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May 19, 2025 13 mins

What really matters in parenting? Not trophies or test scores—but your child’s soul.

In this honest, hope-filled episode, Parker, Melody, and Candy share how they’re raising kids with eternity in mind. From Bible studies to bedtime devotions, they offer real talk and practical tools for spiritual growth—even when mornings feel like “Monday Night Raw.”

Hear why early faith habits matter, how to make prayer feel natural, and what research says about shaping beliefs by age nine.

Listen now and discover simple ways to nurture your child’s soul in today’s world.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So it's Melody, it's Candy, it's Parker here on this
episode of Quirks, bumps andBruises.
We love having Parker come inand hang out with us, and he's
never the same when he leaves.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
That's right.

Speaker 1 (00:10):
But I want to ask you both of you have children.
Candy now has three, you havetwo, parker and so, as parents,
one day our children are goingto stand before King Jesus,
that's right, and he is going tocare very little about the
grades they made in school,their batting average, their
three point percentages, theiryards per carry, their

(00:34):
popularity, their collegetranscripts or their class rank,
all that stuff.
Jesus is not going to careabout that.
And so how do we invest intheir souls?
So, as parents and Parker, I'lljust ask you first, as a parent
, what are some things that youwant to make sure you do each

(00:54):
and every day, or weekly orwhatever, that those little boys
of yours know how importantJesus is For sure?

Speaker 2 (01:01):
You know, melody, my wife Melody and I started early
on with the boys trying.
Now y'all we miss quite a bitEvery morning when we get up.
I had a pastor friend sharewith me that he did this with
his family Made a totaldifference in the trajectory of
their day.
Have just a short devotional.
It doesn't have to be deep, youknow.
It doesn't have to be a wholechapter of Proverbs or whatever.

(01:23):
I mean just enough to wheretheir little minds are going in
the right direction.
Now we have some.
It looks like Monday Night Rawwrestling when we're getting
ready for work or church orwhatever.
But that is our goal.
Also, I like to take my boys.
So last night I go over to aBible study at Richard Childress

(01:43):
Racing.
I take one of the boys with me.
Now these are grown men andy'all we're talking about
serious stuff that grown mendeal with.
My little boys are askingquestions all the way home, good
questions about God's grace andhis goodness and how he did
chase after us until he finallycaused.

(02:03):
Some of these guys have livedrough, rough lives, and so
that's where I try my best isjust bring the boys with me.
They'll hear it.
They'll experience it,especially being a worship
pastor.
They'll hear all kinds ofdifferent opinions and
approaches to life and ministryand sin, and hopefully it will

(02:23):
be a warning to them as theygrow up, and I love that they're
asking questions too, yep,totally.

Speaker 3 (02:28):
Sometimes I think we shy away from the hard stuff we
don't want our kids to see someof those things, but it is good
that they're seeing that withyou.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
For sure.

Speaker 3 (02:36):
And that they can go home and ask Dad, tell me about
this.
I think that's wonderful.

Speaker 1 (02:40):
And feel comfortable asking.
That's right.
Well, I think that's wonderfuland feel comfortable asking.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
That's right.
Well, who do you want them toteach?
Who do you want your child tolearn these bad things from?

Speaker 3 (02:48):
Because they're going to learn from somebody Either
they'll be told about it bytheir friends.

Speaker 2 (02:52):
They'll experience it firsthand, which is the worst.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
Yes.

Speaker 2 (02:56):
So go ahead and head them off at the pass.
I mean, that's our job.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Yeah, it is.
We're talking about investingin our kids' souls because one
day they're going to standbefore the Lord and the Lord's
not going to care about all thethings that so many parents are
just obsessed about.
You know, sports I'm not sayingsports aren't good.
Sports are good, but it's notthe most important thing.
I know, the other day, mylittle grandson he just turned
three Benson and he said memommy David killed a wife.

(03:24):
And I told my daughter later Isaid y'all were doing something
right, oh yeah he's already at.
You know barely three learningthese bible stories and what
they mean.
So, candy, what do you and Jake, your husband, do to kind of
invest in the souls of yourthree kids?
Well, I know, the baby isdifferent but for the boys what?

