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Hello, this is PastorChristine Desiree.
And this is part two of ourseries that we are doing, Breaking
Unhealthy Soul Ties.
How do we get that freedom andthat wholeness that we need?
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Remember I said the last time,last time that we were here, that
many times in our lives, weare attached to people and we have
unhealthy soul ties and thoseties that we need to break up with
right now.
And when soul ties are nothealthy, they can hold us back from
the life that God intended for us.
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So if you have not listened tothat podcast that came before this,
I encourage you to go andlisten to that today.
The next thing you want to do,which is vitally important, just
as the other ones that I said,the next thing you want to do is
establish boundaries.
Establish boundaries.
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That's something that we don'ttalk about a lot, especially as believers,
establishing boundaries in our lives.
But you want to set clear,healthy boundaries with that person.
That person needs to know theline that they can't cross.
This might mean limiting,limiting their contact or ending
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the relationship altogether.
Sometimes you just need tolimit the contact with this person.
Maybe see them once a month,maybe see them once every six months.
Maybe don't see them thatoften at all.
Maybe just at family dinners.
If it's a family member.
Or you might need to cut therelationship altogether.
Let the Lord lead you.
But boundaries are not just physical.
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They are also emotional and spiritual.
This next point is critical inyour process of breaking unhealthy
soul ties and finding thatfreedom and wholeness in Jesus.
And that is surround yourself.
Surround yourself.
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Surround yourself with peoplewho have your best interest, interest
in heart, people who love you,your friends, your family members,
your faith communities, yourchurch community.
Surround your.
Your.
If you are young and you havefriends in school who love you, surround
yourself with people who loveyou, people who will support you
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through this process and helpyou stay on the right path.
I remember a couple podcastsago, I talked about a friend of mine
who was going back to schooland who had asked me to surround
her to be that support.
Sometimes we need that.
When we're getting out ofrelationships and we're breaking
up with those soul ties, weneed those unhealthy soul ties.
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We need good people in ourlives who will surround us and help
us to stay on the right path.
Because it's very easy to goback to an unhealthy relationship,
especially if it's a soul tie.
It's very easy to go back.
The next one is renew yourmind and spirit and that is, you
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want to replace the negativethoughts, the negative influence
of unhealthy, the unhealthysoul tie with positive thoughts and
life affirming truths.
You want to spend time in the Word.
I said that earlier.
Spend time in prayer.
You want to meditate and spendtime with Jesus.
I spend.
Spend time with God.
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Fill your mind with his truth.
Fill your mind with the truthof God's Word and his promises of
love towards you.
You have been filled withnegative influence and negative thoughts
and negative interactions.
Now it's time to renew yourmind, renew your spirit.
And how we do that is with theWord of God.
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The next point is embrace yournew identity.
Understand and embrace who youare in Christ today, who you are
now.
Know that you are loved, knowthat you are valued.
Know that you are validatedand created for a purpose.
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I know a lot of times in thoseunhealthy relationships we are told,
like I said, terrible thingsand negative things and we feel bad.
But know that you are validated.
Know that you are loved.
Know that you are valued andyou are validated and created for
a purpose.
You are here for a reason.
You are on this earth for a reason.
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God brought you out of thatsituation for a reason.
He spared your life for a reason.
Let that truth anchor you andguide your decisions with every relationship
that you put yourself in going forward.
Let you need to know that, okay?
Let that truth anchor you andguide your decisions with every relationships
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that you put yourself in going forward.
As we wrap up this podcastepisode today, I want to encourage
you that breaking unhealthysoul ties is not just about ending
something negative.
Okay?
It's not just about endingsomething negative.
It's about starting somethingnew and beautiful in your life.
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It's about making room forhealthy, healthier, more life giving
relationships and a deeperconnection with God.
Being one with God, we saidthat is our goal.
We want that freedom.
We want that wholeness.
And that freedom and thatwholeness comes from being one with
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Jesus.
If you follow these steps, Ibelieve that you will be led to greater
freedom.
You will be led to greaterwholeness in your life.
And I want you to remember inChrist you have the strength and
grace to overcome.
You have the strength andgrace in Christ to prevail in Christ.
You have the strength and thegrace to thrive.
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Thank you for joining me onthis podcast episode today.
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