March 3, 2025 • 18 mins
Reflection and personal growth are at the heart of Lent. Listen as Melody speaks with Guilford vocalist Parker Webb about this transformative season and learn how to navigate life's chaos while deepening your connection with God.
Lent is a time to slow down and reflect on our lives. It shows us that fasting isn’t just about giving up food—it’s about letting go of distractions and negative thoughts. During this season, we learn to embrace gratitude and kindness instead of complaining and discover simple ways to add enriching habits to our daily routines.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, I'm Melody and I'm Candy, and you're listening
to Quirks, bumps and Bruises.
So, on this episode of Quirks,bumps and Bruises, I have my
good friend Parker Webb herealong with me.
Hey, hey, hey, girl, thank youfor being here.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Oh listen, it's always a pleasure.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I know You're easy to talk to.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Parker.
Well, I hope so.
Sometimes I feel like I'm soeasy to talk to.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I just talk to myself .
Well, that's better than thewall.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
That's right, that's right, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Well, I want us to kind of dig in.
We do a lot of fun topics youand I do when we're on the
Morning Joyride, but I want totalk about something a little
bit more serious, and that isLent.
And Lent is coming up onWednesday March the 5th through
Thursday April 17th, and Lent isa time to slow down, a time to
(00:53):
reflect, a time to get yourheart right before the Lord,
before Easter happens, easterbeing a little bit later this
year.
So I guess what I want to talkabout first is how do we slow
down when life feels like you'reon a Costco run every Saturday.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
You know what I mean?
You're just go, go, go.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
And maybe, just maybe , it's not about doing less but
inviting God into the crazinessof our lives.
You know, Proverbs 16, 3 sayscommit to the Lord whatever you
do and he will establish yourplan.
So, even in the running and thedriving, going through the
drive-through, God is workingthrough us all the time.
(01:36):
That's right, and those are bigthings that we do as well as
those mundane things that we do.
So I know now, and you may knowthis, with your wife Melody,
Her name's Melody.
She probably feels like at timesshe's just juggling too much.
Yeah, she can't like how am Igoing to do all this?
Oh yeah, but you're doingbetter, I think, than you
probably think you are.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Because you're shaping those little hearts.
You have these two preciouslittle boys.
You're shaping those littlehearts even when you're just
making sure they have theirshoes to go to their ball
practice or when you're tryingto fix that snack for them.
You're making an impact even inthe chaos and you had mentioned
before that your house can bechaotic at times loud and maybe
(02:15):
a mess.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
That's right, right, oh yeah, yeah.
Yeah, it looks like HurricaneHugo came through.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
So maybe, just maybe, that we're exactly where god
needs us to be, even if it is inthe drive-thru line that's
right right.
So here's to kind of wrap it upfebruary, and then we're going
to tackle march and hopefully doit, with grace, during this
lent season.
Now, parker, you and I weretalking recently that we did not
(02:42):
.
We know what lent is, but youand I didn't really grow up
doing a full-blown participation, right right, in lent, that's
right, and so, uh, and it's notthat we don't believe in it, it
just we didn't maybe put as muchas uh, an emphasis on it as
churches that are maybe a littlemore liturgical, if that's the
right word, right.
(03:02):
So let's you and I talk aboutsome practical, real life ways
that we can approach lent,because I can say I'm gonna give
up coffee, but I'm not rightand is that really even doing
anything, if my heart is notright, for sure with that?
so what if we fasted from thethings that drain us, not just
(03:22):
dessert, not just I'm going togive up chocolate cake, but the
things that drain us, becauseLent, if I'm correct, is often
about fasting it is.
So it doesn't mean you have togive up chocolate, unless God's
calling you to give up thechocolate.
Now that's a whole differentballgame.
So let's think about fastingfrom what actually pulls your
heart away from Jesus.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah, and I think it is twofold.
I think, the first beingwhatever that is that might be
in the idolatry form for me isall kinds of stuff.
I love watches.
I'm a watch guy, so I lovelooking at but I have found that
I have spent more time justlooking at watches, online or
(04:04):
whatever, or instead of spendingtime thinking and praying to
the Lord.
