August 15, 2024 • 56 mins
Good morning and welcome back to another episode of the Queer LBC Podcast.
In todays quick tea we discuss, gay bar Silver Platter losing liquor license, a new Abraham Lincoln documentary re-analyzing his alleged gay life, stabbing attack in Miami airport on trans teen, and JD Vance’s anti-trans issues.
In todays main topic Daddy we discuss the dynamics of daddy relationships, what makes a daddy a daddy, and if we’ve ever had a daddy. Daddy discourse is live now!
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I'm your host, Nino. My pronouns are he, him. Thank you for asking.
Asking, I have with me here my fabulous cohors.
Yo, it's me, Kristoff, your city top liaison. My pronouns are he,
him, and that, motherfucker.
Dr. Mikey here, your local licensed and practicing therapist for entertainment purposes only.
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My pronouns are he, she, all of them. So what's the tea, sis? The tea is...
Today in gay. A gay Nigerian refugee could be the first former asylum seeker
elected to the NYC Council.
Also in gay, Michigan outlaws the gay and trans panic defense in criminal trials.
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Also, L.A. gay bar Silver Platter loses liquor license, closes temporarily.
A new documentary will explore Abraham Lincoln's romantic relationships with men.
Today in transphobia, man accused of stabbing
teen multiple times at Miami International Airport is denied bond.
Also the governor of new hampshire signed three anti-trans bills into law in
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one day also jd vance's ex-friend wants trans kids to know the gop is using
them as a political ploy today in yas a new lawsuit seeks to stop enforcement
of idaho library materials bill,
and a twice yearly shot could be a new breakthrough for hiv prevention do any
of you queens know about any of these things?
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I don't know much of them but I did hear about that the stabbing at Miami International
Airport. Oh my God, yeah. That was so tragic.
I didn't like it didn't make sense if he was inside the airport
or like either way it goes i'm confused on
how this could have took place well i
guess so it said that the trans girl
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was just sitting there eating lunch or like eating food on
the floor and this fucking random ass man just
fucking took a butcher knife out of his fucking backpack exactly so how
he get in the fucking airport i fucking know that's what
i'm wondering too how the fuck do you get an airport with a fucking butcher knife
in your back right like how the fuck does that happen i can't even
get a fucking safety pin but it's also miami that's
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true so so they don't give a fuck about like so
according to cbs news a man accused of
stabbing a teen multiple times at miami international airport on
saturday night and almost throwing her over a balcony and an
unprovoked attack appeared in miami bond court on monday
alexander love 29 is charged with attempted first
degree murder and attempted murder a judge
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denied him bond on both counts and ordered him not to contact
the 17 year old directly indirectly or on social media
love was also ordered to stay away from the airport so it
i also didn't understand that part because i'm like
why would you say contacting her yeah like do
he like know her like are you not in jail anyways why
would you have the access to be to be contacting her
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and but like why would he even have access to where she.
Lives or is because the article also
was like they're both from ohio or some shit
and so it's like they don't
know if they know each other i think right i
but then it didn't also report on what happened to her after she went to the
hospital that just made no sense at all it's miami well that's also true i've
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so never been to my also what the fuck now i gotta just worry about random people
stabbing me in the fucking face yeah i'm just trying to figure out So because they don't,
they say there was, there was the trans girl, but they didn't even report her name.
So, oh, that's because she's a minor. Oh shit. She was 17.
So basically she was just sitting on the floor when she was stabbed 18 times
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in her arm, shoulder, neck, face, and legs, according to Love's arrest report.
But it don't say where she was eating at. Like, was she in a fucking terminal?
Like, and then where was everybody else at if she was in the airport?
Yeah like this makes no sense like i've never
seen a dead airport where you can go easily stab a
motherfucker for 18 goddamn times i mean i
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don't know how like populated this airport is it's an
international airport i can tell you that like i'm getting fucking shanked at
fucking lax 17 million times like you're like no one's gonna help me maybe probably
i don't know i mean you know what everybody but also if you're in fucking miami
if you're also in fucking miami me like or florida like if everyone's so transphobic
allegedly like why would anybody help you i guess,
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So basically, they say that a witness told CBS News Miami that several flights
were arriving when the attack happened, and people either tried to help the
teen or ran away from the terminal.
They said that they were shocked that it happened in such a congested part of the airport.
Same. I'm also fucking, Bobby Lazat on how this fool even got a butcher knife.
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You know what? Maybe he worked at the kitchen or some shit.
Maybe. But I don't even think they got fucking knives. Everything come pre-made and shit.
I think the article also stated that he got into some kind of altercation last
year at the airport also. That's interesting.
Well, I'm glad he didn't get by and lock his ass up.
Yeah, what is that about? That was crazy, man. What else was it?
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I know this isn't like big news or anything anybody really gives a shit about.
But a new documentary will explore gabraham lincoln's romantic relationships with dudes,
from them he loved the dudes by matthew
rodriguez the movie will represent never before
seen photographs and letters to examine lincoln's queerness
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it turns out honest abe may have had
a little secret a new documentary is exploring a long-held belief
that former president abraham lincoln was gay i mean if
you can make a fucking abraham lincoln vampire hunter why the fuck can't
you i mean you're right i mean multifaceted because you're
gonna have some dumb ass people being like he's not gay
the film's official synopsis
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reads as told by prominent lincoln scholars and
we're seeing photographs and letters the film details lincoln's
romantic relationships with men i will
watch that just you know
the first 35 minutes you know see if it's given
t or not well in my college history
class my professor told us that abraham lincoln
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was gay and also that president buchanan was also gay and then i told this girl
one time i was like have you ever heard that abraham lincoln is gay because
she like allegedly is into history and she was like no he's not and i was like
dang bye yeah i read i heard that there's like letters written between him.
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And a man and that when he lived with a man they used to share the same bed,
I heard that too which I guess is why those log cabin republicans are called
log cabin republicans because they're gay and he lived in a log cabin,
I didn't know that's what they called them they tell them themselves.
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That's the way they gotta do it they know it but that's cool I want to know
about that I mean yeah I'll probably I'll be interested in watching that I'll watch it for,
okay not for long he was a white cis closeted,
president the struggle they come a
dime a dozen you know so shit if they
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want the gays to watch you need to put a sex scene in it imagine abraham lincoln
gay sex scene you can find out on the dark web everyone will watch that with
ai with ai you can make that right now who should play abraham lincoln you said
who yeah like who could be like a hot abraham lincoln like pedro pascal will be
hot abraham lincoln oh yeah it's a good one i mean who else he's tall too,
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nobody i mean right i don't even i'm like because i don't know of any like attractive
white men really right it should just be jake gyllenhaal's abraham lincoln.
Oh young abraham lincoln is played by jake gyllenhaal
i guess he's older now so why not
what about the superman henry oh
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henry cavill henry cavill could be abraham lincoln yeah
yeah like a super like fantasy abraham lincoln yeah
like a porn abraham yeah i mean if we're going
for it let's do it so that'd be
cute or what's the chris hemsworth oh
which one is he matt boomer oh oh
matt bomber as fucking abraham they're gonna cast no i'm i just google gay actors
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i don't know white actors oh yeah so then i saw also that jd vance's former friend is a trans person,
and i guess jd vance used to actually be very trans friendly very gay friendly,
and now he's just a money hungry loser but i mean there are they all are they
all do this like his wife is like come on like he's using motherfuckers i mean
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like he's playing a fucking game right and everybody's just eating it up it's
probably just using her too.
In a new wide raging interview with the Detroit Free Press published Tuesday,
Nelson spoke to the personal side of their fallout with Vance.
They met at Yale Law School and the two bonded over their shared Midwestern
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working class background with the Ohio senator, reportedly even bringing Nelson
baked goods during top surgery recovery.
The two stayed in touch via email after law school as well, traveling to visit
each other in a purely social capacity, including Nelson's trip to attend Vance wedding.
The attorney described them themselves as heartbroken by the transformation
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that vans and his wife usha vans decided to undergo i don't know why i put that
emphasis on her name like that,
because i right but yeah
that's that's but that's crazy but people change either
for the good or for the bed and or brainwashed you know i mean it's cool that
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i mean it's cool that they revealed that so now like his like voters will be
like the fuck like right but you used to hate right you used to right you was
there once a trans lover always a trans lover.
So that's wow yeah so the article goes on and it talks about how,
nelson that's the the friend right yeah uh that
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nelson said that they release these
emails in hopes to show
trans kids that it's not that
republicans that republicans don't hate you they're
just using uh you as a political ploy to advance their careers essentially i
mean just like this like everything else it's like they're not real christians
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right yeah they're just like trying to get this christian vote just like just
like everything else they're just lying to you bitch But also,
it sounds like she's almost saying that shit to let...
Trans youth know that he really do
care like she almost said right you know
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like oh no like you know he used to come
and give me cookies after my top surgery you know
i went to their wedding like he loves trans people he's just using this as a
political boy he has trans friends right exactly but that don't mean that that
motherfucker gonna make change when he get in this no i don't know because i
feel like i think they were they were they were actually upset by what he's
saying because then he came out and said something like i still have like.
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Love or some shit for for them yeah so
i'll read it so while we all evolve our thinking fences flip-flop on every conceivable
issue whether it be donald trump or lgbtq rights shows a lack of core values
or a willingness to turn your back on core values that advance your career and amass money.
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I think that hypocrisy is deeply concerning and that American people have the
right to know where he used to stand on the issues compared to where he stands
today so they can evaluate for themselves whether he's trustworthy.
The fact that he had a meaningful and respectful relationship with trans people,
that being myself, and is now demonizing trans people and trying to prevent
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parents from accessing medical care for their children.
We need to trust medical providers and parents and children
to make these decisions for themselves every parent
loves her children unconditionally and is going to be cautious and thoughtful
in making these decisions but parents are best equipped to make those decisions
and to try denying them that freedom i think is deeply concerning right yeah
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i want trans kids to know that these politicians,
they don't actually think you're bad they don't actually believe
there's anything wrong with you i know that because
he was very loving and respectful of a trans person in his life and is now choosing
to use trans kids as a political ploy that just feels very gaslighting for me
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it does for some reason it just throws me the wrong way i don't know that explanation.
