April 27, 2025 • 39 mins
Lady Phyllis Okon never imagined she'd become a medium at age 67. After losing her husband during the pandemic, loneliness led her to explore mediumship as a way to connect with him. What began as personal healing evolved into an unexpected second career—one that would eventually earn the endorsement of renowned medium Thomas John.
From her fascinating background as CEO of a global transportation company she built with her late husband to her remarkable ability to connect with those who have crossed over, Lady Phyllis brings a refreshing practicality to the spiritual world. She demystifies common misconceptions about mediumship, explaining that connecting with spirit is not an innate gift but a skill anyone can develop with practice and awareness.
"Spirits are quite polite," she explains with the casual confidence of someone discussing dinner guests rather than the deceased. "They're not going to interfere with your everyday life." This balanced perspective stems from her unique journey through yoga, writing, and self-discovery—practices that heightened her sensitivity to energies around her long before she formally embraced mediumship.
Lady Phyllis offers crystal-clear insights about the difference between psychic abilities (connecting to the universe for guidance about past, present, and future) versus mediumship (connecting specifically with loved ones who have passed). For those curious about developing their own abilities, she shares practical advice about starting with automatic writing, reading transformative books, and establishing an online presence.
The warmth of the mediumship community surprised her, providing not just a new career but a healing space after losing her husband of 48 years. "It's like falling into a down comforter," she describes, encouraging listeners who feel called to this path: "Don't think—do."
Ready to explore your own intuitive abilities or connect with departed loved ones? Visit Lady Phyllis at www.ladyphyllis.com or follow her journey through her books, courses, and readings that have helped countless people find comfort and closure.
hyllis Okon co-founded BLS Limousine Service with her late husband almost fifty years ago. A former social studies teacher, she quit teaching to run the back office from her tiny kitchen in Syosset, Long Island. The company grew to three offices, and after her husband's death, she and her two sons expanded to eleven more, including a flagship office in London. BLS stands today proudly woman-owned and world-renowned.
After her husband passed, she ventured into mediumship classes, eventually being singled out of her mentorship and endorsed by Seatbelt Psychic Thomas John.
As Lady Phyllis, her ability to connect and give evidential information has built this new venture to many monthly sessions and a steady clientele. Combining her love of teaching with her many talents, she has now opened several courses sharing her knowledge and demystifying mediumship to enable a new generation to embrace it.
Phyllis has traveled many roads; a teacher, CEO, best-selling and award-winning author, wife, mother, and grandmother. Her biggest fear was becoming irrelevant as she got older. Her unique experiences have made her a compassionate and understanding medium, CEO, and author, proving you don't have to give anything up because of age!
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Speaker 2 (00:31):
This is Ready Set Reiki, a podcast about Reiki,
the universal energy life force,from the curious beginner to
the seasoned master teacher,welcoming all systems, all
lineages and all levels.
Reiki is a journey and not adestination, and on this Ready
Set Reiki journey, I refer tomyself as a guide rather than a
host, as I too am traveling,learning from others and
supporting others as well onthis journey, and with that said
(00:54):
, I am your guide, Tracy CWright, and joining me is
Phyllis Okun.
Now she co-founded BLSLimousine Service with her late
husband almost 50 years ago.
A former social studies teacher, she quit teaching to BLS
Limousine Service with her latehusband almost 50 years ago.
A former social studies teacher, she quit teaching to run the
back office of her tiny kitchenin Long Island.
The company grew to threeoffices and, her husband's death
(01:15):
, she and her two sons expandedto 11 more, including a flagship
office in London.
Bls stands today proudly womenowned and world renowned.
After her husband passed, sheventured into mediumship classes
and eventually been singled outfor her mediumship and endorsed
by seatbelt psychic Thomas Johnas Lady Phyllis.
(01:37):
Her ability to connect and giveevidential information has
built this new venture to somany more monthly sessions and a
very steady clientele.
Combining her love of teachingand her many talents, she has
now opened several courses,sharing her knowledge and
demystifying mediumship toenable a new generation to
(01:59):
embrace it.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Welcome, Phyllis, to Ready Set thank you for having
me great name, by the waywonderful.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Well, thank you so much for joining me on this
journey.
So so let's begin together.
So tell us a little bit aboutyourself.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Well, um, I'm doing mediumship now about three years
.
I started during the pandemic.
I started studying mediumship.
I lost my husband and I wasstuck in the house.
My kids couldn't come over.
You know we were washingbananas, washing, you know, mail
when it came in.
So we were keeping separate andI was lonely and I was missing
(02:41):
my husband.
So I started studyingmediumship.
I took a lot of online coursesand in Thomas's John's class
there were 86 students and I wasthe only one he endorsed.
Well, my sons have a podcastand they put me on their podcast
and they brought people on andthey said go ahead, mom, read
them.
And so I did.
And the next day they they setup a shingle Lady Phyllis.
(03:05):
And that's how I became LadyPhyllis.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Wonderful, wonderful.
So would you say thatmediumship found you or you
found mediumship.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
It's been a journey, because I've gone to mediums
since I was 30.
You know, it's not what it was.
It was not part of my family'sdogma.
We never really thought aboutlife after death.
We never thought about thosethings.
And then when my father passedaway well, it was when my
grandmother passed away westarted going to mediums and I
(03:35):
really started getting into it.
But I never thought that Icould do it.
I never, it never.
I figured people had to begifted.
You know, they had the giftRight.
I never realized that everybodyhas the ability to do it.
It's just a matter of finding,identifying it and then
amplifying it.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Wow, activating it Right.
Right, and I'm sorry for theloss of your husband.
It's, you know, when we haveloss like that, it's amazing how
a loss can just put us in acompletely different direction.
I mean, it's just, you know, Ilost my sister and that was a
turning point where I completelychanged my whole life and went
(04:14):
towards energy work.
Yeah right, well, you hadtouched upon something that you
thought, something thatmediumship was, that you had to
be born with it.
So this, you know, what is acommon misconception that you
find about mediumship?
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Well, the common?
There's a couple commonmisconception is that you have
to be born with it.
A common misconception isyou're walking around with, with
, you know, with souls botheringyou all day, that you have to
sleep at night.
It's like I turn it on and off,like I used to turn my kids on
and off when I didn't want tohear them.
My husband, you know what, what, what you know you?
Just you turn them off.
(04:52):
It's um, you activate what youwant when you want it, but
they're actually spirits, quitepolite, and they're not going to
interfere with your everydaylife, Right, Right.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, I'm sure seeing these psychic medium shows
where they're in the grocerystore and they walk up to you
and they, you know, give you areading.
They think you're always on allthe time.
So that's what I found it isbut it's kind of like.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I went to the bank yesterday and I was changing the
address and the there werethree women.
You know that one was traininganother woman and then manager
was there and it's always there,it's always in back if you want
it.
And what happened was theyasked me what is the business,
that they were changing theaddress?
And I said, well, I'm an author, you know I've written 80.
(05:39):
I've written and published 83books.
And then you know I'm a medium,and that was that particular
business.
And they said, Okay, so tell mesomething right now.
So I invited spirit in andproceeded to give them.
I gave like four people areading.
So it's there if you want it,and when you don't, you just,
(05:59):
like I said, you just block it.
Wonderful.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Now do you find that people ask you are you able to
see things for yourself?
Are you?
Some psychics have thatblockage?
I know that I do, so I have afriend and we do trades.
I see things for her.
She thinks for me are you ableto do that as well for yourself?
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Well, you know, the important thing is like my
husband's always there for me.
Well, you know, the importantthing is like my husband's
always there for me.
And I was just explaining onanother podcast.
So the thing is we werepartners.
I knew him since I was 16.
We were partners in a business.
I run the business now and whenhe died we were together for 41
years.
It was really hard for me notto be able to lean over and say,
well, what do we do?
(06:40):
Of course, connecting with himnow kind of validates my
decisions, whatever I'm doing inthe business.
But I still do go to mediumsbecause just to make sure that
I'm not interpreting things tomy own vanity.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Sure, sure, I have one that we trade and she's like
I need a sign to your sign.
I need not one card, I need 20.
So she needs that, that backup.
So many people come to you fora variety of reasons.
