Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack

Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack

On the Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack podcast, Christian psychologist, author, and relationship coach, Dr. Jack Ito, will help you to build and restore your marriage. By learning just a few relationship skills, you can help your spouse enjoy your relationship more, while getting more love and affection from your spouse. Listen to Coach Jack as he helps you with one more step toward a marriage both you and your spouse will love.

Episodes

November 25, 2025 15 mins

 No Contact or Low Contact? Get it Right for Reconciling with Your Spouse 

When a husband or wife becomes rejecting, distant, or checked out, most people respond by increasing contact, reassurance, and attention. But that often makes things worse. In this episode, Coach Jack explains how the right amount of contact can create desire, rebuild connection, and help a spouse become willing to work on the marriage again.

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    How to Get Your Spouse to Work on Your Marriage (Without Conflict)

    Your spouse won’t talk about the marriage, won’t go to counseling, and won’t try. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains why direct efforts backfire and what actually motivates a husband or wife to start caring again. You’ll learn how to rebuild desire instead of creating more resistance.

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    • Why logical argument...
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    Why Do We Keep Arguing About the Same Things? Here’s How to Stop

    Do you and your spouse keep circling back to the same arguments, no matter how much you talk? In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn why repetitive conflict happens, why arguing never fixes relationship problems, and what to do instead. Coach Jack breaks down the real causes—power struggles, fear, and unhelpful beliefs—and shows you how ...

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    How to Reconnect with a Spouse Who Is Cold and Distant

    When your spouse becomes cold and distant, endless talking often makes things worse instead of better. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn why the key to rebuilding warmth isn’t more conversation—but loving action, validation, and consistent behavioral change. Coach Jack explains how to shift from talking to doing so you can create connection i...

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     How Do I Know if My Spouse Really Wants a Divorce, or Is Just Angry? 

    If your spouse says he or she wants a divorce, it can be hard to know whether it’s real or just anger talking. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn how to recognize when divorce talk is a warning sign—and what to do before it becomes final. Coach Jack explains why some threats are actually desperate attempts to reconnect, and how...

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    Difficult Spouse? Get Improvement without Conflict (Part 2: Action Steps)

    Many people try to fix their spouse directly—but that only creates more distance and conflict. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains how to create positive change by improving your own behaviors first. You’ll learn how to replace needy, damaging habits with secure, loving actions that naturally make your spouse respond b...

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    Difficult Spouse? Get Improvement without Conflict (Part 1: Taking Charge)

    When your spouse is critical, blaming, or distant, trying to fix them usually makes things worse. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, learn why direct confrontation fails—and how taking charge of your own behavior can bring lasting change without conflict or resentment.

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    • Why trying to fix your spouse leads to more fig...
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     How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 2: The Right Steps) 

    Most couples either avoid confrontation or end up fighting—but neither approach leads to lasting change. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn the essential steps to confront your spouse in a way that ends destructive behavior and rebuilds trust. Coach Jack explains how to set boundaries with love, reduce the risk of rejection, ...

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    How to Confront Your Spouse Without Fighting (Part 1, Preventing Conflict)

    Do you need to confront your spouse but fear it will turn into another fight? Conflict damages marriages, but confrontation—done correctly—can actually strengthen them. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn why avoiding conflict doesn’t mean avoiding problems, and how to address damaging behaviors in a way that fosters respect...

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    How Relationship Coaching Helps You Fix Your Marriage

    Are you stuck searching for answers while your marriage keeps slipping away? In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover why endless talking and counseling often fail—and how relationship coaching gives you clear, actionable steps to rebuild love before it’s too late.

    What You’ll Learn

    • Why asking “why” questions won’t stop divorce or an affair
    • How “...
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    Fun Marriage Exercise to Stop Fights before They Start

    Most couples try to solve problems by talking, but that often leads to arguments, defensiveness, and even more distance. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover a fun and surprising alternative to problem-talking that actually brings couples closer: role play. Learn how this playful method can turn potential conflict into connection.

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    How to Deal with a Spouse Who Spends Too Much Money (without Conflict)

    Money fights can drain love from a marriage faster than almost anything else. When a spouse overspends, the other often reacts with reasoning, complaining, or pleading—yet those approaches only lead to more conflict. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn a step-by-step way to address financial issues without arguments, while prote...

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    When Your Spouse Says, "I'm Not in Love with You"--What to Do

    Hearing your spouse say, “I’m not in love with you” can feel like a gut punch, but it doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn how to respond with empathy and clarity instead of panic, and how to use this moment to build a stronger connection rather than lose it.

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    Can Your Marriage Be Saved? What Really Determines Reconciliation

    Is it too late to save your marriage? In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, listeners will discover why a spouse’s current feelings, words, or even intent don’t determine whether reconciliation is possible. Coach Jack explains what really matters—and how anyone can begin taking the right steps to rebuild, even if things look hopeless right now.

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    How to Resolve Marriage Conflict Without Arguments or Distance

    Most couples believe conflict is just part of marriage. But the truth is, conflict slowly weakens love and connection. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover why arguments, blame, and withdrawal never bring solutions—and how to handle differences in ways that create respect, attraction, and real change.

    What You’ll Learn

    • How to replac...
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    Common Questions About Boundaries in Marriage

    Boundaries are one of the best tools for ending relationship damage—but also one of the easiest to misuse. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll hear quick, clear answers to fifteen of the most common questions about boundaries in marriage so you can stop harmful patterns, reduce conflict, and rebuild connection with your spouse. Whether you’re dealing with con...

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    How to Keep Your Marriage Strong and Avoid Divorce 

    Many couples don't fail because they stopped loving each other—but because they stopped doing the right things. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn what it really takes to maintain a strong, loving relationship—and why most people wait until it’s too late to start. Whether your marriage feels stable or is starting to slip, this episode will s...

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    Emotional and Financial Conflict in Marriage: How They’re Connected 

    Fighting about money is rarely just about money. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, we explore why financial arguments are often rooted in emotional disconnect—and how solving one without the other can leave your marriage vulnerable. Learn how to take a strategic, two-step approach to end both the financial strain and emotional distance.

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     How to Stop Criticizing Your Spouse (and What to Do Instead) 

    If you’ve ever found yourself constantly pointing out your spouse’s flaws—hoping it will change them—this episode is for you. In Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll discover why criticism feels so necessary when things go wrong—and why it actually pushes love further away. Learn how to shift from criticism to leadership in your marriage, especially when your sp...

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    Husbands' Guide to Effective Marriage Boundaries

    Many husbands misuse boundaries—or avoid them entirely—and damage their marriage in the process. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, you’ll learn how to use boundaries the right way to build respect, prevent resentment, and strengthen your connection. If you’ve been frustrated with your wife’s behavior and don’t know how to respond without being controlling ...

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