August 4, 2025 • 14 mins
Healing in public can look like starting a business when your scared, posting content when you just want to hide, leading the team meeting when your heart is broken, and showing up like the girl who has it all together when you’re actually on the verge of tears.
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(00:00):
Welcome to another episode of the Rachel Unpacked podcast.
I am your host Rachel Medina andin every episode we talk about
mindset, wealth, building and faith for every girlie who is
looking to change and level up her life.
If you want to follow me on social media, you can do so at
Rachel Medina 101 or visit my website rachelmedina.com.
But if you are ready to build a business in a life that you
(00:23):
love, head on over to our new she eox.com site again she EO
x.com where you are going to find a tribe of like minded
business building dream aspiringgirl.
He's just like you, connecting, learning and growing together.
And a new CEO X Partnership program means we attract the
(00:43):
talented, experienced and successful women who are ready
to teach you how they did it so that you can succeed too.
Let's go. God brought me out of places
most people didn't even realize I was in.
If this is a place that you are in as you're listening to this
episode, understand that, as cliche as it sounds, you are not
(01:05):
actually alone. There are thousands, if not
hundreds of thousands, maybe even millions of people who
appear to have it all together on social media, but that are
suffering in silence that they are quietly healing in public.
And what this looks like is a woman maybe who, like myself,
found herself heartbroken, divorced, maybe lost her job,
(01:28):
uncertain about where her careeris going, how she's going to pay
the bills, how she's going to raise her children or feed them
for that matter, and suddenly decides to start a business.
You might look at someone like that and go, wow, she's so
inspirational. She's showing up on social
media. She seems so happy.
It looks like she's winning. I'm now encouraged to pursue my
own dreams of starting a business or a hair salon or
(01:49):
whatever the case may be becauseI see her doing it.
She's so happy doing it. You don't realize the cross that
she might be carrying in silencebehind the scenes when the
cameras aren't rolling, when she's not posting on social
media, when she's not dealing with clients and customers.
That is the reality for a lot ofwomen that are healing while
essentially continuing to have to row the boat.
(02:12):
This happens a lot with single mothers.
This happens a lot with wives. Women that are mourning you when
you lost a loved one. I myself have been hit hard in
this area and my instincts, my natural muscle memory, intuition
was to knock it out of bed, was to cry, was to stay home in my
(02:34):
pajamas and just curl up with tissue paper, maybe even drink a
bottle of wine. Whatever the case may be, that
was my instinct. But my action and my reaction
was the utter and complete opposite because I was at the
same time needing to row the boat or the boat was going to
sink. You know, I had my children on
it. I had, you know, a town home I
was living with, I'm living in, I had bills.
(02:55):
I had all of these different things I needed to do and
maintain in order to stay afloat.
And so there was no time, there was no opportunity to just like
sit in it. And so showing up in public,
whether it's in the workplace, in the meetings, you know, on
Zoom, when you really just want to cry, you know, starting that
next project and saying, hey, I'll take the lead on that.
(03:17):
When really you just need a vacation, you know, showing up
on social media, happy as can be, inspiring people when you
really are dealing with a heartbreak or mourning a huge
loss, when you really just need a hug and a prayer.
These are the ways that so many of us are healing quietly in
(03:41):
public. But I'm here to tell you that
that to me is the greatest gift of all, the ability.
And I don't even know if it's anability.
It's almost like you just have no choice.
It feels like right. But to have the option to sit in
a dark room and do nothing for three months but cry isn't
(04:02):
healthy either. I know we're living in a time
and in a society that talks about holding space and to allow
ourselves to crash out. I'm seeing millennials talk
about they're crashing out on their cars and they're screaming
out loud and they're letting theemotions out and, and again, I'm
a Gen. Xer, so I come from a, a, a suck
it up buttercup, you know, era. However I can.
(04:22):
I, I feel an immense gratitude for that.
I can see the tendency to believe that that's not healthy.
I could see the tendency to believe that, you know, I need
just to sit somewhere for a weekand just cry.
I, I understand that part of it it as well and it would probably
(04:42):
feel very good and bad to be able to do that.
I just don't see how that will benefit me any in any way.
But maybe my nervous system really needs it.
But the reason I wanted to do this episode in this way is for
those of you listening who are judging the journey of others,
(05:03):
For those of you listening who see someone on social media
posting a few weeks or days or, you know, whatever the time
period is after someone passed away and cringing at that and
thinking, like, what are they doing?