That is a big thing in my life.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
That's a big thing, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
So the fasting of something like that is taking
the place of time where youcould be spending with the Lord.
Not to negate things ofpleasure, that is totally.
It's not a sin or anything likethat.
It's not bad.
But you do have to balance.
Now, on the flip side, um, letit be something where, when you
have that urge to eat that pieceof chocolate or you have that
(04:36):
urge to, uh, look on socialmedia, whatever your interests
are, stop and think upon theLord and pray or stop.
And everybody's got, hopefullygot a Bible app on their phone.
Instead of going to Instagram,jump over to the Bible app and I
want to talk about that socialmedia.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
I don't know about you, parker, but it can be
draining.
It's exhausting, and take abreak from it For sure.
I think social media would be awonderful thing to fast from.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Because it is just a constant negativity most of the
time.
That's right.
You know, when social mediafirst started, you were
connecting with people and yousaw their kids and grandkids'
pictures and recipes.
Yeah, now it's just a lot ofbackbiting and fighting and
polarizing things that are onthere.
(05:26):
So that's a way that we canfast from something that drains
us.
Social media is the devil'splayground anyway.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
For sure, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
What about complaining?
Have you noticed?
We live in a culture of whinies, whinies, I call them whinies,
right.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Right, right, right, right.
What if we replaced ourcomplaining with gratitude?
Oh, just think if we did thatfor a day, if all Americans
let's just take the UnitedStates quit our complaining and
I would say 99% of ourcomplaining are first world
problems.
Yes, they are not items thatour dear brothers and sisters in
(06:03):
third world Africa, mm, hmmwould complain about.
Right, they would probably lookat us and say, oh, my word,
y'all have lost it.
Think about other countries andwhat they're going through.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
So I spent some time in Haiti, yeah, and I came home
and I thought you know, the veryworst in America is a palace to
Haiti.
That's right, and so, yes,complaining has become like a
pastime.
It seems like, yeah for sure.
Going back to social media, justscroll a little bit and you'll
see that.
So replacing that withgratitude.
(06:34):
I know you and I talkedrecently, when you were
co-hosting with me on the show,about your house.
Can be loud at times and a messat times, right, but you're
thankful for it, not complainingabout it.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
But thankful for it.
And maybe it is my age, maybeit is the hard times that have
made me, but I did.
I sat in my living room theother night and just thinking
Lord, thank you for this housethat you provided Right.
He provided that for me.
Anything we have is because ofhim Everything that we have, he
(07:09):
provided and he allowed us tohave.
But even more so, melody, evenif he didn't, even if it's
something that to this world,the folks in Haiti that you were
talking about, if it was justour salvation, if that was all
that we could brag on that.
God, it's more than enough.
It's more than enough.
So you know, we constantly lookat the material side of things.
(07:29):
That's just modern day US,that's how we, that's how we
think.
But the blessings?
The blessing is that salvation.
But then thank him for just thematerial stuff, or the family
(07:52):
relationships, or the, the, ourkids, our spouses, our parents,
whoever.
Oh think of how this worldwould be so much different,
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
So a little a little thing for young moms with kids,
like your wife, melody, becausemoms really have a constant
guilt, I think, going on attimes they do, and busy, and you
even have guilt if you gothrough the drive-thru, right?
So here's a little suggestionTry just a simple meal night,
yeah, no pressure, justsomething simple Tacos.
(08:27):
Something simple, right, andtake away, like like fast
yourself away from that guilt,yeah, you know, if at all
possible, all right.
Another, uh, area of talkingabout lent instead of only
giving something up, what iflent was about adding something
that brings you closer to god?
(08:47):
So, instead of giving up, let'sthink about adding.
What if you read one psalm a day?
That's something maybe youdon't do, that's something I try
to do every day, just to remindyou of God's goodness, because
he's good.
Even in the times that are notso good for us, god is still
good.
That's right, that's right.
So, reading a psalm a day, whatabout and I hate to even say
this, but what about?
Turning off the radio for fiveminutes, yeah, and while you're
(09:10):
driving to work and just praying, spending time with the Lord
there?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
It's a wonderful time .
I lived in Alabama, northAlabama.
