December 10, 2025 • 21 mins
In today’s episode, Ryann takes you into the real heart of mindfulness — not the tidy, think-your-way-to-calm version — but the embodied, lived-in, messy human version. This episode is a grounding breath for anyone who feels stretched thin, rushed, overwhelmed, or stuck in their head.
This episode covers:
- Mindfulness is helpful, but mental awareness alone won’t ground you — true presence requires somatic awareness too.
- Most overwhelm isn’t a mindset problem; it’s a nervous system one — especially for women conditioned to live in their minds.
- A yoga teaching reframed everything: it’s not about “ascending” spiritually, but descending fully into your body.
- Your childhood wiring (ages 0–7) influences today’s rushing, reacting, and difficulty staying present.
- A simple hand-on-heart + belly breath practice can expand your sense of time and help you drop back into your body in seconds.
- A reminder that healing isn’t about being perfect — it’s about being present.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Welcome to Raising Wild Hearts.
(00:02):
I'm Ryan Watkin, and this is myweekly podcast where I share
conversations that matter,soulful talks to help you create
a fulfilling life, raise thenext generation with patience,
presence, and purpose, and staydeeply connected to yourself, to
others, and the divine.
Around here, we believe we canchange the world by starting at
(00:23):
home.
Let's dive in.
Happy Wednesday if you'relistening to this on the day it
comes out.
And instead of walking with metoday, you are driving with me.
That's just how the logisticsfor the day have turned out.
And something that is alive andreally prompting me to be
curious right now ismindfulness.
(00:45):
And what for me, mindfulness hasbeen missing.
Well, I have identified assomeone who's intelligent or
smart or at least able to reallylike analytically figure out
problems.
And for a number of years, as akid, I was told you're so smart,
(01:07):
that kind of a thing, andpraised for academic
achievement, as I'm sure many ofyou were.
And so I really um identify withthe mind being such a powerful
tool.
And when I started studyingpersonal growth and ways to show
up as a better human for myself,the ones I love and the ones I
(01:28):
don't, not naming any names, butuh resting bitch face in the
Ford expedition who stole myspot at the smoothie shop today.
I mean, honestly, I came backfrom yoga.
I was so peaceful.
I'm like, every time I go toyoga, I call my husband or talk
to my husband.
(01:48):
He's like, How's it how wasyoga?
And I'm like, I can do it.
I can keep lifing.
Like, I'm a different human.
And uh, this fall from gracehappened very, very quickly on
the way home from yoga.
And I found myself kind of likemumbling expletives to this, you
know, woman with some big shadesand a big ass Ford expedition
(02:08):
who took my spot.
We so easily get knocked off ourcenter.
And so one of the things I foundwhen I started doing this work
was mindfulness and becomingaware.
And so, okay, I'm aware, right,that this person, human, who
took my spot at the smoothieshop really annoyed me.
(02:29):
And why did that annoy me?
Right.
And, you know, it felt reallyinconvenient.
And then I ended up saying,well, fuck it.
I'll just make, you know, we weget granola from this smoothie
shop and my kids love it on topof their smoothie bowl.
And I was like, you know what?
I'm just gonna make granola athome.
All right, problem solved.
You know what?
Thanks, universe, for telling melike we have all the
(02:49):
ingredients.
It's actually better when I makeit at home anyway.
So I was like, okay, I'm gonnaskip over this minor
inconvenience.
Anyway, so the awareness, right?
I'm like mentally aware.
I'm like figuring out thisproblem, like, yes, I I see it,
I can analyze it, all good.
I found a solution, moving on.
And the problem with that isthat I didn't, or sometimes
(03:18):
don't, really tune in to my bodyand my body awareness of
processing that initial emotion,which was, you know, there were
cars honking, like there was abackup, like I was backing up
traffic, she was backing uptraffic.
(03:38):
And I started to feel really onedge, really like I had to rush
out the door.
And for some of you, this mightbe relevant.
Some of you might be the onesrushing your kids out the door,
or you might remember when youwere a kid getting rushed out
the door and this sense of likeurgency almost, which brings up
(04:00):
kind of for me, like thispanicky feeling.