You know, especially like for myself, that you know, it's part
of your job to show up and yet it's no one's business what's
(05:27):
happening in your personal life.It's up to you.
It's up to them, the creator, whoever the person is, the
entrepreneur, it's up to them todecide what is part of the show
and just what isn't. And when I lost my son, that was
a dilemma that I had because I had so many commitments in
(05:49):
motion before he passed away that we're still very much
active once he died. And I had to figure out how long
to hold that pause button. Instinctually, I wanted to hold
it forever. Instinctually, nothing was the
same. There was the version of me,
(06:10):
the, the, the, the minutes that the, the moments before he
passed. And there was the version of me
after he passed. Those two versions of me are not
the same and will likely never be the same.
But when it came to my commitments and my
responsibilities and obviously the burdens and, and all these
different things, the worries and the concerns in my life,
professionally, personally, evenromantically at that time for
(06:32):
that matter, everything was on pause.
But I could only hold pause for so long.
Many things fell away in my personal life.
Lots of things in my personal life fell away.
But in my professional life, I had to go into survival
instinct. I went into fight or flight.
I went into this weird sort of autopilot mode in order to get
(06:56):
through and, and in a lot of aspects I'm still there.
And even while I've been there, by the way, sort of by just on
autopilot doing the best that I can with what I have left for
that matter, I've been hit with even more blows.
And you know, nothing will be asprofound as losing my son.
(07:16):
However, the, the losses that I have faced and dealt with since
then of people I really truly admire and love and respect and
adore has been excruciating because many of these losses, a
few of these losses have happened in private.
And, and because I don't have control over that decision to
(07:38):
keep things private, but to haveto then show up in public
business as usual. While I was, I was already in
sort of the red zone regarding my nervous system, regarding my
emotions, regarding my, my own personal will to even care about
half of these things in my professional life has not been
(08:00):
easy. And the reason I share that
with, with this with you right now is if you are a person who
sees people showing up on socialmedia or in the workplace and
they seem bubbly and they seem whatever, and you're judging
them. It could be anyone.
You could be judging the way they do their hair.
You could be judging that they have a double chin like I myself
(08:21):
do on in many occasions. You might be judging why, why
are they wearing that outfit? They get, they get invited to
that. Why are they dressed like that?
Or, you know, how come they don't come around the family
like we have all these events and they don't even come visit
like, but yet they're at these work things or they seem to be
very active because again, you're looking at their social
media. I am doing this episode as a
(08:41):
call to action to stop judging because you don't know how
someone is suffering in silence.You don't know the healing
journey that they are on while they are trying to build that
business. Why?
While they are trying to create content on social media and be a
(09:02):
content creator. While they're trying to do
whatever they know how to do. And they're in their, in their
best possible way to show up forwork and provide for themselves
and their children and their family and in whatever dreams
they might have, right, If there's even room to dream
sometimes in that aspect. So this is a call to say, let's
stop judging. And, and, and on the flip side
(09:24):
of that same coin, let's stop envying, stop being jealous of
people that appear to be living the life that you wish you had.
You do not know the price that they are paying for that.
You do not know the cross that they are bearing for that.
You don't know the tears that they're shedding at night while
(09:45):
they're on, you know, that boat,that vacation, that wearing that
bag, whatever the case may be. And I'm not just talking the
drama, the dramatic stuff like Iused to talk about on the
podcast with my friend Dalia. You know, it could be abuse.
It could be emotionally emotional abuse.
It could be adultery. And and the woman hasn't gotten
the courage to walk away becauseof the love of her children.
(10:06):
There's a lot of aspects and things in layers that a woman
carries with her on the journey of life And even to have the
pretty house or you know, to, tohave the success, successful
business, whatever the case may be, do not envy anyone,
especially like don't envy theirbody.
You don't know if she has tumors, cancers, anemia,
(10:26):
whatever the case may be, you just don't know.
And so if you can just learn to scroll, OK, without judging,
what a wonderful karmic relief you will be giving yourself,
what a immense amount of peace you'll be bringing to yourself
and energetically possibly to those people that you're looking
(10:48):
at into the world because you just have no idea what they are
balancing, what they are doing to survive.
