July 14, 2025 • 32 mins
The key to entering your realm of possibilities and faith requires a shift in your management of expectations. This episode will help to get you all the way there!
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Welcome to another episode of the Rachel Unpacked podcast.
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mindset, wealth, building and faith for every girlie who is
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Let's go. The immense power of
expectations is often overlookedor underestimated and I am here
to tell you that you, you are going to shift your thinking
regarding your expectations in away that will likely be a
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massive game changer for your life moving forward.
This is not fluff. This is something that I have
personally put into practice many, many years over now and it
has truly helped me in every area of my life, be it business,
personal relationships, and I mean like even back in my
marriage and after divorce and in my business partnerships and
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in my friendships and beyond andeven in my faith.
So let's get into it. Expectations.
I'm going to lead with the the con.
I'm going to lead with the bad news.
OK, I'm going to give you the bad news 1st.
I'm going to hold my hand. Hold your hand while I say this.
And that is, you are filled and constantly met with
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disappointment because of your expectations.
What do I mean by that? You are expecting too much of
people, OK. You're expecting too much of
others. And this is so counter intuitive
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in the time that we live in withregards to romantic
relationships and marriage and equality and all of these
different things. But if you can learn to manage
your expectations and take accountability.
Let's just talk romance romance for a minute.
Take accountability for the factthat you chose a certain
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individual knowing that you see that maybe they're not romantic
or they can be, but you you haveto sort of nudge them or take
the lead. You know, they're not as
thoughtful, but maybe you were so enamored with them and you
really were an optimist and wanted the relationship to work.
So you were, you know, OK with them not really taking certain
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initiatives or being romantic or, you know, opening up about
their feelings or whatever the case may be because you filled
in the gaps. You filled in the gaps.
I have AAI deal with dyslexia. I've had it since I was really
young and one of the things thathad and I don't have it like
bad, bad, but I do have it and it still lingers.
And one of the things that dyslexia does is when I'm
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reading something, let's just say I wrote something, I'll give
you that better example. If I wrote something or typed an
e-mail or whatever, my brain doesn't notice that I'm missing
certain words, OK, or letters for that matter, because my
brain is filling in the gaps. It's like gaslighting itself
into thinking I did it. I, I, I completed the statement
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or you know, wrote it very well.You are likely doing that to
yourself when it comes to relationships.
You see the red flags and you proceed anyways because you fill
in those gaps. Your, your essence, your energy,
your optimism, your love, your kindness, consideration,
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patience, all those things are sort of like putty and it's
filling in their gaps, the gaps in their character.
Then Fast forward, OK, and you are now maybe married, you had
your kids or whatever the case may be, and you are not as
enamored. OK, yes, you still love the
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person obviously and you're dedicated, but you're not as
enamored. So you're not as like your
muscle memory isn't it isn't like filling in the gaps for
them. Now you see the gaps.
And by the way, whatever you didin the past, all that work you
did to plaster the gaps, OK, in the in this person, it's, it's
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wearing down, right? Because wear and tear, of
course. And then now you just see these
massive gaps. You think they fell out of love.
You think like you're frustratedbecause you're expecting them to
rise up and, and, and bridge those gaps willingly and
intentionally on their own. But they didn't get to be your
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husband or your partner because they were ever willing to do
that. It's nuts.
Probably deserves its own episode.
But the point of the matter is, is then you have this
expectation of them that doesn'teven match who they actually
are. It doesn't match their track
record. It doesn't match, it doesn't
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align. Your expectations become a hope
and it becomes a benchmarker of what you need from them, not
what they have demonstrated. That is their capacity to give
to you. Like it doesn't align, it
doesn't match. This happens across the board.
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This happens whether you're hiring somebody and they have a
really great personality and youreally like them and you see
some potential in them. It doesn't mean that they have
demonstrated their their competency and ability to
actually execute in that way effectively.
OK, But you see something in them, boom, you're filling in
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the gaps. That's OK.
You know what? I'm going to promote them.
That's OK. I'm going to give them these
responsibilities. That's OK.
I'm actually just going to go ahead and give them more money
because I want them to stay because I really like them.
And we do that in a lot of different areas of our lives and
even with our own blood relatives.
And then we have these massive expectations.
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And often times those expectations might actually be a
reflection of what we would do. So it's it's more about like, I
know I love this person in my family and if they ever need me,
I know that I would drop everything and go be there for
them, for example. But it doesn't mean that that's
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how they're wired or that that'show they're built.
And I think it's really important as much as we talk
about right, talk about on the show about being delusional, we
talk about delulu, you know, a lot of delulu stuff in CEO and
how it got us, you know, to thislike, so our first, you know,
$1,000,000 business multi $1,000,000 business.
So that has its place. And that's you could listen to
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old episodes and, and, and decipher that.
But in the context of expectations, you really, when
it comes to other people, OK, when it comes to other
individuals, other people, OK, you need to probably be the most
realistic. That is where delulu needs to
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kind of go out of the way. At least delulu has her place.
And it's not in interpersonal relationships.
And you need to see people for who they are.
I recently did a video that said, you know, don't listen to
what they say, watch what they do.
And if you can get in that habitin your interpersonal
relationships, you will then learn to manage your
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expectations. And by managing your
expectations, you will reduce the amount of times that you
will be met with disappointment because people who you hold high
expectations for or towards are,oh, they're going to disappoint
you. OK, So you need to really look
not at their potential. Look at their track record,
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period, their track record. You could look at their track
record before you and and say toyourself, OK, I'd like to
believe that they wouldn't do that to me.
