February 19, 2025 • 30 mins
Discover the secrets to building powerful connections with boundary coach Pamela Byrd as we delve into the Art of Relationships across professional and personal landscapes. February's enlightening series promises to equip you with the insights and strategies for becoming a master networker—proactively cultivating collaborations and expanding your professional circles through intentional giving, not just receiving. Learn to transform 'net waiting' into 'networking,' and how journaling can be your ally in personal growth and navigating life's challenges.
Embark on a journey that transcends digital barriers, where the essence of communication and self-awareness takes center stage in crafting meaningful relationships. We tackle the complexities of online dating, emphasizing the need to establish trust and safety in new encounters. Pamela and I unfold the art of setting and communicating boundaries and confidence, providing a toolkit for managing conflicts and enhancing connections. By the end of our discussions, you'll have a newfound appreciation for the subtleties of relationship dynamics, and the skills to thrive within them.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Ready Set Collaborate podcast with Rhonda
Pearson, where we will dive deepinto the world of networking,
collaboration and partnership,unlocking the secrets to a
successful team working withininnovation.
Whether you're an entrepreneur,a creative professional or just
someone eager to understand thepower of networking and
(00:23):
collaboration, this podcast isyour go-to resource.
Join us as we explore thestories, strategies and insights
from experts, entrepreneurs andthought leaders who have
experienced the magic ofnetworking and collaboration to
achieve successful results.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Tune in to Ready.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Set Collaborate podcast on a journey towards
achieving your goals with hostRhonda Pearson.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Welcome, welcome, welcome to Ready Set Collaborate
with Rhonda Pearson.
But you know what?
At the special edition ofFebruary is Valentine's Week,
valentine's Month, and I want tobring some wonderful ladies on
to the show to speak about thedifferent things about
relationships.
So the name of this series iscalled the Art of Relationships
(01:14):
and I have some wonderful guests.
That's going to talk aboutrelationships, about trauma
relationships, about expert inthe relationship and about
boundaries in relationships.
And I know my guest is going tobe Pam.
But Pam, she gave me a coachingsession before.
She helped me to help me dealwith my husband a lot, so it's
going to be wonderful.
(01:35):
And then we're going to endwith self care.
So I think this is going to bea wonderful series this month
and we want to just share whatwe know and how we can actually
communicate and help you allwith relationships, because what
they're going to do is actuallygive you some information, tips
and they are a great resourcefor you all to listen to over
and over again.
Make sure you all listen, shareand follow, because you don't
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want to miss any of theseepisodes.
So I am so excited to havethese wonderful ladies this
month of February to talk aboutso many things that can benefit
us in building and maintainingrelationships Without further
ado.
I am glad, yes, pam.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
B.
I said hi, pam, hello and thankyou, wanda, for inviting me to
be a part of this amazing monthcelebration of relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
You're a balance.
I'd say Absolutely, absolutely,and I really appreciate you
coming on, especially a shortnotice that if I was traveling I
was okay.
Who can I have any questions?
Oh, yeah, pam.
Pam does down to me, so I'mhaving different ladies that
actually can give some greatwealth of knowledge.
But before I do that I want toread your bio, pam Pam Beard.
(02:40):
As a boundaries coach andjournal late practitioner,
pamela helps women to discoverthe impact of past experiences
in their daily decisions andbegin to live life on their
terms.
For the past 18 years Pamelahas had has helped hundreds of
women gain victory over theirpast experiences and position
themselves for healthieroutcomes in the future.
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Pamela's experience withjournalism, such the age of 11,
has also positioned her as ajournal late expert, helping
others to realize the value ofjournal late as a stimulus for
personal growth.
Pam, I totally agree, because Istarted doing that when I
started getting depressed orwhatever.
I didn't realize I was writingpoetry and journaling, but that
helped me relieve a lot ofthings that I had held inside
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and deep inside, especiallysince I wrote my book.
So I appreciate you saying that.
So welcome, welcome, welcome,welcome.
Thank you, I am so excited tothat you're here.
But I'm going to ask you onequestion first, before we get
started.
So how do boundaries relate tocollaboration and networking
with your business?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
That's a pretty loaded question because there's
a couple things to considerthere, and one of the things
about boundaries, wanda, ispeople, when they think of
boundaries, they think ofrestrictions, they think of
closing, but when it comes tonetworking and collaborating
with your business, I say expandyour boundaries, and the word.
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And if you think aboutexpanding, that means getting
out there, looking at thepossibilities, being creative,
getting outside of your comfortzone.
So open up your boundaries,because it's not until you open
up those boundaries that you'reable to fully receive all of
that you have coming to you andall that you desire.
(04:29):
So one of the things I like tothink about and you and I, wanda
, we met through networkingnetworking is about expanding,
it's about collaborating, andone thing that people have to
know about network is it's work,and you have to work and be
intentional about expanding.
Now here's what it is not.
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Networking is not net weight.
So when you think about netwaiting, that means you're
waiting for something else tocome along or someone to come
along to help you If nothinghappened.
You have to be intentional, youhave to, and then you have to
know what it is that you want.
When you know what it is youwant, then you are willing to do
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the work that it takes to network.
And another thing that I thinkabout networking, think about
collaboration.
I think about the reason thatwe network.
You have to identify why do younetwork?
What is your purpose fornetworking?
What is your goal?
Because a lot of people andyou've seen this one in the past
I would say there's twodifferent levels of networking.
(05:32):
There's one that used to be andthe one that works and the one
that does it when you go aroundviewing your business cards,
telling people what you do andwhat you want and how can they
help you.
Networking is about being therefor other people, finding out
what is that they need.
You heard it in the Bible giveand we will receive.
It's not receive and thenthey'll give.
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It's not that You've got to bethe type of person that sends to
a person that you're networkingand that you meet.
What is it that I can do foryou?
How can I help you?
Who are the people that canbenefit from what it is that I
offer?
So I think it's reallyunderstanding networking from a
perspective of you got to expandyour boundaries, you've got to
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do the work.
You can't sit back and wait,and you can't expect somebody to
do something for you.
You have to be the frame ofmind.