Melody and I were there for thefirst four years of our
marriage and I would drive everyweekend to meet my family's bus
here in North Carolina, or Iwould fly, but a lot of the
times I was driving and I had avery economical little vehicle
that would.
There were times where I woulddrive that eight to nine hours
(09:38):
with nothing on in the car.
I wouldn't make any phone calls.
A lot of times it was at night.
I was driving through the nightback or early in the morning
and so, oh, those times wereamazing.
My wife said that soundshorrific, that sounds awful to
drive that far, but I had someof the best thinking some of the
(10:00):
best prayer, some of the bestworship.
You know I would sit and I knowthe people driving beside me
would look over and say, oh,that guy's crazy.
He's crying in his car byhimself.
What is wrong with that guy?
But it is.
It's a precious time and in thecar is a very it's a good spot.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, worship time is in my car.
Amen, it's the only time I'malone.
I know what about memorizing?
Just you don't have to be along passage, even if it's just
a short verse, and taping it toyour refrigerator at home, so
good, just to kind of remember.
So adding that to your life,right?
So those are some things that Ithink about adding something
(10:38):
that's going to bring you closerto God, instead of thinking it
in terms of I've got to takethis away For sure.
I'm not going to eat chocolatetoday which I'm not doing that
I'm sorry, that will not be mine.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Too much.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
What about this one, Parker?
Make simple, intentional actsof kindness.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Jesus was always interruptible right.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
That's right.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
He stopped to talk to people, he stopped to heal
people, he stopped to lovepeople.
So maybe, just maybe, lentcould be about choosing to pause
P-A-U-S-E and be more like that.
Yeah, what about encouragingsomebody?
Oh, texting a friend,compliment a stranger, leave a
kind note to somebody, right?
(11:21):
How about putting your phonedown during meals, mm?
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Is that a big one?
Don't even bring it to thetable, just put it in the
bedroom.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Yeah, just put it in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Don't even bring it into the kitchen, just giving
your family full attention,absolutely.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
I go out to dinner sometimes and I look over at a
young family and all four are ontheir phones.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Right Out to dinner Out to dinner, which should be a
special time together thatyou're paying for Paying a lot
to go out to dinner togethernowadays.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Yeah, you can sit on your phone at home.
Right, spend that time withyour family.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Jesus shared meals with people all the time and he
wasn't on his phone.
Oh, and I think sometimes thebest ministry can happen over a
meal, Over a meal, yep.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
How about serving someone in a small way, whether
it's bringing coffee to aco-worker, which I should have
done for you today?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Oh, I've I've got my coffee here in my red solo cup
that I I leave my my coffee cupseverywhere I do.
Yeah, so I leave my coffee cupseverywhere I go, but especially
my office.
I'll have four or five sittingin my sink in my office.
So I thought, well, if I put itin a solo cup, I can throw it
away and I don't have to worryabout it.
(12:31):
Is it hot?
No, no, it's cold.
I'm a cold brew guy.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Oh yeah, well, I was like, wouldn't that melt the cup
?
Speaker 2 (12:38):
And it's not for the taste or anything, it's for the
caffeine only.
That's the only reason I drinkit.
I get that.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
I get that.
A couple more things to thinkabout during Lent.
What about slowing down,remembering this Jesus was never
in a hurry, that's right.
He was never in a hurry.
So again, that reminds us tostep out of all the chaos of our
lives and it can get chaotic,that's right.
And just focus on what trulymatters.
Life can be.
I don't know, and, parker, Iknow you too.
(13:07):
Me too, life is really reallybusy.
It is, and Parker, I know youtoo.
Me too, life is really reallybusy.
It is Like I get up at four andI don't stop until I go to bed.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
The calendar.
I was looking at my.
I don't have it with me here.
I'd show it to you and prove it, but my calendar is just packed
.
Of course, every day, every day, every day, is this something
going on?
But Jesus never.
It is.
He prayed, he walked.
You know he stopped.
And so what about just startingfive minutes of every morning
(13:37):
with silence before you doanother thing?
Honestly, before you even jumpin your Bible if you do your
devotions, what about juststopping Because I know I don't
know about you?
I will be honest here and saysometimes the first thing I do
is reach for this phone.