What do you mean like i don't
know it's like i don't know it just
feels like he's obviously saying very hurtful things i think regardless of whether
he believes them or not like it's still bad that he's saying these things and
just because he was nice to one trans person doesn't mean he likes all trans
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people either it just feels like she's like making excuses for him to be like
oh he's not that bad of a person right but it's like homie he's taking people's rights away,
he's a terrible person i didn't even read it that way i read it as that they
were like Like pulling back like the charade that is his fake transphobia to
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be like to show the Republicans that he's fake,
that he's not even real about his shit that he's saying.
So you shouldn't vote for him because he's fake and he's not actually against trans people.
I didn't think that they were trying to be like, you should still vote for him
because he was nice to me.
Well, I think it's more of like their message to the trans kids of like,
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oh, these politicians actually don't hate you. They're just using us as a political ploy.
Like, I don't know, it just doesn't feel very accurate, you know?
But I mean, they are doing that. They're using them as like,
as a ploy. All of us as a ploy. Yeah. Every single one of us.
But also, it's J.D. Vance. like sir you
said that other stupid shit he said this weekend that
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the childless should not have a
right to vote if you don't have children you should not vote
what y'all didn't hear that stupid shit no i was like he was at a rally i was
like this this guy literally just talks out the side of his fucking neck i mean
like that shit about trump being like oh you won't ever have to vote again right
it's big future yeah i'm like they don't give a fuck they want that,
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that's true but it ain't gonna fucking happen on my watch,
Yes, it is.
I'm about to butcher this one, though. I'll butcher it all the way.
Adafi Okporo, a gay Nigerian refugee, could be the first former asylum seeker
elected to the NYC council.
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Adafi is running for the New York City Council because he still believes in
the promise that America represents, even despite the ordeal he faced in coming
to the United States. after fleeing homophobia in his home country of Nigeria.
I'll be trying. I'm a voice actor. A group of men banged on his door in the
middle of the night, chanting gay, gay, gay, and beat him unconscious.
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He says, never having stepped foot in the U S before he amidst that he was pretty
naive about what would happen after being handcuffed and having his feet shackled.
Okaporo was taken to detention center in Elizabeth, New Jersey,
where he will spend five months in custody while he pleaded in his case.
During the time, he said that he was housed in a cell with 44 other detainees
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where he slept on a concrete slab close to the toilet.
He will often be awoken in the night by his cellmates defecating.
Oporo had never experienced American weather before, and he was given one small
blanket to keep himself warm as the season grew colder, he says.
If elected to the New York City Council in 2025, he will be the first refugee
and asylum seeker even to be seated on the 51 person lawmaking body,
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which currently has at least six out LGBTQ plus representatives.
But what Okuporo wants even more than to make history is the opportunity to
give back to the city that has given him so much.
So he turns his life around and is about to run and hopefully
he gets elected to be a great mind
body and soul on that new york city council
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damn they got 51 fucking members that's a
lot of council people yeah a lot of districts great
i hope he wins and he wants to work on
like the housing crisis because he says it's not
just a topic that impacts migrants but like
everyone one in the city so that's also true the
rent is too damn high we need to bring that back well i
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love his story i feel like it's like still like
kind of like a bad propaganda piece for like the quote-unquote
good american dream because that actually doesn't happen for
everybody yeah right and he's like a super rare case and
so it's like that also sucks right because
it's obviously like look what the fuck happened to him like he's
fucking like jailed because he tried to seek asylum he's upset like what the
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fuck happened right and he wants to change things so it's kind of like it's
like yeah it's the american dream that you can like change this fucked up country
right i don't know that's i wonder what dream are they telling like internationals like.
What is the dream now? Like, don't fucking go. There can't be something in the
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American dream no more. There can't be. It can't be for sale.
Like, if you went to North Korea and they jailed you and then you got out and
then you had to like work your ass off in like the most extreme way possible
and then you're like, you can do it too.
Like, is that a good message? Yeah. I mean,
it's not a good message, but it gives you hope.
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Because if another person could do it, hopefully I have the
courage and the hope to do it as well yeah you know
what i'm saying but i wouldn't want to go through it but shit
if i if unfortunately if it did happen maybe
it's a message that says try another country first
don't choose this
one but this was in 2016 they were still selling that
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that dream was still sellable in 2016 you know
i'm saying that dream in 2024 was it
still sellable i feel like we've been so jaded we are
as americans yes like we've been jaded for like a million years and
it's like even when trump was in office it was like it was
the worst hell we were always going through right and it's always
the worst hell we're always going through that's true always don't get worse
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but i think
yeah it's definitely this pull yourself up by your bootstrap mentality that
america loves to feed but i think like it very much
still feeds that and it's still very much i feel
like the american dream is still very much alive right because in
order for america to survive it needs that motto like because
that model feeds capitalism and if you if you
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don't have this pull yourself up by your bootstrap mentality then capitalism
is going to dismantle like it can't it's not sustainable if
you don't people don't think that you know that's true
but it's also like what is the american dream to become an influencer i think
it's just a place where you can i think like raise a family and get a house
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and like get a job and all that stuff i I feel like that is the American dream.
And most Americans can't do that now.
So it's like, this dream can't be sold internationally anymore. It can't be.
You know what I'm saying? But since we are born and raised here,
it's just like, oh, this is trash.
I mean, it is. But, you know, another man's trash is somebody else's treasure. There you go.
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There you go. Because, I mean, I rag on America all the time.
You do. That's why I got so jaded. I get it from you.
You mean you're just experiencing life, bitch. You're waking the fuck up.
Just breathing in this good old L.A. air.
Anything else? Yes. I love it. Silver Platter. I never heard of this place.
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I thought the same thing. Oh, fuck. What is this?
You've seen this place? What is that? I've seen the place, but I never knew
it was a gay bar. Where is it?
Somewhere in, like, fucking downtown. Like, I think it's, like,
by 7th and Figueroa or some shit.
It's somewhere, but it's, like, every time I've seen it, I thought it was,
like, a random straight people club.
So I never even thought to look at it. But apparently the Silver Platter is
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a gay bar that is about to lose its liquor license
because it has lots
of offenses and some of the offenses are soliciting
drinks from patrons which i
guess it means like having patrons buy drinks for the people who work there
oh they do that at all bars they do do that at all bars but apparently they're
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being busted for it they got caught though and then some other shit wait so
like the bartender will be like Like, buy me a drink type of thing?
Or the person's offering to buy him a drink? I think so. And then they,
like, encourage that. Oh.
Which not only sells more, but I guess they say it leads to,
like, more, like, fucked up behaviors. Yeah.
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Which, obviously. Like intoxication. Because then the bartenders can't cut people
off because they're drunk as fuck.
They're like, I don't give a fuck, bitch. Yeah, they're like,
a party. Thank you. I'm already wasted.
I'm already wasted. anyways developers want
to destroy that plot of land i guess anyways that this bar is
on but they're like no don't it's the oldest gay bar in la even though and that
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it's like super lgbtq but i don't know i've i've personally never been there
i never knew it was even a gay bar i didn't know that existed and honestly if
it is a gay bar you guys really need to up the ante on how it
looks because it looks like it should be demolished i mean
maybe you can rent out the mixed use space which i
think is one of the suggestions but they want it at like a
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lower cost rent they want to
be seen as historical but honestly like a lot of people sign up
for historical and if you don't and they usually do
stuff for the community like they don't mention anything of what they've
done except be a fucking they're getting people drunk right being
a gay bar important but it's also like the building
is like it looks dilapidated girl like i want
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my historical building to be historical not because it's a stucco square okay
you're a stucco square so i do say that uh back in the day it was a safe space
for lgbtq plus immigrant and trans communities that was told in a documentary
called wildness from the director who swung so these fools had.
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16 violations within a month i think
they were trying to get shut down the majority of those violations 14
of them were solicitive of drinks like you stated so i
mean they still don't state like it's simply being a
safe community and an old building i don't think it's just
like a word of mouth right i don't know yeah i
don't claim you i've never heard of you before yeah i
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mean i haven't either yeah and i spent a lot of time in la
in the gay bars in la and not i'm sorry
but no none of my friends ever said mentioned it
ever could you say in downtown la right i'm about
to look it up because all i know is halisco and yeah the
halisco bar and there was red line but that one got closed down yeah like i
feel like if i was gonna think of any bar that's like that i would think of
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halisco bar yeah and it's like i don't even go in there and i wouldn't i probably
wouldn't like be like save that as historical you know yeah yeah right so it's in like mcarthur park.
Area it's a mcarthur park oh that's
further yeah but also like
on google or yelp they do classify themselves as
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a safe space for members of the latinx trans community
so maybe they was using these violations as just fucking
trying to fuck with fucking the bar because i was like how you gonna get a motherfucking
violations 30 fucking violations 16 violations in 30 days yeah well that's what
they said is that they think that it's just coincidental that they're trying
to demolish the place at the same time that they got their liquor license revoked.
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So it's like, yeah, you got it revoked, and now we're going to demolish it.
Yeah. I mean, those developers want that land. They're going to hire people
to go and push people to go investigate.
They're paying their rent. I mean, right. But they can make more money.
The developers can make more money closing it down and doing something bigger and better.
I mean, that's life, girl. I don't know what to say. That's America. Yeah.
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The American Dream. The American Dream. Is that it for Quick Tea or the Out? What else was it?
Is that it? I think it was. New Hampshire sucks.
That's about it. Yum, yum. Tea's so yummy.
All right, queens. Break time.
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back so today i wanted to talk
about daddies there's definitely a lot to say in the daddy discourse so i wanted
to hear it straight from the horse's mouth so do you like daddies what's a daddy
are you a daddy do you like being called daddy or any type of fatherly driven pet names?
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Do you want a daddy? Does your own relationship with your father tie in?
If not, how not?
Tell us about some of the daddies that you've had. Not your own father,
but the community to live.
Cumulative of gay men who have taught you things in life as a daddy should.
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Things about sex, life, whatever.
And joy. What kind of daddies have you had? What's the job, daddy?
So let's kick it off with what Wikipedia classifies as daddy.
A daddy in gay culture is a slang term meaning
a man sexually involved in a relationship with a younger
male in an internet meme context know your meme defines the term as a slang
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term of affection used to address the male authority figure or idol in a sexualized
manner in bdsm a daddy boy a daddy boy relationship can share similarities with
the dynamic of dominance and
submission so with that
being said i have not right kind
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of changed right it changes what you think of daddy because i always provided
daddy to be a vibe you know what i mean more of a provider and a sense of all
type of avenues friendship that dick.
Love support sex you know it you don't have the the earn to need with a daddy
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and then i and daddy don't even come with age it's not even an age thing it's a vibe so like.