Like, oh my God, I need to, youknow, fix it right now.
I need to move right now, I needto like it's this urgency.
And, you know, if I went acouple layers deeper, I might be
able to find another word, butI'm not gonna do that right now.
So what's missing for me sooften, and I think for so many
of us, is this somaticsensation.
(04:22):
When we talk about being betterhumans, showing up for the ones
we love better, showing up forourselves better, showing up for
the moment when, you know, thewoman takes your parking spot
when you've got this whole planin your mind about how things
are gonna go, and it doesn't goaccording to plan, there's
really this mind, body, soulconnection that for me, anyways,
(04:48):
I found to be like the holygrail.
And so when those three thingsare aligned in our lives, in the
day-to-day, like mundane stuff,and also in the big stuff, the
big decisions, the where are wegonna live?
What am I gonna do for work?
Um, what kind of a parent do Ishow up as?
How can I make a fulfilledmarriage?
Like the big stuff and the smallstuff, when we have this
(05:10):
mind-body, soul connection, thatis when we are truly aligned.
Not to use like a super buzzybuzzword, but I'm gonna.
So I am really good at this mindrealm.
(05:31):
You know, following thebreadcrumbs, the researching,
analyzing, you know, coming upwith a solution to a perceived
problem in any given day.
Super good at that.
The soul piece, I really startedto practice that and become more
aware of that in, I'd say it waslike 2017 when I started my
(05:52):
beloved yoga practice.
And that really tapped me into,tuned me into I am a soul having
a human experience.
And then here we are laggingbehind this, like, you know,
body realm, like a little puppystanding back there barking,
(06:14):
like, don't leave me.
And um, the body has been my, Idon't know, Achilles heel.
Like, I can't think of anothermetaphor.
It's been the thing that hasbeen the hardest for me because
I'm so comfortable living in themind and the soul realms.
It's like I'm constantly andconsistently leaving behind my
(06:36):
body until I remember, hey, I'mleaving behind my body.
Gotta remember that.
And even when I do remember, itis still like an ongoing
challenge for me.
So, one of the ways that Iremind myself to get in my body
and then actually take action ongetting in my body is yes,
paired with that mindfulness.
(06:57):
And it's becoming aware of howI'm feeling in my body in any
given moment and stopping,pausing, and we're talking
five-second pause here, right?
So in the car, the lady takes myparking spot.
I'm really pissed.
I notice that I'm pissed, andthen I go, okay, where's this
happening in my body?
And in this instance, it wasreally kind of fiery in my solar
(07:22):
plexus.
And so I breathed into that,felt that, let that kind of move
through, and I moved on.
And so we really, I really couldbe doing this like hundreds of
times a day.
And oftentimes I'm just brushingit under the rug, forgetting,
you know, making excuses.
(07:42):
I'm too busy to feel that rightnow.
What's happening here with thisbrushing the body piece under
the rug for me, a lot of it isbased in rooted in fear.
And this is ancient fear, youknow, it's new fear too, but
this is like primal fear thatperhaps my soul was meant to go
(08:04):
through in this lifetime, right?
For me, being in my body myentire life was actually unsafe
in in certain moments, betweenlike zero to seven.
So, of course, if you know, zeroto seven are the years when we
are literally uploading everybit of information from the
(08:25):
world around us, from ourprimary caregivers, from, you
know, whatever, if we're goingto school, from the people who
we see the most, from culture,from every single thing, we are
just uploading this into oursubconscious mind.
And we are, you know, makingmeaning out of things, we're
making beliefs out of things,we're forming our worldview at
this time.
(08:46):
And so for you, if during theages of zero to seven, you know,
something big was going on, oryou were having some either
little or big trauma, that iswhat forms and shapes your
subconscious, your psyche, andyour ego.
And so for me, getting themessage that it's not safe to be
in this body, of course I foundsolace in being in my mind all
(09:10):
the time.
Of course I found solace in, youknow, the work of meditation or
mindfulness.
I was like, I can do that.
I've lived in my mind almost myentire life.
So yes, I got that.