If you have to say the statement, yeah, I know she's my
friend and she's done this and that to her other friends, but
she wouldn't do it to me. It's already over.
You've already lied to yourself.You just gaslight yourself and
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you just took out the plaster and the putty and you just began
filling in gaps that will eventually wear away.
And then these massive gaping holes and cavities will
eventually rudely likely reveal themselves to you.
And then you will be like, she'snot the same person.
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I can't believe she did that to me after everything girl.
Like it's always been there. So if you really focus on what
they do, not what they say, you will slap yourself into reality
quicker in your interpersonal relationships.
OK. And then also what happens is
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then then you hold yourself to ahigher standard and then you say
things to yourself like it happened to me.
I was like, oh, I don't like when these things, when the
words and the actions don't align.
And then I thought, well, let memyself get better about that.
I still like, I will sometimes overestimate how much I can get
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done in a week's time. And then it turns out it takes
me a month, you know? So then I have to like catch
that, like, OK, I'll probably have it done by Friday.
And then it's like a month laterand I'm like, hi, hey, got to
tell, you know, entrepreneurshipis wild.
So all that to say, let's get super realistic when it comes to
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your expectations of others. OK, Now shifting to the other
type of expectation. This other type of expectation
is where delulu thrives. This is where you open the door
and you say, come on in delulu, you are so welcome to move in.
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And this is where we often fall short.
It is the expectation of possibilities.
This is the realm of possibilities, and this is the
realm of faith as well. And this is the realm of
abundant, abundant expectations,OK, very different than the
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realm of people. Expectations of people, OK, very
different. And unfortunately, we tend to go
really high in the realm of people where we should actually
go low. And then we go, we tend to go
low, OK, in the realm of expectation of faith, where we
should go high, like beyond, like like Michael Jordan, like
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beyond, OK, shooting our shot inthat realm.
And so that is the difference between the two.
So now we're in the realm of we're in the realm of
possibilities and faith. And this is where, like I said
earlier, the Lulu lives and she should live there.
And this is where there's no limit.
The realm of possibilities and faith does not have a budget.
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I'm going to repeat that. The realm of possibilities and
faith has no budget. So when you're coming into this
realm and you're saying to yourself, God, I just want to
make $10,000 a month, you just created a budget and you just
created a floor. You just created a limitation,
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OK? You need to literally get rid of
anything that creates a ceiling,a Max limit.
You got to get rid of all of that in this realm, OK, of
possibilities and faith. And you need to literally be
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like on a rocket ship of endlesspossibilities and wonder of what
is possible and be willing to test how far OK the responses
will come from. It's like we have like the
Hubble telescope and we have allthese massive like, you know,
telescopes and, and devices thatsend signals out to space and
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pick up signals. And it's like, oh, we received a
clicking sound from 300 billion light years away.
OK, That's how that's the average person's going to call
BS on all that. What fake, made-up fake news,
What the heck, whatever. OK, that's usually how we
operate in the realm of possibilities.
We're like, and when you talk toother people about what you
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believe is possible, you're going to, if you're surrounded
by people with limiting beliefs and who have not done the work
and and are not free, have not given themselves permission to
think freely about their possibilities, they're going to
sort of impose their their limits on you.
So you got to be really mindful of that as well.
You got to protect your realm ofpossibilities and faith.
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You do you really have to be a massive gatekeeper in many ways
as far as you know who you allowin that sphere.
OK, so in your realm of possibilities and faith, you
need to realize that you're going to enter it and you're
going to think that your ideas are really big, but they're
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microbes. They are microbes in size, OK?
They are like you need a magnifying, like you need a
magnifying glass with a little, the little thing and like the
little liquid and like zooming in and like microbes.
OK, Is the size at first. And then you got to once you get
these little pings and these green lights from God, as I call
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them, and you get these signals and signs that you are like
being heard and that you're going in the right direction and
that these things are validated.Then you got to really challenge
yourself to go bigger, go biggerin your thinking, go bigger in
your thinking and you will absolutely be amazed,
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astonished, surprised, in awe. All the words, OK, all the
words. It will become almost, it'll,
it'll feel very supernatural. It'll feel very like, oh, it'll
feel very woo woo. And I will warn that once you
start to get these pings back, do not start leaning in to like,
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Oh, well, if I get crystals and then if I do these meditations
with like tarot cards, like likedon't go veer all the way off
the grid, OK, Don't, don't, don't go that way.
OK, That's a trap. That's like a that's like a
black hole vortex never ending. Like that's there's a big price
to pay over there. OK.
But if you stay in the light andyou stay saying that you, you
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know, that you stay focused on the light and you stay focused
on your higher power, you know, for me, it's, you know, God in
the name of Jesus. And you guys heard me talk about
this. But if you just stay there
knowing that that that the creator of all things is the
abundance is the source, you don't got to go down the hall to
HR, which is like the universe. You don't got to do that.
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OK, You can go right to the creator, the founder, you know,
the CEO, you can go right to, tothe to him and stay right there
in the light in that lane of abundance.
There is no limits there. There is no treachery there.
There is no shadow people and places and traps and weird
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things. All things are working for your
greater good in that lane. OK, so find that lane, stay in
that lane, trust that lane and then run like hold hands with
delulu and faith and you know, delulu on on your right, faith
on your left, whatever the case.And then you just run in that
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lane in that direction of in that within the realm of
possibilities, running in your faith with your faith with your
with your delulu. And I mean, go for it.