Many come to you becausethey're seeking guidance.
They're having challenges,they're having struggles and
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they want to look ahead of whatexactly they need to do.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Well, that's more psychic.
That's what I teach in my class.
There's a big differencebetween psychic and medium.
You connect to the universe,right.
You can see past, present andfuture, and you pick up
information from the universe,from the person's higher self,
whatever it is.
When you're a medium, youconnect directly with a loved
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one that's past or an identitythat's past, that this person
needs comfort and closure,healing, and and that's usually
the delivery you know, in amediumship, sometimes things
will come up Like I'll say yourmom says that you know you're
changing your job, that she'syou're not going to be happy
there, but she sees you findingsomething else.
(08:05):
So sometimes that will come up,but for the most part it's more
like thank you for choosing theblessed mother as my, you know,
as my mass card.
You know I really you reallypicked a good dress, sure.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
So for clarification for the listener, so say like,
for instance, I'm thinking aboutwhether I'm going to sell my
home or rent my home, I would goto someone who is a psychic.
Versus a mediumship.
Where the mediumship I would goto just to check in to say if
my sister's saying hello fromthe other side, right?
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Very good Sister might give you that information
Correct, you know, yeah, but ifyou want to know, do I, you know
, break up with the guy or staywith him?
You go to a psychic.
Very good, very good but my ownfeeling is you know what the
answers are to most of thosethings Of?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
course, of course, right.
You have that inner innerknowledge, that inner wisdom, of
course.
So you know big challenges andstruggles.
What are some of the challengesand struggles you faced in your
own healing journey?
Speaker 3 (09:09):
You know what?
I never see them as challengesor struggles.
I see them as learning curves,beautiful.
You know I.
You know I'm 70 years old, soI've been through a lot.
You know I own a globaltransportation company with my
family, you know.
You know we're right now.
We're having a kind of achallenge because business has
(09:29):
changed since COVID.
Yeah, so we go through thesethings and you just have to
always be quick on your feet andbe ready to reinvent yourself.
I was missing her.
She was like my best friend.
So I started writing and itturned into a whole career of
writing.
(09:49):
You know, and here I am.
When I lost my husband, whoknew I was going to actually
open up a shop and be a mediumand teach, I started out as a
teacher 50 years ago.
I was a social studies teacherand I left that to work with him
.
And here I am, I'm teachingagain.
So, yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Circling right back around.
I love it.
I love it and I love how thatyou're positive about it Instead
of seeing it as a challenge,looking at it as an opportunity
to grow or another step right,another building block to it.
And that's really probablyattributed to you know, your
success, your hard work, yourpositive attitude.
So you know, the more you talkto people who are successful in
(10:27):
business, it really you knowtheir attitude and how they look
at things really makes adifference for sure.
Yeah, so very nice.
So which do you wish youryounger self knew about
mediumship?
Speaker 3 (10:43):
You know I'm okay with learning it the way I've
learned it, but it's also been ajourney.
For instance, like I said, wewent to mediums, but I started
to when my, when my husband andmy mother were diagnosed with
lung cancer within three monthsof each other.
Wow, I started doing yogabecause I knew that I had
to-care.
(11:04):
I was taking care of them, so Iknew I had to do self-care.
And when I started doing yoga,she used to come to the house
twice a week.
It was like I made myself thatone hour twice a week I would go
away from the struggles of whatI was going through taking care
of the two of them, and itbecame a journey of
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self-awareness.
Yoga forced me, or encouragedme, or opened up the idea of
looking inside and becomingaware, like you said, that you,
I, you have a knowing, you have,you can feel things.
It's you know.
You know yoga made me aware thatI had all these feelings, that
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I was too busy or toopreoccupied.
I was a mom, I was a daughter,a sister, a wife.
I was busy cooking, feeding.
Everybody was coming here,running a business that you
don't pay attention.
You take all these things.
You know the little taps onyour back.
You take that for granted.
The little taps on your back,you take that for granted.
(12:07):
So yoga started to make me lookinward and think about what I
was feeling.
Writing made me realize whatwas around me because, like when
I would write a book and I hadto describe how someone felt, I
had to really think about how Ifelt, like if I walked outside
on grass.
What did it?
What did I feel?
So it's, it's all been part ofthis journey of self-awareness
(12:29):
and self-discovery so that whenI started the mediumship it was
like, oh, my goodness, it allkind of clicked that I don't
think I could have gotten therewithout the other stuff.
It was all kind of connectedand and I realized and, of
course, my yoga instructortaught me reiki.
My yoga instructor taught mesound healing.
My yoga instructor taught meabout ancestral healing.
(12:52):
You know the hellinger, uh,hellinger, uh constellations.
So through her she opened up aworld and we're still we're best
friends and we still meet twicea week, even if it's by zoom,
but we meet twice a week.
And she, yesterday she spent anhour doing restorative yoga
with me and she, I realizedthings during that session that
(13:15):
maybe I wouldn't have realizedeight years ago or 10.
So we're going on 15 years.
So it's all part of thisjourney it is.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
It is beautiful and I'm glad that you were able to
find a resource like that and,you know, just going out there
and finding you're just right.
And I can relate with the yoga.
So I'm a yoga teacher and Ibegan my journey many years ago
and because I was always busy,because I was always going and
going, it brought in thismindful practice of okay, here I
am, I'm on the mat, this is mytime to go inward and as long as
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I've been doing it, it stillteaches me.
I'm constantly a student andyou learn things and as I'm out
teaching, you know, know, manypeople have the misconception
with yoga that you have to beflexible or I can't do this.
And it's not about the asanas,you know, it's, it's really
going in and ceasing thefluctuations of the mind and all
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of those things that you'vedone together is, you know,
created who you are today as aperson, as a, a mediumship.
So, yeah, beautiful, it'swonderful.
So I hope our listeners listenand even if it's something like
you go and you try yoga and it'snot your thing, try to find
something else.
You'll find that just right.
Yeah, right, but prayer works.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Yes, yes.
You know meditation works.
I don't.
I'm not a meditator, I don'tlike meditating.
I have a little bit of a monkeymind.
Yeah, there's, there's alldifferent things.
Oh yeah, I you know the powerof singing.
You know, in fact, with grief,when I lost my husband, I would
put on a le xa you know yeahyeah, I would pick a song that I
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would feel spoke to me the armsof an angel, or hallelujah, or
even the sounds of silence and Iwould.
I would walk around my house andI would just sing out loud and
gave relief to the grief.
So you know, that's the powerof you, know you can, you can
sit or you can be proactive.
(15:13):
Yeah, yeah, and he picked me upand whatever I told him, I
(15:35):
could feel it gave him the peacethat he needed.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Yeah, beautiful, and what a gift to give people.
You know when they question andthey worry, and, because this
is the unknown, where do they go?
You know where are they, arethey safe?
I know, after my sister passed,I waited a couple of weeks and
I reached out to a medium that Ihad used before and, uh, just
(16:01):
making sure she's all right, isshe okay?
And, uh, she had told me thingsand, just as you share, that
sometimes they give you a littlebit of future information, my
sister shared with the mediumthat she's like your sister's
laughing.
She's laughing Cause you'regoing to get a dog.
And I'm like, oh, my gosh, I hadalready, at this point, like
six dogs.
And I'm like, no, no, no, I'mnot getting this dog.
(16:23):
And I was almost prepared forit.
And then, uh, in December, Igot a message from one of the uh
breeders that I had used andshe said, hey, I got the black
and tan dog that you'reinterested in.
And I remembered, oh, nope,angel said I was getting a dog.
No, no, no, I'm not going to doit.
And I said, well, give me alittle information.
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And it turned out that the dog'sbirthday was on my dad's
birthday.
I'm like darn it.
And so, guess what?
I got the dog.
So yeah, so you never know.
You never know what happens.
Just keep an open mind to it,an open mind and an open heart.
So so, when it's time for youto seek out a medium, what are
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some qualities that you look forin a medium?
You know you're teaching theseclasses, so is there any
guidance that you give yourstudents to look for?
How do you know that it'ssomeone who is authentic, right,
reputable?
Speaker 3 (17:23):
Well, the first thing I tell them to do is Google
them and see if there's any badreviews.
You have to look.