And something my beloved yogateacher said last week, it was,
I mean, it completely just likehit me this wave of knowing and
(09:34):
energy.
And we were doing some, I thinkit was like some core work.
We were laying on our backs, ourlegs were up in the air, we were
doing like leg lifts, somethingthat was really core intensive.
And like, you know, you felt it,right?
If you were there, which I was,I was purposely like, okay, you
can, you know, you can feelthis, you know, giving myself
(09:55):
the pep talk, like you can dothis, as my body's like shaking,
right?
My nervous system is like, no,you can't do this.
But in my mind, I'm going, like,you can do this.
And what she said to us, shealways talks to us when we're
doing our our yoga, which isbeautiful because it's like a,
it's like a teaching as we'rewe're working on our bodies and
our minds and souls.
(10:16):
And she said, this was neverabout ascension.
And I was like, whoa.
And then she went on to say,this was always about descending
here on the earth, on thisplanet, into this body that you
have chosen to be in in thislifetime.
(10:37):
This was never about ascension.
And I'm like, holy shit, becausefor years, you know, like a
decade, I've been trying to, youknow, raise the vibration
higher, higher frequency, right?
Becoming ascended, ascendinginto 5D, ascending into 7D, you
know, it questioned all of thatfor me.
(10:58):
And what I felt, that wave ofenergy that came up as she said,
this was never about ascension.
This was always about descendinginto your body.
It was this wave of truth and itwas this wave of remembrance of
we need to be here and not justbe here, but actually really be
(11:21):
here.
So I don't know if any of youhave husbands who work a lot and
who are like working on theirphone and attached to their
phone.
And, you know, listen, this islike me too.
I mean, this is probablyeverybody at this point.
But one of the things Ifrequently find myself saying to
my husband is like, I knowyou're here, but like we really
want you to be here now.
Cause when I see him likeworking on his phone or taking
(11:42):
another phone call, I get alittle um, I get my panties in a
bunch.
So I'm like, we really just wantyou to be here.
So there's a difference betweenbeing here and truly being here,
landing in your body, beingavailable fully for what's in
front of you, fully beingavailable for the challenge, the
(12:04):
blessing, the whatever the thingis that's standing in front of
you.
And because we live in SouthFlorida, there's no shortage of
traffic metaphors.
And so I've got another trafficmetaphor from this morning, like
same like literally within twohours.
I was on the way to yoga andthere was someone honking at a
(12:28):
red light.
And just this tiny piece of mewas like, come on, you know, how
much of a hurry are we in?
Like, chill out, let's all justbreathe.
Can't we just be one?
What's the hurry?
Right.
And of course, I don't have, Idon't have no idea what's going
on in this honker's life.
You know, it could be a mandriving his wife to the hospital
(12:48):
to give birth.
Like, who knows, right?
Who, who knows the stories thatcould have been going on in this
person's life?
And but so the tiny part of mejudged of like, come on, let's
not be honkers.
Come on, it's a beautifulWednesday morning.
Like, let's just, let's just getalong.
Can't we just all get along?
And I realized in that momentthat my hypocritical nature was
(13:11):
just like super alive and well,because about 15 minutes prior,
I was metaphorically honking atmy children to get out of the
house and pack up the backpacksand let's get the shoes on, and
it's time for socks.
And did you get your violin andI don't know, you know, get your
(13:31):
lunch, get your electrolytes,get your water.
And I kind of replayed themorning in my head and I was
like, could I have been a littlebit calmer?
Could I have been more present?
And the answer is yes.
And honestly, the answer is yes,a lot of like, could I have been
(13:54):
more present?
Yes.
Do I catch myself multiple timesa day rushing through the rhythm
and the routine just to checkthe list off the box and to sit
down or to you know get to thenext thing?
Like, yes, like yes, yes, yes.
Like it's just true.
And I'm not gonna bullshit youand like tell you that my life
(14:15):
is perfect and that it's supereasy and spacious to like have
three kids.
Like, it's fucking not.
It's not.
And I have an opportunity inevery interaction that I have
with these children who chose meto be their mama in this
lifetime.
