Unclench your Bootyhole & Say a Freaking Prayer with Lauren Courtney

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It's time to stop spending your wills wasting time, money and
energy building your brand aloneon social media.
Hi. I'm Sophia Splino, the host of
Social Equity, the podcast here to help you build your own
profitable personal brand. The social equity you can rely
on to make the money that you deserve.

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Are you ready, Miss Future Millionaire?
Let's get into it. Hello everyone.
Welcome to Social Equity the podcast.
I'm so glad you're here with me today.
Today we're going to be talking about money trauma.
Are you ready to go to trauma therapy?

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Are you ready to uproot all thisshit from our childhoods?
There's so much that we have to undo.
And as we jump into new levels in business, new levels in
relationships, the smartest thing we can do is go back to
our childhood wounding. Like, why do we believe that
about this business? Money.

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The person we're in it with. And today, I'm so excited to do
that with Lauren, Courtney. So if you're ready to dive in
and go deep with us today, you're going to love Lauren.
So how do I know Lauren? First of all, Lauren is one of
my clients. One of my favorite clients and
Lauren reached out to me. A year and a half.

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Ago DM me randomly. OK, complete stranger to me and
says you're going to teach womenthe codes to money and wealth
with ease. And I thought she was crazy
because at that point I wasn't focused on coaching.
I had just been focusing on scaling my social media agency

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and she saw something and God told her something that I could
not see yet. So I'm really excited to bring
her on because I know this womanis the real deal.
And if that was not enough for me, OK, if that wasn't enough,
about 6? No.
Must have been about a year later.

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I was really, really sick and she offered to do some distance
Reiki on me. And after the distance, Reiki
was able to tell me exactly the family member who had abused me.
And it was just kind of like. Shocking to me.
She could literally give me the name.
And this is someone who doesn't know me.
I've never shared about this on social media, so I just know

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she's the real deal. I know she's got this strong,
strong connection to the divine,to the universe, to God.
Whatever you want to call it, it's real and Lauren.
Welcome, welcome. You get her energy.
You're going to be like, well, well, because I think what's

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incredible about special people is they see things in you that
you don't see in yourself yet. And Lauren did that.
I'm like just here with tears inmy eyes, like listening to you
talk about me. Because sometimes, like, we we
just do the things that we're led to do and we don't hear it

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sometimes because we're just in it and doing it.
And I'm like, Oh my God, like slow down for a minute, girl
like, like you are, you're doingit and you're doing such a good
job. And right.
It's like what I saw on you. It's like we all need that
reminder sometimes for ourselves.
So thank you for being such a voice for me and and everyone in

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your community because it's yourenergy that gave me the
permission to send you that message.
It was your highest self that came to me in a dream and gave
me permission to send that message.
Because let me be clear, I don'trandomly send people messages.
It is not something I do. I don't offer free readings.

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I had simply been following you.You're so real and authentic.
Like, I started following you when you were in your age gap
relationship. A girlfriend sent me your
content. We just were like, this girl is
so fucking real and fun. And I feel like it was kind of
in the time of the pandemic or right after.
We just, like, needed joy in ourlives.

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And you were providing somethingso real and fun and authentic.
And that's what drew me to you. And I just kept being drawn to
your energy. And it was this, in this dream,
I was like, oh, I'm going to work with her.
I don't even know when, like, I'm going to work with her.
And like, I just kept following you for that next period of time

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because then, right, you went on, you continued on your
journey. And I was like this this woman,
like is like, I just can't wait to see it pop because I know
it's happening and I can't wait to work with her.
So it's such a pleasure for me also to get to work with you
because I only work with people that really understand me and

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who I am because otherwise what's the point?
Like you understand me and you're going to get my message
out and you're going to show me how to how to do that in ways
that I don't know how to. So.
Thank you. Thank you.
How long have you been in the program For anyone who's like,
how long have you been actually?I've been working with you for
like what? Like 8-9 months now?
Like 6-6, six months, yeah. That's it's it's been amazing.

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I've been so proud of you and all that you're doing and
sharing with the world and how much money you're making.
And today, I really want to dig into money trauma.
Actually, first though, thank you for your honoring words.
That was so edifying for my spirit, yes.
But I want to talk about the money trauma, because for you to

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get to where you are in life, for me to get to where I am,
there's been a lot that we've needed to uproot.
And I'm still uprooting every day, every single day.
The more money I make, the more I'm like, I'm like and you have
to stabilize in order to hold it.
So I wanted to get in there because you're the energetics
queen and I know that you're Whatever you share with me, I'm

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going to need to hear. Audience is going to need to
hear it's a good day to talk about money trauma.
It's a good day. It's a good fucking day to talk
about money trauma. Especially because I feel with
the 1212 portal, we actually moved through a big door
yesterday and it's like the old book that you were writing for

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your life. It's done, it's complete, it's
been shelved. And what is the new book you're
writing? Not like, what's the next
chapter? Fucking next chapter.
Like what is the next book and what does that look like?
And I am walking into that next book holding a high vibration
and understanding for money and a respect for money and a

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boundary with money that I'm walking into every other heeled
area of my life with because I've chosen to do that work.
And that's like, like, it's so interesting.
I have a client who's a wealth advisor, conscious wealth
advisor, and he just asked me towrite a foreword for his book
about conscious wealth. So that I'm like, even getting

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to talk about this right now means I've healed it.
Because I cannot talk or preach on what I have not done until I
have done it. That is who I am.
I do the work, I integrate it, then I hand over the keys for
the door. So I know that I'm holding some