Oh, I know that's what I do,looking for text and emails and
things that I need to do, myreminder thing on my phone and
(13:58):
all the things that's going on.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
Right, yeah, so you know.
One story about Jesus in theBible that sticks out to me is
when he was walking through thecrowd, and I mean there was a
mob of people clamoring to bewith him and to follow him, but
all of a sudden he stops and helooks at the disciples and says
(14:20):
who touched me?
He was that in tune.
Of course he's fully God, buthe's fully man.
He stopped who touched me?
And they said, master, there'shundreds of people around here
that have been touching you.
He said, oh no, somebody justtouched me and it wasn't even
physically his body, but justthe hem of his garment.
(14:41):
And he turned around and thatlady who had the issues of blood
, and that, to me, is just arewe that in tune with reality?
Now, obviously we're not goingto have that sense that God has,
but when we're going throughthe grocery line and you see on
the face of that little girlthat's probably checking you out
(15:02):
, that has had a terrible homelife or whatnot, and you can
just tell by looking at any ofthese individuals, stop and just
make a kind comment that letsthem know they're loved and it
might lead to another commentthat would that you can share
your faith and share what Jesushas done in your life, but just
saying you are so efficient withhow you have sorted my
(15:23):
groceries today, yeah, you aregreat at your job.
Yeah, that little tiny commentcould make the difference in
life or death with somebody.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Because if you go through that line and you are
just not Christ-like in any way,I know the story and this is a
true story of a pastor who wasgoing into a town for a revival
or something and was speaking ata particular church and he went
up to the hotel desk and Idon't know any other way to put
(15:53):
it, but he showed himself in nota good way, sure, not a good
way at all.
Yeah, he was upset at this andthat and just was berating the
staff of this hotel.
And that night he went topreach at this particular church
and who was in thatcongregation?
Oh, my goodness, one of thestaff people.
Oh, my goodness, that he hadberated just only a few hours
(16:15):
earlier.
Right, that he had berated justonly a few hours earlier.
So that stopping and being kindis going to benefit you in the
end, because you never knowwho's watching you, you never
know where you're going to seethem again.
That's right, and so I agreewith you so much.
Just stopping and being kindgoes such a long way.
And then giving yourself somegrace, even in the rushing and
we've said it before the chaos,y'all we know we get it.
(16:38):
But give yourself some grace,because God knows our hearts.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
He's with us.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
And then, lastly, let Lent be a reminder to all of us
that we're not doing this thingalone.
We're not doing it alone.
At the end of the day, I feellike Lent and I don't.
I am not a professor of Lent, Idon't.
I can't sit here and say I knowall the ins and outs of Lent,
but I do know that Lent isn'tabout perfection.
(17:04):
It's about drawing closer toJesus in whatever way makes
sense for your life.
So what you, parker, may doduring a Lent season may not be
what I do, but even if we messup during the Lent season, even
if life gets out of hand andunfocused for us, I think God
does see our heart.
He knows we're trying.
(17:25):
But we just wanted to give youa few ideas to make Lent.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
maybe not always about giving something up, but
adding something to For sure,and I think, again, it's an
incredible practice.
But adding something to Forsure, and I think it's, again
it's an incredible practice Ifyou're practicing Lent, for
simply the religious methodologyof doing Lent, I say, don't
even bother.
But if you are practicing Lentand these 40 days you are
focusing on taking all thedistractions out of your life
(17:51):
that keep you from focusing onJesus, and you are focusing on
Jesus, I would challengeeverybody that's listening to
this podcast Please focus in andtake Lent to heart.
I know I am and, being SouthernBaptist, again, we've not made
a huge emphasis on Lent.
I am going to make a commitmentto weed out some of that.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Yeah, kind of talking through all this makes me
realize how important it reallyis and maybe we haven't dug deep
into that as much as we shouldhave.
So if you are like us and youhave not, maybe done that as
well, this could be the seasonto do that and who knows, by the
time you get to easter sunday,your heart is going to be just
in a beautiful place to be ableto celebrate the resurrection of
(18:33):
our lord and savior parker.
Thank you for being with me onthe Quirks Bumps and Bruises.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Yeah, this is always fun there's quirks, and there's
bumps and there's bruises.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
That's life, that's life.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
God do it.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Thanks for listening to the Quirks, bumps and Bruises
podcast with Candy and Melody.