And here is what I'm going to tell you regarding the limits
that I talked about earlier. If you're like, I just want to
make $10,000. I just want to make $25,000,
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that is fine. But money is a utility.
Money is a utility. It's a tool.
It's like a hammer in your belt.It's not required in order for
you to receive a wonderful outcome.
By saying if I had $25,000 I would be able to do XYZ, you are
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telling essentially God in the higher power that that he can
only do it that way. You are like signaling that you
don't believe that there are ways to achieve your outcome in
ways I should say that you cannot even comprehend because
you are not God. And so you put limits.
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So remove any aspects of money in this exercise.
Get rid of any number. You're going to realize as
you're doing the exercise that numbers keep popping up.
You're it's like we're just programmed right.
We come out the womb like money,no grow on trees and like, oh,
that person's rich and like, well, what does it mean to be
rich? Oh my God, they make this much
money. Like everything is tied somehow
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in our programming to getting togo to work like crazy people and
then make in exchange for money,time in exchange for money, like
effort, ideas, everything, everything.
People go, oh, you know, money makes the world go round.
It's your faith. It's your realm of
possibilities. It's your delulu.
OK, so there's like what? What makes the world go round
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for everybody else? And then there's you.
Then there's us in this other realm.
And it's and it's phenomenal. So do the exercise.
Get yourself in that realm and and and do not put limits on
your expectations there. If you start a business, let's
say when you start a business, OK, and I'll use CEO as an
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example, I had never built a business like CEO that's very
public facing. I had never done that.
The customer is essentially the public.
I had never done that. So when we started the company
though, the second we started it, I was like this company is
going to make $5 million. This company could probably have
an exit of you know, a billion dollar like I literally was
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treating energetically the company.
I dragged the company into my realms, my realm of
possibilities and I literally like watered it with faith and I
literally have not put dollar limits on it even though I just
mentioned dollars. I was like, oh, I can see it
easily making that much money. I can see it easily doing XYZI
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do have partners in that business.
I have actual business partners and so I recognize it
energetically. I'm not the only one that can
carry that into the realm of possibilities.
If any one of my partners now has any limit limiting beliefs
or any limitations in their thinking and stuff like that.
But I will say this, the second the ideas came to me and I was
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like talking to Deneen going, this is what I'm thinking.
This is the direction I, I, I sense that I'm supposed to be
going. Would you like to come along?
And she was like, let's do it and all this kind of stuff.
We really were ushering this brand into the infinite realm of
possibilities and literally pouring faith, you know, into
it, not knowing where it was going to go.
And in the early stages, the very, very beginning stages, it
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was literally boom. Like it just was like, boom
getting contacted by David Meltzer's people.
And it's like, Rachel, we're going to interview you.
And by the way, it wasn't they didn't, it wasn't for CEO, but I
was, it was the first interview that I got to leverage for the
brand CEO. It was so fun.
And then what was great about itwas he was like, CEOI want my
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daughters, you know, to be CEOI want my wife to be CEO.
Like this is so amazing. And to see this man who has, who
has accomplished many things, you know, really have become,
have an instant affinity for thebrand and the, the brand mission
right out the gate. It wasn't even, it wasn't even
fully built yet. And then it just then the PR
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opportunity just kept coming. And the expansion came within a
few months. All of a sudden we were
launching Latina. And all of a sudden there was
more opportunities that we were able to leverage.
I was invited to speak at an event.
The person producing that event said, Hey, you want to come on
TV with me? I said, sure, let's do it.
And then I got several opportunities to be on Latin
television. And then I brought my team with
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me. And for some people on the team,
it was their first time time being on television.
You know, Jackie on my team did the same thing.
She was invited on a network that she's been on several
times. And she leveraged that, you
know, for us to go with her. And again, the team, the other
team members who, you know, theydon't come from this, they have
the opportunity to to participate.
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So, so the whole thing was very expansive and has been very
expansive and continues to be very expansive even without the
revenue measurement of revenue that we would hope.
Of course we want millions of dollars.
But with not that we've been offered, you know, television
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OPS interviews, we've been offered beach houses that each
of them cost 25 million or more than that.
I mean, it's like so insane. And again, a lot of this is
coming through different connections and different
channels that have nothing to dowith CEO.
But because we're so sort of embedded in our abundant
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thinking for the brand, it all been it benefits all things.
It benefits us individually for our personal brands.
It benefits us for our our interpersonal relationships and
our professional relationship. That benefits us for, for CEO of
the brand and the optics of the brand, the PR side of the brand.
And that is that that is how expansive this is when you take
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anything you truly love that's not a person into the realm of
possibilities and faith without tying a dollar amount to it.
And if you can do that and really stretch your thinking,
and I mean, when you see someonefloating in the ocean on a huge
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yacht, to understand that they may not be necessarily the most
talented person, the smartest person, but they were very
determined and they had a beliefsystem that is more expansive
than everyone else's. That's all that is.
That is a manifestation of the expansive nature of their
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thinking and their competency totake an idea and move it forward
and faith without probably any signs that it's going to make
them that much money. I think that if you were to go
to these people and ask them, hey, when you started your first
business, did you believe that you would be this, you know,
billionaire? You know what I mean?
Nobody really asked that. And that's a really great, great
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question to ask because chances are they would say no, I had no,
I knew that I had it in me to besuccessful, but I didn't, I
didn't see all that. It's like as you travel down the
path, it's like the first expansion thought is maybe
you're just, you know, an A clerical, maybe you're just an
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office admin. And I don't mean just as like an
insult. I mean like the average job, you
know, you go to work, you sit ina cubicle, you work in an office
from 8:00 to 5:00 or whatever the case may be.