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wisdom here today. So I'm going to riff with you
and keep it really fun. My first Oh, go ahead.
Yeah. No, no, no.
What were we going to say? I was going to say my first
question to you is like following your intuition with
money. What does that look like?
Because right now I'm in a really close relationship with

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God, but a very bad relationshipor bad trusting with my
intuition. Because my last relationship
made me it affected all areas ofmy life and made me think I
can't trust myself and it hurt me and it's like trickled into
different places. So I want to I want to say no
more to that today. And for anyone else listening,

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who feels like their intuition, like they just got bamboozled in
a way, like they thought something was good and all these
things that come up, how can we learn to trust ourselves with
everything, including money? Like how do we follow that
again? Yeah, so first of all,
everything happens for us. We choose everything.

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In the Reiki that I study and teach Holy Fire Reiki, we talk
about psychic attacks. And a psychic attack of course,
can be a physical person as well, and someone that you let
into your space. And psychic attacks don't come
from outside of us, they come from within us.
It's actually similar to what I posted online about today on
Instagram. They come from within us because

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it's it's us testing ourselves through the universe.
It's US testing ourselves. Like, do we really trust
ourselves? Are we really sure we're ready
for that next level relationship?
Are we really sure we're ready for the child?
Like right now? My dog got neutered this week

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and he had to have a bigger process for his neutering.
Anyway, have him like, you know,and his onesie and I have to
carry him 25 lbs Downstairs to go to the bathroom.
And the elevator was out before and I had to carry him up five
flights of stairs, 25 lbs block.And I and I thought to myself,
this is me testing myself. This is me testing myself for

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the next thing that I'm asking the universe for.
I'm stabilizing myself now in the ways that I can for what I
desire in my future. And I'm going to, I'm not going
to be mad that I have to fuckingclimb up five flights of stairs
right now and they can just turnthe elevator back on.
I'm going to thank God for providing me this opportunity in

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this moment. I'm going to thank God for these
moments where even at my lowest,I know that this relationship
happened, and it happened quicker than it would have
happened before. More because I fucking know how
to choose myself now. So good.
Because that's what it's about, right?
Like you chose that relationship.

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Did you love that relationship while you were in it?
For a little while until it was terrible great.
And how long did it take you to get out of it?
From the first moment where I knew like this is unhealthy,
probably 3 months, but I was already so intertwined.
How long did it take you to get out of the relationship before

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that? Oh my God, you're literally
repeating what the girl I'm talking to now.
It's just like you've made progress because it only took
you three months instead of six months instead of a year instead
of a year and a half. Like you're cutting it down
every time. Yeah, and that's what we get to
do as coaches too, right? When I heal and transform in
eight years now I can give you an 8 fucking minutes.

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Oh, so good. Yes.
Like I don't like it, you know. Like I don't.
It doesn't Like it's we've transmuted and transformed.
So we just. Can give that away.
And for me, with money, let me share.
Let me share a little bit of my background.
So I'm an energy healer, a medium, a coach.

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I used to be a private chef. I'm writing a cookbook.
Like whatever it is, I feel you emotionally, spiritually,
mentally, physically, And now I'm doing financially as well.
We are also handing out those wealth codes over here again.
And the reason I do this is because I was what you would

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perhaps use the term an addict. I've gotten sober in every area
of my life for a period of time.Or I should say I've abstained.
I've abstained from drugs. I've abstained from sex.
I've abstained from alcohol. I've.
I've abstained from, you name it, all of the things I had to
get sober. I had to figure out what the

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root of my problems were, why I was choosing drugs, why I was
choosing sex. Why?
Why? Why?
Why? Why?
Why? Right.
And I could pull my story all the way back to when I had jaw
surgeries in high school when I was put on Adderall for ADD when

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my best friend and first love died seven years ago after a
drug overdose. And his death brought me into my
awakening. Right?
All of those things are things that happened and it is a
beautiful story and and my storyis told in so many places.
And I'll continue to tell it, tell it because you remind me
to. But I don't think that's the
point here, because the point here is what all of those things

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were showing me was an imbalancein my own root.
I didn't feel safe and secure, and I can pull it back to
childhood, right? Like I didn't feel safe and
secure, and I would throw tempertantrums.
And my parents didn't know how to hold me tight enough because
their parents didn't know how tohold them tight enough.
So I can peel it all the way back to that.

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And I could even peel it to before that, that I came into
this life as a soul who chose tohave this human experience.
And that's scary. We all chose to come here and
not alone is really, really fucking scary.
And then we come here and we have all of this stuff placed on
top of us. We're these beautiful, perfect

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souls. And then we have shit and trauma
from our mothers, our fathers, our ancestors, our relatives,
our friends, our families, our lovers, our teachers, our
partners, our sisters, our siblings, whatever.
And then we lose who we were to begin with.
And we forgot. And we think we're bad with
money. We think we're not good.

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We think we're unworthy. We think we're not these perfect
souls that we once were. And it all comes back to what
belief did we have when we firststarted on the planet?
What were the first things we saw?
Where did our parents not hold us so tightly with money?
Where were we not feeling secure?

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Or where do we feel really secure in some ways but then
have some really weird beliefs? Because I can trace it all back
to my My mom told me that if I made a lot of money, then I
would never be able to be. Now she didn't do this out of
any bad reasoning, but she's like if you make more money than
a man, then you'll never get to be a stay at home mom or be a

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good mom because you'll be busy working.
And my mom told me the opposite,that I had to have a job.
That I had to make a lot of money, because if I didn't make
a lot of money, then I'd always have to rely on someone else.
So I had to learn how to be the total opposite.
Both are totally bad. The.

