August 19, 2025 • 12 mins
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SPEAKER_00 (00:06):
Hi friends, welcome back to the Raising Wild Hearts
podcast.
I am recording this in realtime.
Normally I publish episodes onMonday.
Today's Tuesday.
So if you think you're going alittle crazy seeing my new
episode drop on Tuesday, you arenot.
So today's Tuesday, August 10th.
If you're listening to this inreal time, and all three of my
(00:28):
kids just went back to schooltoday.
And um I had this big exhale asmy husband and I pulled away
from the car line and they allthree walked in together.
And um, it's the first timewe've dropped them off all three
in one place at the same time,and um it felt really good.
And it was really sweet to watchthem walk away hand in hand and
(00:51):
the big sisters helping thelittle brother, and um I am
celebrating that today.
Uh it was a long summer ofdifferent camp schedules and
kind of juggling work andpodcasting and parenting and
vacationing and all the things.
Um, but in retrospect, it was afull summer and a blessed
(01:12):
summer.
So I am here on the other sideof that, just uh showing up for
the fall, showing up for what'sto come, kind of leaning into
this next month, which is kindof a transition season, right?
We've got a month to go untilthe official fall season hits.
And so I am leaning into it'sokay to be in a transition.
(01:34):
It's okay to be getting used tonew schedules.
What I plan to talk about todaywas how to take care of yourself
so you could take care ofeveryone else, because it's so
obvious when I am not takingcare of myself, and it comes out
in the way that I show up for myfamily, first and foremost,
right?
The whole mission of the show,the whole mission of my life
(01:55):
really is nobody gets taken careof if I don't get taken care of
first.
And, you know, that's played outin many different ways.
At first, in my motherhoodjourney, so a decade ago, I
thought, well, I have to puteveryone else's needs above my
own, including sleep and andfood, everything.
And so, as many of you know, Iquickly hit burnout and uh had
(02:18):
acute postpartum depression andjust thought, is this all there
is to life?
And that was the beginning ofasking myself some really
challenging questions.
Who am I?
What do I believe in?
Why am I here?
What's my purpose?
And much of the past decade hasbeen unraveling that.
And this show is a testament tothat.
So I show up and I share withyou what I've learned, I share
(02:41):
with you what I'm stilllearning, I talk to different
experts, different authors, andget their take on what makes a
full life and what makes a lifewell lived.
And this week, I didn't put mymascara on yet because I figured
I would cry.
This week, actually, just um asI'm recording this on Tuesday,
Sunday, my 98-year-old grandmadied.
(03:05):
She left her body and um leftthis earth.
On August 7th, we celebrated her98th birthday, 98 full years.
And I look at her and I look atthe time that she grew up in and
the choices and lack of choicesthat she had in raising her six
children and just being a womanand a wife.
(03:26):
I look at her life as atestament to how do I want to
show up in my life?
When I'm 98, God willing, on mydeathbed, how do I want to speak
about the choices I had in mylife?
How do I want to say that I showup, that I showed up for the
people I loved and the people Ididn't love?
(03:48):
And I won't get into herregrets.
I think she had a couple thatshe shared with different family
members standing in this lifewhere I am, 42 years old, you
know, three kids, 10 and under.
I really look at this moment aslike this is it.
There's no, you know, thing thatI'm working for, no stage or
(04:12):
phase that will be easier thanthis one.
There's no pinnacle of my careersuccess.
There's no pinnacle of thepodcasting.
There's nothing else out thereor in this future in my mind.
It's only the here and now.
When I think about caring formyself so that I can show up for
(04:33):
the ones that I love, sometimesit's just so simple.
It's not like the new outfit.
It's not the shopping trip.
It's not the nails done or thehaircut or the new car or the
new, you know, insert freakinggadget or gizmo or cute throw
pillow for the house.
Like those things are such atemporary dopamine hit, you
(04:57):
know?
What it really is, like whatreally for me caring for myself
looks like these days is likechoosing to like grab a piece of
beeswax from my kids' beeswaxstash.
We have these little bl blocksof beeswax all around the house
because they use it in schooland they do different models
(05:19):
with it and different projects.
And grabbing a piece of beeswaxand just like holding it, like
I'm actually doing it right now,and um just feeling it between
my fingers and letting it takeme back to the present moment,
where my other choice, insteadof fidgeting with the beeswax in
my hands, would be overthinkingor feeling caught up in
(05:40):
overwhelm and letting myself godown this river of doom of all
the bad things that couldhappen.
Overanalyzing, overthinking,insert over thing here for you
that resonates.