You collect your check, you havethe weekends off, you get your
hour lunch, maybe 2 breaks and you're doing that whole thing.
So even to think about starting a business on the side or
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leaving that to go all in on your side hustle or again,
starting a business that is stage 1 of expansion into the
realm of possibilities. Because you have this little
inkling that you're if, if, if so and so on, social media can
do it. That you know what, you could
probably do it too. Or maybe your uncle did it and
you're thinking, I think I can do it even better.
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Like that is your first little baby step.
That is like crawling into the rub of possibility and faith.
Once you're in there, like many of us, once you actually do that
thing and you get, you prove to yourself that you can actually
not only have the courage to make the leap, okay, it's a leap
knowing that a net will appear, but actually making a $100 in
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that business, $1000 in that business.
Once you make $100 or $1000 in any business, it's literally
just zeros and commas from there.
It really is. It's just, you're going to
realize it's just zeros and commas and what you do and if
what you do wins everything thatyou do that actually makes a
dollar, if you can replicate it and replicated in a way that is
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quick and that is effective and it that you can scale and you
have the energy and the systems and processes to repeat, you
will see $1,000,000. But what you do a few times and
then fizzle is just going to fizzle away.
OK. And so in, in that realm, once
you're in it and you're like, Ohmy God, not only did I leave my
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job and everyone said I was crazy, I was able to start this
business and I was able to through the fear and the
nervousness and the anxiety thatI feel during this whole thing.
I was able to get my first client.
I was able to make money. Now I just need to scale.
Once you make your first few dollars in any idea that you
executed, you are now well in the realm of possibilities and
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faith and you can go for it. You can say, OK, where am I
going with this? I am going to hot the to yachts
and helicopters. I am going to Monaco.
I am going to to heat whatever the case may be like.
Then begin to craft your outcomes.
I'm going to hire X amount of people.
I want to have an office and a high rise.
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We're really moving away from that sort of entrepreneurial
culture. We really are CEO was built to
be able to help women understandand inspire them that they can
in fact build businesses from home and make $1,000,000 or more
from home. And there are so many
opportunities now that are presenting themselves to be able
to do this. But when you get that little
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taste, you will be able to then see you're going to see
expansion within the initial realm of possibilities.
That's when you see people reaching the billionaire,
millionaire and billionaire status.
Because once they're in, they go, Oh my gosh, if I just, if I
got here just by thinking if they can, I can.
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And then not only if they can, Ican.
And I also did because I made $100 or $1000.
Cool. Now you can look ahead and go
wow like the it's limitless, like the possibilities are
endless, like the directions arelimitless, like and you will
test try things and test things and get excited and
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overconfident and and you can fail and no failure is just
failure. It's all a lesson in growth and
expansion in that. And that is what this episode is
about. Manage your expectations,
understand the power of expectations in the realm of
possibilities and faith, but andgrow that and focus on just
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being so limitless in that area and focus on the outcomes.
Think about the house you want. Don't think about the house you
think you can afford in a year. Think about if there were no
limits because God has no budget.
The realm of possibility has no budget.
It has an infinite abundant amount of resources that are
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available to you. Little old you, little old me.
OK, So what is the house? What does it look like?
Draw it. I remember praying one day with
my coffee, 'cause I do that outside in the sun and the birds
and I just start my day that way.
And, and it was like, draw it. Go right, right now, stop what
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you're doing. Go draw your house.
I'm like, I cannot even draw And, and sure as heck I drew it.
And ironically, there's actuallya house that looks exactly like
that on the front. So I don't know if that's just
like, you know, the influence, you know, I've seen this house a
long time ago. Anyways, I drew it.
It's a crazy sketch. If it ever, if it does come true
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or when it comes true, I will doan episode on that.
So I could show you the actual house versus what I drew.
But but yeah, it was like, draw,like, go that far, draw it out,
like put the Pinterest board together.
What does your house look like? What does your master bedroom
look like? And I've talked about this
before. You need to reset your
expectations to the highest level.
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You are running a business. Your expectations of the outcome
of that business need to be amplified, multiplied, OK, by
like a lot, by like Infinity, bylike 100.
But whatever you got to do in your head, draw it out, get
ready and also like get ready, get ready, get prepared to
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receive the outcomes that you desire.
That is like locking in the belief in that realm, OK, the
realm of possibilities. It's not just enough to dream
big. Now you got to expect, OK, That
is what I mean. You got to then expect these
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things to come true. Not OK.
I got to make 10,000 this month and if I don't I feel like a
loser. No Jess, it doesn't matter what
you see in front of you today. It literally doesn't matter what
you see in your bank account today.
It literally doesn't matter if you're living in a 1400 square
foot townhome today. It doesn't matter if you don't
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know how you're going to pay your rent or mortgage or bills
today. The realm of possibilities is
not limited by that. It does not care about that.
That is irrelevant. It's a non factor in the realm
of possibilities and faith. OK, it can change in an instant
for you. It does not care.
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It does not care that you're going through a divorce and you
don't know how you're going to feed your kids.
It does not care. Go expect a wonderful dinner.
Expect the lights to stay on. Expect the rent to get paid.
Expect that business idea that you have in you to become the
generational game changer in your family, in your bloodline.
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Expect it and then get focused, get the tools you need to
succeed and get to work. Let's go.