Do they honor the time thatyour schedule?
Do they give value?
Do they give evidence?
The first thing I look for in amedium is we usually we have I
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have two sons and twodaughter-in-laws and we have
like a little circle.
So if somebody gets a reading,we put it up on our family
thread saying just had a reading.
They were great.
You know, this one's fathercame through this one, you know,
whatever it was or don't, don'tbother terrible reading, don't
you know?
So so those are the things Ilook at and I do a lot with
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recommendation from friends.
You know, I've in my circle, we, we all kind of.
You know, I'm getting overCOVID, sorry, but my goodness,
yeah.
So we will talk to each otherand somebody will say I had a
great reading.
So you know.
But again, I'm sorry, but whatmay be a great reading for
somebody?
I'm kind of a tough.
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I'm a tough audience.
I expect a certain amount ofevidence.
Yeah, you know, and they're mygo-tos.
I've been going to a lot of thesame mediums for over 30 years.
Oh, wonderful, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
All right, yeah.
So what advice would you givesomeone who's just entering this
profession?
They feel this calling thispool, they want to start, you
know, doing the work being ofservice.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Well, don't quit your day job because you need an
income.
And I tell that the same adviceto people who write books don't
think you're going to write thenext bestseller.
Oh yeah, and one of my books isa bestseller on Amazon.
To this day it's still in thetop 100 books on Amazon.
But you know it doesn'ttranslate to you.
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Know, let's put it this way,I'm still working.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
So, oh yeah, Many people think that you're going
to be loaded.
But I mean, it's the HarryPotter books and things like
that where you're getting therevenue.
Yeah, cause they'll like oh,you're, I've written a few books
and they think you're rollingin money and it's like you sold
40 books and made five bucks orsomething.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
It's yeah, it's, that's exactly what it is.
So I tell them, you know, I infact I have in my course, um, I
spend a whole day on ethics andum, the do's and don'ts of being
a medium.
So you have to.
What I would do is give out mycards at the local yoga studios,
the local, uh, um, what do youcall?
(19:54):
Crystal shops?
You know shops that are similarto that.
You know, ask them if you cancome and you know if they'll set
up an evening.
In fact, I'm doing one thisFriday.
I will be going to a local yogaplace where they have over 40
people coming.
I'll read maybe 10 or 12 people.
I usually spend time.
I wrote a book all 366affirmationsations and
(20:17):
Inspirations, so I will haveevery person in the room pick a
page and I'll read it and see ifit serves as a message, so that
everybody walks out withsomething.
You know they have to getacquainted with social media.
You have to make yourself apresence on social media.
You have to be on Facebook,tiktok, instagram.
You know we're constantlyputting out content and it can't
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be just use me.
You know.
It has to be stuff like do youknow what clairvoyance is?
You have to get peopleinterested in you.
For instance, when I sell abook, I don't talk about the
book per se, but I'll talk aboutsubjects connected to the book.
So we do interviews, you go onpodcasts, you do set up your own
(21:00):
podcast, set up a YouTubechannel, so there's tons of
stuff.
I think.
Also, you have to have a bookassociated with you.
Yeah, doing mediumship, youshould have a book on your
website.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Right, right, right.
And for those listening, I alsothink, if you, you know, if you
don't feel called to write abook, for some people that's,
that's overwhelming.
Start out with maybe an article, write an article.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Yeah, I'm on Medium, mediumcom, which is a blog, a
worldwide blog.
Sure, sure, I'm on Medium asCarol P Roman.
That's the name I write under,that's one of my pen names, so I
put up articles on there andI'll write, like, about you know
what I did to become a medium,or what's the difference between
mediumship and you know allkinds of things, so that there
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are people that are interestedin that builds your mailing list
.
You have to put out mail atleast once a week.
Right, you have to givediscounts.
You have to be in people's face.
If you don't have a forefront,you have to find a way to get
into everyone's face, and sothat's what I do.
I make myself known, I go onpodcasts, I, yeah, I write
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articles.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Yeah, yeah, because when my sister passed, I see a
lot of things in dreams, and shewould come in the dream and
tell me she wanted me to write abook, and I just wasn't there.
I guess emotionally, to writethe book I was capable, but I
wasn't there.
And so I remember in dreamsnegotiating with her hey, I'll
just write an article about you.
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And then it'll be like, okay,well, I'm gonna write this book,
but I'll dedicate it to you,because I wasn't.
I couldn't in my mind figure away to write it about her where
it didn't, you know, spill overinto something about me.
And so that was my littlenegotiation.
But yeah, it's just, it's ahustle, isn't it?
(22:53):
It's just, but I mean, it'ssomething that you enjoy as well
.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
Yeah, what I've learned about writing is every
day.
If you just sit down and that'slike in the first in my course,
that's the first lesson isautomatic writing, very often
from a higher place.
Sure, sure, all you have to dois write two or three lines.
Oh, yeah, yeah, by the end of amonth you've got, you know, 90
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lines.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Oh yeah, like I was always like 15 minutes a day,
just 15 minutes a day, and Ijournal too, and even if I come
in the morning and all I writeon that page is thank you, thank
you for anything that's beingassisted or helping, supporting
me, yeah, and it just gets intoa habit with it, yeah.
So, at least 15 minutes a dayand keep writing and you can
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bring it together.
Wonderful.
So that leads into our next one.
So what books do you recommend?
So you had shared 83 books.
My goodness.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
But you're talking about books that I would
recommend to read for a person,or anything that has served you
on your journey.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
You can also miss, uh mention, your books as well.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
So whatever you feel called to do, so well, the first
book, one book that changed mylife, was many lives, many
masters, by Dr.
Yeah, I read that book 30 yearsago and it and it changed my
life, the idea that we're hereto live out a life to learn
something.
We go back, we come back.
You know that book really, andhe was such a skeptic.
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So reading this book really didchange.
Eben Alexander's book I don'tknow the name of it, but he's a
neuroscientist or whatever adoctor who had meningitis, died,
went to the other side and cameback.
They're all books.
I also love the 72 books ofmagic, the 72 angels of magic,
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by damon brand.
That book taught me to havefaith.
That spirit was going to behere for me.
You know, you know we read allthe time.
I've got dozens of books allover the place, but my
affirmation book is a great book.
I wrote Mediumship Made Easy andExpanding Mediumship, which are
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two of the books that cover mycourse.
So I basically wrote these sothat, as people were taking the
course, they could mark passagesand of course they could mark
passages that they can go backto, because mediumship, you
don't learn it all, you don'twalk in, it's kind of linear,
where you know you do somethingand you're doing it, and you're
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doing it, and then all of asudden, lesson three, you go oh,
that's what that meant.
You know you have to go back.
Which is also why when I, whensomeone pays to take my course,
they're kind of enrolling for alifetime because they can
continue to take the course overand over again without charge.
Yeah, it's all about discovery.
(25:47):
You may not get it here, butyou know so.
A lot of my students just sitin and keep taking the course
over and over.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Yeah yeah, I allow that too.
So I do yoga trainings and I doReiki trainings and one of the
things that I do different is Ido let them come and observe
again if they need to,especially if it's online.
They can just turn the cameraoff, they can just listen,
because it may be something theydidn't pick up the first time
or maybe something happens andyou know, you really want to
(26:20):
give them the best toolspossible and I've had students
I've had for years now and it'san open door policy.
They can text me, message me,you know, and have that
conversation if they need helpand support.
Yeah, so I let them come againand observe.
I just had someone that I wasteaching a class this past week
and she came again and she'slike are you sure?
(26:42):
I'm like, yeah, come and sitbecause we're practicing with
energy.
So that's another person tohelp the new person as well.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Yeah, Like you said, they may not get it.
You know it just may not makesense.
Piaget teaches you that youlearn only when your brain is
ready to accept it.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Yeah yeah.
Yeah, yeah, and especially with, well, the energy work.
You know you get that placementor attunement and then you're
having to cultivate thisrelationship with the energy and
you may not have been focusedon one particular thing and you
may come back to that class andsay, oh, like I forgot that and
(27:21):
oh, that's interesting, maybeI'll try that.
So, yeah, well, that's verynice that you offer that.
What a blessing.
So what other services do youoffer?
