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Speaker 1 (00:24):
Hey, hey, hey everyone, this is Keanna, your
creator and your host of Cutefor Christ, and I want to say
thank you to everyone that hasliked, you shared, you commented
, whatever you've done.
I'm so excited and I'm so happyand I tell you I cannot say
thank you enough.
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Okay, this right here has to bethe hardest job that I've ever
had to do, and that's to be avessel for Christ.
It's easy at the same time,because God is always with me.
So, anyways, as you know, wehave started the success on
purpose interviews and I'm soexcited and so thrilled because
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we are speaking with individualsthat are successful on purpose,
not by money, not by cars, notby our fame or anything, but
they are successful on purposebecause they have God's backing.
Okay, just like it says in herBecker 2 and 2, we have to write
division and make it plain, butwe also have to internalize it
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so we can stay consistent to it,and those people are the ones
that are successful on purpose.
So, anyways, I'm so excited tohave my guest on here because
I'm telling you she is such anincredible, incredible coach.
Okay, so I have the privilege,the honor, the esteem honor to
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have on Cue for Christ coachTiffany Santana.
How are you tonight?
I'm wonderful, I'm so excitedto be here with you again.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Thank you so much.
Again again, oh man.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
If you don't know, she was on one of the panels I
had a couple weeks ago and ifyou haven't seen it, you need to
go back and see it.
We'll talk about Miss labeling,seasons and I'm telling you,
coach Tiffany, she gave us somegreat advice and if you haven't
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seen it, go look at it, okay?
So, anyways, I'm so excited tohave you on here and I am going
to just say a quick prayerbefore we go any further, and
then we'll dive right into it,because I want you to have as
much time as you need to be ableto let everyone know how you've
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been Cue for Christ.
All right, so we're going to gointo a quick prayer, all right.
Dear Heavenly Father, I come toyou.
First.
I want to say thank you.
Thank you for this time thatyou have carved out.
God, I thank you for the lovethat you have displayed for your
children.
God, god, we thank you now justfor being in the midst of
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everything that we're doing.
God, we want you to know thatyour presence is always, always
welcome, and we just want you tosit in the midst of this
conversation because we want tobe able to touch someone on
today.
God, god, we want someone to beable to hear our voice, where
they can learn how to do whatthey are called to do, god.
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We want them to know how theycan be able to be successful on
purpose, god, and so we thankyou now, god, hallelujah.
We thank you for what you havedone in Coach Tiffany Santana's
life, god.
We thank you now for her family, god.
We thank you now for everythingthat she is doing.
God, god, we know that you aregoing to bless someone through
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her voice, and so we thank younow, god, for what you're doing.
We know that you're able to doexceedingly, abundantly, above
all, that we can ask a thing.
So we know that you are goingto do your real, god.
So we thank you now, we loveyou, god, and we honor you as in
Jesus' name, that I pray Amen,amen, hallelujah, I'm telling
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you I love to pray.
That's what I'm saying.
That's what I'm saying.
Right, there is to pray, butanyway, I'm so excited to have
you on here.
I just want you to just kind oftell everyone who Coach Tiffany
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Santana is and I call you thecoach because I know you got it.
So I want everybody to knowthat she is certified.
She is a certifiedtransformation confidence coach
and I want her to be able to leteveryone know who Tiffany
Santana is.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Thank you.
I am Tiffany Santana.
I am from Northern Virginia,just outside of Washington DC.
I am a transformationalconfidence for purpose coach and
speaker, and I'm also theexecutive director of Bethany
House of Northern Virginia,which is a nonprofit that
provides safe shelter andservices for women and children
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escaping domestic violence.
I'm a mom of a 17-year-old, I'ma wife, I am a daughter and a
granddaughter of 105-year-oldgrandma Ruth.
We all live in one house underone roof, four generations with
two dogs.
I am a servant of people and alover of Jesus, and I believe
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that I'm here on this earth tohelp as many people as I can.
However, god wants me to helpthem, and it's been a variety of
different ways, some of themunexpected.
Amen.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Amen.
And that's so cool and soamazing how you say your
grandmother is 105.
I have a grandmother that isturning 102 on Sunday and I'm
actually going home because I'mso excited that matter of fact
she spoke that into existence.
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She used to tell us when shewas a kid I'm a live to be a
honey.
I was 100 and I said, wow.
So when she turned 100 lastyear, I mean she's turned 101,
I'm sorry she turned 100 lastyear.
I went and I was so thrilled tosee that and I'm so excited
that you say that that just made, that, just gave me hope.
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It is a blessing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It's such a blessing, it really is such a blessing.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
You know we're from Miss 70.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
So 35, 32 more years beyond your 70 is back in her
good years Like grandma, in thegood shape.
She's enjoying life.
She has a better socialcalendar than I do.
It's kind of embarrassing, butI'm a little jealous.
I'm a little low key jealous,but when?
Speaker 1 (07:12):
you get 100 and say it's gonna be like that Trust me
.
She's gonna give you some tips.
She probably gave you some tipsanyway.
And it's just right, and, ifthat's wisdom, I can go and sit
with my grandma.
It's so peaceful over her housebecause I can just sit there
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and be like, just enjoy thepresence of the wise.
It's just amazing in itself.
So that is awesome, okay.
So I'm just so thrilled becauseI just love to see stuff like
that.
So, but can you just go into alittle bit about when you your
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childhood, like you know, wereyou when you were a child?
Was this one of your dream?
To be a coach, a transformationcoach?
You know, I know a lot ofpeople like with me if you asked
me when I was a child what Iwas going to do, and it was
definitely going to be dancingor singing.
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And yeah, we ain't there yet.
I used to do it.
But you know I was like no, no,I need you to do that.
So when you were a child, what,what were you planning on being
, and did you ever see yourselfbeing a transformation coach?
Speaker 2 (08:35):
When I was a child I wanted to be an actress and a
gymnast and a teacher and azookeeper.
I think Coaching was not on myradar at all.
I actually didn't even reallydiscover coaching until maybe a
few years ago.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
It completely wasn't radar.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, it's something that was introduced to that I
really loved.
That came pretty easily for me.
It was a good fit, but itdefinitely was not anything that
was on my radar those years ago.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Right, Right, I mean you know and that's and that's
good because, like you know,years ago we probably don't been
coaches our whole life.
You know what I'm saying.
You probably you know, ofcourse.
You say you have a teenager, soyou have to be a coach then,
and being a coach as a wife, yes, you have to learn how to.
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Yes, you have to learn how to bea coach.
You know so and it's soincredible that you can.
You can just step into thatrole kind of easily.
So have their um, so that youknow, when you were called into
it, what.
What kind of quickened you tojust say you know what, I'm
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going to do it?
Because you know one definitionof quickened means to restore a
vigor, or, you know, stir up,and I like to give the scripture
that I have that go with thatword.
Quickened is second Timothy,one is six.
Therefore, I remind you to stirup the gift, um, stir up the
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gift of God which is in youthrough the land on of my hands.
So what quickened you to justsay you know what, even though I
never wanted to do this?
What stirred you up to say,okay, I'm going to be a coach,
let me, let me go and try thisout.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
I love that question.
It's it's funny because I, whenI was going for my
certification, the coachingprogram and the speaking program
were combined and I reallyjoined because I wanted to be a
better speaker and coaching wasgoing to be like a bonus.
I'll learn a new skill and whenI got into it I just learned
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first of all how valuable it is,just like you were talking
about in all of those verypractical ways in life coaching.
My son, you know, when you havea teenager, you really can't
tell teenagers what to do.
You're telling them what to do.
They're going, you know.
You say go right, that's lifeover there and they go left.
But I use them questions tomake them think about their
choices, to make them thinkthrough why something is a good
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choice or not Totally differentball game.
So a coach in helps me withthat and my relationship, just
like you said, in my marriage.
Sometimes it's a lot easier toget into conversations by asking
those really challenging,thought provoking questions.
Why do you feel that way?
What makes you feel that way?
What do you think the root ofthat feeling is?
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What do you think the root ofthat decision was?
You know, let's talk about it.
That's a lot easier of aconversation to have them why
you always do this and why youalways do that, how come you
never?
So coaching has helped merelationally.
So Once I was learning theskill during that certification,
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I really felt a pull that I wassupposed to.
Really, this was supposed to beanother part of my arsenal in
helping people to get to theplaces that they need to get to
and to help me to help people.
I've always been a helper.
Everything I've ever done isthat I'm going to do with
transformation, and so I wasjust so excited that God was
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revealing to me one more skillset that I could use to do his
work and to help people, and tohelp people transform their
lives.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Right, right and, like you say, being a coach, it
helps you in all different areasof your life.
You know, like PD always tellus, we have to coach ourselves
first.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
And learning how to even ask yourself those
extensive questions like, okay,is this going to be better for
me over here or versus here?
And you know, we often alwayswant to have that spirit of
discernment, but sometimes it'snot there because God wants us
to experience, he wants us to beable to be able to make that
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decision.
And so, coaching, I'm tellingyou, I have even just been in
the den and, by the way, y'allwe are den mates okay, we are in
Danny's den, a mentoring,coaching program, and being in
that and being able to applysome of those things have helped
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me in so many different areasthat I didn't even think I
needed, you know.
And sometimes we think that weknow it all because, oh, I'm in
this age, I ain't gonna displaymy age, I ain't that old but I
ain't gonna display my age.
But I'm in this age, I donebeen there, done that, got a
teacher in Florida, like peoplesay but you still don't know
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exactly the right way to go,even in whatever, like they say,
your big age.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Yes, big age, I can relate a little bit Right.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Right.
So what are some of thechallenges that you have faced
since you have decided to dothat?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I think the challenge is always making sure that I
continue to grow and, as I'mhelping and serving other people
, making sure that I implementthose same things in my own life
.
I'm really busy, I always havea lot going on and making sure
that I take care of myself,making sure that I continue to
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educate myself, making sure Ispend enough time with the Lord
and replenish, making sure thatI prioritize because I have to
prioritize differently in everyseason and coaching has really
helped me to do those things.
Like having those skills reallyhas helped me in my own life,
because it is challengingwalking out your calling in
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these different areas of yourlife, learning how to balance
that and prioritize things andweigh things and not get burned
out, because the people that youserve and the people that
you're responsible for they needyou whole and well.
So making sure that I don't getoverwhelmed, that I don't allow
myself to get off-kilter, thatI don't allow myself to burn out
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those are the biggestchallenges.
For me is making sure that Ikeep things in order, because by
nature, I'm a very organizedperson.
Psychologically, I'm not a veryorganized person in my spaces
all the time, and so just makingsure that I don't do too much.