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And that's the duality because Ithink that those those really
are the two polar opposites and then it's how do I find the
balance, how do I find the middle and that's right where
you and. And it's like, there's nothing,
there's no right. It's like it's just doing what
your soul came here to do. There's no right way.

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Yeah. But a blendage is always
amazing. More is always more.
And I like, for me, I remember Iwas talking to my mom about it
the other day because I have this course right now, the 52
week glow up, the launch that I have, it's about like we're $3
or something under 30K for this launch in less than 30 days.

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And it happened. Again. 30K in less than 30 days
and and what feels so good is this program is not about money
for me. Like of course there's money
involved because that's an energetic exchange and people
are paying me for my time. No one's paying me for my
healing, no one's paying me for my wisdom.
People are simply paying me for my time and my hourly rate is

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now covered. My hourly rate is $555 and now
my hourly rate is covered for every fucking week.
So energetically, I get to show up in the biggest way every
week. And the reason I'm sharing this
is I remember when I made my first $30,000 month a few years
ago, and I thought to myself, I made this an entire year living

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in New York City. How the fuck did I survive?
How was I actually living? And, like, my parents actually
were helping me. Like, I would go home and be
like, hey, like, I want to do mylaundry and eat and like, can I
hang out here for a while? You know, so my parents were
helping me. But, you know, so many of us

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start off making these $30,000 years that when I made my first
$30,000 month, I wasn't really ready for it.
And I kept hitting high months. I was I became a multiple 6
figure business owner and I wasn't really ready for it.
And I didn't understand that I had dealt with a lot.

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Like I had dealt with a lot of trauma.
I was in a great place. I was sober.
The problem was I was rigid. I was holding on really tight.
It was like my asshole was clenched and like the other ball
could drop. Like, I've been talking about
this a lot lately because I likesilently.
It's like I released my asshole like, and this is just this
message that cops coming throughlike can you just like relax

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your asshole And I'm. I'm writing that job.
That's the name of the podcast I.
Release. My asshole, OK?
Literally. And it keeps coming up.
And I I, like, have these hilarious conversations around
it because I was so tight. Like, I was so tight with my
sobriety, like, Oh no, I don't drink alcohol.

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Like, that's it for me. I am sober now.
I don't smoke weed anymore. I am sober now.
I am not having sex until I meetthe person that I'm going to
spend the rest of my life with. Oh my God.
Talk about putting pressure on so many things.
Like, Oh my God, calm down. It was so much pressure.
And then a year ago, God was like, Lauren, we're going to,

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you're going to get a dog and and you're going to like kill
for the next year. Like don't worry about money.
Money is going to find you in like unknown places.
And it did. Yeah, you're always getting like
all these incredible offers, like private celebrity chefing,
writing a book. I'm so proud of you.
Thank you. So so Money Money Show showed up

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and I got to rest and I got to and I got to write the book that
I, you know, however it comes out into the world doesn't even
fucking matter. Because the truth is finishing
my book healed me and that's what I needed to be able to
share at my next level. Got a dog and.
Especially all the social media.Around it, I can't.

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Wait, it's going to be. It's going to be.
So it's and I buy that and you know you'll be full.
We'll be full time working together on my brand.
I'll be working with your whole team.
So my my point is, as I've launched this glow up this time
around, what's interesting is the $30,000 is actually a lot I

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let people do in payment plans and it feels so good.
Yeah. And it feels like what I'm
calling into my life because I used to live in this space of
addiction, these ups and downs. I used to live in and everyone
else's energies because I didn'teven understand in human design

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I'm a non emotional, so when I'mriding these waves, that's not
me. And when I learned that a few
years ago, I was like, oh, this is interesting, And I started
playing with it knowing my dad was an emotional, I would notice
I always got emotional around mydad and he'd be like, why are
you so emotional? I'd be like, I don't know, I
don't know. And then I become more
emotional. But it was because he wasn't

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willing to feel his emotions, soI was experiencing them instead.
So I started noticing when I wasriding other people's waves and
making sure I was clearing my energy more and more and getting
more and more in my own energy so I could get to this place
where I was no longer riding thehigh and lows.
And I think there's a lot of that in the coaching industry,
like okay, you got to get these high numbers high again, high

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again, high again, high again. And then when there's lows,
there's significant lows and it's just like up, down, up,
down. And certain people are meant for
that based on their human design.
I am not many for that, but I. Will say there's a way to scale
your business where it's not super high and super.
Low, of course, absolutely. So now, because that was what I

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was writing as someone who was healing addictive patterns, I've
gotten to this place where it's like, oh, I can have this like,
stable. Minimum.
Yeah, like and a really good energetic minimum that like my
energetic minimum has always been 10K, but it was like OK,
where is it coming from as opposed to like oh this I have

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10K coming in because of this program every month on like
retainer as of. So now it's just like oh ease
and flow. And I think that's been one of
the most important lessons for me is listen to yourself when it
comes to how quickly to scale your business and how quickly to

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grow. Because you can only handle so
much. Like we can only handle so much
and it's going to come no matterwhat.
It's like, trust me, like it will stack up, but like fucking
checks will stack up for a rainyday.
And it will rain. When you can like like when you

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can physically handle it and that's going to look different
for everyone, like physically handling it may look like I have
to get into my physical body andstart stretching my meridians
and get into my organs and understand the emotions that I'm
carrying in my physical body, literally.
I can feel it. My eyes hold on quenching.

