Live Well and Flourish

Live Well and Flourish – Episode 132: Agency Defines Character

Host: Craig Van Slyke

In this thought-provoking episode, Craig kicks off a new series presenting his personal collection of 35 axioms for living a flourishing life. Today’s focus: “Agency defines character.”

What You’ll Learn:

• Craig shares a personal story about overcoming his habit of being an angry driver. When he noticed how his reactions affected his wife, he consci...

Excellence isn't something you achieve—it's something you live. After 120 episodes exploring what it means to flourish, I've distilled the core insights into The Flourishing Manifesto, a philosophy of life built on agency, virtue, mindfulness, and purpose.

This manifesto emerged while planning my upcoming book, Live Well and Flourish: Axioms for Living an Excellent Life. Though the words were crafted by ChatGPT from over 125,000 wor...

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Patience serves as a formidable act of rebellion against the pervasive demands of our hyperconnected world, which incessantly encourages immediate gratification. In this discourse, we delve into the notion that cultivating patience is not merely beneficial for individual well-being, but a crucial strategy for resisting the algorithms that seek to dominate our attention...

What if I told you that true resilience isn't about climbing mountains or weathering storms, but about handling the countless paper cuts that life deals us every day? In this episode, we're diving into an unexpected source of wisdom about resilience: the Grateful Dead's "Touch of Grey." Together, we'll explore why those daily annoyances—from traffic jams to critical colleagues to that scratch on your favorite watch—might actually b...

At the heart of today's conversation is a simple but powerful idea: logic alone isn't enough to live a truly excellent life. The most important decisions we face require more than just logical thinking—they need to be guided by our virtues, our sense of purpose, and our connections with others. When we combine these elements, we make choices that align with what matters most to us, leading to a life of real meaning and fulfillment....

The salient point of this discussion revolves around the assertion that the choices we make, both trivial and significant, fundamentally shape our existence and ultimately dictate our capacity to flourish. As I delve into the complexities of life’s overwhelming nature, I invite listeners to contemplate how their own decisions influence their well-being. Through a candid exploration of my personal experiences with exhaustion, I eluc...

Doom scrolling represents a pervasive phenomenon that imperils our quest for flourishing and well-being. In this discourse, I elucidate the insidious nature of doom scrolling, detailing how it infiltrates our lives and undermines our mental health. I share personal experiences that illustrate the detrimental effects of mindlessly consuming negative content online. More critically, I propose actionable strategies designed to mitigat...

The episode addresses the pressing issue of a mental health epidemic, a phenomenon that appears to be pervasive across various demographics within our society. Craig Van Slyke articulates the alarming statistics that indicate a significant rise in mental health challenges, with adult mental illness rates escalating from 19.1% in 2018 to 23.1% by 2022. Through a candid examination of daily conversations and observed trends, we delve...

To live an excellent life, one must understand the foundational pillars that support true virtue, reason, purpose, and connection. In this discourse, we delve into these four fundamental elements that collectively foster a life of extraordinary significance. By exploring how these pillars interrelate, we illuminate the path toward not merely existing, but flourishing with intention and meaning. Our discussion aims to equip you with...

Feeling overwhelmed by your daily tasks? In this episode, Craig Van Slyke introduces the PITA Matrix, a practical tool designed to help you identify and manage stress-inducing activities. Many of us continue with tasks that drain our energy simply because we think they're essential. Learn how to use this simple but powerful method to understand your stress sources and develop effective strategies to manage them. If you're ready to ...

What does it mean to live an excellent life? While many equate excellence with achievements and productivity, this episode challenges these conventional notions of success. Through personal reflection and insight, we explore a transformative perspective on excellence that goes beyond the superficial metrics celebrated in today's society. Many individuals, despite adhering to societal prescriptions for success, find themselves in a ...

The revival of *Live Well and Flourish* is predicated upon the profound realization that the pursuit of an excellent life is not merely a matter of planning, but rather an emergent process that unfolds organically. I have returned to this podcast after a hiatus, motivated by a rekindled desire to engage deeply with the concept of living a life imbued with meaning and purpose. This revival seeks not only to reflect on my own journey...

After over three years and more than 100 episodes, I've decided it's time to step back from Live Well and Flourish. Producing this podcast has become more of a job than a passion, contributing to stress rather than alleviating it. Although new episodes will no longer be released regularly, past episodes will remain available at livewellandflourish.com for you to revisit whenever you wish. Plus, stay subscribed, as I may occasionall...

Stress can literally kill you ... if it's not managed well. In this episode of Live Well and Flourish, Craig shares his insights on the three main causes of stress: uncertainty, isolation, and overload. He discusses how each of these factors can bring about stress and offers suggestions on how to prepare for better managing your stress through reflection and performing an uncertainty inventory.

Can a Hermit Flourish?

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(This is a re-release of episode 43 of Live Well and Flourish.)

Conflict is a part of human relationships, and relationships are critical to flourishing. So, knowing how to effectively manage these inevitable conflicts is an important aspect of living a good life.

In this episode, Craig discusses four important conflict management approaches based on the importance you place on relationships and task outcomes. He also gives some gene...

(This is a re-release of episode 31 of Live Well and Flourish.)

Being able to control your emotions to minimize unnecessary suffering, and to maximize positive feelings is important to your flourishing. In this episode, Craig discusses emotional regulation and provides some strategies for taking control of your emotions and emotional responses. There's also a goat story!

Notes

Five Families of Emotional Regulation Strategies

Strategy f...

(This episode originally aired before our name change from Rational Ignorance to Live Well and Flourish.)

Grief comes from loss. But gratitude should accompany grief. Listen as Craig reflects on the puzzling relationship between grief and gratitude, and how a deeper understanding of how they interact can help you deal with grief, and prepare for future grief. 

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Reflection is a learning, growth, and flourishing superpower.

The world is often a chaotic, puzzling place. Reflection is how we can make sense of the world and our place in it. As the Jesuits at Boston College put it, “Reflection is the way we discover and compose the meaning of our experience.” 

In this episode, Craig discusses critical self-reflection and its many benefits. He also describes a systematic method for reflection...

Do you ever feel like you’re going through life on autopilot? Most of us have, but life doesn’t have to be that way. Join Craig as he discusses mindfulness and its benefits. Mindfulness is an active, conscious process where you’re more open to the present as well as more attentive and aware of the moment. According to Dr. Ellen Langer there are three specific behaviors related to mindfulness: engagement, seeking novelty and pr...