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I can do a lot, and I've had toteach myself that just because
you can do everything doesn'tmean you need to do everything
all at once.
And so those are the challenges, because I want to move, I want
to keep going, I want to go allin and do everything, but I
have to pull back and havediscernment and listen to the
Lord about what's right for nowand how much to do in this
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season, and what he wants me todo versus what I want to do.
Those are the biggestchallenges for me.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Right, exactly Because, like you say, and I can
relate to you very, very muchbecause I can do a lot, if I
pull out my resume, you'd belike don't you try to do
anything?
None of it makes sense.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I've had to explain my resume in detail so many
times.
Exactly Because these dotsdon't connect.
What are we doing?
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Like girl, you was a vendor.
What does that mean?
Like, look, let me tell you,hold up, hold up, let me explain
.
But, like you say, everythingis not what we're supposed to be
doing at that particular time.
And so you have to just kind ofunite with someone to keep you
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on this path, to say you knowwhat Because I know a lot of, I
like to give definitions andunited means to join together.
So you know, and in one of thedescriptions in Ephesians 1 and
10, it says, as a plan for thefullness of time, to unite all
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things in him, things in heavenand things on earth.
So we have to make sure that weare united with someone.
So in this coaching space, likeI say, what you're doing now,
who did you unite with?
That just kind of say you knowwhat, come, stay this way, come,
come, let's walk this way.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
That's so good.
So I have to start with thepeople that God united me with,
that I didn't choose, but thathe placed me in.
So that's my family, my parents, I told you we all live in one
house.
So it's really awesome.
To some people are like, oh mygosh, how do you do that?
But it works to have my parents, who are wise and who are
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deeply connected to theirrelationship with Jesus and
biblically sound they arevoracious students of the Bible.
So to have two people whoreally love you, who know you
really well and who'll tell youthe truth, the right, the
unabdulterated truth, right, thewounds of a friend's truth,
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right, it's just, they arespectacular.
My husband is one I chose andhe chose me.
That union has been one of themost valuable of my life.
When we met I knew instantlythat we would be in each other's
lives for a really long time.
I did not necessarily know.
Well, I did know he doesn'tbelieve me, but I did know that
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he was going to be my husbandwhen I first met him.
But I knew that was my desire.
I didn't know if it would behis, but I knew we would be
connected.
He is such a stabilizingconstant force and my life.
He is a grounding force.
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He is a supportive cheerleader.
He, he, he cheers everything Ido.
If he feels like I'm gettingoverwhelmed or I'm getting ready
to take on too much, he willtell me.
He will take stuff off my plate.
Like okay, I know you want todo 9,000 things and you're doing
the most, but like we're notdoing all that.
So he, he leads well and heleads with love and compassion.
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So he's been fantastic In in thecoaching space specifically, I
went through Dr Darius Daniels.
At the time it was TCP, nowit's PCA transformational
certification program.
It's designed around communitylike-minded people who are going
in the same direction, whounderstand the same things, and
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the connections I've made therehave been so great as we have
navigated how to coach and whoto coach and what our niche is
and who, who are the people thatwe're supposed to help.
They have been spectacular.
Some of us are really superclose and so we really work
together and bounce ideas off ofeach other.
And then I have a lifelongfriend who I met when I was 10
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years old and I'll tell my ageon 47, now be 48 in 2024.
We are 18 months apart.
She's she's a senior now.
She's older, but but, um, she'san amazing person.
She's another one who, um, hasknown me in every season, who is
a truth teller, who willcompletely tell me the honest
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truth, who also encourages me,who, who, uh, she's great.
We spend our birthdays together, so her birthday is in January,
so we just got done being awayfor a week.
And during those times she justreally tells me the truth about
what she sees about me and mylife, and I do the same for her.
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And we bounce off ideas and weshare goals and you know we cry
sometimes on each other'sshoulders about whatever's going
on.
Like I, have been so blessedthroughout my life that God has
placed people for every seasonto be supportive and to unite
with me and what he wants me todo, and I'm glad that I am open
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to that.
I'm blessed that I haven't hadsome of the traumas.
If I have a, I've.
I didn't allow them to stop mefrom still being open to those
relationships that aresupportive and loving Cause.
Sometimes when you get hurt, youcan put a shield up and put a
wall up encourage yourself, andI can't say it was anything
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spectacular that I knew to do orany.
You know I'm not, you know,hyper emotionally intelligent,
relationally intelligent, human,but I have always felt like I
never wanted traumas to stop mefrom the next possible good
relationship and so I think,being open to that, god has
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always sent those people tounite with you on your journey,
on my journey I just feel reallyblessed about that.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Yes, and you know, and the thing about it, he, he
always know who to see in in theright moment.
You know, those kingdom freehands, those are the ones we
really need to keep around us,those ones that are on the same
journey as us, because you know,if not, we can get pulled from.
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You know the right way.
You know that is for ourpurpose.
You know, and that's the mainthing is trying to make sure
that we are staying, you know,strategic, being strategic about
what we're doing, for what Goddo, Because we know, as we know,
God is a strategic God.
He don't do anything that youknow is not going to be like
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lead to what he need to get theglory out of anything.
So we have to know that Godwill put people around us.
That you know, that is justawesome.
That is awesome right at thatmoment, and I love how God do
that.
And, as I was explainingearlier about one of me with me
and one of my girlfriends, youknow, God, just he was working
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on both of us at the same timeand then, and then brought us
back together and it was likelike wow, right then I needed
that.
And I'm telling you, God isjust so amazing, so amazing.
I'm so excited about that andeven though, like you said, you
know we have, you've united withsomeone and I know you have had
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the education, one of thethings that we need to is to
educate on where we're going.
We need to make sure that weare provided with the
information that we are tryingwhere we're trying to go.
You know the Bible says inEcclesiastes seven and 12, for
the protection of wisdom is thelight, the protection of money,
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you know.
So we want to make sure that weare learning how to, to educate
ourselves.
Did you have to do any moreeducation beyond what you had
with TCP, or is it just?
You know you've kind of learnedas you go.
I know we have to stay alwaysuploading, so is there any other
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education that you have decidedto just say?
You know what.
I'm going to take this becauseI want to know more.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
Yes, I've always been someone.
I've always been a student andI've always been kind of a nerd
and I've always been somebodywho just my mom I was a cool
nerd though I was a cool.
Yes, I was.
I was a nerdy cheerleader.
It worked.
I was a nerd.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
I was in a band, I was the band director, I met the
drum major, so I was a nerd.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Yes, and so my mom tells these stories about how I
would always have these facts,even as a like three or four
year old, and they wouldn'tbelieve me.
They're like what is shetalking about?
And then they find out.
They look it up.
Back then we had encyclopedias,we didn't have encyclopedias.
They would look up Like I'mreally telling my age today.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
They don't know nothing about encyclopedias.
They don't know about the bigencyclopedia?
They don't know anything aboutthe big ones with the red on it?
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Yes, yes, the World Book, the.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
Britannica Right Exactly.
They don't know nothing aboutgoing to the library and having
to go to the little computer andfind out where it's at Right
the card catalog Right, but I'vealways been a learner and I got
quite a bit of formal education.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
I got a master's degree.
Studied English was reallyEnglish and communications,
professional writing those aremy areas.
But once I got beyond TCP, onceI did get beyond my teaching
certification or my coachingcertification, I always continue
to learn more because I want tobe the best servant I can and I
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want to help my clients in thebest possible way, and I don't
think I can do that if I don'tcontinue to fill the well.
As my coach, mentor, pastor,says, you always have to be
feeling your well and so I'malways learning.
But in this season I'm learningthat I can get education from
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anywhere.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe formal programs.
I have learned more fromYouTube University in the last
year.
I am telling you I have foundsome of the richest teaching
from people.
And I mean some stuff.
I just have to sit and mymind's blown and I like I got to
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get back.
I got to sit with that, with anotebook, because exactly some
of the things have been so great.
So I'm always trying to learn.
If, if something comes up in acoaching session, I want to be
sure that I deliver, and so I'llresearch, I'll look things up,
I'll see what other people aretalking about, I'll talk to
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other people and get their theirperspectives on things.
That's good education.
And so yeah, I'm always going tobe learning.
I'm always going to be growing.
I'm wired for that.
I just believe in that.
It makes me feel goodphysically to learn things.
It's a strange phenomenon, butif I'm not filling my brain with
something, it's not right Now.
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Sometimes I have to turn it offand I veg and I watch Mindless
Reality TV.
That's another thing, but youlearn from that too.
Sometimes you learn what not todo.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Exactly, exactly, and and the thing about it, I'm
listening to you because it'slike I can relate with you so
well.
I mean because I'm always, Idon't, I can, I can wise you to.
I tell people I feel like youcould be a doctor if you wise
you to.
If you, if you sat there andlook that, go to YouTube
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University and you know, peopledon't understand that.
Knowledge is so powerful and,like you said, it comes from
different ways.
Even by just communicating withsomeone, just say, about
politics I mean politics youdon't even have to really know
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what's really fully going on,but if you've talked to somebody
about certain things, you, youget to know what what it is.
And one thing that I have is Iknow that, you know, once I
learn more about certain things,then that's when I have a
greater understanding.
You know about things and youknow, I'm, I'm, I'm one of the
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ones that I need to know so Ican understand what's going on.
I can tell you a story.
I used to work in the Mercy Roomand we, of course, had to do
CPR, but you know, at first Ididn't.
You know, we learn in class, buthaving to do it on an actual,
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in actual mode, in that moment,it was difficult, and so we had
one, one director that will makeus do mock CPR trainings, and
it helped me to understand more.
You know like, ok, all right,so long as I know my role, know
what I got to do, if I got thecard of cold.
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If I have to do this, I have todo that, and so one thing that
we have to do is have thatunderstanding of mental grabs,
of you know that that is sopowerful.
You know, and we know that theBible tells us in Proverbs 16
and 16 how much better to getwisdom than gold.
You know to to getunderstanding is to be chosen
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rather than silver, you know,and so we want to make sure that
we understand.
So, when you got thatunderstanding about more of
coaching, more of thetransformation, the confidence
coaching, how better was that tohelp you be able to serve
others?
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Well, it made me.
It made me analyze ways that Icould use it in different arenas
.
It helped me first tounderstand myself.
I learned a lot about myselfthrough learning about coaching
and I was.
Coaching will make you unpacklayers and it'll make you ask,
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just like you said when youstart asking the tough questions
of yourself.
Ooh, I feel something.
Why am I feeling that?
What is the root of me feelingthat?
Where did I?
Where did I pick that up from?
Why do I have that limitingbelief?