I have an opportunity to befully present like I'm asking
from of my husband, you know,fully present like I'm asking
(14:40):
from this random honker on theroad.
Let's just be fully present towhat is, right?
You can wait a half a secondmore, you know, for the cars in
front of you to get going oncethat light turns green.
So when I replay these momentsin my mind of, you know, rushed
mornings or rushed nighttimeroutines or whatever it might
(15:00):
be, right?
So often for me, like 90% of thetime, I'm too much in my mind.
And I am completely, you know,jumping steps.
I'm like leapfrogging overwhat's right in front of me to
get to the next thing.
And that is a body awareness, asomatic experience that I must
(15:26):
be committed to.
I must be, yes, where my twofeet are, but like literally
where my two feet are, groundedin to the earth, to the floor,
to this body, grounded in,descended in, dropped in the
body, fully, fully alive andpresent and available for what's
(15:49):
in front of me.
And I wanted to share this withyou because I feel like this is
an experience that's prettyuniversal, like, especially as
busy moms, busy women, ambitiouswomen, women who are getting
shit done.
There's not a busy, ambitious,amazing mom I know that isn't
just a complete badass atgetting stuff done and just
(16:13):
like, like, look, we're in theholiday season.
Every mom I know is just likefreaking hustling and, you know,
crushing it.
And also, like, what's a layerbeneath that?
Like, how are we truly feelingwhen we go and hide the elf?
And, you know, our elf hasn'tcome yet.
Side note, our elf does not comeuntil like a week and a half
(16:35):
before Christmas because Irefuse to do the elf thing all
month long.
Anyway, that was a side note.
So when we're moving the elf,when we're buying the presents,
when we're wrapping the gifts,when we're going to the family
events, when, when, when, right?
Because the calendar gets 10xthis month.
When we're doing those things,when we're in the car on the way
(16:58):
to yoga, when we're on the wayhome, how are you truly
descended or grounded in yourbody?
And is there a sense of safety?
Do you feel safe to be in thisbody in this moment at any given
time throughout the day?
And I hope the answer's yes foryou.
(17:20):
And if the answer's like maybeor not really, or I don't know,
just know that like that iscompletely normal.
And honestly, I would even go asfar to say like a universal
experience.
We were conditioned and taughtand praised, even for being
analytical in our minds, forbeing smart little girls, for
(17:44):
being, you know, girls who canget shit done and figure it out
and jump from this to that.
And so this is a deep, deepprogram that we just need to
shift.
And so the invitation here is toreally pay attention the next
time if you live in SouthFlorida or a traffic area, the
next time some traffic thingshappen, you know, give yourself
(18:07):
a beat and ask yourself, like,where am I feeling this in my
body?
And what is this?
Like, what is this coming from?
When you're rushing to get thekids out the door, take a break,
like take a pause.
This morning I literally did.
I said to my oldest, like, youknow, because she's going, we're
gonna be late.
And I was like, okay.
And that was my cue.
Like when she said that, I waslike, okay, I guess there needs
(18:27):
to be an adult here, might aswell be me.
And I said, we can expand timewhen we're calm.
Our perception of time actuallydoes shift when we're calm.
So I said, we're gonna put ahand on a heart and a hand on
the belly, and we're gonna takethree breaths.
And of course, she's just likerolling her eyes, like, no, mom,
like seriously, I'm looking atthe clock.
(18:48):
Like, if we don't get going,like we're gonna be late.
And so I stopped, I paused, Iput my hand on my heart, put my
hand on my belly, took thosebreaths, got back into my body,
realized like exactly what I'mpreaching, which is we're right
on time.
We can expand time when we'recalm.
When we land here in this body,we can solve problems, move
(19:13):
through chaos as the calm in theeye of the storm.
Just know that we are all goingthrough some version of
struggle, challenge, some formof overcoming, stepping into,
you know, our best selves, likeis messy.
It's not fucking butterflies andrainbows.
(19:35):
Like, personal growth is notlike let me just vibe super high
and manifest the million dollarsand whatever.
