Reclaimed & Unashamed

Are you hungry for a deeper exploration of your story when it comes to overcoming shame and pornography addiction? With our returning guest, Allan Standford, we examine how pornography use is actually a misguided strategy for working out our struggles and life stories. 

The episode drives even deeper into the dark corridors of fear- the fear of rejection, and its intertwined relationship with unwanted sexual behaviors. We ...

What if I told you that the way you understand sex and sexuality is influenced more by culture than you realize? In this episode, we venture through the history of Christian sexual ethics with our guest, Jonathan Storment, who talks about how the perception and treatment of women, sex, and children have evolved over the years. Jonathan illuminates why this understanding is pivotal to our modern culture, and highlights the struggle ...

Have you ever grappled with the claws of addiction and found yourself at the point of giving up? In this moving conversation with Andrew, we unravel his journey of battling with porn, his search for acceptance, and eventually reclaiming his identity. Andrew bares his soul about his struggle with pornography and how it began from a place of low self-esteem and marital dissatisfaction. He walks us through his recovery with the Reclai...

Imagine a world where you're confident in yourself, free from the shackles of shame and guilt associated with unwanted pornography use. A world where understanding your attachments can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Join me, Kolton Thomas, as I sit down with one of my mentors, Allan Stanford, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. As we journey together, we explore Allan's unique insights on the shame surroundin...

Get ready to embark on a transformative journey as we welcome an accomplished speaker, church leader, and scholar, Jonathan Stormant, to shed light on the profound teachings of Pope John Paul II's work titled Theology of the Body. Transformed himself by these writings, Jonathan dissects the complex intersection of faith, culture, and sexuality, emphasizing the divine origins of our deepest romantic impulses and the inherent go...

In episode 15 of the Reclaimed Recovery Podcast, we interview special guest Dustin Freeman of the St Anglican Church in Little Rock, Arkansas. This episode is designed to help men think deeply about the silent, cultural struggle men face with addictions like pornography, and how we can find strength and healing through community (in spite of our culture). The episode calls us to be more aware of how culture and history have shaped ...

Are you struggling to understand why you keep returning to certain behaviors like porn? Are you subconsciously avoiding the moment when you have to face your genuine fears and emotions? Do you keep distracting yourself so you don't have to face the little boy or girl that you still carry inside you all these years later? In this episode, we hear from a special guest, Dr. Eddie Capparucci, who helps us understand how to conquer...

In this episode, special guest Ben joins us to share his story on overcoming pornography. Ben went through the Reclaimed 10-Week Journey and, all praise be to God, found lots of healing, hope, and growth. Listen in on his story and be encouraged — you CAN do something about the habit of pornography in your life. 

If you're looking to make a real change in this area of your life, go to community.reclaimedrecovery.com a...

In part 2 of understanding root causes, we explore 5 more deep underlying causes that tend to work together synergistically to draw men into the struggle with porn:

1. Loneliness and isolation
2. Shame
3. Suffering from trauma and abuse
4. Living with misguided devotion
5. Allowing our good desires to be dulled and dampened

Understanding these underlying causes is a big first step to finding more freedom and self-control.  Knowledge is power, ...

In this episode, we explore some of the most common root causes of a porn habit. In part 1, we will uncover 5 root causes that tend to work synergistically to draw men into the struggle with porn:

1. The nature of habit and the effects of porn on the Brain
2. Curiosity and imagination
3. Lack of vision, motivation, and purpose. Feelings of futility.
4. Hypersexualized Society (sex as a rite of passage, status, social significance)
5. Negative Emot...

In the third and final part of our testosterone series, we address some frequently asked questions and most debated topics regarding pornography, testosterone, erectile dysfunction, and more. 

We also wrap up this mini-series on science and pornography by tying together a few of the biggest takeaways from the last few episodes as we looked at dopamine, conditioning of the brain, and testosterone. 

The bottom line:...

In testosterone part 2, we take a look at multiple factors that can affect our baseline levels of testosterone, especially sex and pornography, and we work to draw some conclusions about the harmful effects of porn and how it disrupts some of our natural biological processes. 

Learning about the hormones like testosterone and dopamine that drive your day-to-day energy, mood, and mindset is a part of our strategy to help y...

Testosterone is a hormone so vital to men's health, yet it's often overlooked in conversations related to identity, self-worth, and a man's journey to overcome pornography.

In part one of this topic, we begin with learning some basic scientific facts about testosterone and then transition into a discussion about what science can tell us about our identities as men and our struggles with porn.

Scient...

In this episode, we take a deep dive with guest Drew Boa to uncover the heart of the issue when it comes to pornography. Drew leads a community of men at Husband Material, where he coaches men on how to 'outgrow porn.' 

Key topics in this episode include 

1. Drew's story of struggling with porn and then breaking free from it.
2. What Drew considers to be the biggest issues men face when trying to overcome porn.
3. D...

Ever wonder why your brain decides to light up for certain things and not for others? Have you found yourself craving unwanted habits and behaviors, without a real explanation as to why? This episode provides a basic understanding of how your brain is conditioned to desire pornography and other unwanted behaviors using the chemical dopamine and the psychological principle of conditioning. 

What we learn from conditioning i...

Have you ever wondered why your brain keeps you coming back to addictive habits like pornography, even though you're trying really hard to stop? In this episode, Kolton gives an overview of how dopamine works to train your brain. We cover many essential questions related to dopamine, such as:

1. What role does dopamine play in my pornography habit? 
2. How is dopamine making it hard for me to quit porn? 
3. If I've done harm to m...

In this episode, we explain why the science behind porn recovery is so crucial for overcoming it. In the midst of other challenges we face in life, such as chronic pain and depression, porn can become even more alluring as an escape or a solution to our problems. That's why it's important to understand the science and how it can help us persevere in times when the struggle is real. Learning about how our body is capable o...

How do we define success and freedom when it comes to porn recovery? In this episode, we will provide 3 benchmarks you can use for determining whether you're on your way to overcoming porn. 

These measures for success are defined as:

1. Intimacy in relationships
2. Realistic sexual expectations
3. Self-awareness 

Plus, stick around til the end of our episode for what we believe is the true definition of freedom from porn....

How long will it take to rewire your brain from porn? How can you know whether you're even addicted to porn? This episode addresses these questions and other introductory topics when it comes to porn recovery. 

This episode also includes more information about Reclaimed. What is Reclaimed, and what types of resources does it offer? We'll walk you through some of Reclaimed's resources in this episode includin...