You could be young and still be daddy vibed
you know i'm saying like damn yeah i feel like colloquially
like in the past 10 years or so daddy has like kind
of changed up like i feel like before when we were younger people
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were really like weirded out by the word daddy oh
yeah and like calling somebody daddy and like people would be like oh yeah
why are you saying that i'm only five years older than you i
know or like i remember like in my experiences like if
i were to say it to like an older gay man back in the day they'd be like i
don't like when people call me daddy do you and it's like what and then
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they just try to be like you have daddy issues and i'm like no i
don't i mean yes but unrelated but i
feel like more lately like i feel like everyone's more comfortable like saying
daddy and like girls want to say daddy yeah yeah because i think it related
to what christophe is saying i think it has to do with like how more expansive
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it's gotten in in terms of definition.
I feel, I agree with that. It's more like a vibe aesthetic than it is like an
age thing like it used to be, you know? And I also feel like people have gotten
better with being okay with aging too.
So, you know, I think that- At least for men. Yeah, for men.
It'll always be easier for men.
But yeah, I think that is definitely a vibe. I think more now than any time
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else. Yeah, I think it's funny.
Because I'll see, sometimes I'll see people wearing like a clothing article
that says daddy, either a t-shirt or a hat.
And it's always like a guy who's definitely not daddy. Okay.
What would that vision, what does that vision look like in regards of one,
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how that person didn't give the vibe off daddy?
And then what's your version of a vibe that would need that shirt on?
I feel like so when I feel like the idea of daddy is you can never call yourself
a daddy oh like in the words of Jill Scott if you can tell me what to do then
you can tell me what to do but if you can't tell me what to do then you can't tell me what to do.
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Exactly I think what say it again so like basically if daddy can tell you what
to do then daddy can tell you what to do yeah basically but if daddy can't tell you
what to do then that's not it's also kind of like that phrase what
is it if you have to call yourself a lady what is it oh yeah that one i don't
know let me see i want to i only cut it out and i gotta research what it says
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first what is the fucking quote chat but yeah hold that thought unquote when
i think of daddy i think i still think of a very stereotypical,
daddy i think still someone who's kind of like older like a silver fox like
like a beard you know, like, you know, somewhat like fit and muscular.
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Like I still, I still have that image of a daddy. Of a daddy.
There you go. Oh, yes. The quote goes, if you have to tell everyone you're a
lady, you're not. And that's exactly what. Child, you have to look that up.
Which, yeah, which is the same thing with daddy. I think you can't be calling
yourself a daddy and being like, oh, I'm the, I'm the daddy.
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I'm the hot guy or the best one.
The number one the number one the only one
yeah you have to be called that you have to be called daddy
okay so what did the guy look like that wasn't daddy usually like some it's
i feel like the guys who i always see who call themselves daddy are always like
a younger guy in their 20s who like is just like some douche who like you can
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just tell by looking at him he ain't done shit,
this fucking life nice but
he's calling himself a daddy and it's like bitch please I love it and then you
said you still like so I think like I just really can't put a picture to it
but I think I still go off just like what society pushed well at least gay culture
pushed on us in regards of daddy because I always look and think of,
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Tom Finlan. Oh, when it comes to like daddy, I think of leather.
I think of, you know, I think of that type of shit, bath houses and shit.
Like that's what I think of a daddy.
But now it's just like, you know, shit, you can pay your own rent.
You can pay your own car. No, you could take care of yourself.
When I think of daddy, I think of daddy, I guess shit, you know what I'm saying?
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Like shit is, it's more of a vibe. Now, if you're an asshole,
then you just an asshole.
There's like this image of Henry Cavill. and he has like oh that AI one is it
where he he's like saying something about like something to a boy or something.
Oh no anyways he's like there's like definitely daddy image of Henry Cavill
I feel like Henry Cavill is daddy yeah of course of fucking course I mean shit,
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tell me the truth anybody.
Can be daddy okay but sometimes I be in bed with
a daddy and I'm a daddy well I don't think I'm a
daddy no let me ask you well do a daddy is they
daddy or is they not is channing tatum a daddy no no
exactly not everyone can be daddy just
because you look like a man that means
you're actually daddy right but you know why because the
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first image that popped into my head about channing tatum was
like the twink version of channing tatum like he's
probably more like american pie i feel like he's more like man
child than like daddy because
he's immature right feeling that's the vibe i
feel like that's a that's the vibe he gets off right so that's why it's
more of a vibe right daddy you gotta
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be about your shit have your shit together right daddy is
not even for just males yeah there's they use that in the the whole umbrella
of the lgbtq plus community speak on the lesbian daddies i mean well i can't
speak on them but i had a lesbian friend and she called herself daddy all the
time yeah it's that vibe like you You take care of shit.
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But once I say that, like, it almost feels like I'm still leaning into society
norms. You know what I'm saying? Like, ugh.
Well, that's the kind of thing with, like, the gender stuff is,
like, you can't talk about masculinity really positively without it sounding
kind of sexist, I think. Right.
You can talk about femininity positively, but you really can't,
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at least not in this day and age.
Because i mean i feel like masculinity and like
masculine men like have caused so
much pain in the world nobody wants to see that as positive right right so if
you talk about positively it kind of seems like why are you so like excited
about men what the fuck did they do none of them is daddy because daddies don't
daddy up daddies aren't brat daddies aren't brat they really aren't No,
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you kind of have to be a brat to be a daddy, but you can't be a brat.
See, then you can still be daddy and still be feminine.
Can you? I believe you can. You know what I'm saying? Take a moment.
Let's ponder on this shit. Do you have any examples?
Just like Queen Latifah.
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Like, shit, you seen in the skirt? You seen in the dress? I'm talking about
a man. Oh, about a man? Okay.
Ooh, what's the dude's name that just, he was in the Star Wars?
The black guy? Is he feminine?
He has feminine energy, yeah. also i
guess pedro pascal can be feminine and daddy he does
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femme things sometimes he's at least the internet has
dubbed him as baby girl can you be baby girl and daddy at the same time i think
so why not you know you have different moons different times what do you want
to be daddy one time then baby girl another time i mean i think all men should
actually aspire to be daddy and baby girl that's kind of hot right.
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Coleman Domingo I don't know who that is show me the pic yeah oh yeah he's cute
yeah but he can also be daddy but he also has like a,
effeminate energy per se like he showed up on the I want to say the,
Golden Globes or something and he had like this pantsuit on but it was like
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very like flowy but like loose it wasn't like a tight suit or like a regular size suit,
it was just but it gave like a feminine energy but he was still daddy in that motherfucker,
you know what I mean so he was almost like this oh that's cute I'd wear that see right but and then,
he's still daddy in that motherfucker he's giving sailor right sailor moon no I'm just playing,
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so yeah so like I feel like with feminine energy you can still give off a little
bit of daddy in that sense like you still have that energy about you But you
can still be a little soft.
You can be a soft daddy. A soft daddy? Yeah.
You want to be a soft daddy for me? No, I'm just kidding.
So have y'all ever been with a daddy?
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Think so i think so i i mean i know
so oh okay well i'm gonna say why you've lied to yourself player talk
about it i mean i've been with like i don't know because i have to think about them
because i feel like maybe maybe they weren't
daddies because i have to like think about it so hard if
you had to think about it then they ain't really leave that impression on you
you're right now you know what you know who was a
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true daddy it was the guy who was when we talked about sides the first side
that i met was a daddy he was very daddy vibes and like when i met him like
off like grinder i was like oh this guy's like dead and even though he like wasn't even.
Super attractive like his
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daddy vibes overpowered that okay
and it definitely made me like more attracted to him
even though like i wasn't like super like
like like physically attracted to him okay just like his daddiness
vibe i was just like oh i felt
safe yeah i was like i want to be with you and i want to live in
your house and i want you to pay my bill like he was a provider yeah exactly
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please can i come stay with you nice that's yeah that's definitely like daddy
vibes that are you attracted to daddy vibes i am but like i feel like when i'm on the market like Like,
everybody wants to put me in daddy position.
Because you look like you give off, like, a daddy vibe. I do. Adjacent. I do.
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Theo vibe. Try to put that out on purpose. As you can't tell from my voice, listener, I'm daddy.
I'm construction daddy. Construction daddy. Podcast fatty.
See, you're the example. Am I the example? Am I the daddy example?
You're the daddy example. The femme. Right. The femme daddy.
But it's funny. I know I am femme daddy.
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But it's funny. What were we talking about? People put you in the daddy role.
Have you been with a daddy?
Yes. Oh, have I been with daddies? Or have I been with daddies? Or have you been dating?
When you're dating, people put you in the daddy role. Yeah, the people put me in the daddy role.
And then, because I definitely feel like there's way more bottoms out,
like, on the market. When you're in the market, there's always,
like, a million bottoms.
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And, like, everyone's like, oh, that's one top.
And everyone's, like, trying to, like, choke your dick down.
Because you're, like, the one top in the sea of a thousand bottoms.
So so yeah people will definitely tell me
like they'll like message me and they'll say like hey daddy they'll
like they'll start with daddy as a name already so it's like okay i'm already
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like put in that position so then i just kind of like go with it i'm like yeah
sure and then i just yeah that it does turn into like a dom sub role yeah it's like oh daddy Daddy,
do this, do that, blah, blah, blah, fist my hole, Daddy.
And I'm like, calm down. Like, simmer down. Chill out.
See, I don't know if I'm, will be, because I have, I did fuck with a daddy when
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I was back in the Midwest.
And we used to mess around, but he gave like that. Like one, he was older than me.
Secondly, he was taller than me. So that was already like, so he was probably like six, four.
So it was like, and so I was like, okay, like cool. We just mess around, hang out, chill.
Like it was, but he also gave daddy Mo because he also like,
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he felt like he needed to, I don't, I think he wanted to be a daddy.
Technically he was a father, but that's another sad story.
So i think he just
wanted to take care of me and i was like
dude i'm a grown ass man i don't need
you to do that i'm fine like dude i could take care of myself you know what
i'm saying so it's just like so when i feel like i'm like i don't know i'm good
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like now if i know what i knew now i would have took advantage of it yeah in
the sense of like don't block a blessing but like when
you're experiencing that, cause I've experienced kind of dirty, right?
Yeah. Cause it's like, bitch, like I don't know you like, what are you trying
to control my life? Bitch.
Like, I don't even like my own dad and don't tell me what to do, bitch.
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So it's like, they feel like it kind of feels like, Oh, I have so much advanced
knowledge and I'm going to like help you in like a way that you don't want.