Like, it's also trudging throughthe muck and building new
neuropathways and choosing newhabits.
And sometimes that can feel likea fucking slog, like let's just
(19:59):
call it what it is.
Is sometimes it's like, oh mygod, am I still working through
this?
Right.
I hope so much for you thatyou're able to ground into and
be descended into your body forthat celebration, too.
So wherever you're at, thelowest low, the highest high, or
everywhere in between, theinvitation here is to really be
(20:23):
where your two feet are.
All right, that's it for today.
As always, thank you for beinghere.
And remember, changing the worldstarts in the small and soulful,
the quiet and the mundane,around the dinner table, on
walks, and most importantly,inside your own heart.
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(20:44):
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Welcome to Raising Wild Hearts.
(00:02):
I'm Ryan Watkin, and this is myweekly podcast where I share
conversations that matter,soulful talks to help you create
a fulfilling life, raise thenext generation with patience,
presence, and purpose, and staydeeply connected to yourself, to
others, and the divine.
Around here, we believe we canchange the world by starting at
(00:23):
home.
Let's dive in.
Happy Wednesday if you'relistening to this on the day it
comes out.
And instead of walking with metoday, you are driving with me.
That's just how the logisticsfor the day have turned out.
And something that is alive andreally prompting me to be
curious right now ismindfulness.
(00:45):
And what for me, mindfulness hasbeen missing.
Well, I have identified assomeone who's intelligent or
smart or at least able to reallylike analytically figure out
problems.
And for a number of years, as akid, I was told you're so smart,
(01:07):
that kind of a thing, andpraised for academic
achievement, as I'm sure many ofyou were.
And so I really um identify withthe mind being such a powerful
tool.
And when I started studyingpersonal growth and ways to show
up as a better human for myself,the ones I love and the ones I
(01:28):
don't, not naming any names, butuh resting bitch face in the
Ford expedition who stole myspot at the smoothie shop today.
I mean, honestly, I came backfrom yoga.
I was so peaceful.
I'm like, every time I go toyoga, I call my husband or talk
to my husband.
(01:48):
He's like, How's it how wasyoga?
And I'm like, I can do it.
I can keep lifing.
Like, I'm a different human.
And uh, this fall from gracehappened very, very quickly on
the way home from yoga.
And I found myself kind of likemumbling expletives to this, you
know, woman with some big shadesand a big ass Ford expedition
(02:08):
who took my spot.
We so easily get knocked off ourcenter.
And so one of the things I foundwhen I started doing this work
was mindfulness and becomingaware.
And so, okay, I'm aware, right,that this person, human, who
took my spot at the smoothieshop really annoyed me.
(02:29):
And why did that annoy me?
Right.
And, you know, it felt reallyinconvenient.
And then I ended up saying,well, fuck it.
I'll just make, you know, we weget granola from this smoothie
shop and my kids love it on topof their smoothie bowl.
And I was like, you know what?
I'm just gonna make granola athome.
All right, problem solved.
You know what?
Thanks, universe, for telling melike we have all the
(02:49):
ingredients.
It's actually better when I makeit at home anyway.
So I was like, okay, I'm gonnaskip over this minor
inconvenience.
Anyway, so the awareness, right?
I'm like mentally aware.
I'm like figuring out thisproblem, like, yes, I I see it,
I can analyze it, all good.
I found a solution, moving on.
And the problem with that isthat I didn't, or sometimes
(03:18):
don't, really tune in to my bodyand my body awareness of
processing that initial emotion,which was, you know, there were
cars honking, like there was abackup, like I was backing up
traffic, she was backing uptraffic.
(03:38):
And I started to feel really onedge, really like I had to rush
out the door.
And for some of you, this mightbe relevant.
Some of you might be the onesrushing your kids out the door,
or you might remember when youwere a kid getting rushed out
the door and this sense of likeurgency almost, which brings up
(04:00):
kind of for me, like thispanicky feeling.
Like, oh my God, I need to, youknow, fix it right now.
I need to move right now, I needto like it's this urgency.
And, you know, if I went acouple layers deeper, I might be
able to find another word, butI'm not gonna do that right now.