And you might think that that content piece that they're
creating is silly because who? Who are they to think that they
can one day be a Kardashian whenyou don't know that that's
what's keeping them here? You don't know if selling stuff
(11:11):
on TikTok shop. That's so funny because I've
been testing TikTok shop, but I've been following creators who
do TikTok shop and hearing some of these stay at home mom
stories and stuff like that. Like you don't know if that's
what's keeping their sanity. You don't know if a rant on a
podcast is actually keeping thatpodcaster alive.
You just don't know if you know pursuing that business idea that
(11:37):
seems like ridiculous to you or seems like a saturated area to
you. Oh, it's never going to work for
her. I don't know why she would do
that. You don't know if just believing
in the possibilities of it beingpossible for her is keeping her
here. In other words, shut your mouth.
I'm going to just say it. Shut your mouth, turn off that
(12:00):
naysayer attitude. Stop judging every person
placing and, and, and whatever that you just feel like it's OK
to say because you're behind theother side of the screen.
You don't know, you don't understand.
And I myself have been in the trenches where I clicked record
on this podcast seven seasons ago just to find my footing.
(12:25):
You know, I wasn't on the verge of suicide or anything like
that, but I was. I was in the trenches of not
knowing how to care about makingmoney, how to care about
anything. I just wanted to lay in bed,
curl up and cry and mourn my son, but instead I chose to find
(12:47):
a way to thrive and reach forward towards that sunlight
like a flower in the desert. I tried my best to be here and
be a version of myself for my other son that was worthwhile
that that that he could recognize as that mom that he's
always known, loved and trusted and and adored.
And now I continue to do that for myself and to show up for
(13:11):
myself in ways that I can recognize as like, hey, like
this feels more like me. So do don't judge.
Listen, you could judge me all you want, but it's not going to
affect me at this point because I am on some other level of
stuff. And you can listen to other
episodes about that. But there are people that are
hanging by such a thin thread. They're in your workplace,
(13:31):
they're in schools in the in thecarpooling next to you in the in
the mommy drop off. They are at the park sitting
there pushing the kid on the swing.
They are in church sitting thereholding back tears.
And they are on social media smiling and doing trending
videos and selling TikTok shop products and and showing up on
(13:52):
Instagram, you know, like an influencer and hosting podcast
episodes and starting businesses.
They are all around us. Please, I urge you, have grace,
have mercy. And you know what?
Have some respect for yourself in that regard as well.
Let's go.
Welcome to another episode of the Rachel Unpacked podcast.
I am your host Rachel Medina andin every episode we talk about
mindset, wealth, building and faith for every girlie who is
looking to change and level up her life.
If you want to follow me on social media, you can do so at
Rachel Medina 101 or visit my website rachelmedina.com.
But if you are ready to build a business in a life that you
(00:23):
love, head on over to our new she eox.com site again she EO
x.com where you are going to find a tribe of like minded
business building dream aspiringgirl.
He's just like you, connecting, learning and growing together.
And a new CEO X Partnership program means we attract the
(00:43):
talented, experienced and successful women who are ready
to teach you how they did it so that you can succeed too.
Let's go. God brought me out of places
most people didn't even realize I was in.
If this is a place that you are in as you're listening to this
episode, understand that, as cliche as it sounds, you are not
(01:05):
actually alone. There are thousands, if not
hundreds of thousands, maybe even millions of people who
appear to have it all together on social media, but that are
suffering in silence that they are quietly healing in public.
And what this looks like is a woman maybe who, like myself,
found herself heartbroken, divorced, maybe lost her job,
(01:28):
uncertain about where her careeris going, how she's going to pay
the bills, how she's going to raise her children or feed them
for that matter, and suddenly decides to start a business.
You might look at someone like that and go, wow, she's so
inspirational. She's showing up on social
media. She seems so happy.
It looks like she's winning. I'm now encouraged to pursue my
own dreams of starting a business or a hair salon or
(01:49):
whatever the case may be becauseI see her doing it.
She's so happy doing it. You don't realize the cross that
she might be carrying in silencebehind the scenes when the
cameras aren't rolling, when she's not posting on social
media, when she's not dealing with clients and customers.
That is the reality for a lot ofwomen that are healing while
essentially continuing to have to row the boat.
(02:12):
This happens a lot with single mothers.