Right. And I'm like, bitch, like, I don't need that. I'm not going to that college.
Yeah. Sometimes you can get on your knees.
Can you just look hot like a hot daddy and not tell me what to do yeah so that
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was my first that was my only experience I had with a daddy and I feel like
after that like I felt like I became a daddy,
and it's well I think people just assumed I was a daddy can you be like a can
you okay so when there's like a dynamic right two people there's gonna be one
smaller and one larger are you automatically a daddy if you're larger physically
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see and I think that's how I visually look,
Now I've seen some small daddies. Can you be a small daddy to a big man?
Yeah. A big bottom. Yeah. Cause I don't think like. Do you see that happening?
I see. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's a category. They're all shapes and sizes.
It's like submissive and dominant is a construct.
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It doesn't matter how you look or the size of your body or your mindset.
It's about your mindset.
So like, that's just basically just submission and dominant.
But i have seen motherfuckers i used to
be friends with a person who was smaller than me and
i think he thought that like i was like
submissive because i was just friendly but he's
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like aggressive like i don't sir ha that
was cute but uh no like you can't you know what i'm saying so it's just like
i think you can and i think they like that too i think smaller dominant daddies
love to dominate you know a tall.
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Butch type of person make them feel good too and then bust a good nut,
so win win baby that was the only time I've been with a daddy the only time,
Well, I mean, bathhouses, I can't really seize, but I've been with,
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see, but that's what I'm like, damn, I guess. Yeah. Daddy. Yep.
No, I fucked other daddies.
My bad. I fucked other daddies. I was just one hot motherfucker.
And like, but we just, you know, jacked off or some shit. What made him a daddy?
Once again, like he just had this look like he was older. Then he was like,
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he worked out. He was buff.
You know what? what i think daddy is about kindness too because now
that i think about it the motherfuckers when i went over
to their homes you know they were kind like
they was friendly and shit like you know like hey like thanks for
coming they probably thought i was a catfish i don't fucking know but like they
was friendly do i need some water like most motherfuckers nowadays
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don't like if you don't get that kindness to you yeah you
know i'm saying like then you got to ease your daddy's ease
they suffer two situations you know i'm saying the
kindness thing so i think it's just like you know they make you
want to feel they make you feel safe yeah that's a
daddy vibe and that's regardless across the board have you had any daddies the
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one one person that came to mind i don't know i feel like he was maybe a daddy
but also like big brother vibe it's kind of weird oh okay but like i think what
what brought up to the reason why i think of him more is like that
daddy, like, big brother, or whatever it is, was that kindness.
Because I think that was the... He was one of the first people that I,
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like, started to, like, have to experiment with.
So he, like, taught me things and, like, gave me, like, techniques and,
like, tips about sex and all that stuff. Oh, techniques and tips.
Right? So I'm like, okay, that's cool.
So, like, it was a kindness that was nice to experience. That's cool. Mm-hmm.
Because I feel like that's daddy, too. Like...
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Being helpful yeah teaching your teaching right
it's terrible this incest vibe
it is well that's what the whole point is anyways i guess so but i'm not actually
sexually attracted to my own dad or has never actually have been no i find him
gross right all parents are gross yeah but i love you so it's like why do people
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like associate that i mean obviously you're calling them the.
Same thing that you call your dad yeah so why
wouldn't they associate that associate that with your dad but
why do we want to say it and i think that's
why they came up with zaddy zaddy zaddy was
i think the way that people triggered away
from like they put some distance right they
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would put like pr job 22 alphabets away
yeah but yeah but
i don't even think nobody's used that word no more right on daddy
now like zeddy is out right zeddy did go away so
it's just back on the daddy i will say
that i never called anyone daddy while
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i was having sex like that i initiated like i don't think i ever called someone
daddy out of like free will it's usually because they asked me to or like that's
part of their play they'd be like oh you you're like daddy's dick or something like that, you know?
So I'm like, okay, we're playing this. That's you dubbing yourself a daddy before
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you lost all daddy privilege.
Not a true daddy. I have an interesting daddy story. So have you ever heard like...
In either like historical texts when
they talk about like people or like cowboys or like
people like working people and then it's like there's like
two men working together and like for whatever reason they're fucking but
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they're both straight and it's like this like weird they
fuck these straight people are fucking so no
well allegedly that's how they describe it
as straight people obviously they're homosexuals having
homosexual sex i went to there was a i seen
a short guy at the beach over the
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weekend and he gave off daddy vibes but
he was like smaller just to go back to what
you were saying about size but also he was
playing with like he was very caring i
don't know what i want i just want our listeners to realize that like i
feel like daddy vibes are about a motherfucker who cares now
you get the motherfucker like acting up
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and like abusing abusive and shit that's not daddy vibes yeah yeah that's fucking
loser that is so it's just like you know i'm saying like right now unless it's
consent for consent then that's different but like that other bullshit vibe
like i'm a provider i'ma you do what i say and all the other bullshit when it's not consentful.
Consentful. Full of consent. Full of consent. No, I'm just kidding. Okay. Full of consent.
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Then, yeah. I feel like Chef from South Park was like Ultimate Daddy vibes.
Oh, because that was what I think was voiced by... Isaac Hayes. Isaac Hayes, right.
So that was just a given. If I had that voice too, I'd be speaking all sexy.
But I feel like my own fiance, I felt like gave daddy vibes,
even though he was smaller and younger.
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Because he does offer that, because he does that, the vibes that are like,
he takes care of me in like every way. Okay. And is also kind.
Work it. Get it. If you like it, then you put a ring on it. And do it.
And who else was daddy? I'm trying to see, like, who was one of y'all favorite?
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It's funny because my ex, who paid all the bills. Thought he was daddy.
But he still wasn't daddy. No.
Yeah, you were just... You were just paying bills.
Can you pay my bills? Beyonce, I believed her. There's your karaoke song.
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Don't think you do. So... You and me are through.
Traveling.
Wait this it was a place in palm springs where was i think it's about to close
i think they get shut down but that's where i've seen a lot of daddies too and
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it was like almost like a cruising bar i forgot the name of it all of them are
like cruising bars for daddies i mean that's true,
palm spring is daddy central yeah that's true do you actually find daddies in
silver fox or are those just like deadbeat daddies no there's daddies everywhere
i found them everywhere but I'm not looking for them.
I just, you know, everybody could be a daddy.
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If you put your heart behind it. I mean, you're right. Not everybody is a daddy,
though. That is true. Even actual fathers are not dad.
Touche. Sometimes. I'm trying to see the...
Place that i'm mostly seeing the most
daddies in lone beach let's see
it has to be either executive suite or
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i haven't been executive suite in so long so i'm going
to go with silver fox it has to be so yeah if it's not executive
suite now what what's the oldest age
of a daddy would you i feel like
play around with you can be as old as
you want as long as you're hot as fuck if you're a
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hundred years old and you look like fucking zach efron
that's fine okay a benjamin button
benjamin button age ain't
nothing but a number do y'all think that there's
a connection between like daddy issues and engaging in
this daddy play me personally but i
don't think i'm not a doctor dr mikey but i don't
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think there's a correlation in regards of that unless abuse
may have been a part of it but i don't see
the correlation and it's only because i don't see
that you know i mean but that's not i don't know if it's backed up by something
else theory and knowledge and things of that nature because i do not know as
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a daddy myself i would say i have no issues for that to be the daddy but the
bottom the sub the son definitely has the.
Issues they're the
ones that need the therapy they want the daddy they want
someone to take care of them they want somebody to love them and nurture and
make sure that everything's all right and just fuck them and cuddle them that's
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what they want and then they'll be like bye just throw you away,
so it's all about the sons then technically I know,
it's really not about the daddy it's about all the it's all the people screaming for the daddy damn,
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I'm daddied out how about you guys I only knew one daddy that's all you got
I mean the other ones was in bail houses So I don't really know them hoes.
I mean, I did fuck with a daddy when I was in Spain. That's the one who wanted to get fisted.
Dang. So, got him out the way.
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What's your experience? Are daddies better at sex than people? Oh, yeah. I think so.
Because I feel like they would have to be. I mean, if you're at that point where
you're like, I'm seeing you as the teacher to me, then, yeah, I think you'd have to be.
I think that should be the part of the criteria because if you're like weak
at sex you're not daddy right exactly you're just big son you're a little dumb boy.
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Have you guys watched that you guys never
watched that show that came out I think it was like on out tv it was like Diff
and Hembo like for the love of Diff it was like it's a gay show where there's
a group of daddies and then a group of Hembos and they They go into this mansion to find love.
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It's hilarious. I think I saw somebody was doing like coverage of that.
Maybe I'll watch that. So it's like two, I think it's on the second season.
It's the one that's, we was probably talking about this a couple of years ago.
Stormy Daniels is the host. Yes. Yes.
So it's a good show. I mean, I only watched the first three episodes,
but yeah, it was good. It's ridiculous.
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You know, because it gets, it almost gives you that vibe of what we're talking about,
because you know they got like some of
the daddies are short or like you know small bigger and
then the himbo's of course is just like little twinks or
masculine or young man yeah so if y'all do got time check it out sounds fun
daddies daddy if it's me daddy i would want a sugar daddy though that i'm down
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for that's the only one i want right the thing with the sugar daddy is it's not all,
see but you know what i think what nowadays they don't have sugar days they
have like just splendor daddies they got like fucking honey daddies.
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Right they holding on by a thread sweet and low daddy swing low i do want a sugar daddy,
you know, for conversation. I want it for my bills. I mean, that's the price.
Gotta come in with it. I think the other thing about being a daddy is that everybody
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wants daddy's dick, but daddy doesn't actually want anybody else.
Like, I feel like whenever I met the daddy, like they're always like fine being
solitude. Oh yeah. That's the vibe. Shit.
Like daddy's not going to chase nobody. Right. If you free, you free.
If you ain't, you ain't. If you find a daddy, don't trip. Hold on to him.
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Hold on to daddy. Hold on to daddy's dick.
Is that it for daddies? That's it for me. I'm done with daddies.
Go, daddy, go. All right, daddies.
From all of us here at the Queer LBC, I'd like to say thank you to myself, Nino, Dr.
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Mikey, and Christoph.
You're good enough you're smart enough and talk on it people like you goodnight,
goodnight see you next time goodnight Long Beach Daddies Thanks for watching.
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Thank you.
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I'm your host, Nino. My pronouns are he, him. Thank you for asking.
