:45):
Let that woman let her man cheat in peace, people.
Let that woman free.
She is a beautiful woman, shegot her own businesses, she
makes her own money and shehappy.
Now y'all making this ladymiserable because she gotta keep
trying to save face.
Like, let her let her man shein peace, shit.

(55:06):
And the rest of them too,because she ain't the only one,
and the rest of them too,because she ain't the only one.
That's all I have to say.
I know you can't really commentbecause he did not watch social
.

Sir Anthony (55:21):
I mean, he did not watch any reality TV no, I just
overhear what you're watchingand then the comments that
you're bringing up, so I'm awareof it, but I just it's a
variety of reasons, butsometimes because we y'all don't

(56:05):
understand.
We so simple that and we'revisual.
It'll be a chick in our face.
That's just giving us rhythm.
And you know how they say this.
It's not literally that thepussy fall in your lap, but
sometimes that's how it feels.
It's like they just throwing itat us.
It's like, okay, I took it andshe means nothing to me and I'm

(56:27):
back with you and I get.
I'm gonna get flamed for that,but it really is as simple as
that so men are weak you couldsay that I wouldn't say simple,
I would say weak we are simple

Chrissy A. (56:41):
weak.
If pussy could just fall inyour lap I mean they can just
fall in my lap it's just like.
I don't think it's a simplicitything, I think it is a weakness
thing because it's so easy tojust get a woman and fuck her.

(57:07):
You know how hard it is to havea woman that you're attracted
to and be like, no, I got, I gota girl, I'm good.
Like it takes a lot of strengthto do that and I understand
that it takes a lot of strengthto do that.
And it's like for women it'snot that well, for me it's not

(57:32):
that hard to do.
Like I could see an attractiveman and don't even see him
attractive.
Like when, like I have a tunnelvision thing, like I got a good
man.
Or even if there is a manattractive enough for me to be
like, oh he, fine.
It don't be like oh he, fine.
Like you know what I'm saying,it's just like oh's, he's nice

(57:53):
looking and I think my mind willmostly go to like one of my
friends that's single versusanything.
You know what I'm saying, butI'm not gonna go talk to him.
Try to hook him up with myfriends.
It'd probably be a thought like, oh, lele might be attracted to
him, and then it ends there.
You know what I mean.
But y'all, just, y'all, justweak, weak ass.

(58:18):
Get a hold of yourself I'll letyou have it.

Sir Anthony (58:25):
You win that.

Chrissy A. (58:26):
You've won that round one, you've won okay, well
, I feel like this is a goodconversation.
Yeah, I don't think we have tokeep continuing, because you
know I'll be talking, I'll gofor days, so we're just gonna
end this right here, right now.
Okay and um, did you haveanything like on your heart or

(58:53):
anything you want to say, givesome advice or close it up in
your own special way?

Sir Anthony (59:00):
Well, young YNs, listen when the old heads were
on.
Now consider I learned that I'mon status.
Now Listen when we tell you toget all your whole face out.
When you young, do that becauseyou really do.
And when we say that, do itresponsibly.
You want to date and figure outwho you are, what you really

(59:23):
like, versus committing youngand realizing you want to
venture in your committedrelationship.
That's a mistake that I made.
I should have sold my oats anddid all of that while I was
younger, figured that stuff out,so when it's time to settle
down I can find the person thatproperly aligns with me.
So that's my advice to theyoung guys figure out what you

(59:47):
want like really really figurethat out, even through failures,
like when you mess around withsome of these chicks and you're
like, nope, I wanted this bigbooty IG model, but, man, she
was fun to look at, fun withthem clothes off, but she lay
there like a rock in the bed.
But when I had this Ooga Boogaman, she was doing acrobats and

(01:00:11):
flips in 17 different positionsand all of that.
Then, when I was with the BattyOff IG, she made me peanut
butter, jelly sandwiches, cheesepizza and hot dogs, oh, and you
know what's her best meal Tacos.
And you're like, damn, wherethe pot roast and the fried
chicken and the shrimp pasta andall that stuff I see on the

(01:00:35):
gram Nope, buddy, you're goingto be spending at the restaurant
on her or y'all for that.
Like, you have to figure thatstuff out and you have to go
through that.
And if that's what you built on, you want to eat the hot dog
cheese pizza and tacos.
If that's what you into, thenby all means go after it.

Chrissy A. (01:00:54):
But you got to figure that out and that's what
you're into, then by all meansgo after it.
But you got to figure that outand that's my word of advice to
you.
Do you think that men thattypically serial cheat have been
had their heart broken andthat's why they became a monster
?

Sir Anthony (01:01:07):
Yes, so a lot of.
And then they don't want toadmit it, so it would.
Might.
It might have been who hethought was that perfect girl,
and it just for some.
Whatever the reason is, itdidn't work out.
So I'm like I'm about to be outhere and nobody will ever get
that close to my heart anymore.
And if you are getting close,I'm on to the next one.

Chrissy A. (01:01:28):
Yeah, I feel that heavy.
Yeah, I feel that heavy.
I feel that so heavy because,thinking about all the type of
guys that I've dated, theyreally were like, really sweet
and loving, like I could feelthat part of them.
I could look at their eyes andsee that side of them, but it
was masked by all this fear.

(01:01:51):
That's what I'm going to callit.
It it was fear fear of beinghurt again, fear of letting
somebody in and it not workingout, fear of getting done like
they probably did some women.
You know what I mean.
And it's unfortunate becauseit's like now.
Their fear is now tricklingdown to each woman that they're

(01:02:14):
hurting, that has goodintentions for relationships,
and now we creating holes thisis the hotels episode period
hotel everybody, um yeah, that'sall I want to say.

Sir Anthony (01:02:32):
Okay we closing it out.

Chrissy A. (01:02:34):
Yes.
So my word of advice is, ofcourse, to my women, since he
gave that beautiful advice toour young men, to my young girls
specifically, those who do nothave a strong male role model or
strong feminine role model intheir life I would say just be

(01:02:58):
patient with yourself.
Love on you.
You don't need anyone to loveyou.
You don't need any physicalthing out there to make you feel
special.
You just are thing out there tomake you feel special.
You just are.
God created each and every oneof you, one of us, to be
something special.

(01:03:18):
Everything that you need isalready inside of you.
So don't go out looking forsomebody.
Don't take your daddy issuesand try to find a man that will
treat you right, because what'sgoing to happen if we don't
learn how to unlock thoseversions of us where we love

(01:03:38):
ourselves?
What's going to happen is we'regoing to go through those whole
phases.
We're going to give ourselvesto people that we think are
sincere with us and it ninetimes out of 10, be a front.
So just be patient withyourself.
Love on you.
Love on you so heavy that youdon't need anybody else at that

(01:04:02):
point.
And once you get to the pointof loving you and knowing you
and understanding what it isthat you want and need.
Then your Prince Charming willcome and he will get on your
fucking nerves, but you willlove him Because the love he
gives to you is way more thanany of that, and that's all I

(01:04:25):
have to say.
So thank you for joining ourepisode on hotels.

Sir Anthony (01:04:31):
Until next time.

Chrissy A. (01:04:33):
See ya.