Speaker 1 (31:30):
Where did that?
Speaker 2 (31:30):
start.
What was the root?
This is this behavior, thisfeeling, this emotion is a fruit
of something.
What is the root?
Like to think deeply about whoI am and why I'm ticking the way
that I tick.
That's been invaluable and thatunderstanding has been very
powerful.
But then understanding how Ican use this skill in different
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areas.
As I mentioned before, I'm anexecutive director of a
nonprofit where women come to usbroken and they come to us
traumatized and they are so usedto people controlling them and
being harsh with their words andlying and being deceptive.
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So being able to come to thosespaces and speak to women from a
different place and learn howto ask them questions that can
help them to unpack some of thethings that they've experienced
and to really find out what theyreally want in this season,
because often they've beenstripped from being able to make
(32:35):
decisions on their own or eventhink about or consider what
they want, and so it's just beenpowerful, like having an
understanding of what coachingis and how I can apply it to
various areas of my life andapply it to me.
It's just been invaluable.
It's just changed the game inmy life in so many ways.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Yeah, I mean I can.
Like I said, understanding is,for me, is big, because when you
get that understanding, my momused to always say this you know
, and all you get getunderstanding.
And we as kids, you'd be like,okay, I understand, you try to
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say you understand, but as anadult, you know getting an
understanding, especially whenGod, what God is doing in your
life, it changes everything, itchanges.
You know, for me, getting theunderstanding which leads to the
next thing, which I get excited, because now I understand what
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I'm getting ready to do, now I'munderstanding when I'm stepping
into that next role of what Godwant me to do, now I'm
understanding it.
And so I get so excited and Iwant to show it.
I'm, I'm wanting to show myexcitement.
I guess you know my childrenalways say you know, you're so
extra, okay, well, whatever youknow what I'm saying you can
(34:05):
call me what you want, but onceI understand, so I am going to
be excited and like the Biblesays you know, in Psalms 100 and
105, we want to.
I make a jar of the noise.
You know when I'm excited.
So once you had thatunderstanding and everything,
(34:27):
how excited were you when youfigured out that this is my
niche.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
How excited were you when you, when you figured that
out Well, I've struggled tofigure it out, because I can do
a lot of things and sometimes,when, when you have a lot of
gifts and talents and skills,clarity becomes a little bit
more difficult.
(34:53):
And so I was being coached.
I was in a coaching sessionmyself and we were going through
an exercise and I had an ahamoment in the middle of the
coaching session.
It just it was almost like nowit's time, you know, it was like
God had been holding it so Icould do the things I needed to
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do, because I'm an executeperson, like if I have a plan,
I'm going, and sometimes hedoesn't want me to go.
We talked about that before.
Sometimes he went through towait and get all the information
and all the instruction first,and so it was like a release,
like he, immediately, in aninstant, through this coaching
session where I was beingcoached, opened up this window
(35:37):
and showed me all the times inmy life that I had had to
overcome something and, inovercoming it, added another
layer to my confidence.
He showed me things from thetime I was two and three years
old all the way up to veryrecent time where it was like
this helps you build yourconfidence.
(35:58):
You need to share that with mebeing the first.
I was the first in a lot ofthings.
I was the first AfricanAmerican cheerleader in our
cheerleading squad.
I was one of the only ones, andthere were places where I was
the only black kid in the school.
There are places where I wasthe first one to join a
particular program.
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I wouldn't have done it before.
I was always the person thathad to open the door for the
other kids that were coming Inthose things just taking those
jumps, and sometimes I wasterrified and sometimes I didn't
know if I could do it, but allthroughout my life those things
were helping me to build myconfidence.
In showing me that picture ofall of those things and saying
(36:45):
this is what I need you to helpother people do, I got way
excited.
I started writing things down.
I started writing down contentideas, I started writing out
lines for things.
It was coming, a stream ofthings was so exciting and then
I started to get a lot moreclarity about who I was supposed
to help.
So the for-purpose part on theend of confidence for purpose
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coaching.
So not just helping people tobuild their confidence just for
the sake of building theirconfidence.
My call is to help people tobuild the confidence to do the
thing that God put them here onthis earth to do, and I was so
inspired.
Sometimes when you hear a thingfrom the Lord, he'll give you a
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confirmation.
Our coach he was sharing a storyabout how he almost didn't
start these programs that wehave benefited so beautifully
from.
He was afraid to because he wasstepping into an arena that
people didn't know him for it.
(37:51):
He was uncomfortable.
He felt like no one's going tolisten to me over here and this
arena over here on the church,through a pastor's conference,
they're lining up, but no one'sgoing to listen to me in the
marketplace and business and healmost didn't do it and another
coach talked him off the ledgeor into the pool or whatever.
(38:12):
He told him, like you have todo this If you're here, you're
here for a reason and you haveto do it.
Scared, you have to take theleap, you have to trust God and
I thought about what if shewasn't there?
Like how would my life beaffected?
Now, all these thousands ofpeople whose lives have been
transformed because he said yes,he took that step, because he
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was encouraged to have theconfidence to walk in his
purpose, I want to be thatperson.
I feel like I am called to bethat person to help those people
to walk in what God's createdthem to do, and God has been
depositing these things to helpme to be able to do that.
That is exciting because youcan see it Like I'm a visionary.
(39:02):
I can see the people, even theclients I'm working with now.
They have so much in them andsome of the people are in their
second act.
They've lived a minute, they'vedone their step and out into
these new spaces and they wantto do it right and they want
someone to help them along andwalk them through it and help
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them to think through it, andit's exciting to see the picture
of where they're going to go,because I'm able to support them
in that way, and so that I meanit doesn't get any more
exciting than helping people towalk in their God given purpose,
like what else is more excitingthan that.
Right Got the ice cream withcaramel on it and some brownies
(39:44):
Maybe.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
And some freshly made .
Let me tell you, I made me somefreshly made chocolate chip
cookies the other day, with icecream and caramel.
All the time I don't want totalk about it.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Look, I'm fasting.
I don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
Sorry, but that is exciting.
And one thing that you saidthat really stuck with me about
being the first, and a lot ofpeople don't understand that
being the first.
I had said something beforethat we being the first is
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almost like when Harriet Tugmanshe had to be the first to go
back and then she went back toget people.
So sometimes we have to be thatone to step out and say you
know what I'm going to do this,you know, and I'm going to go
back and get the other people.
And it's exciting because youknow that you have made it and
(40:41):
you know what other people cando if they follow this and they
follow me.
Look, come this way, I'm goingto show you and that's that's a
great thing what you're doing,because you know you're not only
just coaching people, you are,you are helping people overcome
their fears.
Yeah, okay, and being being ableto overcome fears is a big
(41:05):
thing when it comes to steppingin a new space.
And I just I think I'm thinkingyou for the people, okay,
because the simple fact that Ididn't have that, you know I had
to.
You know, when God told me tostart a podcast, I was like oh
God, like oh, you know, and Ihad to, you know, and I had to
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do it in fear, and I had to stepover some hurdles and had to
just be like you know what I'mgoing to do.
It scared, you know, and andthat's one thing that you know
helping others, and I know it'sexciting, I can, I can imagine
how many people that you havehelped to overcome those fears,
(41:50):
to be like you know what I cando.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
This that's awesome, and we know that success leaves
breadcrumbs Right.
We are the example that if youdo it, if you just do it like
I'm still here, you're stillhere after you do it.
You did it.
You did it, scared and survived,and so being able to tell that
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story to people and say it froman honest, authentic place, that
I do know where you've been, Ido understand what it's like to
be terrified and to jump intosomething that you didn't ask
for, you didn't expect, youdon't know what's on the other
side of it, and to just takethat leap of faith and know that
you did it.
And even if you did it,sometimes we take the leap and
(42:37):
we jump and we do it scared, andit's a big old flop.
It's a big old flop, but we'restill here.
We're still here.
We're still here.
We still learned.
It didn't take us out.
You know, so I would much rathertake the leap, find out, you
know the certainty to knowwhether it was supposed to work
or not.
Get that information and keepmoving.
(42:58):
And so it's exciting, it reallyis to be able to walk people in
that journey and watch themtake those leaps Like to be to
the front row seat when theytake their leap, like mama's in
the nest, pushing the babies outand they're falling for the
first time.
It's just, it's really awesome.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Exactly and I love that.
Like you said, you know whenyou.
Sometimes you might flop, butyou learn and I always tell
people I take a loss, I take alearn.
I learned from what happened,so I know which way, which, how
to land.
Now you know what I'm saying.
You know people say oh yeah,you flopped, oh you bet.
(43:39):
Nah, baby, I learned, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
I learned from this.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
You know, even throughout some of the
experience in life, that youknow people would look at you
and say, oh, you know, we justsay with my divorce, it's only
that was a big loss.
No, that was a big learn for me, Because I know what to do the
next time.
Speaker 2 (44:00):
You know and that's exciting to even know what to do
in the next time, you know andright there and to know what I'm
sorry and to know how to helpother people that not have to go
down that road.
Is you know if I took the hitso you don't have to Like that's
even a blessing If I took thehit, if I took all the beating
(44:23):
and the bruising through thetrial Exactly?
Let me tell you look at thisscar, let me tell you how I got
it, so that you don't have toget the same scar.
Exactly, I'm being that girl.
I'll be that girl all day, everyday, I'll take the hit.
I know I can handle it becauseI've been through these trials
that have shown me that I'mstill here.
(44:44):
So if I can take the hit beforeyou do, if I can stand up and
start going to battle front linefirst and then be able to say I
know what's out there, I knowwhat the enemies are, I know
what their strategy is Right, soyou don't have to go down that
same route, so you can have abetter strategy than they, you
know, than your enemies do,whatever those enemies are,
(45:06):
whether they're human or otherthings.
Right, it's just really awesometo be able to do that.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
That's and the thing about that's what we want to do,
because that's what Christ wassitting here for.
So he took everything for us.
And we want to be able to bejust like that which you know.
Like I say now, we, after weget that excitement, we are
determined for Christ.
(45:33):
You know, we are determined forour calling, we are determined
for what our purpose is in lifeand, you know, determining is
that strong desire.
We want to walk like how Christwalked.
We want to do that and even inour market, in the marketplace,
we want to be able to, you know,exhibit what Christ did and be
(45:57):
determined.
So what are some of the thingsthat you have to make sure that
you do so you can keep on thesame path and stay determined
for being able to be?
Speaker 2 (46:11):
a coach.
That's so good.
One of the things definitely ismaking sure that I spend time
with the Lord every day, likemaking sure that I worship,
making sure that I get some wordand may read the Bible, study
the Bible, talk about the Bible,talk through it with people.