If you enjoyed the show, pleasetake a moment to subscribe,
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Hi, I'm Melody and I'm Candy, and you're listening
to Quirks, bumps and Bruises.
So, on this episode of Quirks,bumps and Bruises, I have my
good friend Parker Webb herealong with me.
Hey, hey, hey, girl, thank youfor being here.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Oh listen, it's always a pleasure.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I know You're easy to talk to.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Parker.
Well, I hope so.
Sometimes I feel like I'm soeasy to talk to.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
I just talk to myself .
Well, that's better than thewall.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
That's right, that's right, that's right.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
Well, I want us to kind of dig in.
We do a lot of fun topics youand I do when we're on the
Morning Joyride, but I want totalk about something a little
bit more serious, and that isLent.
And Lent is coming up onWednesday March the 5th through
Thursday April 17th, and Lent isa time to slow down, a time to
(00:53):
reflect, a time to get yourheart right before the Lord,
before Easter happens, easterbeing a little bit later this
year.
So I guess what I want to talkabout first is how do we slow
down when life feels like you'reon a Costco run every Saturday.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
You know what I mean?
You're just go, go, go.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
And maybe, just maybe , it's not about doing less but
inviting God into the crazinessof our lives.
You know, Proverbs 16, 3 sayscommit to the Lord whatever you
do and he will establish yourplan.
So, even in the running and thedriving, going through the
drive-through, God is workingthrough us all the time.
(01:36):
That's right, and those are bigthings that we do as well as
those mundane things that we do.
So I know now, and you may knowthis, with your wife Melody,
Her name's Melody.
She probably feels like at timesshe's just juggling too much.
Yeah, she can't like how am Igoing to do all this?
Oh yeah, but you're doingbetter, I think, than you
probably think you are.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Because you're shaping those little hearts.
You have these two preciouslittle boys.
You're shaping those littlehearts even when you're just
making sure they have theirshoes to go to their ball
practice or when you're tryingto fix that snack for them.
You're making an impact even inthe chaos and you had mentioned
before that your house can bechaotic at times loud and maybe
(02:15):
a mess.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
That's right, right, oh yeah, yeah.
Yeah, it looks like HurricaneHugo came through.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
So maybe, just maybe, that we're exactly where god
needs us to be, even if it is inthe drive-thru line that's
right right.
So here's to kind of wrap it upfebruary, and then we're going
to tackle march and hopefully doit, with grace, during this
lent season.
Now, parker, you and I weretalking recently that we did not
(02:42):
.
We know what lent is, but youand I didn't really grow up
doing a full-blown participation, right right, in lent, that's
right, and so, uh, and it's notthat we don't believe in it, it
just we didn't maybe put as muchas uh, an emphasis on it as
churches that are maybe a littlemore liturgical, if that's the
right word, right.
(03:02):
So let's you and I talk aboutsome practical, real life ways
that we can approach lent,because I can say I'm gonna give
up coffee, but I'm not rightand is that really even doing
anything, if my heart is notright, for sure with that?
so what if we fasted from thethings that drain us, not just
(03:22):
dessert, not just I'm going togive up chocolate cake, but the
things that drain us, becauseLent, if I'm correct, is often
about fasting it is.
So it doesn't mean you have togive up chocolate, unless God's
calling you to give up thechocolate.
Now that's a whole differentballgame.
So let's think about fastingfrom what actually pulls your
heart away from Jesus.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
Yeah, and I think it is twofold.
I think, the first beingwhatever that is that might be
in the idolatry form for me isall kinds of stuff.
I love watches.
I'm a watch guy, so I lovelooking at but I have found that
I have spent more time justlooking at watches, online or
(04:04):
whatever, or instead of spendingtime thinking and praying to
the Lord.
That is a big thing in my life.
Speaker 3 (04:12):
That's a big thing, yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
So the fasting of something like that is taking
the place of time where youcould be spending with the Lord.
Not to negate things ofpleasure, that is totally.
It's not a sin or anything likethat.
It's not bad.
But you do have to balance.