Shift that to where you'rethere to do something or be
something for someone else, andthen we'll come back to you.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I do perfectly, said that.
I tell you I really appreciatethat and it is so true.
And that's how I'm going to getinto your boundaries portion,
because actually you build yourboundaries around that
networking, network and network.
So can you share a bit aboutyour background, expertise and
relationships and boundaries?
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Sure, sure.
I started my coaching practiceback in Cool.
It was probably about 18 yearsago, and when I first started,
for the first three years, I washelping women to determine what
it is where they wanted to bein the next five years and to
create a plan for doing that.
And what I noticed was thepattern.
I noticed the pattern of womenwanting to do things but not
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taking the steps that theyneeded to take for one reason or
another, and the main reasonwas because they did not set
boundaries in their lives.
They didn't set it in therelationships, they didn't set
it in the activities, in theamount of time they had.
And, most importantly and Ithink you can understand where a
lot of women have grown up tobe what I call people's pleasers
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and I grew up to be that peoplepleaser, in that when you're
pleasing other people, you takeaway from doing the things that
you need to do.
And so what I realized was, youknow what?
There's a pattern of women notsetting the right boundaries and
the healthy boundaries.
So because of that, I decidedthat for the rest of the so for
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the last 15 years, I focused onhelping women to identify where
the boundaries are neededwhether the boundaries they have
are healthy or unhealthy.
You got to differentiate thetwo and then to help, to teach
them how to not only set thoseboundaries, communicate those
boundaries, but also to know howto maintain those boundaries
should there be someone thatdoesn't necessarily want to
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honor them.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Yeah, I tell you you gave some good tips here.
People listen to what she'ssaying, but she knows you're
talking about here.
So how would you definepersonal boundaries in a
relationship context?
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Okay, personal boundaries are basically a
respect for someone's realestate.
So when I say real estate,basically your property.
So if you think about twocircles, right, you got two
circles, you got two individuals.
At some point they're going tocome together.
But understand, they only cometogether in the middle, they
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don't come together for thewhole circle.
That middle is that space thatyou choose to join with someone
else.
All the other space in thatcircle belongs to that person.
So what's really important isthat you define what that middle
space is, that you decide tojoin together and set boundaries
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around that so that you don'timpede upon someone else's
property in the areas.
Now here's something that peoplethink about.
When they think aboutboundaries, they think of walls.
Boundaries are not about walls,they're about fences.
If you can visualize thedifference between a wall and a
fence, a wall doesn't get asimpenetrable.
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Some people have walls that areso high that nobody can get in.
Will you do yourself adisservice when you build these
walls?
And these walls are basicallybuilt on past experiences, past
pain that you've experienced.
So you build up these walls.
Well, what a fence does?
A fence gives you anopportunity to be in control of
who comes in who comes out, whatcomes in and what comes out,
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and it allows you to see thefence at the top, gives you an
opportunity to see what's comingand to be able to determine
whether this is something youwant to let in or something you
want to keep out.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Absolutely.
You did exactly that.
That's what boundaries come in,and I'm going to tell you how
they always talk about myforesees in a relationship
Communication, compromise,consideration.
I had my fork with me, I knowyou can tell me what that is
here Communication, compromise Iwas talking about other guests
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communication, consideration,commitment and compromise.
Yes, those are my four Cs in arelationship.
I tell my husband okay, whatare the four Cs?
I make you remember them.
That's for you that is soimportant with that.
But yeah, when you talk aboutthat and I think I had all
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ranted to, how can someonecommunicate their boundaries
effectively without creatingtension?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah, can I tell you that creating boundaries is not
going to eliminate tension?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I don't know, I know, that's why.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
You have people saying, oh, just set a boundary?
I think that would not.
You have to be prepared to seta boundary.
One of the things that myhusband and I he often works
with me on my boundariescoaching.
We did a video just pulled uprecently on, if you want to set
boundaries, learn how to playthe game at chess.
Yeah, yeah, because there areeight things that I share in
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that video that I put on YouTube, that he and I did on eight
things to consider when settinghealthy boundaries that relate
to the game at chess, One of thethings that's really important,
especially when it comes toreducing the amount of stress
not eliminating it, but reducingit.
You want to make sure that youhave checked your emotions.
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You want to make sure that youare working off of emotional
intelligence that's high, that'sbeen worked on, that's been
studied, that's been practiced,because you can want to set a
boundary, but if you're settingboundary based on your emotions,
most chances are that's anunhealthy one, and so when you
understand different steps thatyou can take to ensure that your
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boundaries are healthy and thatthey are honored, then you want
to make sure that you're atleast considering where am I as
far as my emotions.
Am I reacting or am Iresponding?
And reacting means you have aknee-jerk reaction to something
that happened or something thatsomeone did, or something that
someone said, without gettingthe thought process of why did
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this happen?
Why do I need to?
Why did they happen?
Do I even need to set aboundary?
Or did I set a boundary before?
That was unclear?
That caused this person to dowhat I think is not honoring my
boundary.
Many steps that come into it andit's not something that okay,
it's gonna be so hard.
(13:05):
I gotta follow these steps.
No, just like you said on thosefour Cs, Wanda, those things
become innate.
They're automatic for you.
The first time it wasn't, youhad to practice it.
But as time goes on and youkeep in mind those four Cs,
eventually you'll get to thepoint where you see your
boundaries are being honored asyou communicate them properly.
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But that communication comesfrom making sure that you are
responding to a situation andnot just reacting to it.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Absolutely, I really.
Yeah, you're speaking to me,You're speaking my language,
that's so.
Look, I'm just, and so we'retalking.
I think we're talking aboutrespecting boundaries.
How do you respect each other'sboundaries and a relationship?
Speaker 3 (13:52):
It goes back to those four C's that you said, and I
think one of the first one isthe commitment.
Commitment means you've bothdecided that this relationship
is important enough to go thelevel, to go the distance and,
if that's the case,understanding that two people
are different, two people comefrom two different backgrounds
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and so the way that you thinkwill not be the same.
Oh, you may have some things incommon, which is why that
middle circle comes in for you,but we grew up with different
backgrounds, differentexperiences, and so we're not
going to always agree, andwhat's important is that you
commit that this is something wewant to have, this relationship
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we're going to commit to that.