But I think we all do this.
You know, I think we all kind ofget caught up in our mental
lives and our work lives andthese things that really seem to
(06:00):
matter in the moment, but theyreally just don't.
It's these really small choices.
I invite you in your life to seewhat choices you can tweak.
You guys know I'm a bookfanatic.
I'm all about the nonfiction,I'm all about consuming things
to help me optimize my time andbe a better interviewer and be a
better parent and a better wifeand a better human.
(06:22):
And this summer, for the pasttwo months, I've been binging a
fiction series, which I'm justlike loving.
And it feels like vacation.
And it's been this loving likehug for myself.
At the end of the day, I sitdown with my book and my
beeswax.
And when we think about thechoices we have to take care of
(06:46):
ourselves so we can show up forthe people in our families,
there is a dropping of theballs, like figuratively
speaking, like dropping theballs you're juggling in the air
and just letting everything kindof fall where it falls.
And there will be things that gobetween the cracks.
Like I have a to-do list rightnow of like 25 things, various
(07:08):
projects that I'm working onbehind the scenes for the
podcast, various work projects,uh, you know, various
commitments that I've made.
And I chose to set that listaside, know that the list is
there, and hop on and recordthis because it's important for
me to show up.
The invitation here is reallyfor you to pause and get quiet
(07:30):
and think about the one or twosmall changes you can make that
would help you feel nourishedfrom the inside out.
Another thing that continues tohelp me is community.
So I have a couple of closepeople who I can say, Hey, I'm
really struggling, or hey, I'mreally celebrating, or hey, this
(07:51):
is going on behind the scenes.
What do you think about that?
Or even just to vent of like, ohmy God, I'm just venting here.
That has been such a blessing.
I'm planning an event behind thescenes called Rise and Flourish.
It's a summit where we're goingto have amazing speakers.
My friend Ashley and I areco-organizing it.
It's going to be a day ofself-care and community, finding
(08:15):
your people, hitting the resetbutton, resetting your nervous
system, walking away, feeling sofilled to the brim that you can
go love your people well.
So I'm working on that behindthe scenes, and that has been
challenging and fun.
Something that I value so muchis learning about different
things, creating differentthings, following my intuition.
(08:39):
When I find that I'm aligned inthese areas, I'm showing up for
my people really well.
I'm filled from the inside out,and it's not even a trying or a
striving.
It just happens.
It just happens where I'm ableto show up and give the extra
hug, read the extra book, bepresent for the tantrum, listen
(09:03):
to my kids, reflect back, workthrough arguments and
disagreements with my husbandwith more grace.
So in every facet of my life,it's enabling me to show up in
the car line on the interstate.
You know, there's always atraffic metaphor to be had here
in South Florida.
If you know, you know.
(09:24):
So I hope that you have a weekwhere you are able to reflect at
least for a few minutes and askyourself what it is that you
need amidst all the chaos in thehouse and in the world, really
giving yourself the opportunityto slow down education,
community, self-care.
How can you cement those thingsinto your life?
(09:45):
And what does it look like foryou?
Because it's not going to looklike what it looks like for me
exactly, right?
We can get inspiration fromothers, we can hear ideas, we
can go that really rings true.
And then we can leave the rest.
Like whatever you heard todaythat really vibes with you, take
it with you.
And whatever you're like, no,that doesn't fit, leave it.
And I think when we can becomediscerning like that in our
(10:07):
lives, opportunities start tounfold.
You know, things start to lineup and become synchronous.
And it's a beautiful thing.
So I am walking that path rightnow.
And I invite you to walk alongwith me.
If you want to join Ashley and Iat our event, it's going to be
beautiful.
I will put the link in the shownotes so you can check out more.
(10:28):
It's in Deerfield Beach,Florida, October 25th.
I would love to see you thereand meet you in real life and
give you a hug and go throughthe day with you.
Like it's for me too.
We're going to be resetting oursystems.
We're going to be doing somegroup healing.
We're going to be moving ourbreath, moving our body,
(10:49):
learning about the ways ournervous system responds in times
of stress and in times of calm.
These tools that you walk awaywith that I'll walk away with
too help us discern in our dailylives what's for me and what's
not for me, what's gonna fill meup and what's not.
So I hope you have a beautifulweek.
I'm so pumped to see you in reallife in October in Deerfield
(11:11):
Beach, Florida, at the FiveElements Day Spa.
It is a beautiful, luxuriousvenue.
As soon as Ashley and I walkedin there, we were like, yep,
this is it.
It just feels like a littlesanctuary.
I will talk to you guys soon.