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It may look like, I know you take walks every day, right?
It may look like taking walks every day and creating like, OK,
I'm creating space. I'm moving energy.
I'm creating flow, creating flow, creating flow.
I like to swim when the weather is nice here in Miami to create
flow in that way, right? So get in your body.
If you're having discomfort around money, if you're feeling

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like the money comes in, the money is going out, it's because
you have a leak in your roots and there's something
foundational that needs to be looked at.
Whether it's emotional, spiritual, physical or mental,
these are all the different bodies we can look into.
Is this going to be something you address in your 52 week glow
up? The 52 week globe is actually

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based around emotional, spiritual, physical and mental
and financial healing. So every week is different.
I don't know what's going to come up with each week.
I'm simply opening myself to source to channel wants to come
through, Yes. So we're going to church every
Monday. And then I'm also bringing in
some guest experts that are likemy friends, my community, my

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people, people I work with, my hip.
I know therapist here in Miami Beach is going to be a guest.
My client slash friend who's a conscious wealth advisor and
writing his book, he's going to be a guest.
One of my best friends who's an incredible medium is also going
to be a guest and she'll be out on maternity leave.
So I'm excited that she'll she'll take the time for us just

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a really a movement experts, some really incredible,
incredible people. Because the truth is we deserve
healing. We are our own greatest healers
and I simply want to give peoplethe tools and access to that
every Monday. So whether you could make it
live or you get the recording every week, when you're when you

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say yes to working with me, I'm holding you down.
And I'm holding you down for an entire motherfucking year.
And like, I have trained for this.
Like for those of you that don'tknow me, I have been doing
insane work. I've trained in body work.
I'm trained in every level of Holy Fire Reiki.

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I've been teaching it. I've taught over 100 other Reiki
healers. It's one of those things though,
that just being in your energy, it's it's so integrated, it's so
embodied that like, I don't evenneed to know your
certifications. Like I want to be in her
presence. OK, just a thought.
I don't know if I talked about this in one of our PPB coaching

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calls, which by the way, if you're just tuning in, Lauren is
a member of the profitable personal brand coaching program
and she's made over 30 or about to hit $30,000 in 30 days.
So proud. But I'm curious if this is an
offer, especially now that you're taking payment plans.
If if this feels good to you andyour nervous system, like I know

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it does and can feel it does. Because ever since you talked
about the offer, I was like, oh,this feels so easy.
Like for you it's easy. Would you consider this being
something for like an ongoing program?
Like anyone can come in and their 52 weeks starts when they
come in. So I don't know if it will like

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continue into another 52 weeks. That's interesting though
because what keeps coming through is that this is most
definitely a membership based community and what it's going to
turn into. I am totally unattached to what
that looks like and how it looks.
Everyone in there, right now, everyone joining before December
1st is basically like you're in your, like my early bird

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community and you're always going to get like special access
and rates because this is going to be bigger and I know that
because. Well, because, well, because I
know that, yeah. No, I can't know that.
Explain why? I know that.
I just know. I just know I'm so excited, so.

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I So what I do plan to do is open it up at least quarterly is
what's been coming through at whatever number comes through at
that time. The best time to obviously join
is going to be now while it's still early access.
Pricing of $2222 for 52 weeks, which is less than $44 a week,

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which is insane for working withme.
So this is the best time to join.
And yes, there will be time to access certain classes, certain
things during the year. Yeah, there's so there's so many
beautiful things that you're like just giving people all the
time, like whether it's Reiki orit's sound healing.

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And they work because I've done them.
I know. Yeah, and sometimes it gets to
simply be talking. Because the beautiful thing is
our words are healing, our eyes are healing, our energy is
healing, and our presence is healing.
Because simply being present is the most beautiful thing we can

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offer people. I love it.
So for everyone who's here wanting to work out their money
trauma, can we dive into that and talk about where to start?
And I know we talked about the things we believed, but how to
actually uproot them? Yeah, so for me, I like to start
with something really practical and basic.

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Some journal prompts. Oh, what are those?
What are the relationships you saw as a child around you with
money? What was your mom's relationship
with money? What was your dad's relationship
with money? What were your grandparents
relationship with money if you spend significant time around
your grandparents? That one for me was Gary Key

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because my parents are kind of very different with money.
My dad's an entrepreneur in a lot of ways, and his he invests,
he does things, he plays with money, and he has some root
stuff to deal with on his own that I needed to understand,
which is why I was a little extra playful with money in a
way that was more unhealthy. My mom is more rigid with money

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because her father came from thethe Depression era and that was
the energy he provided to his children.
There's not enough money. There's never enough money.
So my mom is really rigid, my dad is more frivolous.
And then they had me and I was like, what the fuck am I
supposed to do with money? So I started to really dissect

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and understand that, to understand, OK, I can see where
this is perhaps not healthy and also this isn't healthy.
And these were both inherited emotions that aren't true,
'cause I'm not living through the depression and money isn't
right. And I never, I never actually
experienced money being tight. I grew up in a very, you know,

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made it normal level for household.
I worked for money, I always liked making money and I always
had a healthy relationship, but something got unhealthy.
So I could see where I was inheriting different things that
weren't me, that weren't me. And for me, what I do is then I
kind of TuneIn to the energy within my root chakra because

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that's where it's stored. And while I am certified in
energy healing and have different practices, I do.
We don't have to be certified inanything.
We can simply heal ourselves if we believe that and we believe
believe in the power of God and we believe in the angels that
can support us. And you can simply sit down in a
quiet space, set an intention, say say a fucking prayer.