Once you commit to that, youhave to be able to communicate.
You got to communicate,especially when someone says
something or does something thatcauses your blood level to rise
.
Then you're gut when somethingjust doesn't feel right, just
insane right, or goes againstyour beliefs.
That's something to remember.
(14:53):
But here's something I alwayssay to people before you make
that commitment, before you bothmake that commitment, in any
type of relationship you want toidentify first of all, you know
your value, you know your worth, Because if you don't know your
value and your worth, someonecan trample all over it, Because
if you don't know your valueand your worth, then you don't
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know how to communicate itbecause you don't know it.
And whatever you don'tcommunicate, it will come out in
your behavior.
So you can't be surprised ifsomeone doesn't honor what it is
that you feel is your boundary.
The first of all, if youhaven't communicated.
Secondly, if you haven'tpresented yourself in a manner
that shows your worth and yourvalue.
(15:35):
And another thing I always sayif you're going to get in a
relationship with someone, makesure you know what it is that
you want that coincides withyour values and your work,
Because then you can do what Icall an interview, and that is
once you identify the thingsthat you want.
I always my husband alwaysteases about this because when
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we first met, before we met, hismentor had said to him create a
list of 56 things that you'relooking for in a woman or in
your wife.
He created 56 things, and sowhen we went out, he was seeing
where I fell within that list.
If I did something that wasquite was a conflictive of what
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he on his list, why should hewaste his time Too many times?
We want to compromise, we wantto make excuses for a person
because of what they do, but ifthat behavior doesn't line up
with who we are and what we want, don't waste your time.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Keep it moving, because the one that's for you
is waiting for you.
And how long are we going towait?
Make sure you know what it isthat you want, your value and
you're being able to identifythose things and make sure that
person falls in line with thosethings.
And if they don't try to makeit happen, don't try to force it
.
You know what they say.
If it don't fit, don't force it, Wasting time in the long run.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
That is so true I know I've been married for 42
years.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
Congratulations.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
Lake Sturgeon's, wedgework and boundaries and
training and a lot of differentthings that we go through.
Like you said, we all havedifferent personalities and it
takes time, but I tell you it'sall good.
I say it's all good.
Yeah, what's the differencewith that?
Speaker 3 (17:24):
Can't imagine doing it without it.
I really can't.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Yeah, now are there new challenges considered for
boundaries in the digital age,so now remember to answer
whatever.
What do you think about that?
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Okay.
So when you say, as far asdating online, what?
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
And the challenges we have with dating online,
because I know they have allthese different things online.
Yeah, yeah, A couple.
We're not couple, right person?
Speaker 3 (17:55):
When you consider the foundation that we talked about
before things, to considerknowing your value and knowing
your work and knowing what it isthat you want.
Those are foundational and Ithink they can be utilized to
the digital age.
However, what's reallyimportant that foundation is
there's a lot that can bemisconstrued via the digital age
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and meeting people, talking topeople, whether it be on the
phone, be it like we're doingright now these are key, but
people can put on a face infront of the screen.
Yeah, they can say whatever theywant to say.
All I can say is be careful inthis, and that's in the
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beginning.
You want to make sure thatyou've got somebody with you at
all times.
Then you don't go to some placewhere somebody, if it doesn't
work out, can stalk you,continue to bow you or whatever.
Be careful, Trust your spirit,because your spirit ain't lying
to you.
Your spirit will tell you ifsomething's right or not.
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Let the feeling you get in yourgut stay and don't make excuses
, because guess what?
that feeling in your gut?
It's going to subsideeventually because God gives us
free will.
He's a gentleman, so if he'strying to tell you something
you're not paying attention,he's going to let you go.
So be mindful of that and don'tdo it by yourself.
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Talk to somebody about who thisother person is.
Don't stay in an island.
We're talking about safety herewhen it comes to ongoing
relationships and this is notjust in romantic relationships,
but any relationship understandthat the current digital age of
texting this interprets things.
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He should ask yes, you can Talkto somebody.
If you have a situation wheresomeone texts you a message and
you get defensive about it, askthem if they can talk.
Pick up the phone, let's talk,let's meet in person, because
there's something about thevisual of seeing a person and
reading it, looking at theireyes and then facial expressions
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.
You can't see that in a text.
I don't mean that People getinto texting wars and that real
relationships because of textingwars are an issue that could
have been resolved so mucheasier if they're committed to
the commitment, the compromise,the communication, all those
things, but relying on the text.
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Emotions get involved.
Make sure it's going well.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Or you know what.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
The relationship is ruined and it didn't have to be.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
No, absolutely, and I like what your husband.
The 56, the second of all forcrossing the balance.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Know what you want.
Know what you want.
A lot of times when it's sad ifyou don't know what you want or
where you're going, any rolewill take you there, if you
think about it.
When people apply for a job,when they apply for a job, if
someone wants to hire them, theygo for the job.
But is that job really the onethey want?
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Is it the one that they need?
Doesn't fit in line.
No, they're excited becausesomebody wanted them.
Well, you're value and you'reworth in what you want.
Well, if somebody wants you ornot, it doesn't matter if it
doesn't follow the line, what itis that you want and who you
are.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
That's going to bring me to my next point here as we
wind me down.
So what tips do you have foraddressing and discussing
boundaries and a relationshipwithout conflict?
I don't know how do you addressthat.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
You know what?
Let people walk into arelationship and they're
expecting conflict.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
They're not going to get.
Speaker 3 (21:43):
But if you go in there into a conversation where
you're seeking to understand,that creates a whole different
dialogue and a whole differentdynamic.
And so it comes down to notmaking statements but asking
questions.
That's what you're looking forclarification, because how many
times do we hear somebody saysomething and they don't mean
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what you thought you heard?
What you heard was based on atrigger or a filter that you
have in your own mind, and inorder to clarify that, you have
to ask questions.
I was in a situation where anda lot with text too the one can
say something and it can comeacross and you get offended by
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it.
Well, it's doing it, lettingyour emotions get all up in the
uproar, step back and say Ididn't mean what I thought they
said there.
You don't know unless you goand you act.