You mentioned, you know, yourcourses, events, trainings.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Well, I do one on one .
You know, book, a zoom, and andum, and I I do one-on-one, I do
them in person or I do them ona zoom.
I also I just did a party um, azoom party.
It was like girlfriends andthey were all over the country.
One was in texas, one was innorth carolina, one was in
chicago, and they all got on andI I read each one of them.
So it makes for great eveningsentertainment.
You know, they connected with amutual friend for all of them.
(28:04):
So that was really.
They had a fun time Okaywonderful when you do the events
.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
do you bring in cards , or is it just solely the
connection to spirit?
Speaker 3 (28:15):
It's solely the connection to spirit.
And, like I said, the book.
The book.
You could pick a number.
Pick a number, one to 366.
Any number, don't think, justpick a number that comes to you.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Three, three.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
Three Changing my mind is a strength and does not
show weakness, right?
So that's a message from yoursister.
If you've been feeling like, oh, I'm changing my mind too much,
yeah, it shows that I'm weak,it doesn't?
She's saying that it takesstrength to put yourself back.
So I don't know if there'sanything going on in your life
(28:52):
now.
Yeah, that's really what it is,right?
Do I stay, do I go?
Right?
You know, it shows.
It shows strength that you'reactually not just doing things
because other people are tellingyou or because you feel stuck.
Very good.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Yeah.
So to back up the evidential, Ihave a home in Pennsylvania
because I'm originally fromPittsburgh and we have been
moving towards renting it andsome things shifted and changed
suddenly, where the idea oflet's sell it, let's like I have
this feeling I got to sell it,I got to, I got to go and my
(29:34):
adult children are all you gotto rent, you got to rent, you
got to rent.
So it's making sense that I wasoriginally thinking renting and
now I'm pausing and like nope,I think I'm, I think I'm feeling
to sell.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
They're going to say oh you're.
You know you're waffling, youcan't make that.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
So I'm saying you're making a decision, your sister
is letting you know.
No, you're not a decision thatyour sister is letting you know.
No, you're not right, and I havemy daughter who's like you
should rent it, and I mean allvalid reasons.
But it's this something where Italked about that innerness
that you feel like I'm feelingcalled to just move on.
Yeah, yeah, she had a lot ofgood concerns.
(30:11):
Yeah, but that makes sense with.
It's okay to change your mind.
I don't look old enough to haveadult children, thank you.
Well, you don't look old enough, as what you said.
You're like hmm, very good, allright.
So where can we find you?
Are you?
You said you're online, you'rein person.
What if we're hearing this aslistener and like this is my
(30:34):
person, I'm going to connectwith her.
How do we get in touch with you?
Speaker 3 (30:37):
wwwladyphylliscom.
You can write me atladyphyllismedium, at gmailcom,
and I have a Facebook page.
You know I'm on TikTok, I'm ona Facebook page, I'm on
Instagram.
I don't even know how to get onInstagram, but I know my
daughter-in-law puts me on there.
Sure, sure, I'm definitely onFacebook.
(30:59):
And when you see the redtelephone booth from London,
that's how you know.
Like I said, you know I have awhole menu of things.
I do have a Patreon that meetsthe first Wednesday of every
month where I bring in expertsin different modalities.
I've had a grief counselor.
I've had a grief counselor,I've had a shell reader, I've
had a health intuitive, I've hada psychic.
(31:22):
I've had all different kinds ofpeople, a numerologist that
come on and give a lecture, sothat I just had somebody do a
whole thing on angels.
So I you know I, because I canonly teach so much, but I bring
on people, go and and takeclasses elsewhere.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
So beautiful you to guide you to the second part,
which are questions fromlisteners and our Reiki students
here.
So number one now.
You touched on this a littlebit in the beginning.
But what inspired the name,lady Phyllis?
Speaker 3 (32:05):
So my name is Phyllis Oken and it's a.
That's my professional name.
I I'm CEO of a company.
When I became a writer andthere's a whole story here I
became a writer.
When I became a writer andthere's a whole story here I
became a writer.
I chose my parents name and Ibecame Carol P Roman.
I'm the P in between, but Carolwas my mother, roman was my
father and I write as Carol PRoman.
(32:32):
Let me see, I have a book herejust to show you.
Here's a young adult book thatI did Grady Will and the
Templeton Codex.
It's a great little book.
So I write as Cal P Roman andIwrite adult stuff as Brit London
, just because it sounded like anice adult name.
So when we were looking for aname for me to be a medium, my
daughter-in-law went out andbought me one square inch of
(32:55):
Scotland, oh yeah.
And she said you're now a lady.
It was like always a dream ofmine to get to Europe.
Yeah, yeah, I love lords andladies.
And she said let's call youLady Phyllis.
That's how Lady Phyllis wasborn, because we just were
looking for a name to hookpeople.
Yeah, but I have so many namesthat I have going on.
(33:18):
Sure, lady Phyllis it was.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I love it, I love it.
We had gotten one for mydaughter and she didn't want to
be a lady, she wanted to be aLord.
So she's Lord, jenny.
So she's a Lord, so wonderful.
So, number two, can you tell meabout your class mastering
mentorship?
The complete series?
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Um, yeah, well it's.
It's actually called masteringmediumship and what it's.
I've now condensed it down to10 classes because I did it was
first three separate classes,five in each, and then I did 15.
And it's just too much forpeople.
It's too big a chunk.
Yeah, 10 to 10.
And I take you throughintroduction to mediumship,
(34:04):
which is, you know, explainingabout the monkey mind, about
automatic writing, all theClaire's that we start exploring
.
How are we getting thesemessages?
We do exercises.
There's a lot of.
You know, it's a, it's a hugegroup on zoom.
It's a lot of fun.
And then we move into, uh,learning about tarot, learning
(34:25):
about signs, learning aboutdifferent tools to use, like,
sometimes people like to usetarot, somebody likes, sometimes
they like to use the dowsingrods, crystals, whatever it is.
You know you have to kind ofdiscover what works.
If, giving a reading, you haveto be holding a crystal to feel
connected, then that's whatworks.
So we talk about all thedifferent tools.
(34:45):
And then the third part goesinto past life regression.
We do one past.
I only have two meditations.
One is to meet your spiritguide, one is for past life
regression.
We learn about past liferegression and then the end of
the course is about setting up abusiness.
It's about the do's and don'tsof mediumship.
(35:05):
So it's A to Z and it coverseverything.
And if anyone needs help I'mavailable to them.
They can call me.
And you know, like I said, mostof my students are reading
people already They've hung outtheir lunch table and they are
working Beautiful.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Number three and I went on and checked out your
website too, so everyone gocheck out the website.
On your website you have anemergency energy reading, which
I thought was quite interesting.
I have not come across that, sotell us about that.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
Well, you know, when we were setting up my calendar
and the website, my son did it.
So he put me up and within aweek I was booked up and I work
full time.
I go to work in the morning, Icome home, I do work with the
books and then I do readings.
I was reading four or fivehours a day.
I was booked completely for amonth.
(35:59):
It was exhausting, it was toomuch.
So then he started blocking outtime.
He said let's come up with aplan where you're not at the
disposal of people.
So we usually did it, that atleast I needed three to five
days for a booking.
So I knew that because I travelalso, I have my business in
(36:20):
many different cities around theglobe, so I have to travel and
I never not show up for areading.
I may call and say look,something came up, we have to
move it up or down.
But so we set it up and theyfilled up.
But what had happened waspeople would call me and say I
need to speak with you.
(36:40):
I need to speak to you rightaway.
So my son came up with an ideaof an emergency reading.
He didn't want it abused, so wecharge more for it.
Sure, everybody has anemergency, of course.
So if they want it, you know,if they're willing to jump the
line, so to speak, they're goingto.
Yeah, and, and I do.
I do get at least two to threeemergency readings a month.
(37:03):
Wow, wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
All right, Well done.
So that is our last question aswe've been talking.
Is there anything you mighthave forgotten or you feel
called to share with ourlisteners?
The floor is yours.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
Well, I just want to say that I started this journey
I would say it's 67, maybe 66.
And it's been an you're nevertoo old and it's been an
incredible journey.
The community is fantastic.
You know.