Welcome to another episode of the Rachel Unpacked podcast.
I am your host Rachel Medina andin every episode we talk about
mindset, wealth, building and faith for every girlie who is
looking to change and level up her life.
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to teach you how they did it so that you can succeed too.
Let's go. The immense power of
expectations is often overlookedor underestimated and I am here
to tell you that you, you are going to shift your thinking
regarding your expectations in away that will likely be a
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massive game changer for your life moving forward.
This is not fluff. This is something that I have
personally put into practice many, many years over now and it
has truly helped me in every area of my life, be it business,
personal relationships, and I mean like even back in my
marriage and after divorce and in my business partnerships and
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in my friendships and beyond andeven in my faith.
So let's get into it. Expectations.
I'm going to lead with the the con.
I'm going to lead with the bad news.
OK, I'm going to give you the bad news 1st.
I'm going to hold my hand. Hold your hand while I say this.
And that is, you are filled and constantly met with
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disappointment because of your expectations.
What do I mean by that? You are expecting too much of
people, OK. You're expecting too much of
others. And this is so counter intuitive
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in the time that we live in withregards to romantic
relationships and marriage and equality and all of these
different things. But if you can learn to manage
your expectations and take accountability.
Let's just talk romance romance for a minute.
Take accountability for the factthat you chose a certain
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individual knowing that you see that maybe they're not romantic
or they can be, but you you haveto sort of nudge them or take
the lead. You know, they're not as
thoughtful, but maybe you were so enamored with them and you
really were an optimist and wanted the relationship to work.
So you were, you know, OK with them not really taking certain
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initiatives or being romantic or, you know, opening up about
their feelings or whatever the case may be because you filled
in the gaps. You filled in the gaps.
I have AAI deal with dyslexia. I've had it since I was really
young and one of the things thathad and I don't have it like
bad, bad, but I do have it and it still lingers.
And one of the things that dyslexia does is when I'm
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reading something, let's just say I wrote something, I'll give
you that better example. If I wrote something or typed an
e-mail or whatever, my brain doesn't notice that I'm missing
certain words, OK, or letters for that matter, because my
brain is filling in the gaps. It's like gaslighting itself
into thinking I did it. I, I, I completed the statement
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or you know, wrote it very well.You are likely doing that to
yourself when it comes to relationships.
You see the red flags and you proceed anyways because you fill
in those gaps. Your, your essence, your energy,
your optimism, your love, your kindness, consideration,
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patience, all those things are sort of like putty and it's
filling in their gaps, the gaps in their character.
Then Fast forward, OK, and you are now maybe married, you had
your kids or whatever the case may be, and you are not as
enamored. OK, yes, you still love the
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person obviously and you're dedicated, but you're not as
enamored. So you're not as like your
muscle memory isn't it isn't like filling in the gaps for
them. Now you see the gaps.
And by the way, whatever you didin the past, all that work you
did to plaster the gaps, OK, in the in this person, it's, it's
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wearing down, right? Because wear and tear, of
course. And then now you just see these
massive gaps. You think they fell out of love.
You think like you're frustratedbecause you're expecting them to
rise up and, and, and bridge those gaps willingly and
intentionally on their own. But they didn't get to be your
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husband or your partner because they were ever willing to do
that. It's nuts.
Probably deserves its own episode.
But the point of the matter is, is then you have this
expectation of them that doesn'teven match who they actually
are. It doesn't match their track
record. It doesn't match, it doesn't
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align. Your expectations become a hope
and it becomes a benchmarker of what you need from them, not
what they have demonstrated. That is their capacity to give
to you. Like it doesn't align, it
doesn't match. This happens across the board.
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This happens whether you're hiring somebody and they have a
really great personality and youreally like them and you see
some potential in them. It doesn't mean that they have
demonstrated their their competency and ability to
actually execute in that way effectively.
OK, But you see something in them, boom, you're filling in
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the gaps. That's OK.
You know what? I'm going to promote them.
That's OK. I'm going to give them these
responsibilities. That's OK.
I'm actually just going to go ahead and give them more money
because I want them to stay because I really like them.
And we do that in a lot of different areas of our lives and
even with our own blood relatives.
And then we have these massive expectations.
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And often times those expectations might actually be a
reflection of what we would do. So it's it's more about like, I
know I love this person in my family and if they ever need me,
I know that I would drop everything and go be there for
them, for example. But it doesn't mean that that's
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how they're wired or that that'show they're built.
And I think it's really important as much as we talk
about right, talk about on the show about being delusional, we
talk about delulu, you know, a lot of delulu stuff in CEO and
how it got us, you know, to thislike, so our first, you know,
$1,000,000 business multi $1,000,000 business.
So that has its place. And that's you could listen to
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old episodes and, and, and decipher that.
But in the context of expectations, you really, when
it comes to other people, OK, when it comes to other
individuals, other people, OK, you need to probably be the most
realistic. That is where delulu needs to
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kind of go out of the way. At least delulu has her place.
And it's not in interpersonal relationships.
And you need to see people for who they are.
I recently did a video that said, you know, don't listen to
what they say, watch what they do.
And if you can get in that habitin your interpersonal
relationships, you will then learn to manage your
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expectations. And by managing your
expectations, you will reduce the amount of times that you
will be met with disappointment because people who you hold high
expectations for or towards are,oh, they're going to disappoint
you. OK, So you need to really look
not at their potential. Look at their track record,
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period, their track record. You could look at their track
record before you and and say toyourself, OK, I'd like to
believe that they wouldn't do that to me.