Now, another thing is, ifyou're not sure, you're afraid
that it's going to be aconfrontation remember you're
seeking to understand.
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Another thing you can do isclarify it up front.
The stage have a conversation.
You said something to meyesterday or today that I'm just
not sure if it came across theway that you wanted to come
across.
Or you want to make sure youuse the iMessage.
There's something you said tome.
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I'm not sure I received itcorrectly, for whatever reason.
So I want to make sure that I'mclear on that, and I understand
that there is no time limit onboundaries, so don't think you
have to check someone right away.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Wait a minute.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
No, you're just asking some time to process it
and once you've processed it,you've allowed your emotions to
get out of the way and let yourthought process come in Process
then, so you can know whatquestions to ask someone.
Another thing you can do is saymy goal in this conversation is
not to create conflict, it's tocreate compromise, it's to get
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understanding.
Whatever you say, I want tomake sure I'm clear on it and
then I'll go from there.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Absolutely Repeating, making sure you've heard it
right.
No, those are some great tipsCan you share as we wind me down
, because I wanted you to tellus your social media had any
impact with you.
But can you share a successstory with effect of
communication, about boundaries,strength of a relationship?
Speaker 3 (24:14):
I sure can, and a lot of times, people you're in a
relationship with.
Depending on the level of thatrelationship and it doesn't
matter which level it is there'salways room to communicate your
boundaries.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
And this situation.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
This was a co-worker that I worked with.
This was someone that I workedwith years ago and I worked for
a.
It was dealing with race.
I worked for a company and inthis company it was a bank that
was like 600 employees, so itwas a small bank In this bank
there were only two AfricanAmericans, only two black people
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in this area in this bank,there was a receptionist that
worked in my department, youradmin assistant, and she made a
comment to me one day at the endof the day and it was a racial
comment, not one of the blackones, but I was.
Yeah, she made this comment andwhen she said it I was.
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When someone says something thatdoesn't rub you the right way
but I didn't want to address itat the time because I would have
been reacting and in a workenvironment you definitely don't
want to react.
You get labeled when you dothat.
So it just rubbed me the wrongway.
I went home and I thought aboutit and all over I slept on it
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and I came in the next day and Iwas in the office.
She came back and she said herdesk good morning.
So I said to her I said goodmorning.
I said I wanted to talk to youabout something I said yesterday
.
You made a comment and Irepeated the comment and I said
I don't know if you're aware,but that was a very
discriminatory comment.
And she said oh my gosh, oh myGod, I have no idea.
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I said I know you didn't meananything, but I thought it was
important that you be what thatmeans from my perspective.
So she said I am so sorry, Idid not mean to say that.
And I said oh, you're fine.
I said are we good?
She goes yeah, we're good, sowe're good.
But wait, she would alwaysremember that someone let her
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know something that she wasn'taware of.
And that's the same thing withour boundaries.
A lot of times we'll havesituations where people don't
understand that's a boundary,whether it be telling a racial
joke, a sex joke, whatever thatis, if it's not a nice, instead
of going back and reporting them, especially at work, let them
know.
I don't appreciate that.
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That wasn't a good comment.
If you have to come backbecause you're not sure it's
going to be too valid to as faras your emotions, a reaction,
then step back.
There is no limit on when youset a boundary, but do set it so
that people understand yourlimits.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Absolutely.
That was a great way to endthat arm and I really appreciate
it because I've been atFortford for 36 years and that
happened.
So just making sure youunderstand so that they don't
keep making them conscious ofwhat they say.
It didn't sit well with you, sothank you for sharing this, but
I really enjoyed you on this.
You gave me so many tips andinformation.
(27:11):
This is awesome.
So what I want you to do now isactually give us your share,
your contact information.
I know you have some about afree consultation, just to talk
about things, so the audiencecan know how to get into it.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
Great.
First of all, I just want tosay thank you, wanda.
Wanda is known as theNetworking Queen because she
understands, and one of thethings I'll have in my
conversation with my husband isthat Wanda understands
relationships and Wanda gives,and this is because Wanda gives
that she receives abundantly.
So with that, I just want tosay that in order to get in
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touch with me if you want toknow more information about
boundaries, actually I do have aFacebook group.
It's a private Facebook group.
It's called let's TalkBoundaries and in this group
people have spoken, people haveposted anonymous, so that people
can help them to under memberscan help them to work through
some issues they have sendingboundaries.
So you're free to join my let'sTalk Boundaries group.
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I also have a.
When you go into let's TalkBoundaries, you have to make
sure you answer questions, forbecause they're boundaries
within the boundaries, I have alot of people, wanda, that try
to join the group and they don'tanswer the question.
They don't agree to the rules.
I'm like then you can't be apart of my group.
That's my great, and so makesure you answer the question.
(28:32):
You agree with that, and inthat I'm giving you an
opportunity to take some of thecourses for free that I've
offered, and how to identifyhealthy and unhealthy
relationships, how to have thoseconversations that you need to
have.
All of that is in there, andyet I do a consultation for 30
minutes complimentary If you'vegot a call at a discovery to see
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what's going on with you, whatare the issues that you are
challenged with, and let me seeif I can help you with that.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
That's awesome.
That's awesome.
And your email address thatthey can get a talk.
Just tell us what your emailaddress is.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
It's in the boundaries coach at gmailcom,
not the boundaries code.
Cause T H E cause I am theboundaries coach.
When you have a question, I'mgoing to come to setting
boundaries.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
That's awesome.
Thank you, pam.
I appreciate all you're sayinghere, but definitely make sure
you subscribe and follow,because I have so many different
podcasts that I'm actuallypresenting on the ready set.
Collaborate with Wanda Pearson,and this episode, the series of
February, is aboutrelationships, about Valentine's
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Day, about Valentine's monthRight, it don't just have to be
that day, you can celebrateevery day.
So definitely subscribe to usand, pam, thank you so much for
once again being on my podcast.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
Thank you for tuning into this episode of ready set
collaborate.
For more information about thehost, head to
WDPiersonAssociatescom andthat's P E A RS O N Want to
connect?
Send an email to Wanda atWDPiersonAssociatescom and, as
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always, stay tuned for the nextepisode of ready set collaborate
.