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And I don't know what that prayer is going to be for you.
Like for me, like I just like start saying weird like poems
and things that a little child would say.
And I don't judge it. I just let whatever wants to
flow flow. Sometimes it's a hip hop lyric,
whatever wants to come through. And I ask my angels like heal
whatever is going on that is causing this imbalance in my

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root. Help me to figure out what is
imbalance. And I'm not saying that's going
to just heal in that moment. And pieces will and also pieces
will be revealed to you that youcan start to unfold this for
yourself. Because it's not like pray
things away. You can't just like, like, I'm

(31:36):
sure, right? Like.
I'm I'm rocking because I wrote down the title.
I should say a fucking prayer and unclench your asshole.
Sorry. This is why.
This is why you and I rock. Because we'll say like, God,
prayer, fucking the same sentence and people are like,
what's going on? I mean, you know, Yeah, Yeah.

(32:01):
And that is why I like you. That is why I finally, you know
that that is why I fuck with you.
Exactly. Thank you.
Like we can't pray it away. We can't pray that money is
going to come to us. And like, for some people there
are major manifesters. And like, it's not you're not my
people, right? You're my people.
If you're listening to this, you're my people.

(32:21):
If you want this, listen. I'm like, you're the people that
want this message. I don't fucking.
I don't need to talk to anyone else.
Like you're talking to the people that want this message,
so I don't have to explain it. So you just start by asking for
the healing and then you show upand now you're going to
everyone's going to show up verydifferently.

(32:44):
You know, I asked for my journeyto be a little wild.
So my journey like took me from living in New York, working as a
private chef, to moving out to California, to being a social
media manager for cannabis company, to being a a personal
assistant in the cannabis brand,to doing like all these crazy

(33:05):
things to moving to Miami and finding sound healing and of
course along the way gathering all my tools as a healer.
So I do all these things becausethose things introduced me to,
like, the wildest people that helped me heal all the root
chakra trauma. So I just asked, I'm like, God,
show me the people who can heal me.
Show me the people that are supposed to show up to shine a

(33:27):
light so fucking bright that I can't look away.
And I won't look away until I understand, right?
Like, I feel like you're such a good example of that.
Because I could have easily and I can't even imagine how many
people you offended in your age gap relationship.
And like, I fucking love that. Like I love that so much.

(33:48):
Like I'm so here for that. That's my that's what I'm
designed for and that's what I want to look at.
It's. And it's from a place like a
pure love. It's not a place of like, oh,
like what is this train wreck? Because it never felt that way.
It felt like there is something so deep here.
I'm like, I want to know what's here because I want, I I want to

(34:13):
I need to know, I need to know like what's inside of this
treasure chest, cause like, that's what we are, right?
Like you're a treasure. Like we're all these treasures.
Like what's inside. I need to know like let's unlock
it. So like, I just kept watching
because like, it was like, I wasI I had this knowing you were
unlocking yourself, right. So, like, I love to watch, like,

(34:35):
people unlock. So I don't know.
I don't even know how we got offon.
This that means a lot to me because so many people were
like, oh you you said you knew you were a lesbian this whole
time. And I'm like, no, this is all
self discovery way too late because of trauma.
But OK, whatever you say. And that's what's so beautiful,

(34:56):
right? Like, we're all just waking up
when we're meant to wake up. And we're all unlocking people
at different times. And like, you hold keys for
people that you hold keys for. I hold people for keys for
people. I hold keys for people for.
I'm like, that's what's so beautiful.
So like, even in this conversation, like, I know it's
going in 500 fucking directions.I keep asking spirit, I'm like,

(35:19):
can you give me just like one path?
And they're like, no, you have to say a lot of different things
because you're touching a lot ofdifferent people, because a lot
of people are tuning in for verydifferent reasons and they need
to understand certain different energies.
I'm like, OK, OK. I'll just, like be a fucking
like, I'll just go through that.I love.
I love it and everything you said I absolutely second.

(35:42):
But going back to the parent thing it's the question that I
ask myself because you're sayingyes ask for doing.
Absolutely I agree with that. But for me to process it like
mentally it's it's been asking myself what lie like OK, you
were told truth truth truth truth truth.
Everything you learn from your parents is like how it is, but

(36:03):
like can you identify the lie? Like 2 truths and a lie figure
out about your life? And then what?
Did you believe mistakenly that you'd have to give up to get
money? Would it be time?
Would it be freedom? Would it be health?
Would it be relationships? Like 'cause we all want these

(36:24):
things to have a good life, but what did you believe you had to
give up to get money? So yeah.
That's a great question. I know.
That's definitely when I asked myself.
It's in my Release your money blocks course.
Actually I have like A50 dot $5 course release Your Money Blocks
with the sound, feeling and all my journal prompts.
And that's one of the questions.And when I asked myself that and

(36:48):
I was peeling back with the curtain on, well, if I have to
make money because I have to support myself, like where was
that shown to me? And one of my best friends
passed away and she came throughto me and she was like, look at
my mom and I. And I I laughed.
It was my best friend from kindergarten, and her father
worked on the Stock Exchange. And he would come home late at