So what's missing for me sooften, and I think for so many
of us, is this somaticsensation.
(04:22):
When we talk about being betterhumans, showing up for the ones
we love better, showing up forourselves better, showing up for
the moment when, you know, thewoman takes your parking spot
when you've got this whole planin your mind about how things
are gonna go, and it doesn't goaccording to plan, there's
really this mind, body, soulconnection that for me, anyways,
(04:48):
I found to be like the holygrail.
And so when those three thingsare aligned in our lives, in the
day-to-day, like mundane stuff,and also in the big stuff, the
big decisions, the where are wegonna live?
What am I gonna do for work?
Um, what kind of a parent do Ishow up as?
How can I make a fulfilledmarriage?
Like the big stuff and the smallstuff, when we have this
(05:10):
mind-body, soul connection, thatis when we are truly aligned.
Not to use like a super buzzybuzzword, but I'm gonna.
So I am really good at this mindrealm.
(05:31):
You know, following thebreadcrumbs, the researching,
analyzing, you know, coming upwith a solution to a perceived
problem in any given day.
Super good at that.
The soul piece, I really startedto practice that and become more
aware of that in, I'd say it waslike 2017 when I started my
(05:52):
beloved yoga practice.
And that really tapped me into,tuned me into I am a soul having
a human experience.
And then here we are laggingbehind this, like, you know,
body realm, like a little puppystanding back there barking,
(06:14):
like, don't leave me.
And um, the body has been my, Idon't know, Achilles heel.
Like, I can't think of anothermetaphor.
It's been the thing that hasbeen the hardest for me because
I'm so comfortable living in themind and the soul realms.
It's like I'm constantly andconsistently leaving behind my
(06:36):
body until I remember, hey, I'mleaving behind my body.
Gotta remember that.
And even when I do remember, itis still like an ongoing
challenge for me.
So, one of the ways that Iremind myself to get in my body
and then actually take action ongetting in my body is yes,
paired with that mindfulness.
(06:57):
And it's becoming aware of howI'm feeling in my body in any
given moment and stopping,pausing, and we're talking
five-second pause here, right?
So in the car, the lady takes myparking spot.
I'm really pissed.
I notice that I'm pissed, andthen I go, okay, where's this
happening in my body?
And in this instance, it wasreally kind of fiery in my solar
(07:22):
plexus.
And so I breathed into that,felt that, let that kind of move
through, and I moved on.
And so we really, I really couldbe doing this like hundreds of
times a day.
And oftentimes I'm just brushingit under the rug, forgetting,
you know, making excuses.
(07:42):
I'm too busy to feel that rightnow.
What's happening here with thisbrushing the body piece under
the rug for me, a lot of it isbased in rooted in fear.
And this is ancient fear, youknow, it's new fear too, but
this is like primal fear thatperhaps my soul was meant to go
(08:04):
through in this lifetime, right?
For me, being in my body myentire life was actually unsafe
in in certain moments, betweenlike zero to seven.
So, of course, if you know, zeroto seven are the years when we
are literally uploading everybit of information from the
(08:25):
world around us, from ourprimary caregivers, from, you
know, whatever, if we're goingto school, from the people who
we see the most, from culture,from every single thing, we are
just uploading this into oursubconscious mind.
And we are, you know, makingmeaning out of things, we're
making beliefs out of things,we're forming our worldview at
this time.
(08:46):
And so for you, if during theages of zero to seven, you know,
something big was going on, oryou were having some either
little or big trauma, that iswhat forms and shapes your
subconscious, your psyche, andyour ego.
And so for me, getting themessage that it's not safe to be
in this body, of course I foundsolace in being in my mind all
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the time.
Of course I found solace in, youknow, the work of meditation or
mindfulness.
I was like, I can do that.
I've lived in my mind almost myentire life.
So yes, I got that.
And something my beloved yogateacher said last week, it was,
I mean, it completely just likehit me this wave of knowing and
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energy.
And we were doing some, I thinkit was like some core work.
We were laying on our backs, ourlegs were up in the air, we were
doing like leg lifts, somethingthat was really core intensive.