Welcome to Ready Set Collaborate podcast with Rhonda
Pearson, where we will dive deepinto the world of networking,
collaboration and partnership,unlocking the secrets to a
successful team working withininnovation.
Whether you're an entrepreneur,a creative professional or just
someone eager to understand thepower of networking and
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collaboration, this podcast isyour go-to resource.
Join us as we explore thestories, strategies and insights
from experts, entrepreneurs andthought leaders who have
experienced the magic ofnetworking and collaboration to
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Speaker 2 (00:42):
Tune in to Ready.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Set Collaborate podcast on a journey towards
achieving your goals with hostRhonda Pearson.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Welcome, welcome, welcome to Ready Set Collaborate
with Rhonda Pearson.
But you know what?
At the special edition ofFebruary is Valentine's Week,
valentine's Month, and I want tobring some wonderful ladies on
to the show to speak about thedifferent things about
relationships.
So the name of this series iscalled the Art of Relationships
(01:14):
and I have some wonderful guests.
That's going to talk aboutrelationships, about trauma
relationships, about expert inthe relationship and about
boundaries in relationships.
And I know my guest is going tobe Pam.
But Pam, she gave me a coachingsession before.
She helped me to help me dealwith my husband a lot, so it's
going to be wonderful.
(01:35):
And then we're going to endwith self care.
So I think this is going to bea wonderful series this month
and we want to just share whatwe know and how we can actually
communicate and help you allwith relationships, because what
they're going to do is actuallygive you some information, tips
and they are a great resourcefor you all to listen to over
and over again.
Make sure you all listen, shareand follow, because you don't
(01:58):
want to miss any of theseepisodes.
So I am so excited to havethese wonderful ladies this
month of February to talk aboutso many things that can benefit
us in building and maintainingrelationships Without further
ado.
I am glad, yes, pam.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
B.
I said hi, pam, hello and thankyou, wanda, for inviting me to
be a part of this amazing monthcelebration of relationship.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
You're a balance.
I'd say Absolutely, absolutely,and I really appreciate you
coming on, especially a shortnotice that if I was traveling I
was okay.
Who can I have any questions?
Oh, yeah, pam.
Pam does down to me, so I'mhaving different ladies that
actually can give some greatwealth of knowledge.
But before I do that I want toread your bio, pam Pam Beard.
(02:40):
As a boundaries coach andjournal late practitioner,
pamela helps women to discoverthe impact of past experiences
in their daily decisions andbegin to live life on their
terms.
For the past 18 years Pamelahas had has helped hundreds of
women gain victory over theirpast experiences and position
themselves for healthieroutcomes in the future.
(03:00):
Pamela's experience withjournalism, such the age of 11,
has also positioned her as ajournal late expert, helping
others to realize the value ofjournal late as a stimulus for
personal growth.
Pam, I totally agree, because Istarted doing that when I
started getting depressed orwhatever.
I didn't realize I was writingpoetry and journaling, but that
helped me relieve a lot ofthings that I had held inside
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and deep inside, especiallysince I wrote my book.
So I appreciate you saying that.
So welcome, welcome, welcome,welcome.
Thank you, I am so excited tothat you're here.
But I'm going to ask you onequestion first, before we get
started.
So how do boundaries relate tocollaboration and networking
with your business?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
That's a pretty loaded question because there's
a couple things to considerthere, and one of the things
about boundaries, wanda, ispeople, when they think of
boundaries, they think ofrestrictions, they think of
closing, but when it comes tonetworking and collaborating
with your business, I say expandyour boundaries, and the word.
(04:09):
And if you think aboutexpanding, that means getting
out there, looking at thepossibilities, being creative,
getting outside of your comfortzone.
So open up your boundaries,because it's not until you open
up those boundaries that you'reable to fully receive all of
that you have coming to you andall that you desire.
(04:29):
So one of the things I like tothink about and you and I, wanda
, we met through networkingnetworking is about expanding,
it's about collaborating, andone thing that people have to
know about network is it's work,and you have to work and be
intentional about expanding.
Now here's what it is not.
(04:50):
Networking is not net weight.
So when you think about netwaiting, that means you're
waiting for something else tocome along or someone to come
along to help you If nothinghappened.
You have to be intentional, youhave to, and then you have to
know what it is that you want.
When you know what it is youwant, then you are willing to do
(05:12):
the work that it takes to network.
And another thing that I thinkabout networking, think about
collaboration.
I think about the reason thatwe network.
You have to identify why do younetwork?
What is your purpose fornetworking?
What is your goal?
Because a lot of people andyou've seen this one in the past
I would say there's twodifferent levels of networking.
(05:32):
There's one that used to be andthe one that works and the one
that does it when you go aroundviewing your business cards,
telling people what you do andwhat you want and how can they
help you.
Networking is about being therefor other people, finding out
what is that they need.
You heard it in the Bible giveand we will receive.
It's not receive and thenthey'll give.
(05:55):
It's not that You've got to bethe type of person that sends to
a person that you're networkingand that you meet.
What is it that I can do foryou?
How can I help you?
Who are the people that canbenefit from what it is that I
offer?
So I think it's reallyunderstanding networking from a
perspective of you got to expandyour boundaries, you've got to
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do the work.
You can't sit back and wait,and you can't expect somebody to
do something for you.
You have to be the frame ofmind.
Shift that to where you'rethere to do something or be
something for someone else, andthen we'll come back to you.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
I do perfectly, said that.
I tell you I really appreciatethat and it is so true.
And that's how I'm going to getinto your boundaries portion,
because actually you build yourboundaries around that
networking, network and network.
So can you share a bit aboutyour background, expertise and
relationships and boundaries?
Speaker 3 (06:49):
Sure, sure.
I started my coaching practiceback in Cool.
It was probably about 18 yearsago, and when I first started,
for the first three years, I washelping women to determine what
it is where they wanted to bein the next five years and to
create a plan for doing that.
And what I noticed was thepattern.
I noticed the pattern of womenwanting to do things but not
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taking the steps that theyneeded to take for one reason or
another, and the main reasonwas because they did not set
boundaries in their lives.