The community is such a warm,delicious community that it's
(37:39):
kind it's like falling into adown comforter.
It just everybody is supportiveand I was sort of broken when
he died.
I had been his wife, liketogether 48 year, total 48 years
, and I just didn't know who Iwas.
(38:01):
So this really gave me a chanceto get up to know myself and it
also helped with the grievingprocess, of course.
So if you're thinking of it,don't think do.
Speaker 2 (38:16):
Do, yeah, yeah, if you have the call, if you feel
the calling move forward rightOne step after the other.
So wonderful.
Well, thank you, lady Phyllis,for joining me on this journey
and taking time out of your verybusy schedule.
I'm so grateful andappreciative for making this
connection with you.
Thank you so much.
Oh, you're welcome.
Thank you All right, mywonderful listeners, if you want
(38:38):
your question featured on ReadySet Reiki, reach out
wwwreadysetreikicom.
I'm Tracy Seawright and thishas been Ready Set Reiki.
Thank you.
This is Ready Set Reiki, a podcast about Reiki,
the universal energy life force,from the curious beginner to
the seasoned master teacher,welcoming all systems, all
lineages and all levels.
Reiki is a journey and not adestination, and on this Ready
Set Reiki journey, I refer tomyself as a guide rather than a
host, as I too am traveling,learning from others and
supporting others as well onthis journey, and with that said
(00:54):
, I am your guide, Tracy CWright, and joining me is
Phyllis Okun.
Now she co-founded BLSLimousine Service with her late
husband almost 50 years ago.
A former social studies teacher, she quit teaching to BLS
Limousine Service with her latehusband almost 50 years ago.
A former social studies teacher, she quit teaching to run the
back office of her tiny kitchenin Long Island.
The company grew to threeoffices and, her husband's death
(01:15):
, she and her two sons expandedto 11 more, including a flagship
office in London.
Bls stands today proudly womenowned and world renowned.
After her husband passed, sheventured into mediumship classes
and eventually been singled outfor her mediumship and endorsed
by seatbelt psychic Thomas Johnas Lady Phyllis.
(01:37):
Her ability to connect and giveevidential information has
built this new venture to somany more monthly sessions and a
very steady clientele.
Combining her love of teachingand her many talents, she has
now opened several courses,sharing her knowledge and
demystifying mediumship toenable a new generation to
(01:59):
embrace it.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Welcome, Phyllis, to Ready Set thank you for having
me great name, by the waywonderful.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Well, thank you so much for joining me on this
journey.
So so let's begin together.
So tell us a little bit aboutyourself.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Well, um, I'm doing mediumship now about three years
.
I started during the pandemic.
I started studying mediumship.
I lost my husband and I wasstuck in the house.
My kids couldn't come over.
You know we were washingbananas, washing, you know, mail
when it came in.
So we were keeping separate andI was lonely and I was missing
(02:41):
my husband.
So I started studyingmediumship.
I took a lot of online coursesand in Thomas's John's class
there were 86 students and I wasthe only one he endorsed.
Well, my sons have a podcastand they put me on their podcast
and they brought people on andthey said go ahead, mom, read
them.
And so I did.
And the next day they they setup a shingle Lady Phyllis.
(03:05):
And that's how I became LadyPhyllis.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Wonderful, wonderful.
So would you say thatmediumship found you or you
found mediumship.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
It's been a journey, because I've gone to mediums
since I was 30.
You know, it's not what it was.
It was not part of my family'sdogma.
We never really thought aboutlife after death.
We never thought about thosethings.
And then when my father passedaway well, it was when my
grandmother passed away westarted going to mediums and I
(03:35):
really started getting into it.
But I never thought that Icould do it.
I never, it never.
I figured people had to begifted.
You know, they had the giftRight.
I never realized that everybodyhas the ability to do it.
It's just a matter of finding,identifying it and then
amplifying it.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Wow, activating it Right.
Right, and I'm sorry for theloss of your husband.
It's, you know, when we haveloss like that, it's amazing how
a loss can just put us in acompletely different direction.
I mean, it's just, you know, Ilost my sister and that was a
turning point where I completelychanged my whole life and went
(04:14):
towards energy work.
Yeah right, well, you hadtouched upon something that you
thought, something thatmediumship was, that you had to
be born with it.
So this, you know, what is acommon misconception that you
find about mediumship?
Speaker 3 (04:31):
Well, the common?
There's a couple commonmisconception is that you have
to be born with it.
A common misconception isyou're walking around with, with
, you know, with souls botheringyou all day, that you have to
sleep at night.
It's like I turn it on and off,like I used to turn my kids on
and off when I didn't want tohear them.
My husband, you know what, what, what you know you?
Just you turn them off.
(04:52):
It's um, you activate what youwant when you want it, but
they're actually spirits, quitepolite, and they're not going to
interfere with your everydaylife, Right, Right.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, I'm sure seeing these psychic medium shows
where they're in the grocerystore and they walk up to you
and they, you know, give you areading.
They think you're always on allthe time.
So that's what I found it isbut it's kind of like.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
I went to the bank yesterday and I was changing the
address and the there werethree women.
You know that one was traininganother woman and then manager
was there and it's always there,it's always in back if you want
it.
And what happened was theyasked me what is the business,
that they were changing theaddress?
And I said, well, I'm an author, you know I've written 80.
(05:39):
I've written and published 83books.
And then you know I'm a medium,and that was that particular
business.
And they said, Okay, so tell mesomething right now.
So I invited spirit in andproceeded to give them.
I gave like four people areading.
So it's there if you want it,and when you don't, you just,
(05:59):
like I said, you just block it.
Wonderful.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
Now do you find that people ask you are you able to
see things for yourself?
Are you?
Some psychics have thatblockage?
I know that I do, so I have afriend and we do trades.
I see things for her.
She thinks for me are you ableto do that as well for yourself?
Speaker 3 (06:20):
Well, you know, the important thing is like my
husband's always there for me.
Well, you know, the importantthing is like my husband's
always there for me.
And I was just explaining onanother podcast.
So the thing is we werepartners.
I knew him since I was 16.
We were partners in a business.
I run the business now and whenhe died we were together for 41
years.
It was really hard for me notto be able to lean over and say,
well, what do we do?
(06:40):
Of course, connecting with himnow kind of validates my
decisions, whatever I'm doing inthe business.
But I still do go to mediumsbecause just to make sure that
I'm not interpreting things tomy own vanity.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Sure, sure, I have one that we trade and she's like
I need a sign to your sign.
I need not one card, I need 20.
So she needs that, that backup.
So many people come to you fora variety of reasons.
Many come to you becausethey're seeking guidance.
They're having challenges,they're having struggles and
(07:16):
they want to look ahead of whatexactly they need to do.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Well, that's more psychic.
That's what I teach in my class.
There's a big differencebetween psychic and medium.
You connect to the universe,right.
You can see past, present andfuture, and you pick up
information from the universe,from the person's higher self,
whatever it is.
When you're a medium, youconnect directly with a loved
(07:44):
one that's past or an identitythat's past, that this person
needs comfort and closure,healing, and and that's usually
the delivery you know, in amediumship, sometimes things
will come up Like I'll say yourmom says that you know you're
changing your job, that she'syou're not going to be happy
there, but she sees you findingsomething else.
(08:05):
So sometimes that will come up,but for the most part it's more
like thank you for choosing theblessed mother as my, you know,
as my mass card.
You know I really you reallypicked a good dress, sure.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
So for clarification for the listener, so say like,
for instance, I'm thinking aboutwhether I'm going to sell my
home or rent my home, I would goto someone who is a psychic.
Versus a mediumship.
Where the mediumship I would goto just to check in to say if
my sister's saying hello fromthe other side, right?
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Very good Sister might give you that information
Correct, you know, yeah, but ifyou want to know, do I, you know
, break up with the guy or staywith him?
You go to a psychic.
Very good, very good but my ownfeeling is you know what the
answers are to most of thosethings Of?
Speaker 2 (08:56):
course, of course, right.
You have that inner innerknowledge, that inner wisdom, of
course.
So you know big challenges andstruggles.
What are some of the challengesand struggles you faced in your
own healing journey?
Speaker 3 (09:09):
You know what?
