Real Talk Friend Therapy: Honest Conversations, Advice + Tips For Stronger Adult Friendships

Making friends as an adult can feel overwhelming—but it's far from impossible. In this episode of our recurring series, #WhyAreWeFriends, Daysha explores the real-life origins of her closest relationships to better understand how meaningful friendships are formed and maintained.

This week, Daysha reconnects with Rachel, a close high school friend that she fell out of touch with after Rachel moved to Germany. But upon reuniting f...

In this powerful follow-up episode, Daysha continues the conversation about what it means to grow up without many (or any) friends of your own race—and how to authentically build those connections later in life. In part 1, Daysha shares how her upbringing brought her through a variety of spaces that allowed her to form diverse friendships throughout her life. But it wasn’t until she worked at BuzzFeed that she felt like the diversi...

Do you think your friendship would be able to survive an 1,100 mile trek through the deserts of the Middle East? Or that you’d both be able to write a book about it together afterwards?

This week, Daysha sits down with Miles Spencer, half of the writing duo behind the Amazon bestseller, A Line in the Sand. They discuss how Spencer and his “adventure bestie,” Wells Jones, sought to better understand the Middle East for themsel...

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses the topic of sexual assault, but features no graphic depictions.

The National Sexual Violence Resource Center reports that:

• 81% of women and 43% of men have reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime

• One in three female victims of completed or attempted rape experienced it for the first time between the ages of 11 and 17

• About one in four male victim...

With it being the beginning of March, which ushers in Women's History Month and International Women's Day, Daysha decided to chat with her favorite feminist bestie, Becky Harris, on what it means to be a "girl's girl" in 2025.

How are we actually showing up for and supporting women in an intersectional way in 2025? What are we trying to communicate when we say another woman is a girl’s girl? And are there ways ...

With Black History Month coming to a close, Daysha wanted to explore how the race of our friends can impact how we are perceived by others. When it comes to BIPOC people who either have fewer or no friends of their race, the implication is often that they aren't [Black, Brown, Asian, etc.] enough, but how much truth is there to that assumption? And is it possible for us to exist in a world where we don't have to think about...

Happy Galentine's Day and almost Valentine's Day, besties!

Have you been struggling with having romantic feelings for your best friend? Are you unsure about whether or not you should tell them? Well, Daysha has definitely been there and invites her BuzzFeed bestie, Curly Velasquez, on the podcast to discuss the pros and cons of revealing your feelings and risking your friendship for romance.

Curly Velasquez is a Salvadoran Lo...

BESTIES! The moment you've been waiting for is here. Season 2 has officially kicked off and for our first episode back, Daysha sits down with her bestie/producer and favorite white woman, Becky Harris, to discuss what it means to be in an interracial friendship in 2025.

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Can you believe it's the end of season 1?! For the final episode of the season, Daysha decides to talk about a popular negotiation concept that she adapted for personal relationships within her book, Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence.

With the new year quickly approaching, Daysha wanted to make sure that you have all the tools you need to make important decisions about your friendships and where you want to take them in 2025.

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Isn't it crazy how much we love when people are vulnerable with us, but we HATE being vulnerable ourselves? Vulnerability is key to deepening our friendships, but will it ever be possible to get comfortable with being vulnerable?

This week, Daysha decides to sit down with licensed mental health counselor, Sharmishtha Gupta, to find out:

• Why is vulnerability so hard?

• Why do we think we look weak when we express it?

• How we can pr...

Mercury retrograde is upon us, y'all! And while it is commonly known for its chaos and delays, it is also a time that is best used for reflection and reconnection. So, this week Daysha does a light deep dive on what Mercury retrograde is, and how you can best use this time to reconnect with past friends or grieve and let go of the relationships that no longer serve you.

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This has been a rough few weeks, y'all. So, Daysha decided to take some time to process her thoughts and feelings about the election and share why it has been so impactful for some voters, especially when it comes to navigating close relationships where there were voting differences.

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Happy Halloween, besties! There is nothing scarier than knowing when is the right time to be vulnerable with a new friend. And sadly there are many misconceptions out there--like the idea that to be vulnerable is to be weak.

So, this week Daysha breaks down what vulnerability is, what it is not and why she wishes she had been more vulnerable in a past situation with a family member.

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We all have an image in our heads of the person we want to be seen and known as. But does that image actually line up with reality? Are we actually as good of a friend as we THINK we are--and more importantly, are we willing to find out where we fall short?

Continuing this month's lineup of #SpookySeason topics, Daysha dares you for this #BetterYouBetter friend episode this week to feel the fear... and get the clarity you need f...

October might be the month of frights, but this year, it's November 5th that has us all on edge—Election Day.

But regardless of the outcome of the election, our ability to communicate (let alone make friends) with those that have differing political beliefs and values has gone out the window in our tense political landscape.

 This week, Daysha probes licensed therapist, Kaity Rodriguez, on whether or not it is realistically possi...

Even though California refuses to accept that it's fall and the beginning of spooky season, Daysha is still pressing forward. And for this week's #BetterYouBetterFriend episode she thought, what better way to get into the season than discussing vampires--specifically, energy vampires!

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Making friends at any stage in life can feel extremely nerve-wracking. But it's definitely not impossible--in fact, many of us have done it once before unconsciously.

So, within this recurring series on the podcast, #WhyAreWeFriends, Daysha decides to investigate the origins of her own friendships to see how she became friends with the people in her own circle.

This week, Daysha sits down to chat with her almost two-decades-long ...

So with it being back-to-school season, it got Daysha thinking about that common refrain that we all say as adults–making friends now is so much harder than when we were kids.

Is it though? 

Yes. The answer is yes, BUT it does not have to be.

This week’s guest, Staci Hayes, is a former elementary school educator who is going to school us on what we can learn from the kids when it comes to making friends.

Staci Hayes is a dedicated educ...

This is it y'all-- the last installment in our three-part series on boundaries. In the last episode, Daysha discussed with licensed therapist, Calix Vu-Bui, what are ways that we can get better about communicating our boundaries to others.

But even if you got your communication skills on lock, there's always going to be someone who either cannot or will not respect your boundaries. So, for this week's episode, Daysha pic...