They didn't set it in therelationships, they didn't set
it in the activities, in theamount of time they had.
And, most importantly and Ithink you can understand where a
lot of women have grown up tobe what I call people's pleasers
(07:36):
and I grew up to be that peoplepleaser, in that when you're
pleasing other people, you takeaway from doing the things that
you need to do.
And so what I realized was, youknow what?
There's a pattern of women notsetting the right boundaries and
the healthy boundaries.
So because of that, I decidedthat for the rest of the so for
(07:57):
the last 15 years, I focused onhelping women to identify where
the boundaries are neededwhether the boundaries they have
are healthy or unhealthy.
You got to differentiate thetwo and then to help, to teach
them how to not only set thoseboundaries, communicate those
boundaries, but also to know howto maintain those boundaries
should there be someone thatdoesn't necessarily want to
(08:18):
honor them.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Yeah, I tell you you gave some good tips here.
People listen to what she'ssaying, but she knows you're
talking about here.
So how would you definepersonal boundaries in a
relationship context?
Speaker 3 (08:32):
Okay, personal boundaries are basically a
respect for someone's realestate.
So when I say real estate,basically your property.
So if you think about twocircles, right, you got two
circles, you got two individuals.
At some point they're going tocome together.
But understand, they only cometogether in the middle, they
(08:53):
don't come together for thewhole circle.
That middle is that space thatyou choose to join with someone
else.
All the other space in thatcircle belongs to that person.
So what's really important isthat you define what that middle
space is, that you decide tojoin together and set boundaries
(09:13):
around that so that you don'timpede upon someone else's
property in the areas.
Now here's something that peoplethink about.
When they think aboutboundaries, they think of walls.
Boundaries are not about walls,they're about fences.
If you can visualize thedifference between a wall and a
fence, a wall doesn't get asimpenetrable.
(09:37):
Some people have walls that areso high that nobody can get in.
Will you do yourself adisservice when you build these
walls?
And these walls are basicallybuilt on past experiences, past
pain that you've experienced.
So you build up these walls.
Well, what a fence does?
A fence gives you anopportunity to be in control of
who comes in who comes out, whatcomes in and what comes out,
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and it allows you to see thefence at the top, gives you an
opportunity to see what's comingand to be able to determine
whether this is something youwant to let in or something you
want to keep out.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Absolutely.
You did exactly that.
That's what boundaries come in,and I'm going to tell you how
they always talk about myforesees in a relationship
Communication, compromise,consideration.
I had my fork with me, I knowyou can tell me what that is
here Communication, compromise Iwas talking about other guests
(10:39):
communication, consideration,commitment and compromise.
Yes, those are my four Cs in arelationship.
I tell my husband okay, whatare the four Cs?
I make you remember them.
That's for you that is soimportant with that.
But yeah, when you talk aboutthat and I think I had all
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ranted to, how can someonecommunicate their boundaries
effectively without creatingtension?
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah, can I tell you that creating boundaries is not
going to eliminate tension?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I don't know, I know, that's why.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
You have people saying, oh, just set a boundary?
I think that would not.
You have to be prepared to seta boundary.
One of the things that myhusband and I he often works
with me on my boundariescoaching.
We did a video just pulled uprecently on, if you want to set
boundaries, learn how to playthe game at chess.
Yeah, yeah, because there areeight things that I share in
(11:38):
that video that I put on YouTube, that he and I did on eight
things to consider when settinghealthy boundaries that relate
to the game at chess, One of thethings that's really important,
especially when it comes toreducing the amount of stress
not eliminating it, but reducingit.
You want to make sure that youhave checked your emotions.
(11:58):
You want to make sure that youare working off of emotional
intelligence that's high, that'sbeen worked on, that's been
studied, that's been practiced,because you can want to set a
boundary, but if you're settingboundary based on your emotions,
most chances are that's anunhealthy one, and so when you
understand different steps thatyou can take to ensure that your
(12:20):
boundaries are healthy and thatthey are honored, then you want
to make sure that you're atleast considering where am I as
far as my emotions.
Am I reacting or am Iresponding?
And reacting means you have aknee-jerk reaction to something
that happened or something thatsomeone did, or something that
someone said, without gettingthe thought process of why did
(12:45):
this happen?
Why do I need to?
Why did they happen?
Do I even need to set aboundary?
Or did I set a boundary before?
That was unclear?
That caused this person to dowhat I think is not honoring my
boundary.
Many steps that come into it andit's not something that okay,
it's gonna be so hard.
(13:05):
I gotta follow these steps.
No, just like you said on thosefour Cs, Wanda, those things
become innate.
They're automatic for you.
The first time it wasn't, youhad to practice it.
But as time goes on and youkeep in mind those four Cs,
eventually you'll get to thepoint where you see your
boundaries are being honored asyou communicate them properly.
(13:28):
But that communication comesfrom making sure that you are
responding to a situation andnot just reacting to it.
Speaker 2 (13:36):
Absolutely, I really.
Yeah, you're speaking to me,You're speaking my language,
that's so.
Look, I'm just, and so we'retalking.
I think we're talking aboutrespecting boundaries.
How do you respect each other'sboundaries and a relationship?
Speaker 3 (13:52):
It goes back to those four C's that you said, and I
think one of the first one isthe commitment.
Commitment means you've bothdecided that this relationship
is important enough to go thelevel, to go the distance and,
if that's the case,understanding that two people
are different, two people comefrom two different backgrounds
(14:12):
and so the way that you thinkwill not be the same.
Oh, you may have some things incommon, which is why that
middle circle comes in for you,but we grew up with different
backgrounds, differentexperiences, and so we're not
going to always agree, andwhat's important is that you
commit that this is something wewant to have, this relationship
(14:32):
we're going to commit to that.
Once you commit to that, youhave to be able to communicate.
You got to communicate,especially when someone says
something or does something thatcauses your blood level to rise
.
Then you're gut when somethingjust doesn't feel right, just
insane right, or goes againstyour beliefs.
That's something to remember.
(14:53):
But here's something I alwayssay to people before you make
that commitment, before you bothmake that commitment, in any
type of relationship you want toidentify first of all, you know
your value, you know your worth, Because if you don't know your
value and your worth, someonecan trample all over it, Because
if you don't know your valueand your worth, then you don't
(15:14):
know how to communicate itbecause you don't know it.