And like, you know, you felt it,right?
If you were there, which I was,I was purposely like, okay, you
can, you know, you can feelthis, you know, giving myself
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the pep talk, like you can dothis, as my body's like shaking,
right?
My nervous system is like, no,you can't do this.
But in my mind, I'm going, like,you can do this.
And what she said to us, shealways talks to us when we're
doing our our yoga, which isbeautiful because it's like a,
it's like a teaching as we'rewe're working on our bodies and
our minds and souls.
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And she said, this was neverabout ascension.
And I was like, whoa.
And then she went on to say,this was always about descending
here on the earth, on thisplanet, into this body that you
have chosen to be in in thislifetime.
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This was never about ascension.
And I'm like, holy shit, becausefor years, you know, like a
decade, I've been trying to, youknow, raise the vibration
higher, higher frequency, right?
Becoming ascended, ascendinginto 5D, ascending into 7D, you
know, it questioned all of thatfor me.
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And what I felt, that wave ofenergy that came up as she said,
this was never about ascension.
This was always about descendinginto your body.
It was this wave of truth and itwas this wave of remembrance of
we need to be here and not justbe here, but actually really be
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here.
So I don't know if any of youhave husbands who work a lot and
who are like working on theirphone and attached to their
phone.
And, you know, listen, this islike me too.
I mean, this is probablyeverybody at this point.
But one of the things Ifrequently find myself saying to
my husband is like, I knowyou're here, but like we really
want you to be here now.
Cause when I see him likeworking on his phone or taking
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another phone call, I get alittle um, I get my panties in a
bunch.
So I'm like, we really just wantyou to be here.
So there's a difference betweenbeing here and truly being here,
landing in your body, beingavailable fully for what's in
front of you, fully beingavailable for the challenge, the
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blessing, the whatever the thingis that's standing in front of
you.
And because we live in SouthFlorida, there's no shortage of
traffic metaphors.
And so I've got another trafficmetaphor from this morning, like
same like literally within twohours.
I was on the way to yoga andthere was someone honking at a
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red light.
And just this tiny piece of mewas like, come on, you know, how
much of a hurry are we in?
Like, chill out, let's all justbreathe.
Can't we just be one?
What's the hurry?
Right.
And of course, I don't have, Idon't have no idea what's going
on in this honker's life.
You know, it could be a mandriving his wife to the hospital
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to give birth.
Like, who knows, right?
Who, who knows the stories thatcould have been going on in this
person's life?
And but so the tiny part of mejudged of like, come on, let's
not be honkers.
Come on, it's a beautifulWednesday morning.
Like, let's just, let's just getalong.
Can't we just all get along?
And I realized in that momentthat my hypocritical nature was
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just like super alive and well,because about 15 minutes prior,
I was metaphorically honking atmy children to get out of the
house and pack up the backpacksand let's get the shoes on, and
it's time for socks.
And did you get your violin andI don't know, you know, get your
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lunch, get your electrolytes,get your water.
And I kind of replayed themorning in my head and I was
like, could I have been a littlebit calmer?
Could I have been more present?
And the answer is yes.
And honestly, the answer is yes,a lot of like, could I have been
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more present?
Yes.
Do I catch myself multiple timesa day rushing through the rhythm
and the routine just to checkthe list off the box and to sit
down or to you know get to thenext thing?
Like, yes, like yes, yes, yes.
Like it's just true.
And I'm not gonna bullshit youand like tell you that my life
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is perfect and that it's supereasy and spacious to like have
three kids.
Like, it's fucking not.
It's not.
And I have an opportunity inevery interaction that I have
with these children who chose meto be their mama in this
lifetime.
I have an opportunity to befully present like I'm asking
from of my husband, you know,fully present like I'm asking
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from this random honker on theroad.
Let's just be fully present towhat is, right?
You can wait a half a secondmore, you know, for the cars in
front of you to get going oncethat light turns green.
So when I replay these momentsin my mind of, you know, rushed
mornings or rushed nighttimeroutines or whatever it might
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be, right?