(37:10):
night and he would go out and drink and do things.
And her mother kind of, like, had an allowance.
And that was their agreement, right?
And there's nothing wrong with that.
That was their agreement. And that's perhaps what worked
for them. So what I thought would happen
is if I didn't have my own money, then I had to let someone

(37:34):
else control me. Oh.
See. I'm afraid of that too.
These are all the things. But like that.
But that's not true. Yeah, like that's not true.
Like no one's ever going to control me.
Even if I if, I if and when, if and when I choose that in my

(37:55):
marriage that I down the line choose to have.
When I decide to have children with my partner, if I'm like,
you know what? I don't want to work anymore and
my partner can afford that same same to be like cool.
And the reason is I'm my partner's muse.
Yes, I. Know how powerful I am as a

(38:18):
woman and me. And I know you know that, right?
Having been literally your partner's views.
Like, I know that I'm giving so much and I don't feel at lack.
I don't feel like less of a woman, that I'm only worthy of
an allowance because I know how much I'm giving.

(38:39):
It's your paycheck. For.
Existing. Exactly.
No, I love it. I love it.
How are we having a conversationabout Wolf that turns into being
stay at Home Wives? I don't know, but it's happening
because that is totally my truth.
One day I totally want to be a stay at Home Wife.
That's it. Now, I don't think I'll ever
completely give up my brand, butit's a different.

(39:03):
Yeah. It's like it's the difference
of. But we could.
That's the thing. That's that's where I'm
unattached. It's no longer unhealthy.
Like I need to make money. Because if I don't XY or Z, it's
like, Oh no, I know I'm a bad fucking bitch.
I know I'm a fucking boss. I know how I fucking show up.

(39:24):
I know how I fucking rock. I know who the fuck I am in this
world. I know I could turn it all the
way fucking up. And I also know I can be in a
season where I tone it down and where I'm in a season of This is
my family or I'm in a season of.I'm not seeing any clients.
I'm writing a memoir or I'm on abook for.

(39:45):
I'm in a season of. I just want to fucking throw
dinner party. It's like.
I get my God. I don't even know what that
would be like. Like we get to do whatever the
fuck we want. And like, that's what I realized
with money too. Like.
I burned out coaching because I forgot how to have fun.
I remember starting to get on calls and be like, I don't love

(40:09):
this anymore. And that's not fair to my
clients. So I stopped doing it because it
wasn't fair. And that's when I started
cooking again because I was like, oh wait, this is where I
actually create. And then I started writing and I
was like, Oh my God, like, I'm all of these things.
And that's when money was also able to flow, again because I
wasn't restricting the other avenues it wants to come from.

(40:32):
Yeah, that's so good. And it sure is flowing now.
I'm so proud of you. My heart is just.
Like, fuck it. OK, so obviously we're both
spiritual. What spiritual practices do you
bring into your business? So funny, because I feel like
the biggest one is movement always.

(40:55):
I'm very much a movement person,so I dance to move energy.
I dance a lot like in my office to shift the energy.
I cleanse this space a lot. I used to be big on, like, I
have to set my intentions and manifest and write things down.
And I've let a lot of that go simply because it's like it's an
embodiment of who I am. Like, I don't have one specific

(41:17):
altar because I am my altar and I respect my being as the altar.
So it's like, I don't I it's funny, I said this on a podcast
also recently. It's like there's no one
spiritual practice, like I'm a spiritual being having a human
experience. So it's more like what human

(41:38):
experiences you allow to slip into your spiritual experience.
That's so good. That's so good.
Yes, great. Yes, I need the organ.
Yes. Oh.
So good. So good.
I love it. I definitely do the dancing

(41:58):
thing too. And I will say I used to be very
rigid about the manifesting writing down, which I still love
to write it down. I do have a free ebook if anyone
wants to learn how to get what you want, which we all do,
Whether it's money, love, relations, relationships,
business, social, media, Success, you can DM me.
I believe I don't even remember what my keyword is, but DME

(42:22):
ebook and we'll send it to you. But pretty much it's 11 pages
and I teach a specific method, and I used to redo that every
three months. But now I've gotten into this
place where I've instead of writing down the specifics, I'm
writing down the broader picture.
And that is something like I have mine right here on the
floor every morning in front of my mirror.
I do it, but like I it's something that's going to just

(42:44):
remain true for three to six months at a time, rather than
rewriting, rewriting and like okay.
You're you're reminding me, I dototally have a practice.
You do. But it's just that I've invited
people into the practice now. So it's like funny once you like
invite people in. So I just taught it actually as

(43:04):
a live class, like here in Miamilast week, and then taught it
like yesterday on the 1212 portal.
So I create embodiment art, which is very different than a
vision board like this is a vision board.
It's huge. It's got all of the things like
this is embodiment art. So this one, I created an entire

(43:26):
series for the chakras. Glow up your chakras for my
program. So this one's the solar plexus.
So I was embodying each one likeas I was healing each thing or
working through each thing. I put it on there so I'll share,
you'll you'll love this. I wish it was down here but it's
on my night table. My word for 20240.

(43:49):
I got to pick one. Is orgasmic.
Oh, I love it because I want every area of my life to feel so
fucking good. I want every area to be
orgasmic. Like it just just to feel good
and easy and juicy. And like there gets to be that
build up and the climaxes and like all of the things right, it

(44:12):
gets to be an orgasm here. So I invited people to this
class the other day and we made essentially a book cover.
So I invite anyone watching thisto to do this.
We just went through this 1212 portal like the old book is on
the shelf. What is the new book that you
are writing? What is the name of the new

(44:32):
book? What is your word for 2024?
So my book is my orgasmic life. And then I created this whole
book cover and actually the wordorgasmic transformed as I was
creating it to orgasm magic. So stay tuned for the master
class of the orgasmic life. So I do that.