And whatever you don'tcommunicate, it will come out in
your behavior.
So you can't be surprised ifsomeone doesn't honor what it is
that you feel is your boundary.
The first of all, if youhaven't communicated.
Secondly, if you haven'tpresented yourself in a manner
that shows your worth and yourvalue.
(15:35):
And another thing I always sayif you're going to get in a
relationship with someone, makesure you know what it is that
you want that coincides withyour values and your work,
Because then you can do what Icall an interview, and that is
once you identify the thingsthat you want.
I always my husband alwaysteases about this because when
(15:57):
we first met, before we met, hismentor had said to him create a
list of 56 things that you'relooking for in a woman or in
your wife.
He created 56 things, and sowhen we went out, he was seeing
where I fell within that list.
If I did something that wasquite was a conflictive of what
(16:19):
he on his list, why should hewaste his time Too many times?
We want to compromise, we wantto make excuses for a person
because of what they do, but ifthat behavior doesn't line up
with who we are and what we want, don't waste your time.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
Keep it moving, because the one that's for you
is waiting for you.
And how long are we going towait?
Make sure you know what it isthat you want, your value and
you're being able to identifythose things and make sure that
person falls in line with thosethings.
And if they don't try to makeit happen, don't try to force it
.
You know what they say.
If it don't fit, don't force it, Wasting time in the long run.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
That is so true I know I've been married for 42
years.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
Congratulations.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
Lake Sturgeon's, wedgework and boundaries and
training and a lot of differentthings that we go through.
Like you said, we all havedifferent personalities and it
takes time, but I tell you it'sall good.
I say it's all good.
Yeah, what's the differencewith that?
Speaker 3 (17:24):
Can't imagine doing it without it.
I really can't.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
Yeah, now are there new challenges considered for
boundaries in the digital age,so now remember to answer
whatever.
What do you think about that?
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Okay.
So when you say, as far asdating online, what?
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:45):
And the challenges we have with dating online,
because I know they have allthese different things online.
Yeah, yeah, A couple.
We're not couple, right person?
Speaker 3 (17:55):
When you consider the foundation that we talked about
before things, to considerknowing your value and knowing
your work and knowing what it isthat you want.
Those are foundational and Ithink they can be utilized to
the digital age.
However, what's reallyimportant that foundation is
there's a lot that can bemisconstrued via the digital age
(18:17):
and meeting people, talking topeople, whether it be on the
phone, be it like we're doingright now these are key, but
people can put on a face infront of the screen.
Yeah, they can say whatever theywant to say.
All I can say is be careful inthis, and that's in the
(18:37):
beginning.
You want to make sure thatyou've got somebody with you at
all times.
Then you don't go to some placewhere somebody, if it doesn't
work out, can stalk you,continue to bow you or whatever.
Be careful, Trust your spirit,because your spirit ain't lying
to you.
Your spirit will tell you ifsomething's right or not.
(18:58):
Let the feeling you get in yourgut stay and don't make excuses
, because guess what?
that feeling in your gut?
It's going to subsideeventually because God gives us
free will.
He's a gentleman, so if he'strying to tell you something
you're not paying attention,he's going to let you go.
So be mindful of that and don'tdo it by yourself.
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Talk to somebody about who thisother person is.
Don't stay in an island.
We're talking about safety herewhen it comes to ongoing
relationships and this is notjust in romantic relationships,
but any relationship understandthat the current digital age of
texting this interprets things.
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He should ask yes, you can Talkto somebody.
If you have a situation wheresomeone texts you a message and
you get defensive about it, askthem if they can talk.
Pick up the phone, let's talk,let's meet in person, because
there's something about thevisual of seeing a person and
reading it, looking at theireyes and then facial expressions
(20:07):
.
You can't see that in a text.
I don't mean that People getinto texting wars and that real
relationships because of textingwars are an issue that could
have been resolved so mucheasier if they're committed to
the commitment, the compromise,the communication, all those
things, but relying on the text.
(20:29):
Emotions get involved.
Make sure it's going well.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Or you know what.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
The relationship is ruined and it didn't have to be.
Speaker 2 (20:34):
No, absolutely, and I like what your husband.
The 56, the second of all forcrossing the balance.
Speaker 3 (20:46):
Know what you want.
Know what you want.
A lot of times when it's sad ifyou don't know what you want or
where you're going, any rolewill take you there, if you
think about it.
When people apply for a job,when they apply for a job, if
someone wants to hire them, theygo for the job.
But is that job really the onethey want?
(21:07):
Is it the one that they need?
Doesn't fit in line.
No, they're excited becausesomebody wanted them.
Well, you're value and you'reworth in what you want.
Well, if somebody wants you ornot, it doesn't matter if it
doesn't follow the line, what itis that you want and who you
are.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
That's going to bring me to my next point here as we
wind me down.
So what tips do you have foraddressing and discussing
boundaries and a relationshipwithout conflict?
I don't know how do you addressthat.
Speaker 3 (21:36):
You know what?
Let people walk into arelationship and they're
expecting conflict.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
They're not going to get.
Speaker 3 (21:43):
But if you go in there into a conversation where
you're seeking to understand,that creates a whole different
dialogue and a whole differentdynamic.
And so it comes down to notmaking statements but asking
questions.
That's what you're looking forclarification, because how many
times do we hear somebody saysomething and they don't mean
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what you thought you heard?
What you heard was based on atrigger or a filter that you
have in your own mind, and inorder to clarify that, you have
to ask questions.
I was in a situation where anda lot with text too the one can
say something and it can comeacross and you get offended by
(22:26):
it.
Well, it's doing it, lettingyour emotions get all up in the
uproar, step back and say Ididn't mean what I thought they
said there.
You don't know unless you goand you act.
Now, another thing is, ifyou're not sure, you're afraid
that it's going to be aconfrontation remember you're
seeking to understand.
(22:46):
Another thing you can do isclarify it up front.
The stage have a conversation.
You said something to meyesterday or today that I'm just
not sure if it came across theway that you wanted to come
across.