Speaker 3 (03:44):
So kind of like Parker was saying just
intentionally and you have to beintentional about it because
time gets away with you and alot of times we'll go to bed at
night and I'm like we forgot todo this or we didn't do this,
but devotion time together, andthat we would love to do it.
I think it's wonderful to do itfirst thing in the morning,

(04:07):
just like you said, it changesyour day.
But our schedules are just socrazy that we're unable to do
that, and so we do it more afterdinner, kind of right before we
start to wind down for thenight, and we do that.
Jacob will lead us through adevotion and it's a perfect time
where they can ask questionsFor sure I don't understand that
, or what does that mean, or anydifferent things so where they
can ask questions.
For sure I don't understand that, or what does that mean, or any

(04:29):
different things.
So that has been such a bondingtime for us, I think too, and
even we're a blended family, soI mean having it.
Just when you put God intosomething like that, you know,
it's just, it's wonderful thespirit that you feel and it's
just wonderful to do that.
But that's been something thatwe definitely, you know, we want
to make sure the craziness ofthe day and all the fun
activities.
We've had fun, it's been a goodday, we've had attitudes, we've

(04:51):
all these things but it goesback to let's center it around
you know Probably helps yousleep better.

Speaker 2 (04:55):
It does it helps the kids sleep better?
Yes, putting their mind in theright place before they lay
their heads down.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
You were talking about David and Goliath, which
is hilarious, because tonight Igo home and Hunter and I have
always had this thing where wedo like a little Bible.
He's got like a children'sillustrated Bible and so we'll
do story time with that at nightbefore his bedtime and so
tonight he's so excited, it'sDavid and Goliath.

Speaker 2 (05:15):
He loves that story.
So that's our Bible storytonight.
What boy doesn't like that?
I know that's a great one.

Speaker 1 (05:22):
I know both of you too and I think let me let me
back up.
Let me say this I know thatchurch does not save people,
right, but I do think keepingyour kids grounded in a church
setting is extremely important.
Now, I know many parents.
I think feel like the church,that's their job.
You're supposed to teach my kid, right?

(05:43):
The church is just an accessory.
I guess.
Come along a support systemthat's much better word than
accessory, and we're not talkingabout earrings and jewelry, but
uh, yeah, a support system tocome alongside your child.
They are there to help teachyour child about the lord, but
they are not the primaryteachers.
It is the parent, and so it isimportant for these kids to see

(06:07):
worship Parker.
Your kids get to see you leadworship every Sunday.

Speaker 2 (06:12):
Y'all.
I can't even look over.
Typically, bryce, ourseven-year-old, is in the
worship service with us,especially when Melody my Melody
is on the praise team.
He's by himself.
Usually and with our pastor,who just now took another church
, Pastor Brandon, one of my bestfriends in the world.
He would sit with PastorBrandon and now he sits with our
interim pastor, Dr Rick Bird,and both of those men.

(06:33):
I don't look at him because thelittle boy is so engaged.
I will forget what's coming next, but they said if you could sit
beside him and hear.
He is singing as loud as he canand as sincere as he can.

Speaker 1 (06:48):
Now he's a pistol a lot of the time he's a pistol,
aren't they all?
But he's already learned toworship.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
He has already learned corporate singing
worship, yeah, and so I'mthankful for that.
You know, and we've talkedabout that little story of caleb
sitting and singing god is sogood.
I think we talked about thatseveral weeks ago.
So they're hearing God's wordthrough music and I'm thankful,
I'm very thankful to have thechurch.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
And then, candy, your husband is in ministry now,
yeah, and so he is getting tosee Jake in the pulpit at times,
oh yeah, and you know, just tosee that is.
You know my kids for a lot ofyears, you know, saw me leading
worship and I also ledchildren's ministry and so I got
to teach them at church and athome as well.

(07:34):
But I just think the church isso important and I'm praying
that we'll see a return ofparents with young children and
not just the fluff of children'sministry.
And not that that stuff is allbad.
They should have fun at church,they should do fun things and
go have ice cream and do allthose things.

(07:54):
But you want a church situationand a children's program that
teaches who Jesus is Totally.
And I know and feel like by thetime and I think you all would
agree with this by the time weare seeing kids go to college,
they really still don't know whythey believe what they believe.
Sure, and that's whyapologetics is so important.