I'm learning this year I reallywanted to focus too on and I
(46:33):
just verbalized this the otherday really studying the life of
Jesus for direction, like we areChristians and I believe what
the Bible says.
I've studied the Bible my wholelife.
I have a relationship with theLord, but really through a
clearer lens at this base in mylife, watching how Jesus moved.
(46:59):
How did he talk to people, howdid he respond to conflict?
How did he minister to people?
What did he say?
Where did he sit?
Where did he walk Like?
All of those things are a Godhe was the most perfect human
ever.
So, in trying to remaindetermined, in this year, I'm
(47:23):
really focusing on how Jesus didit, because Jesus had to be
determined too.
He came to this earth for areally specific purpose and it
wasn't pretty, and so he had tostay determined as well.
So I really wanna focus on howdid he?
What were the clues?
You know, I know he pulled awayand spent time with the Lord,
(47:45):
with his father.
I know that he made sure thathe had boundaries.
I know that he had differentgroups of relationships Some
were real close, some were alittle distant, and he knew
where to put those relationships.
So, really focusing this yearon watching how Jesus handled
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determination and just reallygetting the clues from him about
how to be determined From thispoint on, I don't wanna do
anything, just cause I thinkit's good, right, I spent a lot
of time in my life trying tofigure stuff out on my own,
knowing I had this good bookhere, knowing that I had this
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relationship, knowing that I hadthis Holy Spirit.
They're still trying to dothings my way.
Right, why you got the book?
You got the answers right here.
You got the answers for thetest.
Open book Open book test why youtry to do it on your own.
So, that's really what I wannafocus on this year in trying to
do everything, whether it's bedetermined or be more
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disciplined or have a betterrelationship.
I wanna follow Jesus' model onthat Right I have been really
committed to.
I'm doing the Bible in a year,again this year but also
spending some time just studyingthe life of Jesus and really,
almost from an academicstandpoint, really analyzing how
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Jesus moved and then takingthat analysis and then applying
it to my life.
How can I really be like Jesus?
Yeah, Not just talk about it,not just follow Him, but like
how do I take what he did anduse it and apply it in my life?
So that's my approach todetermination in this.
That's what I love that.
Speaker 1 (49:35):
I love that.
I, you know.
Like we say, the Bible says inHebrews 12 and one.
Therefore, since we aresurrounded by so great a cloud
of witness, let us lay asideevery weight and seeing which
cleans so closely, so we have tolet.
Like you said, we have to getin the face of it.
(49:58):
We have to study more Like andI love that how you say you want
to learn like you want to learnhow Jesus moved.
And I always say that if youstep in the same footstep as
what Jesus did, you go make it.
Speaker 2 (50:13):
Right.
Speaker 1 (50:14):
I don't.
It's hard for you to say that,oh, I followed Jesus and I
didn't make it.
I don't think that that's evenpossible you know, because you
know, and one thing we want todo is to make sure that we are
stand determined for you knowwhat we have.
(50:36):
And I always tell people, ifyou can apply that acronym, the
acronym Q, to anything, you willbe successful, regardless of
you know, whether you, you know,decided that, oh, okay, I'm
gonna do this, this, this, this,if you applied, is.
And we know that one thing wecan't, we can't go wrong is by
(50:57):
following Jesus, cause he's thegreatest example, absolutely
Like I.
I tell people, I understand,like you said, I don't want to
fail the open book test.
No, I, I just I, you know, whenI was in school, I used to be
like I failed the open book testwhen you got the book right
(51:21):
there and a lot of people andwhat a lot of people.
Problem is, they don't want toread, yeah, and then they and
they want to skim over certainthings Instead of, like you say,
studying what, what God, whatJesus did, studying how he moved
(51:41):
and everything.
So that's good, that is so goodand I'm just so excited about
how you have have actually addedthat, that acronym, to your
life so you can be, you know,have success on purpose and and
I often tell people it's notabout the, the, the money, the
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car, the fame, anything likethat.
It's about being able to stayin the face of God after he have
called you, cause a lot ofpeople they get that calling,
they get their purpose and theydon't stay with it.
And so I'm just so excitedabout you.
I want, like, if you had anyadvice that you would leave your
(52:24):
18 year old self, if, whatadvice would that be?
If you could just say you knowwhat, stick with it, you know,
or whatever, what advice wouldyou leave your 18 year old self?
Speaker 2 (52:41):
She needs a lot of advice.
One thing I would say to her isto embrace her unique design.
I would tell 18 year oldTiffany all of those little
quirks that you have, all ofthose things that make you
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different from everybody else,all those things that make you
stand out, all those things thatmaybe some people your age
aren't very interested in rightnow.
Those are the things that youneed to embrace and that you
need to run with and make surethat you know that God created
you exactly how he needed you tobe, to do what you need to do.
(53:26):
I would tell her that.
I would also tell her not towaste all that money she's
making working.
Put some of it away so youcould do some things with it.
I would tell her that and, justI think, I would tell her to
not undervalue the things thatshe has.
(53:50):
I think for a long time, becauseI think sometimes we all get
comfortable with the way we areand we just think that's just
how we are and there's nothingreally special about that.
And so for a long time I viewedwhat was extraordinary like it
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was ordinary, Cause I didn'tknow that it was extraordinary.
I had people in my life tellingme, encouraging me, telling me
that I was a good person, that Iwas a kind person, that I was a
smart person, but I didn'treally understand some of the
extraordinary parts of my makeup.
So I would tell her don't lookat what is extraordinary like
(54:36):
it's ordinary, Like embrace it,celebrate it, cultivate it,
share it.
You know the world needs it.
And that's for everybody, notjust for me.
That's for everybody.
But I would certainly tell that18 year old that, and I tell
her to stop partying so much.
Focus on your school work.
Speaker 1 (54:56):
Focus on your school work.
That's the most that advice youcan gain.
Well, I'm a step in there rightnow.
Like I'm like, look, is shetalking to me, what?
No, I'm excited because that issome of the great advice that
(55:17):
you can give to yourself andalso like the listeners.
Now, if you, you know it's nottoo late.
You know, I don't want anybodyto think that you know, just
because you pass 18, that youcan't take that same advice.
You can still take that advicenow.
So I'm excited.
I thank you for that.
(55:37):
If you have anything else thatyou would like to leave with the
audience today, I mean, youhave just been such a blessing
to my life.
I'm telling you.
I thank you so much, but if youwould, you know, just leave
anything with any advice, andalso, you can go ahead on and
(56:00):
tell people how they can reachyou, how they can find you, and
then you can pray if you want to.
I'm excited about, I'm enjoyinglistening to you.
Speaker 2 (56:10):
Thank, you so much.
Thank you for having me firstof all, but just my advice would
be just like Keana said, keanasaid walk in the footsteps of
Jesus, try your absolute best tojust stay close to Him.
And also, I'm just gonna keepsaying what you say, because you
said great stuff you don't lookat life like you're too old or
(56:34):
too late.
Every day that we wake up, wecan do something different, we
can grow, we can learn somethingmore, we can help some more
people.
As long as you get another day,use it.
Use it well.
Don't settle where you are,just keep going.
As long as you're here, youhave the capacity to grow and
learn and to do something new,and so don't ever think that
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you're too old to do anything.
We don't get to determine that.
God gets to determine that,amen.
You can find me on Instagram atI'm Tiffany on purpose.
You can also find me at TiffanyD Santana.
You can find me on Facebook atTiffany Massenberg Santana, and
(57:19):
you can find me on my website atTiffany D Santana.
That's it, and I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1 (57:27):
That's so awesome.
That's so awesome.
Like I said, thank you again.
I'm so excited, I'm so readyfor people to grasp a hold to
what you are doing, because youare going to change the world.
I see it.
I see it that many people aregoing to be blessed by you.
Many people.
Speaker 2 (57:46):
Thank you, I've received that and right back at
you, you're already changing theworld.
What's going on?
Huh, okay.
Speaker 1 (57:56):
Look what you have.
You feel like praying us out?
That would be so great.
Speaker 2 (58:01):
Okay, let's pray.
Father, we love you, we adoreyou, we give you glory.
We thank you so much for thistime, the time to share as
sisters, the time to share whatyou have placed on our hearts to
share.
I thank you for goodconversation, I thank you for
laughter, I thank you forlearning.
I thank you for the ability andthe safety to be able to share.
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I thank you, lord, foropportunities to tell the story
of what you've done in our livesand all the ways that you've
grown us and shaped us, and allof the trials that you brought
us over and how you haven'twasted anything in our lives.
I'm so grateful for that andfor your faithfulness.
I pray that you bless everyonewho has watched and who has
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listened.
Lord, bless them with specialfavor.
Give them clarity about theirpurpose so they can run with it.
Send the right people in theirlives to support them as they
move forward on the path and thepurpose that you've laid out
for them.
Lord, bless this podcast, thisnew ministry, lord.
I pray that it grows.
I pray that it reaches thepeople that you've intended for
(59:08):
it to reach.
I pray that it is a blessing,lord, to the people.
Lord, I thank you so much forthis woman of God who is
following your call, who isopening eyes and sharing with
people Some things that can helpthem on their journey.
Lord, I pray that you justcontinue to richly bless her.
I thank you, lord, for growth.
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I thank you for your HolySpirit, who leads and guides us.
I thank you for provision.
I thank you for protection andsafety.
I thank you for being ourfather and our friend, and I
just love you so much and Ithank you and I appreciate you.
In Jesus name, I pray, amen.
Speaker 1 (59:49):
Amen, amen, like I'm fighting tears.
Lord Jesus, amen, amen, let himflow.
Hmm, I thank you once again.
Oh, my God, I do.
God is just.
He's always here in hispresence.
I love when his presence showup, because that's how you know
(01:00:11):
that somebody is going to beblessed from what we have said.
I thank you again, coachTiffany Santana, I just can't
thank you enough.
I just can't thank you enough.
All right, I thank you all fortuning in on tonight.
I hope, and I know, that it hasblessed you just as much as it
(01:00:33):
blessed my soul.
Okay, you can also.
You know, you can make surethat you are going to the
YouTube channel.
You can go subscribe, you know,do all that lingo stuff, and I
thank you all again for justwatching and tuning in.
All right, I love you all andplease just stay cute for Christ
(01:00:54):
.
All right, bye, y'all.
Hey, hey, hey everyone, this is Keanna, your
creator and your host of Cutefor Christ, and I want to say
thank you to everyone that hasliked, you shared, you commented
, whatever you've done.
I'm so excited and I'm so happyand I tell you I cannot say
thank you enough.