(44:57):
And then I kind of, like, just focus my energy towards that
thing. And what's interesting is the
moment I said it was right afterI got back from cooking on this
retreat for Julianne Hough's dance company.
I was sitting with a girlfriend at the beach.
And out of nowhere, I was like, my word for 2024 is orgasmic.

(45:17):
And she was like, oh, I love that.
And I was like, I don't know where that just came from, but
it was clear. So let's go with it.
Two weeks ago, I open Instagram and I randomly met this woman
who owns the Tantra Studio. It's called Tantra Studios here
in Miami. Started following it.
And two weeks ago I open up Instagram and this woman has a

(45:38):
course, this teaching called Energy Orgasms.
And I was like, OK, so I'm literally signed up for this
class this weekend. That's three days.
Long ago. Yes, three days long.
It's a training in creating orgasm, like energetic orgasms
for people because I experiencedthem already.

(45:59):
But what's so interesting, right?
It kind of brings us back full circle and like healing my root
chakra. Cause root chakra is also
sexuality, money. I'm comfortable with money, I'm
comfortable with sex, I'm comfortable in my body.
So I'm able to go there. This would have been so outside
of my comfort zone years ago. I would have been like, no, no,
no. It's like we don't, we don't
like, talk about that outside ofthe bedroom You're now.

(46:21):
It's like, yeah. And now it's like, no, no, no,
no. Like, this is my orgasmagic life
over here. So I'm taking this training.
But it's like, you know, as soonas I said this is my word, it
showed up for me. And that's what I meant earlier
when I said, like when you claimlike, I'm going to heal this,
those things are going to show up for you to do.
And it may be uncomfortable. Like you may get like an

(46:44):
opportunity to go to a retreat or it's retraining or dive in
with a mentor that's like a little feel uncomfortable for
you. And it's like, how willing are
you to say yes, to lean in, to get to the other side of what
you truly want? Like, I want to live a life of
balance. I want to live a life of

(47:04):
orgasmic energy. I want to live a life that feels
so good, that's useful. Where money flows without
question, Where mentally I feel supported and stable in my mind
and in the relationships around me.
Where physically my body feels good, emotionally I am stable
and secure. So I want all these things.

(47:25):
I want to spiritually always feel connected and with source,
so I'm just. Absorbing.
So we have to be willing to showup.
We have to be willing to say yes.
We have to be willing to could lean into the discomfort, right?
So like, even as I say yes to this healing around sexuality

(47:48):
and energy orgasms, it's me saying yes to like, show me the
motherfucking money. Show me the motherfucking money.
Because I am so secure and who Iam.
That if God tomorrow is like you're going to travel around
the country and give people orgasms simply by touching them
and whispering in their ear and they're going to feel it from
their head to their motherfucking toes, I'm going to

(48:10):
say. Yes, I love it.
I'm going to say yes, like I don't fucking care.
I'm going to free everyone. I don't care how I have to free
you. I'm going to collect every
motherfucking key and free everyone that I'm meant to free
you. I literally know your next
program. It's already, it's already being
cooked up right now. I can't wait for the promotion

(48:35):
of that. Yes.
And honestly I feel like you in a way were a spark to it because
we when we had our first one-on-one call after I joined
the program, we talked about like doing four programs, one
around money, one around sex. I have to go back and look at
the other too because I probably.
Broke it down to like the the basic things people want.

(48:57):
Money. Sex.
Freedom. Relationships.
Yeah, so here we go. Just unlocking the final pieces
so I can teach them because I wrote.
I literally like made the the canvas for them because I have
to make the thing that I embody the thing that I teach the
thing. Yes.
No. I love it.
I love it. Love it.
Say that one more time. You do what?

(49:19):
I I create the thing I embody the thing I teach the thing I.
Love it. What a good method.
And for anyone else listening who's like creating their
offers, know that all of everything you do as a service
provider ultimately teaches people how to love their lives.
So if you can create an offer, that and the way you sell it

(49:40):
sells the lifestyle sells the freedom sells the peace sells
the relationship sells the sex sells the money sells the
health, that is what you're ultimately selling.
Even if you're selling somethingdifferent, say you are a social
media manager at the end of the day, you're helping people save
time and giving them peace. So always related back to that

(50:03):
when you're selling. Yes, and it's so true.
Like my like when I I literally let go of my whole team a year
and a half ago, I like go of everyone I was like I'm burning
this to the ground. Like I'm not happy anymore.
I'm not inspired and I took and re control of everything.
The only person I kept was my bookkeeper, OK?

(50:24):
Because I was like, you know what?
I love? A fucking woman in my business
that loves to handle money. And I'm going to keep you
because everyone else, like I feel like you're replaceable.
Like you're not. Your energy is not supporting
where I want to grow. But a woman that always wants to
fucking make money and count checks, we're going to keep her.