Now, on the flip side, um, letit be something where, when you
have that urge to eat that pieceof chocolate or you have that
(04:36):
urge to, uh, look on socialmedia, whatever your interests
are, stop and think upon theLord and pray or stop.
And everybody's got, hopefullygot a Bible app on their phone.
Instead of going to Instagram,jump over to the Bible app and I
want to talk about that socialmedia.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
I don't know about you, parker, but it can be
draining.
It's exhausting, and take abreak from it For sure.
I think social media would be awonderful thing to fast from.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Because it is just a constant negativity most of the
time.
That's right.
You know, when social mediafirst started, you were
connecting with people and yousaw their kids and grandkids'
pictures and recipes.
Yeah, now it's just a lot ofbackbiting and fighting and
polarizing things that are onthere.
(05:26):
So that's a way that we canfast from something that drains
us.
Social media is the devil'splayground anyway.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
For sure, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
What about complaining?
Have you noticed?
We live in a culture of whinies, whinies, I call them whinies,
right.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Right, right, right, right.
What if we replaced ourcomplaining with gratitude?
Oh, just think if we did thatfor a day, if all Americans
let's just take the UnitedStates quit our complaining and
I would say 99% of ourcomplaining are first world
problems.
Yes, they are not items thatour dear brothers and sisters in
(06:03):
third world Africa, mm, hmmwould complain about.
Right, they would probably lookat us and say, oh, my word,
y'all have lost it.
Think about other countries andwhat they're going through.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
So I spent some time in Haiti, yeah, and I came home
and I thought you know, the veryworst in America is a palace to
Haiti.
That's right, and so, yes,complaining has become like a
pastime.
It seems like, yeah for sure.
Going back to social media, justscroll a little bit and you'll
see that.
So replacing that withgratitude.
(06:34):
I know you and I talkedrecently, when you were
co-hosting with me on the show,about your house.
Can be loud at times and a messat times, right, but you're
thankful for it, not complainingabout it.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
But thankful for it.
And maybe it is my age, maybeit is the hard times that have
made me, but I did.
I sat in my living room theother night and just thinking
Lord, thank you for this housethat you provided Right.
He provided that for me.
Anything we have is because ofhim Everything that we have, he
(07:09):
provided and he allowed us tohave.
But even more so, melody, evenif he didn't, even if it's
something that to this world,the folks in Haiti that you were
talking about, if it was justour salvation, if that was all
that we could brag on that.
God, it's more than enough.
It's more than enough.
So you know, we constantly lookat the material side of things.
(07:29):
That's just modern day US,that's how we, that's how we
think.
But the blessings?
The blessing is that salvation.
But then thank him for just thematerial stuff, or the family
(07:52):
relationships, or the, the, ourkids, our spouses, our parents,
whoever.
Oh think of how this worldwould be so much different,
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
So a little a little thing for young moms with kids,
like your wife, melody, becausemoms really have a constant
guilt, I think, going on attimes they do, and busy, and you
even have guilt if you gothrough the drive-thru, right?
So here's a little suggestionTry just a simple meal night,
yeah, no pressure, justsomething simple Tacos.
(08:27):
Something simple, right, andtake away, like like fast
yourself away from that guilt,yeah, you know, if at all
possible, all right.
Another, uh, area of talkingabout lent instead of only
giving something up, what iflent was about adding something
that brings you closer to god?
(08:47):
So, instead of giving up, let'sthink about adding.
What if you read one psalm a day?
That's something maybe youdon't do, that's something I try
to do every day, just to remindyou of God's goodness, because
he's good.
Even in the times that are notso good for us, god is still
good.
That's right, that's right.
So, reading a psalm a day, whatabout and I hate to even say
this, but what about?
Turning off the radio for fiveminutes, yeah, and while you're
(09:10):
driving to work and just praying, spending time with the Lord
there?
Speaker 2 (09:15):
It's a wonderful time .
I lived in Alabama, northAlabama.
Melody and I were there for thefirst four years of our
marriage and I would drive everyweekend to meet my family's bus
here in North Carolina, or Iwould fly, but a lot of the
times I was driving and I had avery economical little vehicle
that would.
There were times where I woulddrive that eight to nine hours
(09:38):
with nothing on in the car.