(00:45):
Okay, this right here has to bethe hardest job that I've ever
had to do, and that's to be avessel for Christ.
It's easy at the same time,because God is always with me.
So, anyways, as you know, wehave started the success on
purpose interviews and I'm soexcited and so thrilled because
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we are speaking with individualsthat are successful on purpose,
not by money, not by cars, notby our fame or anything, but
they are successful on purposebecause they have God's backing.
Okay, just like it says in herBecker 2 and 2, we have to write
division and make it plain, butwe also have to internalize it
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so we can stay consistent to it,and those people are the ones
that are successful on purpose.
So, anyways, I'm so excited tohave my guest on here because
I'm telling you she is such anincredible, incredible coach.
Okay, so I have the privilege,the honor, the esteem honor to
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have on Cue for Christ coachTiffany Santana.
How are you tonight?
I'm wonderful, I'm so excitedto be here with you again.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Thank you so much.
Again again, oh man.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
If you don't know, she was on one of the panels I
had a couple weeks ago and ifyou haven't seen it, you need to
go back and see it.
We'll talk about Miss labeling,seasons and I'm telling you,
coach Tiffany, she gave us somegreat advice and if you haven't
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seen it, go look at it, okay?
So, anyways, I'm so excited tohave you on here and I am going
to just say a quick prayerbefore we go any further, and
then we'll dive right into it,because I want you to have as
much time as you need to be ableto let everyone know how you've
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been Cue for Christ.
All right, so we're going to gointo a quick prayer, all right.
Dear Heavenly Father, I come toyou.
First.
I want to say thank you.
Thank you for this time thatyou have carved out.
God, I thank you for the lovethat you have displayed for your
children.
God, god, we thank you now justfor being in the midst of
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everything that we're doing.
God, we want you to know thatyour presence is always, always
welcome, and we just want you tosit in the midst of this
conversation because we want tobe able to touch someone on
today.
God, god, we want someone to beable to hear our voice, where
they can learn how to do whatthey are called to do, god.
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We want them to know how theycan be able to be successful on
purpose, god, and so we thankyou now, god, hallelujah.
We thank you for what you havedone in Coach Tiffany Santana's
life, god.
We thank you now for her family, god.
We thank you now for everythingthat she is doing.
God, god, we know that you aregoing to bless someone through
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her voice, and so we thank younow, god, for what you're doing.
We know that you're able to doexceedingly, abundantly, above
all, that we can ask a thing.
So we know that you are goingto do your real, god.
So we thank you now, we loveyou, god, and we honor you as in
Jesus' name, that I pray Amen,amen, hallelujah, I'm telling
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you I love to pray.
That's what I'm saying.
That's what I'm saying.
Right, there is to pray, butanyway, I'm so excited to have
you on here.
I just want you to just kind oftell everyone who Coach Tiffany
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Santana is and I call you thecoach because I know you got it.
So I want everybody to knowthat she is certified.
She is a certifiedtransformation confidence coach
and I want her to be able to leteveryone know who Tiffany
Santana is.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Thank you.
I am Tiffany Santana.
I am from Northern Virginia,just outside of Washington DC.
I am a transformationalconfidence for purpose coach and
speaker, and I'm also theexecutive director of Bethany
House of Northern Virginia,which is a nonprofit that
provides safe shelter andservices for women and children
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escaping domestic violence.
I'm a mom of a 17-year-old, I'ma wife, I am a daughter and a
granddaughter of 105-year-oldgrandma Ruth.
We all live in one house underone roof, four generations with
two dogs.
I am a servant of people and alover of Jesus, and I believe
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that I'm here on this earth tohelp as many people as I can.
However, god wants me to helpthem, and it's been a variety of
different ways, some of themunexpected.
Amen.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Amen.
And that's so cool and soamazing how you say your
grandmother is 105.
I have a grandmother that isturning 102 on Sunday and I'm
actually going home because I'mso excited that matter of fact
she spoke that into existence.
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She used to tell us when shewas a kid I'm a live to be a
honey.
I was 100 and I said, wow.
So when she turned 100 lastyear, I mean she's turned 101,
I'm sorry she turned 100 lastyear.
I went and I was so thrilled tosee that and I'm so excited
that you say that that just made, that, just gave me hope.
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It is a blessing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
It's such a blessing, it really is such a blessing.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
You know we're from Miss 70.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
So 35, 32 more years beyond your 70 is back in her
good years Like grandma, in thegood shape.
She's enjoying life.
She has a better socialcalendar than I do.
It's kind of embarrassing, butI'm a little jealous.
I'm a little low key jealous,but when?
Speaker 1 (07:12):
you get 100 and say it's gonna be like that Trust me
.
She's gonna give you some tips.
She probably gave you some tipsanyway.
And it's just right, and, ifthat's wisdom, I can go and sit
with my grandma.
It's so peaceful over her housebecause I can just sit there
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and be like, just enjoy thepresence of the wise.
It's just amazing in itself.
So that is awesome, okay.
So I'm just so thrilled becauseI just love to see stuff like
that.
So, but can you just go into alittle bit about when you your
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childhood, like you know, wereyou when you were a child?
Was this one of your dream?
To be a coach, a transformationcoach?
You know, I know a lot ofpeople like with me if you asked
me when I was a child what Iwas going to do, and it was
definitely going to be dancingor singing.
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And yeah, we ain't there yet.
I used to do it.
But you know I was like no, no,I need you to do that.
So when you were a child, what,what were you planning on being
, and did you ever see yourselfbeing a transformation coach?
Speaker 2 (08:35):
When I was a child I wanted to be an actress and a
gymnast and a teacher and azookeeper.
I think Coaching was not on myradar at all.
I actually didn't even reallydiscover coaching until maybe a
few years ago.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
It completely wasn't radar.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, it's something that was introduced to that I
really loved.
That came pretty easily for me.
It was a good fit, but itdefinitely was not anything that
was on my radar those years ago.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Right, Right, I mean you know and that's and that's
good because, like you know,years ago we probably don't been
coaches our whole life.
You know what I'm saying.
You probably you know, ofcourse.
You say you have a teenager, soyou have to be a coach then,
and being a coach as a wife, yes, you have to learn how to.
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Yes, you have to learn how to bea coach.
You know so and it's soincredible that you can.
You can just step into thatrole kind of easily.
So have their um, so that youknow, when you were called into
it, what.
What kind of quickened you tojust say you know what, I'm
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going to do it?
Because you know one definitionof quickened means to restore a
vigor, or, you know, stir up,and I like to give the scripture
that I have that go with thatword.
Quickened is second Timothy,one is six.
Therefore, I remind you to stirup the gift, um, stir up the
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gift of God which is in youthrough the land on of my hands.
So what quickened you to justsay you know what, even though I
never wanted to do this?
What stirred you up to say,okay, I'm going to be a coach,
let me, let me go and try thisout.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
I love that question.
It's it's funny because I, whenI was going for my
certification, the coachingprogram and the speaking program
were combined and I reallyjoined because I wanted to be a
better speaker and coaching wasgoing to be like a bonus.
I'll learn a new skill and whenI got into it I just learned
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first of all how valuable it is,just like you were talking
about in all of those verypractical ways in life coaching.
My son, you know, when you havea teenager, you really can't
tell teenagers what to do.
You're telling them what to do.
They're going, you know.
You say go right, that's lifeover there and they go left.
But I use them questions tomake them think about their
choices, to make them thinkthrough why something is a good
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choice or not Totally differentball game.
So a coach in helps me withthat and my relationship, just
like you said, in my marriage.
Sometimes it's a lot easier toget into conversations by asking
those really challenging,thought provoking questions.
Why do you feel that way?
What makes you feel that way?
What do you think the root ofthat feeling is?
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What do you think the root ofthat decision was?
You know, let's talk about it.
That's a lot easier of aconversation to have them why
you always do this and why youalways do that, how come you
never?
So coaching has helped merelationally.
So Once I was learning theskill during that certification,
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I really felt a pull that I wassupposed to.
Really, this was supposed to beanother part of my arsenal in
helping people to get to theplaces that they need to get to
and to help me to help people.
I've always been a helper.
Everything I've ever done isthat I'm going to do with
transformation, and so I wasjust so excited that God was
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revealing to me one more skillset that I could use to do his
work and to help people, and tohelp people transform their
lives.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Right, right and, like you say, being a coach, it
helps you in all different areasof your life.
You know, like PD always tellus, we have to coach ourselves
first.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
And learning how to even ask yourself those
extensive questions like, okay,is this going to be better for
me over here or versus here?
And you know, we often alwayswant to have that spirit of
discernment, but sometimes it'snot there because God wants us
to experience, he wants us to beable to be able to make that
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decision.
And so, coaching, I'm tellingyou, I have even just been in
the den and, by the way, y'allwe are den mates okay, we are in
Danny's den, a mentoring,coaching program, and being in
that and being able to applysome of those things have helped
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me in so many different areasthat I didn't even think I
needed, you know.
And sometimes we think that weknow it all because, oh, I'm in
this age, I ain't gonna displaymy age, I ain't that old but I
ain't gonna display my age.
But I'm in this age, I donebeen there, done that, got a
teacher in Florida, like peoplesay but you still don't know
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exactly the right way to go,even in whatever, like they say,
your big age.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Yes, big age, I can relate a little bit Right.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Right.
So what are some of thechallenges that you have faced
since you have decided to dothat?
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I think the challenge is always making sure that I
continue to grow and, as I'mhelping and serving other people
, making sure that I implementthose same things in my own life
.
I'm really busy, I always havea lot going on and making sure
that I take care of myself,making sure that I continue to
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educate myself, making sure Ispend enough time with the Lord
and replenish, making sure thatI prioritize because I have to
prioritize differently in everyseason and coaching has really
helped me to do those things.
Like having those skills reallyhas helped me in my own life,
because it is challengingwalking out your calling in
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these different areas of yourlife, learning how to balance
that and prioritize things andweigh things and not get burned
out, because the people that youserve and the people that
you're responsible for they needyou whole and well.
So making sure that I don't getoverwhelmed, that I don't allow
myself to get off-kilter, thatI don't allow myself to burn out
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those are the biggestchallenges.
For me is making sure that Ikeep things in order, because by
nature, I'm a very organizedperson.
Psychologically, I'm not a veryorganized person in my spaces
all the time, and so just makingsure that I don't do too much.
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I can do a lot, and I've had toteach myself that just because
you can do everything doesn'tmean you need to do everything
all at once.
And so those are the challenges, because I want to move, I want
to keep going, I want to go allin and do everything, but I
have to pull back and havediscernment and listen to the
Lord about what's right for nowand how much to do in this
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season, and what he wants me todo versus what I want to do.