Or you want to make sure youuse the iMessage.
There's something you said tome.
(23:07):
I'm not sure I received itcorrectly, for whatever reason.
So I want to make sure that I'mclear on that, and I understand
that there is no time limit onboundaries, so don't think you
have to check someone right away.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Wait a minute.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
No, you're just asking some time to process it
and once you've processed it,you've allowed your emotions to
get out of the way and let yourthought process come in Process
then, so you can know whatquestions to ask someone.
Another thing you can do is saymy goal in this conversation is
not to create conflict, it's tocreate compromise, it's to get
(23:49):
understanding.
Whatever you say, I want tomake sure I'm clear on it and
then I'll go from there.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Absolutely Repeating, making sure you've heard it
right.
No, those are some great tipsCan you share as we wind me down
, because I wanted you to tellus your social media had any
impact with you.
But can you share a successstory with effect of
communication, about boundaries,strength of a relationship?
Speaker 3 (24:14):
I sure can, and a lot of times, people you're in a
relationship with.
Depending on the level of thatrelationship and it doesn't
matter which level it is there'salways room to communicate your
boundaries.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
And this situation.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
This was a co-worker that I worked with.
This was someone that I workedwith years ago and I worked for
a.
It was dealing with race.
I worked for a company and inthis company it was a bank that
was like 600 employees, so itwas a small bank In this bank
there were only two AfricanAmericans, only two black people
(24:51):
in this area in this bank,there was a receptionist that
worked in my department, youradmin assistant, and she made a
comment to me one day at the endof the day and it was a racial
comment, not one of the blackones, but I was.
Yeah, she made this comment andwhen she said it I was.
(25:12):
When someone says something thatdoesn't rub you the right way
but I didn't want to address itat the time because I would have
been reacting and in a workenvironment you definitely don't
want to react.
You get labeled when you dothat.
So it just rubbed me the wrongway.
I went home and I thought aboutit and all over I slept on it
(25:32):
and I came in the next day and Iwas in the office.
She came back and she said herdesk good morning.
So I said to her I said goodmorning.
I said I wanted to talk to youabout something I said yesterday
.
You made a comment and Irepeated the comment and I said
I don't know if you're aware,but that was a very
discriminatory comment.
And she said oh my gosh, oh myGod, I have no idea.
(25:55):
I said I know you didn't meananything, but I thought it was
important that you be what thatmeans from my perspective.
So she said I am so sorry, Idid not mean to say that.
And I said oh, you're fine.
I said are we good?
She goes yeah, we're good, sowe're good.
But wait, she would alwaysremember that someone let her
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know something that she wasn'taware of.
And that's the same thing withour boundaries.
A lot of times we'll havesituations where people don't
understand that's a boundary,whether it be telling a racial
joke, a sex joke, whatever thatis, if it's not a nice, instead
of going back and reporting them, especially at work, let them
know.
I don't appreciate that.
(26:36):
That wasn't a good comment.
If you have to come backbecause you're not sure it's
going to be too valid to as faras your emotions, a reaction,
then step back.
There is no limit on when youset a boundary, but do set it so
that people understand yourlimits.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Absolutely.
That was a great way to endthat arm and I really appreciate
it because I've been atFortford for 36 years and that
happened.
So just making sure youunderstand so that they don't
keep making them conscious ofwhat they say.
It didn't sit well with you, sothank you for sharing this, but
I really enjoyed you on this.
You gave me so many tips andinformation.
(27:11):
This is awesome.
So what I want you to do now isactually give us your share,
your contact information.
I know you have some about afree consultation, just to talk
about things, so the audiencecan know how to get into it.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
Great.
First of all, I just want tosay thank you, wanda.
Wanda is known as theNetworking Queen because she
understands, and one of thethings I'll have in my
conversation with my husband isthat Wanda understands
relationships and Wanda gives,and this is because Wanda gives
that she receives abundantly.
So with that, I just want tosay that in order to get in
(27:49):
touch with me if you want toknow more information about
boundaries, actually I do have aFacebook group.
It's a private Facebook group.
It's called let's TalkBoundaries and in this group
people have spoken, people haveposted anonymous, so that people
can help them to under memberscan help them to work through
some issues they have sendingboundaries.
So you're free to join my let'sTalk Boundaries group.
(28:12):
I also have a.
When you go into let's TalkBoundaries, you have to make
sure you answer questions, forbecause they're boundaries
within the boundaries, I have alot of people, wanda, that try
to join the group and they don'tanswer the question.
They don't agree to the rules.
I'm like then you can't be apart of my group.
That's my great, and so makesure you answer the question.
(28:32):
You agree with that, and inthat I'm giving you an
opportunity to take some of thecourses for free that I've
offered, and how to identifyhealthy and unhealthy
relationships, how to have thoseconversations that you need to
have.
All of that is in there, andyet I do a consultation for 30
minutes complimentary If you'vegot a call at a discovery to see
(28:55):
what's going on with you, whatare the issues that you are
challenged with, and let me seeif I can help you with that.
Speaker 2 (29:01):
That's awesome.
That's awesome.
And your email address thatthey can get a talk.
Just tell us what your emailaddress is.
Speaker 3 (29:08):
It's in the boundaries coach at gmailcom,
not the boundaries code.
Cause T H E cause I am theboundaries coach.
When you have a question, I'mgoing to come to setting
boundaries.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
That's awesome.
Thank you, pam.
I appreciate all you're sayinghere, but definitely make sure
you subscribe and follow,because I have so many different
podcasts that I'm actuallypresenting on the ready set.
Collaborate with Wanda Pearson,and this episode, the series of
February, is aboutrelationships, about Valentine's
(29:45):
Day, about Valentine's monthRight, it don't just have to be
that day, you can celebrateevery day.
So definitely subscribe to usand, pam, thank you so much for
once again being on my podcast.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
Thank you for tuning into this episode of ready set
collaborate.
For more information about thehost, head to
WDPiersonAssociatescom andthat's P E A RS O N Want to
connect?
Send an email to Wanda atWDPiersonAssociatescom and, as
(30:27):
always, stay tuned for the nextepisode of ready set collaborate
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