(08:16):
If you don't know why youbelieve what you believe, that
foundation will crumble prettyquick when you have professors
that are teaching the exactopposite of that, professors
that are teaching the exactopposite of that, and so it is
just.
You know, I've always thought,even years past, that churches
put more emphasis on youth, andI realized really quickly that

(08:36):
in today's time, with kidslearning so much so early, that
really a lot of emphasis needsto be on children.
Barna Research says thatchildren by the age of nine will
believe what they believe aboutthe Lord for the rest of their
life.
That is very young.
So it shows you the importanceof teaching early, getting it

(09:01):
early worshiping early, prayingand teaching them to pray.
So let's hunker down a littlebit on teaching children how to
pray at an early age.
You know that prayer doesn'tnecessarily come naturally, and
so to teach a child to pray, whydo you think we have so many
adults that won't pray?
Oh yeah, do y'all have that inyour churches?

(09:22):
Oh yeah, for sure, and they'regood godly people, but they
don't want to pray out loud,isn't?

Speaker 2 (09:27):
that to me, which is so strange to me.
I mean, I, I don't know, maybeit's because I was around my dad
was always the one, and aroundour family, so we would.
So we have differentdenominations on my dad's side
as we would come together andvery much so some of his
relatives would oh no, no, no, Idon't pray.
Well, my dad just started sothat he wasn't always the one

(09:47):
praying.
He would point to my brother orme, or my sister and have us
pray out loud so that we wereused to it.
Well, now, y'all and there aresome people that maybe they're
nervous being in front of peopleand they even have to write out
their prayer.
I think it's like singing asong, you know if it's a
prayerful song, but to me, I'mjust going to get up there,
whether it's before apresidential event or whether

(10:08):
it's in front of my two littleboys.
I want them people to see aconversation between a man, a
sinful, hell-bound if not forthe grace of God man talking
with the Almighty Creator inpublic.

Speaker 1 (10:23):
I just think we worry too much about what other
people are thinking 100%.

Speaker 2 (10:25):
That's what it is.

Speaker 1 (10:26):
And prayer.
Billy Graham says that prayeris simply a two-way conversation
between you and God.
That's right.
We have a man at our churchthat just prays, like he was
sitting at the kitchen table andthe Lord was right across from
him and they were having a cupof coffee.
I love to hear him pray becausehe's not worried about
everything else.
He's just talking to the LordFor sure.
And so, anyway, just to seethat with kids, it's so

(10:50):
important that they learn athome, it's so important that
they're in a church setting,because it's hard it is.
And even all of that, let's behonest, even if you have them in
private christian schools,which my kids did, that candy,
your kids, your kids, all ofthat, take, all of those
wonderful things, that doesn'teven assure that they will know

(11:10):
the lord one day.
Oh no.
But at least and I've alwayssaid this, I've told my husband
this we can say we did all weknew to do as parents.
Unfortunately, both of my kidsare believers and will be in
heaven one day, but that couldhave not been the case.
It is only by the grace of Godthat that's the case.
So just a good topic, somethingto think about with your

(11:31):
children.
If you're wondering how youshould get started, the little
devotional books are great waysto do it.
Little sentence prayers, liketeaching them.
Why don't you thank God tonightfor one thing?
Think about your day and let'sthank Jesus for that.
So the child will say thank you, god for my food.

Speaker 3 (11:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (11:52):
That's okay, right, because thankfulness is a
massive part of prayer and youlearn as opposed to ask, ask,
ask, yes, and you know I hate tosay it our kids expose what
they're learning, they emulatewhat they see, they do, and
there's so many little kids thatyou hear Lord, please give me
this, and Lord, give me this andhelp me sleep and help me do
this and help me do this.

(12:12):
Thankfulness comes before allgratitude right.

Speaker 1 (12:16):
You have to teach that.
You do have to teach it, yeah,yeah, well, this was just a
great conversation starter,because there's like we could do
this for hours, so we couldtalk about this topic a very
long time.
But hopefully that will helpyou, not only with your children
but with your grandchildren aswell.
I have grandchildren, I have alittle grandson.
I keep every day, so you knowwe're always, even if we're

(12:36):
outside.
Look what God made Benson, lookat the birds.
You know it's a constantreminder of the majesty and the
sovereignty of God.
And it's hard work, y'all it is.
It's hard work because lifegets busy, everything gets kind
of crowded and in your way andyou know I don't have time for
that, I'm just too tired and Iget that, I totally get that.
But it's so important,especially in today's society.

(12:59):
So thank you, candy and Parker.
Hopefully that will help quitea few people today and at least
start some great conversations.
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