Those are the biggestchallenges for me.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Right, exactly Because, like you say, and I can
relate to you very, very muchbecause I can do a lot, if I
pull out my resume, you'd belike don't you try to do
anything?
None of it makes sense.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I've had to explain my resume in detail so many
times.
Exactly Because these dotsdon't connect.
What are we doing?
Speaker 1 (16:53):
Like girl, you was a vendor.
What does that mean?
Like, look, let me tell you,hold up, hold up, let me explain
.
But, like you say, everythingis not what we're supposed to be
doing at that particular time.
And so you have to just kind ofunite with someone to keep you
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on this path, to say you knowwhat Because I know a lot of, I
like to give definitions andunited means to join together.
So you know, and in one of thedescriptions in Ephesians 1 and
10, it says, as a plan for thefullness of time, to unite all
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things in him, things in heavenand things on earth.
So we have to make sure that weare united with someone.
So in this coaching space, likeI say, what you're doing now,
who did you unite with?
That just kind of say you knowwhat, come, stay this way, come,
come, let's walk this way.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
That's so good.
So I have to start with thepeople that God united me with,
that I didn't choose, but thathe placed me in.
So that's my family, my parents, I told you we all live in one
house.
So it's really awesome.
To some people are like, oh mygosh, how do you do that?
But it works to have my parents, who are wise and who are
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deeply connected to theirrelationship with Jesus and
biblically sound they arevoracious students of the Bible.
So to have two people whoreally love you, who know you
really well and who'll tell youthe truth, the right, the
unabdulterated truth, right, thewounds of a friend's truth,
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right, it's just, they arespectacular.
My husband is one I chose andhe chose me.
That union has been one of themost valuable of my life.
When we met I knew instantlythat we would be in each other's
lives for a really long time.
I did not necessarily know.
Well, I did know he doesn'tbelieve me, but I did know that
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he was going to be my husbandwhen I first met him.
But I knew that was my desire.
I didn't know if it would behis, but I knew we would be
connected.
He is such a stabilizingconstant force and my life.
He is a grounding force.
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He is a supportive cheerleader.
He, he, he cheers everything Ido.
If he feels like I'm gettingoverwhelmed or I'm getting ready
to take on too much, he willtell me.
He will take stuff off my plate.
Like okay, I know you want todo 9,000 things and you're doing
the most, but like we're notdoing all that.
So he, he leads well and heleads with love and compassion.
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So he's been fantastic In in thecoaching space specifically, I
went through Dr Darius Daniels.
At the time it was TCP, nowit's PCA transformational
certification program.
It's designed around communitylike-minded people who are going
in the same direction, whounderstand the same things, and
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the connections I've made therehave been so great as we have
navigated how to coach and whoto coach and what our niche is
and who, who are the people thatwe're supposed to help.
They have been spectacular.
Some of us are really superclose and so we really work
together and bounce ideas off ofeach other.
And then I have a lifelongfriend who I met when I was 10
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years old and I'll tell my ageon 47, now be 48 in 2024.
We are 18 months apart.
She's she's a senior now.
She's older, but but, um, she'san amazing person.
She's another one who, um, hasknown me in every season, who is
a truth teller, who willcompletely tell me the honest
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truth, who also encourages me,who, who, uh, she's great.
We spend our birthdays together, so her birthday is in January,
so we just got done being awayfor a week.
And during those times she justreally tells me the truth about
what she sees about me and mylife, and I do the same for her.
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And we bounce off ideas and weshare goals and you know we cry
sometimes on each other'sshoulders about whatever's going
on.
Like I, have been so blessedthroughout my life that God has
placed people for every seasonto be supportive and to unite
with me and what he wants me todo, and I'm glad that I am open
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to that.
I'm blessed that I haven't hadsome of the traumas.
If I have a, I've.
I didn't allow them to stop mefrom still being open to those
relationships that aresupportive and loving Cause.
Sometimes when you get hurt, youcan put a shield up and put a
wall up encourage yourself, andI can't say it was anything
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spectacular that I knew to do orany.
You know I'm not, you know,hyper emotionally intelligent,
relationally intelligent, human,but I have always felt like I
never wanted traumas to stop mefrom the next possible good
relationship and so I think,being open to that, god has
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always sent those people tounite with you on your journey,
on my journey I just feel reallyblessed about that.
Speaker 1 (22:45):
Yes, and you know, and the thing about it, he, he
always know who to see in in theright moment.
You know, those kingdom freehands, those are the ones we
really need to keep around us,those ones that are on the same
journey as us, because you know,if not, we can get pulled from.
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You know the right way.
You know that is for ourpurpose.
You know, and that's the mainthing is trying to make sure
that we are staying, you know,strategic, being strategic about
what we're doing, for what Goddo, Because we know, as we know,
God is a strategic God.
He don't do anything that youknow is not going to be like
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lead to what he need to get theglory out of anything.
So we have to know that Godwill put people around us.
That you know, that is justawesome.
That is awesome right at thatmoment, and I love how God do
that.
And, as I was explainingearlier about one of me with me
and one of my girlfriends, youknow, God, just he was working
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on both of us at the same timeand then, and then brought us
back together and it was likelike wow, right then I needed
that.
And I'm telling you, God isjust so amazing, so amazing.
I'm so excited about that andeven though, like you said, you
know we have, you've united withsomeone and I know you have had
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the education, one of thethings that we need to is to
educate on where we're going.
We need to make sure that weare provided with the
information that we are tryingwhere we're trying to go.
You know the Bible says inEcclesiastes seven and 12, for
the protection of wisdom is thelight, the protection of money,
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you know.
So we want to make sure that weare learning how to, to educate
ourselves.
Did you have to do any moreeducation beyond what you had
with TCP, or is it just?
You know you've kind of learnedas you go.
I know we have to stay alwaysuploading, so is there any other
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education that you have decidedto just say?
You know what.
I'm going to take this becauseI want to know more.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
Yes, I've always been someone.
I've always been a student andI've always been kind of a nerd
and I've always been somebodywho just my mom I was a cool
nerd though I was a cool.
Yes, I was.
I was a nerdy cheerleader.
It worked.
I was a nerd.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
I was in a band, I was the band director, I met the
drum major, so I was a nerd.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
Yes, and so my mom tells these stories about how I
would always have these facts,even as a like three or four
year old, and they wouldn'tbelieve me.
They're like what is shetalking about?
And then they find out.
They look it up.
Back then we had encyclopedias,we didn't have encyclopedias.
They would look up Like I'mreally telling my age today.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
They don't know nothing about encyclopedias.
They don't know about the bigencyclopedia?
They don't know anything aboutthe big ones with the red on it?
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Yes, yes, the World Book, the.
Speaker 1 (25:55):
Britannica Right Exactly.
They don't know nothing aboutgoing to the library and having
to go to the little computer andfind out where it's at Right
the card catalog Right, but I'vealways been a learner and I got
quite a bit of formal education.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
I got a master's degree.
Studied English was reallyEnglish and communications,
professional writing those aremy areas.
But once I got beyond TCP, onceI did get beyond my teaching
certification or my coachingcertification, I always continue
to learn more because I want tobe the best servant I can and I
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want to help my clients in thebest possible way, and I don't
think I can do that if I don'tcontinue to fill the well.
As my coach, mentor, pastor,says, you always have to be
feeling your well and so I'malways learning.
But in this season I'm learningthat I can get education from
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anywhere.
It doesn't necessarily have tobe formal programs.
I have learned more fromYouTube University in the last
year.
I am telling you I have foundsome of the richest teaching
from people.
And I mean some stuff.
I just have to sit and mymind's blown and I like I got to
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get back.
I got to sit with that, with anotebook, because exactly some
of the things have been so great.
So I'm always trying to learn.
If, if something comes up in acoaching session, I want to be
sure that I deliver, and so I'llresearch, I'll look things up,
I'll see what other people aretalking about, I'll talk to
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other people and get their theirperspectives on things.
That's good education.
And so yeah, I'm always going tobe learning.
I'm always going to be growing.
I'm wired for that.
I just believe in that.
It makes me feel goodphysically to learn things.
It's a strange phenomenon, butif I'm not filling my brain with
something, it's not right Now.
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Sometimes I have to turn it offand I veg and I watch Mindless
Reality TV.
That's another thing, but youlearn from that too.
Sometimes you learn what not todo.
Speaker 1 (28:16):
Exactly, exactly, and and the thing about it, I'm
listening to you because it'slike I can relate with you so
well.
I mean because I'm always, Idon't, I can, I can wise you to.
I tell people I feel like youcould be a doctor if you wise
you to.
If you, if you sat there andlook that, go to YouTube
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University and you know, peopledon't understand that.
Knowledge is so powerful and,like you said, it comes from
different ways.
Even by just communicating withsomeone, just say, about
politics I mean politics youdon't even have to really know
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what's really fully going on,but if you've talked to somebody
about certain things, you, youget to know what what it is.
And one thing that I have is Iknow that, you know, once I
learn more about certain things,then that's when I have a
greater understanding.
You know about things and youknow, I'm, I'm, I'm one of the
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ones that I need to know so Ican understand what's going on.
I can tell you a story.
I used to work in the Mercy Roomand we, of course, had to do
CPR, but you know, at first Ididn't.
You know, we learn in class, buthaving to do it on an actual,
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in actual mode, in that moment,it was difficult, and so we had
one, one director that will makeus do mock CPR trainings, and
it helped me to understand more.
You know like, ok, all right,so long as I know my role, know
what I got to do, if I got thecard of cold.
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If I have to do this, I have todo that, and so one thing that
we have to do is have thatunderstanding of mental grabs,
of you know that that is sopowerful.
You know, and we know that theBible tells us in Proverbs 16
and 16 how much better to getwisdom than gold.
You know to to getunderstanding is to be chosen
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rather than silver, you know,and so we want to make sure that
we understand.
So, when you got thatunderstanding about more of
coaching, more of thetransformation, the confidence
coaching, how better was that tohelp you be able to serve
others?
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Well, it made me.
It made me analyze ways that Icould use it in different arenas
.
It helped me first tounderstand myself.
I learned a lot about myselfthrough learning about coaching
and I was.
Coaching will make you unpacklayers and it'll make you ask,
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just like you said when youstart asking the tough questions
of yourself.
Ooh, I feel something.
Why am I feeling that?
What is the root of me feelingthat?
Where did I?
Where did I pick that up from?
Why do I have that limitingbelief?
Speaker 1 (31:30):
Where did that?
Speaker 2 (31:30):
start.
What was the root?
This is this behavior, thisfeeling, this emotion is a fruit
of something.