Asking, I have with me here my fabulous cohors.
Yo, it's me, Kristoff, your city top liaison. My pronouns are he,
him, and that, motherfucker.
Dr. Mikey here, your local licensed and practicing therapist for entertainment purposes only.
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My pronouns are he, she, all of them. So what's the tea, sis? The tea is...
Today in gay. A gay Nigerian refugee could be the first former asylum seeker
elected to the NYC Council.
Also in gay, Michigan outlaws the gay and trans panic defense in criminal trials.
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Also, L.A. gay bar Silver Platter loses liquor license, closes temporarily.
A new documentary will explore Abraham Lincoln's romantic relationships with men.
Today in transphobia, man accused of stabbing
teen multiple times at Miami International Airport is denied bond.
Also the governor of new hampshire signed three anti-trans bills into law in
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one day also jd vance's ex-friend wants trans kids to know the gop is using
them as a political ploy today in yas a new lawsuit seeks to stop enforcement
of idaho library materials bill,
and a twice yearly shot could be a new breakthrough for hiv prevention do any
of you queens know about any of these things?
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I don't know much of them but I did hear about that the stabbing at Miami International
Airport. Oh my God, yeah. That was so tragic.
I didn't like it didn't make sense if he was inside the airport
or like either way it goes i'm confused on
how this could have took place well i
guess so it said that the trans girl
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was just sitting there eating lunch or like eating food on
the floor and this fucking random ass man just
fucking took a butcher knife out of his fucking backpack exactly so how
he get in the fucking airport i fucking know that's what
i'm wondering too how the fuck do you get an airport with a fucking butcher knife
in your back right like how the fuck does that happen i can't even
get a fucking safety pin but it's also miami that's
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true so so they don't give a fuck about like so
according to cbs news a man accused of
stabbing a teen multiple times at miami international airport on
saturday night and almost throwing her over a balcony and an
unprovoked attack appeared in miami bond court on monday
alexander love 29 is charged with attempted first
degree murder and attempted murder a judge
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denied him bond on both counts and ordered him not to contact
the 17 year old directly indirectly or on social media
love was also ordered to stay away from the airport so it
i also didn't understand that part because i'm like
why would you say contacting her yeah like do
he like know her like are you not in jail anyways why
would you have the access to be to be contacting her
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and but like why would he even have access to where she.
Lives or is because the article also
was like they're both from ohio or some shit
and so it's like they don't
know if they know each other i think right i
but then it didn't also report on what happened to her after she went to the
hospital that just made no sense at all it's miami well that's also true i've
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so never been to my also what the fuck now i gotta just worry about random people
stabbing me in the fucking face yeah i'm just trying to figure out So because they don't,
they say there was, there was the trans girl, but they didn't even report her name.
So, oh, that's because she's a minor. Oh shit. She was 17.
So basically she was just sitting on the floor when she was stabbed 18 times
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in her arm, shoulder, neck, face, and legs, according to Love's arrest report.
But it don't say where she was eating at. Like, was she in a fucking terminal?
Like, and then where was everybody else at if she was in the airport?
Yeah like this makes no sense like i've never
seen a dead airport where you can go easily stab a
motherfucker for 18 goddamn times i mean i
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don't know how like populated this airport is it's an
international airport i can tell you that like i'm getting fucking shanked at
fucking lax 17 million times like you're like no one's gonna help me maybe probably
i don't know i mean you know what everybody but also if you're in fucking miami
if you're also in fucking miami me like or florida like if everyone's so transphobic
allegedly like why would anybody help you i guess,
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So basically, they say that a witness told CBS News Miami that several flights
were arriving when the attack happened, and people either tried to help the
teen or ran away from the terminal.
They said that they were shocked that it happened in such a congested part of the airport.
Same. I'm also fucking, Bobby Lazat on how this fool even got a butcher knife.
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You know what? Maybe he worked at the kitchen or some shit.
Maybe. But I don't even think they got fucking knives. Everything come pre-made and shit.
I think the article also stated that he got into some kind of altercation last
year at the airport also. That's interesting.
Well, I'm glad he didn't get by and lock his ass up.
Yeah, what is that about? That was crazy, man. What else was it?
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I know this isn't like big news or anything anybody really gives a shit about.
But a new documentary will explore gabraham lincoln's romantic relationships with dudes,
from them he loved the dudes by matthew
rodriguez the movie will represent never before
seen photographs and letters to examine lincoln's queerness
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it turns out honest abe may have had
a little secret a new documentary is exploring a long-held belief
that former president abraham lincoln was gay i mean if
you can make a fucking abraham lincoln vampire hunter why the fuck can't
you i mean you're right i mean multifaceted because you're
gonna have some dumb ass people being like he's not gay
the film's official synopsis
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reads as told by prominent lincoln scholars and
we're seeing photographs and letters the film details lincoln's
romantic relationships with men i will
watch that just you know
the first 35 minutes you know see if it's given
t or not well in my college history
class my professor told us that abraham lincoln
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was gay and also that president buchanan was also gay and then i told this girl
one time i was like have you ever heard that abraham lincoln is gay because
she like allegedly is into history and she was like no he's not and i was like
dang bye yeah i read i heard that there's like letters written between him.
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And a man and that when he lived with a man they used to share the same bed,
I heard that too which I guess is why those log cabin republicans are called
log cabin republicans because they're gay and he lived in a log cabin,
I didn't know that's what they called them they tell them themselves.
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That's the way they gotta do it they know it but that's cool I want to know
about that I mean yeah I'll probably I'll be interested in watching that I'll watch it for,
okay not for long he was a white cis closeted,
president the struggle they come a
dime a dozen you know so shit if they
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want the gays to watch you need to put a sex scene in it imagine abraham lincoln
gay sex scene you can find out on the dark web everyone will watch that with
ai with ai you can make that right now who should play abraham lincoln you said
who yeah like who could be like a hot abraham lincoln like pedro pascal will be
hot abraham lincoln oh yeah it's a good one i mean who else he's tall too,
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nobody i mean right i don't even i'm like because i don't know of any like attractive
white men really right it should just be jake gyllenhaal's abraham lincoln.
Oh young abraham lincoln is played by jake gyllenhaal
i guess he's older now so why not
what about the superman henry oh
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henry cavill henry cavill could be abraham lincoln yeah
yeah like a super like fantasy abraham lincoln yeah
like a porn abraham yeah i mean if we're going
for it let's do it so that'd be
cute or what's the chris hemsworth oh
which one is he matt boomer oh oh
matt bomber as fucking abraham they're gonna cast no i'm i just google gay actors
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i don't know white actors oh yeah so then i saw also that jd vance's former friend is a trans person,
and i guess jd vance used to actually be very trans friendly very gay friendly,
and now he's just a money hungry loser but i mean there are they all are they
all do this like his wife is like come on like he's using motherfuckers i mean
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like he's playing a fucking game right and everybody's just eating it up it's
probably just using her too.
In a new wide raging interview with the Detroit Free Press published Tuesday,
Nelson spoke to the personal side of their fallout with Vance.
They met at Yale Law School and the two bonded over their shared Midwestern
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working class background with the Ohio senator, reportedly even bringing Nelson
baked goods during top surgery recovery.
The two stayed in touch via email after law school as well, traveling to visit
each other in a purely social capacity, including Nelson's trip to attend Vance wedding.
The attorney described them themselves as heartbroken by the transformation
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that vans and his wife usha vans decided to undergo i don't know why i put that
emphasis on her name like that,
because i right but yeah
that's that's but that's crazy but people change either
for the good or for the bed and or brainwashed you know i mean it's cool that
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i mean it's cool that they revealed that so now like his like voters will be
like the fuck like right but you used to hate right you used to right you was
there once a trans lover always a trans lover.
So that's wow yeah so the article goes on and it talks about how,
nelson that's the the friend right yeah uh that
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nelson said that they release these
emails in hopes to show
trans kids that it's not that
republicans that republicans don't hate you they're
just using uh you as a political ploy to advance their careers essentially i
mean just like this like everything else it's like they're not real christians
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right yeah they're just like trying to get this christian vote just like just
like everything else they're just lying to you bitch But also,
it sounds like she's almost saying that shit to let...
Trans youth know that he really do
care like she almost said right you know
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like oh no like you know he used to come
and give me cookies after my top surgery you know
i went to their wedding like he loves trans people he's just using this as a
political boy he has trans friends right exactly but that don't mean that that
motherfucker gonna make change when he get in this no i don't know because i
feel like i think they were they were they were actually upset by what he's
saying because then he came out and said something like i still have like.
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Love or some shit for for them yeah so
i'll read it so while we all evolve our thinking fences flip-flop on every conceivable
issue whether it be donald trump or lgbtq rights shows a lack of core values
or a willingness to turn your back on core values that advance your career and amass money.
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I think that hypocrisy is deeply concerning and that American people have the
right to know where he used to stand on the issues compared to where he stands
today so they can evaluate for themselves whether he's trustworthy.
The fact that he had a meaningful and respectful relationship with trans people,
that being myself, and is now demonizing trans people and trying to prevent
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parents from accessing medical care for their children.
We need to trust medical providers and parents and children
to make these decisions for themselves every parent
loves her children unconditionally and is going to be cautious and thoughtful
in making these decisions but parents are best equipped to make those decisions
and to try denying them that freedom i think is deeply concerning right yeah
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i want trans kids to know that these politicians,
they don't actually think you're bad they don't actually believe
there's anything wrong with you i know that because
he was very loving and respectful of a trans person in his life and is now choosing
to use trans kids as a political ploy that just feels very gaslighting for me
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it does for some reason it just throws me the wrong way i don't know that explanation.
What do you mean like i don't
know it's like i don't know it just
feels like he's obviously saying very hurtful things i think regardless of whether
he believes them or not like it's still bad that he's saying these things and
just because he was nice to one trans person doesn't mean he likes all trans
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people either it just feels like she's like making excuses for him to be like
oh he's not that bad of a person right but it's like homie he's taking people's rights away,
he's a terrible person i didn't even read it that way i read it as that they
were like Like pulling back like the charade that is his fake transphobia to
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be like to show the Republicans that he's fake,
that he's not even real about his shit that he's saying.
So you shouldn't vote for him because he's fake and he's not actually against trans people.
I didn't think that they were trying to be like, you should still vote for him
because he was nice to me.
Well, I think it's more of like their message to the trans kids of like,
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oh, these politicians actually don't hate you. They're just using us as a political ploy.