I never see them as challengesor struggles.
I see them as learning curves,beautiful.
You know I.
You know I'm 70 years old, soI've been through a lot.
You know I own a globaltransportation company with my
family, you know.
You know we're right now.
We're having a kind of achallenge because business has
(09:29):
changed since COVID.
Yeah, so we go through thesethings and you just have to
always be quick on your feet andbe ready to reinvent yourself.
I was missing her.
She was like my best friend.
So I started writing and itturned into a whole career of
writing.
(09:49):
You know, and here I am.
When I lost my husband, whoknew I was going to actually
open up a shop and be a mediumand teach, I started out as a
teacher 50 years ago.
I was a social studies teacherand I left that to work with him
.
And here I am, I'm teachingagain.
So, yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
Circling right back around.
I love it.
I love it and I love how thatyou're positive about it Instead
of seeing it as a challenge,looking at it as an opportunity
to grow or another step right,another building block to it.
And that's really probablyattributed to you know, your
success, your hard work, yourpositive attitude.
So you know, the more you talkto people who are successful in
(10:27):
business, it really you knowtheir attitude and how they look
at things really makes adifference for sure.
Yeah, so very nice.
So which do you wish youryounger self knew about
mediumship?
Speaker 3 (10:43):
You know I'm okay with learning it the way I've
learned it, but it's also been ajourney.
For instance, like I said, wewent to mediums, but I started
to when my, when my husband andmy mother were diagnosed with
lung cancer within three monthsof each other.
Wow, I started doing yogabecause I knew that I had
to-care.
(11:04):
I was taking care of them, so Iknew I had to do self-care.
And when I started doing yoga,she used to come to the house
twice a week.
It was like I made myself thatone hour twice a week I would go
away from the struggles of whatI was going through taking care
of the two of them, and itbecame a journey of
(11:25):
self-awareness.
Yoga forced me, or encouragedme, or opened up the idea of
looking inside and becomingaware, like you said, that you,
I, you have a knowing, you have,you can feel things.
It's you know.
You know yoga made me aware thatI had all these feelings, that
(11:45):
I was too busy or toopreoccupied.
I was a mom, I was a daughter,a sister, a wife.
I was busy cooking, feeding.
Everybody was coming here,running a business that you
don't pay attention.
You take all these things.
You know the little taps onyour back.
You take that for granted.
The little taps on your back,you take that for granted.
(12:07):
So yoga started to make me lookinward and think about what I
was feeling.
Writing made me realize whatwas around me because, like when
I would write a book and I hadto describe how someone felt, I
had to really think about how Ifelt, like if I walked outside
on grass.
What did it?
What did I feel?
So it's, it's all been part ofthis journey of self-awareness
(12:29):
and self-discovery so that whenI started the mediumship it was
like, oh, my goodness, it allkind of clicked that I don't
think I could have gotten therewithout the other stuff.
It was all kind of connectedand and I realized and, of
course, my yoga instructortaught me reiki.
My yoga instructor taught mesound healing.
My yoga instructor taught meabout ancestral healing.
(12:52):
You know the hellinger, uh,hellinger, uh constellations.
So through her she opened up aworld and we're still we're best
friends and we still meet twicea week, even if it's by zoom,
but we meet twice a week.
And she, yesterday she spent anhour doing restorative yoga
with me and she, I realizedthings during that session that
(13:15):
maybe I wouldn't have realizedeight years ago or 10.
So we're going on 15 years.
So it's all part of thisjourney it is.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
It is beautiful and I'm glad that you were able to
find a resource like that and,you know, just going out there
and finding you're just right.
And I can relate with the yoga.
So I'm a yoga teacher and Ibegan my journey many years ago
and because I was always busy,because I was always going and
going, it brought in thismindful practice of okay, here I
am, I'm on the mat, this is mytime to go inward and as long as
(13:47):
I've been doing it, it stillteaches me.
I'm constantly a student andyou learn things and as I'm out
teaching, you know, know, manypeople have the misconception
with yoga that you have to beflexible or I can't do this.
And it's not about the asanas,you know, it's, it's really
going in and ceasing thefluctuations of the mind and all
(14:09):
of those things that you'vedone together is, you know,
created who you are today as aperson, as a, a mediumship.
So, yeah, beautiful, it'swonderful.
So I hope our listeners listenand even if it's something like
you go and you try yoga and it'snot your thing, try to find
something else.
You'll find that just right.
Yeah, right, but prayer works.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
Yes, yes.
You know meditation works.
I don't.
I'm not a meditator, I don'tlike meditating.
I have a little bit of a monkeymind.
Yeah, there's, there's alldifferent things.
Oh yeah, I you know the powerof singing.
You know, in fact, with grief,when I lost my husband, I would
put on a le xa you know yeahyeah, I would pick a song that I
(14:51):
would feel spoke to me the armsof an angel, or hallelujah, or
even the sounds of silence and Iwould.
I would walk around my house andI would just sing out loud and
gave relief to the grief.
So you know, that's the powerof you, know you can, you can
sit or you can be proactive.
(15:13):
Yeah, yeah, and he picked me upand whatever I told him, I
(15:35):
could feel it gave him the peacethat he needed.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Yeah, beautiful, and what a gift to give people.
You know when they question andthey worry, and, because this
is the unknown, where do they go?
You know where are they, arethey safe?
I know, after my sister passed,I waited a couple of weeks and
I reached out to a medium that Ihad used before and, uh, just
(16:01):
making sure she's all right, isshe okay?
And, uh, she had told me thingsand, just as you share, that
sometimes they give you a littlebit of future information, my
sister shared with the mediumthat she's like your sister's
laughing.
She's laughing Cause you'regoing to get a dog.
And I'm like, oh, my gosh, I hadalready, at this point, like
six dogs.
And I'm like, no, no, no, I'mnot getting this dog.
(16:23):
And I was almost prepared forit.
And then, uh, in December, Igot a message from one of the uh
breeders that I had used andshe said, hey, I got the black
and tan dog that you'reinterested in.
And I remembered, oh, nope,angel said I was getting a dog.
No, no, no, I'm not going to doit.
And I said, well, give me alittle information.
(16:44):
And it turned out that the dog'sbirthday was on my dad's
birthday.
I'm like darn it.
And so, guess what?
I got the dog.
So yeah, so you never know.
You never know what happens.
Just keep an open mind to it,an open mind and an open heart.
So so, when it's time for youto seek out a medium, what are
(17:08):
some qualities that you look forin a medium?
You know you're teaching theseclasses, so is there any
guidance that you give yourstudents to look for?
How do you know that it'ssomeone who is authentic, right,
reputable?
Speaker 3 (17:23):
Well, the first thing I tell them to do is Google
them and see if there's any badreviews.
You have to look.
Do they honor the time thatyour schedule?
Do they give value?
Do they give evidence?
The first thing I look for in amedium is we usually we have I
(17:43):
have two sons and twodaughter-in-laws and we have
like a little circle.
So if somebody gets a reading,we put it up on our family
thread saying just had a reading.
They were great.
You know, this one's fathercame through this one, you know,
whatever it was or don't, don'tbother terrible reading, don't
you know?
So so those are the things Ilook at and I do a lot with
(18:07):
recommendation from friends.
You know, I've in my circle, we, we all kind of.
You know, I'm getting overCOVID, sorry, but my goodness,
yeah.
So we will talk to each otherand somebody will say I had a
great reading.
So you know.
But again, I'm sorry, but whatmay be a great reading for
somebody?
I'm kind of a tough.
(18:28):
I'm a tough audience.
I expect a certain amount ofevidence.
Yeah, you know, and they're mygo-tos.
I've been going to a lot of thesame mediums for over 30 years.
Oh, wonderful, yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:41):
All right, yeah.
So what advice would you givesomeone who's just entering this
profession?
They feel this calling thispool, they want to start, you
know, doing the work being ofservice.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Well, don't quit your day job because you need an
income.
And I tell that the same adviceto people who write books don't
think you're going to write thenext bestseller.
Oh yeah, and one of my books isa bestseller on Amazon.
To this day it's still in thetop 100 books on Amazon.
But you know it doesn'ttranslate to you.