What is the root?
Like to think deeply about whoI am and why I'm ticking the way
that I tick.
That's been invaluable and thatunderstanding has been very
powerful.
But then understanding how Ican use this skill in different
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areas.
As I mentioned before, I'm anexecutive director of a
nonprofit where women come to usbroken and they come to us
traumatized and they are so usedto people controlling them and
being harsh with their words andlying and being deceptive.
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So being able to come to thosespaces and speak to women from a
different place and learn howto ask them questions that can
help them to unpack some of thethings that they've experienced
and to really find out what theyreally want in this season,
because often they've beenstripped from being able to make
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decisions on their own or eventhink about or consider what
they want, and so it's just beenpowerful, like having an
understanding of what coachingis and how I can apply it to
various areas of my life andapply it to me.
It's just been invaluable.
It's just changed the game inmy life in so many ways.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
Yeah, I mean I can.
Like I said, understanding is,for me, is big, because when you
get that understanding, my momused to always say this you know
, and all you get getunderstanding.
And we as kids, you'd be like,okay, I understand, you try to
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say you understand, but as anadult, you know getting an
understanding, especially whenGod, what God is doing in your
life, it changes everything, itchanges.
You know, for me, getting theunderstanding which leads to the
next thing, which I get excited, because now I understand what
(33:41):
I'm getting ready to do, now I'munderstanding when I'm stepping
into that next role of what Godwant me to do, now I'm
understanding it.
And so I get so excited and Iwant to show it.
I'm, I'm wanting to show myexcitement.
I guess you know my childrenalways say you know, you're so
extra, okay, well, whatever youknow what I'm saying you can
(34:05):
call me what you want, but onceI understand, so I am going to
be excited and like the Biblesays you know, in Psalms 100 and
105, we want to.
I make a jar of the noise.
You know when I'm excited.
So once you had thatunderstanding and everything,
(34:27):
how excited were you when youfigured out that this is my
niche.
Speaker 2 (34:32):
How excited were you when you, when you figured that
out Well, I've struggled tofigure it out, because I can do
a lot of things and sometimes,when, when you have a lot of
gifts and talents and skills,clarity becomes a little bit
more difficult.
(34:53):
And so I was being coached.
I was in a coaching sessionmyself and we were going through
an exercise and I had an ahamoment in the middle of the
coaching session.
It just it was almost like nowit's time, you know, it was like
God had been holding it so Icould do the things I needed to
(35:14):
do, because I'm an executeperson, like if I have a plan,
I'm going, and sometimes hedoesn't want me to go.
We talked about that before.
Sometimes he went through towait and get all the information
and all the instruction first,and so it was like a release,
like he, immediately, in aninstant, through this coaching
session where I was beingcoached, opened up this window
(35:37):
and showed me all the times inmy life that I had had to
overcome something and, inovercoming it, added another
layer to my confidence.
He showed me things from thetime I was two and three years
old all the way up to veryrecent time where it was like
this helps you build yourconfidence.
(35:58):
You need to share that with mebeing the first.
I was the first in a lot ofthings.
I was the first AfricanAmerican cheerleader in our
cheerleading squad.
I was one of the only ones, andthere were places where I was
the only black kid in the school.
There are places where I wasthe first one to join a
particular program.
(36:18):
I wouldn't have done it before.
I was always the person thathad to open the door for the
other kids that were coming Inthose things just taking those
jumps, and sometimes I wasterrified and sometimes I didn't
know if I could do it, but allthroughout my life those things
were helping me to build myconfidence.
In showing me that picture ofall of those things and saying
(36:45):
this is what I need you to helpother people do, I got way
excited.
I started writing things down.
I started writing down contentideas, I started writing out
lines for things.
It was coming, a stream ofthings was so exciting and then
I started to get a lot moreclarity about who I was supposed
to help.
So the for-purpose part on theend of confidence for purpose
(37:08):
coaching.
So not just helping people tobuild their confidence just for
the sake of building theirconfidence.
My call is to help people tobuild the confidence to do the
thing that God put them here onthis earth to do, and I was so
inspired.
Sometimes when you hear a thingfrom the Lord, he'll give you a
(37:31):
confirmation.
Our coach he was sharing a storyabout how he almost didn't
start these programs that wehave benefited so beautifully
from.
He was afraid to because he wasstepping into an arena that
people didn't know him for it.
(37:51):
He was uncomfortable.
He felt like no one's going tolisten to me over here and this
arena over here on the church,through a pastor's conference,
they're lining up, but no one'sgoing to listen to me in the
marketplace and business and healmost didn't do it and another
coach talked him off the ledgeor into the pool or whatever.
(38:12):
He told him, like you have todo this If you're here, you're
here for a reason and you haveto do it.
Scared, you have to take theleap, you have to trust God and
I thought about what if shewasn't there?
Like how would my life beaffected?
Now, all these thousands ofpeople whose lives have been
transformed because he said yes,he took that step, because he
(38:37):
was encouraged to have theconfidence to walk in his
purpose, I want to be thatperson.
I feel like I am called to bethat person to help those people
to walk in what God's createdthem to do, and God has been
depositing these things to helpme to be able to do that.
That is exciting because youcan see it Like I'm a visionary.
(39:02):
I can see the people, even theclients I'm working with now.
They have so much in them andsome of the people are in their
second act.
They've lived a minute, they'vedone their step and out into
these new spaces and they wantto do it right and they want
someone to help them along andwalk them through it and help
(39:23):
them to think through it, andit's exciting to see the picture
of where they're going to go,because I'm able to support them
in that way, and so that I meanit doesn't get any more
exciting than helping people towalk in their God given purpose,
like what else is more excitingthan that.
Right Got the ice cream withcaramel on it and some brownies
(39:44):
Maybe.
Speaker 1 (39:45):
And some freshly made .
Let me tell you, I made me somefreshly made chocolate chip
cookies the other day, with icecream and caramel.
All the time I don't want totalk about it.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
Look, I'm fasting.
I don't want to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (39:59):
Sorry, but that is exciting.
And one thing that you saidthat really stuck with me about
being the first, and a lot ofpeople don't understand that
being the first.
I had said something beforethat we being the first is
(40:19):
almost like when Harriet Tugmanshe had to be the first to go
back and then she went back toget people.
So sometimes we have to be thatone to step out and say you
know what I'm going to do this,you know, and I'm going to go
back and get the other people.
And it's exciting because youknow that you have made it and
(40:41):
you know what other people cando if they follow this and they
follow me.
Look, come this way, I'm goingto show you and that's that's a
great thing what you're doing,because you know you're not only
just coaching people, you are,you are helping people overcome
their fears.
Yeah, okay, and being being ableto overcome fears is a big
(41:05):
thing when it comes to steppingin a new space.
And I just I think I'm thinkingyou for the people, okay,
because the simple fact that Ididn't have that, you know I had
to.
You know, when God told me tostart a podcast, I was like oh
God, like oh, you know, and Ihad to, you know, and I had to
(41:25):
do it in fear, and I had to stepover some hurdles and had to
just be like you know what I'mgoing to do.
It scared, you know, and andthat's one thing that you know
helping others, and I know it'sexciting, I can, I can imagine
how many people that you havehelped to overcome those fears,
(41:50):
to be like you know what I cando.
Speaker 2 (41:52):
This that's awesome, and we know that success leaves
breadcrumbs Right.
We are the example that if youdo it, if you just do it like
I'm still here, you're stillhere after you do it.
You did it.
You did it, scared and survived,and so being able to tell that
(42:13):
story to people and say it froman honest, authentic place, that
I do know where you've been, Ido understand what it's like to
be terrified and to jump intosomething that you didn't ask
for, you didn't expect, youdon't know what's on the other
side of it, and to just takethat leap of faith and know that
you did it.
And even if you did it,sometimes we take the leap and
(42:37):
we jump and we do it scared, andit's a big old flop.
It's a big old flop, but we'restill here.
We're still here.
We're still here.
We still learned.
It didn't take us out.
You know, so I would much rathertake the leap, find out, you
know the certainty to knowwhether it was supposed to work
or not.
Get that information and keepmoving.
(42:58):
And so it's exciting, it reallyis to be able to walk people in
that journey and watch themtake those leaps Like to be to
the front row seat when theytake their leap, like mama's in
the nest, pushing the babies outand they're falling for the
first time.
It's just, it's really awesome.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Exactly and I love that.
Like you said, you know whenyou.
Sometimes you might flop, butyou learn and I always tell
people I take a loss, I take alearn.
I learned from what happened,so I know which way, which, how
to land.
Now you know what I'm saying.
You know people say oh yeah,you flopped, oh you bet.
(43:39):
Nah, baby, I learned, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
I learned from this.
Speaker 1 (43:43):
You know, even throughout some of the
experience in life, that youknow people would look at you
and say, oh, you know, we justsay with my divorce, it's only
that was a big loss.
No, that was a big learn for me, Because I know what to do the
next time.
Speaker 2 (44:00):
You know and that's exciting to even know what to do
in the next time, you know andright there and to know what I'm
sorry and to know how to helpother people that not have to go
down that road.
Is you know if I took the hitso you don't have to Like that's
even a blessing If I took thehit, if I took all the beating
(44:23):
and the bruising through thetrial Exactly?
Let me tell you look at thisscar, let me tell you how I got
it, so that you don't have toget the same scar.
Exactly, I'm being that girl.
I'll be that girl all day, everyday, I'll take the hit.
I know I can handle it becauseI've been through these trials
that have shown me that I'mstill here.
(44:44):
So if I can take the hit beforeyou do, if I can stand up and
start going to battle front linefirst and then be able to say I
know what's out there, I knowwhat the enemies are, I know
what their strategy is Right, soyou don't have to go down that
same route, so you can have abetter strategy than they, you
know, than your enemies do,whatever those enemies are,
(45:06):
whether they're human or otherthings.
Right, it's just really awesometo be able to do that.
Speaker 1 (45:12):
That's and the thing about that's what we want to do,
because that's what Christ wassitting here for.
So he took everything for us.
And we want to be able to bejust like that which you know.
Like I say now, we, after weget that excitement, we are
determined for Christ.
(45:33):
You know, we are determined forour calling, we are determined
for what our purpose is in lifeand, you know, determining is
that strong desire.
We want to walk like how Christwalked.
We want to do that and even inour market, in the marketplace,
we want to be able to, you know,exhibit what Christ did and be
(45:57):
determined.
So what are some of the thingsthat you have to make sure that
you do so you can keep on thesame path and stay determined
for being able to be?
Speaker 2 (46:11):
a coach.
That's so good.