I wouldn't make any phone calls.
A lot of times it was at night.
I was driving through the nightback or early in the morning
and so, oh, those times wereamazing.
My wife said that soundshorrific, that sounds awful to
drive that far, but I had someof the best thinking some of the
(10:00):
best prayer, some of the bestworship.
You know I would sit and I knowthe people driving beside me
would look over and say, oh,that guy's crazy.
He's crying in his car byhimself.
What is wrong with that guy?
But it is.
It's a precious time and in thecar is a very it's a good spot.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, worship time is in my car.
Amen, it's the only time I'malone.
I know what about memorizing?
Just you don't have to be along passage, even if it's just
a short verse, and taping it toyour refrigerator at home, so
good, just to kind of remember.
So adding that to your life,right?
So those are some things that Ithink about adding something
(10:38):
that's going to bring you closerto God, instead of thinking it
in terms of I've got to takethis away For sure.
I'm not going to eat chocolatetoday which I'm not doing that
I'm sorry, that will not be mine.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Too much.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
What about this one, Parker?
Make simple, intentional actsof kindness.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
Oh, my goodness.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Jesus was always interruptible right.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
That's right.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
He stopped to talk to people, he stopped to heal
people, he stopped to lovepeople.
So maybe, just maybe, lentcould be about choosing to pause
P-A-U-S-E and be more like that.
Yeah, what about encouragingsomebody?
Oh, texting a friend,compliment a stranger, leave a
kind note to somebody, right?
(11:21):
How about putting your phonedown during meals, mm?
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Is that a big one?
Don't even bring it to thetable, just put it in the
bedroom.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
Yeah, just put it in the bedroom.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
Don't even bring it into the kitchen, just giving
your family full attention,absolutely.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
I go out to dinner sometimes and I look over at a
young family and all four are ontheir phones.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Right Out to dinner Out to dinner, which should be a
special time together thatyou're paying for Paying a lot
to go out to dinner togethernowadays.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Yeah, you can sit on your phone at home.
Right, spend that time withyour family.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Jesus shared meals with people all the time and he
wasn't on his phone.
Oh, and I think sometimes thebest ministry can happen over a
meal, Over a meal, yep.
Speaker 1 (12:03):
How about serving someone in a small way, whether
it's bringing coffee to aco-worker, which I should have
done for you today?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Oh, I've I've got my coffee here in my red solo cup
that I I leave my my coffee cupseverywhere I do.
Yeah, so I leave my coffee cupseverywhere I go, but especially
my office.
I'll have four or five sittingin my sink in my office.
So I thought, well, if I put itin a solo cup, I can throw it
away and I don't have to worryabout it.
(12:31):
Is it hot?
No, no, it's cold.
I'm a cold brew guy.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
Oh yeah, well, I was like, wouldn't that melt the cup
?
Speaker 2 (12:38):
And it's not for the taste or anything, it's for the
caffeine only.
That's the only reason I drinkit.
I get that.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
I get that.
A couple more things to thinkabout during Lent.
What about slowing down,remembering this Jesus was never
in a hurry, that's right.
He was never in a hurry.
So again, that reminds us tostep out of all the chaos of our
lives and it can get chaotic,that's right.
And just focus on what trulymatters.
Life can be.
I don't know, and, parker, Iknow you too.
(13:07):
Me too, life is really reallybusy.
It is, and Parker, I know youtoo.
Me too, life is really reallybusy.
It is Like I get up at four andI don't stop until I go to bed.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
For sure.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
The calendar.
I was looking at my.
I don't have it with me here.
I'd show it to you and prove it, but my calendar is just packed
.
Of course, every day, every day, every day, is this something
going on?
But Jesus never.
It is.
He prayed, he walked.
You know he stopped.
And so what about just startingfive minutes of every morning
(13:37):
with silence before you doanother thing?
Honestly, before you even jumpin your Bible if you do your
devotions, what about juststopping Because I know I don't
know about you?
I will be honest here and saysometimes the first thing I do
is reach for this phone.
Oh, I know that's what I do,looking for text and emails and
things that I need to do, myreminder thing on my phone and
(13:58):
all the things that's going on.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
Right, yeah, so you know.