So often for me, like 90% of thetime, I'm too much in my mind.
And I am completely, you know,jumping steps.
I'm like leapfrogging overwhat's right in front of me to
get to the next thing.
And that is a body awareness, asomatic experience that I must
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be committed to.
I must be, yes, where my twofeet are, but like literally
where my two feet are, groundedin to the earth, to the floor,
to this body, grounded in,descended in, dropped in the
body, fully, fully alive andpresent and available for what's
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in front of me.
And I wanted to share this withyou because I feel like this is
an experience that's prettyuniversal, like, especially as
busy moms, busy women, ambitiouswomen, women who are getting
shit done.
There's not a busy, ambitious,amazing mom I know that isn't
just a complete badass atgetting stuff done and just
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like, like, look, we're in theholiday season.
Every mom I know is just likefreaking hustling and, you know,
crushing it.
And also, like, what's a layerbeneath that?
Like, how are we truly feelingwhen we go and hide the elf?
And, you know, our elf hasn'tcome yet.
Side note, our elf does not comeuntil like a week and a half
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before Christmas because Irefuse to do the elf thing all
month long.
Anyway, that was a side note.
So when we're moving the elf,when we're buying the presents,
when we're wrapping the gifts,when we're going to the family
events, when, when, when, right?
Because the calendar gets 10xthis month.
When we're doing those things,when we're in the car on the way
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to yoga, when we're on the wayhome, how are you truly
descended or grounded in yourbody?
And is there a sense of safety?
Do you feel safe to be in thisbody in this moment at any given
time throughout the day?
And I hope the answer's yes foryou.
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And if the answer's like maybeor not really, or I don't know,
just know that like that iscompletely normal.
And honestly, I would even go asfar to say like a universal
experience.
We were conditioned and taughtand praised, even for being
analytical in our minds, forbeing smart little girls, for
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being, you know, girls who canget shit done and figure it out
and jump from this to that.
And so this is a deep, deepprogram that we just need to
shift.
And so the invitation here is toreally pay attention the next
time if you live in SouthFlorida or a traffic area, the
next time some traffic thingshappen, you know, give yourself
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a beat and ask yourself, like,where am I feeling this in my
body?
And what is this?
Like, what is this coming from?
When you're rushing to get thekids out the door, take a break,
like take a pause.
This morning I literally did.
I said to my oldest, like, youknow, because she's going, we're
gonna be late.
And I was like, okay.
And that was my cue.
Like when she said that, I waslike, okay, I guess there needs
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to be an adult here, might aswell be me.
And I said, we can expand timewhen we're calm.
Our perception of time actuallydoes shift when we're calm.
So I said, we're gonna put ahand on a heart and a hand on
the belly, and we're gonna takethree breaths.
And of course, she's just likerolling her eyes, like, no, mom,
like seriously, I'm looking atthe clock.
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Like, if we don't get going,like we're gonna be late.
And so I stopped, I paused, Iput my hand on my heart, put my
hand on my belly, took thosebreaths, got back into my body,
realized like exactly what I'mpreaching, which is we're right
on time.
We can expand time when we'recalm.
When we land here in this body,we can solve problems, move
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through chaos as the calm in theeye of the storm.
Just know that we are all goingthrough some version of
struggle, challenge, some formof overcoming, stepping into,
you know, our best selves, likeis messy.
It's not fucking butterflies andrainbows.
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Like, personal growth is notlike let me just vibe super high
and manifest the million dollarsand whatever.
Like, it's also trudging throughthe muck and building new
neuropathways and choosing newhabits.
And sometimes that can feel likea fucking slog, like let's just
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call it what it is.
Is sometimes it's like, oh mygod, am I still working through
this?
Right.
I hope so much for you thatyou're able to ground into and
be descended into your body forthat celebration, too.
So wherever you're at, thelowest low, the highest high, or
everywhere in between, theinvitation here is to really be
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where your two feet are.
All right, that's it for today.
As always, thank you for beinghere.
And remember, changing the worldstarts in the small and soulful,
the quiet and the mundane,around the dinner table, on
walks, and most importantly,inside your own heart.
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