This happens a lot with wives. Women that are mourning you when
you lost a loved one. I myself have been hit hard in
this area and my instincts, my natural muscle memory, intuition
was to knock it out of bed, was to cry, was to stay home in my
(02:34):
pajamas and just curl up with tissue paper, maybe even drink a
bottle of wine. Whatever the case may be, that
was my instinct. But my action and my reaction
was the utter and complete opposite because I was at the
same time needing to row the boat or the boat was going to
sink. You know, I had my children on
it. I had, you know, a town home I
was living with, I'm living in, I had bills.
(02:55):
I had all of these different things I needed to do and
maintain in order to stay afloat.
And so there was no time, there was no opportunity to just like
sit in it. And so showing up in public,
whether it's in the workplace, in the meetings, you know, on
Zoom, when you really just want to cry, you know, starting that
next project and saying, hey, I'll take the lead on that.
(03:17):
When really you just need a vacation, you know, showing up
on social media, happy as can be, inspiring people when you
really are dealing with a heartbreak or mourning a huge
loss, when you really just need a hug and a prayer.
These are the ways that so many of us are healing quietly in
(03:41):
public. But I'm here to tell you that
that to me is the greatest gift of all, the ability.
And I don't even know if it's anability.
It's almost like you just have no choice.
It feels like right. But to have the option to sit in
a dark room and do nothing for three months but cry isn't
(04:02):
healthy either. I know we're living in a time
and in a society that talks about holding space and to allow
ourselves to crash out. I'm seeing millennials talk
about they're crashing out on their cars and they're screaming
out loud and they're letting theemotions out and, and again, I'm
a Gen. Xer, so I come from a, a, a suck
it up buttercup, you know, era. However I can.
(04:22):
I, I feel an immense gratitude for that.
I can see the tendency to believe that that's not healthy.
I could see the tendency to believe that, you know, I need
just to sit somewhere for a weekand just cry.
I, I understand that part of it it as well and it would probably
(04:42):
feel very good and bad to be able to do that.
I just don't see how that will benefit me any in any way.
But maybe my nervous system really needs it.
But the reason I wanted to do this episode in this way is for
those of you listening who are judging the journey of others,
(05:03):
For those of you listening who see someone on social media
posting a few weeks or days or, you know, whatever the time
period is after someone passed away and cringing at that and
thinking, like, what are they doing?
You know, especially like for myself, that you know, it's part
of your job to show up and yet it's no one's business what's
(05:27):
happening in your personal life.It's up to you.
It's up to them, the creator, whoever the person is, the
entrepreneur, it's up to them todecide what is part of the show
and just what isn't. And when I lost my son, that was
a dilemma that I had because I had so many commitments in
(05:49):
motion before he passed away that we're still very much
active once he died. And I had to figure out how long
to hold that pause button. Instinctually, I wanted to hold
it forever. Instinctually, nothing was the
same. There was the version of me,
(06:10):
the, the, the, the minutes that the, the moments before he
passed. And there was the version of me
after he passed. Those two versions of me are not
the same and will likely never be the same.
But when it came to my commitments and my
responsibilities and obviously the burdens and, and all these
different things, the worries and the concerns in my life,
professionally, personally, evenromantically at that time for
(06:32):
that matter, everything was on pause.
But I could only hold pause for so long.
Many things fell away in my personal life.
Lots of things in my personal life fell away.
But in my professional life, I had to go into survival
instinct. I went into fight or flight.
I went into this weird sort of autopilot mode in order to get
(06:56):
through and, and in a lot of aspects I'm still there.
And even while I've been there, by the way, sort of by just on
autopilot doing the best that I can with what I have left for
that matter, I've been hit with even more blows.
And you know, nothing will be asprofound as losing my son.
(07:16):
However, the, the losses that I have faced and dealt with since
then of people I really truly admire and love and respect and
adore has been excruciating because many of these losses, a
few of these losses have happened in private.
And, and because I don't have control over that decision to
(07:38):
keep things private, but to haveto then show up in public
business as usual. While I was, I was already in
sort of the red zone regarding my nervous system, regarding my
emotions, regarding my, my own personal will to even care about
half of these things in my professional life has not been
(08:00):
easy. And the reason I share that
with, with this with you right now is if you are a person who
sees people showing up on socialmedia or in the workplace and
they seem bubbly and they seem whatever, and you're judging
them. It could be anyone.
You could be judging the way they do their hair.
You could be judging that they have a double chin like I myself
(08:21):
do on in many occasions. You might be judging why, why
are they wearing that outfit? They get, they get invited to
that. Why are they dressed like that?