If you have to say the statement, yeah, I know she's my
friend and she's done this and that to her other friends, but
she wouldn't do it to me. It's already over.
You've already lied to yourself.You just gaslight yourself and
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you just took out the plaster and the putty and you just began
filling in gaps that will eventually wear away.
And then these massive gaping holes and cavities will
eventually rudely likely reveal themselves to you.
And then you will be like, she'snot the same person.
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I can't believe she did that to me after everything girl.
Like it's always been there. So if you really focus on what
they do, not what they say, you will slap yourself into reality
quicker in your interpersonal relationships.
OK. And then also what happens is
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then then you hold yourself to ahigher standard and then you say
things to yourself like it happened to me.
I was like, oh, I don't like when these things, when the
words and the actions don't align.
And then I thought, well, let memyself get better about that.
I still like, I will sometimes overestimate how much I can get
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done in a week's time. And then it turns out it takes
me a month, you know? So then I have to like catch
that, like, OK, I'll probably have it done by Friday.
And then it's like a month laterand I'm like, hi, hey, got to
tell, you know, entrepreneurshipis wild.
So all that to say, let's get super realistic when it comes to
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your expectations of others. OK, Now shifting to the other
type of expectation. This other type of expectation
is where delulu thrives. This is where you open the door
and you say, come on in delulu, you are so welcome to move in.
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And this is where we often fall short.
It is the expectation of possibilities.
This is the realm of possibilities, and this is the
realm of faith as well. And this is the realm of
abundant, abundant expectations,OK, very different than the
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realm of people. Expectations of people, OK, very
different. And unfortunately, we tend to go
really high in the realm of people where we should actually
go low. And then we go, we tend to go
low, OK, in the realm of expectation of faith, where we
should go high, like beyond, like like Michael Jordan, like
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beyond, OK, shooting our shot inthat realm.
And so that is the difference between the two.
So now we're in the realm of we're in the realm of
possibilities and faith. And this is where, like I said
earlier, the Lulu lives and she should live there.
And this is where there's no limit.
The realm of possibilities and faith does not have a budget.
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I'm going to repeat that. The realm of possibilities and
faith has no budget. So when you're coming into this
realm and you're saying to yourself, God, I just want to
make $10,000 a month, you just created a budget and you just
created a floor. You just created a limitation,
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OK? You need to literally get rid of
anything that creates a ceiling,a Max limit.
You got to get rid of all of that in this realm, OK, of
possibilities and faith. And you need to literally be
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like on a rocket ship of endlesspossibilities and wonder of what
is possible and be willing to test how far OK the responses
will come from. It's like we have like the
Hubble telescope and we have allthese massive like, you know,
telescopes and, and devices thatsend signals out to space and
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pick up signals. And it's like, oh, we received a
clicking sound from 300 billion light years away.
OK, That's how that's the average person's going to call
BS on all that. What fake, made-up fake news,
What the heck, whatever. OK, that's usually how we
operate in the realm of possibilities.
We're like, and when you talk toother people about what you
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believe is possible, you're going to, if you're surrounded
by people with limiting beliefs and who have not done the work
and and are not free, have not given themselves permission to
think freely about their possibilities, they're going to
sort of impose their their limits on you.
So you got to be really mindful of that as well.
You got to protect your realm ofpossibilities and faith.
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You do you really have to be a massive gatekeeper in many ways
as far as you know who you allowin that sphere.
OK, so in your realm of possibilities and faith, you
need to realize that you're going to enter it and you're
going to think that your ideas are really big, but they're
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microbes. They are microbes in size, OK?
They are like you need a magnifying, like you need a
magnifying glass with a little, the little thing and like the
little liquid and like zooming in and like microbes.
OK, Is the size at first. And then you got to once you get
these little pings and these green lights from God, as I call
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them, and you get these signals and signs that you are like
being heard and that you're going in the right direction and
that these things are validated.Then you got to really challenge
yourself to go bigger, go biggerin your thinking, go bigger in
your thinking and you will absolutely be amazed,
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astonished, surprised, in awe. All the words, OK, all the
words. It will become almost, it'll,
it'll feel very supernatural. It'll feel very like, oh, it'll
feel very woo woo. And I will warn that once you
start to get these pings back, do not start leaning in to like,
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Oh, well, if I get crystals and then if I do these meditations
with like tarot cards, like likedon't go veer all the way off
the grid, OK, Don't, don't, don't go that way.
OK, That's a trap. That's like a that's like a
black hole vortex never ending. Like that's there's a big price
to pay over there. OK.
But if you stay in the light andyou stay saying that you, you
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know, that you stay focused on the light and you stay focused
on your higher power, you know, for me, it's, you know, God in
the name of Jesus. And you guys heard me talk about
this. But if you just stay there
knowing that that that the creator of all things is the
abundance is the source, you don't got to go down the hall to
HR, which is like the universe. You don't got to do that.
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OK, You can go right to the creator, the founder, you know,
the CEO, you can go right to, tothe to him and stay right there
in the light in that lane of abundance.
There is no limits there. There is no treachery there.
There is no shadow people and places and traps and weird
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things. All things are working for your
greater good in that lane. OK, so find that lane, stay in
that lane, trust that lane and then run like hold hands with
delulu and faith and you know, delulu on on your right, faith
on your left, whatever the case.And then you just run in that
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lane in that direction of in that within the realm of
possibilities, running in your faith with your faith with your
with your delulu. And I mean, go for it.