Like, I don't know, it just doesn't feel very accurate, you know?
But I mean, they are doing that. They're using them as like,
as a ploy. All of us as a ploy. Yeah. Every single one of us.
But also, it's J.D. Vance. like sir you
said that other stupid shit he said this weekend that
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the childless should not have a
right to vote if you don't have children you should not vote
what y'all didn't hear that stupid shit no i was like he was at a rally i was
like this this guy literally just talks out the side of his fucking neck i mean
like that shit about trump being like oh you won't ever have to vote again right
it's big future yeah i'm like they don't give a fuck they want that,
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that's true but it ain't gonna fucking happen on my watch,
Yes, it is.
I'm about to butcher this one, though. I'll butcher it all the way.
Adafi Okporo, a gay Nigerian refugee, could be the first former asylum seeker
elected to the NYC council.
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Adafi is running for the New York City Council because he still believes in
the promise that America represents, even despite the ordeal he faced in coming
to the United States. after fleeing homophobia in his home country of Nigeria.
I'll be trying. I'm a voice actor. A group of men banged on his door in the
middle of the night, chanting gay, gay, gay, and beat him unconscious.
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He says, never having stepped foot in the U S before he amidst that he was pretty
naive about what would happen after being handcuffed and having his feet shackled.
Okaporo was taken to detention center in Elizabeth, New Jersey,
where he will spend five months in custody while he pleaded in his case.
During the time, he said that he was housed in a cell with 44 other detainees
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where he slept on a concrete slab close to the toilet.
He will often be awoken in the night by his cellmates defecating.
Oporo had never experienced American weather before, and he was given one small
blanket to keep himself warm as the season grew colder, he says.
If elected to the New York City Council in 2025, he will be the first refugee
and asylum seeker even to be seated on the 51 person lawmaking body,
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which currently has at least six out LGBTQ plus representatives.
But what Okuporo wants even more than to make history is the opportunity to
give back to the city that has given him so much.
So he turns his life around and is about to run and hopefully
he gets elected to be a great mind
body and soul on that new york city council
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damn they got 51 fucking members that's a
lot of council people yeah a lot of districts great
i hope he wins and he wants to work on
like the housing crisis because he says it's not
just a topic that impacts migrants but like
everyone one in the city so that's also true the
rent is too damn high we need to bring that back well i
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love his story i feel like it's like still like
kind of like a bad propaganda piece for like the quote-unquote
good american dream because that actually doesn't happen for
everybody yeah right and he's like a super rare case and
so it's like that also sucks right because
it's obviously like look what the fuck happened to him like he's
fucking like jailed because he tried to seek asylum he's upset like what the
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fuck happened right and he wants to change things so it's kind of like it's
like yeah it's the american dream that you can like change this fucked up country
right i don't know that's i wonder what dream are they telling like internationals like.
What is the dream now? Like, don't fucking go. There can't be something in the
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American dream no more. There can't be. It can't be for sale.
Like, if you went to North Korea and they jailed you and then you got out and
then you had to like work your ass off in like the most extreme way possible
and then you're like, you can do it too.
Like, is that a good message? Yeah. I mean,
it's not a good message, but it gives you hope.
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Because if another person could do it, hopefully I have the
courage and the hope to do it as well yeah you know
what i'm saying but i wouldn't want to go through it but shit
if i if unfortunately if it did happen maybe
it's a message that says try another country first
don't choose this
one but this was in 2016 they were still selling that
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that dream was still sellable in 2016 you know
i'm saying that dream in 2024 was it
still sellable i feel like we've been so jaded we are
as americans yes like we've been jaded for like a million years and
it's like even when trump was in office it was like it was
the worst hell we were always going through right and it's always
the worst hell we're always going through that's true always don't get worse
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but i think
yeah it's definitely this pull yourself up by your bootstrap mentality that
america loves to feed but i think like it very much
still feeds that and it's still very much i feel
like the american dream is still very much alive right because in
order for america to survive it needs that motto like because
that model feeds capitalism and if you if you
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don't have this pull yourself up by your bootstrap mentality then capitalism
is going to dismantle like it can't it's not sustainable if
you don't people don't think that you know that's true
but it's also like what is the american dream to become an influencer i think
it's just a place where you can i think like raise a family and get a house
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and like get a job and all that stuff i I feel like that is the American dream.
And most Americans can't do that now.
So it's like, this dream can't be sold internationally anymore. It can't be.
You know what I'm saying? But since we are born and raised here,
it's just like, oh, this is trash.
I mean, it is. But, you know, another man's trash is somebody else's treasure. There you go.
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There you go. Because, I mean, I rag on America all the time.
You do. That's why I got so jaded. I get it from you.
You mean you're just experiencing life, bitch. You're waking the fuck up.
Just breathing in this good old L.A. air.
Anything else? Yes. I love it. Silver Platter. I never heard of this place.
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I thought the same thing. Oh, fuck. What is this?
You've seen this place? What is that? I've seen the place, but I never knew
it was a gay bar. Where is it?
Somewhere in, like, fucking downtown. Like, I think it's, like,
by 7th and Figueroa or some shit.
It's somewhere, but it's, like, every time I've seen it, I thought it was,
like, a random straight people club.
So I never even thought to look at it. But apparently the Silver Platter is
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a gay bar that is about to lose its liquor license
because it has lots
of offenses and some of the offenses are soliciting
drinks from patrons which i
guess it means like having patrons buy drinks for the people who work there
oh they do that at all bars they do do that at all bars but apparently they're
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being busted for it they got caught though and then some other shit wait so
like the bartender will be like Like, buy me a drink type of thing?
Or the person's offering to buy him a drink? I think so. And then they,
like, encourage that. Oh.
Which not only sells more, but I guess they say it leads to,
like, more, like, fucked up behaviors. Yeah.
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Which, obviously. Like intoxication. Because then the bartenders can't cut people
off because they're drunk as fuck.
They're like, I don't give a fuck, bitch. Yeah, they're like,
a party. Thank you. I'm already wasted.
I'm already wasted. anyways developers want
to destroy that plot of land i guess anyways that this bar is
on but they're like no don't it's the oldest gay bar in la even though and that
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it's like super lgbtq but i don't know i've i've personally never been there
i never knew it was even a gay bar i didn't know that existed and honestly if
it is a gay bar you guys really need to up the ante on how it
looks because it looks like it should be demolished i mean
maybe you can rent out the mixed use space which i
think is one of the suggestions but they want it at like a
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lower cost rent they want to
be seen as historical but honestly like a lot of people sign up
for historical and if you don't and they usually do
stuff for the community like they don't mention anything of what they've
done except be a fucking they're getting people drunk right being
a gay bar important but it's also like the building
is like it looks dilapidated girl like i want
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my historical building to be historical not because it's a stucco square okay
you're a stucco square so i do say that uh back in the day it was a safe space
for lgbtq plus immigrant and trans communities that was told in a documentary
called wildness from the director who swung so these fools had.
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16 violations within a month i think
they were trying to get shut down the majority of those violations 14
of them were solicitive of drinks like you stated so i
mean they still don't state like it's simply being a
safe community and an old building i don't think it's just
like a word of mouth right i don't know yeah i
don't claim you i've never heard of you before yeah i
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mean i haven't either yeah and i spent a lot of time in la
in the gay bars in la and not i'm sorry
but no none of my friends ever said mentioned it
ever could you say in downtown la right i'm about
to look it up because all i know is halisco and yeah the
halisco bar and there was red line but that one got closed down yeah like i
feel like if i was gonna think of any bar that's like that i would think of
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halisco bar yeah and it's like i don't even go in there and i wouldn't i probably
wouldn't like be like save that as historical you know yeah yeah right so it's in like mcarthur park.
Area it's a mcarthur park oh that's
further yeah but also like
on google or yelp they do classify themselves as
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a safe space for members of the latinx trans community
so maybe they was using these violations as just fucking
trying to fuck with fucking the bar because i was like how you gonna get a motherfucking
violations 30 fucking violations 16 violations in 30 days yeah well that's what
they said is that they think that it's just coincidental that they're trying
to demolish the place at the same time that they got their liquor license revoked.
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So it's like, yeah, you got it revoked, and now we're going to demolish it.
Yeah. I mean, those developers want that land. They're going to hire people
to go and push people to go investigate.
They're paying their rent. I mean, right. But they can make more money.
The developers can make more money closing it down and doing something bigger and better.
I mean, that's life, girl. I don't know what to say. That's America. Yeah.
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The American Dream. The American Dream. Is that it for Quick Tea or the Out? What else was it?
Is that it? I think it was. New Hampshire sucks.
That's about it. Yum, yum. Tea's so yummy.
All right, queens. Break time.
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Hey, y'all. Kristoff here. And we at the Queer LBC just want to say thank you
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and we're
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back so today i wanted to talk
about daddies there's definitely a lot to say in the daddy discourse so i wanted
to hear it straight from the horse's mouth so do you like daddies what's a daddy
are you a daddy do you like being called daddy or any type of fatherly driven pet names?
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Do you want a daddy? Does your own relationship with your father tie in?
If not, how not?
Tell us about some of the daddies that you've had. Not your own father,
but the community to live.
Cumulative of gay men who have taught you things in life as a daddy should.
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Things about sex, life, whatever.
And joy. What kind of daddies have you had? What's the job, daddy?
So let's kick it off with what Wikipedia classifies as daddy.
A daddy in gay culture is a slang term meaning
a man sexually involved in a relationship with a younger
male in an internet meme context know your meme defines the term as a slang
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term of affection used to address the male authority figure or idol in a sexualized
manner in bdsm a daddy boy a daddy boy relationship can share similarities with
the dynamic of dominance and
submission so with that
being said i have not right kind
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of changed right it changes what you think of daddy because i always provided
daddy to be a vibe you know what i mean more of a provider and a sense of all
type of avenues friendship that dick.
Love support sex you know it you don't have the the earn to need with a daddy
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and then i and daddy don't even come with age it's not even an age thing it's a vibe so like.
You could be young and still be daddy vibed
you know i'm saying like damn yeah i feel like colloquially
like in the past 10 years or so daddy has like kind
of changed up like i feel like before when we were younger people
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were really like weirded out by the word daddy oh
yeah and like calling somebody daddy and like people would be like oh yeah
why are you saying that i'm only five years older than you i
know or like i remember like in my experiences like if
i were to say it to like an older gay man back in the day they'd be like i
don't like when people call me daddy do you and it's like what and then
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they just try to be like you have daddy issues and i'm like no i
don't i mean yes but unrelated but i
feel like more lately like i feel like everyone's more comfortable like saying
daddy and like girls want to say daddy yeah yeah because i think it related
to what christophe is saying i think it has to do with like how more expansive
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it's gotten in in terms of definition.