Or, you know, how come they don't come around the family
like we have all these events and they don't even come visit
like, but yet they're at these work things or they seem to be
very active because again, you're looking at their social
media. I am doing this episode as a
(08:41):
call to action to stop judging because you don't know how
someone is suffering in silence.You don't know the healing
journey that they are on while they are trying to build that
business. Why?
While they are trying to create content on social media and be a
(09:02):
content creator. While they're trying to do
whatever they know how to do. And they're in their, in their
best possible way to show up forwork and provide for themselves
and their children and their family and in whatever dreams
they might have, right, If there's even room to dream
sometimes in that aspect. So this is a call to say, let's
stop judging. And, and, and on the flip side
(09:24):
of that same coin, let's stop envying, stop being jealous of
people that appear to be living the life that you wish you had.
You do not know the price that they are paying for that.
You do not know the cross that they are bearing for that.
You don't know the tears that they're shedding at night while
(09:45):
they're on, you know, that boat,that vacation, that wearing that
bag, whatever the case may be. And I'm not just talking the
drama, the dramatic stuff like Iused to talk about on the
podcast with my friend Dalia. You know, it could be abuse.
It could be emotionally emotional abuse.
It could be adultery. And and the woman hasn't gotten
the courage to walk away becauseof the love of her children.
(10:06):
There's a lot of aspects and things in layers that a woman
carries with her on the journey of life And even to have the
pretty house or you know, to, tohave the success, successful
business, whatever the case may be, do not envy anyone,
especially like don't envy theirbody.
You don't know if she has tumors, cancers, anemia,
(10:26):
whatever the case may be, you just don't know.
And so if you can just learn to scroll, OK, without judging,
what a wonderful karmic relief you will be giving yourself,
what a immense amount of peace you'll be bringing to yourself
and energetically possibly to those people that you're looking
(10:48):
at into the world because you just have no idea what they are
balancing, what they are doing to survive.
And you might think that that content piece that they're
creating is silly because who? Who are they to think that they
can one day be a Kardashian whenyou don't know that that's
what's keeping them here? You don't know if selling stuff
(11:11):
on TikTok shop. That's so funny because I've
been testing TikTok shop, but I've been following creators who
do TikTok shop and hearing some of these stay at home mom
stories and stuff like that. Like you don't know if that's
what's keeping their sanity. You don't know if a rant on a
podcast is actually keeping thatpodcaster alive.
You just don't know if you know pursuing that business idea that
(11:37):
seems like ridiculous to you or seems like a saturated area to
you. Oh, it's never going to work for
her. I don't know why she would do
that. You don't know if just believing
in the possibilities of it beingpossible for her is keeping her
here. In other words, shut your mouth.
I'm going to just say it. Shut your mouth, turn off that
(12:00):
naysayer attitude. Stop judging every person
placing and, and, and whatever that you just feel like it's OK
to say because you're behind theother side of the screen.
You don't know, you don't understand.
And I myself have been in the trenches where I clicked record
on this podcast seven seasons ago just to find my footing.
(12:25):
You know, I wasn't on the verge of suicide or anything like
that, but I was. I was in the trenches of not
knowing how to care about makingmoney, how to care about
anything. I just wanted to lay in bed,
curl up and cry and mourn my son, but instead I chose to find
(12:47):
a way to thrive and reach forward towards that sunlight
like a flower in the desert. I tried my best to be here and
be a version of myself for my other son that was worthwhile
that that that he could recognize as that mom that he's
always known, loved and trusted and and adored.
And now I continue to do that for myself and to show up for
(13:11):
myself in ways that I can recognize as like, hey, like
this feels more like me. So do don't judge.
Listen, you could judge me all you want, but it's not going to
affect me at this point because I am on some other level of
stuff. And you can listen to other
episodes about that. But there are people that are
hanging by such a thin thread. They're in your workplace,
(13:31):
they're in schools in the in thecarpooling next to you in the in
the mommy drop off. They are at the park sitting
there pushing the kid on the swing.
They are in church sitting thereholding back tears.
And they are on social media smiling and doing trending
videos and selling TikTok shop products and and showing up on
(13:52):
Instagram, you know, like an influencer and hosting podcast
episodes and starting businesses.
They are all around us. Please, I urge you, have grace,
have mercy. And you know what?
Have some respect for yourself in that regard as well.
Let's go.
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