(19:15):
Know, let's put it this way,I'm still working.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
So, oh yeah, Many people think that you're going
to be loaded.
But I mean, it's the HarryPotter books and things like
that where you're getting therevenue.
Yeah, cause they'll like oh,you're, I've written a few books
and they think you're rollingin money and it's like you sold
40 books and made five bucks orsomething.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
It's yeah, it's, that's exactly what it is.
So I tell them, you know, I infact I have in my course, um, I
spend a whole day on ethics andum, the do's and don'ts of being
a medium.
So you have to.
What I would do is give out mycards at the local yoga studios,
the local, uh, um, what do youcall?
(19:54):
Crystal shops?
You know shops that are similarto that.
You know, ask them if you cancome and you know if they'll set
up an evening.
In fact, I'm doing one thisFriday.
I will be going to a local yogaplace where they have over 40
people coming.
I'll read maybe 10 or 12 people.
I usually spend time.
I wrote a book all 366affirmationsations and
(20:17):
Inspirations, so I will haveevery person in the room pick a
page and I'll read it and see ifit serves as a message, so that
everybody walks out withsomething.
You know they have to getacquainted with social media.
You have to make yourself apresence on social media.
You have to be on Facebook,tiktok, instagram.
You know we're constantlyputting out content and it can't
(20:39):
be just use me.
You know.
It has to be stuff like do youknow what clairvoyance is?
You have to get peopleinterested in you.
For instance, when I sell abook, I don't talk about the
book per se, but I'll talk aboutsubjects connected to the book.
So we do interviews, you go onpodcasts, you do set up your own
(21:00):
podcast, set up a YouTubechannel, so there's tons of
stuff.
I think.
Also, you have to have a bookassociated with you.
Yeah, doing mediumship, youshould have a book on your
website.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
Right, right, right.
And for those listening, I alsothink, if you, you know, if you
don't feel called to write abook, for some people that's,
that's overwhelming.
Start out with maybe an article, write an article.
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Yeah, I'm on Medium, mediumcom, which is a blog, a
worldwide blog.
Sure, sure, I'm on Medium asCarol P Roman.
That's the name I write under,that's one of my pen names, so I
put up articles on there andI'll write, like, about you know
what I did to become a medium,or what's the difference between
mediumship and you know allkinds of things, so that there
(21:48):
are people that are interestedin that builds your mailing list
.
You have to put out mail atleast once a week.
Right, you have to givediscounts.
You have to be in people's face.
If you don't have a forefront,you have to find a way to get
into everyone's face, and sothat's what I do.
I make myself known, I go onpodcasts, I, yeah, I write
(22:09):
articles.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Yeah, yeah, because when my sister passed, I see a
lot of things in dreams, and shewould come in the dream and
tell me she wanted me to write abook, and I just wasn't there.
I guess emotionally, to writethe book I was capable, but I
wasn't there.
And so I remember in dreamsnegotiating with her hey, I'll
just write an article about you.
(22:31):
And then it'll be like, okay,well, I'm gonna write this book,
but I'll dedicate it to you,because I wasn't.
I couldn't in my mind figure away to write it about her where
it didn't, you know, spill overinto something about me.
And so that was my littlenegotiation.
But yeah, it's just, it's ahustle, isn't it?
(22:53):
It's just, but I mean, it'ssomething that you enjoy as well
.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
Yeah, what I've learned about writing is every
day.
If you just sit down and that'slike in the first in my course,
that's the first lesson isautomatic writing, very often
from a higher place.
Sure, sure, all you have to dois write two or three lines.
Oh, yeah, yeah, by the end of amonth you've got, you know, 90
(23:18):
lines.
Speaker 2 (23:18):
Oh yeah, like I was always like 15 minutes a day,
just 15 minutes a day, and Ijournal too, and even if I come
in the morning and all I writeon that page is thank you, thank
you for anything that's beingassisted or helping, supporting
me, yeah, and it just gets intoa habit with it, yeah.
So, at least 15 minutes a dayand keep writing and you can
(23:40):
bring it together.
Wonderful.
So that leads into our next one.
So what books do you recommend?
So you had shared 83 books.
My goodness.
Speaker 3 (23:49):
But you're talking about books that I would
recommend to read for a person,or anything that has served you
on your journey.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
You can also miss, uh mention, your books as well.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
So whatever you feel called to do, so well, the first
book, one book that changed mylife, was many lives, many
masters, by Dr.
Yeah, I read that book 30 yearsago and it and it changed my
life, the idea that we're hereto live out a life to learn
something.
We go back, we come back.
You know that book really, andhe was such a skeptic.
(24:23):
So reading this book really didchange.
Eben Alexander's book I don'tknow the name of it, but he's a
neuroscientist or whatever adoctor who had meningitis, died,
went to the other side and cameback.
They're all books.
I also love the 72 books ofmagic, the 72 angels of magic,
(24:44):
by damon brand.
That book taught me to havefaith.
That spirit was going to behere for me.
You know, you know we read allthe time.
I've got dozens of books allover the place, but my
affirmation book is a great book.
I wrote Mediumship Made Easy andExpanding Mediumship, which are
(25:05):
two of the books that cover mycourse.
So I basically wrote these sothat, as people were taking the
course, they could mark passagesand of course they could mark
passages that they can go backto, because mediumship, you
don't learn it all, you don'twalk in, it's kind of linear,
where you know you do somethingand you're doing it, and you're
(25:26):
doing it, and then all of asudden, lesson three, you go oh,
that's what that meant.
You know you have to go back.
Which is also why when I, whensomeone pays to take my course,
they're kind of enrolling for alifetime because they can
continue to take the course overand over again without charge.
Yeah, it's all about discovery.
(25:47):
You may not get it here, butyou know so.
A lot of my students just sitin and keep taking the course
over and over.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
Yeah yeah, I allow that too.
So I do yoga trainings and I doReiki trainings and one of the
things that I do different is Ido let them come and observe
again if they need to,especially if it's online.
They can just turn the cameraoff, they can just listen,
because it may be something theydidn't pick up the first time
or maybe something happens andyou know, you really want to
(26:20):
give them the best toolspossible and I've had students
I've had for years now and it'san open door policy.
They can text me, message me,you know, and have that
conversation if they need helpand support.
Yeah, so I let them come againand observe.
I just had someone that I wasteaching a class this past week
and she came again and she'slike are you sure?
(26:42):
I'm like, yeah, come and sitbecause we're practicing with
energy.
So that's another person tohelp the new person as well.
Speaker 3 (26:49):
Yeah, Like you said, they may not get it.
You know it just may not makesense.
Piaget teaches you that youlearn only when your brain is
ready to accept it.
Speaker 2 (27:00):
Yeah yeah.
Yeah, yeah, and especially with, well, the energy work.
You know you get that placementor attunement and then you're
having to cultivate thisrelationship with the energy and
you may not have been focusedon one particular thing and you
may come back to that class andsay, oh, like I forgot that and
(27:21):
oh, that's interesting, maybeI'll try that.
So, yeah, well, that's verynice that you offer that.
What a blessing.
So what other services do youoffer?
You mentioned, you know, yourcourses, events, trainings.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Well, I do one on one .
You know, book, a zoom, and andum, and I I do one-on-one, I do
them in person or I do them ona zoom.
I also I just did a party um, azoom party.
It was like girlfriends andthey were all over the country.
One was in texas, one was innorth carolina, one was in
chicago, and they all got on andI I read each one of them.
So it makes for great eveningsentertainment.
You know, they connected with amutual friend for all of them.
(28:04):
So that was really.
They had a fun time Okaywonderful when you do the events
.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
do you bring in cards , or is it just solely the
connection to spirit?
Speaker 3 (28:15):
It's solely the connection to spirit.
And, like I said, the book.
The book.
You could pick a number.
Pick a number, one to 366.
Any number, don't think, justpick a number that comes to you.
Speaker 2 (28:27):
Three, three.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
Three Changing my mind is a strength and does not
show weakness, right?
So that's a message from yoursister.
If you've been feeling like, oh, I'm changing my mind too much,
yeah, it shows that I'm weak,it doesn't?
She's saying that it takesstrength to put yourself back.
So I don't know if there'sanything going on in your life
(28:52):
now.
