This episode, Haley teamed up with Kai of @Rotten_Treasure for one of the kinkiest episodes of the entire show. Sometimes it’s difficult to find a partner into the same things, in the same general geographic area--before Grindr, Craigslist, or KinkD, there were personal ads in the local LGBTQ magazine. Listen as we match with voyeurs, foot worshippers, Gumdrop Danglers, and more!
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We mentioned:
Amanda Hess, “The Foot Fetish Brain Map,” Washington City Paper, 13 April 2010.
Justin Lehmiller, “Rats With Jacket Fetishes? What Animal Sex Studies Reveal About The Origin Of Unusual Sexual Interests,” Sex and Psychology, 16 January 2015.
Gayle Rubin, “South of Market Gay Leather History: A Short History and Walking Tour,” San Francisco Frontiers, 20 September 2001.
Kelsey Borresen, “The Difference Between A Fetish And Kink, According To Sex Experts,” Huffington Post, 25 July 2018.
“English Rockers in Leather” Gay Leather Fetish History,
"Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice" by Caroll Truscott.
JP Larocque, “A brief history of BDSM: From Sparta to Weimar Germany, kink has always been part of our sexuality” 13 November 2014.
Cameron Glover, “It’s Time to Recenter Kink and BDSM as Part of Radical Queer History” Slate, 7 November 2018.
J Raúl Cornier, Hanky Panky: An Abridged History of the Hanky Code, 23 April 2019.
Palmer Haasch and Canela López, “The debate over 'kink at Pride' divides the internet, but the kink community has been part of queer protest and celebration since Stonewall” Insider, 7 June 2021.
We read:
Drummer extras, “Tough Customers 4” published c. 1990s.
The Washington Blade (Washington, DC) , 27 November 1998.
OUT FRONT (Denver, CO) 15 February 1991
Outweek (NYC) 11 July 1990
Outweek (NYC) 8 Sep 1990
Southern voice (Atlanta, GA) February 17 and 23, 1994
The Body politic (Toronto, Canada), March 1984
The San Francisco Bay times. (California), Sep 1989
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