And here is what I'm going to tell you regarding the limits
that I talked about earlier. If you're like, I just want to
make $10,000. I just want to make $25,000,
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that is fine. But money is a utility.
Money is a utility. It's a tool.
It's like a hammer in your belt.It's not required in order for
you to receive a wonderful outcome.
By saying if I had $25,000 I would be able to do XYZ, you are
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telling essentially God in the higher power that that he can
only do it that way. You are like signaling that you
don't believe that there are ways to achieve your outcome in
ways I should say that you cannot even comprehend because
you are not God. And so you put limits.
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So remove any aspects of money in this exercise.
Get rid of any number. You're going to realize as
you're doing the exercise that numbers keep popping up.
You're it's like we're just programmed right.
We come out the womb like money,no grow on trees and like, oh,
that person's rich and like, well, what does it mean to be
rich? Oh my God, they make this much
money. Like everything is tied somehow
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in our programming to getting togo to work like crazy people and
then make in exchange for money,time in exchange for money, like
effort, ideas, everything, everything.
People go, oh, you know, money makes the world go round.
It's your faith. It's your realm of
possibilities. It's your delulu.
OK, so there's like what? What makes the world go round
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for everybody else? And then there's you.
Then there's us in this other realm.
And it's and it's phenomenal. So do the exercise.
Get yourself in that realm and and and do not put limits on
your expectations there. If you start a business, let's
say when you start a business, OK, and I'll use CEO as an
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example, I had never built a business like CEO that's very
public facing. I had never done that.
The customer is essentially the public.
I had never done that. So when we started the company
though, the second we started it, I was like this company is
going to make $5 million. This company could probably have
an exit of you know, a billion dollar like I literally was
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treating energetically the company.
I dragged the company into my realms, my realm of
possibilities and I literally like watered it with faith and I
literally have not put dollar limits on it even though I just
mentioned dollars. I was like, oh, I can see it
easily making that much money. I can see it easily doing XYZI
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do have partners in that business.
I have actual business partners and so I recognize it
energetically. I'm not the only one that can
carry that into the realm of possibilities.
If any one of my partners now has any limit limiting beliefs
or any limitations in their thinking and stuff like that.
But I will say this, the second the ideas came to me and I was
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like talking to Deneen going, this is what I'm thinking.
This is the direction I, I, I sense that I'm supposed to be
going. Would you like to come along?
And she was like, let's do it and all this kind of stuff.
We really were ushering this brand into the infinite realm of
possibilities and literally pouring faith, you know, into
it, not knowing where it was going to go.
And in the early stages, the very, very beginning stages, it
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was literally boom. Like it just was like, boom
getting contacted by David Meltzer's people.
And it's like, Rachel, we're going to interview you.
And by the way, it wasn't they didn't, it wasn't for CEO, but I
was, it was the first interview that I got to leverage for the
brand CEO. It was so fun.
And then what was great about itwas he was like, CEOI want my
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daughters, you know, to be CEOI want my wife to be CEO.
Like this is so amazing. And to see this man who has, who
has accomplished many things, you know, really have become,
have an instant affinity for thebrand and the, the brand mission
right out the gate. It wasn't even, it wasn't even
fully built yet. And then it just then the PR
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opportunity just kept coming. And the expansion came within a
few months. All of a sudden we were
launching Latina. And all of a sudden there was
more opportunities that we were able to leverage.
I was invited to speak at an event.
The person producing that event said, Hey, you want to come on
TV with me? I said, sure, let's do it.
And then I got several opportunities to be on Latin
television. And then I brought my team with
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me. And for some people on the team,
it was their first time time being on television.
You know, Jackie on my team did the same thing.
She was invited on a network that she's been on several
times. And she leveraged that, you
know, for us to go with her. And again, the team, the other
team members who, you know, theydon't come from this, they have
the opportunity to to participate.
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So, so the whole thing was very expansive and has been very
expansive and continues to be very expansive even without the
revenue measurement of revenue that we would hope.
Of course we want millions of dollars.
But with not that we've been offered, you know, television
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OPS interviews, we've been offered beach houses that each
of them cost 25 million or more than that.
I mean, it's like so insane. And again, a lot of this is
coming through different connections and different
channels that have nothing to dowith CEO.
But because we're so sort of embedded in our abundant
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thinking for the brand, it all been it benefits all things.
It benefits us individually for our personal brands.
It benefits us for our our interpersonal relationships and
our professional relationship. That benefits us for, for CEO of
the brand and the optics of the brand, the PR side of the brand.
And that is that that is how expansive this is when you take
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anything you truly love that's not a person into the realm of
possibilities and faith without tying a dollar amount to it.
And if you can do that and really stretch your thinking,
and I mean, when you see someonefloating in the ocean on a huge
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yacht, to understand that they may not be necessarily the most
talented person, the smartest person, but they were very
determined and they had a beliefsystem that is more expansive
than everyone else's. That's all that is.
That is a manifestation of the expansive nature of their
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thinking and their competency totake an idea and move it forward
and faith without probably any signs that it's going to make
them that much money. I think that if you were to go
to these people and ask them, hey, when you started your first
business, did you believe that you would be this, you know,
billionaire? You know what I mean?
Nobody really asked that. And that's a really great, great
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question to ask because chances are they would say no, I had no,
I knew that I had it in me to besuccessful, but I didn't, I
didn't see all that. It's like as you travel down the
path, it's like the first expansion thought is maybe
you're just, you know, an A clerical, maybe you're just an
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office admin. And I don't mean just as like an
insult. I mean like the average job, you
know, you go to work, you sit ina cubicle, you work in an office
from 8:00 to 5:00 or whatever the case may be.
