BREAKING UP WITH UNHEALTHY SOULTIES, PT. 1

This podcast episode delves into the concept of unhealthy soul ties and offers guidance on how to break free from them in order to find true freedom and wholeness in Christ. The central message emphasizes that the ultimate soul tie believers should seek is a oneness with Jesus, as stated in First Corinthians 6:17. The host outlines practical steps to identify and release unhealthy relationships, highlighting the importance of seeking godly counsel during vulnerable times. Listeners are encouraged to forgive those who have caused them pain, as forgiveness is a crucial step in letting go of the past and reclaiming one's life. Through prayer, scripture, and wise counsel, individuals can navigate the healing process and move toward a more fulfilling relationship with the Lord.

Links referenced in this episode:

• pastorchristine.com
• pastorchristinedesiree.com

Episode Transcript

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These types of souls that youmight have with your husband or the
soul ties that you might havewith your children or even your parents.
But I'm talking about theunhealthy soul ties.
In my study for today'spodcast, the Lord led me to a powerful
scripture.
It comes from FirstCorinthians, chapter 6, verse 17,
which says, but whoever isunited with the Lord is one with

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him in spirit.
I thought that was a verypowerful verse, and it says it all.
That verse says everythingwithin it.
The ultimate soul tie that weshould seek, believers, is being
one with Jesus.
And when you are one withChrist, you will have true freedom

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and wholeness.
Amen.
That's what we're all lookingfor in life.
We're all looking for freedom.
We're all looking for wholeness.
We're all looking to be complete.
And we can find that only inJesus Christ, especially after being
in a unhealthy relationship.

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We all go through periods oftime where we are seeking that freedom
and we're seeking thatwholeness and to be complete in Jesus.
So over the next two podcastepisodes, I'm going to be going through
a few steps to help you breakfree from unhealthy soul ties and
move forward towards thatoneness with the Lord, which should

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be your goal.
That should be all of ourgoal, to be one with the Lord.
So, number one, the firstthing you want to do when you are
breaking up with unhealthysoul ties and trying to find that
freedom and wholeness inChrist, number one is you must identify
the unhealthy soul tie.
It seems so simple, it seemsso elementary, but it's not.

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Identify the unhealthy ties inyour life.
Recognize the relationships inyour life that are draining you rather
than enriching you.
What are those relationships?
Look for them and identify them.
Most of the time, these mightbe relationships that are marked
by manipulation.
They are marked by constantnegativity or even emotional dependency.

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So you want to find and do asearch and find those relationships
that are causing you the pain,those relationships that are unhealthy,
and you want to break up with them.
This next point, you will hearme say over and over and over and
over on this podcast.
But number two, seek godly counsel.

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When coming out of a badrelationship, you are very vulnerable.
Most likely you are very weak.
You are probably wounded.
You have been in hurt.
You have experienced hurt.
So I want you to turn toprayer and scripture.
Of course, that's what we want.
We want you to turn to prayerand scripture for understanding and

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strength.
God's wisdom will help you seeclearly and give you the courage
to take the necessary stepsthat you need.
In fact, in James, chapterone, verse five, it says if any of
you lacks wisdom, you shouldask God, who gives generously to
all without finding fault, andit will be given to you.

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So if you need counsel, if youneed wisdom, go to God.
Go to God in prayer.
Ask God.
We want you to read the word.
I want you to pray, okay?
Ask God, and he's not going tofind fault in you when you go and
ask, especially concerningyour relationship that you were,
you were in.
So that's number one.
You need the counsel from the Lord.
You need the counsel from God.

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But sometimes we can't hearGod because we're so wounded and
we're so hurt, we can't hear God.
And sometimes we need to go tosomebody else to help us to open
up the, the, the, the, theheavens to help us pray, to help
counsel us so we can be ableto hear the spirit of God.
So, but also seek godlycounsel for.

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From someone you trust.
This could be a pastor, itcould be your mentor.
It could be a small groupleader, a family member that you
trust, a friend, a bestfriend, a solid Christian that you
trust.
We all have those in our liveswho are good.
They are good people, but notthe people that we should get wisdom

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and counsel from.
So I'm saying be mindful, not.
You don't want to go to thosekinds of people in your life who
are good, but they don't havethe ability to give you good and
sound counsel.
I'm talking about someone whois grounded and rooted in the Lord
and who has gone through andmade it through with the help of

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the Lord.
They've gone through somethingyou have experienced, okay?
Or they are a leader and they have.
They.
They can help you with thehelp of the Lord.
Ask them for wisdom and guidance.
Guidance and the strength.
As you are navigating thisdifficult process through your life.
This is one that you will alsohear me say frequently on this podcast.

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Because it's the key to almosteverything that we go through in
life, all the hardships thatwe face in life.
Number three.
Forgive and release.
Forgive and release.
Forgive and let it go.
Let the person go.
Okay.
Let the person go.

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So many times we let go of the person.
We let go of the relationship,but it's very difficult for us to
let go of the memories.
It's difficult for us to letgo of the experiences associated
with it.
We are still holding on to the pain.
We are still holding on to the wounds.

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We're still holding on to the hurts.
And each day we relive overand over those moments.
We relive over and over the experiences.
But forgiveness is the key toletting go.
I'll say that again.
Forgiveness is the key toletting go.
Forgiveness is a powerful stepin breaking soul ties.

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Now, I'm not excusing the person.
It's not about excusing theperson's action.
It's not excusing what theperson did to you.
It's not excusing the painthat was inflicted upon you.
But it's about releasing theirhold on your life.
It's if you have unforgivenessin your heart, you have a hole on

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your life.
You have a whole on your heart.
So it's about releasing theirhold on your life.
It's about releasing theirhold on your heart.
And forgiveness is also foryour freedom, but it is also for
their freedom as well.
So I encourage you to forgiveand release.

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