One of the things definitely ismaking sure that I spend time
with the Lord every day, likemaking sure that I worship,
making sure that I get some wordand may read the Bible, study
the Bible, talk about the Bible,talk through it with people.
I'm learning this year I reallywanted to focus too on and I
(46:33):
just verbalized this the otherday really studying the life of
Jesus for direction, like we areChristians and I believe what
the Bible says.
I've studied the Bible my wholelife.
I have a relationship with theLord, but really through a
clearer lens at this base in mylife, watching how Jesus moved.
(46:59):
How did he talk to people, howdid he respond to conflict?
How did he minister to people?
What did he say?
Where did he sit?
Where did he walk Like?
All of those things are a Godhe was the most perfect human
ever.
So, in trying to remaindetermined, in this year, I'm
(47:23):
really focusing on how Jesus didit, because Jesus had to be
determined too.
He came to this earth for areally specific purpose and it
wasn't pretty, and so he had tostay determined as well.
So I really wanna focus on howdid he?
What were the clues?
You know, I know he pulled awayand spent time with the Lord,
(47:45):
with his father.
I know that he made sure thathe had boundaries.
I know that he had differentgroups of relationships Some
were real close, some were alittle distant, and he knew
where to put those relationships.
So, really focusing this yearon watching how Jesus handled
(48:06):
determination and just reallygetting the clues from him about
how to be determined From thispoint on, I don't wanna do
anything, just cause I thinkit's good, right, I spent a lot
of time in my life trying tofigure stuff out on my own,
knowing I had this good bookhere, knowing that I had this
(48:28):
relationship, knowing that I hadthis Holy Spirit.
They're still trying to dothings my way.
Right, why you got the book?
You got the answers right here.
You got the answers for thetest.
Open book Open book test why youtry to do it on your own.
So, that's really what I wannafocus on this year in trying to
do everything, whether it's bedetermined or be more
(48:49):
disciplined or have a betterrelationship.
I wanna follow Jesus' model onthat Right I have been really
committed to.
I'm doing the Bible in a year,again this year but also
spending some time just studyingthe life of Jesus and really,
almost from an academicstandpoint, really analyzing how
(49:13):
Jesus moved and then takingthat analysis and then applying
it to my life.
How can I really be like Jesus?
Yeah, Not just talk about it,not just follow Him, but like
how do I take what he did anduse it and apply it in my life?
So that's my approach todetermination in this.
That's what I love that.
Speaker 1 (49:35):
I love that.
I, you know.
Like we say, the Bible says inHebrews 12 and one.
Therefore, since we aresurrounded by so great a cloud
of witness, let us lay asideevery weight and seeing which
cleans so closely, so we have tolet.
Like you said, we have to getin the face of it.
(49:58):
We have to study more Like andI love that how you say you want
to learn like you want to learnhow Jesus moved.
And I always say that if youstep in the same footstep as
what Jesus did, you go make it.
Speaker 2 (50:13):
Right.
Speaker 1 (50:14):
I don't.
It's hard for you to say that,oh, I followed Jesus and I
didn't make it.
I don't think that that's evenpossible you know, because you
know, and one thing we want todo is to make sure that we are
stand determined for you knowwhat we have.
(50:36):
And I always tell people, ifyou can apply that acronym, the
acronym Q, to anything, you willbe successful, regardless of
you know, whether you, you know,decided that, oh, okay, I'm
gonna do this, this, this, this,if you applied, is.
And we know that one thing wecan't, we can't go wrong is by
(50:57):
following Jesus, cause he's thegreatest example, absolutely
Like I.
I tell people, I understand,like you said, I don't want to
fail the open book test.
No, I, I just I, you know, whenI was in school, I used to be
like I failed the open book testwhen you got the book right
(51:21):
there and a lot of people andwhat a lot of people.
Problem is, they don't want toread, yeah, and then they and
they want to skim over certainthings Instead of, like you say,
studying what, what God, whatJesus did, studying how he moved
(51:41):
and everything.
So that's good, that is so goodand I'm just so excited about
how you have have actually addedthat, that acronym, to your
life so you can be, you know,have success on purpose and and
I often tell people it's notabout the, the, the money, the
(52:02):
car, the fame, anything likethat.
It's about being able to stayin the face of God after he have
called you, cause a lot ofpeople they get that calling,
they get their purpose and theydon't stay with it.
And so I'm just so excitedabout you.
I want, like, if you had anyadvice that you would leave your
(52:24):
18 year old self, if, whatadvice would that be?
If you could just say you knowwhat, stick with it, you know,
or whatever, what advice wouldyou leave your 18 year old self?
Speaker 2 (52:41):
She needs a lot of advice.
One thing I would say to her isto embrace her unique design.
I would tell 18 year oldTiffany all of those little
quirks that you have, all ofthose things that make you
(53:03):
different from everybody else,all those things that make you
stand out, all those things thatmaybe some people your age
aren't very interested in rightnow.
Those are the things that youneed to embrace and that you
need to run with and make surethat you know that God created
you exactly how he needed you tobe, to do what you need to do.
(53:26):
I would tell her that.
I would also tell her not towaste all that money she's
making working.
Put some of it away so youcould do some things with it.
I would tell her that and, justI think, I would tell her to
not undervalue the things thatshe has.
(53:50):
I think for a long time, becauseI think sometimes we all get
comfortable with the way we areand we just think that's just
how we are and there's nothingreally special about that.
And so for a long time I viewedwhat was extraordinary like it
(54:11):
was ordinary, Cause I didn'tknow that it was extraordinary.
I had people in my life tellingme, encouraging me, telling me
that I was a good person, that Iwas a kind person, that I was a
smart person, but I didn'treally understand some of the
extraordinary parts of my makeup.
So I would tell her don't lookat what is extraordinary like
(54:36):
it's ordinary, Like embrace it,celebrate it, cultivate it,
share it.
You know the world needs it.
And that's for everybody, notjust for me.
That's for everybody.
But I would certainly tell that18 year old that, and I tell
her to stop partying so much.
Focus on your school work.
Speaker 1 (54:56):
Focus on your school work.
That's the most that advice youcan gain.
Well, I'm a step in there rightnow.
Like I'm like, look, is shetalking to me, what?
No, I'm excited because that issome of the great advice that
(55:17):
you can give to yourself andalso like the listeners.
Now, if you, you know it's nottoo late.
You know, I don't want anybodyto think that you know, just
because you pass 18, that youcan't take that same advice.
You can still take that advicenow.
So I'm excited.
I thank you for that.
(55:37):
If you have anything else thatyou would like to leave with the
audience today, I mean, youhave just been such a blessing
to my life.
I'm telling you.
I thank you so much, but if youwould, you know, just leave
anything with any advice, andalso, you can go ahead on and
(56:00):
tell people how they can reachyou, how they can find you, and
then you can pray if you want to.
I'm excited about, I'm enjoyinglistening to you.
Speaker 2 (56:10):
Thank, you so much.
Thank you for having me firstof all, but just my advice would
be just like Keana said, keanasaid walk in the footsteps of
Jesus, try your absolute best tojust stay close to Him.
And also, I'm just gonna keepsaying what you say, because you
said great stuff you don't lookat life like you're too old or
(56:34):
too late.
Every day that we wake up, wecan do something different, we
can grow, we can learn somethingmore, we can help some more
people.
As long as you get another day,use it.
Use it well.
Don't settle where you are,just keep going.
As long as you're here, youhave the capacity to grow and
learn and to do something new,and so don't ever think that
(56:56):
you're too old to do anything.
We don't get to determine that.
God gets to determine that,amen.
You can find me on Instagram atI'm Tiffany on purpose.
You can also find me at TiffanyD Santana.
You can find me on Facebook atTiffany Massenberg Santana, and
(57:19):
you can find me on my website atTiffany D Santana.
That's it, and I'm proud of you.
Speaker 1 (57:27):
That's so awesome.
That's so awesome.
Like I said, thank you again.
I'm so excited, I'm so readyfor people to grasp a hold to
what you are doing, because youare going to change the world.
I see it.
I see it that many people aregoing to be blessed by you.
Many people.
Speaker 2 (57:46):
Thank you, I've received that and right back at
you, you're already changing theworld.
What's going on?
Huh, okay.
Speaker 1 (57:56):
Look what you have.
You feel like praying us out?
That would be so great.
Speaker 2 (58:01):
Okay, let's pray.
Father, we love you, we adoreyou, we give you glory.
We thank you so much for thistime, the time to share as
sisters, the time to share whatyou have placed on our hearts to
share.
I thank you for goodconversation, I thank you for
laughter, I thank you forlearning.
I thank you for the ability andthe safety to be able to share.
(58:24):
I thank you, lord, foropportunities to tell the story
of what you've done in our livesand all the ways that you've
grown us and shaped us, and allof the trials that you brought
us over and how you haven'twasted anything in our lives.
I'm so grateful for that andfor your faithfulness.
I pray that you bless everyonewho has watched and who has
(58:45):
listened.
Lord, bless them with specialfavor.
Give them clarity about theirpurpose so they can run with it.
Send the right people in theirlives to support them as they
move forward on the path and thepurpose that you've laid out
for them.
Lord, bless this podcast, thisnew ministry, lord.
I pray that it grows.
I pray that it reaches thepeople that you've intended for
(59:08):
it to reach.
I pray that it is a blessing,lord, to the people.
Lord, I thank you so much forthis woman of God who is
following your call, who isopening eyes and sharing with
people Some things that can helpthem on their journey.
Lord, I pray that you justcontinue to richly bless her.
I thank you, lord, for growth.
(59:30):
I thank you for your HolySpirit, who leads and guides us.
I thank you for provision.
I thank you for protection andsafety.
I thank you for being ourfather and our friend, and I
just love you so much and Ithank you and I appreciate you.
In Jesus name, I pray, amen.
Speaker 1 (59:49):
Amen, amen, like I'm fighting tears.
Lord Jesus, amen, amen, let himflow.
Hmm, I thank you once again.
Oh, my God, I do.
God is just.
He's always here in hispresence.
I love when his presence showup, because that's how you know
(01:00:11):
that somebody is going to beblessed from what we have said.
I thank you again, coachTiffany Santana, I just can't
thank you enough.
I just can't thank you enough.
All right, I thank you all fortuning in on tonight.
I hope, and I know, that it hasblessed you just as much as it
(01:00:33):
blessed my soul.
Okay, you can also.
You know, you can make surethat you are going to the
YouTube channel.
You can go subscribe, you know,do all that lingo stuff, and I
thank you all again for justwatching and tuning in.
All right, I love you all andplease just stay cute for Christ
(01:00:54):
.
All right, bye, y'all.
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