One story about Jesus in theBible that sticks out to me is
when he was walking through thecrowd, and I mean there was a
mob of people clamoring to bewith him and to follow him, but
all of a sudden he stops and helooks at the disciples and says
(14:20):
who touched me?
He was that in tune.
Of course he's fully God, buthe's fully man.
He stopped who touched me?
And they said, master, there'shundreds of people around here
that have been touching you.
He said, oh no, somebody justtouched me and it wasn't even
physically his body, but justthe hem of his garment.
(14:41):
And he turned around and thatlady who had the issues of blood
, and that, to me, is just arewe that in tune with reality?
Now, obviously we're not goingto have that sense that God has,
but when we're going throughthe grocery line and you see on
the face of that little girlthat's probably checking you out
(15:02):
, that has had a terrible homelife or whatnot, and you can
just tell by looking at any ofthese individuals, stop and just
make a kind comment that letsthem know they're loved and it
might lead to another commentthat would that you can share
your faith and share what Jesushas done in your life, but just
saying you are so efficient withhow you have sorted my
(15:23):
groceries today, yeah, you aregreat at your job.
Yeah, that little tiny commentcould make the difference in
life or death with somebody.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Because if you go through that line and you are
just not Christ-like in any way,I know the story and this is a
true story of a pastor who wasgoing into a town for a revival
or something and was speaking ata particular church and he went
up to the hotel desk and Idon't know any other way to put
(15:53):
it, but he showed himself in nota good way, sure, not a good
way at all.
Yeah, he was upset at this andthat and just was berating the
staff of this hotel.
And that night he went topreach at this particular church
and who was in thatcongregation?
Oh, my goodness, one of thestaff people.
Oh, my goodness, that he hadberated just only a few hours
(16:15):
earlier.
Right, that he had berated justonly a few hours earlier.
So that stopping and being kindis going to benefit you in the
end, because you never knowwho's watching you, you never
know where you're going to seethem again.
That's right, and so I agreewith you so much.
Just stopping and being kindgoes such a long way.
And then giving yourself somegrace, even in the rushing and
we've said it before the chaos,y'all we know we get it.
(16:38):
But give yourself some grace,because God knows our hearts.
Speaker 2 (16:42):
He's with us.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
And then, lastly, let Lent be a reminder to all of us
that we're not doing this thingalone.
We're not doing it alone.
At the end of the day, I feellike Lent and I don't.
I am not a professor of Lent, Idon't.
I can't sit here and say I knowall the ins and outs of Lent,
but I do know that Lent isn'tabout perfection.
(17:04):
It's about drawing closer toJesus in whatever way makes
sense for your life.
So what you, parker, may doduring a Lent season may not be
what I do, but even if we messup during the Lent season, even
if life gets out of hand andunfocused for us, I think God
does see our heart.
He knows we're trying.
(17:25):
But we just wanted to give youa few ideas to make Lent.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
maybe not always about giving something up, but
adding something to For sure,and I think, again, it's an
incredible practice.
But adding something to Forsure, and I think it's, again
it's an incredible practice Ifyou're practicing Lent, for
simply the religious methodologyof doing Lent, I say, don't
even bother.
But if you are practicing Lentand these 40 days you are
focusing on taking all thedistractions out of your life
(17:51):
that keep you from focusing onJesus, and you are focusing on
Jesus, I would challengeeverybody that's listening to
this podcast Please focus in andtake Lent to heart.
I know I am and, being SouthernBaptist, again, we've not made
a huge emphasis on Lent.
I am going to make a commitmentto weed out some of that.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
Yeah, kind of talking through all this makes me
realize how important it reallyis and maybe we haven't dug deep
into that as much as we shouldhave.
So if you are like us and youhave not, maybe done that as
well, this could be the seasonto do that and who knows, by the
time you get to easter sunday,your heart is going to be just
in a beautiful place to be ableto celebrate the resurrection of
(18:33):
our lord and savior parker.
Thank you for being with me onthe Quirks Bumps and Bruises.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
Yeah, this is always fun there's quirks, and there's
bumps and there's bruises.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
That's life, that's life.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
God do it.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
Thanks for listening to the Quirks, bumps and Bruises
podcast with Candy and Melody.
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