I feel, I agree with that. It's more like a vibe aesthetic than it is like an
age thing like it used to be, you know? And I also feel like people have gotten
better with being okay with aging too.
So, you know, I think that- At least for men. Yeah, for men.
It'll always be easier for men.
But yeah, I think that is definitely a vibe. I think more now than any time
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else. Yeah, I think it's funny.
Because I'll see, sometimes I'll see people wearing like a clothing article
that says daddy, either a t-shirt or a hat.
And it's always like a guy who's definitely not daddy. Okay.
What would that vision, what does that vision look like in regards of one,
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how that person didn't give the vibe off daddy?
And then what's your version of a vibe that would need that shirt on?
I feel like so when I feel like the idea of daddy is you can never call yourself
a daddy oh like in the words of Jill Scott if you can tell me what to do then
you can tell me what to do but if you can't tell me what to do then you can't tell me what to do.
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Exactly I think what say it again so like basically if daddy can tell you what
to do then daddy can tell you what to do yeah basically but if daddy can't tell you
what to do then that's not it's also kind of like that phrase what
is it if you have to call yourself a lady what is it oh yeah that one i don't
know let me see i want to i only cut it out and i gotta research what it says
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first what is the fucking quote chat but yeah hold that thought unquote when
i think of daddy i think i still think of a very stereotypical,
daddy i think still someone who's kind of like older like a silver fox like
like a beard you know, like, you know, somewhat like fit and muscular.
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Like I still, I still have that image of a daddy. Of a daddy.
There you go. Oh, yes. The quote goes, if you have to tell everyone you're a
lady, you're not. And that's exactly what. Child, you have to look that up.
Which, yeah, which is the same thing with daddy. I think you can't be calling
yourself a daddy and being like, oh, I'm the, I'm the daddy.
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I'm the hot guy or the best one.
The number one the number one the only one
yeah you have to be called that you have to be called daddy
okay so what did the guy look like that wasn't daddy usually like some it's
i feel like the guys who i always see who call themselves daddy are always like
a younger guy in their 20s who like is just like some douche who like you can
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just tell by looking at him he ain't done shit,
this fucking life nice but
he's calling himself a daddy and it's like bitch please I love it and then you
said you still like so I think like I just really can't put a picture to it
but I think I still go off just like what society pushed well at least gay culture
pushed on us in regards of daddy because I always look and think of,
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Tom Finlan. Oh, when it comes to like daddy, I think of leather.
I think of, you know, I think of that type of shit, bath houses and shit.
Like that's what I think of a daddy.
But now it's just like, you know, shit, you can pay your own rent.
You can pay your own car. No, you could take care of yourself.
When I think of daddy, I think of daddy, I guess shit, you know what I'm saying?
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Like shit is, it's more of a vibe. Now, if you're an asshole,
then you just an asshole.
There's like this image of Henry Cavill. and he has like oh that AI one is it
where he he's like saying something about like something to a boy or something.
Oh no anyways he's like there's like definitely daddy image of Henry Cavill
I feel like Henry Cavill is daddy yeah of course of fucking course I mean shit,
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tell me the truth anybody.
Can be daddy okay but sometimes I be in bed with
a daddy and I'm a daddy well I don't think I'm a
daddy no let me ask you well do a daddy is they
daddy or is they not is channing tatum a daddy no no
exactly not everyone can be daddy just
because you look like a man that means
you're actually daddy right but you know why because the
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first image that popped into my head about channing tatum was
like the twink version of channing tatum like he's
probably more like american pie i feel like he's more like man
child than like daddy because
he's immature right feeling that's the vibe i
feel like that's a that's the vibe he gets off right so that's why it's
more of a vibe right daddy you gotta
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be about your shit have your shit together right daddy is
not even for just males yeah there's they use that in the the whole umbrella
of the lgbtq plus community speak on the lesbian daddies i mean well i can't
speak on them but i had a lesbian friend and she called herself daddy all the
time yeah it's that vibe like you You take care of shit.
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But once I say that, like, it almost feels like I'm still leaning into society
norms. You know what I'm saying? Like, ugh.
Well, that's the kind of thing with, like, the gender stuff is,
like, you can't talk about masculinity really positively without it sounding
kind of sexist, I think. Right.
You can talk about femininity positively, but you really can't,
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at least not in this day and age.
Because i mean i feel like masculinity and like
masculine men like have caused so
much pain in the world nobody wants to see that as positive right right so if
you talk about positively it kind of seems like why are you so like excited
about men what the fuck did they do none of them is daddy because daddies don't
daddy up daddies aren't brat daddies aren't brat they really aren't No,
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you kind of have to be a brat to be a daddy, but you can't be a brat.
See, then you can still be daddy and still be feminine.
Can you? I believe you can. You know what I'm saying? Take a moment.
Let's ponder on this shit. Do you have any examples?
Just like Queen Latifah.
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Like, shit, you seen in the skirt? You seen in the dress? I'm talking about
a man. Oh, about a man? Okay.
Ooh, what's the dude's name that just, he was in the Star Wars?
The black guy? Is he feminine?
He has feminine energy, yeah. also i
guess pedro pascal can be feminine and daddy he does
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femme things sometimes he's at least the internet has
dubbed him as baby girl can you be baby girl and daddy at the same time i think
so why not you know you have different moons different times what do you want
to be daddy one time then baby girl another time i mean i think all men should
actually aspire to be daddy and baby girl that's kind of hot right.
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Coleman Domingo I don't know who that is show me the pic yeah oh yeah he's cute
yeah but he can also be daddy but he also has like a,
effeminate energy per se like he showed up on the I want to say the,
Golden Globes or something and he had like this pantsuit on but it was like
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very like flowy but like loose it wasn't like a tight suit or like a regular size suit,
it was just but it gave like a feminine energy but he was still daddy in that motherfucker,
you know what I mean so he was almost like this oh that's cute I'd wear that see right but and then,
he's still daddy in that motherfucker he's giving sailor right sailor moon no I'm just playing,
(37:13):
so yeah so like I feel like with feminine energy you can still give off a little
bit of daddy in that sense like you still have that energy about you But you
can still be a little soft.
You can be a soft daddy. A soft daddy? Yeah.
You want to be a soft daddy for me? No, I'm just kidding.
So have y'all ever been with a daddy?
(37:35):
Think so i think so i i mean i know
so oh okay well i'm gonna say why you've lied to yourself player talk
about it i mean i've been with like i don't know because i have to think about them
because i feel like maybe maybe they weren't
daddies because i have to like think about it so hard if
you had to think about it then they ain't really leave that impression on you
you're right now you know what you know who was a
(37:57):
true daddy it was the guy who was when we talked about sides the first side
that i met was a daddy he was very daddy vibes and like when i met him like
off like grinder i was like oh this guy's like dead and even though he like wasn't even.
Super attractive like his
(38:20):
daddy vibes overpowered that okay
and it definitely made me like more attracted to him
even though like i wasn't like super like
like like physically attracted to him okay just like his daddiness
vibe i was just like oh i felt
safe yeah i was like i want to be with you and i want to live in
your house and i want you to pay my bill like he was a provider yeah exactly
(38:42):
please can i come stay with you nice that's yeah that's definitely like daddy
vibes that are you attracted to daddy vibes i am but like i feel like when i'm on the market like Like,
everybody wants to put me in daddy position.
Because you look like you give off, like, a daddy vibe. I do. Adjacent. I do.
(39:06):
Theo vibe. Try to put that out on purpose. As you can't tell from my voice, listener, I'm daddy.
I'm construction daddy. Construction daddy. Podcast fatty.
See, you're the example. Am I the example? Am I the daddy example?
You're the daddy example. The femme. Right. The femme daddy.
But it's funny. I know I am femme daddy.
(39:28):
But it's funny. What were we talking about? People put you in the daddy role.
Have you been with a daddy?
Yes. Oh, have I been with daddies? Or have I been with daddies? Or have you been dating?
When you're dating, people put you in the daddy role. Yeah, the people put me in the daddy role.
And then, because I definitely feel like there's way more bottoms out,
like, on the market. When you're in the market, there's always,
like, a million bottoms.
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And, like, everyone's like, oh, that's one top.
And everyone's, like, trying to, like, choke your dick down.
Because you're, like, the one top in the sea of a thousand bottoms.
So so yeah people will definitely tell me
like they'll like message me and they'll say like hey daddy they'll
like they'll start with daddy as a name already so it's like okay i'm already
(40:10):
like put in that position so then i just kind of like go with it i'm like yeah
sure and then i just yeah that it does turn into like a dom sub role yeah it's like oh daddy Daddy,
do this, do that, blah, blah, blah, fist my hole, Daddy.
And I'm like, calm down. Like, simmer down. Chill out.
See, I don't know if I'm, will be, because I have, I did fuck with a daddy when
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I was back in the Midwest.
And we used to mess around, but he gave like that. Like one, he was older than me.
Secondly, he was taller than me. So that was already like, so he was probably like six, four.
So it was like, and so I was like, okay, like cool. We just mess around, hang out, chill.
Like it was, but he also gave daddy Mo because he also like,
(40:58):
he felt like he needed to, I don't, I think he wanted to be a daddy.
Technically he was a father, but that's another sad story.
So i think he just
wanted to take care of me and i was like
dude i'm a grown ass man i don't need
you to do that i'm fine like dude i could take care of myself you know what
i'm saying so it's just like so when i feel like i'm like i don't know i'm good
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like now if i know what i knew now i would have took advantage of it yeah in
the sense of like don't block a blessing but like when
you're experiencing that, cause I've experienced kind of dirty, right?
Yeah. Cause it's like, bitch, like I don't know you like, what are you trying
to control my life? Bitch.
Like, I don't even like my own dad and don't tell me what to do, bitch.
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So it's like, they feel like it kind of feels like, Oh, I have so much advanced
knowledge and I'm going to like help you in like a way that you don't want.
Right. And I'm like, bitch, like, I don't need that. I'm not going to that college.
Yeah. Sometimes you can get on your knees.