(50:44):
We're going. To keep her, I have to say I
love my bookkeeper too. She is wonderful and if anybody
needs a good bookkeeper, messageme because I'm always trying to
get her more clients. When you find a good one, it's
like you want to keep that. Freaking love her.
It's amazing. One thing about her, it's just
this is a totally random story. But one of my other friends

(51:06):
who's also a culture line, Sydney Finn, have you followed
her? I've shared her book.
I. Think I?
Yeah. I started following her.
She had been praying for a fairymoney mother, fairy godmother
around her money and like it wasjust so random and the first.
She added these visions of like what that person would look like
for her and she'd be Southern and have a accent and all these

(51:26):
things that I randomly messaged her was like, do you need a
bookkeeper? And it's the Southern everything
she had envisioned because she'sfrom California.
So it was so funny. It's like literally.
When you're good at manifesting,you ask God gifts you ask, God
gives, and you take action. God gives.
It's wild. It's so true.
Like, you know, even my just acting on listening to that

(51:48):
dream and telling you like I waslike, I don't know, like this is
so awkward and it was like, no, take the action because had I
not right, like who knows? Like who knows?
Would I have continued to follow?
Like right. I don't know.
It doesn't, it doesn't even matter because I took the action
and I know you've been talking about butterfly effect lot
recently and the butterfly effect was a huge huge part of

(52:12):
my awakening my my ex that passed away.
I'll share a quick story. How did that transform?
Your life. So my ex that passed away.
He was my best friend and first love.
And when I was in college we were dating and he calls me one
day and he was like, I watched this movie The Butterfly Effect
and it really reminds me of us and I called my girlfriends.

(52:33):
I was like, we have to get together and like watch The
butterfly effect. My boyfriend said this Ashton
Kutcher movie reminds him of me.So I thought it was some ROM
com. So my girlfriends and I like get
together on a couch with like a few bongs and like a bunch of
weed and pizzas and we sit down for this like Ashton Kutcher ROM
com. And if you've seen The Butterfly
Effect, like the movie, it ain'tno ROM com.

(52:57):
It's really fucked up and it's basically watching timelines
collapse and portals shutting and different doors closing and
what life could be like in different places.
And I didn't understand it. I did not understand it at the
time. It made no sense to me, and it
didn't make sense to me until about three years ago.

(53:18):
And he died. It will be 8 years.
Didn't make sense to me until about three years ago after I
learned about timeline therapy. I studied timeline therapy and
then all of a sudden I got this download.
Watch The Butterfly Effect and Isat on my couch watching The
Butterfly effect with my ex-boyfriend who passed away
standing there being like, do you get it now?
Do you get it now? And I get it now.

(53:40):
And I also get why I couldn't get it then.
My brain wasn't ready. My unconscious mind.
Could he? I couldn't handle, I couldn't
handle the depth of the universeand its vastness.
I wasn't ready, nor was he. And that's why he's chosen not
to be Earthside anymore. And why he's chosen to do his

(54:02):
work from another place and be such a big guide for me.
And why I truly do the work thatI do.
Because we don't have to go through an awakening alone.
We get to have fun in this life,and we get to remember we are
simply souls having experience, and we're here to transcend so
much more than this physical earth plane.

(54:25):
So good. And for people who are like
Sophia Lauren, what's the butterfly effects like?
I don't even know. It pretty much means that if
you're making one decision and you had, if if you're a pilot
per SE, per SE, and you're you're deciding to go 1° off
from your destination, you'll end up in a totally different

(54:46):
destination. And if you make one decision
different, maybe you meet someone at a coffee shop that
tells you about a podcast, and when you listen to something in
that podcast, that changes your life forever because you end up
taking a job or building your own brand or whatever, that it
changes everything. So that is the butterfly effect.
And I it's it's affected my lifelife in so many ways, literally

(55:10):
like that. Like literally someone telling
me about a podcast that changed my life forever.
And if this podcast is changing your life, share it with a
friend. Tag me and Lauren on Instagram,
tag us on on your stories and we'll share to ours.
Lauren's handle is I am Lauren. Courtney, you have a period in
that. No, just I am Lauren Courtney.

(55:32):
Yes, I am Lauren Courtney and mine is add Sophia Esfino.
I'm so glad. Like I would talk to you all
day. I don't want to go over an hour
because I don't want this sometimes.
It doesn't save on Instagram if.It's.
I know, I know we could we coulddo this forever.
It was about time. It's like years in the making.
Years in the making, if people want to join, well, when people

(55:53):
want to join your 52 week go up to the DM you a specific
keyword. You can DM me glow up, or you
can also just click on the link in my bio and it's there for
you. Super easy.
Sign up. It's going to be amazing.
There's already an incredible group of women that are dropped
in and I just. I'm so excited to spend this

(56:17):
next year with all of them. I'm so excited for you and how
good and aligned this offer feels and for everyone listening
who's like, hey, I want to be inthe same program that Lauren's
in the program that's helping her learn how to create social
media that is strategic and creates actual sales rather than
posting and posting without making as much money as you

(56:38):
deserve. You can join my Profitable
Personal Brand Coaching program.The link is going to be in the
show notes for that or DMEPPB onInstagram.
I love this. So much for having me.
I mean, I it's like it's just it's sisterhood and it feels
like we've just done this together so many times before.

(57:03):
We. Can do it again.
I'm already ready. Yeah, I'm ready anytime.
Like, seriously anytime. Because I just know, like you
and I coming together is a very powerful shift and ripple effect
that we're creating. And I don't have to understand
it or get it. But like from my New York roots

(57:23):
to your Southern roots, like I will always take it.
I love you, love you, love you. I.
Love you so much. Thank you.
Thank you and for everyone listening, we love you tag us on
social media so we can share. And if you have any questions,
I'm sure either one of us are happy to answer in the DMS.

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