And until then, go love someonewell.
Hi friends, welcome back to the Raising Wild Hearts
podcast.
I am recording this in realtime.
Normally I publish episodes onMonday.
Today's Tuesday.
So if you think you're going alittle crazy seeing my new
episode drop on Tuesday, you arenot.
So today's Tuesday, August 10th.
If you're listening to this inreal time, and all three of my
(00:28):
kids just went back to schooltoday.
And um I had this big exhale asmy husband and I pulled away
from the car line and they allthree walked in together.
And um, it's the first timewe've dropped them off all three
in one place at the same time,and um it felt really good.
And it was really sweet to watchthem walk away hand in hand and
(00:51):
the big sisters helping thelittle brother, and um I am
celebrating that today.
Uh it was a long summer ofdifferent camp schedules and
kind of juggling work andpodcasting and parenting and
vacationing and all the things.
Um, but in retrospect, it was afull summer and a blessed
(01:12):
summer.
So I am here on the other sideof that, just uh showing up for
the fall, showing up for what'sto come, kind of leaning into
this next month, which is kindof a transition season, right?
We've got a month to go untilthe official fall season hits.
And so I am leaning into it'sokay to be in a transition.
(01:34):
It's okay to be getting used tonew schedules.
What I plan to talk about todaywas how to take care of yourself
so you could take care ofeveryone else, because it's so
obvious when I am not takingcare of myself, and it comes out
in the way that I show up for myfamily, first and foremost,
right?
The whole mission of the show,the whole mission of my life
(01:55):
really is nobody gets taken careof if I don't get taken care of
first.
And, you know, that's played outin many different ways.
At first, in my motherhoodjourney, so a decade ago, I
thought, well, I have to puteveryone else's needs above my
own, including sleep and andfood, everything.
And so, as many of you know, Iquickly hit burnout and uh had
(02:18):
acute postpartum depression andjust thought, is this all there
is to life?
And that was the beginning ofasking myself some really
challenging questions.
Who am I?
What do I believe in?
Why am I here?
What's my purpose?
And much of the past decade hasbeen unraveling that.
And this show is a testament tothat.
So I show up and I share withyou what I've learned, I share
(02:41):
with you what I'm stilllearning, I talk to different
experts, different authors, andget their take on what makes a
full life and what makes a lifewell lived.
And this week, I didn't put mymascara on yet because I figured
I would cry.
This week, actually, just um asI'm recording this on Tuesday,
Sunday, my 98-year-old grandmadied.
(03:05):
She left her body and um leftthis earth.
On August 7th, we celebrated her98th birthday, 98 full years.
And I look at her and I look atthe time that she grew up in and
the choices and lack of choicesthat she had in raising her six
children and just being a womanand a wife.
(03:26):
I look at her life as atestament to how do I want to
show up in my life?
When I'm 98, God willing, on mydeathbed, how do I want to speak
about the choices I had in mylife?
How do I want to say that I showup, that I showed up for the
people I loved and the people Ididn't love?
(03:48):
And I won't get into herregrets.
I think she had a couple thatshe shared with different family
members standing in this lifewhere I am, 42 years old, you
know, three kids, 10 and under.
I really look at this moment aslike this is it.
There's no, you know, thing thatI'm working for, no stage or
(04:12):
phase that will be easier thanthis one.
There's no pinnacle of my careersuccess.
There's no pinnacle of thepodcasting.
There's nothing else out thereor in this future in my mind.
It's only the here and now.
When I think about caring formyself so that I can show up for
(04:33):
the ones that I love, sometimesit's just so simple.
It's not like the new outfit.
It's not the shopping trip.
It's not the nails done or thehaircut or the new car or the
new, you know, insert freakinggadget or gizmo or cute throw
pillow for the house.
Like those things are such atemporary dopamine hit, you
(04:57):
know?
What it really is, like whatreally for me caring for myself
looks like these days is likechoosing to like grab a piece of
beeswax from my kids' beeswaxstash.
We have these little bl blocksof beeswax all around the house
because they use it in schooland they do different models
(05:19):
with it and different projects.
And grabbing a piece of beeswaxand just like holding it, like
I'm actually doing it right now,and um just feeling it between
my fingers and letting it takeme back to the present moment,
where my other choice, insteadof fidgeting with the beeswax in
my hands, would be overthinkingor feeling caught up in
(05:40):
overwhelm and letting myself godown this river of doom of all
the bad things that couldhappen.
Overanalyzing, overthinking,insert over thing here for you
that resonates.
But I think we all do this.