Yeah, that's really what it is,right?
Do I stay, do I go?
Right?
You know, it shows.
It shows strength that you'reactually not just doing things
because other people are tellingyou or because you feel stuck.
Very good.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Yeah.
So to back up the evidential, Ihave a home in Pennsylvania
because I'm originally fromPittsburgh and we have been
moving towards renting it andsome things shifted and changed
suddenly, where the idea oflet's sell it, let's like I have
this feeling I got to sell it,I got to, I got to go and my
(29:34):
adult children are all you gotto rent, you got to rent, you
got to rent.
So it's making sense that I wasoriginally thinking renting and
now I'm pausing and like nope,I think I'm, I think I'm feeling
to sell.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
They're going to say oh you're.
You know you're waffling, youcan't make that.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
So I'm saying you're making a decision, your sister
is letting you know.
No, you're not a decision thatyour sister is letting you know.
No, you're not right, and I havemy daughter who's like you
should rent it, and I mean allvalid reasons.
But it's this something where Italked about that innerness
that you feel like I'm feelingcalled to just move on.
Yeah, yeah, she had a lot ofgood concerns.
(30:11):
Yeah, but that makes sense with.
It's okay to change your mind.
I don't look old enough to haveadult children, thank you.
Well, you don't look old enough, as what you said.
You're like hmm, very good, allright.
So where can we find you?
Are you?
You said you're online, you'rein person.
What if we're hearing this aslistener and like this is my
(30:34):
person, I'm going to connectwith her.
How do we get in touch with you?
Speaker 3 (30:37):
wwwladyphylliscom.
You can write me atladyphyllismedium, at gmailcom,
and I have a Facebook page.
You know I'm on TikTok, I'm ona Facebook page, I'm on
Instagram.
I don't even know how to get onInstagram, but I know my
daughter-in-law puts me on there.
Sure, sure, I'm definitely onFacebook.
(30:59):
And when you see the redtelephone booth from London,
that's how you know.
Like I said, you know I have awhole menu of things.
I do have a Patreon that meetsthe first Wednesday of every
month where I bring in expertsin different modalities.
I've had a grief counselor.
I've had a grief counselor,I've had a shell reader, I've
had a health intuitive, I've hada psychic.
(31:22):
I've had all different kinds ofpeople, a numerologist that
come on and give a lecture, sothat I just had somebody do a
whole thing on angels.
So I you know I, because I canonly teach so much, but I bring
on people, go and and takeclasses elsewhere.
Speaker 2 (31:41):
So beautiful you to guide you to the second part,
which are questions fromlisteners and our Reiki students
here.
So number one now.
You touched on this a littlebit in the beginning.
But what inspired the name,lady Phyllis?
Speaker 3 (32:05):
So my name is Phyllis Oken and it's a.
That's my professional name.
I I'm CEO of a company.
When I became a writer andthere's a whole story here I
became a writer.
When I became a writer andthere's a whole story here I
became a writer.
I chose my parents name and Ibecame Carol P Roman.
I'm the P in between, but Carolwas my mother, roman was my
father and I write as Carol PRoman.
(32:32):
Let me see, I have a book herejust to show you.
Here's a young adult book thatI did Grady Will and the
Templeton Codex.
It's a great little book.
So I write as Cal P Roman andIwrite adult stuff as Brit London
, just because it sounded like anice adult name.
So when we were looking for aname for me to be a medium, my
daughter-in-law went out andbought me one square inch of
(32:55):
Scotland, oh yeah.
And she said you're now a lady.
It was like always a dream ofmine to get to Europe.
Yeah, yeah, I love lords andladies.
And she said let's call youLady Phyllis.
That's how Lady Phyllis wasborn, because we just were
looking for a name to hookpeople.
Yeah, but I have so many namesthat I have going on.
(33:18):
Sure, lady Phyllis it was.
Speaker 2 (33:22):
I love it, I love it.
We had gotten one for mydaughter and she didn't want to
be a lady, she wanted to be aLord.
So she's Lord, jenny.
So she's a Lord, so wonderful.
So, number two, can you tell meabout your class mastering
mentorship?
The complete series?
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Um, yeah, well it's.
It's actually called masteringmediumship and what it's.
I've now condensed it down to10 classes because I did it was
first three separate classes,five in each, and then I did 15.
And it's just too much forpeople.
It's too big a chunk.
Yeah, 10 to 10.
And I take you throughintroduction to mediumship,
(34:04):
which is, you know, explainingabout the monkey mind, about
automatic writing, all theClaire's that we start exploring
.
How are we getting thesemessages?
We do exercises.
There's a lot of.
You know, it's a, it's a hugegroup on zoom.
It's a lot of fun.
And then we move into, uh,learning about tarot, learning
(34:25):
about signs, learning aboutdifferent tools to use, like,
sometimes people like to usetarot, somebody likes, sometimes
they like to use the dowsingrods, crystals, whatever it is.
You know you have to kind ofdiscover what works.
If, giving a reading, you haveto be holding a crystal to feel
connected, then that's whatworks.
So we talk about all thedifferent tools.
(34:45):
And then the third part goesinto past life regression.
We do one past.
I only have two meditations.
One is to meet your spiritguide, one is for past life
regression.
We learn about past liferegression and then the end of
the course is about setting up abusiness.
It's about the do's and don'tsof mediumship.
(35:05):
So it's A to Z and it coverseverything.
And if anyone needs help I'mavailable to them.
They can call me.
And you know, like I said, mostof my students are reading
people already They've hung outtheir lunch table and they are
working Beautiful.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
Number three and I went on and checked out your
website too, so everyone gocheck out the website.
On your website you have anemergency energy reading, which
I thought was quite interesting.
I have not come across that, sotell us about that.
Speaker 3 (35:37):
Well, you know, when we were setting up my calendar
and the website, my son did it.
So he put me up and within aweek I was booked up and I work
full time.
I go to work in the morning, Icome home, I do work with the
books and then I do readings.
I was reading four or fivehours a day.
I was booked completely for amonth.
(35:59):
It was exhausting, it was toomuch.
So then he started blocking outtime.
He said let's come up with aplan where you're not at the
disposal of people.
So we usually did it, that atleast I needed three to five
days for a booking.
So I knew that because I travelalso, I have my business in
(36:20):
many different cities around theglobe, so I have to travel and
I never not show up for areading.
I may call and say look,something came up, we have to
move it up or down.
But so we set it up and theyfilled up.
But what had happened waspeople would call me and say I
need to speak with you.
(36:40):
I need to speak to you rightaway.
So my son came up with an ideaof an emergency reading.
He didn't want it abused, so wecharge more for it.
Sure, everybody has anemergency, of course.
So if they want it, you know,if they're willing to jump the
line, so to speak, they're goingto.
Yeah, and, and I do.
I do get at least two to threeemergency readings a month.
(37:03):
Wow, wonderful, wonderful.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
All right, Well done.
So that is our last question aswe've been talking.
Is there anything you mighthave forgotten or you feel
called to share with ourlisteners?
The floor is yours.
Speaker 3 (37:17):
Well, I just want to say that I started this journey
I would say it's 67, maybe 66.
And it's been an you're nevertoo old and it's been an
incredible journey.
The community is fantastic.
You know.
The community is such a warm,delicious community that it's
(37:39):
kind it's like falling into adown comforter.
It just everybody is supportiveand I was sort of broken when
he died.
I had been his wife, liketogether 48 year, total 48 years
, and I just didn't know who Iwas.
(38:01):
So this really gave me a chanceto get up to know myself and it
also helped with the grievingprocess, of course.
So if you're thinking of it,don't think do.
Speaker 2 (38:16):
Do, yeah, yeah, if you have the call, if you feel
the calling move forward rightOne step after the other.
So wonderful.
Well, thank you, lady Phyllis,for joining me on this journey
and taking time out of your verybusy schedule.
I'm so grateful andappreciative for making this
connection with you.
Thank you so much.
Oh, you're welcome.
Thank you All right, mywonderful listeners, if you want
(38:38):
your question featured on ReadySet Reiki, reach out
wwwreadysetreikicom.
I'm Tracy Seawright and thishas been Ready Set Reiki.
Thank you.
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