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In this episode I share a very human, very imperfect moment I had with a traffic control guy outside my house, one of those interactions where two egos meet, both think they’re right, and things go downhill fast.

He was frustrated. I was frustrated. And instead of choosing kindness, clarity, or calm, went high and mighty. Righteous. Chest out. Ego leading the charge.

And he did the same. Two strangers, both convinced we were justifie...

This episode is exactly what it sounds like. No love. No light. 

The other day, Steve and I were driving in the car airing our annoyances, the stuff that grinds our gears and halfway through we looked at each other and thought, why not share this? Because this is what relationships look like too.

It’s not always kissing and cuddling and smooching. It’s not always conscious communication and being hyper-aware. Sometimes it’s just gett...

In this episode, I share my reflections on my word for this year, unwavered, and how it’s moved itself through me this year. 

Change happens in our home all the time. With the girls, with living arrangements, with things shifting, coming, going and for years, that stuff used to mess with me big time. I’d get thrown off, attached to the plan we just made that now suddenly changed again, stuck in my rigidness.

But this year this was th...

We laugh a lot in today's episode, sharing what we would adjust about the other if we had a magic wand. In the many laughs, there are also some good truths to listen to, truths that we can tap into and, pardon the pun, adjust. 

When you listen, see if you can hear where we can consider that other a little more, respect the other a little more, communicate with the other a little more gently. We of course can choose whether or n...

This episode is my honest answer to a listener question (thank you, Sarah from Toronto): How did you land at the decision not to have children?

I’ve always known I wanted deep love, but I never felt that same undeniable, biological, aching pull toward having children. I assumed I’d probably have them one day but it was never a soul-deep calling for me.

When I met Steve who was very clear he didn’t want any more children, the question...

Steve and I share our learnings (and laughs) from Scenic Sundays - a day once a month we set aside with no agenda, no plan, and no rush. Just faith, flow, and following what feels good.

Scenic Sundays have brought us some of the greatest memories and moments in our relationship. They're the kind of days that remind you what presence actually feels like: deep chats in the car, spontaneous detours, belly laughs, and finding new p...

You know how you want to live. You know how you want to feel in your body, in your relationship, in your life. You do know.

But so often, we tell ourselves we don’t. We tell ourselves we’re confused, unsure, not ready. We hide behind stories that keep us stuck in the same patterns, even when something inside us is screaming for change.

The gap between what we know and how we’re living is often the very thing keeping us disconnected, ...

Before I knew about perimenopause, Steve had never even heard the word either. Like a lot of men (and women), it just wasn’t on his radar until it started showing up in real time, through my body, emotions, and energy. And now, thankfully, medical professionals talking about it out loud. 

We talk about:

• What this season has looked and felt like from his perspective
• The changes he’s noticed in me and in our relationship
• How we keep ...

As I approach my 40th birthday, I wanted to take a moment to honour the decade that’s brought me here, my 30s. The years of building, pushing, proving, creating, and doing the deep work to come home to myself.

In the two weeks leading up to my birthday, I sat down with myself and wrote out some powerful reflection statements and journalled out the answers. A moment to say thank you for everything that’s shaped me, and to consciously...

Steve and I talk about the season we’re in as his girls turn 16 and almost 19, a chapter we used to ache for when they were little and life was full-on. They're more independent, seeking their own adventures and opportunities, and the this time of life we never thought could come fast enough, is here. 

Back then, we dreamed about what freedom would look like. We talked about moving to Europe the minute they turned 18, chasing a...

How do you let go of the old way when it’s the very thing that built you? How do you trust a new rhythm when the old one got you here?

Today, I share ...

• The 'doing' voice that tells me stay on it, stay in it, don’t you dare let go
• The fears that if I slow down I’ll disappear, become invisible, waste my potential
• The soul voice that whispers, there’s another way
• What it feels like to be wedged between don’t-let-go and surr...

After eight years together it’s easy for Steve and me to fall into the rhythm of everyday questions like what’s for dinner? how was your day? and forget to ask the kind of questions that keep curiosity and intimacy alive.

Recently, we’ve been using Esther Perel’s Where Should We Begin? cards as a way to speak more deeply about topics and explore conversations we wouldn’t usually tap into. In this episode, we pulled a card that asked...

I sit with Ashley Hayball-Heald, a previous client of mine, who is a widowed, brave woman, who let love in again after her husband died. She tells the story of how she navigated grief, kids, other people’s opinions, signs from her husband who died, and what it looks like to say yes again to love. 

Ashley is the founder of Team Hayball and Find Your HOPE. She coaches widows to find their hope again amidst tough times. She’s remarried...

Steve and I talk about something we both know all too well: that awkward, subtle distance that can build up in a relationship when you’re not saying what you’re really feeling.

We recently found ourselves in a place of disconnection, nothing dramatic, no big argument, just a series of micro misunderstandings, missed cues, and moments where we assumed instead of asked. Steve played the, 'everything is fine' card. I kept goi...

I share a deeply personal letter to my mum, a letter I’ve been slowly writing in my heart for years, and only now have the words, the softness, and the honesty to say out loud.

It’s about the part of me that believed I had to do more to be more.
That my worth was measured by my output, by my ambition, by how different I could be from the women before me. And how, in trying so hard not to be like my mum, I missed just how extrao...

After witnessing a series of moments on my recent travels left me gutted.

People standing on coral. Ignoring signs that asked not to disturb nesting wildlife.
Disrespecting sacred sites with noise, ego, and entitlement.

This episode and letter is a call to all of us who travel to remember that we are guests. That we’re not entitled to the land, the wildlife, or the culture. That not everything needs to hold personal meaning for i...

Steve and I lay it all out in this one, the little daily things or habits we find annoying or frustrating about each other.

It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s the kind of real-life stuff that happens in every relationship but rarely gets talked about out loud. From petty habits to personality quirks, we share them openly with plenty of laughs in this one.

We all know that loving someone doesn’t mean they don’t drive you up the wall so...

I share a letter I wrote to the part of me that still believes I have to prove my worth to matter.

The part that panics when I slow down. That thinks I’m losing my edge if I’m not pushing. That tells me if I’m not doing, I must be failing.

This letter is from my truth to my ego. From the grounded part of me that knows there’s another way. A slower, more intentional way of living that isn’t fuelled by fear, but by presence. Substance....

Steve and I share about the reality of step-parenting and family dynamics, especially what happens when a step-parent enters a home that already has its rhythm, its ways, its rules.

Even when you try so hard not to disrupt the dynamic, the truth is, it changes. Because it has to. There's no way around it. 

We talk about:

• How the dynamic shifts when a new adult comes into the mix
• Why it’s so bloody hard even when your intention...