You know, I think we all kind ofget caught up in our mental
lives and our work lives andthese things that really seem to
(06:00):
matter in the moment, but theyreally just don't.
It's these really small choices.
I invite you in your life to seewhat choices you can tweak.
You guys know I'm a bookfanatic.
I'm all about the nonfiction,I'm all about consuming things
to help me optimize my time andbe a better interviewer and be a
better parent and a better wifeand a better human.
(06:22):
And this summer, for the pasttwo months, I've been binging a
fiction series, which I'm justlike loving.
And it feels like vacation.
And it's been this loving likehug for myself.
At the end of the day, I sitdown with my book and my
beeswax.
And when we think about thechoices we have to take care of
(06:46):
ourselves so we can show up forthe people in our families,
there is a dropping of theballs, like figuratively
speaking, like dropping theballs you're juggling in the air
and just letting everything kindof fall where it falls.
And there will be things that gobetween the cracks.
Like I have a to-do list rightnow of like 25 things, various
(07:08):
projects that I'm working onbehind the scenes for the
podcast, various work projects,uh, you know, various
commitments that I've made.
And I chose to set that listaside, know that the list is
there, and hop on and recordthis because it's important for
me to show up.
The invitation here is reallyfor you to pause and get quiet
(07:30):
and think about the one or twosmall changes you can make that
would help you feel nourishedfrom the inside out.
Another thing that continues tohelp me is community.
So I have a couple of closepeople who I can say, Hey, I'm
really struggling, or hey, I'mreally celebrating, or hey, this
(07:51):
is going on behind the scenes.
What do you think about that?
Or even just to vent of like, ohmy God, I'm just venting here.
That has been such a blessing.
I'm planning an event behind thescenes called Rise and Flourish.
It's a summit where we're goingto have amazing speakers.
My friend Ashley and I areco-organizing it.
It's going to be a day ofself-care and community, finding
(08:15):
your people, hitting the resetbutton, resetting your nervous
system, walking away, feeling sofilled to the brim that you can
go love your people well.
So I'm working on that behindthe scenes, and that has been
challenging and fun.
Something that I value so muchis learning about different
things, creating differentthings, following my intuition.
(08:39):
When I find that I'm aligned inthese areas, I'm showing up for
my people really well.
I'm filled from the inside out,and it's not even a trying or a
striving.
It just happens.
It just happens where I'm ableto show up and give the extra
hug, read the extra book, bepresent for the tantrum, listen
(09:03):
to my kids, reflect back, workthrough arguments and
disagreements with my husbandwith more grace.
So in every facet of my life,it's enabling me to show up in
the car line on the interstate.
You know, there's always atraffic metaphor to be had here
in South Florida.
If you know, you know.
(09:24):
So I hope that you have a weekwhere you are able to reflect at
least for a few minutes and askyourself what it is that you
need amidst all the chaos in thehouse and in the world, really
giving yourself the opportunityto slow down education,
community, self-care.
How can you cement those thingsinto your life?
(09:45):
And what does it look like foryou?
Because it's not going to looklike what it looks like for me
exactly, right?
We can get inspiration fromothers, we can hear ideas, we
can go that really rings true.
And then we can leave the rest.
Like whatever you heard todaythat really vibes with you, take
it with you.
And whatever you're like, no,that doesn't fit, leave it.
And I think when we can becomediscerning like that in our
(10:07):
lives, opportunities start tounfold.
You know, things start to lineup and become synchronous.
And it's a beautiful thing.
So I am walking that path rightnow.
And I invite you to walk alongwith me.
If you want to join Ashley and Iat our event, it's going to be
beautiful.
I will put the link in the shownotes so you can check out more.
(10:28):
It's in Deerfield Beach,Florida, October 25th.
I would love to see you thereand meet you in real life and
give you a hug and go throughthe day with you.
Like it's for me too.
We're going to be resetting oursystems.
We're going to be doing somegroup healing.
We're going to be moving ourbreath, moving our body,
(10:49):
learning about the ways ournervous system responds in times
of stress and in times of calm.
These tools that you walk awaywith that I'll walk away with
too help us discern in our dailylives what's for me and what's
not for me, what's gonna fill meup and what's not.
So I hope you have a beautifulweek.
I'm so pumped to see you in reallife in October in Deerfield
(11:11):
Beach, Florida, at the FiveElements Day Spa.
It is a beautiful, luxuriousvenue.
As soon as Ashley and I walkedin there, we were like, yep,
this is it.
It just feels like a littlesanctuary.
I will talk to you guys soon.
And until then, go love someonewell.
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