HOW TO MOVE ON WITH GRACE, PT 1

Moving on with grace is essential when navigating difficult situations in life, such as breakups or painful experiences. Pastor Christine Desiree passionately discusses how acknowledging your feelings is the first step toward healing, emphasizing the importance of facing emotions rather than running from them. She stresses that forgiveness—whether towards others or oneself—is crucial for true healing, allowing individuals to release the burdens of anger and resentment. Additionally, seeking wisdom and support from a community can provide invaluable guidance during these challenging times. Throughout the episode, Pastor Christine draws on biblical principles to illustrate how embracing the future with faith can empower us to let go of the past gracefully.

Links referenced in this episode:

• pastorchristendesire.com
• triumphcitychurch.com

Episode Transcript

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Hello, everyone.
This is Pastor Christine Desiree.
And today I am excited tospeak to you about a vital and touching
topic.
And this topic is how to moveon with grace.
How to move on with grace.
How do we move past difficult situations?
How do we move on a difficult breakup?
A difficult situation with grace.

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In fact, I was gonna titlethis episode how do we Move on without
the Ugly?
Okay.
How do we do with Grace?
So, in life, we often face transitions.
We're humans.
We have relationships, andsometimes those relationships come
to an end, unfortunately.
But how we handle thesemoments can define our path forward.

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How do you move on with grace?
From a breakup or a badrelationship or even a painful situation?
I believe the word of God hasanswers for everything that we face
in life.
And.
And today we're going to belooking at the book of Philippians,
chapter verses 13 to 14, andsee what God has to say to us in

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his word.
And it reads, brothers andsisters, I do not consider myself
yet to have taken hold of it.
But one thing I do, Forgettingwhat is behind and straining forward
to what is ahead, I press ontowards the goal to win the prize
for which God has called meheavenward in Christ Jesus.

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This scripture here is tellingus, and it perfectly captures the
spirit of moving on withgrace, moving on without the ugly.
And it shows us how we canembrace the future.
We have the power, because wehave Christ, to embrace what lies
ahead.
We can embrace the futurewhile releasing and letting go of

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hard situations in our lives.
So today and over the next twoor three podcasts, I'm going to be
giving us some steps that willhelp you and guide you on this road
of moving on with grace,letting go, but at the same time,
moving on with grace.
So the first thing you want todo is, number one, you want to acknowledge

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your feelings.
Acknowledge your feelings.
It's okay to feel hurt.
It's okay to feel disappointed.
It's even okay to feel angry, okay?
But you've got to acknowledgethose feelings.
You've got to recognize thatyou have those feelings.
You can't run from them.

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You have to face them.
They are a part of you, butthey are not you.
And that's the key.
Those feelings are part ofyour life right now because you're
hurting, you are wounded.
You just lost a relationship.
They are not you.
Those feelings of anger,feeling disappointment, fe of hurt,
do defiance, do not let you.
Okay?
Another thing I want to knowis that I understand the feel of

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your Hermes.
He said he is struck with thefeelings of our infirmities.
It hurts God, when we hurt,when we hurt, he feels the hurt.
In the Bible, we see anexample of this when David, all through
the Psalms, that's what Psalmsis about.
He brought his feelings beforeGod because he knew that God understood

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his hurts.
He knew God understood his pain.
He knew God understood his disappointments.
And when he was feeling wounded.
So you can express your, youremotions to God, he fully understands,
okay?
He fully understands and hewants to be there.
Number two, and this is animportant point, you need to forgive

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to heal.
You need to understand that,that you need to forgive in order
to heal.
Forgiveness, whether it'sforgiving somebody else or forgiving
yourself, is the key to your healing.
Forgiveness is the key to your healing.
And I want you to rememberthat forgiving doesn't mean forgetting,

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okay?
Some situation, some hurtsthat we have been through, it is
impossible for us to forget.
So forgiving doesn't mean thatyou're forget.
Getting forgiving doesn't meanthat you're excusing the hurt, okay?
It isn't about justifying whathappened to you.
So when we say forgive toheal, it doesn't mean.

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I'm not saying that we are justifying.
We're making a justificationfor the pain or the breakup, the
bad breakup.
That's not what we're saying, okay?
But forgiveness is aboutfreeing your heart.
It's about freeing you fromthe burden of the anger, freeing
you from the burden of theforgive unforgiveness, freeing you

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from the burden of the, the.
For the bitterness and theresentment that comes along many
times with breaking up withbad relationships and being in those
kind of situations.
So it's a critical step in thehealing process as you walk towards
moving on in life.
Forgiveness to heal.

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Forgive to heal.
You have to forgive.
You have to let go of the,the, the unforgiveness in order to
heal.
And the last one for today isyou want to seek wisdom and support.
You want to have a community.

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You want to lean on your community.
You want to lean on yourfriends, you want to lean on family
members.
You want to lean on your faith community.
If you don't have a church,you want to get plugged into your
church.
You don't want to be isolated.
Isolation kills.

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Isolation makes people feel abandoned.
Isolation brings feelings ofloneliness and, and makes people
feel alone.
So you want to seek wisdom andsupport of your community, and you
want to seek wisdom andsupport of friends and family members
and your church family.
Their support and theirguidance can be invaluable.

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So you want that.
So don't discount that feelingof community.
Don't dis discount wisdom andgood counsel.
You don't want to despisewisdom and good counsel.
A lot of times when we get inthat place, we we want to be isolated.
We don't want people around us.
We are ashamed and we do notwant to.

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Sometimes we don't want tohear what people have to say because
we think that they don't understand.
And sometimes we just shutdown because we're so hurt.
But don't discount wisdom.
Don't discount good counsel,don't despise good counsel and wisdom
and support a supportive community.
Proverbs chapter 11:14 says,where there is no guidance, okay,

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the people fall.
But in the multitude ofcounselors, there is safety.
I mean, that scripture says it all.
I'm going to read it again.
Where there is no guidance,where there is no wisdom speaking
into your life, where there isno counsel speaking into your life,
where there is no supportivecommunity, the people fall, okay?

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But in the multitude ofcounselor in the supportive community,
in accounts a good counselingsituation, with good friends and
with supportive familymembers, with a good church, there
is safety.
Thank you for joining me onthis podcast episode today.
You can go topastorchristendesire.com for more

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information about me and thispodcast ministry like and follow
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want to say@the end.com butit's at Pastor Christine Desiree.
And also we do have a church,a local church now.
And you can visit us attriumphCity Church.com and you can check

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out our website for moreinformation about our local location
and about the church.