You collect your check, you havethe weekends off, you get your
hour lunch, maybe 2 breaks and you're doing that whole thing.
So even to think about starting a business on the side or
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leaving that to go all in on your side hustle or again,
starting a business that is stage 1 of expansion into the
realm of possibilities. Because you have this little
inkling that you're if, if, if so and so on, social media can
do it. That you know what, you could
probably do it too. Or maybe your uncle did it and
you're thinking, I think I can do it even better.
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Like that is your first little baby step.
That is like crawling into the rub of possibility and faith.
Once you're in there, like many of us, once you actually do that
thing and you get, you prove to yourself that you can actually
not only have the courage to make the leap, okay, it's a leap
knowing that a net will appear, but actually making a $100 in
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that business, $1000 in that business.
Once you make $100 or $1000 in any business, it's literally
just zeros and commas from there.
It really is. It's just, you're going to
realize it's just zeros and commas and what you do and if
what you do wins everything thatyou do that actually makes a
dollar, if you can replicate it and replicated in a way that is
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quick and that is effective and it that you can scale and you
have the energy and the systems and processes to repeat, you
will see $1,000,000. But what you do a few times and
then fizzle is just going to fizzle away.
OK. And so in, in that realm, once
you're in it and you're like, Ohmy God, not only did I leave my
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job and everyone said I was crazy, I was able to start this
business and I was able to through the fear and the
nervousness and the anxiety thatI feel during this whole thing.
I was able to get my first client.
I was able to make money. Now I just need to scale.
Once you make your first few dollars in any idea that you
executed, you are now well in the realm of possibilities and
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faith and you can go for it. You can say, OK, where am I
going with this? I am going to hot the to yachts
and helicopters. I am going to Monaco.
I am going to to heat whatever the case may be like.
Then begin to craft your outcomes.
I'm going to hire X amount of people.
I want to have an office and a high rise.
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We're really moving away from that sort of entrepreneurial
culture. We really are CEO was built to
be able to help women understandand inspire them that they can
in fact build businesses from home and make $1,000,000 or more
from home. And there are so many
opportunities now that are presenting themselves to be able
to do this. But when you get that little
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taste, you will be able to then see you're going to see
expansion within the initial realm of possibilities.
That's when you see people reaching the billionaire,
millionaire and billionaire status.
Because once they're in, they go, Oh my gosh, if I just, if I
got here just by thinking if they can, I can.
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And then not only if they can, Ican.
And I also did because I made $100 or $1000.
Cool. Now you can look ahead and go
wow like the it's limitless, like the possibilities are
endless, like the directions arelimitless, like and you will
test try things and test things and get excited and
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overconfident and and you can fail and no failure is just
failure. It's all a lesson in growth and
expansion in that. And that is what this episode is
about. Manage your expectations,
understand the power of expectations in the realm of
possibilities and faith, but andgrow that and focus on just
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being so limitless in that area and focus on the outcomes.
Think about the house you want. Don't think about the house you
think you can afford in a year. Think about if there were no
limits because God has no budget.
The realm of possibility has no budget.
It has an infinite abundant amount of resources that are
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available to you. Little old you, little old me.
OK, So what is the house? What does it look like?
Draw it. I remember praying one day with
my coffee, 'cause I do that outside in the sun and the birds
and I just start my day that way.
And, and it was like, draw it. Go right, right now, stop what
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you're doing. Go draw your house.
I'm like, I cannot even draw And, and sure as heck I drew it.
And ironically, there's actuallya house that looks exactly like
that on the front. So I don't know if that's just
like, you know, the influence, you know, I've seen this house a
long time ago. Anyways, I drew it.
It's a crazy sketch. If it ever, if it does come true
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or when it comes true, I will doan episode on that.
So I could show you the actual house versus what I drew.
But but yeah, it was like, draw,like, go that far, draw it out,
like put the Pinterest board together.
What does your house look like? What does your master bedroom
look like? And I've talked about this
before. You need to reset your
expectations to the highest level.
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You are running a business. Your expectations of the outcome
of that business need to be amplified, multiplied, OK, by
like a lot, by like Infinity, bylike 100.
But whatever you got to do in your head, draw it out, get
ready and also like get ready, get ready, get prepared to
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receive the outcomes that you desire.
That is like locking in the belief in that realm, OK, the
realm of possibilities. It's not just enough to dream
big. Now you got to expect, OK, That
is what I mean. You got to then expect these
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things to come true. Not OK.
I got to make 10,000 this month and if I don't I feel like a
loser. No Jess, it doesn't matter what
you see in front of you today. It literally doesn't matter what
you see in your bank account today.
It literally doesn't matter if you're living in a 1400 square
foot townhome today. It doesn't matter if you don't
(31:18):
know how you're going to pay your rent or mortgage or bills
today. The realm of possibilities is
not limited by that. It does not care about that.
That is irrelevant. It's a non factor in the realm
of possibilities and faith. OK, it can change in an instant
for you. It does not care.
(31:40):
It does not care that you're going through a divorce and you
don't know how you're going to feed your kids.
It does not care. Go expect a wonderful dinner.
Expect the lights to stay on. Expect the rent to get paid.
Expect that business idea that you have in you to become the
generational game changer in your family, in your bloodline.
(32:05):
Expect it and then get focused, get the tools you need to
succeed and get to work. Let's go.
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