Can you just look hot like a hot daddy and not tell me what to do yeah so that
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was my first that was my only experience I had with a daddy and I feel like
after that like I felt like I became a daddy,
and it's well I think people just assumed I was a daddy can you be like a can
you okay so when there's like a dynamic right two people there's gonna be one
smaller and one larger are you automatically a daddy if you're larger physically
(42:26):
see and I think that's how I visually look,
Now I've seen some small daddies. Can you be a small daddy to a big man?
Yeah. A big bottom. Yeah. Cause I don't think like. Do you see that happening?
I see. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's a category. They're all shapes and sizes.
It's like submissive and dominant is a construct.
(42:49):
It doesn't matter how you look or the size of your body or your mindset.
It's about your mindset.
So like, that's just basically just submission and dominant.
But i have seen motherfuckers i used to
be friends with a person who was smaller than me and
i think he thought that like i was like
submissive because i was just friendly but he's
(43:12):
like aggressive like i don't sir ha that
was cute but uh no like you can't you know what i'm saying so it's just like
i think you can and i think they like that too i think smaller dominant daddies
love to dominate you know a tall.
(43:33):
Butch type of person make them feel good too and then bust a good nut,
so win win baby that was the only time I've been with a daddy the only time,
Well, I mean, bathhouses, I can't really seize, but I've been with,
(43:54):
see, but that's what I'm like, damn, I guess. Yeah. Daddy. Yep.
No, I fucked other daddies.
My bad. I fucked other daddies. I was just one hot motherfucker.
And like, but we just, you know, jacked off or some shit. What made him a daddy?
Once again, like he just had this look like he was older. Then he was like,
(44:15):
he worked out. He was buff.
You know what? what i think daddy is about kindness too because now
that i think about it the motherfuckers when i went over
to their homes you know they were kind like
they was friendly and shit like you know like hey like thanks for
coming they probably thought i was a catfish i don't fucking know but like they
was friendly do i need some water like most motherfuckers nowadays
(44:36):
don't like if you don't get that kindness to you yeah you
know i'm saying like then you got to ease your daddy's ease
they suffer two situations you know i'm saying the
kindness thing so i think it's just like you know they make you
want to feel they make you feel safe yeah that's a
daddy vibe and that's regardless across the board have you had any daddies the
(44:57):
one one person that came to mind i don't know i feel like he was maybe a daddy
but also like big brother vibe it's kind of weird oh okay but like i think what
what brought up to the reason why i think of him more is like that
daddy, like, big brother, or whatever it is, was that kindness.
Because I think that was the... He was one of the first people that I,
(45:18):
like, started to, like, have to experiment with.
So he, like, taught me things and, like, gave me, like, techniques and,
like, tips about sex and all that stuff. Oh, techniques and tips.
Right? So I'm like, okay, that's cool.
So, like, it was a kindness that was nice to experience. That's cool. Mm-hmm.
Because I feel like that's daddy, too. Like...
(45:39):
Being helpful yeah teaching your teaching right
it's terrible this incest vibe
it is well that's what the whole point is anyways i guess so but i'm not actually
sexually attracted to my own dad or has never actually have been no i find him
gross right all parents are gross yeah but i love you so it's like why do people
(46:02):
like associate that i mean obviously you're calling them the.
Same thing that you call your dad yeah so why
wouldn't they associate that associate that with your dad but
why do we want to say it and i think that's
why they came up with zaddy zaddy zaddy was
i think the way that people triggered away
from like they put some distance right they
(46:25):
would put like pr job 22 alphabets away
yeah but yeah but
i don't even think nobody's used that word no more right on daddy
now like zeddy is out right zeddy did go away so
it's just back on the daddy i will say
that i never called anyone daddy while
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i was having sex like that i initiated like i don't think i ever called someone
daddy out of like free will it's usually because they asked me to or like that's
part of their play they'd be like oh you you're like daddy's dick or something like that, you know?
So I'm like, okay, we're playing this. That's you dubbing yourself a daddy before
(47:07):
you lost all daddy privilege.
Not a true daddy. I have an interesting daddy story. So have you ever heard like...
In either like historical texts when
they talk about like people or like cowboys or like
people like working people and then it's like there's like
two men working together and like for whatever reason they're fucking but
(47:28):
they're both straight and it's like this like weird they
fuck these straight people are fucking so no
well allegedly that's how they describe it
as straight people obviously they're homosexuals having
homosexual sex i went to there was a i seen
a short guy at the beach over the
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weekend and he gave off daddy vibes but
he was like smaller just to go back to what
you were saying about size but also he was
playing with like he was very caring i
don't know what i want i just want our listeners to realize that like i
feel like daddy vibes are about a motherfucker who cares now
you get the motherfucker like acting up
(48:12):
and like abusing abusive and shit that's not daddy vibes yeah yeah that's fucking
loser that is so it's just like you know i'm saying like right now unless it's
consent for consent then that's different but like that other bullshit vibe
like i'm a provider i'ma you do what i say and all the other bullshit when it's not consentful.
Consentful. Full of consent. Full of consent. No, I'm just kidding. Okay. Full of consent.
(48:38):
Then, yeah. I feel like Chef from South Park was like Ultimate Daddy vibes.
Oh, because that was what I think was voiced by... Isaac Hayes. Isaac Hayes, right.
So that was just a given. If I had that voice too, I'd be speaking all sexy.
But I feel like my own fiance, I felt like gave daddy vibes,
even though he was smaller and younger.
(48:58):
Because he does offer that, because he does that, the vibes that are like,
he takes care of me in like every way. Okay. And is also kind.
Work it. Get it. If you like it, then you put a ring on it. And do it.
And who else was daddy? I'm trying to see, like, who was one of y'all favorite?
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It's funny because my ex, who paid all the bills. Thought he was daddy.
But he still wasn't daddy. No.
Yeah, you were just... You were just paying bills.
Can you pay my bills? Beyonce, I believed her. There's your karaoke song.
(49:40):
Don't think you do. So... You and me are through.
Traveling.
Wait this it was a place in palm springs where was i think it's about to close
i think they get shut down but that's where i've seen a lot of daddies too and
(50:01):
it was like almost like a cruising bar i forgot the name of it all of them are
like cruising bars for daddies i mean that's true,
palm spring is daddy central yeah that's true do you actually find daddies in
silver fox or are those just like deadbeat daddies no there's daddies everywhere
i found them everywhere but I'm not looking for them.
I just, you know, everybody could be a daddy.
(50:24):
If you put your heart behind it. I mean, you're right. Not everybody is a daddy,
though. That is true. Even actual fathers are not dad.
Touche. Sometimes. I'm trying to see the...
Place that i'm mostly seeing the most
daddies in lone beach let's see
it has to be either executive suite or
(50:44):
i haven't been executive suite in so long so i'm going
to go with silver fox it has to be so yeah if it's not executive
suite now what what's the oldest age
of a daddy would you i feel like
play around with you can be as old as
you want as long as you're hot as fuck if you're a
(51:04):
hundred years old and you look like fucking zach efron
that's fine okay a benjamin button
benjamin button age ain't
nothing but a number do y'all think that there's
a connection between like daddy issues and engaging in
this daddy play me personally but i
don't think i'm not a doctor dr mikey but i don't
(51:26):
think there's a correlation in regards of that unless abuse
may have been a part of it but i don't see
the correlation and it's only because i don't see
that you know i mean but that's not i don't know if it's backed up by something
else theory and knowledge and things of that nature because i do not know as
(51:47):
a daddy myself i would say i have no issues for that to be the daddy but the
bottom the sub the son definitely has the.
Issues they're the
ones that need the therapy they want the daddy they want
someone to take care of them they want somebody to love them and nurture and
make sure that everything's all right and just fuck them and cuddle them that's
(52:14):
what they want and then they'll be like bye just throw you away,
so it's all about the sons then technically I know,
it's really not about the daddy it's about all the it's all the people screaming for the daddy damn,
(52:40):
I'm daddied out how about you guys I only knew one daddy that's all you got
I mean the other ones was in bail houses So I don't really know them hoes.
I mean, I did fuck with a daddy when I was in Spain. That's the one who wanted to get fisted.
Dang. So, got him out the way.
(53:03):
What's your experience? Are daddies better at sex than people? Oh, yeah. I think so.
Because I feel like they would have to be. I mean, if you're at that point where
you're like, I'm seeing you as the teacher to me, then, yeah, I think you'd have to be.
I think that should be the part of the criteria because if you're like weak
at sex you're not daddy right exactly you're just big son you're a little dumb boy.
(53:30):
Have you guys watched that you guys never
watched that show that came out I think it was like on out tv it was like Diff
and Hembo like for the love of Diff it was like it's a gay show where there's
a group of daddies and then a group of Hembos and they They go into this mansion to find love.
(53:51):
It's hilarious. I think I saw somebody was doing like coverage of that.
Maybe I'll watch that. So it's like two, I think it's on the second season.
It's the one that's, we was probably talking about this a couple of years ago.
Stormy Daniels is the host. Yes. Yes.
So it's a good show. I mean, I only watched the first three episodes,
but yeah, it was good. It's ridiculous.
(54:13):
You know, because it gets, it almost gives you that vibe of what we're talking about,
because you know they got like some of
the daddies are short or like you know small bigger and
then the himbo's of course is just like little twinks or
masculine or young man yeah so if y'all do got time check it out sounds fun
daddies daddy if it's me daddy i would want a sugar daddy though that i'm down
(54:39):
for that's the only one i want right the thing with the sugar daddy is it's not all,
see but you know what i think what nowadays they don't have sugar days they
have like just splendor daddies they got like fucking honey daddies.
(55:00):
Right they holding on by a thread sweet and low daddy swing low i do want a sugar daddy,
you know, for conversation. I want it for my bills. I mean, that's the price.
Gotta come in with it. I think the other thing about being a daddy is that everybody
(55:23):
wants daddy's dick, but daddy doesn't actually want anybody else.
Like, I feel like whenever I met the daddy, like they're always like fine being
solitude. Oh yeah. That's the vibe. Shit.
Like daddy's not going to chase nobody. Right. If you free, you free.
If you ain't, you ain't. If you find a daddy, don't trip. Hold on to him.
(55:47):
Hold on to daddy. Hold on to daddy's dick.
Is that it for daddies? That's it for me. I'm done with daddies.
Go, daddy, go. All right, daddies.
From all of us here at the Queer LBC, I'd like to say thank you to myself, Nino, Dr.
(56:08):
Mikey, and Christoph.
You're good enough you're smart enough and talk on it people like you goodnight,
goodnight see you next time goodnight Long Beach Daddies Thanks for watching.
(56:40):
Thank you.
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